The Introvert's Survival Guide to Small Talk

[@FrankJames]

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[@laziness852]

Hi

[@zombethany]

I tried this. I have less friends now, which brings my friend count to -1 I set a personal record 😁

[@Wovst5_726]

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[@Wovst5_726]

Kindly check that out..

[@Wovst5_726]

He is your copy

[@fursteveferret3771]

The biggest skill is trying to listen to the other person with convincing interest. whilst your inner self is frantically planning your escape...

[@thegreatsalad]

Lol but also be careful not to look like you're so interested that you're staring into their soul 😅 Hard to balance that one 😆

[@sariahsue]

You're frantically planning your escape... when you know no escape is possible... Oh, wait. This is about small talk, not about my job, which is entirely just talking to people and I hate it. XD

[@mariposa9506]

Omg I always find my people here.

[@chasamot]

LOL FACTS

[@yellowphoenix9702]

@@thegreatsalad 🤣🤣

[@JimmyThaJam]

“They get to talk about themselves and you don’t have to listen. You both get what you want!” Genius.

[@mariposa9506]

The not listening thing. Sometimes I will actively block myself from listening to someone talk. Its like I abhor the idea of those words or that information being absorbed into my brain. Lol like I'll run out of room for stuff that is interesting to me or something.

[@BlueBirdBaby]

Blocking just happens naturally for me. They thought it was special edd in school. I only didn't find their conversations interesting most of the time.

[@neelam4413]

@@BlueBirdBaby Me too I don't have interest in what other people talk about. But sometimes I feel lonely and begin think that I failed to find the friend who shares common interests with me.

[@camillachristinenorveganus161]

And We Get 2!?

[@camillachristinenorveganus161]

True, and still they like

[@fiorellalescano]

I'm terrible at starting conversations, so thank you, sociopaths. 🙃

[@sarakjeldsen769]

One cool thing about sociopaths is they don't judge people for silly things like social skills, usually, and they can be more open minded than your average person.

[@jackieocean3511]

Ur welcome! 🤗

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

🤣🤣

[@ksorangeeee840]

you're very welcome 😂

[@EPITHALON]

Lol thanks. Also making me laugh 😂. :)

[@anaytandon1599]

"If u want to initiate small talk, you're probably a sociopath" -Frank James 2020

[@DoodleDan]

All of my work colleagues in a nutshell

[@madiantin]

Had to stop the video to laugh out loud at the truthfulness of that statement. =D

[@jackieocean3511]

Sign me up! 😀

[@bluelotusnefertoum2144]

Or worse a narcissist😰

[@TheTinebee]

how

[@AlexBlank]

How to survive small talk: run and never look back.

[@Wom-g9x]

I actually do that when I'm approached-

[@okbasto9541]

@@Wom-g9x 🤣

[@dre4snow]

Me when I was in High school and detected my crush nearby "hell no, I'll just take the long way to my classroom n' stay at my seat the rest of lunch"

[@kimiayazdani7345]

I once literally did this, when I accidentally encountered a highschool friend and she said, "hi" 😂

[@daniellesagang1037]

🤣🤣🤣

[@tikaardhany7568]

"So the shoe...turned out to be a cake" ha ha ha

[@bluemoon2773]

End scene

[@musti741]

this one got me lol

[@Rachel-gl9vd]

This is why I like wearing mask! I don’t have to pretend to smile anymore.

[@SplashBeor]

SAME!

[@gabrielarocha492]

Why is that even a thing at first place, right?

[@ShiiFT12]

yes! I realized my eyes squint when I smile, so now I just squint my eyes when I'm supposed to smile but don't have the energy to 😂😭

[@JoCaneIII]

Fax

[@God_3712]

@@ShiiFT12 oh wow same haha

[@reetikkumar6690]

My Crush: Tell me 'bout yourself Me: *The more you learn about me the more likely you'll be called to testify at my homicide trial* My crush: Understandable have a great day..

[@NoticeMeSenpaiii]

This killed me 😂😂😂

[@Yannie_0w0]

lol

[@sumyguck8094]

Yh the guy in my class initiated small talk with me, and cz I clearly acted like this wasn't working out, he asked if he should stop, BUT THEN like a dumbass I said NO even though I suck at talking, cz I was actually happy someone so sweet was polite enough to talk with me TwT

[@daniellesagang1037]

🤣🤣🤣

[@DreiSchwerterZorro]

@@sumyguck8094 But this way you maybe learn more about talking and get better at it :)

[@pretzel9093]

For the last one, repeat the last three words, but in a questioning tone.

[@yasminx_x8119]

in a questioning tone?

[@pretzel9093]

@@yasminx_x8119 Questioning tone...?

[@fairyhusky9265]

tone?

[@yasminx_x8119]

@@fairyhusky9265 ?

[@incarnation6664]

@@yasminx_x8119 .

[@haniehanjomipour8320]

Actually I think my biggest problem is extroverts interrupt me many times when I speak to them🤦‍♀️ they often don't let me have my say...

[@LadyMngwa]

Yeah, it is normal. I do not take it personally and just let them babble while daydreaming. When it is not possible (for example because they have really annoying voice, keep spitting at me or they scream instead talking, etc) I excuse myself after a minute or so and disappear.

[@aggelikiap]

I'm sorry. As an Ambivert, I sometimes have these crises where I just interrupt people and keep talking and then ask them to interrupt me because I won't stop. I know it's not good because I'm not always like that. But it's a crisis so please try to understand, love u

[@haniehanjomipour8320]

@@LadyMngwa I think these are features some people have.... as a matter of fact interrupting does not always bother me ... but in some especial moments, when I'm trying to express my deepest emotions to someone, for example say my benediction for their marriage or show happiness of their achievements it becomes a problem ... That's something that can be annoying ... and maybe funny for observers 😅😅😅

[@haniehanjomipour8320]

@@aggelikiap oh... you are so kind!No worries❤ Thank you very much indeed and love you too

[@haniehanjomipour8320]

@@TheUltimateSlyFox sorry if It's annoying...🙈

[@giishaw92]

I like the ambiguity of, "you think you want this, but you don't want this." I will use it one day just to see the reaction I get.

[@jackieocean3511]

You'll get laid. Plz excuse my crudeness but that's a hell fire of a line...😃💋

[@tinastextportraits]

This will now be my answer to creepy dudes when they hit on me.

[@galaxylucia1898]

@@tinastextportraits eh... success rate is 50/50. Most men might take it as a “challenge”, to win just to say they won.

[@yash124]

It's been month did you used this let us know maybe I'm sounding like a sociopath:/

[@JennyG.COW5]

I think I should apply this to dating... Or at least for someone I Don't want to be dating me. 😉

[@zitrodivad]

i can’t believe that shoe was a cake the whole time!

[@idonthaveaname8164]

What do you mean? Everything is cake, and it always has been.

[@untonyto]

the whole time?

[@Amal91]

“Repeat the last three words” reminds me a book that I’ve read in high school: “How to Talk to Anyone” by Leil Lowades. It has 92 tricks! I memorized only one which is this 😅

[@sil_houettee]

I never felt so attacked in my entire life

[@Amal91]

@Aaliyah Morrish Yeah your friend is available on Amazon! It was my friend for awhile. Have a nice reading 👏🏼😍

[@Amal91]

@@sil_houettee So, you are lucky 🥺🍀

[@tunamushroommelt]

Im learning a lot in this channel😂

[@ElskaTheAnimator]

@@sil_houetteeYour entire life…

[@rainstreet78]

The worst is when two introverts get stuck trying to make small talk together. Introvert #1: So...like, weather and stuff, huh? Introvert #2: Yeah...like, weather and stuff. **10 minutes of awkward silence** Introvert #1: I'm gonna go hide in a closet somewhere. Introvert #2: Good idea!

[@misterminutes4504]

Yeah, but it rarely happens though. Sometimes it's pretty great since you understand each other more and it leads to a more interesting topic, like death.

[@annataz7s436]

For me, there's no awkward silence with another introvert, we talk when we wanna talk

[@-csotanypure-5106]

@@misterminutes4504 _like death_ i felt that Yes give me someone who's not afraid to talk about deeper stuff.

[@misterminutes4504]

@@annataz7s436 Ikr. Problems with Introverts and Extroverts communications is they don't understand each other.

[@ritaruggerone4434]

Sometimes it’s like that definitely. But my boyfriend and I are both introverts and we really don’t do that. We either have a really deep conversation or we just sit and enjoy each other’s presence without words 😌

[@leehking5212]

"If you want to initiate Small talk, you're probably a sociopath." Yep. These people must be stopped.

[@RanabirDan]

Honestly hating people is much more sociopathic than this which an introvert does. Sociopaths and psychopaths tend to be mostly introverted only the ones who are caught are extroverted. Introvert and psychopath have one thing in common that is they both hate people so I don't know what the creator is talking it should be the other way around

[@uneducatedjade4552]

"So did you catch the game on sunday?" "Game on sunday?" "Yeah." ....PANIC TIME.... "The shoe turned out to be a cake."

[@kryptonianguest1903]

I'm pretty introverted but even I know the correct answer to that question is to try and sound slightly sad while saying, "No. What happened?"

[@a12i9]

I mean, he could have repeated the "Yeah", but that would have probably lead to questions about the game..

[@ItsmeeTiTi]

🤣

[@noprobbob3272]

I don’t have enough confidence to try this with someone. I tried to start a small talk with myself In the mirror It didn’t work out Even by myself I’m shy

[@esraahmed3622]

But how do you know it didn’t workout!? You are probably way better than you think, And any way it doesn’t have to workout every time, trust me .. it’s only important that you have fun and try new things one step at a time!

[@VanrougeSimp]

I used to feel this way, but it changed when I started to workout because at first I was shy at myself if I made a mistake... But I thought that if I can't do this workout then... Nothing will happen. So I started to not get shy of myself

[@Melont06]

I'm too scared to talk to anyone that's not my family. And everyone thinks there's something wrong with me!! I just don't like talking. And when I do have to talk my mind goes completely blank. I'm so awkward to be around

[@hanuyuu]

*Nodding like bobble-heads but actually zoning out the longer the convo is* “Yeah Ikr, TOTALLY...oh GTG” *Slips away quietly* Anyone relate? XD

[@nicolesusuanne2434]

omg SAMEE

[@galuxistar1615]

I bobble my head WAY to much 😂😂

[@Vitoriadls]

Yes, YES! And you can say "Uh-huh" sometimes and when you notice they reach a high pitch, you can say "seriously?" Works every time!!

[@camilalopez5888]

OMG YES and it's automatic like your brain goes somewhere else without planning it lol

[@atleastimgenuine3566]

I tried talking about the weather with a gentleman at the service station. It ended up with me ranting about historical weather data.

[@PixiieGrotto]

😂😂😂

[@sunnysal3889]

Relate.

[@tricksietalon2596]

Oh God I relate to that on a deeply personal level. A random comment at work about Friday the Thirteenth turned into "there is a theory this started with the arrest of the Templars...howmuchdoyouwanttoknowaboutthisawkward". Why?? Why do I do that? 500 shades of Leonard Hofstadter only I'm the Sheldon!

[@mikanchan322]

I felt this. I really really have to be careful or else I'll just go off on some topic that is interesting to me but not anyone else lol

[@lovelychim9761]

Nobody Literally nobody Frank: " THE SHOE TURNED OUT TO BE A CAKE "

[@11cabadger]

But that was pretty cool how the shoe was a cake. I saw a cake that looked exactly like a Himalayan salt lamp -- there was even a cord!!!

[@lovelychim9761]

@@11cabadger ive seen a cake which looked exactly like a human hand and the guy then cuts it and i was like woah wtf

[@11cabadger]

@@lovelychim9761 oh my gosh did it ooze "blood" like a chocolate lava cake?!

[@lovelychim9761]

@@11cabadger nah ...it was red velvet from the inside 😂😂

[@jackieocean3511]

@@lovelychim9761 ok, but you weren't like WHOA. Why is there a human hand on the table?! 😲😂

[@v.m.7239]

I burst out laughing when he said “...Fahrenheit” like it’s a word only for intellectuals 😂 😂

[@KIvanovs1995]

Someone could think it's in Celsius)))

[@memeswereablessingfromthel3942]

Bring out the Kelvin

[@onalbetul1809]

What about Rankine?

[@KIvanovs1995]

@@onalbetul1809 who is he?

[@onalbetul1809]

@@KIvanovs1995 it's temperature difference equals to fahrenheit. But like kelvin scale, it's zero is absolute zero

[@ana-cr2tg]

You can also go out with someone who won't stop talking, all you have to do is nod and daydream pacifically

[@dreamyotter6982]

INFJ sweating: I'm not nervous..

[@dotdashdotdash]

😬😬😬 small talk: the sum of all fears

[@flyingdart9819]

Small talk is the most annoying shit ever for introverts. Change my mind.

[@mariposa9506]

@@flyingdart9819 Why would I want to change your mind? That sounds suspiciously like small talk.

[@flyingdart9819]

@@mariposa9506 nice observation but no I'm not looking for small talk :)

[@missrobinhoodie]

You just have to convince yourself you’re really an outgoing person instead of just playing a role... I guess? 🤔

[@angelicawhite8817]

When small talk happens, I automatically dissociate. I can’t help it.

[@Vortex_Feedz]

my brain literally shuts off ; I’m pretty sure my face tells the whole story , considering that I refuse to make eye contact

[@JR-nt3ep]

I’m dying here😂😂😂 At 68, a retired educator, who had completely forgotten about my INFJ type extreme personality, your videos are feeding my soul 🙏

[@Gaze73]

How did you forget your personality?

[@Rettrozer]

Aww 🧡 yeah his videos are really good 👍

[@aliisy9194]

I don’t need memes to smile. I need FJ’s videos😂

[@bethanytanner9346]

I am so self conscious about my smile (or lack there of) during a conversation. I do the meme thing by accident. People are talking and they say something (or I zone out) and I remember a meme or a joke then I am trying not to laugh and instead look like I am still listening. Thanks for the fantastic video, FJ!

[@icaruswindrune7116]

What type are you? I am an INTP and that happens to me too (a lot actually). I am not so worried about my smile though (albeit people say I come off as intimidating due to the lack of one).

[@cupcake5000]

Same. I’ll pretend to listen but be thinking about something totally different lol

[@bethanytanner9346]

@@icaruswindrune7116 I am an INFJ. I am glad I am not alone. My resting face usually comes across as sad, so I think I look less intimidating and more pitiful.

[@icaruswindrune7116]

@@bethanytanner9346 Yeah, my dad is an INFJ and my brother is an ISFP and they suffer from this phenomenon too. I guess it would be that introverts have less energy overall in comparison to extroverts when it comes to social situations. As for resting faces, I have been told I look like an apathetic monster or an unfeeling robot before due to it lol - so I understand those pains quite well. Same can be said for a lot of introverts though.

[@bethanytanner9346]

@@icaruswindrune7116 Haha! Very true.

[@fatimaazhar8057]

Me finally gets the courage to take initiative in conversation: Hi. How was your day? Person: *ignores* Me: *oh god that was so awkward I'm never doing that again. Im such a loser no one wants to talk to me I wish the ground would swallow me up and end this suffering. Oh god why in my right mind I ever tried that? Im never speaking again!*

[@littlerascaleventing]

I know right!

[@rachellam4139]

This hits so hard...ouch......

[@arsnickers]

So accurate

[@sunnysal3889]

Literally happened to me in a zoom meeting tonight. 😩

[@pratyashasarmah]

Yeah truee 😑😑

[@LucysLocket]

Here’s a tip for meeting someone new: Wait until an outgoing person who knows you is talking with the new person, and wander over. You can pretend you’re doing something, but they’ll eventually take notice of you, and the outgoing person will introduce you! I’ve used this many times, and can now introduce myself to strangers without an extrovert!

[@JesusMorales-cx8vv]

"Simply repeat the last three words" Oh no, my top secret technique has been revealed :^O

[@Vortex_Feedz]

Yep I use this technique on a daily

[@persononyoutube648]

I'm a receptionist so small talk is a big part of my job. Half of it is literally just making bad jokes and smiling til you get wrinkles.

[@angkhoanguyen8113]

Step 1: Nod to everything they say, and remember to blink so they don't think I'm a psychopath. Step 2: When they signal with "right?", "you know", "that's that"..... say "uh huh~" so I don't mean to either agree or disagree. Step 3: Look at their face for a second to know if I need to change to shake my head instead of nodding. Step 4: Continue with the musical, action, tragicomedy, historical play that I am day- dreaming right now. It works every time. Some people even spoke to me for a solid hour without any sign to stop themselves. And of course I can't recall what they said to me. So wish me luck when they want me to give my opinion.

[@louisejoel]

uh huh is not part of the vocabulary here, we say yeah nah

[@NatsGhost]

I dated a guy a long time ago and he would call and rant about his job for about an hour a day. It was the third time he called and did this that I decided I didn't care anymore if he got upset so I just put down the phone. He talked and talked and no exaggeration about thirty minutes later I go back and he's still talking and talking lol. All-in-all he ended up speaking for an hour before he got around to requiring my participation. I was in awe, I thought it was surreal and I don't remember how many times I did that but he did eventually catch me and broke up with me 🤣 Still amazes me.

[@angkhoanguyen8113]

@@NatsGhost Wow, if I were you I would listen to every word he said 😭😭😭 That's so smart and he was so, I don't knows, full of himself? Your patience is waaaaay too high madame 😂😂😂😂

[@govinddwivedi5439]

Aliens must read this.

[@raimavadhanam3275]

"SO BE SURE TO WARM UP YOUR SMILING MUSCLES!" Those ones that like to come out sometimes when I'm by myself and no one's bugging me... but next to PEOPLE?

[@LadyMngwa]

As an introvert I actually have the opposite problem. While the speaker keeps ranting about something which I stop listening after like 5 seconds, I often start daydreaming and sometimes remember something funny from the other day and start laughing. (The more boring the actual speech is the more often this happens) Needless to say that usually it is inappropriate af.

[@rachel14rod]

Hahahaha. This happened to me yesterday

[@LadyMngwa]

@@rachel14rod High five!

[@somethingbambi875]

I found it very amusing when extraverts just keep talking without even noticing how quiet I am 😂 I just stand there watching them, smiling and nodding 😅 It is kinda hilarious and very interesting. Until they ask you something.

[@leenbasha]

How can I send this to my mom so she'll see I'm not the only weird introvert on earth without sending it

[@fairyfellermasterstroke]

Hmm, it will require some new technology, I think...

[@leenbasha]

@yousuckatcooking lol I just don't want to hear an hour lecture about it

[@roadrunnercrazy]

Get a sympathetic family member to send it to her for you.

[@Vitoriadls]

@@leenbasha give me her number and I'll send it. I'll say that I received a call from God during my sleep hahahah my number is +55. She'll never know 😅 seriously

[@leenbasha]

​@@Vitoriadls hahahaha Vitória you made my day! i was just joking around, thanks for helping tho!!! LOL

[@SamElle]

I'm going to try to be an expert in weather and see if I can scare people away from making small talk with me LOL, honestly this is a brilliant idea HAHAHA

[@civilizedmonster]

Tip: use °C. You will be considered as wierd if you take °F.

[@SininenKT]

Still yet to master the fake smile without being told “NO NEED TO LOOK SO WORRIED!”. Yes. Worried. Not desperately uninterested in hearing the temperature of the air for the 17th time that day.

[@drawingspider7798]

Practice makes perfect. People usually leave me be when I smile, and I've done it for so long it has become second nature. Then there's the 'redirecting attention from me to another person and blend in the scenery until you can escape' skill.

[@turnerlarson12]

This channel has put out the most relatable content that I've ever seen on KZbin

[@aidadenisa8553]

This is so relatable right off the bat. So many times I thought I was smiling in a group picture and I just look annoyed

[@debanikgoswami4834]

I am now more comfortable with small talk . But still it's quite stressful for me.

[@Vortex_Feedz]

You couldn’t pay me to smile in a picture

[@icaruswindrune7116]

As an INTP, I hereby certify that the best way to get through small talk in a group setting is to not talk and slowly sneak away once everyone forgets you are their (which is bound to happen). For one on one, either run away and never look back or nod your head and say only what they wish to hear (which usually is just OMG, I cannot believe that or Yes/No).

[@sea2322]

"Did you catch the game last Sunday?" "Game last Sunday?" "Yeah." "No, I (excuse). Why don't you tell me about it? Maybe I'll watch the rerun" ;) I'm an INTJ, and TERRIBLE socially. That's a tactic I picked up on over quarantine, when I began a deep study session into sociology. It's how I found MBTI and this channel.

[@alicialexists]

I also have INTJ preferences, and I think most of my mistakes have had something to do with interpersonal relationships. Apparently you can't just "set and forget" friends, even when all they seem to talk about is stuff that doesn't matter to you. I agree that sociology is an incredibly useful topic to study. I plan to study it either later on in college or on something like Khan Academy.

[@vic8611]

I'm surprisingly good at small talk as an introvert, but it takes so much effort I feel like I ran a marathon 😂

[@lunameows1180]

These videos are a bliss. Makes me feel less like a weirdo and reassuring to realize fellow introverts go through the same sh*t. Thank you! Sincerely, an INFP

[@kathleenrivard2881]

What a fantastic mix of acting out a character and being himself. Hilarious. I love it.

[@kalanaherath3076]

True Story: I'm an INTP and when I was about 13 I was perplexed by how people so easily conducted small talks without getting bored, and so I asked a teacher at school how I could do it so as to socialise better with my colleagues. She said "oh just ask them common questions like 'how's you're family doing?', 'what do your parents do?', and maybe comment on the weather" after which I remember gaining this newfound confidence and going to one of my more extroverted colleagues and asking them the following questions exactly in this order without even pausing between them or stopping to catch my breath: _"Hi how is your family? What are you parents doing? Nice whether huh?"_ and then I just directed what can only be described as the creepiest smile a human being could ever make and stayed there completely frozen not knowing what to do next! Lol I cringe at that memory all the time now

[@monicalillis3294]

Lol 😂

[@rainstreet78]

The worst is when two introverts get stuck trying to make small talk together. Introvert #1: So...like, weather and stuff, huh? Introvert #2: Yeah...like, weather and stuff. *10 minutes of awkward silence* Introvert #1: I'm gonna go hide in a closet somewhere. Introvert #2: Good idea!

[@PaleGhost69]

Step 1: *Don't* Step 2; *Just Don't*

[@tcraige]

I turned 50 less than sixty days ago. I’ve never met another INFJ. I don’t have as much insight as you but, I’ve figured out a lot of what you talk about, just later in life. You make me feel like I fit. Thanks for the comedy. 23 Dec 20, Merry Christmas.

[@maximillianafrancine1451]

This just hits it...we kinda of never seem to fit. It's not really painful but I live in a sort of bewilderment. But ultimately, one just interacts less. It can be so weary trying to understand what eveyone is so excited about.

[@Oishiahmmed]

I am so bad at small talk 💔. I always stay in fear and keep quiet😥but unfortunately people think i am arrogant🙃

[@alilpotato3374]

I think your videos are the only things saving me from dying in social situations... thank you.

[@Pixcess11]

It is so difficult to keep acting interested when a person talks non stop. I politely smile while thinking, please stop talking!!! If I zone out, they invariably ask me a question and like a doofus, I'm still zoned out, still politely smiling, and don't realize I've just been asked a question.

[@EmeraldAshesAudio]

Omg that weather conversation is basically my father. He is ready to give a full weather report at the slightest provocation.

[@Ethereallyme]

I might be in class but that’s ok 😌 because I neeedddd this

[@Merlz.]

as an introvert i just smile and repeat what they say till they get bored and leave

[@debanikgoswami4834]

I use covid mask so that people don't come to me start talking 😁

[@zanebenson7473]

Low-key being friends with a sociopath as an introvert is really soothing in a way because there interesting and they talk alot lol

[@dianatorralbo7690]

I'm an ENFP and I do exactly that... I'm not interested in the weather or the sports, but I only talk about myself for hours... No I feel bad... man, this INTJ must really love me, he nods politely to all the things I say, he puts effort in following the conversation and also he puts himself in a place where he knows I'm going to talk to him... poor man... I think I'm making him suffer a lot.

[@probablynotasith5355]

"Then you're probably a sociopath." Me, an INTJ: I don't see the problem here. I'm a sociopath and never initiate conversation.

[@walexander000]

yeah, I wouldn't boast about that one, guy.......... yikes.

[@jackieocean3511]

Ur not wrong tho lol 😃 Last guy I dated was a ridiculously hot INTJ who spoke to no one and I decided to take it as a challenge. All the neighbors said No u will not succeed. This guy is just weird. I felt like it was a bigger challenge. Turned out we had a fiery romance which ended bc I'm ESFJ and he's INTJ. Great experience. Not again tho...we both kept outwitting each other. Him: calculating Me: Non-chalant but not on purpose. It's like 2 different breeds. I respect that. Just not going down that path again. U can't have 1 person trying to be in charge with a free spirit. 💖

[@tsnevtbl]

@@walexander000 from their point of view, it's the superior position, so why should he not boast? He is proud of his crippled empathy (trauma) or it being non existent, as if they're a step ahead, evolutionarily speaking. It's fked up and narrow, for all is interconnected, which they deny or reject by being ego-centric. All they see is a broken mirror reflection of themselves, which they're in competition with. Big sad.

[@probablynotasith5355]

I like this guy. Also sociopath is, paraphrased, "Extreme antisocial attitudes and behaviors and a lack of a conscience." So by technical definition a lot of INTJs could probably be classified as low-level sociopaths.

[@probablynotasith5355]

@Ash Ketchup "A lot of INTJs" "Only a sith deals in absolutes"

[@isacubes]

I know this video is old, but let's talk about 1:59. This technique is called 'mirroring,' and is used in negotiations around the world. It's the first thing Chris Voss (a former FBI hostage negotiator) teaches you in his Masterclass about negotiation. It makes a person feel like they've been listened to, because you just said it back to them, but also edges them on to say more, as if you don't quite fully understand. They will give you lots of information and you won't have to do anything. It's my go-to for talking to people I don't want to talk to. In the situation in the video, when he was asked, "Did you see the game on Sunday?" a good mirror would be "The game on Sunday?" which would probably be responded to with "yeah, the game with the [team names]. It was amazing!" You van respond by saying, "It was amazing?" Then it keeps going like that. So yeah, do this. It's actually a really good idea.

[@monimoop7762]

Going to go practice politely breathing through my nose at a slightly higher volume than normal.

[@yonar.4490]

*when I’m in a crowded place and have to socialize* Wow, that coffee table looks very interesting right now. Let me examine it so people think I’m too busy doing something.

[@akindantagonist8708]

The last one is a russian roulette if not played on someone a bit narcissistic. Hahaha, you are a legend, fella INFJ.

[@amore_93]

I dont think being an introvert is negative! I think is beauty!

[@maggieboyd6858]

“You can scroll through funny memes for an hour a day. You can do this on top of the 5 hours you already do everyday” *Why are you exposing me like this man*

[@God_3712]

2:01 I *always* use this, honestly a lifesaver

[@angiem577]

This reminded me of Star Trek Voyager's holographic doctor - the EMH - coaching Seven of Nine re: social skills, including, yes, "small talk." XD

[@ShiiFT12]

One of the hardest things for me is trying to look interested and show the right expressions when I've run out of energy but someone is telling me long stories; and because one day I decided to smile at a mirror to see how my expression looked and realized that my face hardly showed any of my supposed smile, now I find convos when out of fuel even more exhausting because I try to add MORE energy/cheer to my expressions to make up for the fact that I can't see what my face is doing 💀as if I didn't have enough anxiety

[@amandacarolinecardoso7495]

Person : hello, are you fine? Me : yes, and you ? Person: i'm fine And nobory talk nothing for 2 hour's

[@LilVeehive]

Oh my gosh! The repeating of the last 3 words might actually help mee Everytime ppl talk to me it will just come to an awkward end bcos I couldn't think of what to say nor do except "uh-huh", "yeah", laugh, or nod. Thank you FJ! :)

[@leenbasha]

I'm the first cheap person to watch who didn't buy FJ a coffee yet 😂 #broke_life

[@levi-6194]

The last one is so relatable .....when I encounter an extremely talkative person and they keep on talking and talking and won't stop ,I just repeat the few key words from their long speeches and pretend like I'm listening and understanding. That way we both achieve our goals ☺️.

[@B10-HAZARD]

Trying to start small talk gives me massive social anxiety and I rather stare at a wall for 10 hours than talk to anyone. Because trying to do small talk takes me through the torturous cycle of: Thinking of what to say, not knowing what to say, panic, think they thinking of me, more panic, thinking they think im weird and their criticizing me, more panic, and finally death of the mind.

[@Melont06]

This is exactly how I am. I don't understand how people just know what to say right away. I dread the idea of talking to people. Even if nobody is talking to me I panic when I'm in a crowd. Once I went to my sister's highschool play, and once it was over everyone was in the lobby. I escaped and locked myself in the bathroom until my sis came looking for me. 😞 I'm just so afraid that people don't like me

[@sarahortiz8191]

I unfortunately have to face this fear as I work in a Preschool. My boss has me walk the kids in class and walk them out when they get picked up. So I have to talk with the parents or whoever is standing there. I mean it is excruciating but my future career is within the community so I have to get good at being around people.

[@melissaphillis7247]

That smile was more like "I've been constipated and I think its moving through" "You think you want this, but you DON'T want this" too right! If I open up now, we'll be here until Christmas.... Love this Frank!

[@tombocai]

if you're like "hm hm" or "ohhh" every now and then it makes it sound like you're listening even if you're not, it's good when you chat with those people that carry the whole conversation on their own.

[@sunnysal3889]

Mmm hmmm.

[@laralepo1071]

Mmhm aha

[@vedantsriram3746]

Frank has exactly portrayed how an introvert is like in this video (and a lot of other videos)

[@debanikgoswami4834]

I am now more comfortable with small talks . But still I find it quite stressful😑.

[@titirtaetae5839]

Another tip: Start talking about the memes you watch every day for hours. They won't get your point and thus leave you alone for the rest of the time span.

[@KS-cz9qc]

This is a useful tactic, b/c while many won’t get it, if you find a gem of a person who also gets what you’re talking about, you might have just found a best friend. Unless they then try to change the subject into small talk-then your best bet is to fake food poisoning.

[@titirtaetae5839]

@@KS-cz9qc Exactly the motto with which I have been living till now. 😂😂😂

[@Freely519]

Sometimes it seems like an endless circle: small talk, just don't want to be rude > hate myself for saying something meaningless or hypocritical > spend days or weeks to recharge and convince myself it's okay to say something meaningless 'cause some people like to hear that > small talk > hate myself > recharge > ... It's okay to make small talk with someone that I am familiar with tho

[@puticiosaldana8705]

I absolutely hate small talk! When I go to the barber shop I wish I had an introvert translator to tell the barber to just stfu and cut my hair!

[@laxmipriyabehera1149]

2:26 This video really really helped me to keep on going a conversation!!! But fortunately for I had not run out of tips,the conversation continued till the end and I had kept on repeating the last three words only!!! 🤣😂🤣😂😂🤣😂This was great!!!

[@ry8880]

"For all these times you need to smile for no real reason during a conversation" During Date: **Smiling for hours** 😊😬😊😬😊😬 After Date: "Finally, it's over! **Sweats everywhere** 🥵😊🥵😊🥵😊

[@withstarsvini]

I always come here to see your gorgeous eyes and those expressions you make and those difficult words you use that add the little bit of spice to your videos You are a great person just keep making these and making us smile

[@ofelianelmida2322]

How did you know all these.sir? They really are true about us. Introverts.

[@nospecialmeaning2]

Me: confesses she is not feeling very social either, so the introvert in front of me sighs with relief and actually opens up. Sometimes it works.

[@esmeraldavillagonzalo3390]

Frank, that thumbnail is so goofy that it tells The story 😋

[@MsYeji]

0:47 I do this all the time with an added words of understanding like 'mmm...', 'Yeah..', 'Uhuh', 'that's very true' if all these doesn't work "excuse me I'll just go to the toilet for a while" then leave

[@MysticaAriYena]

so... looking at them intensely for a full minute and then whispering 'go away' is wrong? *takes notes*

[@highonhope9369]

😂😂🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@facepalmjesus1608]

the 3 word question is a brilliant play that i use since my childhood! kudos!

[@kiwi4058]

2 months later i only got it now that the glasses are fake

[@flomo1336]

Nice and funny videos. I use them to be better in english and have some fun with them. I also learned much about me and introverts

[@ritaruggerone4434]

Only sociopaths initiate small-talk...ok I feel better about myself now:)

[@jackieocean3511]

Ok. So anyway, how's the weather? 😈

[@cheetopuppy6188]

@@jackieocean3511 LOL!

[@ritaruggerone4434]

@@jackieocean3511 Me internally:AAAAAAAAHHHHH😳😳😳just stay calm...and don’t overshare... Me outwardly: Ummmm it’s been good-I mean pretty good well you know I can’t complain there’s been no REALLY bad weather like a hurricane or a tsunami or anything tho with 2020 who knows and OH CRAP I’m about to over share again...

[@jackieocean3511]

@@ritaruggerone4434 😃 Actually, there was a typhoon in the Philippines a couple days ago that wiped a whole bunch of ppl out which really upset me bc I was planning my vacation to Palawan for like a year now. (Takes a shot). Well, I guess that sums up 2020 in a nutshell. What about you? Would u like a shot? I'm buying...cheers!

[@jackieocean3511]

@@ritaruggerone4434 (I like role playing haha! This FJ shpuld do on his channel so ppl can practice small talk) 🍻

[@renstormcloak3694]

1:28 I just noticed the map of Skyrim on the wall, bro you got my respect

[@michaelmechex]

My fake smile looks worse than my honest angry face, so I prefer to use that instead.

[@rajnazemi]

I bet its that serial killer smile 🙂

[@michaelmechex]

@@rajnazemi Well, I was said that quite a few people in a high school I used to go to legitimately thought I was a serial killer. So there's that.

[@rajnazemi]

@@michaelmechex hahahaha😂

[@kumarg4347]

2:00 This is the best tip ever. Thank you so much, Frank. I just repeat the last 3 words, and they just keep talking. (Actually, I even tried this with introverts but seems that it only works for extroverts!)

[@iwinosaa]

Guide to small talks: "You think you want this? You don't want this" Ngl, run fast. I suck at talking😩

[@koishi8361]

To get used to small talk, start working in retail e.g. during the holidays. To get the mimic straight, do some theater. Both helped me to overcome alot of social interacting hurdles. Though ('forced') social interactions are still exhausting and nonetheless I prefer to meet one on one instead of joining big gatherings. Why going to such extremes. Well, to be not bothered anymore by even more exhausting social interactions. E.g. the typical 'how come you are so quiet'.

[@AnnikaJoy]

The look at 0:04 🧐😂

[@LadyL823]

You got me at 'game on Sunday' and a long pause and silence..😄 Only true introverts can understand and appreciate this joke.

[@tijndejong9539]

Many times when i talk people say something stupid and i dont know if its sarcastic or legit so then im just thinking the rest of the day what he meant by that

[@npursuit]

So true about others wanting to talk about themselves. Many of my inward reactions are, "Oh you only asked me so that you can talk about it, you weren't really interested in what I had to say. Ugh."