The Jealousy of Emotions and Sex | Leif Edward Ottesen Kennair | TEDxTrondheim

[@theredpeacock]

I gotta be honest, I get jealous super super easily however, every time it happens I try to look at the situation from an outsiders perspective and most of the time I find that I’m overreacting. It doesn’t make the feeling go away but it definitely stops me from taking actions and letting it out on somebody who doesn’t deserve my hate. Having this control and being able to do so feels very liberating

[@SundarBJJ]

This is very honest and insightful and, therefore, very encouraging and helpful. Thanks for putting it out there.

[@HandsomeRob2008]

Retroactive Jealousy is so real! Ugh it hurts so bad, but it's so necessary in finding a mate.

[@PatrickStar19872]

I only felt RJ with one girl...Why is that?

[@francismausley7239]

Jealousy is too often used in a negative manner... "Jealousy eats the body and anger burns the liver. Refrain from these two as you would avoid a lion." ~ Baha'u'llah, Baha'i Faith

[@Madmok128]

Not when you control it. Nothing is more liberating than never giving someone else that kind of control over you. I don’t get jealous because I know there’s nobody else out there like me. Besides, not reacting to it irritates others more than yourself. Believe it

[@xbendiistraw]

Thanks man, this is so true.

[@akosi3207]

Agree.

[@luiromde]

how can you do that

[@timdeedee]

@@luiromde Learn to know yourself, learn what qualities and what flaws you have, that you have your own ''queendom'' where competition can't exist because you end up learning how unique you truly are, not in an arrogant way but with clarity and objectivity. To overcome jealousy, you also need to give freedom to the ones you love to make their own choices in life, even if that choice is to break up with you. Nothing in this world belongs to you, nothing is certain, and trying to maintain stability only ends up hurting us more. What also helps with jalousy is practicing unconditionnal love for every being, especially the ones we hate or make us jealous. It all takes pratice.

[@vKaran12]

Nicely said.

[@Mister.Psychology]

Great talk as always. I'm also very impressed with the audio quality. TEDx here is top notch.

[@amorsanto2878]

The nose whistling?

[@RealHomeRecording]

​@@amorsanto2878😂

[@simplepixel5617]

I am a jealous person, and I don't agree that Jealousy is a necessary thing in a relationship. This guy focuses too much on the Genghis Khan than on what jealousy can really do to a relationship if not controlled. He should look up on the Etruscans, and see how relationships and parenthood worked very well 2500 years ago.

[@BlindBabeBeth]

Really interesting! How does this not have more views?

[@Pylenus]

My guess is that it lacks subtitles, but it sure is a really interesting talk

[@No_Enemies_Kale]

Some people would rather not look towards the truth because its painful. It's much easier to sweep the dust under the rug.

[@veronicaalmeda8014]

Sad this is aimed at male jealousy. I wanted to know about female one which is equally as abundant, overall on friendships.

[@nitramrot]

Nicely delivered Leif! =) And well put forward!

[@PatrickStar19872]

This man is very articulate.

[@tayray88]

Jealous is a primitive way of surviving your way of life through success and family bloodline.

[@jackyt3404]

'without jealousy we wouldnt have love' Just to be clear, he means biologically speaking if love is a new construct due to resulting chemical reactions.. Not in a contemporary sense re our current feelings Unless he doesnt mean this, in which case, its total nonsense

[@kierankennair7753]

What I meant is that we would not have pairbonding and the emotion love if investment from fathers was not balanced by partner guarding and similar processes.

[@kierankennair7753]

So sorry, but you're comment is actually pure nonsense😉

[@JediNiyte]

"Without jealousy, we wouldn't have pair-bonding or love". That's sick.

[@jackyt3404]

Just to be clear, he means biologically speaking if love is a new construct due to resulting chemical reactions.. Not in a contemporary sense re our current feelings

[@roberttraverso7352]

How is it sick that the glue of our society is love and pair bonding? Jealousy is the emotion by which we protect and maintain this.

[@roberttraverso7352]

@@jackyt3404 Love is not a new construct. It is something we are hardwired with and keeps parental pairs together to raise children. Something we still need.

[@thomaswinkworth2768]

that is deep, but when i think of the biggest motivator of why i made a move on my current 'partner' it was because i felt someone else was going to... i felt this jealously before we had even started seeing eachother

[@imhenotic]

My face is the same as the guy at 12:45

[@yrbirthday]

I bet this guy has ruined relationships with his jealousy and refuses to confront himself so stubbornly that he devotes his professional life to justifying it

[@NiteshKumar-bq7gh]

Don't try to fight jealousy, Or you gonna end up being a dead end.

[@ryzon7277]

I agree . I think reasonable amount of jealousy is good but extreme may cause a serious trouble. But it depends on the situation . 😅

[@alexcollingwood-williams]

well damn...interesting to say the least

[@Opeth1991]

Tell me about it!

[@charlesgerety1403]

I get an earful if a woman even comments with a kiss emoji from my girlfriend.

[@echospeaks233]

😘....😂

[@msl381]

love demands jealousy... FFS... that's possessiveness not love

[@tadficuscactus]

What is emotional infidelity? I'm a man.

[@veronicaalmeda8014]

When a person develops emotions for another person other than their partner and they share an emotional connection.

[@foodisgoodthatsthetruth3231]

If it's consentual it's cool though. There is ethical non monogamy

[@JonA-ih5he]

He talked about it in the presentation giving the example of a guy giving his female co-worker a better gift than he gave his partner. It would also involve things like having greater emotional connection with another woman compared to his partner, or showing more affection, admiration, attention to her than his partner.

[@iamhereblossom1588]

9:20 why show this? lmao

[@RegentStatue745]

I think it's cause that might be Hank from the Vlog Brothers/Crash Course lol, not sure though

[@Andy01249]

Heteronormative and slightly sexist in nature, but an interesting topic.

[@trompetadoggosaurustrompet7850]

My interest decreased because it was heteronormative and slightly sexist haha

[@MariaMartinez-ts4vq]

I totally agree, a bit old fashion. Anyway, interesting topic.

[@ryzon7277]

@@trompetadoggosaurustrompet7850 if this is sexist then whole evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology is sexist . 🤣🤣🤣

[@hyperhybrid7230]

An interesting view from a western perspective and certain lifestyles. Boyfriend / Girlfriend culture creates different issues, or expectations of the materistic education. What is it like in for example in the Muslim world or China ? The Alpha male the dominant species, the Beta female can be more emotional or spiteful.

[@PatrickStar19872]

I only felt RJ with one girl...Why is that?

[@JonA-ih5he]

Was she the one you really loved?

[@msl381]

love isn't possible without jealousy - clear he knows little about love

[@ryzon7277]

I think you knows nothing about Love . He is correct about what he is saying.

[@JonA-ih5he]

Why?

[@sayedislam5134]

Sick

[@mariavazhnina3992]

Stopped watching cause it was about the male one

[@msl381]

pathetic

[@sasmitasahoo2211]

dw documentary

[@satan4518]

wtf even was this lmao