The loved are always loved, the abused are always abused

[@kingdon7795]

The problem is that such people reach a breaking point after being abused many times.

[@raymondcampusano2991]

The problem is that sometimes the abused find a great person but they get them out of their life because of fear or traumas.

[@janiceball8431]

This is true until you have the ultimate awareness and are able to follow through with difficulties

[@trauma2happiness]

People are attracted to people who have traits of their parents but with personal growth they can get better and better partners. Liked and subscribed.

[@janiceball8431]

Absolutely, looking for characteristics that fit you. Where your relationship is growing together in happiness.

[@ayemiksenoj5254]

We create what we hate. I've tried to explain this reality over and over again, but to someone that doesn't have to deal with it, it simply doesn't make any sense. This also enables the cycle to continue because to most "you are the problem" seen as toxic and bad luck. However, that's not the truth. We just haven't been properly loved and cared for. Still, those that are "healthy" don't want to be involved with that. I believe this is part of why so many now are choosing to be alone.

[@moodyowl2819]

This is an absolute must-watch and rewatch for anyone who grew up in a toxic family and wants to break the cycle! Really helpful and comfortably structured video. Thank you very much! I needed this.

[@EmotionalOdysey]

Hell yeah! 🙌Breaking the cycle from a toxic family is no joke, and finding something that helps you reflect and grow is priceless. Glad it brought you some clarity and comfort-those "must-watch" moments are everything when you're working on yourself. Keep going, and don't forget to rewatch whenever you need that boost! You got this! 💪✨

[@OldSchoolL4D-zb2kt]

Abuse stops once you meet the right friend

[@DionLYA]

Yup... my whole life has been filled with misery... most of the time. I don't know how I've always ended up in such situations.

[@L6FT]

I've started practicing more compassion towards my own and others faults. It helps me move beyond resentment as I acknowledge we all have damages, thereby not excusing bad behaviour, but becoming more mindful of what I deem good behaviour to be, meeting others with sincerity.

[@tabiripetrovich517]

Life is so complicated

[@moniquehenry6408]

You couldn't have said it better omg

[@fightswithspirits915]

These are little DBTs but with value. Nice format. Will give them a try.

[@HG-le5tj]

Awe, that's truly sad😢may we hopefully break that cycle🙏

[@annieanhvo6188]

this channel is gold thank you 🙏

[@alaynjones2209]

This is true because it took me three years to get up on my feet and stable and always from our toxic household.

[@raki1190-y7i]

I would be great if you provide recommended resources and books that help overcome this.

[@Daimo83]

Amazingly succinct - I like your style.

[@antonbarth1370]

holy moly he is spitting the truth daily

[@EmotionalOdysey]

Thank you so much! 🙌 Daily uploads are definitely a lot of work, but hearing feedback like this makes it all worthwhile. Your likes and views are my biggest motivation, so please keep supporting the channel! 🌟

[@eugeneabramov9919]

Thanks for these videos brother

[@Sandra-jo1lj]

I feel bad for people, but not at my expense of myself. They will have you thinking that love means throwing yourself on the floor. Having you living in that abused lens forever with them. No thanks

[@BOND0072.0]

What's your source?

[@EmotionalOdysey]

I am a counsellor. A significant portion of the content is grounded in psychological research and studies. I reference established theories, findings, and frameworks from the fields of psychology and personality studies to ensure accuracy and depth. Where possible, I include insights from real-life cases and anecdotes (while maintaining confidentiality) to provide a practical perspective.

[@LearnCompositionOnline]

The psychological research will show theories that conflict with this

[@TheAsvarduilProject]

​@LearnCompositionOnline also, the social sciences are being hit pretty hard by the replication crisis. Basically, many social science theories are either difficult to reproduce, or do not actually reproduce in actual replication efforts. While the broad outline of the video seems truthy, the lack of cited sources worries me. If you're going to post on medical issues, I can't recommend material that doesn't include some form of bibliography.

[@Leslie-x6y]

Wow I’ve listened to a lot of Trauma childhood podcasts and yes my husband of 36 years wasn’t or willing to address these issues he was addicted to porn had Madonna complex made for a very tense unhealthy marriage I’m still working thru my own issues of why I made choices not healthy for me

[@JingleJangleJam]

There's a problem in the theory of Traumatic Repetition and I wouldn't take it entirely to explain all of the phenomena of abuse because chance and random factors play such a large role in the outcomes of abuse, some people who are abused may turn out completely different personalities to how they were beforehand, so much so that the person after the abuse is no longer the same person as before it, so it can't be a one-to-one repetition of their past. For instance, the random and chance social variables like which family, which city and which politics is in your nation. Politics plays a large role, I know that the difference, between a sexually traumatised and abused person, turning to prostitution as a means to resolve their romantic and financial issues, or not - that the difference between these two mere outcomes can depend purely upon the differences of Welfare politics in those two nations, and of how much money their parents made at their jobs to be able to financially help their child through the trauma process (even if they do not understand the emotional causes or were emotionally unfit, having a good job at least for them provides a higher quality of education afforded which maybe can make the difference) In Norway, for instance, if a person is sexually and emotionally abused in childhood, they can still go to college free of charge, and therefore build some kind of economic independence outside of the influence of the abuse they grew up in, which is why I think Norway has lower rates of social issues in its country. The low taxes on the rich, puts extra emotional hardships and burdens on the people in poverty who suffer from psychological and social issues putting them out of the ability to make the large investments and have the regulated self-emotions and drive to economically fulfil the post-Margaret Thatcher demands of an individual ''pulling themselves up by their bootstraps'' as Martin Luther King called it, form of becoming financially free or independent. This is why historically more black people didn't survive the traumas of their social environments than white people did. In Richard Pryor's film ''Bustin' loose'', Pryor wrote a story where his character, a petty thief on parole being blackmailed by his lawyer to drive a bus for a school of disturbed children interstate on a big road trip adventure, wrote in a multi-ethnic orphan child cast of white, black and asian characters to show it can happen to any ethnicity in today's world, a bad social and political system to help them, and it even shows a scene in the film, where one of Pryor's asian orphan characters he talks to, tries to offer herself for prositution to Richard Pryor, thinking that it is the natural way to behave with workers in the Welfare system or adult people. Traumatised people, then, can be loved but love I think is the problem, not entirely the solution. Love and failed love is historically one of the basic causes of prositution, that is, and still is today. To find someone who has the selflessness enough to care about deeply disturbed person's life and make them feel like they're a ''somebody'' as MLK used to say, instead of having a ''feeling of nobodiness'' that haunts them, is to find one person out of ten thousand. In ''Bustin Loose'' social workers are portrayed as inefficient and incompetent, as they mostly are, and it's only an outsider - a petty outlaw and a ''nobody'' considered so himself, Richard Pryor, who - unlike the social welfare workers - has from his experience of actually being a nobody empathized to build the self esteem of the bus of children in the movie. In the past they used to refer to the way to cure these social and emotional problems of the humiliation poverty adds up on top of childhood traumatic upbringings, as being an economic one called ''Social upward mobility'', and I would suggest, that the reason many people on here feel miserable from trauma can also be due to the lack of social upward mobility and independence from their social class they grew up in being too difficult to attain true proper independent freedom in life.

[@rgbctgvf]

Thank God that there is neuroplasticity

[@samppakoivula9977]

The more correct title would've been ARE MOST LIKELY than ALWAYS, because always gives a fatalistic tone to this...

[@Chanel31113]

This makes sense but how to fix it in a praftical, real world way?

[@EmotionalOdysey]

I'm currently releasing a series of courses. If you're interested, you can follow me to stay updated. Your views and likes are my biggest motivation!

[@avwa4965]

I think we can't

[@avwa4965]

You can choose who you stay with, not who you love. And when you stay with someone for convenience then you are not happy and harm others

[@MRRS-ee1cd]

You are a sooooooooooo right……….

[@monatoma1075]

❤

[@Keith-tz2jy]

Confusing

[@AugustoCuervo-hx9pr]

You harvest what you sow. It is not confusing, motivations are different from achievements. Some might get success by the way of suffering, while others become successful by the way of love.

[@olentangyriver1191]

God is evil to do this to people

[@CuriousLearnerX3]

Perhaps our concept of God is wrong. What if the Buddhists are right and the world is just created to make us learn from suffering until we become one with nothingness?

[@Zero000ooo-0]

Why are you lying to suppress survivors, sweety? And why can't you spell? It takes a real survivor to council abuse victims..