THE 'MALE LONELINESS EPIDEMIC' | The Slumflower Hour podcast

[@tan89284]

Having female friends who have boyfriends/husbands is exhausting. I don't need your pity, I don't want what you have. I can see all the gaps in your relationship but if I voice them, all hell will break loose.

[@Datb2]

On god

[@nottodaysatan101]

This!

[@FlowerlyF.]

Exactly!!!

[@jeahluna2385]

It’s a show we created and they’re just simply non stop validating themselves from men’s love not their own love .

[@Nokukhanya_nn]

!!!!!

[@tsunamiinae]

I’m now celibate and single . No even looking . It’s getting scary out here ladies 😩😩 Like what can a man add to me that I can’t give to myself . The men around my city look Stressful !

[@kaysmellsgood]

Relatable dear

[@fantasticmaan]

You know, reading your comment made me think: maybe it’s time we stop looking for people to ‘add’ to us and focus more on how they can help stabilise us or do not take away from us. Otherwise we become products to each other. There’s enough tools to do everything in a self sustaining matter but is that really a way to live? I may be wrong

[@tsunamiinae]

@@fantasticmaanvery well said !

[@smokedbygrabba415]

​@@fantasticmaan This self sustaining comfort and privilege is forged by Men’s efforts to protect women and ensure reproduction away from predators long enough to deliver the child/future. . Now in present, women can live independently without needing protection or companionship, unless war threatens this comfort..

[@mollybiosphere6741]

I disagree men have been conditioned to hate sensitivity because they were told don't cry like a girl. Yes men can express sexuality, anger and intelligent because those emotions were conditioned to be acceptable. What's not acceptable is what is considered "girl" emotions.

[@Chiron952]

You have to be a friend to have a friend. Men are free to befriend each other if they so choose

[@fantasticmaan]

While this is true, men do usually have a tendency to make loose connections much easier than women and where we lack is a depth of friendship and that’s our work to do. Having said that, technology plays a part in this for us all (men, women, and other)

[@SummerTyme2023]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@peachesandpoets]

It's ridiculous that men and society in general thinks it is our job to look after men's mental health. We do the work and heal after they actively destroy us. How is it our problem to solve?

[@fantasticmaan]

I don’t think all men are out to actively destroy women, neither are we asking for you to look after us. Perhaps this whole lonliness epidemic is just a result of shifting power dynamics and that’s okay. Things may get better in the future and this could be a necessary step but I don’t think it’s in both our best interest to take joy in others pain. It may be a men’s issue now but let’s not act like it’s a not a society issue at large. Only here for reasonable discourse btw no intention to hate or bigot

[@BloodBornShadowWalker]

We don't?

[@rjflores438]

Human beings need connection. Men and women need each other and need intimate romantic, sexual connection combined with emotional intimacy, when people dont experience that for long periods of time, that has an incredibly detrimental effect on someones mental ans emotional wellbeing, man or woman.

[@Luver4lyfe]

@@rjflores438this is untrue lol

[@rjflores438]

​@@Luver4lyfewhat makes you come to that conclusion.

[@CD-xq1lc]

I say the same shit every week but babes you are such a gem! The “are you a good listener” sentttttttt me! Like I had to stop and gather myself because you are hilarious yet none of this is a joke. 😂

[@kaysmellsgood]

48:05 Omg they be so threatened of women owning dogs and cats and caring for them😂 there was this viral video of a woman who cares for her Pitbull dog so much, she literally does spas for the dog and feeds it well prepared meals,she treats it like a real life baby and men be in her comment section whining and gnashing their teeth like why does the dog get so much care and not a man 😂

[@jeahluna2385]

That’s the psychology women need to learn to fathom the fucking fact that men’s logic will never change towards us.

[@0fficialselena__90]

Shes also a lesbian😭 I am not surprised like her and her dog living nice😅

[@BloodBornShadowWalker]

​@@jeahluna2385what are you smoking?

[@jeahluna2385]

@@BloodBornShadowWalker weed

[@BloodBornShadowWalker]

@@jeahluna2385 and how high were you when you made that comment?

[@catxambivalent]

I feel zero empathy for men that complain about the "male loneliness epidemic", but feel some pity for the women who feel like they always need to be in a relationship with a man. Something that I've noticed is that female friends that are in relationships are always lamenting about the men that they're dating being terrible, and yet they'll always justify their relationship when other women point out the flaws of it. It's like they're in denial of the patriarchy and believe that their discontent is normal. It can be hard when the world pushes being in a relationship as the norm, but I'll never feel bad for being single because I see the way men are every day. At this point, I might be on my own, but I'd rather have my own peace than be forced to deal with the men of the present.

[@fantasticmaan]

Couldn’t agree with the first part more. There’s that saying “it’s better the devil you know” and it seems to ring true to that part of the comment. Finding a partner is harder now than ever before so it makes sense why some would absorb a lot of dissatisfaction before learning. The latter half, I’d say being in some kind of loving relationship is the healthy norm to live by it doesn’t necessarily need to be romantic or heterosexual but I hope you’d allow men to feature in it somehow. “The men of present” could entirely be a product of their environment rather than nature and focusing on the way we socialise boys could help which doesn’t usually feature in the discourse. I hope you can see the angle of my comments?

[@willbgm5x5]

You lack compassion and empathy

[@Lukas-lp2fz]

please stay single. Don't reproduce

[@BloodBornShadowWalker]

Average toxic misandrist

[@bryanneal5402]

Why u feel zero empathy of men

[@nottodaysatan101]

I’ve come to the conclusion that the problem with men feeling lonely primarily boils down to other men and the patriarchy. Men set up standards for themselves that they hold other men too and when they can’t live up to them they suffer. It’s just all to do with the patriarchy.

[@Lukas-lp2fz]

every social problem is muh patriarchy

[@rjflores438]

@prettyhollypolly7553 I dont think that is really true. Women are the selectors, and the burden of performance is way more on men when it comes to male/ female realtions and being attractive and desired by the opposite sex. Men have to be confident, charismatic, high social status, be selected by other members of the opposite sex, having the burden of approaching and risking rejection and facing more rejection when approaching etc is way more of a pre requisite in order for a woman to be attracted to men than men to be attracted to women. Men have to become, women just are. A 19 year old woman who has put no effort into her confidence, status etc can attract an extremely high status and powerful man whos grinded for 10 to 15 years and is in his early to mid 30s to be good enough for the 19 year old woman who can leverage her beauty to get that man and for him to be worthy of her even though she never had to go through that struggle to attract a high level member of the opposite sex and she just happens to be in her attractiveness and beauty prime.

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@rjflores438you seem jealous of 19 yo girls

[@dumb_gril]

this podcast is the only thing that makes me feel sane

[@saulsaul6492]

I ALWAYS THOUGHT VIAGRA WAS DISCOVERED WHILST LOOKING FOR A TREATMENT FOR ANGINA. MY BAD.

[@Nubia88]

If you cannot control a man at least control your inner anger

[@BlairWaldorf2013]

A guy at the gym said this to me like I was supposed to feel sorry for him and I was like 🤷🏽‍♀️ He was like a several of the men there (over 45yrs) feel lonely and I was like well whose fault is that?!??!? I told him certain men are conditioned to waste half their lifespan hoping from one woman to another and after waiting a *Half A Century* aka 50yrs now all of a sudden you want a younger, beautiful, thriving woman to sit up and look at you be old 🫠 I told him certain men use the women in their community like capital to be traded around for clout, now the women men like him WANT don’t want him back suddenly it’s a problem. Nah…there are plenty of women he and his friends could have those just aren’t the women they want. They want the women like me that have managed to make it past 38yrs with no kids, still look like I could be in my late twenties, educated, with assets. That’s who they want but I don’t want to be bothered with any of them unless they have assets or access to assets and that means 98% are out of the running 🫤

[@tinachristine4573]

💯. I'm that woman too and you should see these clowns who have wasted themselves try to chase me with weak ass vibes.

[@BloodBornShadowWalker]

The irony of hypocrisy

[@A_Womans_Worth]

I would buy your misandrist t shirt 🙌🏻🤣 clowns be clowned. ✨

[@nicole.andrea.10]

Thank you Godess for this wisdom! My main takeaway was, "If you actually have self-worth, you only date for self-entertainment. Dating for marriage doesn't make any sense." Amen.

[@jeahluna2385]

Listening to u made my life easier especially dealing with men I don’t treat any one special not unless I benefit from them all bussiness it’s working well .all a holes are slammed right away lol

[@Gem_ini]

You are a legend. I am SO GLAD that a woman is finally brave enough to speak up about this epidemic of misogyny, patriarchy, male violence and abuse against women. It needs to STOP 🛑 I speak up about this on a daily basis and get so much hate for it, especially online. I agree with absolutely everything you say and it’s about time we had a woman speak up, congratulations on making change 🙌🙌👊💪

[@amy-rose7090]

Good on you! I’m so tired of hearing about this men’s loneliness epidemic. Then all feeling sorry for themselves, hearing everyone feeling so sorry for men and there’s nobody stepping in to defend women, and why it’s happening. People don’t know how disgusting men actually are. We need to push back a bit because it’s not our fault, it’s theirs.

[@BloodBornShadowWalker]

So you support someone being a misandrist

[@BloodBornShadowWalker]

​@@amy-rose7090toxic misandrist

[@rjflores438]

​@@amy-rose7090Thats a massive generalisation about an entire gender.

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@rjflores438it really isn’t a generalization. It’s just truth.

[@gailainsley6939]

36:05 moon in Gemini here too & yes I’m usually right when it comes to how I analyse people’s situations (especially relationships) 🙌🏾

[@TajimaMunenori]

There's a female loneliness epidemic too.

[@yasaman5283]

there is not , actually

[@bryanneal5402]

Nope u can have a men in one day is men are easier

[@itsspringtime]

Girrrl you always got me laughing 😂😂 and you're always on point

[@yasminwalker4966]

😂💯

[@FlowerlyF.]

Such an important topic 👏🏾killing it as always

[@JessicaBarreraGinGin]

I just about died with the whole good listening bit. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@alexispeterson4439]

Well said and hilariously delivered..the ending 🤌🏾😂🤣

[@yasminwalker4966]

😂💯

[@bryanneal5402]

What happened 😂

[@aintsheadaisy505]

Gurrrrl, i'd love for you to organise some get together events for the like-minded girlies (unforts can't make it to your live event 😭)! Agree 100% what you said re surrounding yourself with baddies who agree with this ideology. It does feel lonely & I do feel judged cuz my views & self esteem differ from the people around me & they do not understand the message you're spreading. I'd love to meet more people like this! To support each other to get the life we want and deserve! 😊

[@Meagain4567]

Bro I love you so much!

[@Tee-Star]

Lady, please!!!

[@saulsaul6492]

HATE SPEECH

[@alyssachandelle752]

The truth is out

[@nocrumbschannel]

The lesson on paper. Hilarious 😂

[@bryanneal5402]

Im a guy and i understand you

[@JasmineKiah-s2o]

Male loneliness is so hilarious to me 😂

[@jessicaolive4943]

Another great episode. The mic was too soft to though so it was hard to catch all the goodness

[@LS-ry5ey]

I'm a libra rising too! Yasss

[@SirbossTV]

Blackmen got plenty options 👍🏿

[@everythingeverything3505]

I’m a Libra Rising too sis!

[@gontlentshole5721]

😂😂😂😂😂 wait was that monk bit aimed at Jay Shetty 👀👀

[@alineenobree]

For sure.

[@mieskaarendorf8247]

Oh but you are so wise, girl.

[@ofc2024-zz6bt]

She is cold. Look at the hate and venom in her eyes.

[@Emptytopfloor]

And she’s never been abused by men either. Isn’t it amazing?

[@ofc2024-zz6bt]

@@Emptytopfloor You dont know very much

[@fantasticmaan]

There’s so little in this video and comment section about platonic friendship between men and women

[@mieskaarendorf8247]

and funny too. Ugh, love you.

[@willbgm5x5]

You will never understand..

[@sashburrito4006]

Explain

[@Emptytopfloor]

Who’s trying?

[@rubypanterra.]

Sag gang gang

[@nmdetroit]

❤