The narcissist final discard

[@freiewahl5918]

Three narcissistic relationships during the last twelve years- three times brutally discardied after being lovebombed at first.. after being forced in the position of the giver and helper... devalued. .. and thrown away like a piece of rubbish.... I always thought I'm totally wrong- not lovable.....not good enough. The last one was the worst- malignant narcissist.. who betrayed and took away my money. Two years after the relationship, I thank him know because he brought me to the realization....that I am a codependent narc magnet and his discard was the starting point of my healing journey A really hard but exciting way.. on which you have to confront your own shadows. Yet I'm not able to trust again- but I've learned to trust myself a bit more ..... and I have learned to be alone... without feeling lonely.

[@Unbeatable]

You are on the way to recovery and breaking the cycle. Use it as a lesson to learn about yourself and grow. Self-love is crucial.

[@naturewalk5470]

Freie Wahl I am Sorry. You are Worthy. Love Yourself. Do You Believe or have Faith in God? No one can Love Us as Deeply and Perfectly as God. And as the Lord Jesus Christ. God Even Promises to Never Forsake Us. We are Saved by God's Grace through Our Faith in Jesus Christ. I too had a few Relationships with a Narcissists. We want love but we are Chased and hooked in by the Narcissists. We are Great Supply because they sense we Need that Validation and love and we have Love to Give, a Big Supply of Unconditional Love. They Suck up All that Love, them Devalue and leave. We must Remember they are Sick. Not Normal. There are Normal People who can love Us on Equal terms. I Recommend finding Good Friend's. I find my Most Loyal Friend's are Christian. I have to get Closer to my Friend's. I Must get Closer again to God. I put this person First too long!! Now We Must love Ourselves! God Bless!!

[@donnaking3344]

And these individuals spend their entire life moving into the next victim etc etc etc. wasting everybody’s time.

[@Unbeatable]

They do indeed and are very good at it too

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@sanakhan-eb8cy]

I have to disagree on the point that they can discard u bz their supply was cut, they can discard u or to say go to another source even the things are perfect. And while they are seeing another supply they will lie to u that they are not. And they will say that are u accusing me of being dishonest. They are crazy as hell.

[@Unbeatable]

sana khan good point. Thank you. I agree, they are crazy and when they gaslight you, you think you are going mad.

[@sanakhan-eb8cy]

Thanks Vivian for ur reply, I really appreciate all the videos you are making to share ur thoughts. You are really helping a lot of people. May God always bless u.

[@Unbeatable]

@@sanakhan-eb8cy That is so kind of you to say so. Comments like this keep me going, thank you.

[@charliedallachie3539]

@sana khan Happened to me, literally days after a great vacation together. I discovered the cheating when fixing a problem on her computer while she was passed out drunk from what I thought was a “girls night out” (Facebook chat logs and Instagram was all open right away and the conversation and sexting was right there open on the desktop so I don’t believe I snooped) I confronted her and she claimed I was her life and everything, fake tears. She told me he was just a friend and it was just a kiss etc but that really accelerated the discard and I was moving out a month later. As of today he’s in my place living together and engaged 🙄. If I knew then what I know now I would have moved out much earlier while she was on vacation.

[@alexanderwalle3568]

At least you lived with stones; I did not: it was a sunny, awesome normal day when I stumbled upon the obvious: someone on the phone after they thought I'd left (which kind of answered itself when it was my turn, she should have dumped me, but didn't).

[@dlkcoil01]

Wow!! This happened to me directly from the start and for many years. Its one crazy nightmare. I’m going through a brutal final discard now. I’m fully awake for once. I cannot believe I stayed in this mess so long. Therapist, counselors, social workers and doctors are clearly not skilled to deal with these people of nightmares. I could not get a single professional to crack their elaborate mirror. They are master manipulators. They use your personal stuff against you in ways you least expect. When one is intimate with a person, one shares vulnerable aspects of one’s self. With a healthy person, this leads to a deeper more involved relationship, whereas with a narcissist the information is used as a weapon against you. I regret sharing my childhood wounds with my wife, she constantly used my information to punish me,to embarrass and shame me on a routine basis. You describes my nightmare to the “T.” Keep sharing....Thanks!!!

[@Unbeatable]

D. Kirk they are Masters of Manipulation! And yes, able to pull the wool over the eyes is some professionals too. If they’ve discarded you then you’ve dodged a bullet! Stay no contact if they try to return. Get out while you can.

[@YamFZR93]

I am going thru exact same thing now but was with her about 5 years. My family said she treated me like a slave but I didn't seem to notice or mind much. Sometimes the abuse was awful, beyond awful. But apparently I have codependent and heroic loving loyal tendencies and it's environmental and genetic. It's actually far worse than I can put into words how much I miss her and how destroyed I am. I will be a monk again, probably for life now. My divorce 10 years ago was horrible beyond description.

[@mikeackerman1174]

I’m going through it now with her!! Miserable bitch!!

[@thegreatalyssa]

I'm his loss. He is miserable. I am free.

[@Unbeatable]

Good to hear.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@lauraluluxx]

I’ve just cried all the way through watching this.. I feel totally devastated after what I’ve been through I’m not sure where to turn right now. I feel broken bruised and empty. It’s going to be a long recovery :( thanks for the video 🙏

[@terrymcgee6917]

🙏❤️🙏

[@jesusbeautifulhands]

Just trust in God... It's what I'm doing 😌 now Worry Less Pray More God Bless You all Have a good day

[@jesusbeautifulhands]

I just saw this was one year ago I do hope you have since recovered from your ordeal

[@jenniferAgbebiyi]

I was just discarded yesterday. It stings so bad. I caught them with someone else when just less than 24 hours before they were saying they loved me. When I went to confront them about their scandal, they treated me like I was crazy and abusive and they were scared of me. Essentially they were putting on a show in front of the new supply

[@Unbeatable]

You deserve better than this. Let him go and focus on you now

[@demigaines5644]

Thank U For Sharing For Over 4 Yrs I Have Chased This Person For Acceptance.I Was Belittled Devalued And Then Finally DisCarded..It Hurts Being DisCarded.I Struggle With Going No Contact

[@Unbeatable]

No contact is hard, but it's the only way. It gets easier with time and just remember, you deserve way better than this.

[@demigaines5644]

Vivian McGrath Thank U So Much

[@gayleneflower398]

FB Support groups have helped me so much! I immediately get on there when I have that unstable feeling of returning

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@rayaalli4062]

Thank you so much for the information. I’ve just been discarded and it’s a blessing in disguise! Your videos helped me a lot.

[@Unbeatable]

It is def. a blessing!

[@DanTheAnalyst]

The only final discard with a narcissist is when the victim finally escapes for good. Even though the narcissist will discard their victims, in a cruel and brutal fashion and multiples times, it's never final for them, they try hoovers, check Ins, Preventive moves, even years later Truly, once you have been with a true blue narcissist (male or female) in their delusional minds, they own you, you belong to them for life

[@latikabenz6289]

I met him when I was 34, now I am 41. It s been 6 years of marriage, 1 son. Final discard has come and I ve been fighting against it so hard. But he is decided to push us away, no matter what. Abuse has reached unimaginable levels. In the end you realize you don't have other option than quitting, pack your stuff and leave. I don't think he will ever think of me again, he rejects and devalues me so hard, it is impossible that he would try to contact me again.

[@albertoestrada820]

im listening to you as i pack my bags and flight leaves on friday. its so tough to make the choice at first to go but once you do you dont regret it

[@Unbeatable]

Keep going and never look back.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@jesusbeautifulhands]

Amen 🙏 pray and give thanks to God For He knows the plans He has for us (all) said the Lord plans to prosper us and not to hurts us... Amen Jeremiah 29:11 Be well and be safe

[@SFsailingbiking]

I dodged a bullet after 6yrs. Thanks for sharing the knowledge& Happy Chinese New Year!

[@Unbeatable]

Sorry for my delayed response! Happy New Year to you too!

[@aruvielevenstar3944]

I feel thrown away. So cold and cruel, and a week ago extremely romantic and hoovering me back. I have to realise for the final and last time he is fake, the love was fake and block him anyway I can and not deblock the creature when I feel lonely

[@Unbeatable]

Arúviel Evenstar this might help understand it more: The fantasy bond: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hWrVlZedm7mcsK8

[@aruvielevenstar3944]

Vivian McGrath Thank you❤️🙏🏻

[@harrycrowe7873]

Yes, they are fake people. You don't see the real person until they discard you. Then you see the monster they really are.

[@MBoy535]

Love this video. Subscribed. Your point of view is objective compared to many other channels. I tried to maintain boundaries and that led to me discarding the narcissist a couple of times. He constantly projected and gaslit me telling me that I was the source of the issues and he was dedicated. The whole time he had more supply lined up and moved them in while telling me it was platonic. He continued to reach out wanting to be friends, which was confusing. I gave in one day after learning about true narcissists. I went over his place and hung out, sympathized, comforted him and took his lies. I saw he wanted to keep me in his supply closet. We spoke about his emptiness and how he felt a light at the end of the tunnel with AA. I tried to bring his attention to addiction being a symptom of much bigger issues. Indirectly spoke about narcissism. He wanted to hang out again soon. That night sending me selfies saying he couldn't sleep and was thinking about me. I responded the next morning saying I slept well and hope he's doing well. He kept sending me messages, trying to reel me back in while he's sitting across his new supply. I maintained my boundaries in response and didn't show my pain. The next day he text me coldly that he couldn't keep up with this "friendship" and he wished me the best. I've heard this could've been an attempt to get a reaction out of me. Maybe it was just the final discard because I was unwilling to fall for his hoovering. I'm trying my best to move on, but the love bomb and trauma bonds are keeping me in cognitive dissonance. One day I wish he'd get his "karma" and the next I'm sad that I'm not with him and comforting him. Thanks for this video. I'm so glad you came up on my recommend feed

[@Unbeatable]

I'm so glad you found me too. Thank you for your kind words of support. You are doing well, as it is so tough I know. Any reaction to them is signalling the ability to still control you, even negative reaction. I found the only way was to go Cold Turkey, with no contact. It was painful and hard as emotions flooded me and overwhelmed me. The most important thing is to take your focus off him and put it onto you. Self-care, self-love will fill that void that you are trying to fill with him. He won't ever fill that within you. Only you can. Read every self-help book you can on codependency and get help and support if you need to. Try to stay strong. Time is your friend.

[@JianWithMomChin]

Jorge Roman i agree with you.. there are days that I'm so strong that i've got to stand on my ground. But the trauma bonds are still strong when I'm alone I cant help thingking of him. I wanted to get out of this feeling as fast as I can but i think theres no other way to morn that we loose them. As hard as it may seem to leave them behind cause we have oir emphathys with them on what they are going through but I really wish that they still can have a better life than going in circles with there rwlationships and no possitive outcome.

[@MBoy535]

@@JianWithMomChin yeah, just take care of yourself. I feel worlds better cuz I realized that I was giving away my energy to this person who really had no value or regard in us. Keep your head up and remember that almost anything is better than a life with these vampires. Remember why you loved living and make a plan, keep busy and youll be excellent

[@JianWithMomChin]

Jorge Roman thank you .. when I feel this anxiety every time I sleep I always pray. Pray that I have more strenght to survive all this cuase worsw I almost think im. Going insane. If theres one pill that i could take to remive all this I would. Thank you for your response

[@Unbeatable]

@@JianWithMomChin This is why getting help and support is a good idea. It's hard to do this alone.

[@lightoflife7795]

Very apt reminder for me right now thanks Vivien. 6 months no contact now, so it's been back on my mind. All of his empty promises of future plans. Geez did he do a number on me. I see it plainly now, but was starting to go down (good) memory lane. Need to stay away from there. 💗

[@Unbeatable]

Light of Life write down a list of all the reasons you left and those empty promises. Pull out whenever you feel weak. Don’t go back, you’ve come a long way.

[@lightoflife7795]

I will do that. Thanks Vivian.

[@alexanderwalle3568]

I assumed mine had moved on to someone normal and I would have to admit my mistakes at it no longer being me and never will be again which I still do; upon discovering that the same old song and dance was being played again, only then did it hit me that this is the way this person lives: off of chumps. This is a fine line it seems: women want to get with people who have things others don't that can get them there, few want to be with a loser; but now the problem is they are no longer twenty easily hiding it with their looks, due to time and age it is obvious now to probably everyone right away what is going on, it is beyond obvious to me and others aware of my being juiced (you gotta wonder if they feel guilty; I, for example, could get with some old broad at the gym for a buck and easy life but would then have to pass up people I really wanted to be with: other old broads).

[@lightoflife7795]

@@alexanderwalle3568 what point are you trying to make here exactly?

[@alexanderwalle3568]

That a card I remember she gave me with two old people walking into the surf on the front is kind of hard to imagine was a real gesture although at the time I thought it was; she probably thought she was losing me at the time but I was probably just distant via some temporary tiff that most people go through. Maybe she thought I was losing interest but she was the one that left not me; it's kind of hard to grow old with someone who got their own place, then moved to another city.

[@stellaercolani3810]

Maybe the final discard will be of himself? We can sit back, pop the champagne and Smile!

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@vincentcollins4444]

I discarded her a year ago still very hard to move on but had to do it for my sanity and pride and health it hard but for the best. Thanks for video ✔️

[@Unbeatable]

vincent collins I am so glad you found the strength and courage to put your needs first. It is hard. But it does get easier with time. Stay strong and thanks for watching.

[@vincentcollins4444]

Thanks for your words of encouragement and video Vivian

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@lolitawebelman2996]

I got discarded many times by my ex narc. It was bewildering because he always did it when the relationship seemed to be at it’s best, like the discards came out of NOWHERE. He always returned until the final discard, I called him out on every single one of his lies and abuses, that’s when he blocked me from all social media and digital communications. I haven’t heard from him since.

[@Unbeatable]

Because he now knows you see through him.

[@lolitawebelman2996]

Vivian McGrath Exactly, he cannot deceive me anymore so now I am useless to him. He unblocked me by the way, do you think there is a risk of him coming back?

[@micktaylor1991]

Great chat dropped me like a sweet wrapper on discard. Saw the mask drop and there behind the mask was a very spirit of jezabel. Her face went to a blank canvass and back to its orginal form. But the hate that emanated from her. You could feel it .her hate foe me now by what I hear. It’s amazing . This his not normal behaviour

[@pauladsilva9374]

I thought I was safe from getting a hoover after the dreadful experience he put me through and the nightmare ending in court....a year plus later.... he calls me last month 😠😠😠😠😡 supply dip... new supply must be gone.... he is blocked...my phone rejected the call....I will never give him a second to ever talk to me ever again.... shameless bastards....predictable shameless Bastards.😠.

[@Unbeatable]

I am so glad you stayed strong. Well done. Don't ever look back.

[@lightoflife7795]

Smack bang in the middle of court since April this year, with the stbxnh. Can't wait until it's over. Then I would like to erase that 20 year chapter completely. Well done for being so strong. 💗

[@19dulce68]

Paula dasilva I ended up like you. You will go over it, believe in yoursel sel and pray ❤🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@dlkcoil01]

After learning more about the hovering and how they sneak back in. I’m changing my name.😜

[@m0L3ify]

Good for you!

[@risingeagle6332]

Another solid and thorough perspective. Thanks!!! My narcissist stretched all my boundaries. She used gaslighting, triangulation and the silent treatment to mess with my head. She used the police (40 times) to harass and bully me; I should have walked away the second time, but did not. Her Love Bombing was powerful and intoxicating. She had me walking on eggshells and land mines all the time. Then she started lobbing grenades at me. At some point the constant devaluing brought me to the point where I started reacting to the abuse, which made me feel bad in the end. I added fuel to the craziness; knowing it was going to come back at me in some way. She made sure to bring it back my way by telling others what I did; of course...leaving out what she did to cause my reaction. I got to the point where I could not keep my head straight about reality. Cold turkey is “excruciatingly painful!” 7 months into the final discard now. I had gotten use to the abuse, now its gone suddenly and I find myself struggling for some reason. At times I’m simply lost and stuck mentally; trying to figure out what to do each day. Interesting. I find time goes by because I mentally go somewhere, not realizing time has passed by. (What is this about?) Thanks!

[@Unbeatable]

It is excruciatingly painful. But try to stay still within yourself and feel these painful emotions. It is an important part of healing. These might help you too: Emotional healing: the gift of stillness - kzbin.info/www/bejne/nHuUdoRrjpenZpI Emotional wounds are where the light enters you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qoeppWWkeMiAjc0

[@catherinehiggs7724]

You have just described the last 6 years of my life . In tears but so thankful i found this video . In the final discard now . Thank you for your video

[@richmel27]

I was so hurt when the discard happened, and I asked him (though my grief) “do you have any hope that we’ll end up back together” and his response was “no, I don’t think people can change”. As I think on this now I feel sick. But I see his pattern now, and he’s doing it with a new woman. I’m glad I’m out. Unfortunately my kids are witnessing it :(

[@Demebeso714]

They devalue you because they want to..they arent afraid of you in any way..when they discard you they couldn't care less about you...theyve already moved on..

[@Unbeatable]

Sadly, so true.

[@positivevibrations6110]

I was discarded in March 2018. I was in the relationship with XN starting in March 2006. Twelve years. He cheated on me with co-workers at the warehouse. He works for a major foreign household goods and assemble yourself furniture. He would tell me about his co-workers; how he was "the dad", another more mature woman "the mom", and the younger females "the kids". They all would sit for lunch and "be together". I thought nothing of it as I listened to his work stories. Soon he would constantly call one co-workers name all the time. Talked about her physical attractiveness, her personality, just talked about her. He started picking up another co-worker on his way to work and bringing her home every day. Even if he was off, he would and take her to work and drop her home. Talked about her all the time. Another co-worker, another co-worker, another co-worker. All affairs. For five years, from 2011 to 2016, he conducted an affair with another co-worker. Reading his emails, the entire warehouse would invite them out as a couple, send him information to pass on to the co-worker, etc. As far as his work colleagues knew, this co-worker was his intimate partner, not me. Sex stopped in 2013 and if he attempted to have sex, he would have to be drunk. The XN TOLD me his game plan: his brother was seeing a woman who in her love gave his brother ANYTHING he desired. All he had to do was want it out loud. His brother no longer wanted to be with this woman, but the XN said to keep her, have sex with her once in awhile and get all the money and gifts from her. The XN said he could be with the other person without leaving the gift giving woman, but his brother did not know how to "play the game". The XN did: on me. I provided a lifestyle, clothes, money, travel, prestige, but the co-worker provided the sex, the warehouse camaraderie, the lifestyle he wanted. He lived two lives and neither intersected until November 2016 when I met his cheat partner. The XN swore it was over but still continued to see her, talk with her on the phone, texted her frequently as continued to live with me. It ended with him moving out from me right into her house. The XN told me he was trying to get his own apartment, go to church, be by himself for awhile....all the things he thought I wanted to hear and what I would do post break up. In actuality he had put his name on her lease earlier in March, which she sent to me to further sabotage our relationship, so he had no intention of doing ANY of the future faking he mentioned. After the discard, I was devastated. After finding out he was cheating on me for five years without my knowledge, I was devastated. After finding out he was still smoking crack, I was devastated. Within that toxic relationships, I was always depressed and devastated.

[@Unbeatable]

You are better off without this man. You deserve better

[@naturewalk5470]

Response to: The Narcissists Final Discard. Thankyou So Much!! I am a Mature Women who Appreciated Your Intellegent and Very Compassionate Help!! Thankyou!!

[@solangepoulin3512]

Love the way you explain! You are amazing and spot on. I’ve watched most of your videos! I have gone through this cycle over and over and thank goodness I’m free now!!! Truly a life changing experience and it takes a while to be ready for another relationship after the effects of such abuse. Be kind and gentle and patient with yourself people!

[@Happy-Me.]

I believe if you were good supply and discarded them first they will hoover even when they have a new supply especially if the new supply is not as good. That's why they never give you closure. It's a way back in!

[@Unbeatable]

That does happen

[@barflin]

I'm trying my best to get over this nightmare. Almost 8 months after my discard it's still hard. Somedays i still feel like im losing my mind ruminating about everything i thought was real.

[@Feber2001]

Same. People think I'm crazy. I should just "move on." They don't realize just how damaging those kind of relationships are; what kind of toll they have on your mind. I'm speechless and I'm still recovering after 14 months....

[@barflin]

@@Feber2001 Thank you for your comment Clay. It does get better but there's still days I sit and think back about the whole situation and feel perplexed and just sit and wonder about it all. it still doesn't make sense how someone can just move on like you were simply erased from there memory. I was with her for four years and it was a lot of good times mixed with a lot of craziness. That situation really did change me and how I view the world now. And I'm 48 years old at that. take it easy and hope it all starts to get better for you.

[@garimaheath]

Very accurate analysis... oh yes. It makes me want to break things when i listen to this and relive the last 17 years. I cannot maintain no-contact because we exchange the kids once or twice a week and we are still arguing about splitting the finances... and he just tried to Hoover me by feigning concern for my economic plight.

[@Unbeatable]

Sorry to hear this and I know how difficult this is as I had this at the start too. Is it possible to arrange access visits and finance issues via a neutral Third party? If not, try to keep all emotion out of it, even if he tries to push you down that path and stick to facts and logistics. Emotional arguments won't go anywhere and will drain the life out of you.

[@garimaheath]

Vivian - the problem with involving a third party I.e. attorneys, is that they rape you financially. We just went through a « mediation « where no one was concerned about reaching a resolution and every one was more interested in making out like bandits - the mediator who carried papers back and forth like a St. Bernard and the attorneys posturing to justify their insane per hour fees. Nothing to show for 8 hours of ‘mediation ‘ but an astronomical fee. I can generate property division spreadsheets and budgets for no cost at all. So I will just do it myself.

[@alexanderwalle3568]

It's like some of them profit off of other people's misery.

[@alexandranoboa]

Thanks so much. I NEEDED to hear this.

[@GeorgiaMyname]

Just yesterday after 28y I was the one who told him how I want this relationship to be from now on ....I asked 3 things ..when I told hom to be faithful..he barked as a dog ...so...I told him that I cannot continue any more ...He was surprised but he didn’t do anything to keep me in this relationship.When i told him goodbye through skype he was looking at me as a 3 yo kid when mom leaves for work ...I try hard for no contact...but really I loved him very much

[@Unbeatable]

Try to stay strong. The pullback to him is strong too, but nothing will change. You set boundaries and he did not respect that. you deserve better.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@rewaiyer8249]

I am very happy that I took the decision to discard my narcissist ex after 25 years of marriage and that showed me another very ugly side of his when I told him that I was divorcing him for good. It has been 6 years since I left him and am happy to say that I have no regrets whatsoever .

[@Unbeatable]

Well done for finding the strength and courage.

[@shanehester5317]

the truth is most people see what there partner is in about a month of meeting.they just chose to stay.

[@mikeackerman1174]

You just explained everything I went through for 23 years!!! I’m slowly waking up. Like I smell the coffee down in the kitchen but can’t get up to get it. She had found a new man last year 2019. But I freaked out and stayed with this c&@t!!

[@rashmikodibagkar7769]

I have been discarded after going through the ongoing abuse for 25 years.Had no idea what narcissist was, the devaluation went on n on with me always trying to think I must be doing something wrong and made myself feel guilty. Prayed a lot for peace all the while.

[@lovethereflection8315]

I just realized that I don't miss the narc, or the narc's love. I miss love-bombing. It was all fake, but so addicting..

[@kathleenmravic4277]

Absolutely nailed it. Amen

[@Unbeatable]

Thanks for watching

[@gayleneflower398]

Thank you! Facebook support groups help a lot as well.

[@Unbeatable]

They do.

[@muyiblack]

Thank u V.. God that was amazing

[@m0L3ify]

The first discard was the worst. I was young and didn't feel human for a month. To make things worse, he'd gotten back together with his ex-girlfriend. No one was able to explain to me what really happened. I even had a friend ask me if I had been "too clingy." I was shocked she'd ask. She was the president of the NOW chapter on our campus. Surely she'd know better! But in hindsight, she was one of them, too. As time went on and it happened with others, I grew colder and colder about it. Now I'm super happy when it happens. They usually discard me pretty quickly, as soon as I call them out because I've seen the mask slip. It actually warms my heart. Those are some of my best days now. I throw a little party. :)

[@Unbeatable]

That is so great to hear. It is so true. Once they get you can see through them they run off to find a supply they can manipulate. Soon only healthy, self-assured people who treat you with respect will start gravitating towards you instead.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@lovemagicandroad]

Yeah...I’m so happy he discarded me and filed for divorce first, otherwise he’d be super angry and more dangerous than he already is. Right now just trying to squeeze every last penny out of me, despite my having turned 60 (he’s only 47) and having chronic cancer on disability. I gave him 20 years of my best working life. Let my career slip and slaved to support us, while he lounged around and took naps. He attempting and partially succeeding to turn all 3 sons against me. What a low low life, totally amoral. I’m embarrassed to have ever been associated with this creep. The other good thing is, I was never deeply in love with him, nor was the sex ever very good. Thank goodness for that! My vulnerability was that I really wanted a family, had no relatives in the US and was about to turn 40. How stupid was I! I’m cursing the day I married him, and yes now getting rid of anything that reminds me of that wedding. Even took him name, despite being a professional....how gullible I was. And YES I actually DO love myself. Think I was just in a vulnerable state due to wanting a family and having zero relatives and I gave a lot and was very hard working. He always played victim and I thought poor thing, he’s so young. I grew up with honest people, didn’t realize anyone could be so deviant. I was easy prey. So glad he’s out of the house, sad I lost 20 years, but my life’s not over, now I just have to figure out how to keep the house to myself. Gonna head to gym now. Life can be wonderful again!

[@Unbeatable]

I'm so glad you are free now. I hope you get through this difficult divorce, as I know that will be tough. Life will get better from then on, with time.

[@eurizuri4904]

Thanks for this.

[@shanthikini6605]

Nice video. Thank you

[@ylana4444]

Is that a Garmin golf watch? I have one too. LOL! Great video! I have been discarded and it really does hurt..I gave 10 good years of my life to my partner..even paid for couples therapy to no avail. She has BPD and refused individual therapy. It was a total nightmare. I dodged a bullet indeed! Thank you so much!

[@Unbeatable]

No, it's an Apple watch. I'm glad you are out of the relationship now. You deserve better.

[@jenniferjacobs228]

Thank you, Vivian, for doing these videos. So enlightening, especially Daughters Of Narcissistic mothers.. I was finally able to understand what the hell happened. lol... and that it wasn't about me at all. wow...light bulb moment right there. But this one, describes my 28 yr marriage exactly. I was clueless and confused most of that too. Now it all makes sense. So thank you again :-)

[@KAI-lo6ms]

Thank you for video, I have been struggling after discurd. But I already have been 8 years 3 break-up and get sucked in back. Waste so long. I am glad I am able to notice this time. Yes hurts, get up and down, but I am not going back that hell. Now I know he said his previous girlfriend were drug user, alcoholic, so he separated. I believe he drove them.

[@patriciakenshima2271]

You so powerful woman ! I admire you

[@shaneoconnell2994]

I was with my ex 5 years always me fixing and trying she was hot and cold I never knew when, what or how, I forgave her always because she was amazing when she was good so close and loving, then she would give me the silent treatment. Then one day we went out everything was beautiful then she stopped answering my calls , I needed closer she wouldn’t give it to me and blocked me, I kept at it and she told me she got bored. Bored I said”!? We did everything together nothing boring about it. Then I found out she was in another relationship only after 3 months. I found out he was a guy that she was in trade school with, so she always was getting closer and closer to him, while with me the whole time, and once she found out he was the one she left, ghosted and blocked me. As I only loved and cared for her. The hardest part I had no idea, it all happened in one day. The last time we were together was beautiful. Now I see it was all fake bullshit. The heartless betrayal destroyed me. Trying to heal. Trying

[@oldrose1750]

When your mother sends you an email accusing you of theft then telling you outright they done with you even if you walked away first without saying a word...

[@asmith4179]

I was dating a man for only a couple of months, but I feel for him hard. He dumped me via text out of the blue. A couple of months later we started getting together again, but not dating, pretty much just sleeping together. I ended up breaking that off because I wanted more. Then again a couple of months after that, it started happening again. I was a wreck because I could see all this women on his social media and had a strong feeling he was dating one of them. I spoke to a mutual friend and he confirmed he was seeing this lady. I ended up messaging him telling him I knew about her and was so disappointed, and I really thought he was a better man. HE did not respond and he blocked me on every social media outlet. Now I'm left wondering if he is a narcissist ( I never suspected that before), but it seems fitting given narcissist block people out once they discover the truth. It is very upsetting.

[@DOTMH_1]

He was never committed to you.

[@Nobodyhome630]

Hello,...met a narc ( not sure , but I think he was a narc , did all the narc behaviors) who was married, he lied about it at first.... then confessed and promised to divorce... and foolishly I stayed ..... I gave him several opportunities to leave on good terms and go figure things out..... each time he lied and promised and swore he loved me and was sure of leaving etc......I endured several love bomb and discard cycles , but divorce never came, so I Left Him....I blocked him and I went silent....he popped up a couple weeks later with invoices from A divorce lawyer , asking for me to just open the lines of communication....I told him we could maintain communication but not get back together until he was officially divorced ...... 2 weeks later I was discarded again over a silly argument about going to lunch with my dad, he accused of being with a man, again...I am so lost.... I truly believe he is done with me and he’s gone for good this time, and I understand that it may be a good thing...... but I am devastated to be honest ..... I don’t understand any of this ....if you have a response or video for this situation, I would really appreciate it.....could you please help me, .... please ... I’m breaking down...

[@sharonmagee5948]

Thank you Vivian ♥️

[@annieblackburn5112]

Thank you! What happens when you walk away during the devaluation stage before they discard you? The first time, I confronted her about a lie and she did the typical narc thing, blame shifting, devaluing, denying, smear campaign and discard under the pretense that I was the "toxic" one. She then admitted to her lie 4 months later and tried to rekindle a friendship. It only lasted 3 weeks. This time when it came to confrontation I just walked away and did not engage. I prefer to keep my sanity.

[@YamFZR93]

Run. Seriously brother run and don't look back. The suffering if you stay for enough years will actually be more painful than a violent death. Hard to believe but trust me it is true.

[@Unbeatable]

Good advice. Not engaging in any shape or form is key. The Grey Rock treatment as some call it.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@julesknows2255]

I got involved with a married narcissist. He told me the divorce was almost over. Dumb me believed him. Of course I find out that it hasn’t even started!! He & his wife were having a “pissing contest”… when he pressured her/she stalled to piss him off. When she pressured him/he stalled, to piss her off. I finally had enough.. tired of waiting. I discarded HIM. He really can’t say anything to me.. because HE IS MARRIED!! His wife is seeing guys too, but they refuse to get on with the divorce. It’s nuts!! But.. I did find out that he is talking to other women on social media. He’s pathetic! He’s looking really rough😖 Glad I’m out!! Haven’t heard a word out of him. It’s been 3 months now.

[@alcudiababe1]

I also find because they love bomb you and have this deep routed connection with you - that it's that level of running flow of connection they want, or need, like electricity from a plug socket and if you wake up to them and smell the coffee and they feel something is off, something is tripping your wire they are on you like a car bonnet because they can detect changes in your current. It's a bit like a child ashamed of something and can't look their parents in the eye - that running flow of connection isn't there. So the abusers would pick up on it quickly and fear you will leave them.

[@harrycrowe7873]

It's amazing how they all do the exact same shit...Like they all went to school for it. Narc. University.

[@msprettykawaii950]

I tried to ask him if he has any plans, he said it was over. 3 kids are now fatherless atleast closure came from him

[@melissa_anastasia]

I'm actually completely disgusted by this person now. I used to think this was going to be hard. It's actually easy. Sure I have my moments but it was never love. It was bullshit.

[@Unbeatable]

I remember that moment when the fog lifted for me and I finally saw him and our relationship for what it is. Control, not love and all about him and his needs, never mine. Use that to give you strength now to heal.

[@thomas2081]

The truth is ... narcissists are so messed up in their heads, whatever the reasons are. Just walk away. Block and walk away. Thank me later or they will mess up with your sanity. Just go! Don't ask questions or think about it. Just go!

[@charliedallachie3539]

Yep. 2 year relationship and things seemed to be fine/stable then suddenly by accident discovered her cheating with another guy behind my back by using her computer. Confronted her.... like (what the hell?) as I did nothing wrong and within a month I was moving out of her apartment we shared. That last month was very abusive and she was official in a relationship with this new guy all over social media in my face not even a week after I moved out and he moved in and took my place 6 months later. Felt discarded just like a used light bulb. Just like that, out of nowhere. 2 years gone, and I thought I was her soulmate her everything etc. I feel for those who's marriages just suddenly end this way, luckily we weren't married or had kids although I almost engaged her. The long road to recovery from depression after this is the hard part.

[@Unbeatable]

Sorry to hear that. It hurts, I know. Hope you're okay.

[@alexanderwalle3568]

Once I realized stark reality (and it's sad when other people knew from the start and they did: that I was such an easy touch I lived quite the clueless life and they were right not to tell me what I wouldn't have listened to anyway) I went straight to Walmart so I could mix sleeping pills with prescription meds--it was the first time I ever actually had to go get high before going to bed; I don't drink anymore or I would have probably done that and who knows how worse that would have gone and it would have gone worse, jail maybe, whatever might happen no one will put me in that position ever again (when I see a pretty face these days it does nothing for me except remind me of sleeping pills, prescription meds and life-long promises that had Walmart wondering who the hell took all the sleeping pills--Mount Rushmore and I have a lot in common: the cold stone I have learned to become).

[@Unbeatable]

@@alexanderwalle3568 Sadly, I wouldn't have listened either. It's only when we hit our rock bottom and realise it for ourselves. I hope you are okay now

[@charliedallachie3539]

@@alexanderwalle3568 None of this is worth risking or taking your own life, these people are demons plain and simple, why give into them? Heal and recover, but taking your own life isn't the way.

[@alexanderwalle3568]

I only wanted to do that when I realized how well she was doing in comparison to me (she kind of slept her way there) but she's also smart and plays the game that I resist as often as possible, she's no fool by any means and I liked that, too, her intelligence; her CV should mention a big dummy although there were times when I knew she was playing for time for some reason or I was being strung along, now I see she wasn't ready to bounce just yet. I was thinking today to say that some of these people are professionals at what they do, she was, I for years felt we had a connection doing half the work as we do when we really dig someone; you think you have a relationship or had one when I see now had we been imprisoned in a gulag and I'd choked to death one of the guards, took his weapon, kung-fu'd the rest, stole a C-130 and escaped just as a fireball went up behind us the results would have been the same (I got us out of the Travelodge among other poverty I would return back to as a result of her leaving which can be just as dramatic).

[@simonmatthews6652]

Yeah it hurts but not forever one day they will have to face themselves for what they are i believe thats karma

[@lisak9308]

I believe their karma is when the loose us forever. I believe that everyday they wake up they hate their true self, that's why they have to put on a facade each and every day. Honestly that sounds like a miserable way to live out their life. And they can never settle down and be happy with someone because they are not happy with themselves. So there for I think they struggle everyday of their life. My ex was the covert, and he actually said everyday he can't wait to walk out of the door from work, so he can be himself. They are truly fake people which is kinda scary.

[@Joycelang2495]

Your welcome me Vivian god bless love you its hard but I got to Be strong 💝💝💝

[@Paranormalcrow]

I can't stand the pain when she said he was just there and it happen..this happen around new year I was like a fog the pain was unbearable,I know she going to Hoover and I'm scare my heart is actually terrified of her..this was going on 4yrs

[@Unbeatable]

If you need help and support to work through this I’ve listed some free and anonymous helplines here: www.vivianmcgrath.com/domestic-violence-resources/

[@shaniecegullison]

I so needed this video ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@wmhhealth2018]

Mine was not a final discard but it was a hoover disguised as a discard because she was desperately trying to regain control of me because her manipulations were failing. She said she wanted to breakup but then said " I was hoping you would fight for the relationship". I said nothing but I was insulted by that attitude. I said no I want to end this. She hugged and kissed me and said she wanted to remain friends despite the fact that she was obviously cheating on me with her new supply (More than likely a recycled back burner supply who I never met because he is a downgrade). I am not going to be anyone's option. I walked away and blocked her immediately. 4 months plus and no hoover. I will never contact her and she is most likely terrified of being rejected if she contacts me so ultimately this may be a final discard even though she absolutely doesn't want it to be done.

[@Unbeatable]

Good for you. Stay strong and value yourself first, as then you will start to attract those who value you as well.

[@nidhisatra]

he's discarded me forever(i exposed him the supply getting married to) bcoz hes getting married to the other supply whose in the scene with me since a year. She's aware bout his past but feels now he's a changed man( his actions are making her believe that way). my inner being is reacting weirdly Lik I want him n also not want to ever see him...

[@8888-9]

Generally I learn something each video. However there are people who will devote themselves to a narcissistic woman. I am a daughter too of a narcissistic mother, and I needed to cut my relationship with her off altogether. Years and years have gone by, where I was Disinherited in the end. There is a whole family who have now become the new Inheritors, who love her and care for her needs. They find her exciting. She is happy and well. But to me, a few years ago, I was told she was slowly dying of cancer. I am now dealing with her words in my head. Every day I battle this. And I am getting exhausted. I am a mother myself. And I need to question every idea and sentence I want to say, and examine, so a lot of self doubt. However, Surely it will get easier!

[@a.m.a.7265]

He discarded me very Ugly. This Time if he comes back i will be Cold Turkey.

[@Unbeatable]

It's the best way, although hard. YOu might like to watch this video: Going Cold Turkey: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fHLNipp6Z8qbjpo and this one: My 5 Top Tips for stopping a narcissist sucking you back in: kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3vJmqduiZWlm5o

[@andrewpratten]

Discarding them first is the ultimate last word.. especially if you note down points you want to say, say them or emailing is good, as they are bound to read every word and can't interrupt you.. then go. Block. Move on.

[@Paranormalcrow]

They groom the new supply while they are still talking to you ,,and depending on how many times you been discarded and Hoover you know when it coming..One thing I do notice they do it right when you need them the most.

[@Unbeatable]

They do indeed. It is cruel

[@AhsanKhan-eo8dv]

Hi. I just made a new whatsapp account and voice messaged the narc and told him who he really is and what he did and what signs he showed to be a covert narcissist. He listened to all of it but didn't reply so I just blocked him. Maybe he blocked me on that number too but I just needed closure and wanted no chance of him to ever Hoover me again. What do you think will happen next? I think he'll never think about me again and I'll think that he never existed either.

[@pauleastwood3694]

I’m really suffering, she did final discard 3 m ago, I pleased for 2 m, she was so sweet to start and then pure evil, I changed her life while I was with her and then she was done with me

[@Unbeatable]

Sorry to hear that. Men can be victims of narcissists too.

[@Paranormalcrow]

Thank you re video..helps I did pray for the guy to catch on to her strange thing now I get calls from a private number they hang up this almost every day.

[@JustBeREAL1st]

She has chronic congestive heart failure-hopefully she will leave this realm and go back to where she came from

[@rabraul]

I have discarded my narcisist girlfriend. Her mother is narcisist with her too. Without noticing she was being narcisist with me too. I don't blame her. That's the way she was educated. She called me coward and other things after that. I know now that she was talking about her self. She told me that she doesn't wanna try or doesn't know if we can be friends in the future. Do you think that she eventually will try to talk to me ever again? I think she is proud enough to never talk to me again. For now I am tring to heal my self and practice contact zero. I will never feel hate for her. I just feel sorry for her because I know that in her deep heart she is a good person with so much psychological damage.

[@Unbeatable]

These things pass down generations until they choose to break the cycle. I would focus on you now and finding happiness within no matter what she does,

[@rabraul]

@@Unbeatable unfortunately she doesn't seem to want to break the cycle but it's not my problem anymore. Yes, I am trying to focus in only me. That's what matters now.

[@christinashelley7716]

Thank you! 💛💛

[@Unbeatable]

Thank you for watching.

[@lisskiebeans]

My ex and my son did this to me. It feels just terrible.

[@Unbeatable]

Sorry to hear that. That must be so painful. If you need help and support to work through this I’ve listed some free and anonymous helplines here: www.vivianmcgrath.com/domestic-violence-resources/

[@ericablaschke3497]

What if this is your mother who has discarded you when you let her know you get her and are done with her rejection coldness and putting her needs above your own.

[@Unbeatable]

You might benefit from this video: Daughters of narc mothers: www.vivianmcgrath.com/daughters-narcissistic-mothers/

[@MusicBobAllan]

This discard has been the hardest time of my life!!!!I know stereotypes say men are the only ones who it, but in my personal opinion it is sooo freaking damaging when a woman does it! I am such a fucking lover of women (especially having 2 sisters), but I really struggle with these people

[@Unbeatable]

There are def. female narcissists and what you experience as men, in this case, is the same. One man I met recently found it especially hard as he felt so much shame as a 6-foot-2 man being abused by a 5-foot-something woman. No one would believe him.

[@blackTea8]

I was discarded about 2 months ago, hurt like a mf. It was out of the blue we had seen each other the past two days prior and it seemed fine. Then boom had a small disagreement and that was it. We have a daughter together and we have another on the way. I can only see my kid when she wants me too. And I’m not allowed to be there when the new kid is born :(.

[@SandraLovesSun]

This is an older video, so I am not sure if you would see this or if you even answer comments and questions on here, but is it possible to be with a narcissist that just plays you and remains married to you for 25 years? Say all the right things, be affectionate where applicable, but remain shallow and needy? Can that neediness be seen in terms of hugging really hard and so forth? If the codependent is wise enough to play them back a bit? And that codependent is never discarded? Because they are such a good narc supply despite being disappointed and verbal about it from time to time? Just wondering if the narc can play the game to not piss off the person they are with so that they can still get their supply and so that the abuse only lies as far as not being legitimately connected for the right reasons - to be devoted but only because they get something back? And then they can be who they really are with other family members?

[@mikeackerman1174]

In one of your videos you talked about cognitive empathy? About having basic human desire love sex. Why did this woman after 23 years end all of that for me. Even my hobbies are destroyed?

[@alcudiababe1]

I'm wondering something when we are depressed we are all about ourselves, and our pain, any chance the more depressed you are, like chronically depressed and those levels and the more self absorbed you become - you won't notice their bad behaviours that normally you would have picked up on if you gained clarity? Xxxx

[@melissa17379]

Omg it hurts!

[@alexanderwalle3568]

I think I'm a narcissist; women for me, except for the one I married (and maybe her, too, although she was the one to discard me into a deep depression when I needed her the most--I, of course, did not understand this at the time other than my life suddenly going down the toilet) it seems women only last so long, no matter how much longer it could go on the party is over at some point with me, I think I have an unhealthy view of women, have been accused of being too picky which is probably true, but even if I have no one else I'll quit it at some point even if they try to keep it going I'll lose interest which may not make me a narcissist although it could because it works for me, not them as I return to peace. Some of these gals weren't stellar if you know what I mean; what some did to keep me we won't get into but it still didn't work; there were tears not mine and questions on where it was all headed I'd answered from the start (except for the one I once lived with, no tears on her end, though, an obviousness that went right by me at the time until I got wise that I had essentially been targeted so started checking out certain information/horror stories on people I had no idea existed). I also have a picture of myself on the wall; it's with someone else probably as cool as me, this was back when I was in top-shape. I'm looking rather grand with this girl I met in Spain who I should have probably married the minute she walked up to this table we were all sitting at which would have made me one of those guys who marries the first girl he meets overseas but she was no ho nor drunk; she gave me nothing which made her even cooler, really. She was a real nice gal and probably still is wherever she might be and I've looked even if she didn't have any panties on underneath her jeans and I saw "it" when the wind blew up her shirt, she was a bit embarrassed about it but genuinely so but as you might guess I was way ahead of her on that and the wind. A picture of yourself on the wall that you look at a lot that other people will also notice could be a sign.

[@Unbeatable]

If you need help and support to work through any issues you might have, there is no shame in that. I’ve listed some free and anonymous helplines here: www.vivianmcgrath.com/domestic-violence-resources/

[@vickimoran9449]

It just got worse n painful after 4yrs, i was recently told I am narcissistic n I wear a mask n blamed me for my dad's death he died of an agressive brain tumour in 6wks last year Nov, my mother can't stand this guy n thumped the wall when I mentioned his name new years day, n he blamed me of my daughter's suicide which happened Dec 2018..he turned on me with really bad messages, triangulation n that I'm a whore ..as I have a good reliable male friendship, he threaten me with video n taping me n being unstable mother ..that I need medication n gaol.... I'm Soo hurt....but I have blocked all contact off.

[@mauricepatrickoconnor5634]

The average length to a middle-aged heterosexual narcissist female?

[@jacquelinepeace8698]

🙏thank you

[@Unbeatable]

Thank you for watching

[@Joycelang2495]

Thank you so much I love you for this teaching 💝💝💝😘😘😘

[@Unbeatable]

@@Joycelang2495 Thank you for watching

[@annmouse1839]

love it! i asked why he seemed disinterested. he gave me the heave ho !!! i know what he is. it doesnt make it easy,.

[@jennybengtson1452]

♥️♥️♥️

[@neil7236]

Not all of them parade their new supply around on social media..

[@Unbeatable]

Neil 72 thanks for your thoughts on this and for watching.

[@ChrissyVelvet429]

Majority of them do!

[@alexanderwalle3568]

They use social media to keep you out of the loop, too; I knew mine was online but never contacted her but I'll bet she was hunting to Block me. She just did which is kind of a relief; I really don't want to know what's going on with her life. She didn't give a damn about mine; I ran my course paving the way for the next dummy (I wonder if he has any idea of what a lot of people on this page know or learned the hard way).

[@jondough679]

They keep their new supplies secret until they find a good enough target to make official.

[@alexanderwalle3568]

I try to keep secret how badly I got baked.

[@marcs6485]

So I think my wife of 10 years is a malignant narcissist or bad maybe co-morbid but she only has empathy for my 8 year old son and her little dog she doesn't seem to have empathy for my 16 year old stepdaughter who also displays a lot of the same personality traits. I want to stay in the marriage she is beautiful and 12 years younger than me plus I would get absolutely raped in divorce court let alone not living in the same home with my son I go through this cycle of abuse about 6 cycles per year I sometimes feel as if I am in the final discard. I have a lot of supply she will lose if she divorces me. Right now she has emotionally alienated herself from me she use to have a sex drive but last few months she started a new job and has not been interested in sex I think could be stress or hormonal she needs to get lab work she is 41 so could it be pre-menapause?

[@Unbeatable]

See my earlier response re resources to seek help and advice