The Narcissist's Hidden Depression (Narcissist Karma)

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Was the narcissist you knew on antidepressants or anti anxiety medications? Did they have insomnia?

[@narconaterx8146]

Yes he was prescribed anti depressants but never really took them. Since he is clinically diagnosed as bipolar depressant he would take his bipolar meds but only because he was trying to get a check from SSI but most of our 11 yr relationship he was a drug abuser and alcoholic

[@GoldCoastRep]

Straight up on both of them and would be a straight insomniac but not every day, she would need to catch up after a couple of days. Here is how narced this chick was, the 1st time i woke up to her walking around our room at like 2 in the morning, i asked what she was doing, she said she couldnt sleep becuase she wasthinking of me leaving her for someone younger, she 37, me 28

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

LaMicka Vines Thank you for sharing what must have been a difficult and painful experience, LaMicka 🙏🏽 I know your message is going to help others going through the same thing. I can relate as the narcissists I’ve known were very similar: prescription drugs, self medicating with alcohol and narcotics, insomnia - but nothing could still their inner torment.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

GoldCoastRep Wow 😳 Sorry you went through that 💐 I always think it’s surreal how some narcissists will tell us how they’re planning to betray us to our faces. It’s because in their minds they’re the only people that are real. Everyone else is two dimensional to them.

[@GoldCoastRep]

@@NarcissisticAbuseRehab they think we are idiots aswell

[@theunderscoreoflife762]

It always blows my mind when I hear that they have abandonment issues and yet they do everything they can to push people away. That’s sad. That must be horrible for them. Which is why they are total jerks to everyone they meet and they project their unhappiness onto others. Truly sad. Sad.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

It is. With awareness of this reality, we can hold compassion while prioritizing our recovery from the abuse. Best wishes, M ☀️

[@selfesteem3447]

@@NarcissisticAbuseRehab But they would be so totally disgusted, repulsed and infuriated by people holding compassion for them🤣

[@tauruswinds37]

Their demons will become your demons "of torment" if you do not get out and get away .... and keep staying away.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

No Contact is best, if possible.

[@teetrustyah1849]

You are so right I used to get attack at Night by sexual demons and could not understand what was going on until I separated from my ex-husband and the attacks stopped like instantly those are demons fallen angels and when you be intimate with them everything in them they put it in you that's where the soul tide come in at my ex-husband we got divorced I saw them around Christmas time and he wanted to sleep with me I told him no way I thought about all the people he have been with and if he been with them and I sleep with him they will become a part of me I said No Way🤗🤗🤗 I'm Free an going to stay that way

[@hectorcastro9768]

@@teetrustyah1849 you are a f lier

[@mreloo]

@@hectorcastro9768 says who...?

[@susanegan-leary8606]

Hector are you a narc too?

[@freeindeed5393]

So good! My ex narc must be reaping some bad things after what she did to me. I was so good and so kind and loving to her. She was treacherous and diabolically wicked to me at the discard stage. I went no contact and gray rock quickly but it was a hard process. I always try and treat people the way I want to be treated. I always think about what I might reap if I am wicked or evil and I don’t want to reap the bad harvest. She must be getting a perpetual bad harvest. I remember her telling me that nothing ever works out for her and that everybody leaves. No kidding!?!?! I never tried to get even with her but as Quinn says”karma never loses an address”. Thanks for this excellent teaching!!!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

You're welcome, Kevin! Trust be told, a relationship with a narcissist always ends up being a bad harvest. They're stuck on a loop of dysfunction. Their karma is constant and ongoing. As painful as the discard is, losing a narcissist is actually the best possible outcome x M.

[@afakkobyab5982]

Well don't loose your self respect and self love because of some 3 year old child --which is who they are no matter what you see outside, they are still 3 year olds inside, it makes them feel good when they make you sad or angry. Look up to the subject of gaslighting, that's what they do, they are expert manipulators to make you feel doubt from your own self.

[@telecastinater]

Ditto !

[@rnbsteenstar]

Squeeze!

[@kejhasmith7354]

You just told my exact story bro she was diabolically Wicked in such a covid way I hope that you are well on your healing Journey because definitely is traumatizing

[@christineh.6465]

YES! THE GAME IS FINALLY OVER! I AM FREE! AMEN!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Bravo 👏👏👏

[@porshalynn1733]

Me too. Amen!

[@unapologeticallyme9522]

Way to go girl!!!!!!

[@gerger5670]

Bless you!🙋🏻‍♀️

[@shayla3]

I'm finally free! Feels so good!❤

[@xrozip4050]

I am a narc and this is so true. I feel so depressiv all the time

[@stanbarr315]

Are you the narc? I've been on anti depressants for about 23 years. been through many marriages. I started researching top learn if I was a narc. No, more co-dependent. I hope you're getting therapy. what I did was watch every U-tube video I could find. I don't know you, just felt I should share. Don't give up. there are covert narcs, and those are harder to identify. so check it out, mayby you're not a narc, but just confused

[@albertoespinoza3626]

A list of things I noticed after my covert narcissists mask felt: Scars on her wrist Anxiety Depression Sleeping few hours per day, or sometimes sleeping all day Never apologized and always blamed the supply Self pithiness (ex: I’m trash, not worthy, toxic, ex’s were abusive, parents didn’t love her) You give it all and they give you nothing or little We had sex as soon as possible (excited for new toy) She wanted to change my personality (being always positive, happy, social, affective, always calm, confident) Always have the last word Fake happiness and excitement in front of people Aggressive Canceling plans last minute Knew about how to cope with depression but never tried to fix it to blame depression for her actions

[@maryannerazzano7692]

My BF has said that he never remembers being depressed. Honestly I believe he doesn't understand what depression or anxiety are - trouble giving names to the emotion. He always needs to keep busy and is uncomfortable with long periods of alone time. I'm still trying to figure out if he's a covert narc. Lots of signs- never says please or thank you, ghosted me on my bday but his bday is always a big deal..., never gives me a compliment, loves to be the center of attention, has lots of "acquaintances " but very few deep friendships. He also had a very traumatic childhood. Both parents alcoholic and chaotic environment.

[@moxyangel]

My narcissistic ex-bf didn’t hide his depression from me at all. He was incredibly open with me about his meth addiction, which he justified and told me was necessary, as he believed it was his “medicine” to combat crippling depression. Which is legitimately the saddest thing anyone has ever told me. And I stayed because I wanted to help him become independent from drugs. Instead, I started doing it too. My heart is healing. No one has saddened me more. I am free from both drugs and that relationship for good. I pray from afar that he gets help. All one can do.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you for bravely sharing your journey. Your clarity and boundaries about your ex-partner’s internal struggle is inspiring. Wishing you continued healing and good health 💐☀️

[@hunsbuns...]

The Narcissist that left me was too good for treatment. He would say he cured his anxiety and depression becoming a vegan and working out, dont need to see a therapist because I know what I have to do. Still doesn't have a heart! Im pretty sure I've been with a narcissist this whole time. He discarded me 3 weeks ago. After 18 years together this all makes sense, he used his sly skills to keep me there until he found a new supply. All these years didnt realise it was narcissistic behaviour, just thought thats how he is and it was normal. When he broke it off, it was the most lies I've ever heard. Its me its not you, im not happy, need to be alone find myself, we kept trying but didn't work (he never tried only when he wanted) we're different, i was showing signs. My god i saw every single sign. Absolute mixed signs and I didnt know that's a form of manipulation. Every other break up was arguing and yelling this one was too calm. He knew when to use me and discard me. I always apologised he never once did even for the smallest thing. Made me question my sanity? He has his chat with me and was done. Fast forward a few days im obviously a mess got completely blindsided! My gut was telling me no, it's that hes got someone new. My suspicions were correct! This whole time behind my back he was talking to someone and used me slowly until he was ready to have the 'chat' with me. I went over to confirm my suspicion and that POS after 18 years that I gave him my whole world and what my family gave him he just shat on it! He opened the door and he knew right then oh crap, I just got caught out, but I only knew because I saw her car in his driveway and he quickly tried to hide us from seeing each other. I asked him to be a man and step outside and give me the honest truth and all he could say is you need to leave, she clearly didn't have a clue he even had a gf this whole time because when I started screaming out hes a cheater a liar and everything under the sun the first thing he did was yell youre a psycho! Im glad i did because she wouldn't have had a clue, so if it happens to her one day, then I warned her! But I keep thinking he will change and treat her like a queen the way i shouldve been treated.A psycho because I've been hurt and betrayed and asking you the truth?! So he was making me out to be crazy and threatening to call the cops!!! The cops because he got busted with the lies and this girl didn't know anything coz he has fed her with lies! I knew there was more to it when he deleted his social media and he would never do that when I would ask him to because he was infatuated over the instagram models and then say to me no we like natural girls this is all fake, but then still be obsessed with them and that im just insecure! I am so disgusted that allowed my whole time, body and soul to this guy! I gave him my world my heart! He stomped on it all for his new supply?! He used me to better himself for the next person?! That is evil! This is a guy that lost his family and we took him under our wings living with my family gave him a whole new life and he simply shat on us all! The lies and manipulation he has caused me. He's made me feel worthless so disgusting I can't even look at myself while he's already happy out there with someone that I didnt get to see, to see why she is better than me? But I have to think, STOP, its not you. He lied his was with her like he did with you. POS! I've never felt this low in my life. My mental state, he has ruined! Belittled me and I took it all because I just thought i can help him hes depressed or I loved him?! Who does that to another person and wakes up living and breathing like you did not do anything wrong?! All these unanswered questions how did it happen? When did it happen? What does she have I dont? Who is she? Where did you meet? How did I not see anything? My mind is nuts! Im in so much pain from 1 person?! How could 1 person ruin your life and go about their day with the next person? Ao sick! Sick to think he did this for God knows how long and I was used. He mentally detached himself ages ago and I didnt see it? He manipulated me so much that I was the insecure one its all in my head! To only be with me this whole time acting up and down and she was there all along?! So sick! To call the cops? That is insane! It was all about his ego and to make me look pathetic in front of her! Goes to show no matter how long someone can be in your life can still shit on it and continue with theirs! I will definitely get a 'i didnt want to hurt you response' or protect you! Hell no! You did it to protect yourself and your new supply so she doesn't know the real you! POS i didnt see anything in his phone!! He obviously was deleting msgs. Im furious ! If only I dug more I could have ended this months ago because there is no way this had just happened the day after we broke up. He planned it. Especially due to being stuck in a pandemic and being on lockdown for 5 months not being able to see anyone he planned it. I dont know how I didnt see it! I can't get past this. Im constantly thinking how blinded I was to not see it! There were red flags (now I see them), but during the time he just kept reassuring me its in my head! I feel like such an idiot! I guess, he'll love her more than me, treat her better and change for her! Im so mad as I kept asking the last few months what are we? Im over getting treated differently everyday and he would just bypass the conversation or come up with something shitty and be like oh you this or you that and then I'd either cry and leave or I would apologise! If I threatened to leave im done I've had enough of this treatment he'd smirk and I'd leave not speak to him and he would get in touch with me in a week and be like hey, I dont wanna argue if were gonna argue ill be over it and he'll ignore me! How many times he would ignore me for a week or so while I would beg for him to just speak to me. Beg and cry to speak. Oh it was sickening. I fought and fought and im at the bottom. We had broken up for 2 years at one stage it took me a year to get on with my life and I thought ok we've both grown we know what we want now, well looks like I did and this whole time he was just using me until he found someone better. I feel so sick and disgusting and am afraid how will I get past this? Im scared if I dont. Im trying my hardest and its killing me. Not even the decency or respect to be honest and tell me he was never in it for full term. I close my eyes every night and i can't sleep I panic all over again. How did I not know or see anything? How did I get so fooled? I see the signs now, even with our dog that he supposedly loved so much, he stopped asking for her all makes sense now because he couldn't tell her why she wasn't there when she'd be around! I feel like a fool. An idiot. Disgusting, worthless every single thing you can feel. Cheating is bad enough, but forming an actual relationship with someone while you didn't end the other one is pure evil! And I saw nothing! I asked so many times i cant handle this what are we I cant keep going on like this and just knew how to manipulate me and keep me in until he was ready to let me go! Who does that? Just leave. Break up I dont deserve this. Trust me, this guy sleeps peacefully at night. No care in the world!

[@thendebele]

Your story is very relatable. I hope you’re doing much better now… I just started this path 🥺🥺🥺 Quite a journey it’s going to be…

[@mrhollandsopus418]

The narc I knew smoked a lot of joint. He also slept very little.

[@TheMwendaa]

Ooooooh my God!!! Mine too!! Lied that it was for pain issues He was always smoking a joint

[@komalkoul6486]

same ... he used to hide his addictions... but later openly and he usedto never get sleep... i used to wonder too

[@Smellslikenarcspirit]

The narc i know smokes joints , uses speed and cocaïne , well it also sums up his Friends.

[@tinacraft303]

They have many supply's , they wont hurt themselfs but they will destroy your life

[@moniquewilliams9351]

So true, Sooo true

[@jillianbrown8667]

@@moniquewilliams9351 myn has many souses but he seem to get over me?and move on?Good vidio.hmm

[@lool1575]

I broke up with a narc last week and he has depressive tendencies. The worst feeling for me now is the guilt and the sadness for him, knowing he has a low chance of getting out of his narcissism so he probably will never able to break free neither with depression (as his depressive state is linked to the lack of recognition from others, and to the fact he dos not reach the crazy high level of entitlement and power he wants for himself) so he will probably just feel miserable forever and never be truly happy in life... that is just so sad..

[@mscapri1628]

Pls don't be.... U are feeling this way bcoz of the empathy u have towards him... High level of empathy is also dangerous for us .... As it can be used against us.... U can't change a narc no matter how hard u try to.... Just go no contact and never look back....

[@albertoespinoza3626]

It’s true, my ex girlfriend has depression and anxiety and she would use that to make me feel sorry for her and support her even if she was always being mean to me. She left me because she likely already have another supply. I was always there when she failed to commit suicide and when she was lonely, feeling empty but she would still treat me like trash. She would always say she was trash and not worthy but I think the reason was that she wanted me to lift her self stem

[@kmcv8980]

Constantly gaslighting, devaluating, non respect or boundaries these people will get a harsh package of Karma. You can not get away with treating people like sh*T thinking nothing is going to come back around to you! They think they are special the blame everyone else for their problems but realistically it is their karma they are receiving for all the bad they have gave out and actually being aware and knowing what harm they are causing…. I used to think my ex actually didn’t know what she was doing until I started to spiritually awake and could finally “see” this is when I realised that she actually knew what she was doing and getting pleasure from it… How many times my boundaries where not respected then when you do decide to walk away this is when they try to hoover and guilt hoover you. It is hard and I am only 2 weeks into leaving the narcissist and recovering, however research and learning about narcissists/ narcissistic abuse reminds you that you’re not alone and helps to prove you where right about them and it wasn’t that you where going crazy or you are not a normal person as the narcissist tried to drill in for weeks, months and years. Stay strong everyone and keep up the self help/ self care and recovery from NAB ☮️🐉🌱 peace, quiet and normal life is just around the corner

[@machstem2536]

My covet was a complete flatline , just dead inside, after the love bomb

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

That must have been a terrible let down. I'm sorry you went through that x M.

[@freespirit9806]

I don’t feel sorry for these zombies. The false self is hostile

[@MonkeyDLuffy45068]

This is true, the narcissist that I have a relationship with has both depression & anxiety and is on medication and sees a psychiatrist. I walked away because of the screening and yelling for no reason. He started saying things attempting to devalue me, and I wouldn’t go for it, but told them I wouldn’t Leaving and getting away was refreshing but the narcissist continued to question me as if he didn’t know why. I feel sorry for him but he can be so cruel that my empathy didn’t hick in leaving me no choice except to leave. I know how he feels when I leave, because I left before and upon my return, he was bend over, couldn’t walk, couldn’t get out of bed, and I had to help him return partially to himself. I have to protect myself from this toxic person.

[@noelhoffmann6057]

Once you know...run.

[@iannacn4951]

It's as if no one gives them the attention they so desperately need. They're so depressed and tend to feed off of their targets negative reaction..

[@dawnia4291]

Excellent video! My ex narc admitted to being “hopeless in life” in the first few weeks of our relationship. That was confusing to me at the time, because I didn’t know that the love bombing stage he was showing me was 100% an act to get me hooked into the fake relationship.

[@cherylstokes636]

my husband's covert narc ex is/was on 5 different mood regulators for "extreme anxiety" (her words) -including adderal AND ativan - both very powerful drugs. this is no joke for these people - middle age gets to be almost unbearable - they live their Karma every day

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Cheryl Stokes Thank you for sharing this. I wish more survivors understood that they reap exactly what they sow. The anxiety they experience is often exactly as your husband’s ex described.

[@cherylstokes636]

@@NarcissisticAbuseRehab it took me 18 years to see Karma Come Calling with my own eyes, for her -- and my overt narc sibling had a psychotic break in 2018 at 44 and is lucky no one is dead - it was that serious -- these people don't get better -- middle age becomes a living hell -- all you can do is leave and not look back.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Cheryl Stokes I’m glad no one got hurt when your sibling experienced the psychotic break. Middle age seems to bring out the worst in them. They become even more underhanded, more vicious, and more desperate. No Contact 🚷 = Game Over 🎮

[@rozgomes5537]

Is this your new husband that his ex was a narcissist

[@Latinna072]

He self medicated with alcohol and drugs. I’m not sure who he really is underneath all the drugs and alcohol

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Latinna072 Thanks for sharing what sounds like a very difficult experience. Wishing you healing ☀️

[@chasnme13]

Same with mine. Alcohol, vicoden and steroids. Great mix 👎

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

@@chasnme13 Narcs on steroids is a video in its own right.

[@TheMwendaa]

One i the knew was into heavy drinking Another would be drink and regularly weed Eek

[@kaymuldoon3575]

My former friend has been taking antidepressants (Celexa, Prozac) and anti-anxiety (high dosage Xanax) for years. She sees a counselor regularly, sometimes attends support groups (she had to start doing that when she applied to go on disability). She is also an alcoholic. She goes through phases where she will often stay up until 3-4 am because she said she’s “afraid to wake up the next morning.” Because she usually wakes up every day in a bad place. Little does she realize that she is the cause of her depression.

[@jackgoodings]

I think it's heartbreaking, all of it

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

It is.

[@tball5677]

I will NEVER have compassion for a narc. They dont deserve it. They are evil

[@notperfect.forgiven6042]

In the very beginning of our relationship, my narcissist told me that she had to take antidepressants because of me. I was barely in her life at that point. I also noticed that she was always sick two weeks into our relationship, she ended up in the hospital with a heart condition. When she got out she said nothing was wrong. I believe she was faking it. After four long years, I was done and had to break away. I broke the engagement three times thank you for your Insight

[@kevinshinn2977]

She was on anti-anxiety meds for years and defended the anxiety as normal. "Everyone takes them, she said. What's the big deal? Why don't you believe me?" It didn't take long to turn the conversation back to me as the one who was self-centered and judgmental. Conversation was ended. We could never go any further.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

The classic "so what?" It's how narcissists minimize the things they do that are out of the ordinary. Usually, these things speak to their duality. It's difficult to tout themselves as superior when they have the same struggles as the people they look down on. I'm going to go deeper into this topic in 2020 with a very special guest. I think it's important for survivors to understand that if you're a narcissist its impossible to ride off into the sunset with all the toxic baggage in their minds.

[@kevinshinn2977]

Thank you for your affirmation.

[@carriedillmann4455]

I just found you . You are excellent ! Thank you

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you so much, Carrie! Glad to have you here x M.

[@nayanaramesh1252]

Your video was indeed, very helpful. Thank you.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I’m glad 💐 Best wishes x M

[@sparked3113]

So glad to hear they feel great pain......wonderful news.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Hurt people, hurt people. If they were not in pain they would not thrive on harming others.

[@MrsOctober-kc5de]

Ex narc abused weed, pills, alcohol. Could fall asleep instantly, but not for long. I think he was to proud to take antidepressants, even though he admitted to being depressed. Stated that he never dreamed. All of this is crazy😒

[@pamtaylor2165]

A very fresh perspective! Well done!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Glad you liked it! Thanks for watching x M

[@mummabearcuddles7956]

30 yrs together I stayd in hope like a prisoner that he would change.. nope.. I didn’t like who I became ... his inner soul bought up with narc parents I couldn’t fix .... yrs of trying. He went manic depression schizophrenia Antidepressants didn’t work as he thought he didn’t need them ... Lost control of his mind ... I didn’t supply his wants/needs. Putting myself first isn’t selfish it’s an act of survival.... not ownd or obligated to him ... so he Left earth 28/4/18... honoured his vows till death do us apart.. I couldn’t live with him. He couldn’t live without me .... the now coming out of the storm to see the rainbows ... regaining who I deserve to be ... duty of care as a mumma bear ... legacy to who we know we don’t want to be ... stay strong .. Beleive in urself .. peace to all. Kindness is free. Share the world 🥰✌🏻💌🥰🤗👍💕🌟🙌🧚‍♂️

[@cubbiesmith4505]

Peaceful and happiness all your day be of joyful cheerful moments.

[@janetnyabinge5028]

Discovered you recently. Great information

[@risingeagle6332]

Interesting! This video just proved how narcissist can be cunningly manipulative using therapy to maintain their deception.

[@anthonyjohnson5121]

I feel bad, I did some things not knowing how much it would hurt the Narcissist. I had no idea this would stay with them , and even bring up things from there childhood . had I known then what I know now I would not have done that to the narcissist . there life seems to be sad enough on it's own that I need not add to the pile of crazy .. I am sorry for it now . WOW so sad

[@Ace7of7Cups]

dude, many of us citizens of the earth have had bad things happen in our childhoods, but we dont treat people badly, especially our loved ones.

[@itchyscratch3829]

Self harm scars on her arms! Definitely not at peace with herself as a covert narc...

[@popmygate]

Yah this is a good channel! No stone unturned keep going, I’m having flashbacks lol

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

D Daley Thanks for your support 🙏 Flashbacks sometimes mean that the mind is connecting the dots 🧩

[@marionmjones3415]

Yes, she had depression, manic, insomnia and anxiety. She was on meds but the meds wasn't working.

[@annieb.]

Thank you, this was helpful.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

You're welcome, Annie.

[@mreloo]

yes ...my covert narsicist Jezebel wife went for help for depression ... meds....40 years with her...one year awake...im im still in shock that all i was ...was supply....she stays up all night....she will sleep for 24 hrs at a time ....our adult children have lost all hope for her....im still trying to leave...but am stuck...praying

[@garrysmith9856]

You the Strong one and Level headed one if you leave your kids need to be informed on they mother behaviour and that they can't feed into the madness never feel sorry for her she will play on there Life

[@sharonj3276]

mreloo 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@jimmycrackcorn2213]

Get out, you are not stuck or obligated to anyone. It's the hardest thing I've ever done, 17 years with a manipulating narcissist. Like you I am in shock. 3 weeks until my divorce is final.

[@TheMwendaa]

I pray you get out. For your own mental health

[@tylerallen8753]

mreloo Don't pray for her... she will damn you to save herself.

[@kiwidiesel5071]

I love how you refer to him at a couple instances when "she" is just as an apropriate term.

[@hectorcastro9768]

I know exactly what you mean

[@writer6595]

My ex was on antioxidants, viagra, booze, you name it. The worst relationship ever!

[@tonydeleon2810]

Looking good Kathy!

[@misskay2538]

Mine was addicted to sleeping pills

[@TheMwendaa]

Viagra 😲😲😲

[@somanyinsights1670]

Mine would use depression and saying they where suicidal to get me back after I left because I was exhausted and sick of being abused. To start off with I would go back out of compassion and empathy and pulled them out of it by basically giving them the attention they craved. The last time I went back though, i didn't get chance to recharge my batteries and couldn't give them what they wanted. They made life for me even harder and the anger and ghosting where ramped up. ....

[@caliluv14]

My narcissist committed suicide because he was scared of losing me because I had found out about his shitty past he was lying so much about basically his past caught up to him. Becareful with narcissist

[@risingeagle6332]

I have been with a narcissist for 32 years to my detriment. They do not seek help, except when external pressure becomes too much, legal impact or the psychological effects within overwhelms them; forcing them to seek help. The do not seek help in a cognizant healthy way where they are aware fully of their detrimental behavior patterns. They do not own their behavior at all, except when its going to benefit them in som kind of way.

[@htpm325]

My ex-girlfriend of 3 yrs suffered bad insomnia, in fact she always had it, it became more evident as the relationship drew on. She used to get mad at me for being the first to fall asleep all the time. In the last few weeks I don't think she averaged more than 2 or 3 hours sleep and also a few nights of zero sleep.

[@Ace7of7Cups]

mine would get upset if I would roll over after cuddling even though I explained to him I could stay asleep cuddled up. Then it took him a bit to understand why I didnt liked being woke up in the middle of the night for physical intimacy or 6 am on a Saturday. He on average self medicates with MJ. to fall asleep.

[@limitlessinfinite2284]

Found out my ex girlfriend suffers from anxiety and depression. So sad.

[@sassysliminsix]

I saw these behavior of my ex, but didn't link them to anxiety! Listening to you this make so much sense, especially the not sleeping part. My thinking at the time she was doing that to house stalk me.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

The picture becomes much clearer once we put the pieces of the puzzle together. The dysregulated moods and the insomnia are closer to the reality of narcissism than the fake image they present to the world. Some of them do house stalk us because the supply they get from us stills their inner turmoil.

[@georgeearst2507]

I love your voice, and your work. I've just discovered you today. I don't know how, but it was meant to be because it's a "done deal" looking forward to hearing more from you.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Wow, thank you!

[@kathybriggs8902]

My narcissist husband abuses alcohol. And he can't get any more than 3 hours sleep at night.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

The insomnia catches up with them, and can adversely effect their health. The substance use/abuse is fuel for the fire.

[@angel772921]

My mother now deceased was taking anti depressents and anri anxiety meds slugged down with whiskey and her mother did the same...my dominent older brother and golden child hardly drinks and don't know if he's on any medication as I am no contact for over 2 years now...but when I was around he seemed strong and very intelligent..but he never slept at night...and not in a bed but in an armchair...partially because he wanted to be close to our demanding NPD / BPD alcoholic mother and partially because his bedroom was a hoarding area and he had no access to the bed ..very sad but true.. I wish only the best for him and my borderline I believe alcoholic sister although they both rejected me..my sister in an overt way and my brother in a covert way....there is no happy ending there. . Xxx

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I think this is so interesting, Angel. It's important that survivors understand that narcissists don't ride off into the sunset after they abuse someone. That's a myth. There are real consequences for their behavior. It's very painful to be rejected by (a) sibling(s) but I do believe that in the fullness of time that a happy ending is possible. It requires that we work on ourselves and detox from the dysfunctional environment that shaped us. To get healthy, we have to discover and love our authentic self. Hugs to you x M.

[@angel772921]

@@NarcissisticAbuseRehab thank you M...I have done much inner work and I am a metaphysical minister and Reiki Master / Teacher...my truth and light was not accepted even though I never preached to any of them..my mere presence would dredge up the issues they need to face..my path needed to separate there with them as they are not ready...it may take them a couple of lifetime's to wake up but when and if they do I will be there...for the moment I need to honour their free will and honour myself. They have all broken my heart into devastating pieces but I am healing and much stronger becauae of it..its been a very long road as you will appreciate....I also believe we are the genetic pathcutters for the ancestral lineage...my role and soul contract has now been completed! ...much love to you..💖

[@robchocek]

Yes, my narc ex wife was on Ativan and Lexapro for anxiety and depression.

[@majorgirl3465]

Such a different take then most narc support. But it seems to be accurate as ever, and helpful to understand. I have been getting one to say what's really going on after a year

[@Michael-gj4ye]

Great video!!! Awesome information

[@margaretayambo1065]

My ex constantly complaining of not breathing well although he has no issues with lungs complications . He keeps on saying he is feeling depressed all the time and anxious. He discarded me with 5 kids and moved 5 hours flight. He refused to talk about his infidelity I found out behind my back and all the psychological, emotional abuses. I went through since I met him. They RIP what they Shaw any way. Thanks for sharing.

[@ChevyC-jo9pw]

My ex narcissist recommended that we do therapy she kept trying to tell me that I was a narcissist so we did therapy and come find out she was the narcissist and I had nothing wrong with me. While on the phone with the therapist she kept telling the therapist I was passing aggressive so therapist called her on it and asked her what it meant and when she gave her explanation he shut her down and gave her the true definition. She just doesn't want to take fault for what she has instead she'd rather go around ruining people, I was with her off and on for 12 years playing with the lies and the cheating or catching STDs it was just ridiculous I'm so glad that she left me so she can never come back and say that I was the one that broke up the family

[@TheNeskens]

Amazing, helpful and on the point video. I am very thankful for this revaluation. Great work on the topic that is critically important for us emphatic people.

[@donnahale1011]

This was very helpful. Now I c y my ex acted like he did..I'm just glad that I left n time b4 matters for WORSE!!!

[@sanciaanderson7950]

My narcissist would drink every night. And when he stoppped to detox he would sleep for days

[@letsreadtextbook1687]

Thank you so much for this informative vid! I had narcissistic parent and am on the road to cut off the vicious cycle

[@irenebuford8930]

My ex narcissist told me that he was on psych meds, however I thought at the time that he was joking, however over time he showed great signs of depression and I personally feel that I could tell the times that he was off of his medication...... I believe him now....

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you for sharing this. I think it lends important perspective to survivors about the reality of narcissism.

[@emipopescu3257]

This is so accurate 👍

[@gitanjalipritchard7270]

Nice video, thank you

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Glad you liked it!

[@prophecyrevelations5653]

Yes, she was on several anti anxiety meds, before I I discarded her she was proscribed prozack for her miserable life

[@stevebosley8642]

Digital gaslighting. Love it. Yes mine did this. Posting tons of her "happy" life with the 5th new supply. I didnt see it but friends were telling me. While doing these posts she's sending me texts of us together. So it was very validating to see how unhappy she was in truth. The more they post of their new flings the more miserable they are. Also she faked a diagnosis of MS. Admitted at end she didn't have it. Supply comes in all forms.

[@loveisreal1751]

And then with a female friend I stayed in a hotel with her over a weekend for a bible conference she had multiple medications and I found out she was a narcissist on that trip

[@allanbailey874]

He wasn't A DRINKER, AND AS FAR AS I KNEW, HE WASN'T ON MEDICATION. After I kicked him out, he got revenge by putting sugar in my gas tank, and then again slit my tire which could have caused a fatal accident. Later he smeared me, while cat fishing him. He thought he was talking to potential supply. He said it was a terrible relationship and that I was bipolar and manic depressive and wasn't taking my meds

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I'm sorry you went through that. The behavior you describe is dysfunctional, vindictive and controlling. Chances are the smear campaign he waged against you was really his autobiography.

[@erakkovaatainen148]

My ex narc was borderline, anxious and depressed. Insomnia. He had FULL cabinet of antidepressants and add medications, pain killers and sleeping pills. Another self-medication for him was alcohol 40% I paid for him. I am glad to be almost 9 months out. I even paid some of his medicine, one package of all needed easily €100 if not more. He spent his money on something else.

[@danovangrinnell4479]

She was a load of sh:!,,",-t Then the daughter started behaving the same No choice but to cut them off

[@joshforest4051]

Really? I'd like to see where the constant karma is when it comes to my Covert Narc mother. Or maybe karma has been hitting her for years at work which is why she is so brutal with me at home. I'm still coming to terms that the mom I thought I had never existed. She might as well already be dead.

[@Ace7of7Cups]

when she gets older and other people are taking care of her, I read stories about them.

[@marsha04053]

I saw my ex yesterday he look depressed and I try to talk to him he talk but he was like not rude but something was bothering him. And he didn't talk much because they were really busy at the time. All he said was. It was good to see you.

[@janedough2492]

Very helpful thank you

[@annan4091]

Yes! I also believe he was bipolar, but he denied it! Self medicated with drugs and alcohol. All comorbidities!

[@GS-st9ns]

If a narcissist does not change, if they are the same person with their new Supply as they were with the old Supply, if they do not seek counseling unless it's court ordered , how is it that they are on depression and anxiety medication. Who gave them that medication I'm seeing a disparity here that I don't understand that I'm not seeing anywhere else. I'm not sure if my ex is on depression or anxiety medication, but he swears before God that he's not that person anymore , yet I hear about the signs he still is. Where did the depression and anxiety medicine come from if they are not getting counseling.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Sugar Free This is the entire reason I made this video. Some narcissists seek counseling during a life crisis. They go in for depression or anxiety - and if the therapist isn’t trained to look for signs of NPD, it’s never addressed. For example, in Hollywood, where narcissism is encouraged, many people have therapists. For more perspective on this topic from some of the world’s leading psychologists on this topic, read this article www.psychologytoday.com/intl/articles/201609/meet-the-real-narcissists-theyre-not-what-you-think.

[@stevebosley8642]

Mine hid her depression well. I believe the contents of this video and the many comments. However, I was with mine for 2 years. Never saw her depressed. She was like the energizer bunny. Slept like a baby every night. Was up in the morning right away. Worked 60 hour weeks. Her mask took exactly 2 years to fall. It was horrific. Unbelievable that she was that good of an actor for so long.

[@pcky6646]

Yeah. We're "best friends" and, right before she discard me for me trying to end the relationship, she even talked about suicide. She talked often about anxiety and remedys

[@stevemartinez1377]

Yes the Covert Female Narc that I had the disgusting opportunity to know, was on some anti-anxiety meds , I went to pharmacy with her to get them. Also she knew someone she would get Xanax pills from, she took those all the time.

[@htpm325]

My ex-wife of 22yrs was taking anti depressants for the last 6 or 7 years that I knew about. This of course was my fault and as far as I can tell still my fault according to my adult kids.

[@nealleseberg2236]

How often do they drink themselves to death? That's what my sister needs to do. She seems to think she can beat alcohol by drinking red wine and vodka, but last time I saw her, she was showing signs of pseudo Cushing syndrome.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

neal leseberg It’s heartbreaking to watch someone you care for self-destruct. NPD often goes hand in hand with substance dependency. This can lead to tragedy.

[@mazklassa9338]

I am referring about myself (I'm aware that's narcissistic in itself to even start with "me"). Is it possible for a co-morbidity of body dysmorphia to exist along with covert narcissism? If yes, is that because their mental identification with a disorder such as body dysmorphia part of their self-imposed victimhood, to constitute the covert narcissism?

[@tomikoeaton9786]

And sometimes the narc drops dead

[@dianematlock7922]

They are the walking dead.. To live backwards, stuck in the past, is no way to live...they are like a toilet that doesn't flush...full of IT...they do the same thing day in day out...our blessing to them is to leave them alone...they infect us with their fears and believe, 'if I can destroy you, I've destroyed my fears'. They hide behind us, they wanna be karma... But they just keep gettin' what they ALWAYS GIVE...dying alone, angry, bitter, not able to run, feed their ego, It was their choice...get out of the way of their consequences...

[@lisarochwarg4707]

I knew one that had panic attacks. She also had IBD and had part of her intestines removed. Yes, they can have physical symptoms, sometimes severe.

[@JohnDoe-fz7hz]

Maybe they have times they realize what they do to others and when no supply is in reach, they lost attention and have no other chance than reflect on themself. Going to a psychotherapist is also some kind of supply. On the one hand compassion from others and on the other a perfect excuse to behave worst than ever before.

[@harperlewis1526]

yes, yes, yes. kept it all secret, charmed child psychiatry colleague to take her own as a patient. He is now retired, did not believe in covert narcissism, thus validating her denial of the issue, and played the victim.

[@Arivera41682]

I'm at the point that I'm over what's been done to me. And boy I can tell you some stories that today I still can tell without tearing up. But what most still hurts how she used our little girl to hurt me while at the same time hurting our little girl. But I still feel guilty about things that I didn't do. About apologies I did not being wrong. Just to keep peace. Sometimes I feel like I'm the narc and ask myself if I am because many of the descriptions of the behaviors I posses. But I would be played with soo much that I would behave like an asshole. And hating myself. But I wasn't like this before her

[@porshalynn1733]

You are the truth. Everything you mentioned has happened to me

[@Shevelle250]

Yes,I found anxiety meds before I left my ex malignant covert narcissist.

[@humanistology]

My Narc Ex was always the victim; she would rage and exhibit self pity then lash out as if it was my fault for how she felt leaving me to feel guilt for something I hadn’t even done or provoked. Her discard hurt me deeply but I feel so free now (3years later) despite 22 years of marriage. God is great and removes those that hurt you, don’t fight to get them back…remain strong❤️‍🩹 Good Luck!

[@georgeearst2507]

Great job! You're so good I post ponted cooking my lobster.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I'm glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching x M

[@emmaalvarez1617]

I have never seen a narcissist depressed. Is their depression, a lot stronger than that of a normal person?

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

This is such a great question. They usually go to great lengths to hide it behind grandiosity and/or criticism of others.

[@stevenbrown155]

Yes my wife is on antidepressants and anti-anxiety she takes Clonopin every day and she can’t sleep at night. She’s moved out six times she moved out last May and hooked up with the guy that looks like he’s homeless she had sex with him for five months then he moved and she wanted to come back to me. And she’s 57 years old and still cheats that I will never understand.

[@ARVINDJAISWAL10]

They are the last people to get depression and basically nothing in this world touches them.

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

I am getting better and better at walking away, no contact.

[@truefriend1128]

The ex narc never took accountability for anything she did I treated her and her kids so well look like nothing I ever did was enough so I went no contact for 2 months she hovered over and over I kind of felt for it went back for about a week but I didn't feel the same way about her I then realize how weak she was so she tried to discard me after the second time but I beat her to the jump now the smear campaign is real but I don't care what she says about me I know myself I hope she is finally gone but I will always hold a place in my heart for her kids.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Narcissists would literally rather die than be held accountable for their actions. Stay No Contact, continue to work on your growth and invest in building a life with authentic relationships x M.

[@holisticenergymedicineappr7898]

Hi. My narc mom, yes, yet she was a covert one... I say was because I am no contact... My sister alcohol, my ex alcohol... Interesting is how somewhat they compliment one another, while I was always about to vomit around them... 🏃‍♀️🚮

[@racs1393]

Yes, it is true the narcissistic person was consuming antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs, she used them like almost all their life, but when she start the relationship with me the next year she start to go to a psicologyst that he take off the drugs.it was a strange process.

[@tinacraft303]

30 Years , never a Confersation

[@aldobottle937]

This sounds a lot like my mom she was on 12 medication smokeed cigarettes, drank alcohol, was always unhappy,threatened to kill herself for years until she finally did, used shame and blame. Hid her illness from my dad until he found out after they were married. alienated all her friends with her negativity. Couldn't sleep at night.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you for sharing what you saw your mother go through. I know it must have been very difficult for you to witness as a child and I hope you're healing now. Please keep reflecting and sharing your story as it will help foster greater understanding of dysfunctional narcissism as a post-traumatic stress adaptation ☀

[@nitaBist]

Mine is taking anxiety pills and had suicidal thoughts.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Many of them are unable to cope with the burden of their many narcissistic injuries. Glad to hear they have reached out for help x M