Top 10 Traits of a Covert Narcissist Female 🚺 (CovertNarcissism)

#CovertNarcissisticFemale #Traits #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder
'10 TRAITS OF A COVERT NARCISSIST FEMALE' discusses how Narcissistic Personality Disorder manifests in women who are covert narcissists. Covert Narcissism (also known as Vulnerable Narcissism or Introverted Narcissism) is notoriously hard to spot. We begin with a look at the traits specified in the DSM-V, a real-world example (the story of Jen and Sarah Hart and their children), and break down 10 of the Traits you're likely to spot in a Covert Narcissist Female.
This video identifies the manipulation tactics used in intimate partner violence within the context of a toxic relationship. If you are a male survivor of narcissistic abuse, a survivor in a same sex relationship with a highly narcissistic woman or the relative/friend of a female narcissist this video is for you.
🏋️ COACHING PACKAGES 🏋️
👉 Purchase a one-on-one coaching package at www.narcissisticabuserehab.co...
📩 Send inquiries to: [e-mail]
Trigger Warning: This video contains information about psychological violence, physical violence, and su*c*de. This may be triggering for some survivors.
Our soundtrack 'Lightness' is by Nomyn kzbin.info/door/f1r...
RESOURCES
🔗 DSM-IV and DSM-5 Criteria for the Personality Disorders - bit.ly/2ThZNJW
🔗 Levy, Kenneth N. "Subtypes, dimensions, levels, and mental states in narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder." Journal of clinical psychology 68, no. 8 (2012): 886-897 -bit.ly/2T95mtS
🔗 Wink, Paul. "Three types of narcissism in women from college to mid‐life." Journal of Personality 60, no. 1 (1992): 7-30. - bit.ly/2ZDUS8q
🔗 Telling Lies: How a Decade of Deception Led to the Hart Family’s Tragic End on the Mendocino Coast - bit.ly/2OSMTmO
🔗 Broken Harts, Episode 7: 'Stone-Cold Narcissist' - bit.ly/2KvUm63
🔗 Two White Moms, Six Black Kids, and One Unthinkable Tragedy - bit.ly/2wMFwBW
🔗 'Broken Hearts' Podcast - apple.co/31fY6zo
🔗 7 Signs of a Covert Introvert Narcissist - bit.ly/2IpUvW9
🔗 'How to Spot Covert Abusers' by Dr.Craig Malkin - • How to Spot Covert Abu...
🔗 'Covert Narcissism and Your Kids' by Dad Surviving Divorce - • Covert Narcissism and ...
🔗 'Grandiose vs. Vulnerable Narcissism' by Dr. Todd Grande - • Grandiose & Vulnerable...
__________
SUBSCRIBE TO THE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE REHAB PODCAST:
APPLE: apple.co/33z79N1
SPOTIFY: spoti.fi/2VLoGyT
BREAKER: bit.ly/2MjVrjq
POCKET: pca.st/v5nsy99s
RADIO PUBLIC: bit.ly/2IXSCT9
__________
FOLLOW NARCISSISTIC ABUSE REHAB:
TWITTER: / narcabuserehab
MEDIUM: bit.ly/2P3QWeT
WORDPRESS: bit.ly/2nQNCs6
REDDIT: bit.ly/33y6xHe
PINTEREST: bit.ly/2IWT58i
__________
⚠️ Disclaimer ⚠️
The content of this video expresses the content creator's own thoughts and opinions and is provided for general information only. It is not intended to and is not meant to be advice which you should rely on. Please get the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action based on the information in this video. If you have medical questions, please consult your doctor or other professional healthcare providers without delay.
⚠️ Copyright Disclaimer ⚠️
Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use.
#covertnarcissism #toxicrelationships #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #NPD

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Did we miss any of the Covert Narcissist Females traits? 📘 Download your FREE copy of our printable workbook 'ARE YOU IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?' It’s an assessment and self-reflection tool for male and female survivors 🚹+🚺 tinyurl.com/t29tddn

[@jackgoodings]

Gossip.. oh boy, and like you said, so negative .. 24/7 .. it sucks the positive out of you. And they set you up to fail, either through suggestion of you/your ideas/choices not being good or moral .. or by literally doing something to sabotage e.g. try to get you yo have one too many drinks and call the police anonymously yo get you arrested for drink driving .. and you would never suspect it in a million years. And they talk about how this person is deceiving that person, or try and make you jealous in the most subtle ways, or talk about how good someone's idea was when were doing it ourselves as a couple anyway, and they bring up the topic of suicide .. like how they thought about it, or they'll pretend to do it, or talk about how this person did it after his wife left him, or ask if I'd ever do it, or stories of bad things people did .. All extremely negative. And mine was introduced to me as an angel .. oh right!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Jack Goodings I agree. They genuinely don’t want to see you happy or successful. Their Schadenfreude kicks in when they see us suffer. If things go well for us the deliberate sabotage us just to see us in pain because they feed off of it. By the time we discover what they’ve been doing they’ve usually done irreparable damage. We end up having to cut our loses as we grapple with the fact that someone so close to us was out to destroy us. Gossip is one of their favorite tools of their trade. They verbally rip people to shreds and, if you pay close attention, this is where you’ll see how disturbingly observant they are.

[@flowersofthefield340]

Skillfull manipulation and subtly dropping of suggestions against a person's good name

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Edel Marie so true 🎯 Character assassination couched as “concern.”

[@Mike-xt2lh]

@@flowersofthefield340 So true I've had this happen to me all thanks to a covert narc female and a sociopath dad .

[@adamf34]

I feel dumb for not recognizing these red flags earlier in our relationship. When you think you've found the perfect woman it's so easy to ignore the negative things and only focus on the good things.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Loving someone is never a waste. Even we are let down, we have an opportunity to grow wiser. Wishing you health and healing, M.

[@jayjordano]

Bro the perfect woman doesnt exist I'm 45 and have wasted years on women. My advice be the best version of you possible period. This is my experience. God bless

[@ComedianWillRodriguez]

The crazy thing is TRYING to explain yourself to other people. Only people that have been through narcissistic abuse understand what we have been through.

[@garn79]

Adam, we make excuses & set aside our own needs because we hope for growth from our partners. I did. I consider myself a fairly intelligent person. I knew something was wrong but it didn’t matter what i did(you neither no doubt) nothing worked. It happens slowly over time. Don’t feel stupid man. Just try to look at it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself & possibly “codependent relationships”? It took me almost 7yrs to figure it out & only did because I “documented” which eventually led me to BPD, which involves a lot of narcissistic traits. I don’t feel dumb or stupid, only that I made too many rationalizations & excuses when the red flags presented themselves but hey, I’ve never been in a relationship with someone like this before & never knew the signs. 1st time for everything I guess.

[@MegaRockstar48]

I’m the same mate. I wondered why a woman who was so beautiful, sexy, successful and creative was still single at age 44. That should of been a big enough red flag but I ignored it

[@pippipster6767]

‘A master at hiding true nature.’ Spot on.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you, Pip x M.

[@Happyfeelinpeace]

So, if they say "I'm kidding" over and over again, and you don't know when they're being serious, if they're being serious, then they have mastered playing with your mind?

[@mangalpal8921]

Wolf in sheep clothes

[@michaelluckey7240]

Wow, you've just described my 18 year marriage to a CNF, one trait right after the other hit a bullseye. Right now we are separated and in the process of divorce and I am fighting to save my 8 and 10 year old from having to live with this any more. My biggest fear is that no one can see her for who she really is behind closed doors. Wish me luck, please.

[@dennish3962]

15 years for me and going through divorce now as well. My best advice is to NEVER defend yourself and let her sink herself by talking. These demons will ALWAYS crack the mask when under stress and if you take away her fuel she will implode. The fuel, if you are grey rock or no contact is HURT. She wants to hurt you and if you don't play along the facade will fade away and she will show her true self. At least that has been my experience. Best to you and yours!

[@LyleShady]

You are looking for someone to sustain you . You are the narcissist. get help.

[@dennish3962]

@@LyleShady He's an abuse survivor looking for support. Someone here needs help, not sure who.

[@namupolo1100]

Hope all is well 💜💜💜

[@realdealprimer]

Same boat brother. Update? She broke my phone camera so i couldnt video. But i got an audio app, im doing play by play as shes assulting me. Have her admitting to deleting stuff on my phone of her assults. Keeping me away from my loved ones. The truth will set you free they say.... we will see

[@etho98]

Thank you for this. As a male in a marriage with a covert, I finally feel heard and validated. I'm beginning to see the light.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Sorry to hear you are going through this. Unless someone has lived through this kind of abuse, they don't understand the suffering it causes.

[@priestlyscribe]

Yes etho98 it's been REALLY hard for us male targets of covert narcs to find any true validation. This channel makes up for some of that lack! Really thankful to have found this.

[@kimballwhite3622]

Going through the same thing brother. Hang in there.

[@Ayixlia]

@Timothy Allen he is still "Happily" married to her.

[@emilkadd]

Been there! Stay strong and get out as soon as possible before you lose your mental health.

[@alphatango66]

“ street angel, house devil...” Absolutely perfect description. I completely empathize with anyone who’s ever encountered evil to this degree. The one I was with for 4 years did EVERYTHING you described. Keep getting this message out, you are doing a good deed by helping others recognize this nightmare.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you, Alpha! I'm sorry you went through such a painful experience. Wishing you a full recovery x M

[@alphatango66]

Thank you. I’m in a much better place now on every level.

[@martespennanti6931]

Woah I'm so sorry for you 😥😢

[@joesugden4086]

U got lucky mine played me for 23 years I just hope she gets help.

[@tinkerer67]

@@joesugden4086 This is the fault in empaths: wishing to fix sociopaths.

[@julianstier3821]

The worst part for me ( dispite the ice cold final discard) was seeing her slip through my fingers slowly but surely. Everything that once was soo perfect wasn’t good enough anymore, constant criticism put me down and her getting more and more shady about her activities (were she disappeared for hours). I loved her so much, I had the dream in my head and it got destroyed. She jumped ship as soon as I was gone, hitting the final nail in my heart. I’ll will never be able to love again this deeply but I won’t get hurt this deeply either again.... I never wish someone to experience this kind of Horror inside your Soul. Eben my worst enemy. This will change your entire way you see people, live and love. To everyone out there, who goes through the same torment: I feel you and I understand you, and I’m soo sorry you have to go through this....

[@emilkadd]

I know exactly what you went true! Important thing to know that we can rebuild ourselves... takes allot of time and work but its possible. Lessons, important to lern from this expirience and grow to a better person from it. I am not what i was before i got entangled with my covert narc.... i am stronger, smarter and more self aware... I am better than what i was... and no one ever will be able to put me on my knees again! Stay strong brother... what is gone always better than what is coming! Stay drotng

[@stephenherrington3549]

That hit deep. And I kinda now what you mean.

[@danielwinter4803]

So beautifully written. Hope you're doing ok now mate.

[@fnwarind]

@@tommyd8418 this hit me harder than i thought it would.

[@undercoveragent9889]

@@tommyd8418 Well, all I would say is, to try and make sense of it is like trying to reason with the shark that has you in its mouth. You are trying to explain that for which there is no explanation beyond some profound 'hunger' but if you look at it in the same way as you would an alligator attack, you will understand that some sharks wear cute dresses and have nice smiles... and very sharp teeth. Right? Just don't be their food. And don't let the fact that they find food elsewhere make you resentful of fact that they are not chowing down on you. And remember, they in fact have a lot more in common with sharks than they have in common with you. :)

[@kevinvandenoetelaar5880]

Damn, narsicist are really rotten to their very core

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Kevin van den Oetelaar pretty much 🎯

[@freeindeed5393]

Yep! Lol!!

[@Igi1983]

Dat kun je wel zeggen ja ! Walgelijke mensen

[@katherineprongos3929]

For over 20 years, a very close friend, for a time my "best friend," was never challenged by me, even quietly--I never complained to her, about her. The first time I did, she flew into a rage like a Walt Disney villain and became verbally abusive. She habitually maintained this saintly facade and actually told me, "You know me, I'm benign." Her rage when she decided to put me in my place a number of times was almost orgasmic. My mother, no surprise, was a mistress of the silent treatment or withering demeaning criticism, so I was pre-conditioned to accept so much of this as "normal."

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

To survive narcissistic abuse we often find ourselves confronting our original abuser in childhood. If we take the challenge and work on healing our wounds, we end of living our best lives x M

[@joincoffee9383]

These people are ugly aren’t they. They are disgusting.

[@rockstarkiller2009]

Bro... Same here. Like magnets for wanton women to play with and discard.

[@NopeNotTodaySatan]

Ugh… horrible individuals they are 😏

[@Sigmarules77]

It takes a very long time to spot a covert narcissist ,coz the mirroring and false soulmate thing is so real in the initial stage that it really takes a while for u to figure out that it's a female covert narc...

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

You're right, they are tricksters and hard to spot x M

[@ferraripure9970]

The red flags are there you gotta follow your instincts and intuition!! My last narcissist was a sqirter 🤦‍♂️ that's what made it so hard to see but the signs were all there

[@mreloo]

Yes 40 f in years for me...with my covert narcissist wife awake for just over a year...lots of damage has been done spiritually & physically...praying for a way out financially...still with her...feel stuck, and dying..say prayer...thank you

[@AftabAhmed-ib9ex]

​@@mreloo its happend to me but i was not invested in her, i dont have strong feelings for her and i moved on after 2 weeks of breakup and she is schocked , but in 4 years i used her and treat her like shit and she gave me everything but as i start to care her she cheated on me lol because she saw i m falling for her but she pullback too quickly lol she made mistake , she wanted me validation and as she got she start to showing real face but after breakup i just moved on and blocked her on everything but she is stalking me with fake ids.

[@BabyHannah05]

It took me 15 years to find out that my best friend is a covert narcissist, thinking back there were so many red flags that I didn’t notice at all. So sad that I invested so much of my time with that person...

[@vernitico]

My mother is a covert narcissist. I noticed there was something very wrong with her from an early age and therefore I got the role of the scapegoat. Everyone sees her as this amazing person, a force of good, so when I tell people about her true nature most people don't believe me. It's infuriating to say the least. I suffer from severe complex ptsd because of her.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I’m very sorry to hear of the pain and suffering you’ve experienced, Vernitico. It’s especially difficult for children of covert narcissists who are invalidated when they try to tell people what they’ve lived. I did a series on ‘The Family Scapegoat’ with licensed psychotherapist and family systems expert RC Mandeville. Episode IV is about ‘Healing + PTSD.’ You can watch it here: m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/qHalqqGeqtGbZs0

[@JewelRaw]

I am so sorry you had to endure such abuse . Especially, from the one person that should have unconditional love for. I too, was made the families scapegoat and I don't know how to overcome this. My own sister has tried to break me down till I'm in the gutter so she can control my mom's inheritance. Truthfully, she too has discarded, devalued, beat, abandoned four times when I was three. I need clarity and to forgive. Pray for me , please.

[@Annalenalovemusic]

❤its like Reading my story.its byen a struggle.😢

[@teachersusanute199]

I know four female covert narcs. They are married to such nice sweet men ... mind boggling

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Teacher Susan They target kind people and exploit them.

[@teachersusanute199]

Narcissistic Abuse Rehab yes, they are really evil behind their sweet mask

[@MrMakingwavesmedia]

You describing my daughters step dad so well. He has no idea what he is married to.

[@jayhive4884]

I know an entire family of them! All of my aunts show so many signs of covert narci, I mean all the descriptions and the confusions and the symptoms every victim has gone through can be summed up in one diagnosis--we were raised by narcs and the entire family system (mom's side) are narcs! My mom is one of them. All of their husbands were kinder humbler men who just "follow". And my dad rants about how he hates my mom every friggin day of his life. She provokes everything. It's the infamous Jezebel-Ahab love story repeated over and over again and is common plot to a narci love story.

[@lifeisgood070]

@@teachersusanute199 how do you know, as a man i'm lost on this

[@aaroniousone]

Great video. Very accurate. Zero empathy whatsoever and the emotional maturity of a toddler. Once you take their mask off, they run to the new supply like cowards and rewrite the script to make themselves feel okay with what they did to you.

[@allieeverett9017]

Emotional maturity of a toddler...truer words were never spoken 😑

[@stephenbond7188]

Describes it spot-on

[@rhawk1024]

Spot on description of the personal hell I've lived with zero support.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Richard Hawkins I’m very sorry to hear you went through hell and high water without support. It’s not something you’d wish on anyone. I hope you’re healing now 💐

[@MrMakingwavesmedia]

Same here and this is what is so dangerous about modern feminism it gives them another mask to hide behind.

[@jayhive4884]

35 years. I pray to God one day I won't have to deal with "relatives." I want out, complete total freedom from them.

[@1adadada]

@@MrMakingwavesmedia Some one needs to read steinbeck ( east of Eden)

[@antoinette8519]

@@MrMakingwavesmedia -Thanks so much for bringing up the topic of modern feminism. I have known covert narc females who have made servants out of their kind, caring, loving, generous husbands while hiding behind the mask of feminism.

[@teachersusanute199]

The smear campaigns, gossip, talking bad about pple... she is terrible, evil, false.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Such a good point! They love gossiping but when they target someone it escalates to character assassination.

[@karatekid6977]

Yup Evil to the core

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Dawn Green Bingo 🎯

[@teachmetofish8710]

These people are everywhere. If you know she's a narc get rid of her asap. I married one and my financial recovery I call the 10 dark years. Life is short. Enjoy it by living narc free.

[@daringgreatly8473]

I’m always suspicious of the Instagram pages dedicated to families who adopt kids etc. I want to adopt and I’d never exploit my kids in that way. It seems dangerous and lacking personal boundaries because the kids have no say on what is shared about THEIR life.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I agree. I enjoy seeing spontaneous photos of people with their kids but so often children are objectified and used as props on social media by exploitative parents who are faking lives that are different from their reality.

[@fordgt402]

@@NarcissisticAbuseRehab they need to ask permission of the kids before posting on fake facebook n fake instagram

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

fordgt402 they should but they don’t respect anyone’s boundaries.

[@travistobbe7821]

Memories become increasingly difficult to access over time, on top of being tied to whatever an individual was focusing on at any particular moment. It can be a really big deal to have many photos that record (shared) experiences, particularly for foster kids and other children that move a lot during formative years, like military brats...

[@travistobbe7821]

Of course, might just remember how much they hate posing for evil jerk...

[@Markus-gf7su]

What a great channel you have! You're gonna grow fast. My ex wife is a 100% covert narcissist. This video describes them very well. The destruction they create is just unbelievable. What an eye opener to go through it, I never knew people like this existed before.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you so much for your support 🙏 I’m sorry you were taken in by a Narcissist. There is nothing like it and people who’ve never experienced it can’t understand. It’s not like a normal relationship in anyway. I’m so happy you got out 💪💐

[@richposports7030]

Faaaascinating!!!! Tough being in that situ. Advice? Check out these videos!!!! Refreshing...unveiling...incisive. Theeeeey exist!!!!!

[@karatekid6977]

Verified

[@andybranz214]

Glad you made it through. Demons are everywhere.

[@watersidep]

When they know you know.....boy !.... you witness the raw maligancy come out.."the false persona" they create an illusion for you to buy into, one of the best descriptions I've heard describe a narc is: "People are Transactions"

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Even their relationships with children, parents and grandparents are transactional. Nothing is sacred to them.

[@nobodiesfavorite1168]

Yep, basically "people are a resource".

[@juanantoniosuarez3532]

I watch videos to help me heal but instead always feel like crap afterwards😐

[@ben5966]

Same

[@stevenobrien7686]

the thing about it, is that she usually has so much power over social circles. she can divide you from your previous friends after it's over so effectively.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Narcissists are social butterflies 🦋 They're experts at manipulating people's cognitive biases. Most survivors lose up to 70% of their social circle when they leave these relationships.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

DezHuncho Well done 👊☀️

[@jayhive4884]

Can seriously do so like evil and her being the victim and the star instead of being the crazy one. Great thing I took Psychology in college. She seems to know how to just hinder me from living my true destiny--I've always been an artsy child--but she kept hindering me from taking anything that will develop those talents. Instead I ended up taking up Psych (Oops, she shouldn't have) and it gave me an edge coz I am an educated victim now.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Jay Penzi An educated survivor is an empowered survivor. My hope for you is that you can move forward in your purpose in 2020 and live free from narcissistic abuse. Happy holidays 🎄

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Yep they are obsessed with having networks and somehow indeed seem to maintain those circles. I always wondered why others don't feel the dominance or feel uncomfortable in their presence or maybe in my case she is only mean to me bc I'm family and she's nice to others. I don't know. I feel like betraying my family if I say they are narcissists 😢 But I should consider the hurt they caused me through their verbal attacks, hidden but tangible demeaning behavior. My sister would recall memories and make me look selfish for eating cake with my friend which she had baked. She joked about it while we were having dinner with my sister in law, my mother and an aunt so I was unable to respond or defend bc I felt I would be the one showing an issue. My sister knew this I think she did it on purpose bc I could not react. I shut down and cried in the toilet. This can't be my imagination. I felt hurt. She was seeking confrontation to get my attention.

[@stephendagg9153]

A very good video. I was with a covert narcissist for over 16, we had 2 kids and we split nearly 4 years ago. I was in pieces, I thought the breakup was all my fault. Videos like this helped me to understand what had really been going on over the years. I'm busy writing a comprehensive account of my marriage and divorce which will help other people going through similar experiences. It's called "Struggling through life when you're scared of your wife".

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you. I'm so glad to hear you go out. Narcissists are experts at shifting blame for what they do on to others. It's easy for them to do because they don't have much of a conscience. The recipient of their abuse is relentlessly gaslit and manipulated into carrying the blame for the narcissist's attitude and behavior. It was never our's not carry.

[@dennissaiki387]

Damn to know i wasnt this only person going crazy puts me at ease a little after 27 years she did some damage... But feeling a whole lot better now that im in abetrer place i need ti get my 2 kids away from her.. im dealing with financials and the shit she pulled... I want to put her under the jail...smfh...

[@Walk_on_Part_In_a_War]

11:13 "She's not just good, she's better". Always better, always distant, but making you feel like the distance is your problem.

[@theentiresovietunion6235]

Wow I’ve watched a lot of videos and read comments. This one hit home so hard. Feels

[@donyates701]

I agree, she doesn’t like to kiss or any touchy....sex has stopped and it’s all just her manipulating me into staying around until she finds someone else....

[@nicayah3266]

Narcissism has a spiritual component which I recommend to study.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Nicole Hemrich all helpful + well intentioned recommendations are always welcome ☀️

[@davidom6792]

Word

[@mandykins8678]

Nicole Hemrich can you recommend material to study or keywords to find it? I am interested

[@s.9806]

Can you point us out where to start? Ty

[@nicayah3266]

@@s.9806 I recommend to read the Bible and to study especially the characteristics of Lucifer...hence they all act kind the same I came to the conclusion that they have the same spiritual source. Search for Jezebel spirit...

[@jerrymyers7178]

Spot on, was married to one for over a decade. I have a daughter that's one, elementary school teacher. Fake, fake, fake religious personas too.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I'm glad you got out, Jerry. The longer we stay the more they drain us of our life force until there is nothing left. I'm sorry to hear your daughter is a narcissist as well. Sadly this is common. Some children become a copy/paste of their narcissistic parent. And yes they fake emotions, ideologies and anything else that advances their agenda, too.

[@matthewweng8483]

Mine too (the religion thing) - mine fancies herself some kind of "guru". Technically a Covert Fanatical Narcissist. My love and empathy for surviving that long. You are clearly resilient and have inner strength.

[@justme7255]

The religion thing is super creepy to me. They do stuff like bible study as part of the charade and really do not take anything in. For whatever reason it seems like they can not find the answers needed in private so they do community worship but I don't think the lessons sink in....

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Just Me They covert the respect that genuinely pious people command so they add fake piety to the false persona. It’s always about surface never content. They parrot the words and go through the motions with Oscar worthy fervor. But none of it is real. It’s another one of their scams.

[@jerrymyers7178]

@@justme7255 Hell, everything about them is creepy (once your awake and aware). The religious is soooo fake, just a mask for their persona (fake front). Church is a good hunting ground too, a lot of supply to be had, right!

[@natesmith8362]

I lived this for 6.5 years. Every step is true, I looked for escape through alcohol and some drug use. I never wanted to be ripped apart from my family or children. This really hit home. I sometimes still feel like I need her. If I’m being logical, i am glad im away from the devil.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I'm glad you got away too, Nate 💐 It's actually common for survivors of exposure to pathological narcissism to self-medicate in order to cope with the abuse they've suffered. At the root of escapism and/or addiction is trauma. One thing that may be helpful as you self-heal is writing down a list of all the things your abuser did to you. When you feel the tug of the trauma bond, take out the list and re-read it so that your mind stays clear and you can keep moving forward into recovery 💛🖤

[@stephenbond7188]

Oh my goodness! Again, so many similarities your situation is with mine apart from it was 17 years for me. What gets me is a close friend of mine has been calling her a narcissist for years. I always dismissed his opinion, as being an overzealous friend, but he was spot-on the whole time.

[@arniep740]

What an eye-opener! I am now seeing her for what she is. We were married 20 years, most of them unhappy. Now divorced 1 year and only now coming understand what I was living with. She has so many of the traits you describe and you hit the nail on the head with your description that she will, and in my case did, discard me in a brutal and vicious way. Thank you!

[@chrisharding8124]

spot on description. An easily referable guide for someone in question. Much appreciated! Have a great day!

[@waukivory2756]

This is so incredibly accurate with my situation - thank you so much for the clarity. God Bless

[@Myrtthyn]

I first listened to your message yesterday and since then gone through it again and again. I’ve been doing research on covert female narcs since I realised my ex was one and I must say you have hit the nail on the head with this video. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and allowing us all to benefit and start our journeys of recovery.

[@justme7255]

Mine was a friend (no romantic relationship here) that ghosted me after 20+ years. Before that I saw the competition, every conversation was an in-depth monologue of her problems, the fact that she felt entitled to have what I worked really hard to gain. She had serious control issues, often times did not finish endeavors she began, and in the end tried to sabotage an important project of mine and enlisted a flying monkey to manipulate to make it happen. The monkey messed up and she ended up paying me over 7K for damages. Blocked her in July. Happy now -

[@karthikeyanamaresan9871]

Now i know why it happened what happened to me. This feels like a Revelation! Adoring the false persona -> Confused by the person -> Sad over the person -> Healing -> Pitying them for the curse they are living.

[@3muchhswag]

Same! 💯

[@Mrs_Selfmade93]

Holy hell this is SPOT ON 💯💯💯 I never even knew this was a specific narcissism but it's perfect & so real.

[@chrishachet8622]

My birth mother is a closet Narcissist....my adoptive mother is not. have broken ties with my birth mother. Getting away from her as an infant was probably the best thing to ever happen to me.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

If your birthday parent is a narcissist and you were able to escape as an infant, indeed that may be the best thing that ever happened to you x M.

[@joincoffee9383]

I wish my psychopathic narcissistic borderline mom had given me away...

[@ginadean5696]

@@joincoffee9383 I could say the same thing about my mother. I did go no contact decades ago and did therapy to help heal myself. No regrets for doing this.

[@ANTHONYPAOLICELLI]

EXACTLY! Using their children is the ultimate low!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

ANTHONYPAOLICELLI It certainly is!

[@pastelfrisk2920]

Yes sickening

[@conqururfear]

How they do that?

[@ANTHONYPAOLICELLI]

@@conqururfear By showing you a well groomed, well behaved child to appear as the perfect parent & naturally the child gravitates towards you because you have real parental love & attention to give. But they are just pawns, part of the ploy, and as they grow will become their parents spies/flying monkeys & perhaps a carbon copy of them or worse! YIKES!

[@conqururfear]

@@ANTHONYPAOLICELLI in 2,@@ANTHONYPAOLICELLI

[@danab398]

So spot on! Thank you for the video ❤️

[@gymmuc]

Thank you so much for having this channel land these videos. They'll help me a lot to put things into the right perspective. I am a son of a covert narcissist mother - and that was hell. As a child, you are dependent and can't run away. Also, you are defenseless. Shields develop later and oftentimes they are flawed. Additionally I was rejected by my peers because I was born with a cleft and had to deal with that also. For me it is a huge revelation to learn about covert narcissist. That none of my sufferings were caused by me and that nothing I ever did to comfort my mother as ever enough. If I laid a golden egg her reply would have been: That is way to small - can't you do better? So thank you again for this content!

[@live2raid]

I dont think you realize how impactful your video is I honestly feel like you just saved my life. I felt like I was going crazy and loosing my mind. I was in so much pain this video describes my own experience word for word.

[@libbydavis759]

Everything you said is 100% accurate. Heartbreakingly accurate. I wish it wasn't so, but I am glad you shared this. As painful as this is, it is comforting, too. Thank you.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

You’re welcome, Libby 💐 It’s a tough topic because I think most of us would rather think the best of people. With abusers that can get you into some very painful situations x M

[@renep7008]

Libby Davis Spot on isn’t it. 💔

[@freddysquirenaranjo4859]

Snap......... it is such an eye opener, I can see the light NOW......

[@rprb1957]

Incredibly accurate! I've heard many descriptions of the Covert Narc female, but this was by far the most accurate, not only in the description of the behavior, but in explaining why they behave the way they do. Very impressive! Thank you!

[@tfSmudge]

Amazingly enlightening 👏🏻👏🏼👏🏽

[@risingeagle6332]

Good presentation. 😀👍🏾 I was with a female narcissist and her narcissistic mom for 32 years. It was like living with two tornadoes in a Ninja Blender, and I was a Ping Pong Ball stuck inside with them. It sucked!!!! You are right that there is not much support for men caught up in such a nightmare. I had to got to a woman’s crisis shelter for help for 1.5 years in full blown trauma therapy to unravel the psychological and emotional damage that I underwent. The Covert Narcissist appears like “Bambi” in public and a “Tasmanian Devil” behind closed doors. 😭🤕

[@blazinbloke]

This has to be one of the best videos I have ever seen to describe my wife (soon to be ex) - a covert narcissist. I totally resonated with every single point. This totally validates all my thinking of whether I am a victim of narcissistic abuse or not. Thank you

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Blazinbloke Thank you for watching. I’m glad that this message resonated with you and I’m sorry for what you’ve suffered. Please know that you can heal and life is so much better once you are out of a relationship with a narcissist.

[@richposports7030]

THIS....IS....SPOT....ON!!!! WOW!!!! Fascinating!!!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Richard Stevens thank you 🙏 I’m glad you found it helpful.

[@farhaadrahnama6688]

This video is really supportive. Thanks for creating it. …it’s amazing that once one has processed this information after having gone through a difficult experience with a covert narcissist , one can see the signs very early on. It’s very empowering. Video makers such as yourself help make this possible. Again, thank you. Once one is empowered in this way, that “magic” of a new narcissist in one’s life falls away, and I suppose so too does one’s appeal to the narcissist. It’s somehow a two-way street. Anyway, best wishes to everyone going through narcissist related turmoil. It all looks like laughable nonsense once you’re through it and safe on the other side. You will literally laugh out loud in disbelief at how silly they are and how silly it all was. Build yourself up, get support from good people who love you, reach reasonable goals, stay strong and develop a firm sense of self-reliance. Peace.

[@richardheathcock2346]

Wow! It’s like you were there by my side for the time I was in that relationship! All that’s missing is how each trait impacts on the victim emotionally. As somebody who now understands their own attachment to this type of personality and the choices i made, manipulated or otherwise, I can be somewhat forgiving of myself and them too as we both got locked in our own processes. The key difference though is my only agenda was good intention to offer and look for love, the narcissist sadly is unaware of what’s underneath their process and has their own agenda that’s driven by a deeper fear of being insignificant, they have a pathological next level low self esteem. I’m sort of ok with my experience as it taught me, and I have therefore grown albeit with pain both emotionally and physically. There was great times too, but not worth the distress in the long run. Good wishes to those trying to recover or remove and thanks for the support

[@ianmansfield8885]

Thars so specific and easy to visualise..this is the best summary I have watched by a long way ..everyone should watch this video thx so much

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you, Ian! I'm so glad you found this video helpful x M

[@markprzekurat]

Thank you for taking the time to research and create this video. It is validating to hear these traits and behaviors from someone else... I was trained to doubt myself.. my perceptions.. and own eyes... I do love and value myself.. and I'm amazed I let myself get conned so badly. How I tried to make it work! I see now.. 2years out... that there was no chance.. and I was just a cat-toy.. being batted around for enjoyment... teased... pulled apart.. and left for dead... I'm starting to get well again... but the lasting effects of the gaslighting are deep. I find my brain is sluggish, my thoughts muddy... my drive is erratic .. even when it exists... This episode was much more damaging to my psyche than I imagined... now.. all the times I said to my friends... "I'm ok.. I'm strong.. I can handle this.. I can help.." I see now that I was mistaken.. I was being systematically dismantled.. and became more and more vulnerable.. in my attempts to fix, repair, appease... Wow... How did I ever not see what was happening? So.. thank you.. it's a long road back to wellness..... and videos like this one help put the puzzle pieces together...... Kindest regards, Mark

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Dear Mark, thank you for sharing your story. Many survivors of narcissistic abuse were gaslit in a power holder in childhood. As adults they may second guess themselves and abusers tend to hone in on this. It is common for survivors to experience the symptoms you describe. Sometimes survivors develop PTSD and C-PTSD from narcissism exposure. So, it might be a good idea to speak to your doctor and let them know what's going on. Recovery takes time, hard work and patience but our brains are incredible and you CAN heal. I'm glad you found this video helpful. This abuse is insidious and subtle so most survivors don't realize it until they are knee deep in it. Wishing you a full recovery x M

[@Splassshhh1234]

You have a beautiful voice. Your phrasing and timing are perfect. Your diction is great and I wish others were as clear and well as yours!

[@teachersusanute199]

One I know has got two sons. One is the scapegoat, the other the golden child. Both have been abused their whole lives. Disturbing to see

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

That's terribly sad. It also sets the siblings against each other in a very underhanded way.

[@NopeNotTodaySatan]

☹️

[@narcicide8814]

I've experienced this to a tee with one of them, and this was in a professional "realtionshit". Several years later and this Narc is still going at it.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Glad you're out of the line of fine. They are one trick ponies.

[@antoinegladney6523]

Definitely a great and accurate video.

[@meme-zv7kw]

Thanks for sharing this is helpful just wish I heard about it sooner

[@tauruschikybabe]

Covert sister waited for my parents to pass before her smear campaign started against me, using the other siblings , her flying monkeys. Problem for her was, I saw it coming for years, and went no contact before she started, then she had to send an email full of projection. Best thing I ever did.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

You were too slick for her! When there is a death in the family, when a patriarch or matriarch passes away, that is when the masks drop. Especially if the deceased was the narcissist-in-chief of the family unit and there is a "passing of the torch" to a narc sibling. The dysfunction goes deep and it's intergenerational x M.

[@tasiadupree]

My mother is a covert narcissist, and thoroughout my life experience I've worked very hard to become the truest most authentic version of myself. Not all authentic people are narcissist but damn they usually are pretenders. Always take the time to get to know someone objectively and without any of ones own fantasy daydream bias! 💖

[@danielwinter4803]

Wow...this is brilliant. Amazing.

[@danneskjoldr]

This is so spot on.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Danneskjold Thank you 🙏

[@davidhammond9292]

Thankyou so much for this... I really can't tell you how much it's helped. I got to the point where I really did examine myself to see if I was the narcissist in the relationship.. I was with someone that could turn things around so gently that I didn't notice. I did everything I possibly could in the relationship and it wasn't enough. One day, I broke down and cried like a baby in her arms when I was so low. I looked up and there was nothing in her eyes. That's when I knew I had to leave. And there will be no turning back. Thankyou again.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I'm so glad you got out, David. Narcissists wreak such havoc on our hearts. If you're asking yourself whether or not you're a narcissists it's highly unlikely that you are. Through their insidious gaslighting they cause us to second guess ourselves and accept blame for their psychological aggression. Wishing you a complete recovery x M

[@davidhammond3738]

Thankyou so much... I wasn’t expecting a personal reply. I am very touched. Thankyou again. X

[@NopeNotTodaySatan]

I hope you’re healing & in peace now!! ☺️💜

[@aj8869]

Thankyou! There is a lot of content out there that breaks all this up into 20min topics. However, you have successfully molded an almost identical clone of the personas and behaviours of the covert narc female. Very informative, perfectly sequenced and frighteningly accurate!! Just as others have mentioned, you too, have described my 3 years in a matter of minutes. Great work! (I wish i could share this on social media, but i am reluctant because people could perceive it in a negative way- like im playing the victim card, and after sympathy) Well no, i want to educate every other person who associates with her, so that they will never go through the abuse others, as well as myself,- went through. Hrmm

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you, I appreciate your input and support! People are hard on survivors. They often prefer we don't speak up about our experiences which only leaves us more isolated. I agree with you, education and awareness helps many people recover from these painful, toxic relationships. There's no better teacher than someone who has lived it x M

[@goodcitizen3999]

Damn Girl, you hit that on the head, even using phrases I used when trying to tell others about her. I will have to watch that again. The thing is I did not even know what a narcissist was till it was all over and I was trying to figure out WTF happened. Thanks

[@MrFranciscareis]

Fits tottaly !! thanks so much for the sharing ~~

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

You're welcome 👍

[@PixieRose7]

- Master at hiding her true nature... through deception, putting on a show, love bombing. She's an angel on the outside, but a devil in private. They're sneaky and underhanded in their abuse, using sophisticated manipulation tactics to get power/control. - Niceness to serve her agenda, admired, influential, hauntingly sweet to ingratiate herself into your life. May apologize but it's fake. Relationship moves very fast. - Triangulates you w/family & friends until you're no longer in communication with them so that only she is your main focus. You've been isolated so she has power over you. - She's dismissive but nice to you in public. When she has you she makes you feel less than others. When she has you, her mask falls off. - Over the top, holier than thou, loves what you love. - Self-pity: no one understands - She lives in her mind and she's the star, you're just a supporting role. - No boundaries and no respect for yours, she's above rules, rules are for mortals - Hypercritical, can dish it out but not receive it. - Projects her toxic behavior onto you, blaming you for what she's doing - Lies to sabotage people she's jealous of - Ungrateful, dismissive - Attention seeking, prevents others from getting your attention. - Treacherous - likes to betray people and throw you under the bus once she's used you emotionally and financially. - She's the victim and you the villain. - Discard: she'll leave you alone in a dark room, destroyed emotionally, with a broken sense of self.

[@adrianegainer6913]

Amazing insight into the covert narcissist! Thank you for your message ❤️

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@ericmo2738]

Wow, this is so on point

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you for watching.

[@tracynewton3083]

Two faced springs to mind. Thank the lord for sites like this, i really needed another shot of truth.

[@g.a.m.e8126]

Seen this in my recommendations and clicked but I want to say this. This is helpful at the same time remember to follow your heart. The heart speaks quickly and will simply say this isn't the one. Your mind will over think and analyze because that is the purpose of the mind. However, if u place priority over your heart for the mind then you will end up wasting valuable time that you will never get back. When someone wrongs you and they care about you even when they don't feel they're wrong they will reconcile and apologize. If a woman never apologizes when you make her aware that one of her actions harmed you, leave. Any moments further will develop to toxic moments and time that you can never get back because time can't be re-earned.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Excellent insight about how a healthy partner relates to your pain. Thanks for watching the video and for sharing your take x M

[@TheFallkan]

THIS HAS TO BE THE #1 RULE. "If a partner never apologizes when you make them aware that one of their actions harmed you, leave. Any moments further will develop to toxic moments and time that you can never get back because time can't be re-earned." PREACH MOFOS

[@krompirusa100]

With Narcissist it's important to follow not your heart, it's important to follow your gut. You will feel that someone start to " love you" very fast. You will see red flags and it's very important not to ignore them.

[@YoutubeAdmin6]

THIS!! 💯

[@kaylap.1191]

How can I ever recover from being manipulated, triangulated, deceived and betrayed by a pathological narcissist?

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Hi Kayla, I'm really sorry that you went through so much pain. You CAN recover. It starts by recognizing and accepting that the Narcissist is a toxic deceiver. Remove them from your life and from your mind. Recognize that you've become someone else in order to comply with the Narcissist's whims. Reclaim your true, healthy self once again. Some tips: 1.) No Contact - Cease all contact with the Narcissist. Stop giving them fuel. Block them on social media, e-mail, on your phone. Do not interact with them anymore. This is to allow you the space to heal, to bleed out the poison of the Narcissist's lies and distortions. If this isn't possible because you have children, try Low Contact and Gray Rock. 2.) Relax - Narcissist Abuse causes chronic levels of anxiety and this can have a severe impact on the brain and our thinking. So once you are in a safe place bring your body into a state of total relaxation. This is to switch off the fight/flight/freeze responses the abuse has triggered. This takes some practice. 3.) Reality List - Write down everything the Narcissist did to hurt you: the manipulations, triangulations, deceptions and betrayals. Every time you feel the pull of the Trauma Bond, re-read this list to maintain your determination. 4.) Clarity List - Get a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle. On the left side write down all the painful lies the Narcissist told you about yourself i.e. "You'll never amount to anything". On the right side of the paper, write down the facts i.e. "I can do anything I set my mind to". YOU define you - not your abuser. 5.) Detach - Work on systematically withdrawing all emotion from the Narcissist. You know that this is a disordered person who is too toxic to behave like a descent human being. Every emotion you feed them turns to poison. To get healthy you must withdraw all emotional attachment to them: love, hope, trust, faith even judgement. Stick with this practice and over time you will cease to feel anything at all. Your mind is a powerful tool and it's what's going to set you free. Wishing you health and healing x M.

[@joshua3392]

@@NarcissisticAbuseRehab ,that's an awesome list "M"!❤.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

@@joshua3392 thanks 💛

[@lesnash6953]

Kayla, Mine moved out and filed for divorce 8 months ago. To cover her behavior, she accused me of cheating on her and neglecting her. None of which was true. I found out I have 2 or 3 friends left. The rest of them have totally disregarded me. Which is fine. She found a boyfriend (narc supply ) a month after she left. I've become a hermit, and I'm a hell of a lot happier and better off now. I'm still single, I sleep good, and I'm healthy. I don't need her, her bullshit, or anyone else's. Take some time to be with yourself and you'll be just fine.

[@geoffreycollis7041]

@@lesnash6953 Same, I will never ever enter a relationship again, she completely broke me

[@maynard8556]

It’s unreal how accurate this is.

[@barishankhonglah4690]

too good. thankyou so much. some words are locked 😮

[@pltgator]

I couldn't agree more with your assessment. The female narcissist I was involved with ticked ALL the boxes of your assessment. Thank you for an EXCELLENT video God Bless

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you! I'm so glad you found it helpful. God bless you, too x M.

[@jamesmcginn8874]

every word you speak is so true--i got out--all the lies--cheating--stealing--gambling was all too much to take.

[@nelsoncuba4930]

This is the most accurate description of what I went through with my covert narcisist. Wow, just wow! It helped remove all doubts. I had never met someone so evil.

[@robinalmond4737]

This was so spot on

[@owengordon175]

When her masked dropped she suddenly became physically violent. I was already wary of her passive aggressiveness but this night was going exceptionally well when she decided to swing for my face out of nowhere. For days I thought "wtf brought that on?". This video best explains what I experienced. Thank you.

[@christinerona5765]

You are spot on! I had a patient that I took care of for a year and I couldn't take her anymore. She had all the traits. I left because I became physically ill! So glad to be away from such an evil being! Thank You for the video..

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you, Christine! I'm sorry to hear that this person literally made you sick. Unless you've lived it, it's hard to imagine that anyone can be as toxic as these people. Wishing you healing and a complete recovery x M

[@blueberryPR]

Excellent video very accurate

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

I agree! You explained my mother better than anyone else so far!!!! No wonder I never liked her or wanted to give her a present. Thank goodness for people like you who are willing to study and call these evil people out! Thank you again.

[@hcpaschen]

I lived this in my marriage from courting through the complete destruction of my family. Due to her parental alienation attacks my children and my relationship with has been destroyed. I am happy to share the lessons I've learned.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Sorry to hear that, especially about the harm done to your relationships with your children. It's very common after this kind of abuse. For helpful insight, please check out my interview with clinical psychologist and parent-child attachment specialist Michael Kinsey, PhD on this topic: Episode 1: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y3vFio2YbdCajLM Episode 2: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ime6h2loaa5ll7s

[@jerrybarnes8258]

I'm just completely blown away at how accurately you described my ex. I mean everything checked out.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I'm glad it was helpful. Thanks for watching!

[@delappedesigns]

Every! Single! Aspect! - It's eery how I could give an example from experience to each and every thing you said. I wish I had this video three years ago right after the discard. Maybe then my healing process would've been over by now because I could have used the time for research on that topic for healing.

[@kentotott2092]

Wow. This is spot on.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Kent Otott thank you 🙏

[@kayruss7075]

I like your insight into this topic and how you presented it. It is very helpful. May I suggest that you create a video on the topic of what is called fleas in this circle of affect from narcissistic abuse. With all of the information out there, many may be accused of narcissism because of inheritant personality traits from being abused. This is a huge problem when on social media and can create wrongful labeling. The victims are accused of narcissism because they may seek attention or may occasionally react with CPTSD traits and be mistaken as narcissistic behaviors. Thank you.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Many thanks for your suggestion about the topic of "narcissistic fleas." You make an important point: the term narcissist is often used far too loosely. Also, it's essential to our recovery to self-reflect and take personal inventory so that we can truly detox from narcissism exposure. I'm grateful for your insight, Kay!

[@midnightmoversservices5168]

It’s right on the money. I’m going through it all right now and have been for years with no way out. Every time I think I can come up I’m hit right back down. Thanks for the video. And I hope it helps someone before it’s to late

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Midnight Movers & Services I’m truly sorry to hear you’re going through the living hell of narcissistic abuse 💐 Sometimes the only way out is through. Stay fighting and never forget that narcissists can be defeated. My inspiration for building this channel is the fallen, the ones of us that didn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. To quote Marie Skou, “They call us survivors because not all of us make it out.”

[@hanoofalajmi23]

What makes you feel there is no way out?

[@abnstill7214]

Very well done!

[@georgeioannidis9082]

Agree 100% I have taken up thank you

[@zappaduck4782]

prior post by Libby Davis said it right on........""Everything you said is 100% accurate. Heartbreakingly accurate. I wish it wasn't so, but I am glad you shared this. As painful as this is, it is comforting, too. Thank you"" GREAT!!! in a sad way

[@macdonaldgrazette1897]

Wow...Spot on with this...

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Thank you, MacDonald x M

[@catusg]

Damn! Appreciate the confirmation... she was all that and more...

[@freeindeed5393]

You are the best M! I love your voice!

[@loadnlock357]

My soon to be ex wife is a covert narc. She would constantly make me feel awful about myself and she would do her best to emasculate me all the time. in front of my friends and her family. She tried to alienate me from my family because they know me too well to believe her lies about me. it all came to a close when she cheated on me. I forgave her but she proceeded to try to convince me it was my fault and that I neglected her so she had no choice but to do what she did. When I first met her she was great. I had low self esteem when I met her and she gave me so much love and affection. Once I married her she turned onto a monster. So far our divorce is civil and she wants to co-parent our 2 year old son. She filed for divorce and said that it was because I could not forgive her for what she did. It was my fault this happened in her eyes. She told me that I stole marriage from her! Then she told me she wants to get divorced so we can start over fresh. She told me she wants me to show her the kind of love I showed her before we were married. Needless to say I'm not going go back to the abuse. Im just afraid she is going to turn my son against me. She has already done that with her family.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

I'm very sorry that happened to you, Cody, because I know how painful it must be to be accused and blamed for things that simply aren't your fault i.e. your ex-partner's choice to betray you by having an affair. I'm glad you shared your story and I think other survivors will recognize their experiences in what you wrote. Specifically male survivors who can sometimes have difficulty expressing what they went through. Isolating someone from their support system, humiliating them in public and private, denigrating them to attack their confidence are all forms of domestic abuse. You don't need that in your life and I'm so glad you aren't going to go back. I can understand your concern for your son especially as she has smeared you to her family. Remember, children of narcissists only get conditional love from their disordered parent i.e. the narcissist only accepts the child if the child is like them. So you can use this to your advantage by giving your son unconditional love, allowing him to be his authentic self when he is with you and showing him through consistent action who you are over time. Merry Christmas x M

[@snafuart]

I totally agree, the DSM criteria are not only "not enough" but completely insufficient to diagnose a covert narcisisst of any gender.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

True. Thanks for your comment x M.

[@tiredironrepair]

Perfect description. I was ready to stop the video because I had checked so many traits on the list it was making me feel sad at the realization of what this means for my supposed relationship. We can never, ever make a narc love themselves and giving them unconditional love in hopes of them believing they have worth will not work because they know all the REST of the abusive horrible behavior they commit against others that you dont know about. They will begin to devalue you for not realizing how truly fucked up and intentionally wrong they are and enjoy being.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

There is so much truth in your comment. In spite of all the strut and show, I'm not so sure they enjoy their disorder. Narcissists are incarcerated in the loveless landscape of their minds. I'm sorry you suffered in your relationship with your toxic ex-partner. Breaking up with a narcissist isn't like any other breakup. It shakes the very foundations what we hold true x M

[@haroldcravens5927]

I agree 100% Thank you...

[@rojelquiocson4070]

You just described the woman I know for the last 6 years and yes the finale was shocking. They'll discard you like you are nothing to them. I'm glad she's finally out of my life!

[@carseyeadmire]

Thank you very much for this. I experienced all of this in my last relationship. I went from someone who was happy and confident in himself to depressed and no confidence.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Nathan Korte I’m so sorry that happened to you, Nathan. Relationships with narcissists are called toxic for a reason. I hope you bleed the poison out and enjoy a full recovery x M

[@carseyeadmire]

@@NarcissisticAbuseRehab yeah, I'm getting there. I get a feeling that just when I'm all good, she'll try and come back in to my life. Not that I will.

[@Fiveandime]

You got it! Spot on!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

FiveAnDime thank you 🙏

[@masters284]

This is so bang on it’s scary!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Sorry you went through that. Hope you're healing now 💐

[@jro341]

Because I finally opened my eyes. This female brought me to an awareness that is unprecedented. I left all but mom now. Life is lonely and depressing. This can kill you. If you let it. Just move on. Things get better.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

"We're called survivors because not all of us make it out alive." - Marie Skou Glad you're awake now. You're right, things do get better.

[@jro341]

Narcissistic Abuse Rehab- very true. I have not looked at it that way. I’m still learning. Thanks.

[@elockett4367]

This was perfect. Absolutely on point I love it. I've always felt lucky and the reason I say so is some how I came across this info awhile back and was just Interested In this personality type. Anyways I was amazed that such a person could exist 🤷🏾‍♂️😂. But I read up on it and long behold a woman at work was showing interest. So we start hanging out and this joker exhibited every single behavior. Of course I didn't let her know I was hip to her. So it was funny in a sense yet disgusting to see a woman who is so manipulative and hates herself. So Everytime she pulled some shit I'd know exactly what was going on. At first I wanted to be wrong during the love bombing phase bcus honestly I liked it. I mean who doesn't like when someone shows their love. But hers just felt fake like she was selling herself too hard. So being an empath I gave it a shot to see if I was wrong. But no I was right and intuition is so powerful once you know you have it and use it. So in turn she was frustrated with me bcus.her tactics weren't working and I follow narcissist rules to a T. The rules that help empathic people of course. So thx to channels like this I was unable to get hurt. But I still want to help anyone I can so they can avoid such trauma. Bcus in my opinion these fuckers aren't smart like everyone says. We just put our trust in them and believe there are good people left in the world. So it ain't your fault that someone used your goodness against you. This girl was a terrible narcissist and with me she met her match. Now I see why all her other exes were and looked so weak bcus a weak man is easy to control. When it was over I told her I wished her good luck n her Future and she was shocked I really didn't care after all that time. So she got discarded. And I'm sure she won't care unless the nxt guy sux. Then she'll be back but I'll never speak to her again. What a sick soul. With those piercing dim eyes.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

A lot of excellent points made in your comment, E! A discerning empath is immune to a narcissist's sleight of hand. But often wisdom comes to us through pain so that we don't forget the big lessons. The more people become aware, the more than can avoid being trapped by manipulators who seek to mentally enslave others. Narcissists operate in cycles and use tried and tried manipulation tactics. Once we learn to identify them, they are very predictable. Thanks for your comment x M.

[@Paigey15trini]

I couldn’t help but bawl listening to this. Gosh. 😩😩😩 this is what I’m going through this right now and I feel so damn helpless.