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[@NarcCon]

Book Link Below: Weaponised Love -a.co/d/g4bB4MI

[@deanaburnham9571]

😢Yeah and love bomb family to get them to like them (the psycho-narc) and then the fam member can't possibly believe your true experiences of abuse. Demonic lies. Even as they're in the position of losing. The healthier person isn't sitting around doing and planning nothing for heaven sake. 😮 Tragic for them that they refuse to learn 😪 Great video Coach. Love your hair-do--beautiful! Remi's portrait is heart touching! A treasure!!!

[@MrFunktone]

No sure why but I can't comment on the video only reply. Anyway just want to say your 100% spot on again with this presentation. Thank you for all your work it's very important

[@EasyRussianLessons]

Honestly, narcissists absolutely HATE another person's independence.

[@skybengal]

I told my x I’m not sure how I got to sixty without her telling me what to do. She ated any freedom I had which is incredibly sad. I just retired and felt more controlled than being back in the work environment.

[@sfertonoc]

You have to be there so they do not have to. I had a business deal go to hell with a messed up male narc getting attitudes when I asked for normal day to day business reports. It was not at all about the business but some messed up narc neediness. I learned lately that he is so addicted, he lets psychopaths that bait him use him. Terrible, they favor psychopaths and bite back at people expecting considerate behavior.

[@sandrathomas2893]

@@EasyRussianLessons They are anti- autonomy, sovereign, individual, adult because they never individuated/ separated... " So why should YOU"?!

[@naspa2790]

⁠​⁠@@skybengal If you feel more controlled perhaps you are. Our gut response is usually correct. In my 70s I ended my 30+ years relationship with a covert Narc. It was very hard but I had to save myself. The lies and undermining were endless. I gave him too many years hoping he would change. Things only got worse as we aged. I decided not to give him one more day, moved him out and changed my locks. I went no contact blocking him from even being able to phone me. I’m still healing from the psychological abuse, lies, and mind games. For the first time I prioritized my own well being instead of his. I found peace and am working on moving forward on my own. I am at peace and happier.

[@AgaHypnoRelease]

200% agreed.

[@renebernays5774]

spot on presentation "Not all narcissists are cult leaders, but all cults are led by narcissists," ~ me

[@AdamJamesEarlyChasebliss-ru8tq]

They WANT !!!!!! .....to be in control of your mind. Your head. Your soul. .....YOU.

[@joannajohnson696]

Yes, I always tell my narc husband. I feel as if I sold my soul to the devil!

[@selenem3384]

😢😢😢😢😢 yes they want to turn you against yourself too

[@treelover1050]

THEY ALWAYS HAVE AN AGENDA.

[@jamesmccarthy8574]

"The Devil whispered in my ear, 'You're not strong enough to withstand the storm. I whispered back, 'I am the storm' This is all of us without a shadow of a doubt we may all be on different journeys and some stronger than others but we are all in the same fight and this war has been going on since the beginning of time don't be afraid of any weakness but be proud you are awake. As always Paula keep going and stay strong.

[@citydrums7525]

When the Devil whispers in your ear, chuckle, then throw a pie in his face and walk away...

[@Truthteller1s]

Love this!❤

[@RachelDixon-tn4my]

I know I’ve said it before but you are a genius. Thank you. Your wisdom and words are like an emotional and psychological salve,

[@NarcCon]

🙏🌹

[@thepragmatist]

In the beginning, they tend to be likable, charismatic, and good conversationalists. It's easy to get drawn in, especially if they have a lot of social capital (are popular, well liked, are good looking, etc) If you (their target) are more introverted, it seems almost like an honor to receive attention from them. It's easy to be drawn in by this dynamic.

[@hollybickford2492]

Yes, after a while I noticed that Mr. Charmbucket was Mr. Big Silence with me…

[@lorrainehewlett984]

I have observed this behaviour trait of being the dictator, whether it was an overt narcissist or a covert narcissist. It was always there. It didn’t matter if it was a Narc parent, partner, manager in the workplace, landlord or landlady, etc.

[@sandrathomas2893]

" Confidence without the competence" - Dr. George K Simon

[@TomHuckACAB]

Within a month of marrying my narc ex wife, she demanded I quit my job at a TV station, because she was bored and needed attention. It was a horrible decision. I immediately had financial problems and she started calling her ex BF from college and started "having lunch" with some guy at her work. I filed for divorce after 5 months. Her second husband was found dead. No cause of death listed, but I can guess exactly what happened.

[@faddy24]

Probably died of a broken heart and a tormented mind. Poor guy.

[@pharxahghxst3654]

Something similar from what she told me her first husband was having affairs with her best friend and she told me that he tried to kill himself drink bleach and she told me she did not care and encouraged him too when she made that statement I was shocked why would you encourage someone to commit suicide I'm for sure she probably used sex toward him as a weapon to a point he went out and I'm not excusing him but I'm sure she played a major roll in her own home

[@ps9906]

When the narcissist turns on his supporters they won't even know it

[@LizHirst]

Brilliant - describes thd trajectory of my recent narcissist relationship

[@lancelotdufrane]

You do a very good job of speaking clearly on a very messy, dark, portion of my life. After so much time, I’m fascinated that I still seek to understand. My adult children are now watching the behaviors. I can only say so much. Lives are in danger all around these “people”.

[@sandrathomas2893]

@@lancelotdufrane 🎯 My adult children are stuck in the narc web of deception. Many of us, live with the fact that on any given day, our children whom we raised, alone of course, could very well be unalived or witness this! It's all spiritual ⚔️

[@AnOpdam]

My narcissistic ex was a friend of my brother for more than 20 years… He knew many things about me and tricked me into marriage, moving to the other side of the country and we started a business. I did no fact checking. Please be careful and always do your your own checks!!!

[@citydrums7525]

The narc offers you a bite of the apple... Don't take it!

[@JaneMetz]

Thanks Paula, right on. Remys portrait is very lovely. 8 months free from the narc. ❤

[@Karen-fx8ek]

These narcs are very convincing! People that don’t know too much about narcissism and how they operate can really be fooled! I need to get your book soon for sure! You help me so very much with your wisdom!!!!!! You are amazing! Keep em coming Paula! We need you, God works through you!

[@lindseyferguson2739]

Heartfelt thanks for your videos you are helping me to understand what happened to myself and my children for 10 years!

[@NarcCon]

You are so welcome!

[@peacefulone4461]

"Love bomb friends & family..." EXACTLY! This is the cause of feeling so trapped. Now, we live hundreds of miles away from family.

[@gwynethst.francis7041]

Hi Paula and Remi... i am about to listen to your video now, but i first have to comment on Remi's beautiful portrait! Such a handsome boy he is!

[@flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel]

So wonderful

[@NarcCon]

Thank you so much 🐕🥰

[@SM-cp7pn]

Dear Paula and Remy. Your insight and delivery keeps me going. Every thing you talked about in this post I lived through. Truly unbelievable when I look back. Thank you so much for your channel. S

[@elderlypoodle9181]

I have always believed all politicians have a strong sense of “I must tell you that I am the greatest “ Some more than others. They all need the praise from others.

[@prueaddy-z3r]

Fantastic Paula. The TRUTH. Safety in not getting side lined or distracted and believe in our souls experiences instead. I didn’t listen to me, I was raised not to. Now to track the discomfort in me. Trust it, narcs move the line to push us over the edge. Hollowed out I wanted to go. So grateful I stayed to feel the truth of what love can feel like on Earth. Sane and safe even in tough times. Thank you for speaking out💓

[@reettaelina]

Aawww Remy looks so happy about the portrait🎉Beautiful

[@bittu-kd7zy]

Remy's presence is definitely calming ❤ And your voice is the most authentic one on this topic Paula.

[@garryleach-lq2xc]

Yeah she knows her stuff

[@Truthteller1s]

That's an awesome portrait of Remy. I hope he likes it. Thanks again for a great video.

[@geraldinekirwan2500]

So true Paula every word your speaking. 31 years later i know all about it .

[@starflower703]

Narcissists are best used car salesmen of the world!

[@elderlypoodle9181]

Well put!!

[@kirkhogan2688]

Great video Paula,👍👍👍👍

[@neilmcdougall4927]

A gangster vile type my mother found was both

[@sandrathomas2893]

Force isn't power! They're powerless!

[@shiny4him29]

I love the portrait of Remy! Thanks for this timely message, Paula. 💜

[@MarkClay-f6x]

This information's helping me Paula thank you,😊 big time

[@NarcCon]

So glad!

[@colmanlong1032]

Spot On Paula, Too sweet to be wholesome parasitic excuses for a human being. Keep educating people,I can't get over how many people they've conned.

[@flowerpower4944]

Paula you got this💯💯thats exactly what i experienced,,,theyre very convincing,,they have weird idealogies,,i observed so much,,but i saw it and pulled back slowly ,and i suddenly left,,,their very callous and evil,,,He always said i was hard work,,,😂Run Stay well away from them,,,Excellent Video Paula,👍👍💖💖💐💐

[@tikoppa]

You have absolutely nailed , you covered every single point and stage of such a toxic relationship and I admit that your work is the fondle that lighten the path you come out of that devastating cognitive dissonance that a honest and empathetic victim was trapped in , thank you again , شكرا

[@geraldinekirwan2500]

Thank you Paula ❤

[@gretapril]

Thanks!

[@NarcCon]

Thanks so much for your kindness Greta 🌹🐕

[@theresatn000]

Beautiful explanation and alway good to understand and learn! Beware and walk away. Peace is harmony of priority 🌻

[@Journeyofhealing-o9o]

❤Paula and Remy, You are loved ❤ That awful season I went through is behind me now..Never Ever going back! Thank You, Paula

[@Zinnia542]

The entire US will need your book. We’ve been dealing with these f’d up behaviors for a decade. We just got Hoovered and tomorrow will be the end of it. 💙

[@earthrooster1969]

We know about it from where we are. I am not from the US but I am here! I believe at one point humans have to understand that issues both good and bad are beyond human made borders.. But wishing you guys the BEST 🙏🏽

[@ceceb9082]

Thank you and Remi❤❤

[@shericoleman7756]

Ohhhh your sweet pup in portrait! Beautiful!!❤

[@Rose-k6g]

Narcissist fight with narcissists . And the main narcissist is the one nobody really knows nothing about. They appear out of nowhere.

[@feuerelfenbein]

Thanks for your work in public education. Saving lives is not an understatement. Listening each new podcast i feel like and now she is really pinpointing the dynamics. Such essentilal hints to identify, like "its almost too good to be true" in the love bombing phase. I literally said that back then a few times... Still it wasnt enough to take a u turn, when one has no idea about npd, or domestic abuse and what the pre warning signs are. I can just confirm to run, if you notice, whats going on for real, being in a major commitment stage like marriage or welcoming a baby. Dont tell him, dont warn him, just do it. It would have saved me years of further pain - if i not just mention that option to him as a warning, but just do it without any warning. Slightly inhumane behavior is enough, it preserves your dignity, instead of following the rabbit hole further down. Dont even regard the reasonings and questionable justification presented. Or get confused by him acting like nothing would have ever happened. Or the blame shifting. Be willing to let it all go at once may seem almost impossible and very frightening, but option B is just so much worse... So much love and sense of safety to all of you out there, going through the most challenging times of your life! May the laws of existence be on your side!

[@shericoleman7756]

I am so glad I tuned in before tomorrow Paula! God bless you❤

[@Jewels777.]

Aww beautiful picture of Remi 🙌😍

[@michellemccormack5415]

My narc asked me to leave my job and he would support me financially it only lasted less than 3 months I totally regretted my decision .he also isolated me from family and friends regret that too as I needed them but they do it such way you don't really see it im no longer with him I discarded him in the end which has angered him but I don't really give a shit!!!

[@martinsendagi1821]

Yours is a great global clinic. Believe me! You are helping me recover from a long time narcissistic family abuse. Thanks so much for being so therapeutic

[@NarcCon]

🌹🙏

[@Selah1141]

I guess I must be unlovable because I keep getting told that over and over again by different people. I don’t know what I’ve done to become unlovable. And I’m told that I’m a bum. I’m told that I have demons and I’ve told that men can catch pneumonia standing next to me. This didn’t come just from one narcissist this has been throughout my whole life. God bless those of you that can get past this. I don’t think I can.

[@sandrathomas2893]

They form an instant false "intimate bond"

[@hollybickford2492]

Yes, Mr. Landscape Architect was always best friend/confidant instantly with female rich clients!

[@AdamJamesEarlyChasebliss-ru8tq]

⭐️🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Omg! PAULA! I LOvE !!!!!!!! Your speech at 14:05

[@thomassen333]

Thank you for your education ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@truthseeker2391]

Love Remi's Portrait

[@kat-75]

You have no idea how I want to blame an asshole, but since I know stupid people use money to harm my family and me, it is really hard to hold one person to blame.

[@thepragmatist]

Love the new microphone! The sound is great!

[@vickiegroome3220]

Spot on Remy❤

[@Kadesbattleground]

I love the painting of your dog ! Totally unrelated to your content but my Grandma is Irish and love listening to your voice. Thanks for the content!

[@NarcCon]

🐕🙋‍♀️

[@traceysimpson9397]

Lovely picture of Remi and a fab podcast too ❤

[@InvisibleWarrior279]

Love it Paula 😉

[@lolachlih3136]

Thank you for this helpful information Paula❤it’s appreciated bunches❤

[@megatronman863]

I sleep listening this program olmost every night, The content is amazing. ❤ 👍

[@NarcCon]

🌹🙏

[@brandnewday-nov2024]

My mom was proud to be a dictator.. The moment my choices and wishes are ignored, you've got yourself a dictatorship.

[@pharxahghxst3654]

She had no filter and told me when i get mad i dont think . Light bulb went off in my head thats chaos and destruction

[@joannajohnson696]

Very nice to meet you and your pup. I am a dog person also. I have Border Collies here in the U.S. I just found you and I love your honesty.

[@NarcCon]

🙋‍♀️🌹🐕

[@lindamola4476]

You can’t win with a narcissistic personality whether it’s a work environment or personal relationship. I have learned the hardest lesson in my life- no resolution- just had to walk away and cut my losses😞

[@aroshiniholsborough5647]

Paula, 🎯 as ever! You are truly Godsent - thank youuu & Amen! 💖💫 *P.S. love what you have done with your hair - gorgeous, btw🤩

[@NarcCon]

Thank you so much!!

[@sandrathomas2893]

Evil in a "virtue" wrapper!

[@SusanPaynter-v5q]

I’m receiving another message here and I think I know who you are referring to 😉

[@NarcCon]

🤓

[@Jungleboy-z4c]

The labor party is went bloody mad

[@faddy24]

100% accurate

[@MrDilley777]

Always double-check and ask questions to the people who have been around them as a character wittneses who have known them much longer than you have, and go by that instead of your initial opinion.😮😊😊😊

[@o2phone737]

Love the picture of Remy❤

[@thepragmatist]

Paula ~ Excellent video as always. Thank you.

[@MarkClay-f6x]

Hello Paula,

[@llunavermella_bloodmoon]

Check out Caravan Palace's "Wonderland" music video to see a very good artistic depiction of the narcissist... I just realized it today. This is the analysis I made of it: "This is about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. At 1:08, the 3 girls who demonstrate sexual desire leave, the curtain behind the protagonist falls and it reveals that... There's nothing there. She needs power over people to keep the curtain (the lie that she's somebody important) up, and when we see girls at her mercy again (1:44), they're keeping the curtain up with their own arms and hands. Narcissists need people to believe in the lie of who they are... Because they're empty inside. Without people believing in the lie that they're somebody grandiose, the lie doesn't stand up and it is revealed that there's nothing there. 0:47 There is not a defined bathtub here. She's bathing in the fuel/supply narcissists extract from their victims. Fuel is their lifeblood, and there's an aesthetical mix here between fuel and blood (it's both things at the same time). 0:42 She seems to fall... But she doesn't, because she's catched by people just to use those people like objects and let them fall; once used, she leaves them (empty of fuel). 1:41 If somebody suspects it's all a façade (the curtain is behind her and, behind the curtain, there is nothing)... she just shows disdain towards whoever suspects it. Might discard them later."

[@womanclothedinthesunq7574]

Amazing 🎉please make t-shirts with painting of rem, please 🙏 ❤️. Love from socorro nm.

[@NarcCon]

Great suggestion!

[@sallydixon8639]

It’s such a shame that the Royal family didn’t check Meghan out before she was allowed to date Harry!

[@sreach93]

Is it possible that large Media organisations can have as an entity, Narcissist tendencies ? Because many of those (at 3:57 min) are causing division and disturbance within our society.

[@AmericanMaeve]

Remy looks so handsome! 🐶🎨

[@NarcCon]

🐕🥰

[@jaialaiwarrior]

The one i knew claimed she got pregnant with me and miscarried. She later used that during one of her tantrum rages, saying "I'm glad our baby died!" Just seriously sick people. Seemed so sweet in the beginning.

[@NarcCon]

This is a very frequently used manipulation of the female narcissist unfortunately 🌹

[@hollybickford2492]

Just bought your book on Amazon US!

[@NarcCon]

Thank you hope you find it if value 🌹🙏

[@donnaciervo290]

Beautiful painting, beautiful dog. Your videos are very uplifting Paula, thank you. Do you do one to one coaching? ❤️

[@NarcCon]

Thank you, Yes I do - [e-mail]

[@LightningDolt999]

Wow, that's great I've found this channel! Serious question here - I realized that I am most likely a narcissist and a toxic person. I didn't notice this before, I really had no clue that I hurt others and control them out of fear of losing/selfishness. I don't want to be like this, but I don't have money to go to the therapy (it's a bit complicated in 3rd world countries) and fix myself with a professional (is that even possible??? How do you change yourself SO fundamentally?). I don't want to be a broken person and hurt the people around me, but my pride and fear get the best outta me every time. Is there any methods I could do on my own? Is there any hope? Most of the info on the internet be like "these are the traits, if you notice those - run away from this person" or "how to avoid narcissists" but nearly no info akin to "so, you're a narcissists - how to fix yourself to become a normal good person". It actually takes a lot of effort to stop blaming and hating others, but I dunno what to do next. At all. I'll be watching all of the vids on this channel so at least I'll have an idea of what NOT TO do. Thank you a lot for your videos.

[@sallyg4544]

:) Third world country? You sound very articulate. And very self aware. So you need help learning how to be a good person of high moral values and want to posses traits of loyalty, integrity, and you desire to learn how to be a person who is selfless, compassionate and can treat others with respect and goodness so as to stop hurting those who care about you and perhaps even care about those who may not have your best interest at heart? Turn to God. Read the Bible. Strive to learn who Jesus is and his teachings and live everyday to be more like him. That will be your best path to receiving the blessed life and love you thirst for.

[@jorgeluiscapiello414]

She convinced me to move to her country, then dictatorship (and hell) started.

[@MarkClay-f6x]

All I can say is one day at a time paula

[@dthed11ms]

🌷🌷🌷

[@sandrathomas2893]

Snake charmers 🐍

[@dvictorbrown]

On the eve of what would be our tenth The hollow words of your mouth meant nothing as it turns out Shallow as a rain made puddle You laughed at me as I scuttled here And there for you, all for you no doubt. Off the plane and into my arms Barrels cocked with your charms And another man's load bearing as well. Much more the better that I was less than lettered in the artier works of the fettered in this self defeating hell. Ah, but this bright notion, caught upon by my devotion observed your less than honest bent. And through protestations, drunk and sober, up and down all modulation Through the years our drama/cum tragedy went. We know how this story ends, no matter how the truth gets bent. There is one's honor who is at stake. The moral it seems so clear, Like clarions calling all to hear Give as you will, but never let them take. DVB 2024

[@NarcCon]

Wonderful poem 🌹

[@barbaracobb6291]

Hi Paula. Do you offer any phone coaching please. I watch all your videos but I'm just struggling. I think I'm in a trauma bond. I have gone no contact over 3 months ago yet my head is consumed with everything all day, it's impacting greatly on my day to day life. I may have him out my life but he's not out my head and it's debilitating. I'm so low and just struggling. Many thanks.

[@NarcCon]

[e-mail] - Coaching Barbara

[@barbaracobb6291]

@@NarcCon thank you.

[@prueaddy-z3r]

An American who graduated overseas in Caracas, Venezuela in 1975, I watched a sweet loving country trust and believe a narcissist coming into power. The United States is here now. One person claiming to solve, take care of women even if they don’t want him to, hurt those who disagree with him and isolate the US from the rest of the world. Venezuela is hurting for so many years now. May the US rise to the lies and say no, there is another way.

[@gggmfsmorales2301]

Hi Paula, is there a translated version of your book weaponized love in Spanish in the works or available already?

[@NarcCon]

No sorry

[@user-qs6vd2tv4k]

Please make a video on why the narc unblocks you and doesn't do anything

[@NarcCon]

👍

[@JankaLeucorrhinia]

❤🌹

[@dahaille1]

Buddy program, time zone Amsterdam The Netherlands

[@jorgeluiscapiello414]

Does anyone else think about Trump?

[@JH-td4mn]

Wish I didn't!

[@sandrabentley8111]

It's about Trump.

[@mss80308]

😎😘

[@Karen-n7q]

Nice to meet you 😊 I'm new to your channel . I'm going through a lot with being submissive and thinking that he is a narcissist? He has a channel on KZbin claiming he is son of David and I should be on my knees thinking God for him everyday, meanwhile he claims I am wife material. He lives in LA and I live in Michigan. He doesn't have much and I Owen my own condo, he wants me to fly out to be with him? He says once I do that's it to sell my condo and wants to possibly marry me he feels I'm the one? He also wants to control me and the money and my life to be submitted to him completely? He does gematria by revealing he is the chosen one? He says he knows he is chosen one to revel who is the Antichrist which is Trump and Elvis and that I should feel so special to even be with him and thank God on my knees for him cuz he knows he's going to heaven? I have to admit he's good at what he does! Yet he is having issues with angry outburst on me and hanging up and wanting me to call to make up? I have develop very strong feelings for him to! It's only been 2 months and I to think he could be the one. Now I'm having 2nd thoughts of leaving this completely! He thinks that I cannot be sincere? or submissive? His past was horse racing in God struck him for some of the things you have done he's been saved now for 4 years and has a great testimony and yes I feel he could be the one but yet it's getting too confusing and this shouldn't be happening we're both 60 years old and I'm not about to be the one to have to come up with the money to fly to him to LA because he had two other women that he flew out and he doesn't really have any money anymore and it didn't work with them now I'm the third one and he's telling me I'm the one and if I am the one he wants to marry me but he needs me to be completely submissive so I find myself confused about being submissive and him being possibly a narcissist because it seems like it's one way for him and if I don't do what he says he has angry outbursts can you please help me I know the red flags are there I even in a peer specialist in mental health trauma crisis ECT.,. I am a very strong woman with a history and I've been able to conquer adversity however I've had a lot of traveling good times in my life doing Auto shows fragrances you name it and he doesn't really have anything cuz he had a gambling problem for 40 years but he beat it 4 years ago and got saved and he has a great testimony I'm getting confused and I'm not sure I'm liking this any advice would help thank you and I love your channel God bless 🙏

[@NarcCon]

Coaching - [e-mail]

[@MYKEYCARD]

💜

[@brendawashington206]

❤

[@pharxahghxst3654]

I know every woman is not the same but im very very very suspicious now when a woman wants to be sexually involved with me

[@dianat.6426]

I wonder when you would eventually fill the gap on what we are seeing with our democracies. It's no longer a personal thing and I think you know it. And it is much more dangerous on a much bigger scale. You can escape your spouse, hard as it is, yet you cantnot escape when it#s the new normal of democracy.

[@NarcCon]

👍yes it’s getting very extreme hard right being fertilised in USA and hard left locking political prisoners up in UK

[@Rose-k6g]

Interlopers