The Narcissists' Code: Episode 14 - Why No Contact works, from the perspective of a Narcissist

[@kidchocolate9253]

No contact was easy for me because the bread crumbing, ghosting, gaslighting, and love bombing got really old. They teach you how to live without them.

[@MentalHealness]

exactly

[@RodneyD]

The last straw was when she delete our photo off Instagram… then said she didn’t understand how that happened. It had to be something wrong with the account🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@deniseshields6880]

I joined your group to give support to my daughter who needs it while going through the NC with the narcissist. Thank you for helping her by all the information you provide in your videos. I'm so happy she is doing this for herself. I enjoy watching your videos with her. 🙏🙏

[@gladyssheckelford759]

Thank GOD it is not hard for me

[@vcowherd39]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 the realest statement I’ve heard about the narc!!!

[@lethabor]

It's crazy how predictable they get after a while.

[@ashandlo699]

Yep! I started to know exactly how he was going to respond, when he was going to hit me or break my things, when he was cheating. His pattern of behavior became so clear and that’s how I survived and got out. However, the night I left, he tried throwing me over the balcony in front of my 7 week old baby girl. Stay strong everyone.

[@ashleywestcott7993]

@@ashandlo699 yea I’m scared about that had two babies on me the second one created right after our engagement and the minute I entertain another person whose worthy he’s so tired of my actions 🙄 n threatens to kill me and my friend

[@ashandlo699]

@@ashleywestcott7993 Girl, I know this all to well. I’m so happy to be free. I hope you are free and I’m praying for your strength. It really takes a toll on your mental. I’m in therapy now group therapy and individual therapy because of the trauma I endured. It helps, but I know it’s going to be a long journey. I’m sending you hugs.❤️🙏🏾

[@themanofgod3784]

Like clockwork

[@melissatavares9487]

P++lllllp 0

[@chloewilliams3281]

If there’s anything my narcissistic ex taught me, it’s how to be alone. No contact hasn’t been as hard as I expected because I got so used to his neglect.

[@Macy-hg2or]

The neglect is very sad. In all my years I’ve never met a man with this hatred for a decent woman. Now I wonder if I can ever trust falling in love again. Currently seeking trauma therapy.

[@tiffanyflinn215]

Once you walk away you regain yourself.

[@monishawilliams7382]

Amen

[@jedicrush1497]

Amen. And a person also discovers new and great abilities and talents they never knew existed.

[@tiffanyfox5187]

Takes some time, I was so broken.

[@tanyagamble3432]

Perfectly said I literally felt and looked horrible I’m getting back to myself again thank god

[@artemisappollo1491]

@@tanyagamble3432 You can do it ; I know it is hard because I am going through the same thing * we are strong and we can do it:-)😎🌬

[@missmamas7017]

You get treated worse when you let them back in.. you are not lying

[@MentalHealness]

🎯

[@jazbogideon7050]

This is true

[@gabepetro358]

Hell yea. Now they're confident and comfortable. And I'm almost positive they figure you deserve whatever you get because of it. Like they're almost pissed they have to settle for you.

[@switchblade35fly]

Man this is such a true statement

[@adrianquinn8404]

they punish you for loving them

[@chrisanderson3875]

So true 16 years with a narc, when I went no contact for about 7-8 months I built a trucking business during that time I now make 4-5 times the amount I ever made. I found my self I sleep way better my house is silent now. That’s true peace.

[@lglucidsolutions8066]

Amazing I’m so proud of you!!!

[@davis5142]

I can relate. Its so much peace now. I dont have to argue nor explain myself. Then still get called a liar

[@rachellewis9251]

Kudos well done x

[@lunarotimas]

I know why you abr. to narc, but I did not read this right the first time

[@carminesousa4147]

I just broke up with a narc and i’m still falling apart. Reading your comment gave me hope. Thank you

[@BreeeBrownnn]

Understand day one of no contact feels different from week 1. Week 3 feels different from month 4. Take it a day at a time. It’s been over 100 days that I’ve moved on with no contact and I honestly didn’t think I would get this far. He blocked off everything and has been calling me blocked. I remember how they made me feel and it’s honestly not worth allowing them back in to prove to me what I already know. Keep it pushing y’all!

[@MentalHealness]

Stay strong

[@kaydee1322]

Facts!

[@doristaylor9292]

Beautiful Queen, YOU SAID THAT RIGHT THERE!!!!!!! Some days I get weak, but I think about what he's going to deliver to me and I just can't do it. You have to keep that horrible feeling top of mind! Not only is it not worth it, but it also gets worse. They are more hateful, more vicious, and they will SHOW YOU they really don't like you. It's like they punish you for ghosting them when they know that's what they deserve. Good for you ladybug. So proud of you lady. You deserve a real king who will love you and treat you better.

[@BreeeBrownnn]

@@doristaylor9292 thank you so much! You do as well!❤️

[@christianlong7745]

Thank you, this is something I needed to hear

[@ChannelZero1031]

I'm gonna get a little Greek Mythology here. Narcissus himself fell in love with his reflection (His own Narc supply). When the well or river is dry (No contact = No reflection), Narcissus panics because he feels isolated and abandoned. That is why no contact is highly encouraged. He cannot get supply from a dry river.

[@MentalHealness]

good analogy

[@tanyshiachampagne6356]

Dude you just are so real, it makes me laugh. You sure are telling my situation. My Narc is so predictable and I have to sit back and laugh. You are telling my story

[@ChannelZero1031]

@@tanyshiachampagne6356 God bless you and thank you for the compliment. I find it's a waste of time to hem and haw and be coy. I do try to be mindful to not insult anyone, of course. But for the most part my tongue is sharp.

[@Anthony-tw3oi]

Dope

[@ChannelZero1031]

@@Anthony-tw3oi Thank you

[@LelaJoonam]

I ghosted my narcissist yesterday and moved out when he was gone. Blocked him & anyone who knew him, deactivated my social media. 60 missed calls from No Caller ID, texts from random numbers, LinkedIn messages, emails, WhatsApp. Your videos have really helped give me insight into what was going on this entire time

[@supernova11711]

Yikes. You might have to change your number for that one. That’s actually really scary.

[@tacorrachosen888]

😅😂🤣👏🏾 girl good for you! I’m laughing cause I bet they were going crazy now they’re the one who’s looking confused, well done 👍

[@Sandra.B]

😳🤯😆😂😂😈💪🏻

[@kinley4111]

I was you 5 years ago... Stay strong! I am proud of you for the 1st step but please remain strong. After begging didn't work he started making threats and then I knew that I had to disappear.

[@therryandpaol3430]

That’s Great.

[@bladerubber]

The ONLY way to Win this game is to STOP playing. NC aint a move Its THE final move. When you finally admit there is no hope....no contact becomes easy.

[@MentalHealness]

👏🏽👏🏽

[@freshmanjeans]

That’s right go on vacations take road trips

[@Violexie-wb7op]

Its hard when it's your parent who is very respected and people expect you to take care of them.

[@angellenamay]

so hard to give up hope on people even with no contact I pray for him, he’s been through so much & he doesn’t like how he is

[@sherrijeffries971]

No contact 5 years! Just becoming able to find me again. I thought I was broken. SMH

[@mrsmjj81]

Going on month 5 of no contact with my narcissist ex and I can assure you... it's the best thing you can do. He has emailed, called, sent messages through family and I refuse to budge. Each day, I've become stronger and better. I miss him so much some days because he was my heart for 2 and a half years but I fill the space with things that won't cause me pain. I miss him less and less now.

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong

[@mrsmjj81]

@@MentalHealness I am. I have a great support system and I write which also helps. My friend directed me to your channel and since then your videos have been a part of my healing process. Bless you for everything you're doing to educate people and humanize narcissists.

[@MzTinkerbell]

@ Mrsmjj81...same here. It's been 2 mos. It gets easier as time goes on. Stay strong sis💪

[@MaryLouise]

Awesome perspective! Excellent wisdom as well. Life is so much better and there are moments to acknowledge that you do miss that seemingly "good" part but the REALITY comes back to remind you that there is no way in hell I will go back...NEVER AGAIN!!!! I had my same telephone number for years but I said this is a promise to me that I mean business...change the number and don't look back. 🍷...Hey Babe, let's toast to a NEW LIFE!!!!

[@Twyla310]

How long before he started to contact you?

[@Denso481]

Was being breadcrumbed for months while she's already in a new relationship, she kept saying stuff like "it's not the same as with you". I kept my distance emotionally but as soon as I showed her that I indeed still cared and wanted her, the ghosting and breadcrumbing came back full swing. My personal breaking was point was when she rubbed it in my face that she's going with her new bf on the vacation that I had planned for us a year ago. Went no contact ever since. 4 months later she writes me she doesn't even know what's going on and she'll always be there for me. Yeah well, nothings going on now. Not anymore. She won't be seeing my ass in this life anymore, and hopefully not in the next one either

[@buddhaboy9948]

Good for you man for having the strength to walk away..its funny how it takes 4 months later when all the fun traveling and caring about them self is over now they want to talk hmm good on you

[@Videomakergirlanime]

God keeps us away from narcissist and may heal them

[@trinap.8904]

Great!! Keep on keeping on!

[@sogreatful530]

right!

[@piscesqueenrock1254]

Very good for you

[@alexisb1136]

Ghosting wasn’t hard for me. I was mentally and emotionally exhausted. When he unveiled his final trick of manipulation (lying about a cancer diagnosis) an awakening occurred within me. I felt things would only get worse from there. I had to choose me.

[@misstidoy]

Yeah, my mother tried to fake breast cancer to hoover me by proxy via my brother. Disgusting! I'm glad we both chose ourselves. 🙏🏾❤

[@misstidoy]

@Angela i thought so too for a long long time... but after learning about narcisssim.. it's pretty normal for them to fake illness to suck you in!

[@longislandny696]

Same,so done with him.

[@karriesaunders8597]

We had a memorial for a dog that was still alive,strike three with our daughter and he hit the target for me to take her and go no contact. Its Insanity until they get delivered

[@karriesaunders8597]

No contact means no contact,if the authorities can't work out they are a psychopath then screw them too,they aren't touching us.

[@lisaparker6431]

I was terrified to be alone and feel sad without my narc. Once I was able to clear myself and do little to no contact, my life changed. You wake up and feel better a little everyday.

[@erinmeggik391]

I am probably being subjective but believe Relatives are the worst narcissists. Just escape.

[@brockrain4618]

Boredom is what killed my relationship. Narcissistic’s are predictable and in the end boring because of. Crazy considering how exciting it starts out. Realizing that the excitement fueled connection was them mirroring your best traits in the beginning should be empowering but for some it is painful.

[@music_istherapy8860]

Yes. This makes sense.

[@tenea24]

The fact that this resonates so well with me is amazing..

[@tcaper7791]

Mirroring your beat traits…,, woooooohhhh that’s deep!

[@nicolemoore5033]

I agree. Boredom of the same ol shit is what made it easy for me to go no contact.

[@Kaylaj1990]

My ex was absolutely boring. One time I told him he’s boring out of anger and he looked all shocked and offended by me. I was like “well you are”

[@jameskielczynski3299]

This gentleman is absolutely right! You really don't start healing from the narcissistic abuse until you go no contact!!! My mother is a covert narcissist and I was her scapegoat. I went no contact with her nearly 8 years ago and since then, I have been blessed to make tremendous strides towards my healing from her abuse. Another thing is that if you can go no contact WITH YOUR OWN MOTHER, it's easier to go no contact with anyone else if need be.

[@MentalHealness]

That is true. Stay strong

[@jameskielczynski3299]

@Too Much Amen! He is the one to thank!! If it wasn't for Him, my narc mom would have destroyed me or she would have pressured me into destroying myself.

[@5Luckyducky]

Do what you got to do for your sanity.

[@IAMABUNDANT888]

Ditto.

[@krystaldee22]

True, I’ve gone no contact with my parents and rn permanently no contact with my dad. It’s so much easier to cut off anyone now.

[@marjoriegarner5369]

Write it down, a diary of what they do/ say. The most hurtful stuff...and how you feel. Then go back and read it when you're tempted to go back...to the same old crap. Don't go back to the same old crap. Remind yourself of what it was, and will be, again, if you go back. Only it will be worse, for they feel they must punish you. And they will. I remember, it was 40 years ago with my abuser. Through research and experience by therapists, it is known that the victim will go back maybe seven times, until they leave for good, or, until they are killed. My abuser was a Golden Gloves boxer. Think of the OJ case. Yes, it happens. If you're not physically killed, the destruction to your mind, emotions, whatever...it stays with you for years, if not forever. I'm 80 next year. I realized twenty years ago that I had no more time to waste with a soul murdering narc. Please. No contact. Make contact with your Soul, and love your soul. Your time and life are valuable. It's an addiction, to a drug. The drug of false love. A narc can't love, they don't know how. I've been alone for over twenty years, and it's safer and saner. Trust me. Would I lie to you?. No. Great grandmothers don't do that. We are too tired to mess with "stupid" anymore.

[@JJ-iq8mi]

I did just that! Its so powerful to re-read it and so very sad that I let myself be treated that way in the first place.

[@yolandaeaves9034]

Great advice! Such wisdom.

[@rpmcmurphey927]

God bless you. ❤

[@scarletRN]

Thank you!!

[@1010QUEEN7]

WOW 🥰🥰🥰

[@tammyw986]

15 months no contact and moved to another area and now life is so great..healed my mind and spirit. After 23 years of Narc abuse I finally know my worth. Thank you for the Narcissist perspective.

[@glendoravalentine5555]

After 17 yrs with a narcissistic ex leaving numerous times and going back each time things got worse, thinking my strong love for him would change him, being accused of everything under the sun, being totally manipulated, lied to, abused emotionally, physically, and sexually I finally mustered up the strength I needed to leave for good and go no contact. It's been three yrs. I also had to go no contact with an ex brother because of his narcissism they're both dead to me even though they're both still alive. The best decision I've made for my life I'm 61 yrs old and feel like a teenager enjoying my life💯🙏🏾🥰💃🏿🙌🏾

[@mrsfox8262]

I'm so relieved for you... Well done.

[@pamelamartin3125]

Wow

[@sweetbabe3539]

So happy for you!

[@andreabobbette825]

Stay blessed.

[@Reclusive_Butterfly]

I went through the same exact thing. I finally left my husband for good this time. Waiting to file divorce.

[@azureenicole]

It was easy as hell cutting my Narc off , I was mentally checked out the 2nd month In, I was trying to to be understanding and gave my narc the benefit of the doubt everytime till my body just had to follow suit. It’s been 3 months no contact with a protection order in place! It’s been so freeing , rejuvenating and I’m able to connect back with God because he never left me in the first place. Glory be to God 💯

[@SherryONeill]

Amen!!!

[@freshmanjeans]

Yep after the 2nd month few incidents after that . I can’t tell he wanted to keep me to show disrespect and I’m glad I been checked out and also prayer help and listening to God helps more. After my Prayer God told me to block his numbers out of all my phone

[@sylviakelly2976]

After the first break up and going no contact----I got so sick. Ended up in the hospital for a month. We ended up reconnecting while I was in the hospital. Long story short, tomorrow will be a week since my final breakup...NO CONTACT EVER! He made small strides- but realizing marriage would NEVER WORK. He just loves himself and doesn't give a shit about me. I must have had lack of oxygen to my brain for too long when I was in the hospital !! Narcissists are sad characters.

[@tcaper7791]

Amen

[@zionsime9228]

That's right in the 2 month. And yes all the praise to Jesus blocked 🚫 him. Change my number. And back to my Jesus!!!! Amennnn

[@shaleykala2871]

“Choosing you feels selfish” this is SO TRUE. At the beginning of the journey after I moved out and filed for divorce, and went no contact, I felt like I didn’t even know what to do with all the extra energy I suddenly had.. that I was giving ALL to him

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏽

[@Jennyfrmtheblk28]

Thank you so much for this! I just blocked my ex on everything after watching this video. I couldn't take him messing with my mind anymore. It literally was making me crazy and diverting focus onto him instead of what I need to be doing in life. I feel so much better already! ❤️

[@yebeitituskiplimo2967]

They can drain your entire energy

[@AkaRuby]

Went no contact 3 years ago. It took 2 years to feel normal again. Now I'm focused on raising my kids to be kind and independent and focusing on my goals. PT 🤩

[@anccarter]

Do you have kids with the narcissist?

[@michelleday5045]

It's been nearly 9 months. It's difficult and painful at the beginning but it can be done. I have blocked everything!! I feel so much better. Think survival. Someone had to go and I decided I needed to survive.

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Jokaanan]

Hearing you say these words made me sob uncontrollably, I cried it all out - after spending a day guilt-tripping myself and tearing myself down - hearing you say this just shone a light through all of that and brought me back to catharsis. Thank you "Are you making the right decision? Yes! You are choosing you... I know you been beaten down by the narcissist so long that choosing you feels weird, choosing you feels like it's not the right thing to do. But you are just literally choosing you."

[@thebest5786]

that part made me cry too

[@oliviavaldez8961]

@@thebest5786 me three!

[@JL-ws1gi]

Blessings 🙌🏼

[@moriahaddison]

Yes that part

[@StayFocusedStayHumble]

Its been almost 10 mths since cut off, blocked, and no contact. My heart is still in love, but I have peace, and it gets better with time. The heartbreak and loss I suffered fueled by his lack of concern makes it easy to say f**k him. Head over heart decisions people. You can do it. And pride and ego will keep them from asking others to contact you. They loss....and door opens to new love, self healing, and blessings.❤

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong

[@tinypea]

thank you I moved to another town a month ago without telling him he literally doesn't know where our daughter is he knows she is with me and safe. Even she feels better but she misses dad as well

[@freshmanjeans]

It’s crazy these stories of how a lot of y’all stayed in that long. Love light and healing. Y’all pay attention I didn’t less a few months I new it was over the first month just alone the conversation that he would have with me and his actions was awkward so I blocked him every where and never looked back. Plus they don’t know how to communicate apologize and or admit to anything so why would they even reach out. They are embarrassed

[@StayFocusedStayHumble]

@@freshmanjeans narcissist pretend well, some for years. Everybody situation is not the same. Some narcissist don't show they hand in a month time.

[@koolkat2867]

Im also on month 10 same cut off, blocked , Nc..I miss him all the time but just couldn't do it anymore esp since he broke my heart, then played game after on me and I know he used the same stupid ass lines and my own song /nickname I chose on other nasty chicks . just dang ya know? He was the type that never apologized and and reason for everything.

[@chelsealouise2750]

4 years together. Broke up 6 weeks ago. Today is day 2 of no contact... yesterday was horrible, today is okay

[@rxgirl9609]

Get back to exploring things you love to do for yourself and have fun being free from stress!! Set goals and focus on what makes you happy, accomplished and motivated.😊🙌🙌🙌 Pray for direction.🙏😇

[@chelsealouise2750]

@@rxgirl9609 hey! Thank you! I'm actually better than ever! I found a new man, started driving lessons, made new friends, I'm much more happier 💕

[@racerx2348]

update?

[@RondaSmith144Empress]

3 yrs NO contact NO communication permanently 😎. The Most High and your spiritual team will handle them so you just keep winning and protecting your energy unapologetically!

[@ElectricMaryJane]

I have so much respect for you because very few people let alone men let alone a recovering narcissist would admit and create a channel ✨

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@moniquelovely28]

Thank you

[@audreyhorne2958]

I dont think it is about admitting but respect mostly that someone is doing the work by being in therapy and woking through self-reflection and observation etc

[@megg.6651]

SAM VAKNIN - the original narc!

[@donnamaco1]

@@MentalHealness Admit that the complements act as quality supply. Beautiful women praising you. Fun to watch this dynamic. I subscribed.

[@michaelfarnham2756]

I've been doing no contact for 6 weeks now, it absolutely sucks, hope it gets easier...I did love her, the great times were great, but the bad times were baaaaaaaad !!! Thanks bro!!!

[@FK-cg8el]

Don't break the no contact I promise you will regret as soon as you have you gone say to your self sh...... why did I do that and will be nice for few days But there games will get way worse Please love your self And never let them in again

[@dodibenabba1378]

Try Shaneen Mehaji channel the woman is a genius. I'm going through the same after 32 years of marriage. They never loved you, they only love themselves. It gets easier when you realise it was all a big lie

[@trobinson3142]

SO TRUE! When things are good they're so good and BAD omg HOW BAD 😞

[@carminesousa4147]

The no contact does suck but i know i did the right thing in breaking up with him and after 3 years together he already found a new girlfriend. It hurts but it’s time i began to heal. Thank you for comment bc i agree good times were great but unfortunately the bad times outweigh the good

[@pierre-philipmartin2009]

Going through the same. Hope you're doing great!

[@kittenzombie01]

My Ex of 17 years said you mean to tell me we can’t find a way to make it work after all these years. No. I’m done, fintó, over, whatever time I have left on this earth I will spend it loving me, myself and I. God it feels good to breath and be me.🙏😃🥳

[@1010QUEEN7]

I feel the same way I want to live the rest of my life free and in peace

[@kittenzombie01]

@@1010QUEEN7 and you shall🙏 you are a Warrior 💗

[@mr.makedonija2627]

@@kittenzombie01 how do u know?

[@blacklove804]

Did y'all have children together

[@1010QUEEN7]

@@kittenzombie01 ❣❣❣

[@jos9569]

After going no-contact for over a decade, I completely agree that it works. It's not easy, but it's 100% necessary. Peace is worth the work. You will NEVER have a happy close relationship with a narc. There is no benefit for them to change to make YOU happy. They want ALL the control and NONE of the responsibility.

[@archiann_14]

After a year of ghosting, my narc ex suddenly messaged as if nothing happened. No contact is the only option and the most powerful strike at their fragile ego.

[@mitzzydavila9190]

No contact 3 months and every day it gets better and better. I’m so happy this person is out of my life. I don’t even feel a need to expose this person. I have something he will never have, I am secure. And nothing he has tried to throw my way, including all the forms of contact you mentioned, will ever affect me. Cause it’s OVER!!! Boss up, ladies. Thank you for your content. It’s helped me in many ways. Good people do exist. 💪🏽

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong for real

[@doristaylor9292]

Ayeeeeee. That's right honey! Bossing up is the way to get better and get rid of that roach narc.

[@LisaSF2010]

2 months of no contact...not ever going back 🙌🏽 Thank you for the insight Lee! No contact 👏🏽👏🏽

[@MentalHealness]

Appreciate it. Stay strong

[@maryanderson2759]

After what I considered the final straw it felt like a curtain came down. He was unable to hurt me any more. I put my feet on the floor that morning and it felt , for the first time in a long time, that I was in control of my life. Greatest, most freeing feeling ever

[@cynthiahassan9839]

Had the final straw a month ago. No tantrums since. I hit him across the face with a metal ladle.. just too much. But we occupy the same house Yes. But we are in our 80s. Only recently knew what the hell he was having. Thot manic depression then alzaimers

[@madriwilliams]

I’m going no contact, starting today. I hate feeling depressed.He says he’s not responsible for my feelings. It’s been three years in this situation-ship. I’m tired of the emotional roller coaster. I feel like he’s punishing me for liking him. I’m tired of showing him how much I care about him. I’m caring for myself and my family. Everything I have done for him, I’m doing for myself and my family. Thank you for sharing your mindset. I truly understand who I’m dealing with. Thank you for your generosity and contribution to us empaths,

[@southchild_]

“Not responsible for your feelings” is such a gaslight thing to say. My ex would say things along those lines all the time. They makes promises to change but they know exactly the things to do to hurt you and they do it without a care in the world until you try to hold them accountable. I was in mine for 2 years, and now it’s been 2 years since. I have gone no contact for 1.5 years now and still get stalked/harassed online but it’s nothing when all I have to do is remember him miserable and emotionally exhausted he made me. I am so happy now and I believe the same blessings will come to you just so long as you keep that negativity out of your life. Remember, they don’t control you anymore, put yourself first. Stay strong you can do it! 💪

[@killodendron]

"I feel like he's punishing me for liking him" YUP!

[@miss.jenny.b]

@@southchild_ He IS punishing you for liking him. Why? Because even he doesn't like him so how can you? He know's he's trash and hates himself therefore you perceiving 'value' in him upsets him. He can't live up to your potential because he actually doesn't have any, you just imagined it. It's OK. Lots of us do this. An the not responsible for your feelings thing is because they are low in empathy and therefore able to 'compartmentalize'. Its a fancy word for saying they are simple minded and keep things in tiny neat boxes even if they are unhealthy for them. Its like having two parts of your brain but not allowing them to communicate with each other.

[@rayewilliams4431]

In the span of 20 years, went through three ferocious narcissists in my life. If it had not been for Almighty Creator I would have been dead many times so far.

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong

[@rayewilliams4431]

@@MentalHealness Thanks for your kind strengthening words. It has been over 3 years now of NO CONTACT except an encounter or two in dreams. I am still healing from the wicked wounds these narcissists inflicted upon unto me from time to time.

[@lorainegardener559]

God will deal with them God bless you

[@sinceresong9907]

Why you sharing this with another abuser

[@hoppiw5735]

@@sinceresong9907 exactly....he's only feeding off what others say, just repeating what they say to him, pretending to being sympathetic

[@JC-ve8bk]

16 yrs. . . .5 children. . . .and I've FINALLY "Blocked". . . Day 1. . .more to go! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🧘🏿‍♀️🧘🏿‍♀️🧘🏿‍♀️

[@jesuisvanessawilkerson7011]

How's it going?

[@ARMONIXCHANGE]

Thank you for this. I went no contact with my mama (textbook narcissist, I mean almost every single symptom) it’s coming up on 17 months. She’s had family I haven’t spoken to in almost a decade reaching out to me, emailed me on Christmas and then having people do wellness checks on because she thought I was hurt 😂 I’m not sure why she thought I was joking when I said I’ll never speak to her again. My life has been so peaceful. I’m finally getting to know myself at 24 years old, I feel so stunted but I’m getting where I need to be 🦋

[@angecynthia347]

@@dominiquelarkin795 almost a year

[@CC-wy1gn]

Congratulations! Early bird. I just went no contact at 47 years old.

[@Macy-hg2or]

Im very sad for your pain. I grew up in a family where children were not worthy of affection or praise. But by the man I loved, devastating!

[@jasmyneartis5867]

I’m here because I was with my ex narc for ten years , then we broke up for a year , then 2 months ago I let him bk in , things didn’t go well at all , never go bk y’all .. no contact 🙅🏽‍♀️

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong on your journey

[@tamerakennedy6893]

I did the same smh

[@jacquelinecruz3778]

Lee you are on fire!!! When you are strong we get strong

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you. !!!

[@internetdweeb4115]

The self awareness you possess is incredibly admirable. Your delivery is so charming it’s kind of terrifying to think of the damage you’d do without that awareness.

[@MyBluebonnet]

The crazy part is that the Narcissist does so much removal with their affection, silent treatment, withdraw that unconsciously (at least for me)I was growing used to being alone I was practically alone but in a ''relationship'' So unknowingly I was actually getting used to the idea of living without them. What saved me is that I just happened to be so busy (medical school) at a very specific moment when he decided to punish me by IGNORING ME. What would have felt like months of torture drifted by like nothing and I just decided not to answer his last calls or even meet up!! BEEN FREE EVER SINCE LIVING MY BEST LIFE!!!! XOX

[@kferrette85]

The limited affection or removal of it and silent treatments hurt me the worst

[@MyBluebonnet]

@@kferrette85 I agree 100 PERCENT!! That's why in those moments I would pick up hobbies and entertainment, nothing feels better than to name things that you have been mastering while they decided to ''punish'' you!

[@ludlowbuckley5373]

This is the first channel I’ve seen that speaks directly from the narcissist point of view! Great content, Subscribed!!!🔔

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@oldschoolcollodion]

Yes ✨ been 1 month. Started therapy twice a month. I swear since I ripped the bandaid off amazing things just started falling into my lap. It isn’t easy, when you’ve been talking to the person nearly everyday, painful, but liberating.

[@bethana4685]

I’m on no contact for the second time now. I contacted after a month of no contact, the pain was unbearable, so I sent an email, and I let him back in. The beginning was perfect, I thought he was a changed man, I was wiser too…no. The poking and provoking started and the sick jealousy…so I had to do it again, I’m back at square one. It’s hard, it’s like withdrawals. So thanks for your videos, im trying hard.

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong out here

[@BoujeeM_M]

Don't give up or beat yourself up for breaking "no contact". I went in circles for 5 years and it actually took professional counseling for me to finally walk away. It's not easy, it's going on 2 years "no contact". I had moments in between of weakness and wanted to reach out, but now I love my life so much. Be strong what you are doing isn't easy but I guarantee you "no contact" is works

[@SherryONeill]

The Withdrawal Is The Hardest Part I Have To Keep ReMinding myself What I Saw Two Weeks Ago

[@BACKNE]

It's hard and I'm rooting for you love ❤️ Choose the pain that will help

[@BoujeeM_M]

@@BACKNE "Choose the pain that helps" I love this

[@Clarice-rp7mh]

No contact for 8 months, then in court for mediation and final divorce hearing. I did not sleep for more than a couple of hours a night. It was a torturous two weeks. After 42 years of marriage I am finally free. No contact, definitely. I pray my children will realize that.

[@mahalharoui4900]

I've ghosted my N around his birthday, worked great. And let me tell you, you've got ballz for exposing yourself like this. I have remote respect for you!

[@MentalHealness]

Thanks for sharing. I appreciate it

[@donnamaco1]

He is getting quality supply while doing these videos.

[@Nikoletak23]

How did he react?

[@DianaHernandez-gv7fc]

I have been a narcissistic liar. Like him in a way. I don't want to be like that so I've been trying to change. But i do feel the supply from telling on other liars now. They deserve it. It's like my self hatred is redirected to people like me now (liars). Maybe by being this open about himself he plans on his wife coming back to him eventually.

[@mahalharoui4900]

@@Nikoletak23 no words first, then raged at me. 27 IM's all blame and criticism. It's long gone now 😂 blocked his ass and moved on.

[@itistheway1911]

He put his hands on me and denied it happened! Damn he's insane. 3 months that I left. Came to my house kept a straight face told him I was done. Crocodile tears.... calls me and texts....Its so hard because I actually feel sorry for him. His mom is the main narc in the family. It doesn't help that he lives with her. It's almost like she was jelous of me. Talked bad about him all the time yet enabled his behavior. I pray for strength to break this trauma bond.

[@MegaLadylove2012]

Don’t feel sorry for him!

[@MentalHealness]

what he went through doesn't give him the right the right to treat you badly

[@imconcerned5947]

Same,with me, his mother spoke so bad of him, she had many things to share with me about his attitude and she would mould me on how to stay with him and ignore him. And she kept saying that I am the right one for him..But strangely, when I got discarded, she is supported him, and babies him now, she gives him a pacifier.

[@gamingwithjohnathan8539]

I went through same thing! Now I see the same manipulation tactics his mom used on him..I saw him using on me....i

[@itistheway1911]

@@gamingwithjohnathan8539 they're all the same. Such evil human beings. They deliberately treat you like trash and still have the nerve to make you feel guilty for walking away. You all are in my prayers

[@sleeperno1215]

Face to face contact is essential for the narcissist. They will have the audacity to treat you like shit then make a point to show up face to face when they want something because they know it is harder for you to say no.

[@strugglingmillennial1298]

It’s very interesting to hear this perspective. Went “No Contact” after being assaulted by a Narc. He knows not to mess with me since he now has a police report under his belt. Some of these individuals are very dangerous! Stay safe everyone.

[@MentalHealness]

stay safe

[@bluddielevene5927]

🤣🤣🤣🤣..I can relate. Thank you

[@kikikiki3216]

@@MentalHealness omg my ex bf was stalking me up until last weekend.., I went no contact with him... He even came around my house, called several times with private number. I picked at one point, he sounded polite and was pleading for me to get back with him. Is said no and I was firm....he said all sorts... that am being too hard on him 🙄 etc... I looked outside and this guy was packed in the car park opposite my house... A part of me keeps thinking that he will keep stalking me. He said he will keep trying to get me back, please I should unblock him. Please what do you think I should do moving on?

[@cherylkay1636]

Not true…a narcissist knows no boundaries…the thrill of going against a protection order is more fulfilling for him than respecting ur space…telling them no makes them want whateva it is that much more…they are leeches…they suck until ur dry 😬

[@naturalflower8227]

@@kikikiki3216 And how is it going now? Were u able to get “rid” of him? My ex stalks me too when I go no contact. He Made so many fake SM accounts and calls me with different Numbers. if I keep ignoring him he just comes to my house. Sometimes I don’t let him in and sometimes I do. Im so tired of this on and of relationship. And the thing is each time I break up with him he acts like he do’t care. But between a week or month he tries to come back acting like nothing happened. Im tried of this toxic cycle

[@Azizajewelry]

No contact works!! At first it’s tough but the great thing about being away from that person is having the solitude and peace of mind to be able to evaluate your relationship and see how you Can prevent this dynamic from occurring with anyone else in the future and stop dismissing red flags. Discovered my issue was I was always gaslit as a child and told my intuition was wrong and I was constantly taught to betray my inner knowing… so I learned to stop trusting myself and always thought everything was my fault and everyone else was always right and it caused me low self esteem. Now that I’ve been no contact I see how they gaslit and manipulated me which made me no longer trust my woman’s intuition even though I was right all along.

[@mshotnsour]

I caught my ex working on his new supple. The look on his face was priceless. Before I could try the no contact. He was already getting ready to discard me.

[@RalphbeingRalph]

Blessing

[@heathernoelle8725]

You just caught him THAT time - he had hidden supply on all levels all along.

[@mshotnsour]

Yes there was more. I was an idiot that didn’t know any better.

[@miss.jenny.b]

@@mshotnsour You are not an idiot just because you chose to love an idiot. Understand the difference please.

[@baldwinhillzbrattt]

"If you have to get the POLICE involved don't threaten it .. DOOOOO IIITTTTT!!!!" 💯

[@Jessica-zf2df]

After years of feeling like your heart has been through the wringer, years of misery and confusion because you never know what you are to him, going no contact may be the only sensible thing to do. But it can be like giving up hope. Admitting defeat. He's still there under your skin. If only there was a way to fast forward time to 2 years ahead when you know that's how long it's going to take to feel truly indifferent.

[@sarahstefek1631]

No one seems to ever talk about when the narcissist doesn't try to reach out. They do the silent treatment to punish you for going no contact. I wasn't even discarded. I walked away and didn't respond to his last text...complete silence ever since. I guess some narc's egos are so big, they protect that over ever trying to speak to you again...I'm 50 days in, so I guess I'm secretly wishing for a hoover still...can't break the trauma bond even though I'm staying strong and doing the right thing

[@MentalHealness]

I have a bunch of vids on that. One technique is called the “reverse Hoover”

[@ericwood3603]

@@MentalHealness I am in the same situation. I too wish for some contact. I miss her like crazy still after two months!

[@Hotpink770]

​@@MentalHealness hello,could you please tell me the videos' names? Thanks

[@Carnage84587]

I have a coworker that hooks up with me, thrn goes entirely cold and silent treats me for months, starts to absolutely trash me to other people, then starts to show her jealousy when i talk to any females, then she comes back. Then the cycle repeats. Now shes mad at me for something i didnt even do, thr other guy came clean about it and confronted her - she tells my close work friend that she wants to apologize bc i didnt do anything but wont bc of how itll look - and continues to trash me even thougj we havent spoken for a month.

[@Amyt31]

Mine was almost 6 months then suddenly mothers day and birthday gifts. We do have a son but he usually communicates with him because he is a teenager.

[@pattysnacks6429]

Sending the pictures, memes, sending money and gifts...That’s true...I’ve been no contact since September of last year and I feel great.

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong

[@rosalynjolly2565]

One thing grown people must realize you cant make anyone do anything.They do it because they want too!!!!

[@redbone8844]

Don’t forget the songs smh 🤦‍♀️ mind you these people be way too old to act the way they do!!! They all have Peter Pan syndrome it’s sad!

[@sandygrays4066]

Me too... loving my beautiful life... glad I'm rid of him.....no kids... love my single life.... I went no contact September last year just like you.... I feel so good..... Good luck and. Be safe....S

[@redbone8844]

@@sandygrays4066 I concur I’m enjoying every moment I actually feel lighter in weight sounds funny but you catch my drift!

[@sweetrose813]

Narcissism comes from a spirit of Jezebel. The need to exalt itself above God, the Bible says they love Darkness more than light because their deeds are evil

[@JaninaTylr]

🙌🏽I have also been able to make the exact same connections.

[@aubreyjames8795]

No they dont. Its a practicality invented by real life, human circumstances. They usually figure out early in life that you must manipulate to be someone. They are constantly in a desperate state.

[@jeffytodd4261]

Yep

[@bigmamaL]

Would you please elaborate?

[@JaninaTylr]

@@bigmamaL There are KZbin videos and Christian base books the go further into detail on its characteristics. They are exactly the same.

[@patriciajohnson6653]

You're the MOST DELIGHTFUL NARCISSISTS I'VE EVER ENCIUNTERED. THANK YIU SO MUCH FOR YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON SAVING OURSELVES FROM THE NARCISSISTS...SO WE MIGHT STOP DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AND OVER SGAIN EITH DIFFERENT PEOPLE BUT STILL NARCISSIST AND EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS. YOU'RE INVALUABLE TO ME.

[@daisyhernandez879]

Been in no contact with my ex boyfriend for 6 months now. The first few weeks/months were torture for me because all I wanted to do was reach out to him and talk to him. After I found out he started seeing another girl is when I knew I had to completely erase him from my life basically act like he's dead to me. It's hard but each day gets a little bit easier. I honestly still think about him a lot like now obviously but I've learned how to live my life without him.

[@shahinazfathy8066]

I had the same exact thing and he was projecting his issues on me , accusing me all the time that iam ( codependent,lost and not a grown up) He love bombed me in the beginning and then started to change ,, i felt he's cheating on me with a girl who was calling a friend and actually they hooked up after our break up by 2 weeks ! And he accused me that I didn't love him and he was the one who dated after our break up not me ! I was amazed by how he cried on the day we broke up ! He's sick and I don't want him back .. ( he blocked me from social media when he dated her)

[@karriesaunders8597]

I forgot they mirror,I said we were going no contact so he went no contact,what a dickhead.

[@Malvica92]

This kinda helps me... I'm struggling so much to stay no contact with my ex... It's difficult but it needs to be done

[@kandiceduckett903]

@@Malvica92 that's because you are trauma bonded.

[@ElephantInTheRoom777]

Do your grieving. I cried like I hadn't in years. Deep soul cries. It's such a shame that things had to end this way. But like you said things get better day by day.

[@janetfranceschini4403]

I'm watching all of your videos August 2021 and I am crying. I'm so exhausted of "dating" being in an exclusive relationship (even though he wasn't) I've been beaten down with not knowing where we stand, being played constantly, being lied too.... I'm mentally exhausted and hurt. Thank you for opening my eyes

[@patriciajohnson6653]

I"m delighted that you moved out of living in your vehicle into your utility shed....lol...adore you soul..Thank You for giving my resolvr to get away from 8 neighbors led by an unbelievable narcissits..lose my house..get no vintact to save myself ftom these sicker than me after 20+ years of not really knowing what's wrong with this group. Applause. GRATITUDENOUS TO YOU!!!

[@BD-ut8pc]

The narc hunted me since I was 16 years old. I finally gave him a chance at 18 and now I’m 28 and finally woke up. Thank God for these videos or I would be stuck in his world. It’s sad to think about what I put up with but I’m happy to know that God was just waiting for me on the other end with brighter days ♥️ all I can do is pray for him.

[@MentalHealness]

stay safe and empowered on your healing journey

[@rachellewis5016]

‘Hunting’ is a great way to explain what they do.

[@Vivley93]

the most loved narcissist out there! thank you for your help on tik tok and KZbin!

[@MentalHealness]

Wow, thank you!

[@MegaLadylove2012]

Really na 🤣

[@darkflower78]

@@MentalHealness You’re so appreciated, Lee! I’m smiling when I say this but some people might think you’re an easy target. You might be the representative for the narc nation.

[@iampearl__y]

We’re blessed to have you. Thanks 😊 Recently, I’ve been thinking all these personality disorders has be from pit of hell. The devil is trying so hard to destroy humanity. Narcissism, schizophrenia, bipolar, drug addiction and so many more. Despite knowing the basics of narcissism, it’s just still as confusing for non-narcissists to phantom all these.

[@dianelamorticella6053]

If my mother wanted me in her life, she should not have tossed me aside, a few days before Christmas, almost 2 years ago! Bye Felicia! Adios! Best thing that ever happened! I’m stronger now!

[@miovicdina7706]

Mine - on Christmas Eve! For. real. It's been years of no contact, what a bliss 😇

[@babynarc4507]

The amount of pain I feel from the heartache of no contact and the ache I feel from missing him still can't compare to the bliss I feel from the peace I get when I'm not interacting with this fool. No contact really is the best in the long run. Just give it some time.

[@ZP916]

Are the tears actually fear of losing the other person? Are the tears totally fake? Are they just fear of losing control/being 'abandoned'? The ability to cry and lie through their teeth about changing was always the most mind blowing to me.

[@ThePursuitofHappinesswithDavid]

The tears were real and the feeling was real. Im here to better understand my self.

[@GM-nf4bw]

I'm going to watch this everytime I want to contact him! I was so tempted to call him. But then I found you!! You actually have me laughing! Love it when you said, "We can do this, u and me".I so needed that! Thank you 🙏

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome 🙌🏾🙏🏽

[@adeolaadebiyi3004]

Do not call

[@yadirahlampkin9282]

I finally got tired. My peace is non negotiable. Unlike other times, today I am free and well and life gets better and better with each passing day. Blessings to all!!

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong

[@thedancingdogs4400]

my narcissistic dad kicked me out just over 3 years ago. i went no contact after that, despite his constant spewing of verbal abuse toward me and my mom. now he’s trying to worm his way back into my life and i’m shutting him down. it’s nice to finally have the power back.

[@shannabeasley11]

I’m sure you get this a lot but from the bottom of my empathetic heart, thank you for sharing these “secrets” to the world. I’ve been burned by 2 narcissists. One of which tried to kill me.. very literally. I had to heal myself and dig deep and pull out what was within me that was attracting so many narcissists. Your channel and dedication to helping those like me are working miracles. Please do not stop. You have no idea the impact you’re making. I’m forever grateful. It’s very unusual and hard for a narcissist to come forth and admit to these things. The only explanation is that God is working within you to stop the abuse on empaths. Thank you.

[@kygurl1299]

Thank you for these videos. My ex made me feel like I was crazy and everything was my fault. No matter how much I tried and how much love I gave it never changed or was enough. Now I know why.

[@MentalHealness]

Thanks for sharing!

[@chinmiyi390]

My ex told me that I was needy, lazy, and careless, while I cleaned his place, did his stanky laundry, work 9 hours a day and bring fresh food for him for five years. Last night I had to stop by his place to get my stuff and the place was so messy. His bottom of feet were filthy. I am glad that I don't have to be his servant anymore.

[@miss.jenny.b]

@@chinmiyi390 Ew. Gross. I'm glad too! Find someone that will equally serve you back. That's what true love is.

[@sweetoneloves6811]

dAMMMM 11:42 YOU know the traits , I am really inspired by your channel, you are telling the truth of a NPD person. This gives me chills, I survived and moved on. I had to come back just to hear this again. Preach on the truth LEE, OMG thank you for your pure truth of Narcissists. Dr. Phil and Oprah do not have nothing on you, Wish you had a show on Tv.

[@mariannekoroleva6495]

No contact is a healthy alternative to the dangerous narcisstic lack of Love... Many great thanks!!

[@elhadjdiallo633]

Narcissists have ruined millions of lives in this universe!!!!!!

[@jodibebon6545]

Literally in tears, again, listening to this. Why can't I just choose me??

[@MentalHealness]

it's difficult because you've probably been conditioned to think that choosing you is selfish or you've been made to feel guilty for it.

[@gusoliverbar9392]

You can't chose you because you invested emotionally and created memories that are really real for you. I had been fighting against my feelings for two years and that is a waist of time. All I can do is to accept that someone manipulated my sense of reality and the only option I have is to obliterate this chapter of my life completely. Watch the videos from Doctor Ramani. I had to convince myself over and over to be able to move on. I'm sorry! But take the time to understand not just what's going on with you but society in general and minimize or cut off all the other narcissists you probably have in your life. Piece!

[@wrxrob2589]

The person you thought he was wasn’t real, it was all a lie, you miss the person you had built in your mind.

[@CL-fs3kt]

Choose you. Look up radical acceptance by Dr. Ramani. You’re holding onto hope when there is none. The only time you can have hope is when they do something to change their behavior and by that time you’d have already changed into a stronger person yourself. Just leave

[@jazbogideon7050]

It’s mental conditioning. They think of you like a dog, they train you and then dominate

[@220hm]

I can't believe how true all this is. So familiar. No contact has worked the best for me.

[@monicathompson9751]

Thank you for the analogy of falling down and getting back up.. I keep falling, but I'm going to win..and stay NO Contact!!!!

[@gernerart]

I love that I get this perspective from an actual narcissist. And I’m glad I dated a narcissist recently for only 3 months and treated him only with with love and respect. It’s satisfying knowing that he might actually have a conscience and be hurting from me blocking him and disappearing. I had the feeling that he was actually really hurting that I disappeared. I think I might have taught him a valuable lesson about self worth and that it’s not okay to treat people this way. Thank you. It’s so cool you get on here and talk about this real stuff from the perspective of being a narcissist!

[@melmilward]

Are you still with your wife ? I am so in love with my partner who has started to watch your channel and say he realises he has narc traits ..

[@dianepinkyharman1346]

Love you Lee. You are the best...... You are working it and making a negative into a positive. I know why people watch you. You are an inspirational.. No contact is the only way.

[@oscarwilliamson6163]

Diane Pinky Harman,Hope you are not with a narcissist...

[@stayreal5083]

I would like to wish you the best on your mental journey on bettering yourself and thank you for helping others in the process.

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@brittanyking5188]

@@MentalHealness how do I do one on one ?

[@margiecook6879]

This is coming from an OLD lady. 😊 I think it's lovely that you recognize and try to fix it, and try your hardest to help others. I myself am married to a narcissist. It's taken me 30 years to straighten him out. It was hard. It took ALL of my strength but finally, he's got some act right in him. I still love to watch your videos. They really are helpful. I really just wanted to say thank you. ❤

[@anniebethea7838]

thank you for your insight. Today is my first day of no contact. I would not have had the strength without your videos.Thank You!

[@usmc-brian6575]

It is interesting when you say, "choose you", "we would choose us", so "why not choose you". Getting into that stage of ghosting and going no contact, you then state, "ok, you win." If I may, the ANNOYING (emotional rise) aspect of this is, they (narc) depending on the depth (covertness), may take this as a challenge as the people in their lives, even family portray competition; it's not always like that - it is also mentally exhausting... But, that is the "rise" and "they" also know it gets to you. Life is not a game and with unity comes power. It is nice to see someone step up and speak out on this as self-aware. Thank you for your post.

[@freshmanjeans]

Even family portray competition

[@Jmnicole.Ludtke]

Your honesty is amazing. Thank you!

[@MentalHealness]

You are so welcome!

[@corneliamsomi1262]

"No contact is a marathon" well said. 👌

[@clauaome25]

Break up was terrible. I think it was the worst break up I've ever had. He's like "let's be friends". I'm like, sure but I'll treat you as one. He goes bat shit crazy. Trying to draw my attention. He even went to show me his new supply. I didn't say aaaaaanything. I simply blocked without a warning, anywhere and everywhere. Gave him the boot!!!!

[@Lea-iv4gn]

Mine did the same after promising and planning marriage. He had the audacity to tell me 'Let's date, but I ain't sure about marriage.' FUCKING BITCH 😒

[@marcettalewis464]

I have kids with my husband who is a narc and I still cut his butt off period, they are nuts. I had to get a restraining order and its been 6 months honestly it has been better since no contact. I left him during Christmas time 2020.

[@ENNARELL]

Do you co-parent?

[@darkflower78]

@@ENNARELL Such a good question but I think it’s something that the parent has to think about. Balancing your mental health, your children, the rights of the other parent (the narc), etc. How can you make it work co-parenting and still heal from what happened?

[@kwashaburts933]

@@darkflower78 you can't heal with contact. They live giving babies to keep u trapped.

[@societiesscapegoat8715]

@@ENNARELL Narcs don’t co-parent, they do the complete opposite and don’t give a damn about the kids being collateral damage. Better no contact for the kids as well.

[@karinah.6516]

@@societiesscapegoat8715 that’s tough to hear but most likely true.

[@i_am_eve]

„You‘ve been pleasing the narcissist for so long that choosing you feels selfish.“ That hit hard… so true! „I want to be needed. I want to be in total control of everything.“ THAT is why no contact is the path! „If I find no way to contact you … you win.“ That is the core message here. Thank you for reminding me! 🙌🏼

[@patriciastayton3774]

being married to a narcissist made me fall out of love , my soon to be ex husband pushed me to the point of I did not and don't want anything to do with him.

[@jamesarmstrong4179]

Patricia Stayton, you are beautiful,hope you are not with a narcissist....

[@millennialqueen604]

SAME! Blessings to you on your new journey!!

[@bettychacon7114]

I love your analogy! It is exactly like that. I use to tell my ex-narrcissist he is like a toddler throwing a temper tantrum.

[@cwalling100]

Thank you. This was extremely helpful for me. You are courageous.

[@cathy_clarinet]

My 2nd watching on this. I’m NC, but I get feelings of guilt. This is helping so much. Especially when you say that they do know what they did

[@laverneskipper2004]

Thank you for enlightening me about how you guys really think. This is really helping me end this toxic relationship that I been in for 8 years. Please continue helping us.

[@hg5507]

Yes. Going back never fixed anything. Relationship breaks do no work. No contact is the only way

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@tayfredette535]

i found your vids from tik tok, and i just can’t believe how accurate they all are

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong

[@sweetie9617]

Sooo true, took him back when I 1st tried no contact & ended up in the emergency room w/a gash in the back of my head, black eye & concussion . Been no contact since Nov 14th 2021! I’m still winning 🏅! Thanx for your videos!!

[@kadedraduke]

I'm sorry you had to go through such..I'm glad you're doing better now🥰🥰💪💪

[@nellabarricelli422]

Thankyou for being so honest about yourself and the issue.

[@barbarahering1310]

It’s really unfortunate that narcissist have good people around them , hurt them and they can’t see that the other person is normal and they expect normal. So sad.