The Narcissists LAST TRICK Before They Leave

[@sandramallory4382]

The last trick for me was him coming back with flowers in hand one day and a week later going cold and distant. They never change.

[@woutersysmans4497]

That sucks sandra i have being divorced from a female narcistic person i stil need to heal after 2 years 😢

[@palapalak.8907]

Wow

[@MF-se1zl]

My husband discarted me with no explanation one day after coming from a business trip. We separated and after two years of being on my own I recupetated emotionally. He then started saying he had made a mistake and asked constantly for forgiveness and another chance. I caved in and let him move in back with him. Eight monts later and totally out of the blue while walking our dog he said he needed to finish our relationship. His explanation " I dont admire you anymore". Clearly this was his attempt at destroying me. The effect of this words was devastating on me but i gathered strenght and served him with the divorce papers. It took me almost three years to recover emotionally from this narcissistic rollercoaster, but I did. Despite the pain and loneliness I resisted his last offer to go back together keeping my integrity and dignity. It was a great internal battle, difficult after 33 years of relationshion and three children and shared assets. There comes a moment one has to see things for what they are and be clear when it is the last straw. They can try to destroy us but it is up to us not to allow it.

[@banaballe]

Been there done that..

[@ellenmanlulu3976]

I wish you solace and peace ❤

[@SD62534]

I am your story. I send you many blessings..❤

[@kathleendubois7128]

Until you are living this experience, it's almost impossible to imagine. All strength to you.

[@Dansyoung]

Thanks for sharing your experience. Knowing the cycle allowed me to not allow a “hoover” and I will always be grateful for that!!!

[@sharidemke7126]

If they are addicts to alcohol or other drugs they don't even face themselves when they are alone... this is the worst narcissist.

[@iramsavir5631]

Yes, definitely addicted to drugs or alcohol, porn, sex, novelty.

[@GiggityZZ]

this perfectly described my ex girl, i was wondering why she would go batshit crazy and rage out on me and it all makes sense now... stay strong yall!

[@GoogleUser-pc6tu]

The absence of self awareness and introspection is mind blowing to me . I’m all about learning and growing as a person. She was never interested in that kind of conversation

[@catlady6938]

They are evil beyond words. I left the narcissist when I actually caught him cheating which he had engineered for me to do. Then I got gaslighting and the love bombing hoover, complete madness I walked away and never looked back.

[@fad1241]

Well I caught him cheatimg but somehow I was the one who destroyed him😂😂😂 it took me 8 weeks to see and understand what was happening and what I lived through the past 9 years. I am done and never ever taking him back ever again. Divorce it is. I felt stupid dom, responsable for him cheating on me and leaving me, I wasn t good enough, not good looking enough, ugly, not attractive, ignorant and selfish. Pfffff. I can t believe he made me believe this while I m high educated, used to be strong, used to take good care of myself and be proud of me. Iam back now, I feel good, libeeated and HAPPY. He is not worthba second of my time

[@ChrisZajacwhatchriswore]

sounds like my ex.

[@rahilaferoze9099]

​@@fad1241Exactly. Narcissists don't go after mediocre people. You were amazing and made them look good. That's exactly why they chose you. Keep strong, proud of you!

[@lilfairycupcake]

walking away is the only cure. good for you!

[@MasterArpeggioSystem]

They don't want you to move on. My ex-my childhood sweetheart-left me when we were 21 and 25 and she left everything very open-ended and I had no closure. She would get in touch every so often during the following months and years. Even over a decade later she'd randomly leave a note on my mother's porch and, 15 years after, we spoke on the phone at her request. We got back together after 25 years and it was a living nightmare. I learned what narcissism and borderline personality was and saw her game. When she was dumping me again about 27 years later I was done . . . through. That night, she said "Denny, I'm breaking up with you . . . but I still love you." I said, "Yeah, right!" I slept on the couch and drove away from her place one last time with closure and I felt like the greatest weight was lifted from my shoulders . . . after 39 years! I didn't let her leave me hanging again. It was over and done.

[@realhet]

The only closure with a narcissist you can have is no contact. They don't want closure, because that not going to give them narcissistic supply :]

[@lilfairycupcake]

i hope shes living a very lonely, hate filled life, all by herself.

[@lilfairycupcake]

@@eternalshitbreak9649 animals. the worst part is not knowing excatly what you are dealing with. once you do know, game over.

[@john24gold1]

I did very similar , except never moved in . I was a very different person back then . My childhood sweetheart liked to say we are soul mates . We didn’t even date for over a year originally. She is so far beneath me . She is a ex drug addict which no real teeth and kids to different men . Dodged a bullet there .

[@Reab7RoverT]

The last trick the narcissist pulls before they leave is act like the trick they always been. Become a follower a christ after so if they do comeback, they will feel more ashamed. That demon will try to copy cat you like its their last living breath😂

[@lattishiadickerson]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kimgordon3695]

Long game ends with TRUTH

[@kimgordon3695]

They come out

[@lizee-tvee3147]

😂

[@livelaughlove3636]

That part.

[@ajaraers]

Thank you 👈 👏 🙏🏻 no wepon formed against me shall prosper 🙏🏻 no nasistic will destroy me all their evil plans to destroy me shall be scattered by fire in Jesus s name Amen 👏 🙏🏻

[@shannonbrowe9551]

Yes! Thank you, Jesus, for your help protection in the name of Jesus. Amen🙏❤

[@NoCappingSportsLegend]

Yep the pit they dig for us is the same pit they will fall in… I rebuke those demons in Jesus name

[@ralphey8189]

​@@NoCappingSportsLegendYes & Amen!

[@celestemcmillan2006]

He can't destroy me

[@ufcnutta4203]

That's the spirit

[@korperbalancepilatesmitbar4302]

He tried to destroy me too. But he had no luck 😂. I was stronger. I told him what his behavior is: An adult man with behavior of a child. Thank you Anoushka ❤

[@ufcnutta4203]

@@korperbalancepilatesmitbar4302 I feel very destroyed by her, she put me down all the time, and made me feel worthless and then discarded me as soon as she didn't need me anymore.

[@Rachel-iStockholm]

She tried to destroy me, but I went and ran my marathon anyway 🎉 good luck destroying a marathon runner. 😂

[@korperbalancepilatesmitbar4302]

@@Rachel-iStockholm she must overtake you! That doesn't fit, I think! 😂

[@shirleychandler2780]

I was on the floor for a few weeks but I was told as a child “ remember where you come from and whose you are” I’m a proud miners daughter , I’ve known all along that that I am a better person than him. My strong personality shines through and my light will always shine brighter.

[@yt1283]

"Value. Devalue. Discard." That really hit home with what I experienced over the past 3 months from my ex-girlfriend ever since she broke up with me in March. There's no coming back now though.

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

How long were you with her? The longer it goes on the harder it is. I'm on 8 months separated from my ex now.

[@yt1283]

​@@JohnWayne-86edwith her for almost 2 years.

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

@@yt1283 Damn, you're lucky to break free. My ex has been calling me once every week over the past few months now... that's one call I won't be answering or returning. Whatever you do don't go back.

[@carlottacarlotta3785]

Yes it’s true, it’s exactly what happened to me in February… after 4 months now I start to feel better and free 💪🏻🙌😎

[@MissJJoan]

Thanks Anoushka. Your videos are the content I needed to hear. It took me forever to convince myself it wasn’t something I did wrong, he’s just a narcissist.

[@OK-Take5]

They are damaged. When it's all said and done, they will choose the ones who damaged them over you. Even if they acknowledge the damage, they'll still identify with the ones who caused them to be warped. It's the most mixed up thing and sometimes it takes years to understand what you're seeing because it's so bizarre and twisted.

[@kimgordon3695]

😥😥😥

[@brainbomb.]

That's their problem, their fault.

[@SidNasir]

Trauma bond…

[@genuinemorgan]

Yes. It is SO Insidious that it really is unimaginable until you suddenly find that you are in that relationship. It's catastrophic

[@sahil-dogra]

Definitely.. been there for months but i am not easy to feel and soon she realised that and stats saying things like u don’t understand me. Yesterday she asked to meet as shes in the town . I denied, in the evening i saw her following her ex 🤣. Traumatizing but have to face it.

[@Mysterygirl77320]

Just totally discard THEM. THEY HATE THAT.

[@anand.kumarsoni]

The biggest crime of a Narcissist is they keep on doing crime and if asked and cross question, they will do one more crime.

[@kimgordon3695]

Not 1more. . endless

[@lizee-tvee3147]

Exactly, its an endless loop!

[@karriesaunders8597]

Its a crime how they lie about innocent people. Horrible people who keep horrible immoral company,never stick to the right path.

[@celestemcmillan2006]

I will be able to move forward with someone that actually loves me

[@JasonGoldstein78]

Shame is physical pain for them. To reconnect to themselves, especially at an older age, they have to face a lifetime of betrayals, lies, deception, etc.... It makes all the devaluation, betrayals and deceptions like a candle compared to the sun. Yes, she was about 5 years old when she went from being #1 and daddy's girl to nothing in the eyes of the most important man in her life. How does a 5yr old girl survive that? She created a false persona and sacrificed her true self to it. She's still in there. Like a passenger in car with a monster at the wheel. I have wept the tears that she never will, and with great reluctance, I have given up and walked away. She left me someplace so dark I had to learn how to love myself to survive. Thank you Ms. McKinley!

[@fritz3713]

With a monster at the wheel...wow man that is a profound line. 🙏

[@fredslayton]

Same!!!! You don’t know a Maria do you? Lol

[@topguncat]

You're insights have cut a path of understanding through the narcissistic jungle. Thanks for your commitment to helping us heal.

[@samanthabriggs5037]

I tried to leave my ex-narc multiple times due to his abusive tactics, and you're right they learn these behaviours from their parents or one of them. They are traumatised and damaged goods and their favourite role to hook an empath in is to play the victim. I was very independent when I met him but over years of him enabling me under the guise of helping me I became co-dependant. They want you to depend on them, emotionally, mentally, physically and financially, so you can't leave them. My ex-narc always begged for forgiveness and promised he would change, they never change. Before I knew it I was lured back into the same cycle of value, devaluing and then discarding. It's a downward spiral and gets worse the longer you are with them. They will try to destroy you mentally, physically and emotionally until you are on the brink of committing suicide. Do not underestimate them or trust what they say or promise you it's all a lie only a person's actions show their true character. If you have managed to escape regardless of who discarded who stays no contact and keep that portal to hell closed for good, don't look back just count your blessings and keep moving on regardless of what the narc is up to. Wish you the best of luck as you will need it not easy to get rid of these parasites as they try to suck the life force out of anyone they come into contact with,

[@dwaynevanrooyen510]

I’m in a relationship of 12 years,that’s exactly the way you said it.after watching this video it literally opened my eyes. Thank you for sharing such an insight that I can completely relate to.

[@rahilaferoze9099]

Agree with you Sis!!!

[@tp6299]

This is exactly 100% my experience as you have described word for word THANK YOU I AM NOT ALONE BLESSINGS

[@hhsg11]

I know the ex narc will never come near me again, I smashed him into the ground and back to where he came from….HELL. After months of emotional and mental abuse I called it a day. We had only moved into the house we had bought 3 months earlier and then he had to buy me out by getting a mortgage and selling stocks and shares. In the last 3 months I was there I turned the tables on him, everything he tried to do I blocked, when he would barge into my bedroom day and night without knocking just to mouth off, most of the time I stayed silent and on others I verbally punched him between the eyes with home truths. I reminded him his 3 ex wives left him, only 1 of his 4 children speaks to him, that another girlfriend had chosen her family over him and like my predecessor, we both chose ourselves. He got my replacement the day after I said I was done, luckily 3 weeks before I moved out she dumped him, oh how I laughed in his face. He was on dating websites desperately finding someone else, 3 dumped him before even meeting. I had already told neighbours about him because he was getting out of hand, I went to the Police station with 100 recordings of his rants and threats and he was invited in for a voluntary interview and read his rights and told to stay away from me. I installed a camera in my bedroom which gave me peace as he knew he would get filmed. I also moved out the day before planned, he wanted to be there on his day off to help the movers so they would think I was the bad one and so he could gloat when I gave him my key, so I moved out the day before when he was at work…..oh what an anti climax for him, he plan failed. 😂😂 He now has the house up for sale a year after us buying it, obviously who ever came after me dumped him as he was back on the dating site a few weeks ago and now he’s selling the house. Women are catching on. Karma does catch up with them and I’m delighted to say I witnessed it. There is light at the end of the tunnel but you have to strike the match yourself. We will beat these evil possessed entities.

[@kevingipson9293]

Absolutely, Spot ON! They can go back to their father, Satan!

[@thekidsavage4511]

Narc Vs narc nice

[@skybengal]

Mine took me high being so nice etc then discarded me so the drop to earth was all the more devastating ! I’d mentioned only days before I’d had enough of the false accusations and bullying and was past my breaking point. She discarded me before I could act.

[@megakento]

Spot On as Always......we are empath......cant help but feeling so sad for them (the Narc) why they have such thought process.....yet we are the victims.....

[@Thatonechick778]

Once I had finally gathered the strength to leave and move out he tried saying that I should come back to grab some things I’d left. He knew he wasn’t going to see me anymore so he used it as a last ditch effort to see me again. I knew he was going to use it as his last chance to abuse me and tear me down. When I said I didn’t need those things (I did but knew better than to go back over there) he FLIPPED OUT. Started cussing and blowing up my phone. When that didn’t work he tried using a guilt trip but that didn’t work either. I finally just stopped responding to him bc no matter what I said he refused to answer any of my questions -but demanded I answer his and was trying to turn things I said into totally off the wall things. I realize this is part of the crazy making and confusion they do. When he finally realized I wasn’t answering anymore his last text to me was a lie, which I thought was very fitting of him as a person. Now he lives with his mama and they can be besties again lol.

[@tiffanybluetarot]

Re: continuing the cycle with the next person…YES! He literally lives out the exact same plot line with EVERY girl. Activities, quotes, songs, topics of conversation, excuses as to why prior relationships didn’t work, etc. etc. And believe me, there are/were hundreds during our time together.

[@iramsavir5631]

Indeed! They've memorized a script and use it, verbatim, with every single one of their victims. Exact same words, actions, etc. It is as if he puts on the exact same outfit on different mannequins, because that's all we are to them, disposable, interchangeable and replaceable mannequins. No one is special, or different to them, just novelty that after a while wears off, becomes too familiar, boring and perhaps of little to no use at all. My narc was exactly like yours. I actually overheard one of his phone conversation with one of his victims telling her exact same words he had used with me and his prior victims. I felt sorry for the poor sucker, or who knows, maybe she's using him too for her own benefit. Maybe she'll be his Karma.

[@tiffanybluetarot]

@@iramsavir5631 …could not have said anything better, or truer. I always figured that the other people he dealt with had to be using him for something…then there was stupid me - I just loved him for him. (Put more accurately… the him that I ***thought*** was him.) Being with these types is a mindf**k of the worst degree. I don’t miss it at all.

[@marygabriel8800]

MY GOD HE SAID THE UGLY THING TO ME BEFORE HE DISCORD ME AFTER SILENT TREATMENT FOR 3 MONTHS PURE EVIL NO GOING BACK NEVER 21 YEARS OF MARRIAGE 🙏 thank you 🙏 the message

[@TimKollat]

You just explained word for word what my wife just did to me and the way she just discarded me was so evil and unlike anything I could imagine her doing. The love I have for her, I was willfully blind to the narcissistic abuse even though it was causing all kinds of emotional damage to me.

[@lannybackes1053]

You are not alone!

[@edgewalker7459]

You are not alone , stay strong bud ,

[@rwhetzler2010]

Welcome to the club my friend. I am hurting too... this has been an eye opener for me...sadly I still love her so much!

[@lannybackes1053]

@freestylmx. Just curious, and I don't mean to pry, but did your wife already have a new supply waiting? Mine did...she set it all up well in advance.

[@TopgunOD]

right there with you, mate.

[@livingnow7017]

He tried to destroy me...but I percaviered and moved on! ❤

[@TheCrisNAnissa]

So glad he left. I only regret not leaving sooner....

[@ericnorthman9410]

EXACTLY. I do regret letting it go on . My marraige was strung out 11 years. Not including the couple years before. Before I understood what was going on with the narcissism I didn't figure out what was going on. Hence it went on Way too long. He wasted years of my life. Later on said he wanted a way back and I completely refused. I was Never going to go thru that again. Funny he was sure I'd want him back - when I was over it after 3 months . It was that awful - NEVER again.

[@navidvarzeghani2789]

How was the relationship like? I want to know if I’m the problem or her………I don’t want to lose her

[@TheCrisNAnissa]

@@navidvarzeghani2789 when you're in a relationship with a narcissist, you know without a doubt that you are not the problem but they are.

[@barishankhonglah4690]

It is so true. thankyou so much. Learning helps .

[@reignjuste]

I e been a victim of narcissists many times.I have endured hardcore consequences. Now I have become their worst nightmare.

[@antonboludo8886]

They usually will try to get strangers to gang up on you on their behalf.

[@alkebu-lanuniversity2227]

Omg ty, ive been feeling so down so lost, i have a child with a narcist, she deflects all important questions about us, no work done to improve self, i constantly be put down as a father, theres so much. Im so glad for this video, everything your saying is like you were in the relationship. These ppl are very dangerous like you said they use everything against you. Yes the picture being painted is like im doing this n that, i have been apologizing for yrs, yet not once a genuine apology from her. Bring up the hurt n pain i got, ita ignored, its my phone is dying etc. Im thankful for this video, i used to think i was alone in this, she has moved on, then i realized shes only damaging another person. This is a demonic cycle, no self-awareness.

[@God_Leads_My_Way]

After resisting several Hoovers the last encounter the narcissist called me names called me ugly said some of the worst things to me and I just laughed it off because I knew it was a last attempt to tear me to shreds

[@DreC713]

Mind I say this, ma’am you are very far from ugly. Sorry you had to endure that.

[@electricjed]

same hahaha they're pathetic

[@God_Leads_My_Way]

@@DreC713 thank you! They’re vile when you won’t accept their Hoovers

[@SquizzlesWG]

Nah you badddd 🔥🔥

[@JEGOJAMS]

You are not ugly. Narcissist is just saying that because you finally escaped out of their manipulative loop. Love yourself always ❤

[@someotherguy6904]

Ah, the answer to why she was so needlessly cruel and unnecessarily hurtful at the end. In ways that were totally uncalled for, leaving me to wonder why someone would be so purposefully cruel. Thank you for this video.

[@jackbrown1177]

The last thing my wife said to me before leaving was "You're a broken man." Couldn't figure out how, why, she would think and say that. Now I get it, Thanks.

[@TheNOchick]

CAUSE THAT HEFFA BROKEN ASH

[@zeetom2117]

Funnily enough, a narcissist wouldn't get that.

[@Theunbecoming3]

Omg this helped me so much! You are amazing! Im in the beginning stages of a divorce from a narcissistic husband. Ive been struggling yesterday and this morning and then I found you! Thank you! 💜

[@love2vintage]

This was so precise and detailed behaviour of a narcissist, thank you for your amazing videos ❤️

[@wtcmedic911]

10 years together took me down the path to disgusted.

[@JackNance22]

So true, Anoushka. I personally believe people are traumatized on purpose as children systematically, because once they become narcissists they're easily controlled by financial incentives, and will help create an environment where exceptional people are punished, which maintains the current power structure.

[@kirabarsmith9353]

100%. It's no accident narcissism continues to rise, it's what the bankers who run the show want. That's why media is all about promoting narcissism and trauma.

[@MiamiVisor]

Yep, with males it's done via circumcision, right out of the gate.

[@sunlightprism]

KZbin blocking comments on this thread, of course, because it's right on target and those who pull fiat currency out of the air don't like their methods of control revealed.

[@MiamiVisor]

KZbin going hard on blocking comments on this thread, they hate truth just as much as narcissists. What does that say?

[@vinylintl]

💯Bingo!

[@cheryl980]

He didn’t destroy me. I finally found out all his lies and got the facts. Best thing I ever did. My intuition was right all along. I only wish I had never met him and fallen for his lies.

[@hazeleyes2381]

Before the narc husband left, he amped up his cruelty to a whole new level. He did not care to keep the mask in place anymore. And even after he left, I had no idea what NPD was and still begged him to come back. Funnily, after he left, he started bombarding me with articles and videos on NPD......and I got to realise what I had gone through and the kind of disordered and evil person I had been involved with. I went in shock and cried myself to exhaustion when the reality of what I endured for 24 years sank in. Finally things started to make sense and I could actually start on my healing journey. The withdrawal from the trauma bond was insanely painful but I did it. Four years in my healing and I'm in a much better place. I see his discard as a blessing in disguise. I was finally free.

[@nightcall7398]

Yes the narcissist is weak and a shell of a normal human being. My dad is this narcissist. He knows I deal with life as a stronger person and he sees me as a threat

[@ΜαρίαΣταυροπούλου-γ8φ]

I recently came up to an elloquent motto: The game is called egoism... Whoever wins...loses... Narcs lose them all, included themselves...

[@justinscott6516]

Cheated, stood up, an disrespected... all I did was love truly, sacrifice, sympathy, support..better now.

[@ryanrichings8588]

Thank you for putting into words what I've been trying to level out in my head for the past 12 months. I had an understanding of her trauma the way she grew up. She done me wrong but now I can put it to rest, forgive her and forget her.

[@lovelysosweet8386]

All narcissist was not abused! It’s just wickedness! It’s just a wicked game! They don’t want to be accountable for their actions!

[@lamonthamilton667]

TRUE!!! They are Just EVIL EVIL people and unless GOD strikes them DOWN there is no hope for them. They simply HATE any thing good in another. When you realize that you are dealing with a crying always right and or always sad mad or bad person. RUN like your life depends on it, Because IT DOES!!!!.

[@90jagadish]

She has been trying hard to destroy me but in vain. God is with me🙏

[@Phoenix_flying]

I feel sorry for them. They were damaged early on, through no fault of their own. Still… having been a victim of their abuse, I loathe what they do.

[@3RedHearts]

This is exactly how I feel, too

[@sarcasticcat4982]

They do everything in private. That's a clue they know what they do is evil. They make choices. They choose evil. My ex did not want his mother to know what he was about or really like. They know what they do.

[@Thatonechick778]

@@sarcasticcat4982Exactly. I asked mine once why he could hold his temper with clients but not me. He said it was my fault. And when he was mad his accent became super heavy and I couldn’t always understand everything so I’d nicely ask him to repeat it. Which turned into “why are you the only person who can’t understand me?” I stayed so long because I knew he had a traumatic childhood (as did I) so I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt. I was going to therapy and was actively working on healing myself which he refused to do. I finally gave up bc clearly he thought he could do no wrong and I was the source of all the problems no matter what I did/said etc. Once I figured out me even having any opinion on anything became an issue, it helped solidify that it wasn’t me it was him. Now he is back to living with his mommy and they can be besties again lol

[@ImmaculateRecovery]

exactly, they always try to flip the script, and make their traits YOUR traits

[@JulieOakman-q9l]

I do believe I’m the most hated woman in America, possibly the world. All because right before he was about to leave the general public was kind to me. My name is Julie and I’ve been tortured and I have loved a narcissist for 30 years. Thank you for these videos. I hope everyone here LEAVES the FIRST time your gut tells you something isn’t right. Pray for me and my family. 🌸

[@paulphillips6381]

Hey Julie this is Paul if you drive a red vehicle you know I drive the white truck. Tell me next time we see each other. I'm proud of you I've watched you come along ways.

[@nolackin60617]

you really know her?

[@JulieOakman-q9l]

@@paulphillips6381 , I used to drive a red vehicle. Lol I appreciate all the support, I’m just coming around, I’m ready to go all the way. For everything that is good in this world. I know good exists, I know good is everywhere. I’m finally coming around, bizarroworld but hold tight, I’m ready to come all the way up. For all the right reasons. Kindness, thoughtfulness, respect, accountability is where I seek to exist. Thank you for kind words. Here’s to looking up🌸

[@willdixon2349]

May The Great Spirit grant you the strength, grace and fortitude to endure in spite of everything that has happened. May you and your family grow and thrive in your new-found freedom and walk forward to a blissful existence together. I wish you well Julie. Love from.England ! xx

[@JulieOakman-q9l]

@@willdixon2349 .. thank you so much 🌸 I appreciate your kind words 🦋

[@DiscretionTV]

After 7 years if your partner lied to you about money they borrowed from you and made no effort to pay you back, then replay to this video 💪🏽

[@meawesome1651]

He always told me ..why are you so competitive ?...and yes, im in a healthy way ...he lost the competition with me . I discarded him was better 😂

[@RussRamsey-m1h]

My G.f is just like this . And it's scary cause she knows I have no where to go !! ??? Sucks and my trucks dying on me and she loves the fact I been living hard and can just throw me away like trash

[@AliceDont888]

They live in a fantasy world.

[@taze317]

"They are not themselves". Bingo. Since my narc has revealed her affliction, she is another person. I have zero chance of reaching the person she was just before she went ballistic on me in my living room. You can't be predictable with these demons. Fight back and make it hurt. And remember, you didn't lose them, they lost you.

[@arianasha]

Anoushka.. you are. SPOT ON HERE !

[@wt0074]

Thank God for you Anouska because I would have been destroyed - God bless you!

[@lorrainesarcewicz7746]

Wow yes you are so right...bit I got it and moved away thank you this gives me the closure I will never receive...😊❤

[@quagmireswagga]

I just ended a relationship with a narcissistic female....I was out when I seen the switch and realized she really had personal issues...there was no reasoning with her, no clarity you could logically enlighten her to see...it was horrible, not to mention the suspicion of her infidelity....thats when I knew it was time to leave and I did before she could even blink

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

How long were you in a relationship with her before she revealed herself? I was with a vulnerable narcissist for a few years up until 8 months ago.

[@pgwwa2]

Well done mate. Never look back.

[@295walk]

Can you elaborate a bit more on your suspicion?

[@NopeNotTodaySatan]

Run & ever look back!!!

[@benlewis3847]

Thanks for sharing your experience, that’s brave, I just had the same experience. Not saying I’m without fault and didn’t do my fair share of awful things

[@markpbanksmusic]

My gosh, thank you so much for making this video. I feel like you were speaking straight to my situation. You helped bring tremendous clarity.

[@wilnayar3035]

I watched your video and experienced a totally unshackling moment in my life. Foreign at first, but totally invigorating and life changing. Thank you so very much.

[@elijahladner3567]

Man I really needed to hear this!! Im no doctor but I believe my ex has has strong borderline and narcissistic traits. Once I learned about I.D.D. I realized this is exactly what happened to me. She made me feel like I was the best thing that ever happened to her, I personally had never felt this good in a relationship. Then boom, she pulled the rug out from under me without any warning. She strongly valued me like I’ve never been valued before, then all the sudden I was of no value to her. She also started talking to someone else while her and I were on the outs. She kept me around just long enough to move on with the next guy and completely destroy me. Here I am a month later and my mind is still going crazy. I realize now this is right where she wants me. Man im so happy I came across this video. Thank God for KZbin. God Bless

[@Lex12102007]

I have BPD and you have explained me yet I am not a narcissist.

[@elijahladner3567]

@@Lex12102007 yeah. I understand. In my opinion I believe that my ex has both narcissistic traits and bpd traits. She became very selfish, it’s was all about her and her needs, once her needs weren’t being met, and she couldn’t control me, she dipped. She also believed that she had zero fault in the demise of our relationship. She fooled me real good. But my eyes are wide open now. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@davidngigi9843]

I fell victim after 18 years of marriage. I never saw it coming but when it did or just before her bomb exploded on me, I filed for divorce, what happened when she got the serving, I'd never wish anyone to go through it We are in court but separated I believe for ever.

[@elijahladner3567]

@@davidngigi9843 The whole situation is painful. Sorry you’re going through that my man.

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

How long were you together? I'm still struggling 8 months later, but it's getting better with time.

[@jennifermcdevitt3191]

This was me a couple months ago, and I just wish I knew what they were doing earlier. It wouldn’t have hurt so much. Thank you so much for this it really helps everything makes sense now ❤

[@toniacevedo2010]

Thank goodness I have my power back after 4 years. She tried to destroy me she hurt my soul so terribly but I looked within. I see all the red flags it’s scary out there.

[@sarahtaylor8859]

Omg! This is so precise! I couldn't agree more! When he discarded me it was effing horrible! I have never seen anything like it in my life... he painted me some kind of evil monster to everyone and his friends and was even so convinced of his own lies! He believs his own lies as if like it's so real Just so he can escape.. he brought me down to my knees.. crying and crying never taking responsibility of everything...knowing he is the evil one along with his best mate.. and his flying monkeys who doesn't know the story believed him and even promoted the break up and believed I'm insane.. he made it appear that I was some psycho.. I have been with him for 5 years..and it was just one day.. boom .. he broke up with me by text, I was in disbelief...till he made me chase him down to ask questions, and I was walking on eggshells the ntire time because everytime I call him out of something, he goes silent treatment me.. it was so effin horrible it went like that for 6 months, he was hoovering me and hoovering me until he just finally discarded me like I am some object.. I was such a good woman to hi... I hate it.. its so traumatic, I remember one night, I was trembling in so much fear, I thought I was having a heart attack and self blaming.. and trying to get through him.. It was so hirrible..

[@TheAmazingRandy]

The last trick on me was to rob my house of thousands of dollars in cash, collectables, furnishings, keyed my truck, smeared me to the neighbors and abandoned our children.

[@PITTSBURGH06]

I HOPE YOU FILED CHARGES NEVER LET THEM GET AWAY WITH ANYTHING.

[@shannonbrowe9551]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Just know what they did will come back 10 times more 😊

[@andrewsmith3257]

​@@PITTSBURGH06 I've been dealing with one for 3 years and I'm thinking about getting police involved

[@raidenewalden4354]

That’s what he is doing to me all the years we are together . But we survive and we still together . So now I know why he did it to me because of this disorder that wrap around within.

[@maryx8434]

This rings a bell, not only as far as any romantic relationship with a narcissist is concerned (and I definitely had my share of them!), but I experienced the same with my late N-mother. Her very last words to me before she died were set up to destroy me, even if - or rather because - facing death she had no other way to make sure that I would not "move on", not leave her abuse behind me, that I would not "win" this ridiculous competition she had set up between us from my birth onwards. This is a manipulation so easy to see through but at the same time so, so hard to free oneself of. You are so right, it is "an easy escape for them", even if it is the very last one. Like in the tale of the frog and the scorpion she simply could not resist.

[@danielamondschein]

Yes but don't shame Scorpios please 😂

[@mobileradiofitter]

Omg ! She used to say that when she didnt get her own way and did the hearltess mean thing, she say ive just learned to survive. Your talks are so good the way you link up the dots

[@Keith_Mikell]

Exactly what mine did. They tried a few hoovers but I only spoke to them once. I’m expecting another hoover soon.

[@williamthurman9082]

She can't destroy me

[@italia3929]

Wow she's spot on

[@CleoWard]

My niece is a narcissist! She 'gaslighted' me twice... after the second time I 'warned her' - "Third time & you are OUT!" It wasn't two weeks after 'the warning' and she DID IT AGAIN! I haven't had anything to do with her in two years!💕 No matter what she gets her mother to say to me; goes in one ear and out the other🙃!

[@dosmatrix4470]

This what my Ex just did to me. She is a Covert Narcissist and tried to push me into the gutter. On the day she discarded me she waited until I had prepared and cooked dinner before dropping me. I've learnt alot in the last week about Covert Narcissism and it's helped realise I wasn't imagining things and it wasn't my fault.

[@ClaytonMacDonald-r5w]

Thank you soooo much for this. This literally just happened to me. She devalued then discarded me. I was shattered... But now I know! So liberating

[@BrianKarmo]

lmao I'm dying over here, yes a competition within themselves 🤔that was great and was exactly what you said that happened with my ex narc weirdo!

[@moniquevanleeuwen6514]

So so true, it’s sad and frustrating as heck but there’s nothing you can do for them or about it… 🥴

[@interceptorheadhunt196]

This is the thing I was always wondering about! Is there really no way to help them? My girlfriend is a narcissist - she is cold, mean even cruel at moments (she was not in the beggining of course), but I see how all this is coming from her bad childhood. And this is what really breaks my hearth - I don't deserve her bad behavior, but I know where it comes from and just want to help her, because there must be a way!

[@moniquevanleeuwen6514]

@@interceptorheadhunt196Unfortunately nope, no way! It’s for life! If anything they get worse…

[@barrett75jb]

I wish I would have had all this information years ago. I didn't know what a narcissist was until my ex left and someone told me she was a narcissist. I researched it and oh my god. It's like every single description answers years of questions

[@jillsaitta350]

Yup , when they get what they want and no accountability they go. People are needed as a supply always. Like thieves always. Being aware is protection of not waisting your precious soul or time.

[@jorgeleiton7517]

Oh my god I believe what you said in the video is 100% correct...

[@GhostRider-o4y]

Narcs never leav3 fully. Narcs still long to reunite many years later. You're forced to leave. She's not too experienced.

[@john24gold1]

Some may , some may not . Orginal relationship goes on for years And when they discard it can be in a very extreme way . They burn the bridge completely. So they know they can never go back . Maybe in five or ten years when she forgets . But she knows I know who she is . I doubt very much there will be a Hoover

[@jhavajoe3792]

Part of the ultimate stomping of your self-esteem during the discard, may be to make it harder for you to find another person with the more difficult recovery factor. Like tripping someone at the starting blocks to the narc's advantage. I never was concerned at the Narc's competitive spirit, but when It crossed over to target the one who supported her-- Wow!

[@bradhayescamoman9348]

I destroy a narc with silence and distance!

[@GoWithDaFlowMo]

You can't destroy what's allready destroyed, so why bother... My silence is something I do for me and only me, I deserve my peace back.....

[@carterinparisful]

I believe in Christ and I am so strong in my spirit that he will set the evil free. Love yourself and look after yourself. Out of sight, out of mind

[@Shaggy_Campbell]

They start destroying hyou from the time you get together, When they meet new friends or move to a new neighborhood the first thing they do is tell your faults if you have any or not that way if they loose the stage has been set to say see I told ya,.They keep the problem focused away from themselves and on you,

[@radzhurl8711]

That's weird, what you say is like an exact science. I've been through this 2 months back and has already known what she is 7 months back, thanks for the help Anoushka, Namaste 🙏.

[@cheryllavoie3290]

Love this!! Cannot change what you don't acknowledge!

[@mcuk88]

The worst things was opening up and telling my thoughts, fears and insecurities for them to use them against me and poke and prod before the discard. I’ll never lay that all out again as it’s happened time and time again. It a shame to not be able to open up or be vulnerable with someone now.

[@crazylegs519]

i remember what mine did and he was pure evil. hes regretting it now but i will never forget it and it was so bad that i will never ever take him back.

[@NimmyTJSRKE]

Thier tricks dont work nowhere snd have zero trick but thier fantasy is bigger than any tricks 🎉

[@jraa4560]

Damn. I just sat with a girl three weeks every night. Abandonment issues, survival mode, dominant , uses cocain, Trauma. She kept tryna to get a rise out of me and kept tryna bully me and win every argument like a child!! Tantrums and episodes and stuck it out lol She never wanted to be by myself so she would rotate different men to give her attention !! Crazy this very very very true! I’ve been on KZbin for years and this video is spot on. The walls were up and down up and down!!

[@alrdywonfrstplace]

He told me don’t let anyone in the house and don’t let anyone touch you. He said we have to get our lives right with God so we can come back together. And then moved 4 hours away.

[@KIIINGDAVID1]

They move another person into your spot , immediately impregnated, and moved in 2 months after lol .... no healing, etc ... good luck to their victim 🎉

[@doughewitt9424]

Excellent information

[@peat_dont_repeat]

I was with one for 27 years. She built a whole life on top of me. And everyone I know helped her. I even said she had 2 lives and she said so a lot of people do. I kind of think the victim is in fight flight or freeze so they don't get abused. Great point on the walls. Everyone is on that side of the wall and I am on the other side. Another good point on what you tell them in confidentiality and they use it against me. Some of them build a life and get away with devaluing and discarding for an entire life time. It all depends on the power they accumulate. There are cults of these people who think that is what makes the world go around. They believe it so it's true to them. There is millions and billions of dollars that the cult is in control of. Pretty soon their money will be trillions and more homeless than ever.

[@kimgordon3695]

Mk ultra

[@angelamarie2023]

​@@kimgordon3695yessssss, thank you!!! I feel like I'm alone screaming MK Ultra in the dark. 😢

[@keithrodgers1030]

A lot of people these don’t want to take responsibility for their actions and it’s constant attention seeking.

[@stevehartwell1861]

Lived this.

[@silvijenine9111]

Thank God I found this channel🙌🏾‼️ I now know what I’ve been dealing with him. He’s trying to destroy me emotionally after I confronted him about his flirting with another woman on Facebook. He deleted and blocked me as a friend and kept her as a friend so I wouldn’t be able to see what’s going on. He even changed his status from « In a relationship « to « Single ». I’ve never encountered a person like this. Everything you talked about is on point about him. Thanks for the knowledge. When I recover from this toxic situation I will make sure I do my homework and due diligence finding out about who and what I’m dealing with. We started out it was so beautiful and loving and boom a year had passed. I’m in the middle of a toxic mess I never caused. I will be putting some distance ASAP between us.