The Narcissists Trap NO ONE Is Talking About!

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

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[@donna-colorado8443]

Absolutely I agree

[@doloroza7401]

@@RICHARDGRANNON ah thanks Rich

[@IroquoisPliskin-w1f]

i'll pray for you to leave freemasonry and find Christ ⳩

[@Motion511n]

Wow! He used his childhood, a family member's death, & the broken relationship with his children as reasons for his behavior. Smh... DISGUSTING & demonic

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

@@IroquoisPliskin-w1fwasn’t aware Christ had gone missing tbf

[@Freethnkr]

The therapist, the parent, the maid, the cook, the secretary, the baby sitter, the bookkeeper, the spiritual advisor, the roommate, the cash cow, and the emotional punching bag.

[@cheryl5517]

Yep

[@jobentley4522]

Omg this! I've just sacked myself 😆 from all these roles. He wanted me to be his mother whilst treating me like a whore

[@GojoChCh]

My God, have you been peeping in my window and watching me marriage 😂. Divorced now 20 years just have to watch it unfold with my children and grandchildren. 😮

[@GojoChCh]

​@@jobentley4522me too, the SHAME 😊

[@DSW-dq5bx]

Nailed it!!

[@zx81qw]

“If you wish to fly, drop everything that weighs you down. [Everything]” - Anon

[@ellev11]

beautiful

[@caroldesarnoNeNe45]

Buddha..... Not Anonymous

[@poppyf763]

Toni Morrison

[@johncummings5755]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@carolynkepler2826]

@@zx81qw I’m still carrying around 100pounds that I don’t believe belong to me. I know that they are on my body but I don’t know how to let them go. I don’t need their protection anymore; that’s how it began. Maybe I’m afraid to fly.

[@jodymitchell1111]

Society not only encourages enablers, it rewards them. It has created a whole culture of enablers. Do not become one, do not enable a narcissist.

[@lilfairycupcake]

society as a whole actually embraces narcissism/self centered greed, and i'll even go so far to say encourages it. what better way to destroy, divide, a population?

[@paulcolin9926]

Saw that during divoc 91 same as nearly 100 years ago

[@paulcolin9926]

Saw it during divoc 91 same as almost 100 years ago

[@thejavandenberg4509]

Yes , that,s a huge problem

[@DragonSOL8]

Exactly. Society is also insane and demonic. There never was a support system

[@paulc-xj9ck]

They get off on destroying others.

[@mightymouse1005]

The only feel big when stepping on others......they are not on your side, they'll hold you under water until your almost dead, then "save" you and expect your gratitude

[@paulc-xj9ck]

@mightymouse1005 Then ask, why are you trying to off yourself? It's probably because of that secret you told me about. You need help!

[@ladyvirgo013]

Absolutely 💯

[@lilfairycupcake]

they want as much miserable company as they can get. i consider it to be a mental condition, that they are fully aware of; hence you should never feel sorrow for one in any way. they know exactly what they are doing, at all times.

[@Antonocon]

@@lilfairycupcake I once dated a girl i would consider to have extreme NPD, and she told me that was what she wanted to do in life. She wanted to break up all the couples she knew, and definitely her best friend. Her best friend was a lesbian and she wasn't but she got a kick out of taunting her partner and making her jealous. They did break up a few months later. She thought it was all hilarious. she wanted to cause chaos amongst everyone she knew. She loved it. I find it extremely disturbing, that people believe there are not lots of people out there like her. She was nowhere near the worst person I have met in this regard. One guy in that work place committed suicide, he was married. She seemed very traumatised about this for a day or two, or upset anyway. I'm certain she was playing with him. She played with all guys. All of them. Was quite pretty. But also dominated all girls too, or at least tried to.

[@denali1122]

What you think happened is exactly what happened. Don't let them mess with you

[@EstelleStarElizabeth]

Yes my mom messed with my mind for years trying to tell me that never happened.

[@jackwilson1818]

Sob Story is their “opening move” to lower your guard.

[@RevXBones]

“Here I come to save the day…!!!”

[@SoundsBogus]

The victim card.

[@Hi-Phi]

I keep telling myself, "Everyone's got a hard luck story", just to give it some perspective. It's part and parcel of living on this planet.

[@evelynspaghetti4978]

!! I've noticed this in a friend of mine. When I start to get on with life, he contacts me with a drama. And sometimes it's valid, sometimes not. I used to think it was him playing on my empathy, and now I know it's my identity/ego tied up in rescuing. More mud to work through for me !

[@lilfairycupcake]

boo hoo hoo, fell sorry for me, perpetual victim. one of the few beauties of dealing w one of these idiots is, they all pretty much play out of the same book, the same way, with slight variances, of course. this helps in spotting one.

[@fokker34]

The look in her eyes when in a rage I use as memory of why i don’t want her back

[@lilfairycupcake]

so you got to see the mask fully off? this generally happens when they know, all is lost. no more need for that mask thing.

[@malte2483]

They are useless Shells.Nothing more.Actors.Pathologic liars.

[@michelle4help]

Do you really think they ever believe it's over?​ @@lilfairycupcake

[@gregcochran2568]

It's so scary! Demons are real. God has removed her again. Keeping me safe.

[@andreavos5627]

The damage they leave behind is so freakishly bigger than the satisfaction they get out of it.

[@tinadixon8186]

I went to a therapist to discuss my recent separation from a violent narc. When I mentioned that he was military,the therapist stopped and sincerely asked me to give my abuser one more chance,because he was a poor broken soldier. I did and he almost killed me.

[@labotraduc8448]

That makes me so upset...! I've read comments under a video of a female-soldier who was being arrested because she had been very abusive to her partners and had taken her kids on a boat without a life jacket. She was obviously insane (she even had previously hit her boyfriend on the head with a big rock) : a lot of the comments were giving her so many excuses and were putting her value as a soldier above the threat she was to everybody around her. What your therapist did was incredibly irresponsible!! I'm glad you're ok!

[@lexlex6675]

At the end of the day, sadly they have not been ' deprogrammed'. They of course have been broken down and trained to kill. It should be standard for a soldier to recieve PTSD therapy, psychiatric assessment, medication or even in a rehab centre. I mean you have people in specialist facilities because they are a danger to society. I can understand in one aspect they are victims but like in your case also the perpetrator. The emphasis always has to be for one's own safety and not ending up as the sacrifice. I'm very shocked that the therapist would even imply such and thank goodness he didn't succeed. The fact they are just left has always been highly questionable to me for a number of reasons.

[@Tanya-m850]

The Narc, I was married to for 12 years talked to a counseland over the phone ….the counselor told the narc basically to manipulate and control me and get me in line by giving me the book … the five love languages👿 even the narc said out loud …he knew this wasn’t going to go over well …

[@ashton1952]

@tina that therapist has probably learned from a book and has zero life experience with NPD. All the degrees in the world cannot replace life experience when it comes to this specific disorder; they're adept at slipping under the radar.

[@kelly450]

Unfortunately it can be VERY DIFFICULT to find a GOOD therapist... I'm still looking myself.. glad that you are OK..!🕊🌿

[@ines3377]

This is spot on. I only recently figured this out; that the world seems to be oversaturated with narcs and those of us who aren’t narcs and psychopaths seem to fall into this trap of trying to understand WHY they do what they do, instead of calling them out on their nasty behaviour. I’m done with it. I really am. I don’t give a shit anymore WHY nasty people do what they do, I just know I won’t tolerate it.

[@CareBear007GL]

Same here, I know exactly where you are coming from. 😮

[@Balert-z8w]

@@ines3377 Right! WTF for

[@geraldfriend256]

Good mindset, cuz it does no good to know what motivates them and takes too much time and energy to come to the conclusion that it makes zero sense. Just recognize and avoid the quicksand of their convoluted horseMuck mindFukk. I was told “ there IS no ‘why’”… meaning they do not know the ‘why’ of it so how could they explain it if they don’t understand it???

[@DuckTunes79]

Oh ya, and then when it’s family it’s all about why *I* can’t get along with them. Dude, I’m just trying to live my life. She thinks everything I do is to get back at her. If I move, it’s because I’m getting away from her. If I get a new phone and new number, it’s because of her. If I get a new car, it’s because of her. Smh

[@virginiabraden6849]

@@ines3377 yes, Carl Jung warned us this was coming. He saw it in the collective unconscious. This is the Age of Entitlement and we are in a narcissistic epidemic. Fortunately we also are able to identify it because of all the information on utube. Now that I am able to see it and understand it I made the decision to walk away from it. You can never be happy unless you learn to do that. It is the only way. Do not defend yourself. Do not explain and do not engage. Just disappear, silently, and find people who are like you. Anything you do relative to a narcissist is just supply for them. Find your peace.

[@carmenism]

I'm really freaked out by you telling me that narcissists claim to be a lost child. My ex had been in a band before I knew him. He had his then-girlfriend actually write "Lost Child" in Japanese on his face before some performances. He also prided himself on being childish. He told me many times he was a child inside. Yet, he also told me I was immature and needed to grow up. When I questioned him on the double-standard, he told me his childishness helped him be relatable to kids and younger people. It helped him feel young. While supposedly, my "immaturity" made me unappealing to him. I'm just realizing now he wanted to be a child but he wanted me to be like a parent.

[@chromaticHermit]

God it's so gross. Like, I wasn't judging at first with my ex. I understand everyone is different and we should celebrate it. But not if it's weaponized and forcing you into a role you never agreed on.

[@carmenism]

@@chromaticHermit it is gross to force someone into this role. I never thought of it that way, but you're totally right. The fact he considered himself a kid wasn't a real concern to me at first. Like he still had his Transformers toys from when he was a kid. I still have my Strawberry Shortcake dolls. So I thought it was an endearing quality of his and something we had in common. I love being able to relate to kids, like when I see my cousins' kids or my nephews. I love being able to talk to them and play with them. But I guess I realized eventually that when he considers himself a kid, he didn't mean staying hopeful and young at heart. He didn't mean keeping your old toys around. He meant something... Kinda messed up. He meant permission to act however he wants and never face any consequences, while holding me to an impossibly high standard. Also, he never could give me a solid example of how I felt immature to him. He frequently berated me until I broke down into tears, then he would say the fact I cried made him feel like he was dealing with a child. But it's not like I cry all the time. I was being emotionally abused and breaking down into tears was a somewhat normal reaction to that... He couldn't see the connection of causality between being emotionally beat down and crying.

[@yeswing10]

They are Professional Peter Pans.

[@GC09Summer]

yup!😊

[@greyrock420]

yes!!! Mine was same. She was gaslighting me to be "immature" and "need to grow". But gosh she was the tantrum child who never could take any complain. She did something very wrong but made herself the victim and me who she did hurt made the one to be blamed... Crazy... And yes she also said she is not evil... It was supposedly only in my mind... Or she was just a little bit spoiled child... Never admitted the evil what she actually was... But yes I think she loved her 3ish year old nephew. I think she loves child as maybe she was not fearing them... Who know... Maybe they are very broken and feel need to hurt every close adult around. But she seems good with little children... But she was also professional liar so maybe she was abusing children behind closed door too... who knows... The most important lesson is never trust such people with anything and stay as far as possible... To survive...

[@Positivecuriosity46]

Your most important message!!! We are not anyone’s therapist. I’m not spending one more minute trying to help and figure these people out.

[@lilfairycupcake]

ive learned you dont try to help anyone. help yourself. if you are helping anyone, in any way, you are just being taken advantage of. so f them. as far as figuring out, why bother? thats a dead end street also.

[@DuckTunes79]

I noticed a huge difference when my sister stopped going to therapy. She started using me as her therapist. When I said I don’t have the qualifications to deal with someone with mental issues, nobody understood what I meant.

[@RonSafreed]

They really don't ever change & therapy makes them worse if they do go but usually don't go!!

[@ismailozerozgul508]

Narcissism is smoke and mirrors. It is an absence that appears as an existence.

[@TonieB-7733]

Such a great eye opening way of putting it. This was helpful. Thank you ❤

[@maryblue75]

Bravo. Yes. An illusion of a potential

[@DynamicVlogs69]

I ended up spending hundreds on psychology books and months of studying trying to figure out what I just went through. I'm a firm believer in the saying "it takes 2 years to recover from narcissistic abuse". I'm almost 2 years out but I've come a long way. Your best way to heal is to forget about them and just live your life, remember what happened so you know what to look for in the future.

[@art_illeries8274]

I was in a 2-month situationship with someone like this. And I confused my body's reaction (nausea)for withdrawal from oxytocin (I heavily intellectualized the whole situation and thought I could handle the "quirks" in the beginning because I simply wanted to love and be loved) but it was actually my body begging me to leave. I was made so insignificant and sucked dry that I almost developed an eating disorder. I'm still struggling with food - it's horrifying that they can do so much damage in such a short amount of time. It's like being poisoned and paralyzed by a child. Please leave, do not intellectualize it - no matter how capable you think you are, it is impossible and dangerous. You need to leave! Listen to your intuition and your body.

[@ginagina9592]

I actually threw my back out for no apparent reason when I was 35 when the narc entered my life. My body was telling me don’t

[@mightymouse1005]

That's because we're taught "butterflies " are a feeling of LOVE....in reality, it's your bodies warning system. Nothing that makes you nauseous is good

[@Maria.5482]

Omg! I did the intelectualizing thing, every Red flag i would justify. And my body was advertising me TREMENDOUSLY the whole time, and i was thinking I was a bad person for being bothered or having these feelings. Ultimately i broke up because i had the stronger dream of all my life, in a really deep state of sleep that i woke up and my senses wouldnt come back and i had a panic attack. I saw some DEAD people hanging like horror movies shit. After that, i just HAD to broke up. I had no choice anymore. I couldnt BARE the presence of the person, it would make me sick to my stomach. Well, i see now that i dodge a bullet. But that made me learn about the level that i was ignoring myself and my body and gut feelings in my life. How much shit i was letting in my life because of this negligence with myself. Is was hard and dangerous. But im glad i learned and im grateful for my intuition and protectors. now im getting better

[@Maria.5482]

You are right: "no matter how capable you think you are, it is impossible and dangerous". It sounds crazy but it is completely true. Its a really dangerous trap. Spiritual trap. That catches us by us thinking we are powerful and we can do it but i learned that are some forces that are just way bigger than us. And a relationship shouldnt take your blood and vital force away like a flowing river and with nothing in return. Thats just insane. Demonic.

[@psalm91.777]

Have you tried edibles for the nausea,

[@shannonadler5479]

I unfortunately was his savior. 25 years I don't care if I will be homeless after the divorce, I will take the risk. I appreciate your wisdom Richard

[@ladyvirgo013]

I hope you find peace,joy and healing. I was just divorced from a covert after 13 years

[@andystreet4022]

My journey to freedom has just begun after 3 years. Realisation was a bitter pill.

[@yolandazach]

28 here, and after living in an rv for 3 years, I am. I went back, because he's not as crazy as the crap going on all over the country. I would love to leave again! Actually, I'd love for him to.

[@justbereal9208]

Anything is better than living with a narcissist because they strip you of yourself, and without that you have nothing really.

[@ladyvirgo013]

@justbereal9208 for sure 💯

[@KasumiRose77]

A huge weight lifted when you drove the point home that I'm not the therapist. I really needed that! Edit: now i wanna cry... But it's good! Update: I didn't act like his therapist yesterday and he's got no clue what's going on in my head. He's actually being nice.

[@mnemetotoro]

It is ok to cry 💜

[@Goldensunrise-8]

Yes , I keep telling myself , I’m not responsible for anyone else’s triggers . It’s helping me to recover .

[@miharu00]

Exactly how I have been feeling - I am learning therapy so I have curiosity too at the same time. The narc is very interesting for me because I study this subject. However, if they come to you and try to put you into their hell, there is no way that I play their scripts and roles any longer. I can only treat certain level of evilness if they are still willing to be healed. I am completely done with the narc!

[@KasumiRose77]

@@miharu00 It's for the best. I'm glad you're learning, I pray for a bright future!

[@steadypace1262]

They only play nice for a short time then when you least expect it they play mean this is the cycle of the emotionally abusive covert type narcissist. They switch from Jekyll to Hyde in an instance and their mean/nice cycle has no end date. When you notice the switch keep quiet and move away from them they need time to sulk to get over it but they will hold on to that grudge.

[@217truthseeker]

Yes. Chronic gaslighting, manipulation and lying wreaks havoc on the brain, i am fully convinced that they cause brain damage, why am i convinced? I am going through it now. The 12 yr relationship is over with the borderline, but my nervous system and brain is still functioning like she is still here in the now. I am truly amazed how damaged i am. But also so happy i see this. Leave. No contact, stay and it can only get darker, leave can only start the healing process.

[@asdf9890]

One thing I heard on another video, we stop using our frontal cortex in our brain (cognitive function, decision making, etc) and the crazy things they cause that make no sense to normal people causes us to use our mid brain (fight/flight, fear that keeps us safe from danger, etc). It definitely makes you feel crazy!

[@RonSafreed]

Narcissistic abuse also causes physical conditions as well & I am 68 & had a life of narc. abuse!!

[@hyperionsolomon8718]

You poor guy 😢 I feel this post. I'm so sorry that someone obliterated every facet of you and your life. I'm having an emotional reaction to this video too. There is virtually no differentiation between BPD and NPD. Frankly, the borderline was at least 10 times more abusive. She just didn't target children or animals...but they say and do the exact same thing.

[@217truthseeker]

@@hyperionsolomon8718 thankyou. Bpd just as toxic as NPD.

[@labaronnedecorbeauviolette5865]

What he says at 4:40 and onward. I've been noticing this so much in society lately. Even when it comes to movie/comic book villains, it's like we're being encouraged to analyze and see the good in everyone and excuse their nastiness, instead of noticing, judging and condemning their horrible behavior. The "don't judge, be kind ALWAYS" culture that has been rising for the past few years.

[@mightymouse1005]

"noone is perfect " is my pet peeve....

[@lilfairycupcake]

"don't judge, be kind ALWAYS", everyone is a delicate, sensitive flower. what ive noticed is the lack of "no". instead of just saying no, people will f around the mulberry bush forever, in a 100 different ways, rather than just say it. oh, he ki lled grandma w a fork at 10yrs old? its totally ok, maybe he was having stomach issues that day. grandma gets swept under the rug, while his stomach becomes the real issue. amazing. go ahead bu rn the city down, steal, destroy, at will. they are allowed, because they are oppressed. oppressed my as s, they are animals.

[@spinapex2469]

So many of our sweet smoothsters adopt this new age, looser ethics code. Yes. Be nice to others. But so commonly then they then misuse their "niceness" as a superficial front, generally to shield themselves from scrutiny and divert our attention from their creepy gradual boundary erosions and violations. Talk about the Eeluminati. I used to take it lightly that Degeneres was so close to Degenerate. I no longer take it lightly. They must, they do, definitely embrace their hotshit-ness as a new code or religion.

[@vester7457]

It's actually a gross misunderstanding of Matthew 7:1

[@Sarah_2905]

That is the way narcissists want us to be. We should never question their behaviour and gaslight ourselves into believing their lies that they are good people.

[@lisagags9751]

After 25 yrs of feeling trapped, thought I was crazy, told him to leave. 12 yrs free,BUT now his nonsense continues w/ my daughter, and I find myself defending myself to her because of his twisted truths. Thank God I'm free in Jesus.

[@territimestransitions5947]

🙋🏼‍♀️ This is the position my ex CNarc has painted me in with my daughter.

[@s4ms4mxx]

you're not free in a man-made religion that is literally used to control others.

[@Deborah-d5b]

I can sympathise very same situation I am in but in my case it's daughter and stepfather I'm dealing with. 😮

[@truditrudi753]

When they overshare past traumas very quickly and expect you to be ok with putting all their stuff in your head is not only disrespectful but a conniving and convincing way to garner your sympathy as a decent human. Don't be fooled, it's a strategy, they've played this move many times before. If they had an ounce of self respect or for you, they wouldn't do it. Absolute users. Walk away.

[@wittymystic7361]

This is so true. Fortunately for me, I had a way more traumatic past than the last covert narc who tried this trick on me and my sympathy was limited.

[@miss_pouty]

​​@@wittymystic7361 when they don't get enough sympathy their face show with utter disappointment-- " Ah ! That trap she didn't bite " !! I find it quite funny!! 🤣

[@wittymystic7361]

@@miss_pouty Yes, you can read it on their face.

[@ESteele-qp5fs]

Yeah I’m having that experience right now. Didn’t even know them for 3 days and told me their personal problems. And said that they have “trust” for me? I honestly don’t know what to think? With Christianity sprinkled in there.

[@angelamitchell1385]

Even Dr Phil said that narcs are above his pay grade lol 🤦‍♀️

[@neveragain733]

Dang

[@lilfairycupcake]

ive watched several of his vids on narcs. he did a good job explaining, but also stated they cannot be helped. as a side note, dr. phil, is not a dr. lol lots dont know that.

[@KarinaWallace-n2j]

😂 seriously

[@Seph_Ness]

He has a PhD in Psychology​@@lilfairycupcake

[@terryohlsson2941]

Dr Phil=Quack

[@KarinaWallace-n2j]

Wow 🤯 “they want to make your view of reality as skewed as theirs is” Yes….😢

[@rebeccanatal1435]

And what you said about what's going on in society having a massive amount of narcissistic psychopaths at the highest levels and the system is now pathologized, shook me to the core, because I think you're right and the implications are.. well, I can't even wrap my mind around the horror of the thought.

[@bookzdotmedia]

Tge devil's system is narcissistic, and the corporations are a part of the game!

[@lilfairycupcake]

what sucks is there is such a high number of narcs, born from our present society, by the means of accepting, and normalizing it, embracing it, is unreal. all relationships today, including marriage, that i personally view are based on a purely transactional forum, of what one is getting from the other. is this not a form of narcissism in its purest sense? you, as a human being, have been deleted from the equation.

[@cloudmountaindog8537]

I’m not a religious person but have to agree more and more with what the Bible says about who owns this world. Wise to be in it but not of it.

[@moniquejanke7122]

Evil exists

[@carolynkepler2826]

I was my mother’s “savior”. I felt responsible for her happiness.

[@eileanvm]

Omg. Yes. 😢

[@DuckTunes79]

I saved my narcissistic sister from her narcissistic and abusive boyfriend. I didn’t know she was a narcissist. Everyone told me I have my own kids and husband to care for and it’s not my responsibility to save her, but I didn’t listen. I ended up losing my job because of her. She was so needy. I ended up getting chronic illnesses because of all the stress, anxiety, and energy that was being drained from me. I finally had to say no and now I’m the bad guy. A year of blocking her and my symptoms have subsided quite a bit. I made the mistake of reaching out to her because it was Christmas and all that did was open the door to her emotional abuse. I can’t do it again. It’s no contact forever. It’s heartbreaking, but I’ve got to take care of myself first and foremost.

[@SKOLAH]

When I was 12, my father had suddenly died so I was grieving, my mother had argued with her boyfriend (parents had divorced when I was 5), and she came into my bedroom crying, clung to me and said 'You're my best friend'... I remember sitting there in shock just not knowing what I was supposed to do. Other times, I was subjected to her constant criticism and anger. I strongly believe she has NPD. But that one moment...I just froze...It was a horrible moment. One of MANY.

[@icalotdonthide2646]

I had neighbor upon meeting me immediately talked about her broken toilet. And asking for me to watch her kids. It was insane. I stayed the hell away and she went bonkers.

[@Ka3Burton]

I'm single on ly own and had neighbour who did the same. I moved in, only a few weeks in, she said could i get her a pint of milk down the road and looked at me in a kind of way like she was testing me. I knew she had game on me but tried to ignore it as nothing. She ended up harassing me like a shark predator swimming around my flat, knocking my door every day, controlling my life, opening my letters and parcels, making me look after her dogs and all sorts. I stopped doing it after she embarrassed me in public covertly and denied it by saying she was joking. She had BPD and I'll never trust neighbours ever again. Its getting more and more common, the likelihood of coming across someone with these personality disorders is highly likely. Keep safe and have more boundaries. Pray to God 🙏

[@jobentley4522]

Omg. I had to check I hadn't written this! One of my neighbours took over my life! She too opened my parcels, rearranged my home, took my stuff without asking, expected lifts etc. I put boundaries in place and we no longer speak lol. I'd never come across someone with such entitlement!

[@lilfairycupcake]

the broken toilet was just a lil sh it test to see if she could extract from you. seeing if she could you to do it, and save herself a 200.00 plumbing bill. its all about take take take, me me me, destroy destroy destroy. this is all that goes threw their twisted lil minds 24/7.

[@LaMartina1000]

Well, the one eye symbol inside a triangle is for sure a trap..

[@JustMe-vs1kj]

he did that on purpose if you listen to the sentences hes saying in the video, hes talking about what those in power benefit from

[@LaMartina1000]

@@JustMe-vs1kj That was what I confirmed.🙂

[@yellowdayz1800]

I did feel like I was abandoning a child...

[@garrettbryan2717]

Thank you. I feel like society now is actually harming mentally healthy people.

[@i.l.9546]

My ex flattered me in the beginning saying I would have been a great therapist if I had chosen this as a profession. Also he said I was the Sun in his life. Often they choose you as a Partner because you are a caring and strong person - like a mother but I had come from a marriage with a narcissist who used my motherhood to care for him like I cared for my children I didn't fall for the attempts a second time. So this recent one tried to get motherish love out of me but I resisted. His attempts increased when he started living in my house for 4 days a week and simultaniously his indifference regarding my needs increased too. It wouldnt take long for me to get him out of my life. The pattern of a childish mindset is such a big red flag for me now. Btw talking about a 60 year old CIO of a Company with thousands of employees😂

[@melodiejohnston9528]

From my experience, this is a critical message that everyone should hear. My late husband died 10 years ago and I had not bothered to seriously date. I was friends with many people, including the narcissist whom I allowed in to my life. I have known him for 3 years and we always got on well. Things changed in December '23, when we moved from friendship to intimacy. After the first kiss, he told me he had been in love with me from the first time he saw me. I was charmed, and because I'd known him for a long period, I thought I knew who he was. A grievous error. Within the first week, he mentioned that I was his angel and saviour, as he'd been depressed/had family issues/been ill and he now had a reason to live. While I was uncomfortable with this statement, I'm also empathic and thought his confiding in someone he trusted might be a relief. This was another error in judgement on my part. He played a great long game and was incredibly cunning, and yes, patient. My error has cost me my health, friendships, and almost my sanity. The part that resonated with me the most in this video is the child injured portrayal. He wanted me to use 'mijo' as a term of endearment for him. I thought it meant my dear. It actually translates to my son. An important lesson to learn in a difficult way. Thank you for all your insight. I am immensely grateful and I have hope that I can come through this a better person. Namaste.

[@lilfairycupcake]

they are champions at mask wearing.

[@Ameryarina]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@PrettyTasha-k8q]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@Ameryarina]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@PrettyTasha-k8q]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@PrettyTasha-k8q]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@Ameryarina]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@conniefroeber3806]

EXCELLENT!! ty It's one of the Major problems of our society, that NO ONE is accountable. And the rest of us end up picking up the dysfunctional pieces It's BS

[@RonSafreed]

It was not allowed to be discussed in the older print/radio/tv media decades ago & this is why so many baby-boomers now are just finding out about narcissism & I am 68 & never knew before!!

[@deebee4622]

So glad you are shining a light on our insidious culture. Victims and their supporters are seen as selfish and callous if they don’t pity and coddle the perpetrators of chaos and destruction. We are being destroyed from within.

[@candycjk]

So true, that it is not our job to fix them. My mother, father, sister, best friend, and now-ex husband were absolute masters at playing the poor, pathetic, childlike, victim of circumstance. And, the really odd thing about it was that most other people never actually caught on to the fact that it was all a lie. Or, maybe they just didn't want to believe the truth, because the truth was too problematic for them. I eventually did catch on to the fact that it was all an act, but most people didn't catch on, or simply didn't want to. Other people pretended that I was actually the problem, instead of acknowledging that the problem was being caused by the lying, narcissistic person ... which has left me almost totally alone in the world, for all of my life so far, with almost no one to turn to for help or support, at all. Playing the victim is such a cruel thing to do. It's just evil.

[@Romy11-d7d]

Exactly my Story and they are really good in adding more Stress in vulnerable Times or Times of need. I am currently pregnant and they are creating Drama for me on a daily Basis

[@docbrown3139]

I feel you. It’s frustrating and really lonely when you’re surrounded by manipulative cold people who step on you and spread lies about you and everyone believes them.. People just see their “charm” and fake persona. It’s frustrating but I came to accept it.. it’s taken me years to realize my family was crazy people who haven’t experienced it can’t see it. Because of my experiences I can spot red flags. Don’t be discouraged there are many of us out there. Get away from those vampires and start building your positive circle. They will destroy themselves on their own.

[@sarahmk2966]

Dang that was awesome! What you said especially about everyone trying to find excuses for narcs and evil doers. Evil is evil, they chose it!! Many have so much trauma and never choose evil doing!

[@hilabuoyant]

Thank you !! For saying what everyone else is afraid to say ! The culture enables criminals to continue getting away with crimes for this sheer fact 🙏🦋

[@Goldensunrise-8]

Lost it recently with one of these , having allowed myself to be used as a “space holder” for many years , then finding that it was increasingly required that I walk on eggshells around their triggers & flashpoints. Which meant that I couldn’t have a meaningful , topical , interesting , adult conversation with them any more,. Just lost patience & snapped in a rebellion against the “all about them” dynamic that had formed over the years, ( yes I know I allowed it ) . It had been building up to this for a while. It’s so liberating knowing that my time & energy are my own again & that if I’m in a good mood , it’s highly unlikely that this person is going to get in touch & pull me down into the sticky soup of determined misery, bitterness & self pity that was served every time we interacted .

[@ashr8801]

Omg… you could be describing my life for the last 4 years. Exactly this!

[@ranc1977]

There are even some commentators HERE that repeat the sob story. That narc have illness and we must have empathy - Unbelievable. Even with clear explanation of the trap. This sob story would mean that we feel empathy to criminals, child abusers, political tyrants, all sort of human trash that we are not allowed to call trash due to dehumanization. As if victims deserve to be abused..

[@asdf9890]

I only have empathy for the victims, not these people. I don’t care what caused it, when you take out your sickness on others, you get nothing from me.😢

[@ranc1977]

@@asdf9890 I get you - but this is HUGE problem right here. This is how narcissism spreads. This is how we get infected - it is like a virus trojan horse - attacking us from the inside. When we grow anti-bodies to fight toxic people - in the same time we are limiting our world. We will soon enough demand perfection from normal people and then harass them. This is now borderline disorder at this stage. With time, we will become intolerant of anything resembling toxic people so much that anything will trigger us, we will develop social anxiety and or fight response to correct other people around us - and demand them to walk on eggshells OR we will isolate ourselves and develop agoraphobia - since we decide to keep ourselves pure from toxicity. This is how allergy and auto-immune diseases start inside our body - and we will develop such physical illness too - along with mental illness.

[@Martina-wn1sr]

Despite whatever HELL we've experienced we STILL CHOOSE as adults. I've never claimed perfection and I have done things I'm not proud of, but i CHOSE to change. I will continue to do so as I continue to learn and am able. This is called GROWTH and healing. Experience truly is the best teacher. It's not my job to be judge, jury and executioner. But it is my RIGHT to choose for myself what is right for ME. IT'S also MY CHOICE TO HEAL. WE have FREE WILL for a reason. If others CHOOSE not to change and heal, that is THEIR CHOICE. I REFUSE to take responsibility for what others have done or CHOOSE to do. That's on THEM. As the old saying gors, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't FORCE it to drink. ❤thank you for your messages 🙏🎉

[@INFORMATIVESITUATIONS]

VERY WELL SAID 🎯

[@mightymouse1005]

We have all done bad stuff but....insight and accountability let's us know WE did those things and hurt others. It's our responsibility to repair the damage and heal ourselves

[@lilfairycupcake]

freedom of speech, the ability to choose, are wonderful things. ive chosen a long time ago. if i find anyone in my life to be toxic, in any way, to anyone, i punch their card, and never look back. ps. narcs choose to be who they are, they choose to conduct themselves as sub humans.

[@kagemidaro3210]

I will read Your❤❤ powerful and clear words again and again. I have a right to choose my own development and healing. I can't force the horse to drink. Thanks❤. 

[@yellowdayz1800]

I tell that to myself, loud and clear now....Well, ok let's go.... Lol

[@Staff_Sgt_Dignam]

“Evildoers”. Finally someone else willing to say this. Right on.

[@PinkiePi]

My nex pulled this exact shit, the weaponized incompetence, the "innocent" act, the helpless victim act, and then during discard accused me of infantilizing her. Even though she started calling me Daddy in bed and attempted a hoover by telling me she needs someone to tell her what to do in life, after making multiple huge mistakes which she also tried blaming me for. Thanks for addressing this! The validation is always appreciated.

[@lilfairycupcake]

always the victim.

[@dann10000]

Many are becoming aware that there's more at play. We're not actually speaking of "some narc ex-gfs" but once you see the pattern, you see it at higher levels too.

[@sandrathomas2893]

If they changed the bad behavior the rest would follow! They want to be 5 in an adult body. Plain and simple!! They would be forced to evolve and grow up if everybody stopped playing house with them!!

[@mightymouse1005]

They're jesters that want to be treated like kings and queens

[@lilfairycupcake]

until you are fully educated on narcissism, you dont have a clue. you are 100% correct, they are nothing more than butt hurt children, residing in a adults body. your average person, has a hard time comprehending that. was w my narc gf off and on for 8yrs. the only time she was ever honest, not lying to me, was when she made this statement a couple times while we were together, and it would come completely out of the blue, "sometimes i feel like a 3yr old". what a off the wall, f ed up, odd thing, for a full grown, adult woman, to say? i never replied. after the fact, what she was honestly saying was she did not understand herself. getting anything honest from a narc, ever, is a very rare occasion. their entire facade is based on lies.

[@SteeleMagnolia]

We have to learn to NOT parent other adults, in order to save ourselves. I've found that, no matter how hard I try, I can't be the safety net, nor run interference, for willfully poor choices of others.

[@sothernsweetie68]

I was stuck for 20yrs!!! Never even knew what a Narcissist or Empath was! Been in therapy for 2yrs...just now coming to understand and see clearly!! Thanks so much!

[@Eskit749]

Right. True. Trying to love them out of it just leads to pure exhaustion in every way.

[@SeekingToServe]

Richard, thank you for everything you do. I recently escaped a high profile covert narc with a long history of manipulating women. I stepped out of his fantasy before he got what he wanted, thank God. He went into full collapse... Your info has been invaluable to me personally, and now to my followers, who I have recommended you to on my Facebook page. I pray there will be no more victims. I also pray that because I put him into a checkmate position and he knows I could expose him, and he still desperately wants me back because he never completed a cycle and got what he wants, maybe, maybe his broken depressed state will cause him to finally seek help. I don't think anyone every stepped out on him before he won AND was able to have the upper hand... I can pray, right? I hope he heals.

[@fizzliebob]

I found this channel over a year ago, when I was beginning to realise why my marriage had been a failure from the moment we moved into our shared home. The videos gave me valuable insight into what was going wrong. Even though I'm pretty neurodiverse (in a bit of self-destructive way), the fantastic advice and explanations in these videos gave me an idea of what behaviour and retaliation I could expect from him when I began handling things in my own way (which I do NOT recommend to other people). 14 months later, I am waiting for final confirmation that my divorce is done as dusted. I'm happier than I've been in a few years, I'm spending time with the family and friends (and cat) he cut me off from, I've made some new friends, I have a new job that brings me joy and I'm beginning to turn my hobby into a small business. Just wanted to share how much of a difference these videos have made for me, and to give people hope that all the pain of removing these people from your life IS worth it. Always put the work in for your mental health and happiness.

[@ashr8801]

❤

[@MagnysAa]

Heal by taking your freedom, brain, control of all back and you will experience coming forward, may take time with night terror and it will be back and forth, but focus and get yourself back. I am recreating the life i had before because i want to be me again. Wish you the best.

[@tbunnyshy1]

Since 5 years old, I have been my father’s therapist. Its no wonder we are trapped in a dysfunctional family system. It is getting ugly.

[@RoseGrodkiewicz]

Out of all the professionals talking about narcissism I find you the most informative and understandable. Your knowledge has helped me more than anyone else.

[@paulcory8691]

This is the tactic my Mother used to keep me trapped in the cycle you've described. When I cut ties I felt enormously guilty but this time I knew it was false. It sure did linger though.

[@linnnea8171]

This exact problem when the narcissist is 79 years old and covert vulnerable. It's brutal.

[@robhendricksen8011]

Richard, you helped me understand what I was going through after I ended a relationship. Between you and my therapist I can’t even begin to wrap my head around what I was experiencing. All I know is that there was something very wrong going on. I almost lost myself.

[@lisastrohmeyer5236]

12 years later .. not one therapist knows anything about true Narcissism.. they all think I'm nuts..😮

[@Xianne027]

And don't forget: this ideology of playing the role of psychotherapist has even led to the modern fad in New Age circles of every mixed-up unqualified person deciding to open up a practice as a "personal coach" who knows what's best for everyone else because they've had a few courses or seminars. And narcissists are quick to claim themselves credentialed as such.

[@CarlyFaith15]

Something that sounds so simple and yet has trapped so many of us. Thank you, Richard. This helps me in my journey as I look for someone to share my love and my life with. I don't ever want to be another adult's adult. I did that with my first marriage. He was always the lost child. He abused me while I saved him. I found someone to love who never asked me to be his therapist or his mom. If he did something I didn't like, all I had to do was tell him and he would change. He passed away but, I learned so much about myself. I even learned that I had healed enough to watch him die in front of me and still go on living. I'm just looking for someone who's intelligent and funny and whole enough to say I'm sorry and to accept an apology from me when I make a mistake. 💙

[@ladyvirgo013]

Im free after 13 years of manipulation, LIES, betrayal, trauma. The divorce is finalized. Now to have PEACE❤

[@kimrobinson6285]

Enjoy!! ❤😊

[@ladyvirgo013]

@@kimrobinson6285 ty so much 💙 I'm working on it

[@magfan77]

Do you have Children with the Narc?

[@hannekejanssen-fi1pi]

Don't give up!!!!!

[@cindyben3089]

💛

[@aidanjohnwalsh2129]

Narcissism is like professional patheticism.

[@J9BeFree]

Lol. That's a good one.

[@kaitlin5304]

This man is fucking brilliant. What a contribution to society. So many ‘YES!’ moments in his videos.

[@OriginsOfEnglishExpressions]

The victim triangle! 😯

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

Sick systems demand sick responses. Including making everyone everyone elses therapist.

[@nosakhareobakpoler9825]

He is absolutely right. The ex narc told me of his horrid upbringing which made me feel sorry for him thus I was compelled to excuse the bullshit that he was doing to me

[@elleh3495]

he slid into my dms 4 months ago: second message ever was extremely long explaining his childhood shame and abuse. throughout the relationship, he would verbally abuse me and blame it on his "inner child". its been one month since i was dumped, and its the most freeing feeling ever. i will never be that to anyone ever again.i felt so many times like i wanted to leave, but felt extreme guilt because of his childhood trauma, and wanted him to overcome it to see his potential. he would get very upset that i would say he hadnt reached his potential and said i was "grooming" him. nothing i could ever say was to his liking. in the end the only thing he had was extreme good looks and exceptional charm.

[@Anticrystal88]

Married a narcissist after being love-bombed and not knowing what all that was. He spent a lot of time making me think I had no grip on reality, and I remember at one point standing in front of the house, my telling him we needed to go see a mental health professional because one of us was crazy. If it was me, I wanted to know. Man, did he backpedal fast. "Oh no," he said, "we can't do that because you'll fall in love with the therapist." That told me exactly what I needed to know.

[@marilyneolson313]

Wow!!!

[@sofialovinglife597]

I am a narcissist abuse survivor I have healed but it took many years ! your videos changed me so much when I couldn't sleep or function you are saving lives thank you !

[@LexRex11]

Why is the most powerful question. Without understanding why then narcissistic abuse is doomed to continue for future generations.

[@TravelingFancyPants]

The lost child. That makes so much sense. My ex would frequently talk about how troubled his childhood was. If I mentioned something about it, he would be like “what are you talking about? I had a great childhood. I don’t have any issues.” And I would be like 🙃🙃 you literally said they would lock you in a closet when you acted out… but ya you don’t have any lingering issues from that AT ALL. So this is the REAL parent trap

[@lilfairycupcake]

and all that f ed up baggage, he drug right into your marriage. i know the feeling. my ex wife's father was a 1st class, pc of sh it, alcoholic, and somehow she forgot to mention this. she forgot because being abused by said pc of sh it, was some kind of twisted form love in her mind. only remembering the how great of a guy he was, parts. did not find out about him, and his lil habit until several yrs after marriage, and it explained a lot concerning her totally f ed up train of thought. try processing this. she conducted herself just like a alcoholic, without the alcohol. now thats true love. jesus.

[@labotraduc8448]

I've seen it time and again observing my sister. She's a master at seducing people by flattery, fireworks of positive attitudes and phrases, then starts the terrible tales of victimhood in her youth... that's how people become her faithful fanclub members. They endorse the role of knights in shiny armor, even women with maternal feelings. They feel agrandised by becoming the protectors of such an angel-victim. Every person in her circles have had a negative attitude towards me (the "horrible" sister) from the first time I met them. They will never question anything in her attitudes and stories, because she's a "victim" and they had fallen in love with all the flattery at the beginning of their relationship they needed to hear.

[@lindsaycaldwell3070]

This is a good reminder. Bad behavior is bad behavior. It hurts just as much, and it's still wrong, even if I THINK I know why they do it.

[@watkinsinc.7147]

When you say hell no it seems they threaten you by trying to put you back into trauma. Ignore them

[@Raven4508]

Yep, doing that at the moment...

[@lilfairycupcake]

correct; ignore them. the only way they can put you back into their hell is, if you, by choice, choose to go there.

[@maryfowler7507]

Absolutely love you Richard ❤❤❤😊😊 I just wanted you to know some great great news. A prayer of mine has been answered I've been praying about for two years now. I believe my brother's wife was a narcissist and she just left him. Her energy was so negative and draining being around her. She pure tortured me with demon actions towards me. She was so hateful. I have been with narcissists before I just really think she was the way I saw her gaslighting a ton. Controlling my brother. We all lived very close to one another so I had to see her alot whether I wanted to or not. I have a twenty two year old daughter that she was trying to fool in her web as well. I am just praising God she is done and that burden is lifted huge. I don't have to see her again I have ny family back again. ❤😊❤😊❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 It's time to celebrate 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@GodsChildTM]

When you come to the place that you understand that every word was a lie, or at best a half truth, it's much easier to let go of the idea that they will ever change. Master manipulators...

[@natalied2195]

“If I don’t see you, I am not alright.” You just said it. All these things that were said that melted my heart were in fact manipulative and predatory, calculated to manufacture an emotional response. They are not victims, but they make you feel like you’re abandoning them. Logically I know. Thank you for helping to unravel this emotional mess I’ve found myself in for years after a heart melting friendship with a trusted person of several years prior, turned sour. If only regular people knew how to tune into each other the way a narcissist does to you, we might not struggle so 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@carolynheathcote]

He told me he was bullied all his life and would have committed suicide if he hadn't met me. Je had no friends and would be all alone without me. I fell for it and he ruined me.

[@emmabby22]

Things get better when you focus on yourself ❤❤❤

[@RobChandler]

YEP, That is the trap I fell into head first. Then three years of misery! ... But I needed it to break my ego into pieces so I could grow and learn more about myself than any other time in my life! Maybe I'm rationalizing but I am a better person now, than before the "Gauntlet" experience! Absolutely LOVE your videos!!!

[@PenninkJacob]

What is the point of "intelligence" if not to escape from being brainwashed and to finally create a civilization for the purpose of caring instead of endless miserable servitude…👍❤

[@Ultralined]

Aha!!!

[@Ultralined]

These mfers just want power and control. Wouldn’t even be satisfied if they took over the entire galaxy. Bottomless pit…

[@susanlittlesthobo6422]

For me sadly it was how they talked about people I loved - parents and close friends - that eventually made me see them for real. It was the impact I saw on my actual kids that helped me see my responsibility didn’t lie with him

[@almor2445]

I just realised it doesn't matter. I can't know the truth or control their behaviour so the only option is to stop giving a sht

[@CatladyActionFigure]

😆👍❤

[@kimberlynorato135]

I don't give a shit either. I think everyone is a narc or psycho. I'm convinced.

[@ginagina9592]

@@kimberlynorato135curious why do you think everyone is? I’m genuinely interested since Ik I have picked up narc traits because of my narc abuse. Ik I do have empathy and I do self analysis… but I can see the trauma has temporarily given me these narc traits

[@kimberlynorato135]

@ginagina9592 I think its where I live. I live in New England and it's very competitive and ppl are extremely toxic. So I could be generalizing. Everyone has these traits I try not to dwell on labels.

[@ninjacat508]

​@kimberlynorato135 I live in New England too. Northerners do have a certain bluntness but I would never call it narcissistic. More of a down home, household and family first type thing. I'm guessing you are in the Boston metro area, or a Connecticut metro area. Boston in particular, I can see why you pick up on that. So many competitive universities and world class hospitals were everyone is trying to scratch their way to the top. The coastal suburban areas might show you a different experience.

[@sierraansley]

This is a great point. This thing about being expected to be someone else's "therapist" isn't new though- women have always been expected to do this for men in our culture, people from marginalized groups have always been expected to do this. Conservative Christianity in America actually has it as an expolicit rule, especially the IBLP (what The Duggars on tv followed), who say that it's a wife's duty to gaze adoringly with admiration at her husband no matter how stupid what he says is. Privilege breeds avoidance of accountability.

[@sambam9129]

My mother made me her therapist

[@UrsulaZA]

5:01 - thank you for addressing this. There are a lot of people with trauma out there, and I mean severe trauma, but they don’t rinse-wash-repeat abuse. Not every crime has to have a why. Sometimes it’s just wrong. And, apart from that, asking the “why” everytime takes away ACCOUNTABILITY

[@lilfairycupcake]

into their dungeon is a great way of putting it. they live in a perpetual state of hell, and nothing makes them more gleeful, than making you a part of it.

[@evelynspaghetti4978]

How absolutely wild that I was thinking about this last night. Only in my own frame of reference, but how RG fleshes it out is incredible. I have been in the role he's talking about, as long as I can remember. My own ego trap is not lost on me either and the shadow side of the rescuer/caregiver is wild and just about gave me a break down when I started to realise that some of my shiny behaviours and programming were and are toxic...but anywho.. I just .. thanking RG for the absolution 😂. I'll work on it. So appreciate these bits and bobs. Thankyou for your time ❤

[@joyalways1179]

Yes, indeed! They totally trap you with their self pity.

[@BellaJoyeuse]

Also- they like to make you think if you love them you'll understand and accept them "as they are "- to make you feel like an evil uncaring person when you simply won't put up with any more abuse. And if you point out what they're doing and they feel vulnerable and exposed and nothing they do "is working" to continue to manipulate you- they will often rage and publicly behave like they are innocent and humble and not intelligent enough to be manipulative, etc. but you (the victim) are the one who's smarter and must be the crazy manipulative one. It's really insane-

[@Puppylove82-gv3gm]

My problem is I need to learn how to say NO and not feel guilty about it and not let my mil or mother manipulate me with their tactics. Every single time I let them convince me to do something I dont want to to, I go home and regret it and get piping mad and cry about it to my husband for like a week. I'm tired of being like this. I know it can't be easy for my husband. Why is it so hard for me to say NO, and just walk away with a smile. As mad as they get me with their little tactics, I sometimes wonder if I'm the narc or something. I just want to tell them to LEAVE ME THE F ALONE! Even if they arent bothering me on a specific day. Like I know it's brewing for them to do or say something stupid. I'm going crazy!!

[@estrela3889]

"Infestation of narcissists" in our social, cultural structures is spot on! And the question arises: What are the factors that contribute for people to be choosing/voting for narcissists to be in power?

[@ivadedeva7005]

The worst is that the therapists convinced me the same! Those therapists all of them / I have been to 15 at least for 7 years/ They do not make the difference between Wolves and Sheeps!

[@redsoul7215]

Richard you helped save me from tragedy. I’m beginning to see the fantasy false reality that I create that makes me vulnerable to NARCs.

[@rotagfu]

Well done! Thank you for the reminder.

[@fionataylor4269]

Had to re-watch this one. It is difficult to stop feeling responsible for the narcissists issues when they find themselves in more problems, they are issues that you cannot solve, it is not our job. I am concentrating on saving myself now, not others. Societal/ hierarchy traps are much harder to avoid but they must be looked at.

[@MarjyGTV]

AKA demon infestation. We need to keep our spiritual armor stronger than ever. You cannot win this battle without our creator, He is the ultimate truth. I hope the best for you all 💚🙏🏼

[@ladyvirgo013]

Totally Agree

[@GLsJAwtomatica]

Plenty of non monitheists have healed from narcissistic abuse, I find it extremely offensive that you would attempt to demoralise those seeking healing and recovery just because they don't share your same metaphysical beliefs

[@MarjyGTV]

@@GLsJAwtomatica well my intention wasn't to offend, my intention is to spread the truth. If you feel this isn't the truth, I respect your opinion. I'm not here to convert anyone into any religion either. But I want you to know Christ has always loved you, He seeks you to come back to Him. And He wants to protect you from whats to come. I wish you the best

[@GLsJAwtomatica]

@@MarjyGTV how can you claim to be a Christian yet be this pretentious? Last time I checked, arrogance and grandiosity were sins, and maybe I do believe the same as you but that's not the point, it's inappropriate to pontificate metaphysics as the only way for survivors to heal especially when millions of non Christians have done so, there's plenty of spaces on youtube where it's appropriate to preach monotheism but this is so clearly not one of them

[@Groundwater24]

You are on the money. Some say that other than feeling that awful energy, there is a distinct smell, too. It’s awful. Some of my loved ones have these demons, however, I am separated from them now. I play the St Benedict praying on a very low setting when one of my afflicted children stays over. She is so restless in her sleep as it plays, yet other things playing and she sleeps soundly😢. For the non-narcissist therapists out there (do they even fukcing exist?). She has started the gaslighting and falsehoods which rips my heart out. I can see that “lost” look in her eyes and that is also hard to bare. I will never give up on her, EVER. Her brother, my son. Is not a narcissist and I miss him so much. But, he is smitten (Oedipal) with his own mother, my ex-wife. The evil wench has turned him against me. I expect deliverance becoming more talked about in the future. Ephesians 6:12. May god help humanity.

[@DJ-jf8ts]

The last couple minutes was very powerful, and obvious when we look objectively at our society.

[@laura-2]

For me, the covert narcissist comes across as a people pleaser. They like to be in the spotlight to get the validation that they crave for, as other narcissists but at the same time, they pretend to be humble, simple, generous, over giving. The covert narcissist will take time to build a relationship/friendship with you. During this period, they will show their admiration and their devotion by helping you with everything that is you need. They will try to convince you that you are soulmates and that they understand you deeply. At the same time, you will see them being overly altruistic, maybe helping society by engaging in charities, activism. They feed the poor, take care of the homeless. All this makes you think how lucky you are for having met such a beautiful soul. You want to be by their side for ever. However, soon you notice how much they enjoy being invited in galas to talk about their achievements. But they don’t admit that. They still play the humble guy who doesn’t want all this. Who is beyond money, beyond fame and recognition, who wants to share the floor with other people. But their acts don’t match their words. You come to realise that this selfless soul is actually doing whatever it takes to be in the centre of attention. When you do something together be it at work or at home, they want to control everything about it. They just exerce their control in a more polite and implicit way, making you believe that your voice was heard whereas in reality you did what they wanted you to do. Covert narcissists have a smooth way of leading you on. They don’t shout, they don’t give orders. They are master actors. They convince you that you are together in this. What makes them a narcissist is that when the time comes for them to use you in order to draw certain benefits, they will do it without a second thought and you are not going to believe in your eyes. And when you stand up for yourself and raise your voice against them calling them for their phony identity, then you will see their rage for the first time and the mask will fall. Covert narcissists manipulate less with rage/exhibiting superiority and more with people pleasing behaviour/playing the eternal victim. They are not aggressive as overt narcissists. They are more cunning. What they both have in common is self-centered ness and lack of empathy. In the case of coverts, it will take you longer to find out.They knew what they wanted to get out of you from the beginning. They created a whole theatre play to fool you about who they are and their true motives. You will trust them with all your heart but when the time comes for them to prove their loyalty by choosing your bond over their personal gain, they will choose the latter with no remorse, without even taking any responsibility. Unlike the overt narcissist, they will have an eloquent excuse for doing so, rationalizing why they had to f@ck you over. They will pretend to be sorry about it because this is something that matches the image of modesty that they want to project but in reality they are not sorry at all. You will see them partying with your own money when they said they didn’t have enough to pay you back. You will see them being unfair and untrustworthy to other people as well. When the mask of the victim will fall, you will see the cruel smile of a perpetrator who managed to get what they want without deserving it. If you decide to unmask them run for your life. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your wife of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on her of her without her knowledge of her. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,

[@omnamahshivaya6299]

You're a covert narcissist. Gotcha.

[@omnamahshivaya6299]

How did you become a narcissist? Was it Instagram that did it?

[@hopeglory1286]

It is not my problem 😮 this has to be my mantra

[@The_Salty_Siren]

How do you exist as a herd animal in a society that is profoundly malignantly ill?

[@kimberlynorato135]

At first I blamed where I live, the state of RI is full of evil. I don't know where to live anymore.

[@nyxcole9879]

​@kimberlynorato135 dang and I thought RI looked peaceful

[@jessicashearing307]

Thank you Richard!! Love your videos! Would love to chat it up eventually. I’ve been with 3 narcissists. My sweet empathetic mother has tried to get me away from this toxic cycle 😢. I’m slowly learning… this cycle HAS to change xoxoxo ❤

[@karenp2903]

It’s even more insidious if they are your adult child.