The Natural Use of the Woman | Doug Wilson

In this episode of Blog & Mablog, Pastor Doug Wilson continues his series of letters to a fictional nephew about the relationship between the sexes, this time discussing sandwiches and the natural use of the woman.
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"Godly women want to feed their men. Godly women are designed to make the sandwiches. This is not an absolute law, like the one about making babies, and there are times when a man fends for himself and makes quite a decent sandwich. But in the general scheme of things, the apostle Paul wants the women to make the sandwiches."

[@blogmablog4870]

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[@aallen5256]

The evangelical incels you're courting will love this.

[@keithwilson6060]

@@aallen5256 As all biblical Christians would.

[@aallen5256]

@@keithwilson6060 Do you have a wife or girlfriend Keith?

[@Stareingattheson]

So I have subscribed at least twice before and this is assuredly the third time! I wonder who keeps removing my subscription and who make sure that nothing from you all shows up in my feed?? I think I already know the answer as I’m aware of the overlords.

[@micu1544]

Christian Nationalism is an oxymoron.

[@Apeleutheros80]

My wife makes me a sandwich to put in my lunchbox everyday. She even puts the lettuce and tomatoes in a separate bag so the bread doesn't get soggy. When I sit down for lunch and say a blessing, I make sure and thank God for my wife first.

[@SteelCowGirl4Ever]

... are you talking about your wife or your mom? Sounds like you're confusing your wife for your mom maybe? No offense, but your comment sounds like it was written by an 8-year-old.

[@Apeleutheros80]

@@SteelCowGirl4Ever Don't lie, you were trying to be offensive. She does it because she's a good wife (not because I ask her to). This comment is a year old btw. What did your husband have for lunch today?

[@SteelCowGirl4Ever]

@@Apeleutheros80 Definitely not offended so much as you should be humiliated. Sorry to hear that you ended up marrying your mom and you call her your "wife" for some reason. Can you at the very least change your own underwear? I would hope so. LOL 😆!! And never mind what "husbands" eat for lunch. I get to have one of the best cheddar BLT's made for me (by a man) every day. I'm working full-time in a clinical laboratory where I'm paid to do specimen processing and data collections. So I don't have time to make sandwiches. (I only have time to eat them ).😋👌

[@Ram-dq1gq]

Her husbands girlfriend made him a sandwich

[@cosmictreason2242]

@@Apeleutheros80I'm guessing sour grapes

[@alfredkinsey3264]

I love this message, but I do the food preparation in our home because my wife has a spinal injury that pretty much precludes her from doing that job. I’m happy to take care of her and it makes me happy to see her happy.

[@LauPineda]

When you genuinely love a person feeding them and seeing them smile because of your food, it’s sooooo rewarding. It’s not awful as I was led to believe. When he finds me, yeah, I will make him a sandwich or as many as he wants! I will make him shawarma, torta mejicana, I will learn to make a sandwich from anywhere in the world just so that he smiles 😂 So weird how they made something so simple a big deal.

[@hondotheology]

do you have a sister

[@robertsmith3254]

Totally facts. On a side note, even tortillas made by someone you love taste waaaaay better than anything else you can get out there in a restaurant. I guess love does make everything better at the end of the day.

[@brotherzeke8002]

Yeah, sounds as if you have a passion to prepare a meal? I have a passion as a man to wholeheartedly eat that meal. Regardless of of what is before me. I may even wash that plate when I'm done.

[@friedricengravy6646]

So if he loves u he cant make a sandwich for u?? Stop ignoring the second class citizen label this nonsense is hoping to sell u.

[@LauPineda]

@@friedricengravy6646 if he loves me, yes, he can do that, or make me a whole dinner every night but I want the opportunity to love him through my help. Jesus prayed: “father not my will but yours be done.” My teacher submitted to God the father and in obedience gave Himself for our sins. Voluntary submission among equals (in importance not in role) it’s what makes this beautiful. The husband is to submit to Christ; he is to love the Lord with all his heart, mind, strength, and he is to love his wifey more than himself. I am to make him a sandwich he is to plant my garden and take a bullet for me and our children. Don’t ignore that their part of the deal is pay with their life. No one is advocating for modern day slavery but for two adults to built a house that honors Jesus and enjoys Him forever.

[@johannes6760]

Wise, modest, critical thinker, nurturing, hospitable. Unindoctrinated by the corporate media industrial complex. This is My dream companion.

[@keithwilson6060]

I’m picturing Mary Bailey from It’s a Wonderful Life. Do they still exist?

[@psalm2forliberty577]

Wow you just described me. Uh oh - there goes modest, eh ? LOL Does 'sense of humor' fit in ? Cheers - David in Texas

[@marybrewer2203]

I’m a 62 year old woman. I like to make the sandwiches. My 58 year old husband can make his own sandwich when needed, but he knows I like to do it. We are happy and comfortable in our God-designed roles. Age helps, a lot.

[@polarisedelectrons]

I am a young, single woman. I also like to make sandwiches. It is my hope and prayer that one day I will be able to make sandwiches, and much more than that, for a good and compatible man in my life.

[@keithwilson6060]

I think you’re missing the point. Whether you like it or not, your role is to nurture the man and his family. Again, whether you like it or not.

[@polarisedelectrons]

@@keithwilson6060 Agreed. It's just a bonus that I (and some other women) happen to have been blessed to like it.

[@JonathanGillies]

@@polarisedelectrons Amen! :) I'm single too!!! :D :D I hope you find a very good husband one day!!! God bless! :D

[@cindybalch7982]

@@keithwilson6060 , wow I just realized you were serious! 😮 Don’t come at me though. I made a ridiculous amount of sandwiches yesterday, 😄not because I felt like I had to. I don’t think any woman should feel pressure to do things. If she feels God is guiding and telling her to do something He isn’t going to make her feel like she has to!

[@lindseyswinborne4985]

I wondered if this would be the episode where I disagreed with Doug Wilson. But alas, he makes too much sense because his views come from the Word. Quite appropriately, I listened to this episode while making a chicken and bean soup, homemade sourdough rolls, and stewing cinnamon apples for my family, while being thankful for a husband who works outside all day in January in Wyoming to provide for us.😊

[@BelindaTN]

True. I have never seen this set up in the relationship to be a problem. We feed our men so they can do the work that we cannot do. I can prepare and cook a good meal. However I cannot pick up hundreds of bales of hay out of the field and throw them on the trailer, then haul them to the barn and toss them into the loft. (Though I can climb up on top of the very tall stacks of hay on the trailer, and roll them off for my husband to pick up and stack again.) I also cannot take a chainsaw and cut up the great big tree that fell across out driveway and then move it out of the way. Same for splitting firewood. And I can go on and on of the many things my husband and can do that needs to be done, that I cannot. So the least I can do is feed him and clean up the mess from preparing the food and make sure he has clean clothes to wear to work.

[@zr7699]

Amen Sister

[@rizzonator18]

@@BelindaTN sure you could.

[@JonathanGillies]

@@rizzonator18 Some can, but many can't. :/

[@savanahbustle3361]

AMEN GIRL! Go you!!! You make that delicious food with pride and joy. Sounds good too.

[@ashleychilders9639]

I’ve been married almost 9 years. I can’t imagine watching my husband make a sandwich. It would be awful. Haha I am sure he would feel the same way about watching me shovel our driveway. It would be torture. Lol We enjoy serving each other in our roles. It’s wonderful. It’s meaningful. It’s fun.

[@dixydarlin56]

Same!

[@billiehanson3686]

I can sense the sincerity of your comment, and it is important to find what works for each relationship. However - what would happen if your husband was a chef and loved to make a sandwich for you? Would his "role" then be mis-guided? What if "shoveling the driveway" was something he might rather hire out - and then low and behold the paid personal that showed up was a woman? I think worldly culture vs Bible culture both can have their problems...remember the sin that brought humanity crashing down was a simple bite into a piece of fruit.

[@ashleychilders9639]

I understand what you are saying. My point is just that it’s not demeaning to serve each other. It’s not wrong that I make the food and my husband does the heavy lifting. It doesn’t mean that we are stuck in gender roles. It’s how God made us to work together. I am sure for other families it may certainly look different. I think the point is that the women should desire to be the homemaker and helpmeet and the husband should desire to be the head, protector, and provider. So it very well may play out differently for different families and that’s fine. It’s about the biblical principle and us all being okay with the world not liking us for it. So for each couple I think it takes being intentional and talking about how to walk obediently in the God given roles. What will that look like? How will we show the world the importance of our God given roles in the day to day? So for the couple you mentioned: It may be that the husband does all the cooking. The wife never makes sandwiches lol That’s cool. But she is so obviously such a loving and serving homemaker in other areas that it’s not missed. She submits to her husband, nurtures the children, and manages the home in a beautiful way. And she loves to do it. That’s what the world needs to see. The joy of obeying Christ! Wives having home being their priority. The husband in that situation hires someone to shovel the driveway and that is totally 👍 He is able to do that because he works, provides, and protects his family. He is loving his family by making sure the things that need to be done are taken care of. He loves taking care and leading his family! That’s what the world need to see! Men joyfully serving Christ! Being responsible! I do the budgeting in our house because my husband has asked me to do it and I enjoy doing it. I put it all together and he looks it over and usually if not always says “Looks good👍 “ That might not work for another Christian couple at all. Another man might feel in order to lead his family it would be better if he handled the budget and then shared it with his wife. Again I think the point is that there are specific roles God has given in marriage and we shouldn’t be ashamed of that fact. It should be apparent to the world that we do things differently than what is mainstream. This should all be done out of faith not legalism of course. BUT people should see that there is an obvious distinction between my role and my husbands. If that all makes sense :) I’m not morally opposed to my husband making sandwiches. Lol And I have shoveled the driveway in a pinch before when he wasn’t home. It’s just we actually are happy when we get to serve eachother in these particular ways. We like to see the differences in how God made us. It’s not a bad thing.

[@ashleychilders9639]

Also- I don’t think all manual labor is alike. I love pulling weeds and other yard work but to be honest I’ve never mowed our yard and probably never will. I’m a small person so shoveling snow or mowing is something my husband does because he is just in fact 10x stronger than me. That might be considered a “gender stereotype” but whatever. I’m thankful for it! I am sure weaker in that area and I’m not ashamed of it. I think my husband would not be pleased if he hired a company to mow the lawn and a woman showed up. Just because he is chivalrous. Not because he has an ego. I’m not sure whether he would have a moral obligation to do something about it. He is my head not hers. Also there isn’t anything in scripture that forbids it from my understanding. I think that it’s good that it would bug him a bit though. I think men caring for women’s safety and well being is a good thing. She may be a super strong capable women but my husband still seeing her as a women (created that way by God) and having a displeasure at knowing he is causing her to work a strenuous job won’t be wrong I don’t think. I am sure the world would call that bigotry but I don’t think it is. I think it’s what God desires men to feel towards women. A desire to protect and work hard in place of. Just throwing all my thoughts out into the web 🌎 probably will regret it

[@ashleychilders9639]

ALSO- I can’t stop apparently. The first sin began by Adam and Eve not obeying in their roles and then eating the fruit. “So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. “ Adam didn’t lead and his wife was deceived. That was the first sin. His lack of leadership and her stepping in to make a decision based on lies. Okay I’m done

[@AMessengerofTruth]

One of the funniest thumbnail-title combos ever. I couldn't not click

[@CuriousGeorge13]

"You do not just have the challenging task of finding a good and virtuous wife, you must find her while living in a madhouse." Haha. That pretty accurately describes my experience. Although the madness seems to be spreading every year.

[@benjamincervantes2729]

We’ll find one, brother. Keep praying for one.

[@lorrainem.swartzentruber3077]

I never understood why it is so offensive that men and women have different roles. It doesn't mean one is better than the other. They have different strengths. Both are made in God's image and together we reflect him.

[@TGP109]

Because ugly men always degrade women's roles.

[@TGP109]

Because men have long referred to women/children as their ''ball and chain'' and respect nothing a woman does, unless, of course, she's no longer having sex with him or making sandwiches.

[@cccgarden802]

So much “politically incorrect “ wisdom in such a short video! Thank you for this excellent production! God bless!

[@jennan2316]

My husband makes much better sandwiches than I do, but we have a good and balanced life. Sometimes I cook, sometimes he does. The chores are all split up. It’s a life of service and it’s wonderful.

[@kermit3471]

You are a witch in God's eyes.

[@rosagoglia4649]

Thank you….there has been such a change in the last 50 years

[@frae7143]

Praise God for such a thoughtful, satirical insight. Love it! Thanks Doug. Coming all the way fron the little rock in the Caribbean - Jamaica 🇯🇲

[@JonathanGillies]

Greetings to Jamaica!!!!! :D

[@Xandy2dandY]

I would love to hear more about this topic. This was so good

[@TheSergio1021]

The thumbnail and title gave me a good chuckle, truth be told

[@johnvillasenior2355]

My wife cooks and cleans and takes care of our 3 children and she helps me farm and do construction. And I get a foot massage every night and I have not trimmed my own finger or toe nails since we married 18 years ago. I work 6 days a week Farming and building in the hot and cold rain or shine come hell or high water. She has not earned any pay in 16 years. And I would jump in front of a machine gun nest for her with a smile on my face. And God have mercy on them if they didn't kill me. Why do people think that is bad? I have a role. She has a role. We love each other. But most of all when a husband and wife love each other as demanded by God we reflect Him. We glorify Him. That's why they really hate women making sandwiches. But me, I love it. Like I love providing for her and protecting her. And leading her. It is God manifest in her and I. And there is nothing Satan hates more than God. So anyone who hates Godly roles hates God.

[@9jvbolemic]

Just wondering what you do for your wife on the daily besides earning money. You listed things she does for you that are pretty degrading (ie; why can’t you cut your own toenails, you’re not an infant), but you only said what you WOULD do for her if you HAD to, which is a VERY unlikely scenario. Sounds like you only like this set up bc you have a slave that you say you’d die for, but know you wouldn’t actually ever have to.

[@KevinKake_]

Wow that is amazing, God bless you brother

[@TGP109]

Nobody really cares, most men of Wilson's ilk deliberately strain at gnats in order to make money making videos.

[@michaelnapper4565]

Just wanted to say thank you Mr. Wilson. God bless you and your family.

[@fayefayelou4093]

I love my husband, and I love our marriage. It is my joy to serve him and see him cared for. God was gracious in sparing me from the poison of feminism.

[@cindybalch7982]

Do you stay at home? Do you ever get lonely? Do you ever feel that his “work” comes first? #desperatemom

[@fayefayelou4093]

Lol additional note because KZbin won't let me edit the comment for some reason: I am not perfect at employing the advice given. But again: for this, we have Jesus. My husband is patient with me, and that makes all the difference.

[@fayefayelou4093]

Lol, last-last note: I'm sorry, I don't know why those posted backwards 🤦🏽‍♀️🤣

[@cindybalch7982]

We do have Jesus, but He also gave us each other. We were never designed to face chronic loneliness. Look back at the old ways; at history. Only in recent years have women actually stayed at home as the sole adult. In other countries, this is never done. I don’t believe it was Gods design. He cares about community and relationship. He cares much less about rigid roles people set up among themselves. I’m just really really struggling right now. I just recently lost my mother and she lived the roles this man talks about to a t, but she suffered for it. She didn’t complain or believe anything different but she suffered then died early in life. and now I am there. I really appreciate you giving feedback. I really really need to figure this out. 💔

[@fayefayelou4093]

Hey Cindy. I think my original comment may be too long. For some reason, it keeps deleting. I may have to post in pieces. Give me just a sec.

[@cadenhedlund5764]

cant wait until these letters to Dawson get turned into a book

[@paulturner5181]

THANK YOU UNCLE DOUGLAS!

[@billiehanson3686]

We were created to be one- It is important a man learn how to be emotionally intimate with his wife- "cleave to his wife" and not leave her hanging in a Spiritual limbo because he thinks he was not "oriented" that way. As a side note: There were no jack hammers Semi truck drivers washing machines and toilets in the garden of Eden- so we are not entirely sure what specificities some actions would have been assigned to. I believe "repentance" plays a large part int any marriage!!

[@9jvbolemic]

This is a much more reasonable thought process, thank you.

[@thaos3228]

well said

[@billiehanson3686]

@Joe Sar Being that you are a man and can speak from the male perspective, I understand what you are saying. I respect and honor my husband's ability to use logic and reason very well. However, I also think we are to be each other's greatest teachers. God gave us all the emotions and thought processes to use so that our (husband and wife relationship) can be used to bring glory to God.

[@TheCannonofMohammed]

Yet another perfectly brilliant piece.

[@amelajay]

I'm a single mom- the estranged spouse is in rebellion- sometimes I feel lost to these teachings though I have no argument to raise against them and adore men of God. God has ultimately become the Head of my household at last. Anyway, I've seen men cook... they often need the help. 😉

[@Richardcontramundum]

Thanks for your words. That must be so difficult. The world is such a broken place and that is so good that you rejoice and take refuge in the Lord. May he bless you further

[@JonathanGillies]

I'm sorry about your less than ideal situation. ;( Yes, many men would be totally lost without their wives. :/

[@EverywhereAtOnce123]

They often need help because their mother raised them dependent on them for food, not because they're unable by default. So you continue that dependency by cooking for them instead of with them. You and Greg both fail to realize that the majority of world renowned chefs are men.

[@TGP109]

@@EverywhereAtOnce123 Ah, the old Belle Hooks quote that mothers get no appreciation for their child rearing skills, while a man in a blazer makes millions telling women how to raise kids.

[@dreamy4643]

​@@TGP109No, the quote is all me.

[@stephenandkatymurray]

Blessed are the sandwich-makers, for they will be called children of God.

[@musicaltheatrefanokc]

30 seconds in, this is great comedy!! And he's so deadpan about it! This is one of the best comedians I've watched. Hopefully the rest of the video is as funny as the beginning.

[@musicaltheatrefanokc]

Update: He definitely put all the best bits in the teaser/intro. Don't get me wrong, there was some solid material scattered throughout the rest of the video, but the pacing slowed way down and he makes his audience wait too long between jokes. Still, he shows promise. His deadpan delivery is perfect. So perfect that if it weren't so ridiculous, you'd be tempted to think he actually believes this nonsense.

[@kingofparodies1]

Very passive aggressive way to say you disagree, you must be the one making the sandwiches at home

[@chickenthrower]

"eccentric uncle" ... "uncle Doug"... I'm watching a video of a guy who sits in a dark room talking to strangers about sandwiches and legos without stubs. Well my childhood Legos still have nubs and now I want a sandwich but I'll go to hell if I make my own. I'm so confuaed.

[@tomsmith48]

Yeah, sometimes Doug gets a bit too lost in his metaphors for me. Perhaps I'm dumb and like being talked to straight, but I always feel like his examples are 'clearly this is a picture of something a bit deeper, and I'm getting part of that, but please be a bit clearer as well as your example is actually making it harder to understand exactly where you stand on this'. Perhaps part of this is also being outside the US and missing some cultural cues that mean nothing to me even though he's speaking my first language. Considering Jesus cooked fish for his disciples, and fed the crowds twice, I am quite certain making yourself a sandwich is not a sin (although I don't think you believe that either, but just in case that was genuine and not sarcasm 😄). In my personal experience, I've met a few good Christian husbands who will regularly (and at least in one case exclusively) cook for their families. And they're usually rather good cooks as well when I've been invited to their homes. Not sure cooking is such a good example to be honest as there's no express command that 'a man shall not cook for his family'. It might be necessary if the guy is working long hours and the woman is at home, but I actually think it's a task that can appeal to both men and women. It's never struck me as being a strongly female oriented task if I'm honest.

[@ProphetPriestPoet]

Doug! It's crazy that I listened to this tonight. I came home early and didn't plan to eat but to work on a few projects and my sweet Christian wife came home and, surprised I was home early, said that she made sure she came home at a good time because she wanted to make me something for dinner. When I initially said I wasn't going to eat, I could tell she was kind of sad... and so I ate! :-) Love that God-given wonderful woman.

[@KevinKake_]

Warms my heart when hear of virtuous women like your wife. God Bless you brother

[@olivianisle705]

Absolutely phenomenal use of God's word and literature.

[@lifetodamax]

Lolol awesome. The thumbnail of a sandwich meant exactly what I thought it did

[@SincerelyHannah9]

As a woman who enjoys making sandwiches and spending the time in the kitchen, I’m not sure why people find it so offensive for a woman to make a man a sandwich LOL

[@ourwholesomehome4967]

😂🤷🏼‍♀️ this made me laugh. I totally agree with you!

[@FloridaGoth]

I think because modern society has decided man is undeserving of affection. So any display of affection is blasphemy to worldy people

[@JonathanGillies]

Another cause for this may be if a woman perceives that she is just a slave to serve a guy in bed and in the kitchen, but doesn't feel truly loved or appreciated. :/

[@SincerelyHannah9]

@@JonathanGillies ideally, the man should be out working hard to provide for his wife and kids, so making him a sandwich should be the least a woman can do for her man😫

[@JonathanGillies]

@@SincerelyHannah9 Do you not think that women's lives are hard enough with child-birth, child-rearing, and house-keeping, without expecting them to do the cooking and food-preparation also? :/

[@sam_the_davidson]

Thank you, Uncle Douglas!

[@doraashby]

What is inherently wrong about equality. Even though God clearly has different roles in mind for women and men, the Bible makes it clear that we’re all made in God’s image. As a Christian woman I know it’s important for me to understand these things no matter how controversial they may be. These letters have been very helpful as I begin to understand my duties in marriage. Your analogies you offer make it easier for me to understand the blindness of our culture when it comes to these important things.

[@Garthant]

There's nothing wrong with saying men and women are equal. The problem that arises is the vagueness of the term. We are all equal in the sense that we all have an equal value before God; there are no second-class Christians. We are not equal in the sense of what our God-given role to perform in this life is. God gives men a different role in life than He gives women, but He doesn't value men more than women. Like you said, we are all image-bearers of Yahweh.

[@doraashby]

@@Garthant I’ve never thought of it that way before, but that’s a great assessment.

[@paulmackinnon9936]

Nothing makes me feel so valued as when my wife plays her God-given part, and by her own testimony, nothing makes her feel the same way as when I play mine. The very contentment the world is seeking with its tug-of-war strategy is what every lovingly obedient Christian couple have already found.

[@doraashby]

@@yeboyi28 As Christians we are focused on biblical equality first and foremost, worldly equality isn’t important because only what’s done for Christ will last. How are men and women of equal “monetary value” but using a “different currency?”

[@doraashby]

@@paulmackinnon9936 Thank you for saying lovingly obedient, there are some Christians online that seem to think women are supposed to be blindly obedient.

[@hp_melchizedek1512]

Thank you pastor Doug. Amen and Amen

[@mattwilly7959]

Still waiting to find where the Apostle Paul Commands women to make sandwhiches.

[@piercechristensen8608]

It's there in the Greek. You just have to look for it.

[@mattwilly7959]

@@piercechristensen8608 must be in the Gospel of Thomas

[@arminius504]

Weird take and totally missing the point

[@JonathanGillies]

Titus 2:5

[@johnvillasenior2355]

"to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God."

[@cindybalch7982]

Men get to be unique, with your idea of what God wants. Women have to “look” uniform and have to put aside their uniqueness to fit your “use of women.” Your trying to “file” all women into the same shape and size. This is not Biblical!

[@johnvillasenior2355]

No, it is Biblical. Grab a Bible and read it and submit yourself to what is says. Or stop deluding yourself that you are saved.

[@cindybalch7982]

@@johnvillasenior2355 , I’ve read my Bible through multiple times. I love my Beloved (Jesus)! I know without a shadow of a doubt that I belong to Him and He belongs to me. Yet I still can find nowhere in the Bible where it says women should make the sandwiches 🥪 most of the time, or that it’s normal and ok that women should be objectified. Jesus said much to the contrary. 🥰

[@cindybalch7982]

@@johnvillasenior2355 If all you want from women is food and sex, I feel sorry for you. Your missing out on ALOT! 😉 Go look into your wife’s eyes and get to know her. Make her a sandwich for a change. Love her. The whole her. There is much you have not discovered. 🥰

[@CEOofSleep]

Looking for "sandwich" verse really?

[@thesunnyfawn5701]

@@cindybalch7982 even though it's painful to read that guys response, we are so much better off knowing who the bad ones are. I agree with your original comment fully.

[@andrewnyman4128]

Biblical femininity is the most attractive quality of my wife...or at least in a photo finish with another asset.

[@user-kk6ov4pd2s]

whew! ive listened 3x someone summarize this message for me as if i were 4 years old… thanks

[@juliekendall339]

Which translation are you using? Romans 1:27 says natural relations and specifically only talking about sexual relations but you went off on the word “using” to include a plethora of meanings. Scripture is not a stepping stone to go off in a million different directions.

[@SM12397]

Meanwhile, single man just making bread here lol.

[@jackuber7358]

Thank you once again for clearing away all the clown-shaped heaps of fetid refuse contemporary intelligentsia call wisdom and revealing the GOD-ordained true truths regarding godly men and godly women and consequently convicting me of my own poor behavior with my wife. GOD's grace & peace. Maranatha!

[@GrandAbbot]

Halloween Hair 😂 I love how straightforward he is with these terms --- this guys is breaking spells!

[@sheliemartin6690]

Almost 40 years married and I love making sandwiches and cooking everything. I love to be in the kitchen. I love to clean house and sere my husband.

[@hollyloughlin7440]

Mu husband leaves for work between 4:45-5:15am, so he, blessedly, cooks his own breakfast. I am happy to make sure he has the ingredients he likes and clean pans, dishes, and a coffee mug. I have happily made his lunch nearly every day of our 25-year marriage. It is not often a sandwich, but that's not the point. I also have made almost every dinner we've ever eaten together. It is a great joy to spoil him with good food.

[@nathan3942]

On point as always! Thanks, Doug.

[@VARifleman2013]

You need less sandwiches and to submit to the Church. This is despicable. It is an affront to the Truth of the sacrement of Marriage.

[@wesleymarkmusic403]

Thank you Pastor Doug. You are an artist, except, you don't use paint, you use words. You don't use words for mere word's sake but for God's sake. You bring clarity in these "out of focus" times.

[@jessedphillips]

I love this

[@jeffcooper9363]

Thank you Uncle Douglas

[@mintyhippo8125]

I’ve never heard so much conflating in 10 minutes before. This ignores nuance of any sort. Using people is intrinsically implied to be a selfish act. Working with someone for mutual benefit is not the same as using them. In his example, using someone to physically block the sun from your eyes is not the same as using them morally. In that situation, it doesn’t harm nor benefit the sun blocker in anyway. If you use a woman to give you kids without her consent, that can cause physical, emotional, and mental harm. Further, wanting to provide for your family and being forced to do things against your will are two different things. You can love your spouse and want to make them food, and it doesn’t mean you have to do that. What if you’re an awful cook? What if you can show your love in a better way for both of you? What if you don’t see well and burn yourself when you use the oven because you can’t see clearly where to put your hand? How is that benefiting anyone. You can still be a man or a woman and use your skills in a smart way. It’s quite a waste of potential to reduce people so much. Also, if husbands lead the family, they are literally the ones making the choices so you can’t say that no one gets a choice and that it’s “God’s choice.” Men are also swayed by the whims of the world.

[@skillz8363]

My wife says I don't do enough. I earn $200k+ a year, drop off the kids at daycare, pick them up, make dinner, play/watch over kids, put them to bed, do chores. When I ask her to clean, she says it's not the 1950s. Gender roles would make me more productive and be a welcome respite. How do i suggest to my wife that she takes care of the home?

[@holinessofthebride1935]

You tell her what she needs to do. You explain why, both from Scripture and reason. Marriage is ordered in such a way that she needs to respect your authority, but if she has the attitude you describe, it may take some time. Establish your marriage on what the Bible teaches, including on headship and submission, and the union functions with great peace and joy. If you have not established it that way, then do it now.

[@GFI100]

Thank you for dropping anchors in deep waters.

[@douglasmcnay644]

The women out there who complain that "He just wants my body" typically don't think it is too much to ask that the man lift the heavy things or go check out the crashing noise in the middle of the night or go fix something after a long day at work. We use each other's bodies in different ways, but that doesn't make it fine to ask him to submit himself to her every whim while depriving him.

[@raYrefiedAire]

And you're comment brings to mind another decades long trend "Mr Mom" where the only place she "cooks" is in the bedroom 🙄

[@rebekahguilder602]

Ummmm, well you would be using your wife's body to cook you dinner, nurse your children, scrub your toilet. I don't think it's right for a woman to deny her husband continually but to act like men do all of this stuff with their body for women and therefore women owe them sex is not biblical and honestly, satanic.

[@YSLRD]

@@rebekahguilder602 Probably not satanic. A woman is no more obligated to provide sex than her husband is to provide it for her. And no less. Humans being what we are, we tend to put ourselves first and men can easily forget that women need more than caresses to " prime the pump". So it's more thoughtless than satanic.

[@rebekahguilder602]

@@YSLRD I'm saying that just because you do things around the house does not mean your wife owes you sex. That devalues sex to something that can be bartered for. That is satanic. I'm not saying a man's obliviousness is satanic. That's just differences between men and women. But the original poster said women use men's bodies to do things around the house and then have no problem denying the men sex. If you listen to Doug Wilson's talk he makes the point that we use people all the time. So the man has already used his wife's body to cook him dinner, take care of his kids, clean his toilet, etc. So if we're reducing it to a tit for tat he's already been paid. The point is in a marriage or family you can't reduce it to a tit for tat arrangment.

[@kamarwashington]

@@rebekahguilder602 Very we’ll said

[@marymack1]

What I want to know is, why is it always a sandwich? LOL!

[@piercechristensen8608]

Sandwiches are a creation of glory. Bread, is the seed of a well cultivated grass dried and ground fine them mixed with living yeast to rise beautifully. Mayonnaise is eggs and oil, one collected from the miniature raptors that we've domesticated for our yards and the other tightly pressed from seeds by thousands of pounds. Cheese from milk infused with more tiny living things to curdle it and make it taste delicious. Add beautiful tomato and lettuce and crown with cured meat, maybe from a chicken, turkey, pig, or even a massive beef steer. The sandwich game is no petty endeavor.

[@nosegrindv4951]

wow this is super helpful. thank you.

[@restorehumility3538]

❤️ your words uncle Douglass. I have grown/matured in my faith so much by your council. So grateful I discovered you & during such a difficult time... Our Father has used you to prepare me for a truly Christ centered, biblical, God & spouse honoring union. It is a constant battle fighting off the infectious poison of the world&culture. I pray for the strength & endurance of the saints🙏and that their love overflow.

[@KevinKake_]

Amen 🙏🏿

[@lindabishop7824]

I love to cook but sometimes I don't feel like cooking and that is ok. God blessed men wit 2 hands and he can make his own damn sandwich. What I hate is when weak, pathetic and ignorant men try to use the bible to subjugate women. Be man enough to take pride in your woman being herself.

[@antoniac1234]

I hate cooking and don't like cleaning. Obviously, G-d made me wrong. I was given intellect with an ugly appearance. If I was meant to be in this role you speak of, well, I was not made for it. G-d should have made me pretty and dumb.

[@Stareingattheson]

So I have subscribed at least twice before and this is assuredly the third time! I wonder who keeps removing my subscription and who make sure that nothing from you all shows up in my feed?? I think I already know the answer as I’m aware of the overlords.

[@littlesparrows-loved]

Submission is mutual, and loving one another is mutual, roles get decided according to the needs of both husband and wife within each family. There is no “right” way of doing it. Couples decide it together. That is a healthy marriage. Dr. Andrew J Bauman did the work, Rebecca Davis Untwisting Scriptures six books, and the Eden podcast are good starts. They all delve into the Word of God.

[@Steblu74]

Thanks uncle!

[@friedricengravy6646]

If prayer works, why would the Christian Right need to influence legislation through the political system?? Just pray for change….. Oh, u do……& it does not work. Why dont u make ur wife a sandwich? Why not?? Dont u want her to feel loved?? This is so silly.

[@jjmonty8090]

“ hey, things are tough all over”

[@princekermit0]

Gosh, I am surprised that the algorithm hasn't memory holed this video as being against "community standards."

[@BenTrotterNZ]

PRAISE JESUS!! SO helpful!!

[@richelleg225]

I love when my husband cooks, but it's usually not healthy. You can't have ice cream topped waffles and fettuccini alfredo every night! Nutritious food is definitely my role!

[@nicholasgee9127]

Lol, husband here.

[@richelleg225]

@Joe Sar My husband (whom I have absolutely adored for the past 13 years) is far from effeminate. He's an excellent husband, leader of our family, and tradesman. Sometimes he'll cook dinner to give me a break from cooking all the time as a show of love and appreciation, and it's delicious. If you really think we're going to divorce anytime soon, you're welcome to join every other jaded person who thinks a permanent happy marriage is impossible in the disappointment line. We have had other couples say they look at our marriage as what they aspire to have. We are even planning on having another child soon to grow our family. He is my second greatest God given blessing. We both understand marriage is a picture of how God loves His bride (the church). The culture who rejects God says marriage doesn't last, but it's not the first lie they've tried to convince people of either.

[@richelleg225]

@@nicholasgee9127 Hey my love! I haven't seen this post in months, but we got a reply thinking we're on the path to divorce because you cook sometimes. Feel free to share your thoughts! 😘

[@nicholasgee9127]

@Joe Sar Hey friend. She is my wife and we are currently looking to have more children. P.s. no one eats ice cream topped waffles and thinks to oneself, "a women must have made this"

[@narideenw8187]

I hate reading long comments, but here we go.. I Couldn’t even watch the first 3 minutes. Stop using The Holy Bible as a way to put others down, whether it’s man or woman. The Bible teaches us to serve everyone..that goes for men too. As women, we’re raised being taught that we have to learn how to cook and clean because in the future, we need to take care of the house, kids, and our husband. This becomes a default thing we teach our daughters. As for the boys, they’re allowed to stay up late, play video games all day, not clean up after themselves, etc. because we know that when they get married, their wife will think it’s normal to clean up after him and take care of him like he’s a toddler. Men do the heavy lifting, they fix the cars and put bookshelves together… while women clean the dishes. Why? Women drive in 2022. We should be taught how to blow up our tires…we will eventually move out for college or work. Why aren’t we taught to put furniture together, or nail some shelves into the wall? Men whill have the same circumstances.. why aren’t they taught to take care of themselves? It becomes natural for a man to sit around and let a woman do all the work. But God forbid she lifts something heavy,, thats not her job. It’s the mans job to lift it then complain for the rest of the day. The “fog we live in today” that he mentions is not fog at all, it’s women standing up for themselves when people come up with BS videos titled “the use of women”. We need to learn to serve and sacrifice for people just as Jesus did for us and for the people who hated him. It’s not all about gender roles. We need to raise our children correctly.

[@JonathanGillies]

I definitely see your point, but wouldn't it work if men and women were taught to play different, but complimentary roles? Surely it makes sense that men, who are stronger, should have the role of bread-winner and heavy-lifter, while women, who are more caring, should have the role of house-keeper and child-carer?

[@narideenw8187]

@@JonathanGillies I don’t have a problem with roles like that at all. So yea, but since men do the heavy lifting, they act like they cant do anything else. And then why aren’t women taught any of the other things that men are taught? Things that we are fully capable of doing.

[@JonathanGillies]

@@narideenw8187 Yeah, ok, I don't agree with that at all. Have you read Proverbs 31? A very amazing and capable woman!!!!! :D

[@narideenw8187]

@@JonathanGillies I have. Do you think God would be happy if a man forces his wife to do all those things because it’s in the bible? It all goes back to serving others. And you don’t agree that women should learn things that are necessary for daily life??

[@JonathanGillies]

@@narideenw8187 No no, I meant that I don't agree at all with men acting like they can't do anything except heavy lifting, or women not being allowed to learn how to do anything that men do. Yes, its is certainly not about oppressing women, although some men may want to make it mean that. :( We should always focus more on pleasing each other, rather than ourselves, like 1 Corinthians 7:33-34, Galatians 5:13-14, Ephesians 5:20-33, and 1 Peter 5:5 command us. This requires submission on the part of men, in a sense, also. This would really solve almost every problem in the world, I believe. :/ Like another commenter said very well: "I'm the cook in my house. That's the way it has always been through almost 25 years of marriage and many children. My hobby happens to be cooking. Some people like to paint or engage in other creative outlets. I like to cook. I now have the pleasure of teaching my young daughters to cook. Does that make me a "beta" male? Nah. Equating Biblical submission with making dinner is silly. The truth is that when you have a large household where all the children are homeschooled by the mother, it helps to practice love and patience in every situation and to place others above yourself. If that means doing the dishes because she is worn out, that's fine. I don't need to be waited on as if I'm helpless with my slippers and smoking jacket ready when I finish work while my wife makes a sammich and gets me a beer to fulfill my role as husband and father."

[@Zaloomination]

The thing about legos with the insides filled and outsides shaved off...the slightest jostle makes it all come crashing down. Functionally useless.

[@theroybeauchamp]

Does the first viewer get a brownie? …. Or a sandwich?

[@taracrist4126]

Haha 😆🥪

[@doctrinalwatchdogactive6454]

Dougie is really blowing up dawsons spot!

[@SolaScriptura21]

Spot on

[@Aletheia828]

In the unlikely event that my family and I are on the next titanic, my wife and kids get to go on the boat while I’m left behind playing the violin, waiting to freeze to death… that’s why SHE makes the sandwiches.

[@piercechristensen8608]

I thought we were supposed to get them on the boats so that we could figure out how to save the ship without them all freaking out right next to us.

[@aallen5256]

@@piercechristensen8608 Yeah cause that’s definitely what happened on the titanic lol. Once all those panicking women were out of the way, levelheaded men calmly repaired the iceberg damage.

[@JonathanGillies]

That's not really the right attitude! :/ We should always focus more on pleasing each other, rather than ourselves, like 1 Corinthians 7:33-34, Galatians 5:13-14, Ephesians 5:20-33, and 1 Peter 5:5 command us. This requires submission on the part of men, in a sense, also. This would really solve almost every problem in the world, I believe. :/

[@johnvillasenior2355]

Hammer on the head. I work in the cold and the heat 6 days a week while my wife teaches our children in the heated and cooled house (all of which I solely earned the money for) and it puts a a smile on my face. And at the end of every day my wife massages my feet until I fall asleep. Chokes me up.

[@RoxyStopIt]

@Joe Sar you’re a joke.

[@chiefofsinners5272]

I saw that pic and title in my feed... Gas meet match! 🤣🤣🤣 "Sexual Cargo Cult" awesome....

[@QKVCS]

THANK YOU

[@ourwholesomehome4967]

Reforming Marriage was a fantastic book. Highly recommend.

[@theschmidy]

Your Uncle Doug. Love it. I had a grandpa Doug. Have yet to meet a Doug I don't like.

[@evanthesquirrel]

The job of men is to create a world women would want to live in. The job of women is to create a world men would want to live in.

[@DarthCalculus]

2:11 "... All parts are equal. And, because of the unique delusion that egalitarianism provides, but they meant by this is that all parts are the same" What egalitarian couple could say that they are the same? This line makes no sense

[@thewraithofkahn09]

God to men: “You’re here to contribute to society.” God to women: “You’re here to WATCH him contribute to society….. and then make him a sandwich.” Wow, what a great dude.

[@bronwhitley4350]

Only God didn't say it - men said it (unsurprisingly)

[@damianwhite504]

Mister Doug, you look like you have eaten a few sandwiches in your day, big boy

[@raeljames2313]

By the looks of it, you’ve had too many sandwiches sir.

[@erinm7644]

Look, if you're the kind of person who thinks it is appropriate to use a phrase like "the natural use of the woman" then I guarantee that any kind of "use" you have in mind is going to be unnatural. P.S what's your "natural use" Doug?

[@JonathanGillies]

This is a quotation from Romans 1:27. It is referring to the fact that men use women to satisfy their sexual desires. Women also use men to satisfy their sexual desires and other kinds of desires also. We should, however, always focus more on pleasing each other, rather than ourselves, like 1 Corinthians 7:33-34, Galatians 5:13-14, Ephesians 5:20-33, and 1 Peter 5:5 command us. This would really solve almost every problem in the world, I believe. :/

[@_DennisNjenga]

Ditto. This video implies that the woman's desires are not considered during sex. Sex should be modelled to satisfy the man

[@sofiabravo1994]

Provide and protect is men’s natural use!

[@krjohnson]

Do you have a “natural use of the man” video? Thank you!

[@juliekendall339]

I can’t find one. In fact I searched his videos to find one. What I found was a bunch of videos about women not men.

[@tannerebeling1056]

@@juliekendall339 listen starting at 10:10 - the natural use of the man is as a sacrificial leader of the home, providing for and loving his wife and children. The natural use of the man is that of a leader of his family (including the responsibilities that accompany that role) who is subservient to God and gracious/loving/caring towards his family.

[@JonathanGillies]

@@tannerebeling1056 Exactly!!!!!!!!! Men use women to satisfy their sexual desires. Women also use men to satisfy their sexual desires and other kinds of desires also. We should, however, always focus more on pleasing each other, rather than ourselves, like 1 Corinthians 7:33-34, Galatians 5:13-14, Ephesians 5:20-33, and 1 Peter 5:5 command us. This would really solve almost every problem in the world, I believe. :/

[@krjohnson]

@@juliekendall339 I’d love both perspectives

[@krjohnson]

@@tannerebeling1056 I would like more videos on the topic is all :)

[@sharonbrooke5166]

I’ve purchased this book last year but haven’t read it yet as I wanted to read the bible first. Will definitely join in on this read, thank you 🙏 May I also ask what religion you are as I’m looking for a church right now

[@JonathanGillies]

Yes, definitely the Bible is the priority. :) After that, I would recommend reading the Puritans, as I believe that they were exceptionally godly and careful in their doctrines and Scriptural interpretation. Thomas Watson is a good one to start with. I'm not such an avid fan of C. S. Lewis myself. As for Doug Wilson's religion, he is a Reformed Protestant Christian, as I am. I believe he is in the PCA, but I am in the FC(C). I think either of these denominations would be a reliable choice for you. I hope you find one near you. If I knew what state you were in, I could maybe help you out. Every blessing, Jonathan :D

[@sharonbrooke5166]

@@JonathanGillies thank you 🙏 I’ll do that

[@sharonbrooke5166]

@@JonathanGillies May I ask, is the author David D Hall?

[@JonathanGillies]

@@sharonbrooke5166 Sorry, is he the author of which book?

[@sharonbrooke5166]

@@JonathanGillies the author of the puritans

[@merbst]

Apostle Paul was a homosexual!

[@bronwhitley4350]

I'm afraid you've missed the entire point of the gospel message. Jesus died to SET US FREE. We don't live by rules. And Jesus very clearly told Mary that it was better for her to sit at his feet as a disciple than to be in the kitchen. Stop trying to tell women how we should live and what we should and shouldn't do, and focus on improving yourself. The Bible doesn't say 'control one another' but 'love one another'.

[@ickorling7328]

The gospel sets us free from rules and orders? You're one of those standardize test cram students that joined the movement of 'everyone should learn code' and landed in a world where everyone and their refrigerator (ai) knows how to code-- the layoffs are legendary. Why? Because when everyone occupied the same role, there wasnt enough people to speacilize in useful things like domestic work and child rearing.

[@dzcav3]

Jesus set us free from SIN (not rules, except the Old Testament ceremonial and civil rules), to live holy lives of service, to him and to each other. He did NOT invalidate moral laws. For example: 1 Cor 6:9-11 (NIV) 9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. Notice the use of the past tense in relation to the various types of sin. They were not to continue doing those things, i.e. breaking the rules. Jesus also did NOT invalidate biological genders and various roles. Example: Eph 5:22 - Eph 6:9.

[@peterwebb8732]

No wonder I’m still single..... I don’t eat sandwiches. 😂

[@juliemyatt3697]

Is this a comedy sketch?

[@markgaskill6880]

Boy!! Talk about a poor choice of a word. His subject matter was right on but I think "using" our wives has a very negative connotation. Often when someone uses someone else it often turns into abuse. The woman is to be a helper to the man and that help can come in different shapes and sizes just the same a man is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and this love likewise comes in many different shapes and sizes. I love my wife dearly especially when she helps me shovel the driveway but that is not the only time I love my wife. I would never "use" my wife but there have been many times I've capitalized on her many skills and talents to help me out and I believe she feels the same about me.

[@michaeldavis2039]

Love this blog!! Great breakdown Pastor Doug. I pray I become a godly man of 'The Mission' and that I find a godly woman who KNOWS that she is a 'Helper in the Mission' and trusts God that through being a helper in the mission, the relationship she desires will develop during the course of the mission.

[@SomeIsBest]

You just reminded me I forgot to raise the curtain rods.

[@littlesparrows-loved]

Use of someone is equal to abuse of someone. God does not want us using anyone. This makes me so sad. Love is sacrificial to all male female husband wife. 1 Corinthians does not distinguish.

[@nicolinewsom7179]

Sometimes he cracks me... Make that sandwich 🥪

[@zr7699]

I love u brother! Keep keeping 💯

[@ianrobertson2480]

I don’t get it??? My wife never makes food for me. She has no desire for that. What am I missing… I really don’t get it. By the way I have a wife with chronic fatigue syndrome so I make all the food etc. But she had no drier to be in the kitchen for me

[@johnvillasenior2355]

It's not about food. It's about the wife serving the husband. That is Biblical. God made a HELPER suitable for the man. Just like He made man to work. I work. My wife helps me work. One way she does that is make sandwiches. However if she was ill with chronic fatigue I would absolutely work and cook. So hats off to you for that.

[@sofiabravo1994]

Maybe she can serve you another way is have you talked about this with her I’m sure it’s really hard for her and she may already feel burdened with her condition but even with her condition maybe there are more less strenuous things that she can do that will serve you

[@ianrobertson2480]

@@sofiabravo1994 no she is not the serving kind.

[@heinzriemann3213]

I can't believe this is sitting at a mere 36k views.

[@cindybalch7982]

Also women’s emphasis on relationship is born of a vacuum created by societies’s ungodly view of women. We crave relationship because yes, we were designed to crave it. However, everything has been so messed up, that men feeling the pressures around them and a life time of mental conditioning, have ceased to view their relationships as their main focus. What drove Jesus, the only perfect male? What was HIS focus? Relationship!!! Relationship should be EVERY Christian’s main focus. Their relationship with God, and also their relationship with each other. I know countless women who live lives of isolation and loneliness because they carve themselves into the roles that they have been taught are for women. They find solace in their relationship with God, but Their hearts continually ache after their husbands who do not seem to want a deeper relationship as long and the sex and sandwiches keep coming. Thankfully not all men think the same way that you do, but they are rare enough. 😢

[@JonathanGillies]

Hello Cindy! I can tell that you're hurting deeply, and I'm so sorry about that! 😢 It's true that women generally have more of a need for affection in a relationship than men, but men should recognize this and provide this for the woman. In this sad and imperfect world, relationships are not what they should be, and men often fail to show enough affection to their wives. 😢 The Bible recognizes this, and warns men against it in Ephesians 5:25-33 and Colossians 3:19. In a godly marriage, the man and woman should always focus more on pleasing each other, rather than themselves, like 1 Corinthians 7:33-34, Galatians 5:13-14, Ephesians 5:20-33, and 1 Peter 5:5 command us. This requires submission on the part of men, in a sense, also. This would really solve almost every problem in the world, I believe. I will try to pray for you in the trying situation that you find yourself in. God bless, Jonathan 😢

[@cindybalch7982]

@@JonathanGillies , thank you for your feedback. I appreciate your spirit of compassion. Although I’m not hurting like you may think, I still would deeply appreciate your prayers! I have a good attentive husband and a happy marriage. I still have issues with much of what this man said. Intentional on his part or not, it will be used to push women down especially in abusive relationships. I honestly don’t understand why Christian men of power harp on women’s rolls so often. Why? Deep insecurity issues? My sorrow comes from what I see around me especially in the church; so much neglect of women and favoritism of men. And teaching women that much is normal and ok when Jesus clearly said otherwise. Do you have a daughter? How do you want others to see her? How do you want her to see herself? Do you really want her to live a cookie cutter lifestyle that leaves little room for her uniquely designed (by God) personality and talents? Because believe me if she’s expected to feed people three meals a day, and do all the other women’s roll things, then drag her exhausted body to bed to preform sex for her husband, she isn’t going to have any time for things she loves to do or the talents God gave her. Also according to this video, she will have to accept without any hurt on her part that it’s completely normal and ok for her husband to look at other women and think about sex. And if she can’t possibly preform for her husband because of illness or a new baby? Then she shouldn’t be surprised if he is tempted to cheat or watch porn. Do you want this for your daughters or granddaughters? I guaranty even if you teach her this with her best interest at heart, and she complies, marries a man (good man) with this same mentality, she is going to hurt a lot, no matter how many sandwiches she makes with a good attitude, or good sex she gives him. Even if he is a man with a completely different mentality, she will have been mentally conditioned to believe that he may cheat on her if she gets too fat or doesn’t give him enough sex. Because all men are just wired like that, right? And their main focus can never be the relationship they have with their wife because they just don’t feel the same way she does about relationships. In reality, not all men will “get to the point where the girls at work look a little too pretty.” (My husband is one, thankfully. We’ve talked about this very thing). Also ALL men, every single one of them, need and crave relationship and intimacy. They were ALSO designed for relationships and affection. It’s just many men have been mentally and emotionally trained to redefine their longings and fill them with other things that don’t satisfy. Jesus’s main focus while here on earth was relationships. He died a horrible death for the sake of intimacy. His main focus NOW is relationship. This world is constantly trying to distract us from that.

[@anglicanaesthetics]

Ugh. The Bible doesn’t tell her to “make the sandwiches.” There are dynamics of head and body that are rooted in creation, but you’re doing exactly what egalitarians do: imposing your cultural embodiments of femininity and masculinity on the objective dynamic. I.e you just assert that an older woman teaching younger women to be “busy at home” involves teaching them to make sandwiches/food. Why? No argument, just an old white man’s imposition.

[@billiehanson3686]

Well said. I cringe with assigning "actions" to gender specifics. Some of course are obvious, however, most just enable mediocrity.

[@arminius504]

Nonsensical take. I really hope you aren’t serious and you understood the greater point of the video.

[@tannerebeling1056]

How you could arrive at that conclusion after listening to the whole video is… baffling. You clearly haven’t grasped the broader point being made, and have instead hyper-fixated on the specific metaphor being used to address the broader point.

[@johnvillasenior2355]

Lol, Doug does that on purpose. The sandwich has totally made you miss the entire point. May God grant you the eyes to see and ears to hear because you are blind and deaf.

[@billiehanson3686]

@@tannerebeling1056 I am sure you are correct- however the use of "sandwich" for a metaphor has secular misgivings. When processing the meat of what was said I do see and agree with the point. I did watch the whole video several times. In a world where words and language are used to "baffle" and "hyper-fixate" - it can be ok for some to not like the "metaphor". Thank you, though, for taking the time to comment.

[@heathersnyder8789]

Keep sweet, pray, and obey