The No.1 Menopause Doctor: They’re Lying To You About Menopause! Mary Claire Haver

Menopause symptoms, perimenopausal symptoms, weight loss, exercise, hormone replacement therapy. If you enjoyed this, you will LOVE this conversation with Dr Mindy Pelz: • The Miracle Doctor: Ge...
00:00 Intro
02:56 Your mission
07:05 The Crazy Effects Of Menopause On Women's Bodies & Their Mental Health
09:13 What Is Menopause & It's Symptoms?
15:00 Women With Menopause Are Being Let Down By Our Medical System & Society
19:03 Are You Skeptical About The Medical System?
20:39 The Health Consequences Of Menopause
27:00 How Can We Give Women The Support They Need?
31:54 What Is Inflammation?
35:01 The Importance Of Fiber In Our Diets
37:12 Fasting
41:38 Fuel Refocus
43:05 The Importance Of Building Muscle Mass
45:23 Does Hormone Therapy Cause Cancer?
52:33 The Side Effects Of Hormone Therapy
54:16 How To Help Women With Menopause
55:21 The Link Between Sex & Menopause
57:12 A Story About One Of Your Patients
59:45 Advice For Men
01:02:38 Do Men Experience Anything Similar?
01:06:58 Sleep Disruption
01:08:33 The Perfect Exercises During Menopause
01:09:58 Your Diet
01:13:17 Ads
01:15:30 A History In Your Family Of Why This Is So Important To You
01:18:43 Your New Book
01:22:19 The Last Guest's Question
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[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

This is a conversation, both men and women NEED to listen to! Can I ask you all a favour? If you enjoy this episode, could you please hit the like button 👍🏾 it helps us massively. Appreciate you all! 🙏🏽

[@Fulfilled-leaders]

Just did💫👌😊

[@kittydeleo4043]

Agree! Thank you for doing this podcast!

[@froufou100]

Oh wow, I never thought you would discuss such a subject. Thank you. I am going through peri-menopause, and it's pure hell even with HRT and anti-depressant...

[@carnivoreheals]

Hey, Steven, I would love it if you would interview Dr. Ken Berry and/or Dr. Anthony Chaffee on the carnivore diet. I’m in a group with Dr. Berry that has thousands of members. We are getting our health back at all ages beyond our wildest dreams. This could help so many people in your audience. Thank you!

[@aj68725]

Thank you again for another great interview. I really appreciate the fact that you do your homework and read the material related to your guests. There’s nothing worse than interviewing knowledgeable guests without proper preparation- makes you look like an incompetent idiot. (Unfortunately, there are a few KZbinrs whom you’ve interviewed 🙄who make this elementary mistake 😐).

[@jeaniebritz4587]

I started menopause at 53 and did it without any supplements. I fasted often. I was also very aware not to fan myself when having hot flashes - especially in the corporate environment where I worked (also with family) because of the stigma. I was told at 56 that I am getting too old to be promoted. Started my own companies at 59😊 healthy and energetic at 61 and going strong.

[@annielin2894]

I agree I am 49 I fasted too frequently! This allow me to slow my menopause!

[@workhardplayharderx2]

Everyone has diff. symptoms, I was at my BEST at 49.... 52 has been a struggle with insomnia@@annielin2894

[@vchgs2872]

Too old to be promoted 💔 Things women have to contend with. I'm so happy you started your own company. That's where I'm headed too, 51, and I no longer have the patience for corporate stuff and performance reviews 😅 All the best to you.

[@gardyloo3093]

I'm the same! I'm 60 now, and had the symptoms at age 56-57. Fasting got rid of it. Also a healthy lifestyle. Menopause is a natural transition. Our bodies were perfectly designed to go through it all without taking artificial hormones.

[@gardyloo3093]

@@vchgs2872 I think men in their 50's get just as discriminated against as we do. Ageism sees no gender.

[@villagefarang]

My wife is 49 and perimenopausal but doing all the right things to deal with it, exercise, diet, sleep, hormones. We talk about it a lot and even discussed this podcast while soaking in the tub together this evening. It is hard to know if you are doing everything you can but we talk and I do my best to support her. Guys need to step up and be more supportive and understanding. Thanks for discussing this topic.

[@NBnNC]

Your wife is blessed to have you!

[@squirrelboss7067]

lol

[@tarawiselove]

Thank you for posting. You describe what a husband does... He husbands.

[@ladybug3380]

You’re a great husband 🤗I hope she appreciates you.

[@brightspacebabe]

She is blessed to have you as a husband!!Menopause symptoms come on fast, are worrying and frustrating, and cannot be “cured” with A magic pill or HRT. God bless and much more success with her knowledge and healing and your patience ❤❤❤

[@meganbaldwin1699]

Had I not found these videos I would be convinced that I was dying. Heart palpitations, migraines, itchy skin, insomnia, pure rage, crying spells, the list goes on and on! I’m 43 and I literally do not recognize myself. Thank God for KZbin… because the 800.00 a month that I pay for health insurance is absolutely USELESS! My husband needs to watch this with me. I think he thinks I’m crazy 😌

[@KS-un3pi]

The insurance game is busted!! I hate insurance controls how your visit is coded, if they will pay for it and that goes for medicine/supplements too. Seems the only reason to have it is for meds and catastrophic events. Otherwise it is a bust.

[@vickywitton1008]

❤❤❤

[@DetroitKim]

I've had multiple issues related to endometriosis and perimenopause - nearly everything that helped or fixed issue was not covered by insurance - in many ways insurance is a big fat scam imo

[@SA-sb7rt]

Same here 💔

[@Linesthat-defineMe]

Also My husband thinks I am crazy , nobody is there to tolerate you.

[@withurshield931]

Sweating I can deal with, hot flashes I can deal with. What I can’t deal with is the paralyzing fear, anxiety, depression, and fatigue.

[@susandixon8778]

I went through it all. It was absolutely horrible! Thank God for HRT!!

[@taliadavis4297]

I understand.

[@carrier7399]

St. John's Wort and some natural supplements helped me, immensely. Watch some of Dr. Berg's videos.

[@user-cc5od3zk4p]

The fear and anxiety hit me and I have always had nerves of steel. Especially with driving. It went away after a couple of years. Magnesium tablets and topical magnesium helped and still help now. Takes the edge off.

[@Callitout-kl1uq]

I didn’t realize how much menopause had negatively impacted my ability to manage stress and my emotions until I went on HRT for temp regulation and sleep issues. It’s been amazingly helpful.

[@brandinshaeffer8970]

Pretty freakin cool that a young man is doing a deep dive on an issue that touches the life of every woman in her 40's & 50's.

[@decimustv4257]

The big problem I have with your comment is that you are praising someone who is untrustworthy and unreliable. Just look at his other videos, and if you are honest and objective you will clearly see that he often gives the spotlight to quacks and conspiracy theorists. Such a person cannot be deemed as a trusted source of information. This particular woman, however, may be legitimate. I don't know, so I reserve judgement on her. Finally, another black mark against the CEO guy is that he's the face of Heul, which as you probably know is junk food masquerading as cheap health food. If you truly want to be healthy, eat natural foods, not chemical concoctions like Heul.

[@lorrainefryer]

@@decimustv4257I also love this guy, we are all entitled to our own thoughts and opinions, please remember that.

[@gilliandowney5225]

30s 40s and 50s

[@dBarb1999]

I’m not impressed at all. This interview could’ve been so much better if it were conducted by a middle aged woman.

[@awakeningwonderland9665]

@@dBarb1999there is one - Mel Robbins does an interview with Dr Mary Claire Haver. We can still appreciate that a guy is trying to help men understand this without having to be rude.

[@christineebbinghaus9433]

When I was going through menopause, my husband told me to "fix it" and to "stop making excuses" , that "other women" didn't experience the same things that I was experiencing. There was no compassion or empathy no matter how much I tried to explain what was happening inside of me. We are no longer married. Maybe if I told him it was the equivalent of his testicles shrinking to nothing, he would have been more receptive.

[@melanatedandlovingit1305]

Shocking behaviour from these neanderthal men. Ewwww... glad u got rid

[@susanbowman3865]

Feel free to add to his “testicles shrinking to nothing” that he stops ejaculating. Since we lose the ability to make babies why shouldn’t they. That’ll get their attention and quick.

[@hope4truthlight162]

Same. Mine told me I was making it all up so I didn’t have to go get a job. It came on just as the last children were leaving homeschool. I’d have divorced him too, God took him away. But it hurt at the time. Grateful to have moved beyond. I’ve reprogrammed my mind. I got you.

[@MariaRomero-wf6kc]

I am sorry. Thank you for sharing. At least I don’t feel alone now. I am still trying to figure this out and try different hormone therapy. I am sorry. hang in there. 🙏🏻

[@Waya420]

with the way he sounds he would have most likely said you are overreacting my ex was the same way. just horrible people.

[@jeffl8725]

My wife asked me to listen to this podcast. I am glad I did. I will do what I can to be more supportive of her but I hope the medical industry does the same.

[@JubeeBijou]

I just sent it to my husband.

[@Elhastezy888]

Thank you sir 🤍 for posting and for trying. Wishing you both many many blessings

[@tdmccoy1211]

I know my husband wouldn't 😢

[@SANNAsewglam]

That is the Best Gift you could give to your wife! Listening to the podcast. My husband watched a Dr Phil episode on menopause. I believe it's saving our marriage. When I told my husband buckle up...we're in for a bumpy ride😅 He looked at me with fear. The toughest part for me is the anxiety that he doesn't love me....but then he does something sweet and with empathy and my world is back to normal.

[@Elhastezy888]

@@tdmccoy1211 hope/pray/wish somehow that changes..... whether through his kindness/understanding or your getting relief...... somehow 💕

[@sallyarmbrecht2215]

I started crying at minute 2 hearing a young man talk about how important it is for all of us to understand menopause and what women are experiencing. I’ve never seen your interviews but you now got my attention. I’m a big fan of DR Haver! Thank you for this interview and your thoughtfulness as a man! ❤

[@perculiar_daughter]

I started perimenopause at 37, then like a text book countdown I started dropping one menstrual cycle a year for ten years. 47 was apparently "early" to be fully in menopause and my doc recommended a bone scan as it could increase my risk of osteoporosis. Interestingly, my bones were strong and perfectly fine and the lady who did the scan told me she sees this in many overweight women like me, and its one of the very few advantages to being heavier. Basically, we are constantly weight lifting due to the excess body mass we carry, so our bones are stronger. Im carrying an excess of around 30lbs. Im now 52, and have suffered what I would call challenging, but not crippling symptoms. I have never felt the need to take HRT as I didnt ever feel that debilitated by menopause. I had almost every "symptom" but luckily to a lesser degree than some ladies who I know struggle terribly. I feel absolutely fabulous at 52, most symptoms have now left and Im loving this new phase. I have made a few lifestyle and nutritional changes that Im happy to share if it helps others..... Vit D daily - 4000iu Marine collagen suppliment in my morning coffee - this has had a very beneficial impact of the aches and pains for sure. Stopped using so many chemicals on my body, quit dying my hair and went silver and started making my own organic soaps as a hobby. I use the 16.8 fasting routine which has helped my gut massively. Daily serving of blueberries and apple with a good prebiotic natural yoghurt. Eat good quality meats and make a lot of bone broth and collegen based soups from organic animal joints. Grow my own veg - (I dont have a huge space but I try my best) Walk at least 30 mins a day, mostly more than that with my dog. Limit alcohol for special occasions, also watch caffine intake. Drink enough water (this makes such a difference to my mental clarity) Get a good night's sleep, have a good sleep routine (I dont have a TV in my bedroom) Dont watch the news - its always bad and depressing. Practice gratitude, count your blessings in life. Get out with friends, laugh, and certainly NEVER say "Im getting old" Most of all ladies, keep a positive mindset as much as you can, we can often talk ourselves into feeling low by our attitudes to what we are facing. Im here as proof that there is a fabulous life after menopause, its not a "decline" , its a freedom!!

[@carliebeau5329]

Congratulations on you. But the point is that is your body . It's very personal as your story tells. Your advice because your body succeeded will not help another women's body as we are all made different . But enjoy. It's a crap shoot

[@porshacohen7941]

Thank you for this comprehensive list of recommendations ❤

[@Elena-fe3os]

After 35, realized I do not tolerate the hair colour..stopped and for a while I just have highlights. I had some problems with a knee, felt tired, stressed, had delays in period..I ignored most of the things , did not give importance, did not thought much about them. Then , around 40 gained a lot of weight. 60lbs, along a year.. thought is the change in lifestyle, a more sedentary life. 2022 started gym again, abandoned. Beginning of 2023 , so, 3 years overweight, went again , lost weight , lifting weights, gained strength. .. discovered that I am less tolerant to people, started to cut many from my life, changed a lot, had hot flushes, for a bone graft had some blood tests and had vit D very low..then , I realized that my period is gone.. missing for months. Only then I put all together , thought about menopause and realized that I knew nothing , I was not ready.. I entered in another stage of my life and had no clue. 44 . Thank you for your advice. Will make bone broth and seek collagen powder ...bought vitamins . I think the face saw major changes and do not think is from losing weight..but, loss of collagen and estrogen.. I woke up looking to an older self, overnight.

[@carolinehill8325]

Your bones are good because your extra adipose tissue produces estrone.

[@Junkinsally]

@@carliebeau5329-I think if women would actually DO the things this woman is doing they too would feel better. Most just are complaining because they don’t want to change their lives to handle it.

[@procrastnwriter]

My spouse and I are separating after 25 years of marriage and 28 years together. Why? I boil it down to menopause. I helped him through a decade of Lyme Disease issues; I was his "patient advocate" to the point that doctors and I emailed each other to help with his care, from fitness, diet, and naturopath to specialists. I'm a year into menopause, and I'm "too much." It breaks my heart.

[@sarahclement3679]

So sorry

[@1STBUCKLEY]

I can't take drugs, highly reactive but I have been using bio identical progesterone from wellsprings. USA company. Not licensed in UK been available over 30years no side effects. It's given me a bit of life back. Also a estrogen progesterone version.

[@nmartins7714]

Forget about that trash man. And learn a lesson from all of this. 1st The person has to think about herself and then about the other.

[@GermanShepherdDaphne]

I’m so sorry. You deserve better

[@joincoffee9383]

Most marriages are like that. That’s why in some places in the world girls started not getting into marriages or partnerships cause they foresee the end.

[@maximusmom5015]

I am one suffering in silence. Divorced and scared to start a relationship with a great man because I'm afraid of all my menopause baggage. Thinning hair, hot flash, low libido, night sweats, brain fog etc etc etc. It is truly depressing. Great interview. Thanks for helping share the light on this.

[@nolamama3558]

Girl. Don't do that! Let this be your moment to take care of YOU! This video made me finally look for a doctor who specializes in HRT. Appointment is up-coming, but I am now actually hopeful for the first time in years. Please, don't let one more day go by without looking into it. It's so hard to take time to focus on ourselves, I know. I see your username says mom, so as one mom to another, you can't take care of everyone else the way you want to unless you are in a good place yourself. I wish I could reach out and hug you. You are NOT alone.

[@maribenevidess]

A woman at any age can have health issues that can affect relationships. If you a have a great men that wants to start something with you just go for it. Life is just too short to be losing those chances. Start your treatments, take care of yourself and enjoy the new guy.

[@rosegomez6591]

Hi, don't suffer for now until you look into a HRT try this natural Therapy Hormones Estradiol, and progesterone is what I start with and a form of omega, a vitamin, D, C your magnesium a good quality pillow. Brisk walks and eat small meals through day. , I promise it will help you. I know how you are feeling, and I care. I was there. DR, PLATT wellness center. you can buy his hormone therapy online and its natural helps 100 percent. I plan to try HRT but for now this is a great start. Water aerobics in the summer. Its ok not to be okay

[@travelpro23]

@@maribenevidesslove this advice. ❤

[@mypointofview1111]

Get a cat not a man. They're loving, loyal and don't demand sex when you're not in the mood

[@tiffanylbacon]

As I listen to this podcast I am infuriated. For 12 years I have suffered a litany of symptoms that doctors claimed were in my head. I have been told nothing is wrong with me, that I eat too much, that I don’t exercise enough, that I had bipolar disorder. I have been dismissed by over 50 doctors. And all along I have been suffering with perimenopause. My marriage has suffered and my quality of life has been sub par. I sit here and think that if one of these doctors listened to me I could have gotten HRT and my life would be oh so different. I’m with Dr. Mary Claire Haver with this needs to change. I’m on board with this movement!

[@randl7423]

I'm so sorry you've been on such a frustrating journey. Being diagnosed with bipolar isn't something insulting or negative, though - BP meds changed my life for the better. That may not be the case for you; I assume there are plenty of reasons you disagree with the diagnosis. And hormone imbalance may in fact be all that's going on for you. But I just wanted to weigh in that an accurate bipolar diagnosis can be an amazing gateway to a better life, for some.

[@jotift2709]

Sadly you can't rely on Dr's anymore my hubby had lung cancer but was told it was in his head he died in 2018

[@tiffanylbacon]

@@jotift2709 that is so sad 😞. I’m truly sorry for your loss.

[@lenoraKQ]

“Are we not as important as we were when we were fertile? Do our lives not matter?” THANK YOU for asking these questions! ❤

[@lilianawebb8687]

😊 I was so happy when my period left. We are all different. Thank you for taking about it And for the good advise.

[@annehathaway2107]

Not acvording to mothetnatire your purpose is ovet..sigh

[@user-en2ct8ql4g]

No you are not, the same thing applies to men, there is a physical and cognitive decline in men, and eventually they no longer are part of the workforce.

[@kellyprice1024]

​@@lilianawebb8687 I was too. It was the best part. 😊

[@nmartins7714]

seWhen I heard this question coming from a doctor, I even thought it was strange, since the issue is not that women matter during their childbearing years. If they undergo fertility treatments, they are not or are not. But the real issue isn't even the person, it's the money. So, no, it doesn't matter at any age. The way any crime against women is not even taken into account shows this.

[@EleanorPearson-lk4sn]

When I first hit menopause, I actually gained 18 lbs and couldn't lose it for the longest time. Tried pills, vitamins, and just made things worse. Now, I'm using the Aspect Health sensor, watching my diet, keeping tabs on my hormones, and even doing a bit of exercise, even though I'm already 53 yo

[@angeliadelossantos88]

Six months ago I began seeing a functional medicine doc and it has been a game changer. Finally someone taking me seriously and Im now on HRT! Of course, the expensive health insurance I pay a premium on every month will not cover my doc visits. Proof that the current system wants us drug dependent and chronically ill.

[@annelbeab8124]

.... "even doing a bit of exercise". I can only recommend resistance training with weights (can easily be done at home) and walks. Both changed my life.

[@suzh4187]

@@angeliadelossantos88wow…but viagra for men is paid by insurance. 🙄

[@DNACHOST]

Go exercise and stop taking pills

[@a.leehilliard4716]

Ramp up the exercise. It will make a big difference.

[@jenl.4051]

This video showed up in my KZbin feed today so I gave it a listen and my life is changed. I feel seen and heard and understood! What a saint of a human being this man is for recognizing that this is a very important issue for women (& the men in their lives) and for being willing to talk about it on his podcast. 👏💕

[@CH-cm4qe]

Woke up early morning after gnawing on my jar so hard with severe anxiety and told him I will end my life after my child goes off to college if I am still suffering with debilitating anxiety. Peri and menopause is the #1 age range women commit suicide. HRT literally saved my life. I thank this doctor so much for the work she does.

[@OxyRay-ms8bm]

I'm a 47 year old woman and I've never cried so hard watching a podcast. All of the unnecessary confusion, pain, isolation, cruelty, it's criminal. Thank you, both of you, for raising the bar. ❤

[@aprilkitten]

I agree. Its time that we all wake up to the truth and realize that our government and our medical system was not designed to keep us happy or healthy or to protect us from unnecessary suffering unless they could profit by doing so. Hiding the truth and causing suffering is essential for their business to be successful. The system is rigged so that they can profit off of our ignorance. None of this was a mistake, no, it was all intentional. I'm 66 a nutritionist and just retired from the UC Hospital's Center for Women's Health and have been watching this happen for decades. We can't depend on MDs anymore, except to provide catastrophic care, or the government. We can only depend on ourselves and therefore we must educate ourselves and our children extremely well. There's a lot of good books out there and a lot of educational material including alternative options for health and happiness including the infinite power of our consciousness. They do not want you to know the the truth or to find the answers, but all the answers are out there, you just need to know where to look and many of those wonderful healers are right here on KZbin! I wish you well & encourage much reading! 🤗🌸🌿

[@innagotavita6117]

47? I was swinging off chandeliers! It was the best time in my life. This woman is way too dramatic

[@helenalovelock1030]

@@innagotavita6117 no she’s not she’s a professional in the field so she sees thousands of women. I’m pretty sure she knows a lot more than you do. You clearly were lucky swinging from your chandelier and not having problems but many women don’t just sail through it

[@redlady3123]

@@innagotavita6117 Be thankful and less judgy. Your experience is just that. Yours. This woman is now validated. You can’t take that away from her.

[@fifitheflowerpot]

​@@innagotavita6117😂I was playing football and men of my age were looking like What 😮did she really kick the ball over that big high wall. At 47 I was fit slim sexy as hell 😅

[@robinmarberry7198]

Who knew that the only thing worse than having a period is NOT having a period? Thank you for the interesting podcast.

[@fostertheweekend]

this

[@ivalani]

Well said!👍👍👍

[@tamasynclare913]

This made me laugh out loud. It's hilariously true!

[@lolaispure4296]

Right?

[@emh8861]

I miss my period. 🤣

[@lke4907]

Perimenopause and menopause is a BIG DEAL! It literally changes your life, your personality, your thoughts, your strength, your physical abilities, and it affects everyone around you. Being a woman is not for the weak!! Godspeed ladies!!

[@clairelegault7046]

I love your name! I have the French version… Marie-Claire! Thank you for the work that you do! I’m 73 years old and would have benefited from your education on menopause when I was going through it! In the peak of my worse menopause symptoms my ex husband was not supportive as he wasn’t capable as an alcoholic. Our 36 year marriage ended with a horrific episode that he was scaring me with his anger and what I refer to as “the Charles Manson” look in his eyes! I experienced many of these episodes but this time he was very threatening and I ended up calling 911. The police charged him with assault and arrested him! This was 13 years ago. Now I’m realizing with listening to podcast from experts like you that all these years I blamed myself for being the “crazy one”. I live alone and I’m happy and living a healthier life!

[@judithgallegos1748]

I had only one symptom of menopause and that is my periods simply stopped. My doctor did blood tests and asked me if I wanted hormones. I said, "No". I was around 51years old. To this day, I have never had a hot flash or any other problems. I just turned 80 years old.

[@HannahPartington-lu9bn]

My mum had a bad menopause , heart palpitations, anxiety, but she declined HRT . Mum is 86 now and very healthy ( on no medication for anything )

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

@@Judith, what is your diet? Do you eat lots of animal fats? That’s supposed to really help. ​ The carnivore women are sailing through menopause _without_ any HRT! I recommend everyone listen to Elizabeth Bright and Lisa Wiedeman (carnivore Doctor). They recommend LOTS of saturated animals fats-like the equivalent of 1-2 sticks of butter a day. Your adrenals, thyroid and hormones all need saturated fat!s ❤

[@judithgallegos1748]

@@PeaceIsYeshua I have skipped breakfast since I was a child, except for one cup of coffee, a sandwich for lunch and a dinner from scratch. I eat meat, but prefer fish. Lots of olive oil. My family is from Spain and I tend to prepare foods from Spain. Also, my favorite food is chocolate!

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

@@judithgallegos1748 That’s awesome! Thank you!! ❤️

[@TheSimaralynn]

Que suerte la suya. Que bueno

[@natasha09179]

It’s refreshing to see a show hosted by a man in his youth with this as the focal topic. I salute you.

[@wannabrew8718]

It's on purpose

[@mojo2679]

He's 31

[@charkk1228]

Me too. I’m impressed. Kudos to him!

[@AnnaMcMurray]

yes he is young @@mojo2679

[@lizakroberts]

Yes 👍

[@randolphwoodruff4037]

This stuff is life-changing. I asked for help and guidance. I felt so lost and out of control. Thank you for your help. I have been a bedside nurse for 20 years. I have spent my life helping care for people yet when I needed help, no one was there for me. I cried out for help. Your videos landed on my laptop.

[@danellefrost5030]

This is one of the most amazing interviews that I have had the privilege to watch. Thank you so very much for bringing the topic of menopause to light. I am 62 and was very unfortunate to have been married for 37 years to a man that was completely insensitive to any and all health issues that I experienced. Perimenopause and menopause for me were not only a physical nightmare, but an emotional one as well. I tended to keep to myself anything that I was experiencing, as even the Doctors often labeled most issues as “unexplained” or “in your head”. I suffered decades with severe and often debilitating endometriosis until I was finally diagnosed through a laparoscopy in my 40’s, even then, my treatment options were slim and my ex-husband could have cared less as he blamed anything that I was experiencing as me either having cramps or a hot flash. I pray the generations of young women going forward are treated with more dignity and better understanding and treatment than I was.

[@sistergamingchannel3844]

Just amazing that a man on a leading podcast is talking about this I absolutely love Stephen for this because I'm sure a lot of his core audience aren't very interested in this topic so it was very brave of him. As a 48 year old woman this was truly a fantastic episode for me ❤❤❤❤

[@alliecravulz]

That is sad if it is the case. His audience has mothers, grandmothers, aunts... everyone should care to an extent

[@bigblue2019]

thinking the same!

[@KN-ms4xk]

Couldn't agree more❤ Thank you Stephen!!!

[@loveschile7339]

Agreed! I was shocked to see this topic. Amazing man.

[@horsenaturalbaby]

Carnivore diet has been so helpful in perimenopause

[@momsmushroomsjodyfoster5786]

I came here because I turned 58 yesterday. I am at the height of my misery with menopause. But instead of the symptoms diminishing, they continue to get worse. This started already 14 years ago with missed periods. Now I can’t sleep for more than three hours at a time because of the Inferno that breaks out inside when I try. I sweat so hard some nights. I change pajamas three times. Even my socks and my pillow are soaked. I have always been denied estrogenbecause I have a heart condition. But now I’m demanding it. I’m going to die from the sleep loss if something else doesn’t get me first. Please pray for me I can’t stop crying.

[@mjbreeze]

Me too !!!

[@knyghtsword]

Have you tried wild yam? It's a progesterone cream. Research the benefits of it. You may find relief by going to natural sources.

[@nancydennis_wright8342]

Hush Mama,there's something called soursop leaves and molasses. Maybe u could try some

[@DarkAngel2512]

Oh sweetheart. Im so sorry. Ive had insomnia that bad but Im not meno yet so dreading it if my sleep will get worse. Pls dont leave it even if youre too tired to follow up doc app. As youre putting your heart under pressure if you dont sleep well. I hope everything works out for you xx

[@momsmushroomsjodyfoster5786]

@@DarkAngel2512 thx 🙏 I see the cardiologist this week. I’ll also be starting estrogen this week. Fingers crossed it’ll stop the inferno

[@SandySchadler]

I have been battling the medical system for two full years and been to every specialist in Vanderbilt Medical. I have every single symptom Dr. Haver lists. I even had a cardiac ablation because I was experiencing Afib last year. The monthly cycle of vertigo, frozen shoulder, ringing in my ears, brain fog, insulin resistance, not sleeping, and gained 40 lbs NOT eating more. I’ve had zero alcohol or caffeine in over a year and still trying to get back to normal but now my anxiety is sky high too. Our system & education has to change. THANK YOU DR. HAVER! 😢

[@angelalynn9393]

Same here!!! I turned 56 this year. Had been having menopausal symptoms at around age 48. It started with sleepless nights , some brain fog, hair changes and also noticed that when I woke up the next morning, my side of the bed would feel as though I had a heated mattress. Those symptoms would last for about a week and go away for days or maybe a couple of months but I brushed them off bc they weren't that bothersome. And so one day I went to see my GYN which we worked in the same dept. During my annual exam, I told her the problems I was experiencing and she brushed them off and told me that I was too young to be going through menopause. I looked confused 😕 bc at that point I didn't know what was wrong with me. A few years went by then I was in my 50s and more symptoms were coming and the ones I'd had first were getting worse. I finally went back to my GYN and told her about it again and she wrote scripts for hormone patches and progesterone. She never once mentioned doing any blood work to check my hormone levels 😑 and my anxiety seems to be coming on every day. I feel like I'm trapped in my own body without help and support from someone who is supposed to be helping in situations like mine. And I find little to none. It's disheartening and frustrating 😒 and I will be looking for someone who will listen and is willing do their job of caring for their patient. I suffer in silence a lot and try to calm myself when anxiety is really high. I don't want to suffer a heart attack or end up with a heart condition bc of all of what I go through. But it does help telling my story. And hopefully some good may come out of it 😇

[@angelalynn9393]

And I too was diagnosed with vertigo a month ago. I now think what's next 🙄😒

[@charlenebye6262]

They really need to talk about cortisol/Dhea levels....the high range is just a nightmare... But no one talks about it. Bloods need to be done to check this stress hormone.obe

[@1961Lara]

I had similar problems. I was in menopause at 42. Huge issues. Insane hot flashes. Night sweats. Head aches. Anxiety. Not sleeping. Joint aches. Stiffness. Crazy symptoms. I was lucky my OBG was my age and had known me for 20 years. HRT really helped me.

[@mitapollito]

I was diagnosed with positional vertigo when I turned 40. After that, every year was a new thing. I never related any of that to peri menopause until I started experiencing the night sweats.

[@danifrade1403]

I am not sure when my menopause started, but I think it was around the age of 44, or 45. I am now 49; I have been on HRT on and off for almost 2 years. Some of the symptoms eased, like my endless night sweats and hot flushes, but I have a plethora of other ones: aches and pains, terrible brain fog, gastrointestinal issues, bladder issues, and tiredness because I can't sleep properly. But above all, I am constantly irritable. Anything and everyone annoys me. I turned into a different person, one that I don't recognise and don't like. I feel like my old self has gone and someone else has taken over my body and my soul. I hate every single minute of menopause.

[@fiesta5840]

Me too. I am 47. Not sure it's perimenopause as my periods are still regular but all symptoms I have

[@brmcnallen]

Did your HRT include testosterone?

[@danifrade1403]

@@brmcnallen I don’t think so; I use Evorel sequi patches

[@amyschiavo215]

I was on HRT for a few years and found that my body was not absorbing them. I switched to bio identical hormones and I feel way better. I also got on testosterone which I wasn’t on before and it changed my life. My libido is way better, I have more energy, I feel stronger! Currently I get the estrodial and testosterone pellets and take progesterone by mouth. Find a good hormone doc and get some current bloodwork done to determine what you need. I’m sorry you’re struggling. It is not easy to figure out at first. Don’t give up! You might just need to change up your treatment that works better for your body.

[@danifrade1403]

@@amyschiavo215 thank you! what are bio identical hormones? Out of curiosity, are you in the UK?

[@heddamobetta704]

I’m so thankful for this video. I turned 45 this year and peri-menopause hit me like a brick. Starting in January was my first menstrual cycle change after being like clockwork my whole life. Starting the end of February I started to bleed - then I kept bleeding. I gained like 40lbs, can’t sleep, digestion was crap, felt like crap, and quite honestly felt more mentally out of sorts. In total this year I’ve spent 9 months with no break of menstruation. By April I went in to my OB for my Pap smear with the thought they were going to check my hormones at the visit as I specifically noted on the appointment of my never ending period. During that visit they weren’t even going to do it!! I’m like, are you kidding? This is not normal and something is wrong. I forced them begrudgingly to order the labs, while being brushed off to be told “well your heading in to menopause and this is just what happens”. Such horse shit that I have to advocate for myself to get care. Wouldn’t you know it, I have extremely high estrogen (which, I know is opposite of menopause) but maybe someone else has gone through what I’m still going through. Basically to sum up my entire year: I’ve had multiple biopsies and ultrasounds, I have/had polyps in my endometrial lining of my uterus, I’ve had one procedure to have it all cleaned out, they put me on 10mg of progesterone, and all of that didn’t do crap. I’ve been in at least 5 times this year and every time they say my only option is bloody birth control or having a hysterectomy. I tried to ask them about some sort of hormone therapy or if they even checked to see if my testosterone is out of whack with the rest. I’m changing my provider in the new year since Kaiser has epically let me down. The audacity of any doctor telling me that my condition is just something I’ll have to deal with until I hit actual menopause? Bleeding every fucking day for like the next 5-10 years? Or having my uterus removed? Are you fucking kidding me? The medical profession is beyond letting us down, demand for your self ladies, don’t let them sell you on that “well it’s just apart of you getting older” b.s.

[@lollian2782]

I hear you. It's almost as though if the computer says you're fine, despite all evidence to the contrary, medics say you're fine.

[@utualan]

😢well your insistence on treatment has worked. Traditional medicine has its limitations but the medical profession also needs to wake up.

[@sunmoonstars3879]

I’ve come to the realisation that main stream medicine is utterly clueless when it comes to women’s hormones. In fact I think it scares most doctors. You have to self advocate and on many occasions self prescribe. Thank god for the internet.

[@denisea.9033]

Good for you for not letting up 👏🏼. I went with similar symptoms to my doctor 3 yrs ago and she said my only options were birth control, uterine ablation or hysterectomy. I thought, surely those are not my ONLY options - she also didn’t test my hormones or even ask about my diet & lifestyle. I left disgusted in the medical system once again. I’ve since been researching a lot on my own and just trying things to see what might help, so far finally finding some relief this year of many symptoms with a low carb/high fat & protein, meat heavy, whole food animal based diet - will continue to advocate for myself and experiment on myself - I won’t settle for their “only options”.

[@tresjolieme81]

Weird Kaiser saved me they ran an FSH and that's all it took for the meds.

[@crepesuzette5540]

Dr. Haver: For the last couple of years, I’ve been telling my male doctors that if their testicles just dried up over night, they would also feel very ill physically & emotionally. Meno is precisely that. I’m glad you put that out there on this interview because it is 100% true!

[@bushkarogfa]

💛💛💛

[@SusannMarieDye]

Amen to that! I know two men that have gone through prostate cancer treatment that are experiencing basically menopause and/or post menopause. They get hot flashes because they are on hormone suppressant drugs to ward of reoccurring cancer. They also feel weaker and have lost muscle mass just like women do when not on hormone therapy. The men you are speaking of should connect with a man that has survived prostate cancer and they will have a better understanding of what we go through as women if our health is neglected and marginalized over the duration of our lives starting with perimenopause onward by the health care community. I assure you survivors of prostate cancer wish they could have their hormones back.

[@brandywilleford9157]

Yes!! By all means call out the military funding!!!😂😂😂 It's not fair......and damn it this viagra is bull crap!!

[@sincerelytee3029]

“Strength over skinny.” I needed that. Thank you! ♥️

[@thaliasmusings]

Honestly, I’m done with the medical field. I’ve been so poorly treated, even by female doctors. Unless my leg falls off and needs to be sewn back on, I’m happy finding natural and intuitive solutions for my health. I’m 48 and have been dealing with perimenopause for almost ten years with many horrible to bear symptoms. Yet, I’ve had more success with kundalini yoga and increasing nutrition than getting help from a doctor. I appreciate that Dr. Haver is taking this natural part of life seriously, as the medical field has let down women for a long time. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone, but I’m also done looking for answers within the medical system.

[@TheeAntiChris]

Yep! Western medicine is sometimes, (not always), good for treating pain, illness, diseases, infections, viruses, but it’s NOT good for physical, mental or emotional wellness. When I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and experienced a year of crippling pain and narcolepsy from the pain, my rheumatologist diagnosed me l, and said my only options were anti-depressants and pain killers like Vicodin… for the rest of my life!! I respectfully declined, went home, did my own research, tried different supplements and therapies, and for the last 10+ years, I’ve had zero symptoms of fibromyalgia. Same thing happened after I got hit by a DUI. 4 very prestigious doctors couldn’t help me, but 1 female reiki master healed my mind body and soul. I thought meditation and reiki was nonsense until I tried it. I never looked back. My takeaway is never settle when it comes to your own health.

[@trudigalbraith2379]

Peri menopause was hell on earth for me. Insomnia, chronic fatigue, extreme brain fog, body aches and pains, inability to regulate my mood, anxiety attacks, suicidal thoughts to name a few. I was utterly terrified as I had no idea what was going on. It was a psychologist who said to me you are at the severe end of peri menopause. Get on HRT now. HRT has been a total game changer. I only wish I had gone on it when my symptoms started at around 46. It wasn’t until I could barely function and was ready to end it all that I went on HRT at 49. And then I felt so ignorant about not knowing what was going on in my body. Thank you so much for speaking out on this issue. One thing find quite upsetting is that it’s not just men who don’t understand or support. Some of the harshest judgement and dismissal has come from women who had an easier journey through peri menopause / menopause. Not everyone has the same experience.

[@annatetiad.4991]

HRT does not work for everyone. I gained 10 kilos in one week on it. Needed to stop it immediately.

[@ZSC92]

Women are our worst enemies, those smug, judgemental ribs of their (usually cheating) men.

[@emilypeppers748]

I'm so glad you found your way but yeah, it's brutal. Strength to you and all going through this process!!

[@fingerprint5511]

@@emilypeppers748 Brutal is an understatement :/

[@katiecox8128]

Thank you for sharing so openly 🤍

[@sorscha1308]

My mum started acting like a bear with a sore head and was in her late 40s at the time. My dad and i took it for as long as we could, thinking it might just be SAD (it was during the winter months) but eventually it was clear something was seriously wrong and we had to stage a kind of 'intervention' and make her go to the doctors. I'm sure she was peri-menopausal too but this was her thyroid and she was VERY deficient. There are so many things that can hit you at this time of life, like a brick. Be nice to middle aged ladies. They are probably hanging on by a thread for one reason or another.

[@heatherhall3452]

SAD as in sudden adult death syndrome - like sudden infant death syndrome ❓ and you can’t connect the dots 🤯💉💉💉⚰️🕳️🪦 💐 ever heard of a Lie ?

[@FebbieG]

​@@heatherhall3452Seasonal Affective Disorder. People get it during the winter when the sun isn't up as much and they stay inside more. Some people in really hot places can get it in the summer if they get reclusive to stay out of the heat.

[@kernow1273]

Well done you! I was the same. I think I wad peri menopausal for a decade. My poor family🫣

[@MoonPhaze5]

​@@FebbieGI get that. 😳 it's horrible.

[@jlf6803]

Yay for your intervention and you didn't just leave like others.

[@gordanapavic6882]

Im a 58 year old woman went through menopause at 54. Had no supplements for support, experienced all the symptoms including hot flushes. Had a fan at work and talked about it weather ppl wanted to hear it or not. I needed to validate myself..that im not going crazy...just doing menopause. Sooo yes...talk about it. People do support each other. Thank you both 🙏

[@Shay3356]

I also went through menopause without any medical help/medication etc. I’m happy I just trusted the process, I am better, worked on my mental health etc. 👌

[@Bethoflife]

I was shocked by the brutality of it ! I'm someone who usually sucks it up and says nothing, but it's the worst I've ever felt in my life. Next week, I'm asking my doctor to put me back on HRT even though I'm through it bc I never got my energy back and am experiencing a heart issue again that disappeared when I started HRT. I have also heard that women on HRT should stay on it for the rest of their lives. There is too much focus on breast cancer risk as opposed to the many positive benefits of it ! Not only does it protect your heart but it strengthens your bones. My skin was better after than it was before too. I couldn't have gotten through it without HRT. I felt so bad that the fear of breast cancer went right out the window. Everything this woman says resonates with me. I thought I had an incurable disease & that I was going insane from that burden. I had a total hysterectomy at 41, was told to take estrogen for two years and that I didn't need to worry about menopause ! Had I not watched a show on the subject I may still not know ! God bless you for sharing all you know. My daughters roll their eyes when I mention it, but I know they will still be caught off-guard by the severity of it. HRT saved my life.

[@kayjay1551]

Summary: HRT, vitamin d, fasting (16:8), fibre, protein, creatine, strength training. What a great Dr and Stephen thank you for such an informative chat

[@TheWBWoman]

Thanks!

[@annehathaway2107]

If you take hrt do you have to take it for life? Otherwise all symptoms come back again surely?

[@lucillesmith3798]

​@@annehathaway2107apparently it doesn't work like that. But also many people chose to stay on HRT long term

[@shaunalarrabee2372]

Just want to mention that fasting is not a good idea for those of us with gallbaldder issues. Made mine worse.

[@klarap.7260]

Was ist HRT?

[@amiinewzemii7793]

As a 34 year old woman going through peri-menopause (brought on early due to chemotherapy 10 years ago) I appreciate this so much. This year has been the hardest of my life and every day is a fight against my own mind to just stay alive. Thank you for seeing the importance of this EXTREMELY necessary conversation. It literally saves lives to talk about it

[@youngwt1]

Are you in the uk? I couldn’t recommend newsom health enough, they’ve been fantastic to my wife it’s a shame so much health care is private these days but that’s the way the world is turning

[@upendasana7857]

@@youngwt1 NO its not inevitable that there is thsi private/public healthcare two tier system,we need to fight for our NHS and make sure we don't end up with an American type healthcare system.If you are happy with that then think about all those who fought for the NHS and trained in the NHS,without the NHS we do not have a functioning society and go back to Victorian England...are you really happy with that !!!

[@libertyrose92]

I can relate to this too, I'm 31 and also went through chemo 10 years ago. I was told I'd likely go through menopause around the age of 30, I brushed it off and didn't think it would be that bad. I completely underestimated just how difficult it would be! I hope you're doing okay ❤

[@stevejenson2161]

would it be fair to say that you were on hormonal birth control for many years prior to all these problems?

[@ChristinaBastilla-yx3hj]

My mom had breast cancer and chemotherapy put her into early menopause too.

[@a.j.o.y.c.e]

Frozen shoulder- wow. Ive had this for the last two years. I had a partial hysterectomy immediately after my last child. I had him at 30, and experienced this at 34yo. Im getting a hormone test immediately. Thank you

[@vickywitton1008]

All the younger women I have talked to, do not understand menopause. They think its just about your periods ending and hot sweats and then that's it! Scary how little we know about our own health! I didn't know either until I started going through it and did some research and watching this doctor

[@amandasearson2309]

The whole "Whining Woman" thing really struck a chord with me. As I hit the menopause I also started to suffer with the symptoms of a Phaeochromocytoma (an adrenal tumour) so my body no longer felt like my own. My GP definitely labelled me as a whiner, I had to have my heart almost stop from the effects of Beta blockers before anyone took me seriously. Doctors need to learn that most women know their own bodies better than them!

[@elizabethabbott2982]

Gosh Amanda what an ordeal; bad enuf to be ill and then endure mockery. Glad you shared and it proves that it does pay to do ones own research and shop round for a better doc if the current one is brushing you off. My Mother went through years of distress before a new doc found out she was allergic to eggs. A huge change for the better.

[@xannaz9226]

Yeah, I won't forget WW. Chilling.

[@lola.t.6399]

Thanks for sharing this information. It’s still startling how little MDs know about this. They still quote that stupid “evidence” that HRT causes cancer.

[@HappyCat1111]

I’m so sorry you went through that. Sadly it’s so common. Medical gaslighting is terrible. I went through gaslighting when I had breast cancer at 46. No woman should be brushed off or labeled for wanting her best health.

[@debrandw246]

Oh yes. Same here. Absolutely

[@arethagrassi6420]

I started menopause at 45. I have been fit and in good shape and health all of my life before menopause. Life has been a downhill battle since menopause, I have had every symptom that was mentioned in this program so far. I literally thought I was going crazy and everyone else thought I was making it up. Thanks for shining some light on the elephant in the room.

[@nouchthom9546]

what were the symtoms you had that made you feel like you were going crazy ?

[@beckyfrechette4439]

When you say you “started menopause” do you mean at 45 you went a year without a period?

[@arethagrassi6420]

@@beckyfrechette4439 yes.

[@arethagrassi6420]

@@nouchthom9546 mostly the depression, migraine, joint pain, lack of energy, frozen shoulder, teeth and gum problems.

[@woundedhealer999]

That early? I'm really terrified of it. I'm 38.

[@Foreverloved39]

Finally i feel like someone cares. I am 39 years old and i did have a thick full head of hair 2 years ago and it is half gone! Cognitive problems, very nauseous befor period and very painful ovaries and many more symptoms. If this helps someone because any doctor said that you're too young, no you're not.

[@Sunmoonstars976]

I'm commenting for the algorithm. Everybody needs to see this! I feel like I've been suffering needlessly for years!

[@marials9245]

I’m 54 and just about one year ago I looked for a new obgyn because the one I had before didn’t listen and didn’t help with all my struggles with menopause. My new doctor prescribed me HRT and my life has changed dramatically for the better. It’s absolutely frustrating the amount of doctors who know nothing about menopause and who gaslight women about it’s symptoms. Enough is enough. Amazing interview, thanks!!

[@jenniferfortin4657]

I have had a couple of conversations about hormones with my OBGYN this year and he doesn't even seem to understand what I am talking about- it feels like the blind leading the blind and the best education I am actually receiving as a 45yo woman is from Stephen and his guests! I am so grateful that this is finally becoming a topic of discussion 🩵

[@sharonconner8648]

It is the blind leading the blind….find a new doctor that knows about hrt treatment. Balance is the answer!

[@tametra_lasha]

​@@jenniferfortin4657 Do you think an older female OBGYN will better understand?

[@ubermoc]

This is why my wife and I only see women doctors who are competent. Women get treated like animals by most male doctors. Like we want to help you but not put too much effort into it. It passed me off when my wife would go to the er, and they wouldn't listen to her if I'm not there to speak up for her. We all have mothers, and most of us have daughters, so why don't we treat women like equals? It is mind-blowing.

[@sandye6278]

@@sharonconner8648 Not everyone can take HRT. Esp those who had cancer. Theres not enough research done on any of it.

[@lilianpeliello8111]

As a dermatologist, I can honestly say that this is one of THE BEST interviews I have seen in the past year! Congratulations!

[@AnnieBuck]

It infuriates me that an entire generation of women weren't allowed to even consider HRT due to flawed research. When I started it a few years after menopause, multiple people told me that I needed to stop it, because it would give me cancer. So much misinformation out there, it's so sad. My GP (male, 60s) told me I should think twice because it would cause me to gain weight - no thought to me feeling insane, my depression and anxiety going through the roof, painful sex, brain fog and hot flashes, not being able to sleep and irrational rage. Thank goodness my GYN was so strong and gave me so much great information. I am so thankful to her.

[@gailirby447]

I’m 59, have tried natural supplements, not very effective. I was told HRT was cancerous; I will be asking my doctor for estrogen/HRT at my visit next month. My partner’s doctor was insistent he increase his testosterone levels (or die) with shots. This was the eye-opener for me. Why wouldn’t HRT give him cancer, but the lack of testosterone would kill him? 🤔

[@TheTykus]

There was a whole generation of doctors that were taught that hormones basically didn’t matter for men or women. Now we obviously know that’s absurd. Should also keep in the back of your mind, what else are they wrong about today that we haven’t figured out yet.

[@TheeAntiChris]

As if gaining weight is so worse than depression, painful sex, loss of libido, irrational rage, anxiety, hot flashes, etc. Men 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@melaniewamboldt6627]

I'm Canadian, in Canada, and this issue needs to be front and center. Politicians and reporters talk about our aging population... Maybe we women would be willing participants in many more workplaces for many more years if our health got addressed properly. If men personally experienced women's issues themselves it would be an entirely different planet.... May the settler's colonial patriarchy be schooled by you...

[@hyacinthleon4178]

My Dr. is a female and she was not listening to me 😮

[@joanofarcxxi]

It's about time this conversation was had. Women do suffer in silence. This issue is more taboo than being Republican, gay, and into S&M. So tired of women being shamed for being women. So tired of women being shamed for ageing. To the interviewer: thank you so much for being bold and brave, diving into this thought provoking topic, and asking poignant questions. To the doctor: you are a heroine ❤️.

[@homemade6950]

No one needs to know any of that information. What is wrong with ppl?!

[@kathleenking47]

Not all women have these symptoms..my periods just STOPPED

[@zofiajaneczek184]

It’s the USA where aging is pretty much a disease and not a normal part of life. There’s a double standard out there in work places too, as older women are more apt to be dismissed from jobs compared to men. The issue is with a youth, looks, and money obsessed society. You must create your own value as you age in this nation in order to get any respect!

[@kathleenking47]

@@zofiajaneczek184 there are herbs which work with menses/menopause as well

[@jennifermoffitt7294]

well you don't have the protection of estrogen but your husband does.. That ok w you?@@kathleenking47

[@menouthis]

A huge THANK YOU to this young man for not shying away from this conversation! Thank you for discussing this topic! You really have no idea how much this means to your female viewers!

[@Time2Compose]

I cannot thank you enough for bringing Dr. Mindy on. I believe this will absolutely change my trajectory in life and my personal journey with menopause. From the botttom of my heart... THANK YOU.

[@kristinaparker5597]

Reading the comments of women whose husbands aren't supporting them is heartbreaking. I'm im the THICK of perimenopause and I am blessed that by me explaining to my husband what's happening he has been extremely supportive.

[@laurah.160]

my husband has been a source of pain and turmoil for me. He has called me fat, ugly and worthless and a source of never ending psychological pain

[@Hope-uq1vn]

So pleased people are speaking out about menopause, I literally thought I was losing my mind.

[@user-xc7iq4cm8t]

Exactly!! We’ve been suffering unnecessary for decades. I asked my dr about HRT years ago. Was dismissed immediately.

[@bridgetc.marinaccio8024]

Me too! I was losing myself, I feel tremendously better.

[@patriciamharris5664]

I think I m going through this..61 yrs old. Insomnia, flushing, osteopena, depression....

[@blacksongbird100]

I think we all do. People act like we are. The doctors act like we are. And people who have been through it tend to stay quiet like it's a secret. When I asked my mom about it she responded like she didn't have any symptoms. 🤷🏿‍♀️ So, I have to figure it without her help.

[@user-xc7iq4cm8t]

@@blacksongbird100 Exactly! My mom never spoke about it

[@seneca132]

I "muscled" through 2 yrs of symptoms before deciding to ask for HRT. 7 months after started and about 60-70% of my symptoms gone, I switched insurance companies. Saw a female doctor who said "I don't practice medicine like that" when I told her I still wanted medicine regardless of the "risks" she was so concerned about. It was insane to hear. Her comments made me feel like I was asking for euthanasia and her "beliefs" were to save me by lengthening my life. I told her I choose quality over quantity. Anyway, I ended up getting a second opinion and will continue my HRT treatment. Doctors are NOT listening to patients. Advocating for ourselves is an uphill battle. Thanks so much for this video!❤

[@Scor-ah]

ME TOO, I finally got HRT from Alloy an online team of Drs that will treat you and get you the therapy you need. I am 3 months into HRT at age 67 and I feel like I am 35 again. Running, cycling, weight lifting, building bone mass and sleeping through the night. Plus I feel like having sex again with my very patient husband.

[@Dian-gk4us]

the thing is, every provider have the right to practice "by the book" and the right to deny treatment, you just have to find the one who's in agreement with you

[@nownowbrowncow52]

Your telling my story.

[@Truthstrangerthanfict.]

That’s because HRT can cause cancer. My mom stopped taking it years ago because of this 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Scor-ah]

That theory has been proven wrong quite a long time ago@@Truthstrangerthanfict.

[@Okebebe1]

This is a great interview. I’m 44 I am going through perimenopause. Just shared this video with all my gfs. I have frozen shoulder, experienced utis only in my 40s but not in 20s out of the blue, dryness and omg constant fatigue. Taking some supplements that increase estrogen which has immensely helped and I’ve been sharing that as well. I’m thankful for social media with information that has helped me so much. Drs only treat the symptoms but not what causes it, not enough drs aware of what happens to women’s bodies during perimenopause so they just can’t help. So true about the WW - people just boil it down to us whining … but honestly my body is breaking down and knowing there’s all these symptoms is good to know.

[@viviennemills3894]

I am a 55 year and still having a regular cycle. I am experiencing night sweat, dental issues, hot flashes, bladder issues, anxiety issues, allergies, mood swings, body aches and pain, fatigue and insomnia. Thanks for this episode.

[@leighrogers1383]

I am now 57. I haven’t felt the same since I went through the menopause. The hot flashes were uncomfortable but bearable…but I suffered from 2 to 3 years of terrible insomnia…crippling anxiety attacks that would happen just as I was falling asleep…a black hole of loneliness, no joy in life, brain fog….and I was teaching and felt like I was too busy to look after myself. I didn’t talk to my husband about the depression and loneliness because I didn’t want to worry him…and I knew it was because of hormone changes and would pass…if I could ride it out. My sympathies with anyone struggling with peri menopause/menopause.

[@kristingoettlicher3503]

This is very relatable. I am 41.

[@Gigithehippie]

I'm right there with you and understand my journey started at 45, then around 55 got worse, now I'm 57, weight gain, insomnia anxiety depression, I do fast but because I'm diabetic, it xan be tough Migraines have increased body aches, joints I just feel less of a human For those who had mild to no problems God bless you, this has been a very tough journey for me.. God bless those who are being tormented by this change in our lives, my heart goes out to you all..

[@leighrogers1383]

@@Gigithehippie yep…exactly.

[@tigerspiritjourney]

I have found that taking magnesium really helps with the anxiety. 🤗

[@leighrogers1383]

@@tigerspiritjourney thanks for that…I strongly suspect that some supplements would help.

[@user-xc7iq4cm8t]

Menopause was DEVASTATING for me. You’re SO right - NO ONE talks about it!

[@Alien_at_Large]

I had NO IDEA it would be this bad. If I had known how I would be feeling, I would have started HRT ten years ago. I have become a "hypochondriac".

[@carolynkeller8888]

Same

[@kimberlyfaubion-boulanger9027]

😢 Going through this right now. I've been searching for the right help and my world has been upside down due to parimenopause. Thank you so much for this informative video. ❤❤❤

[@Joanna7428]

I've been going through it since I was around 45 and I'm nearly 50 now. It is and has been horrendous! Mood swings, low mood off the scale, hot flushes, cold sweats, weight gain. As you say, no one talks to us about it and no one warns us of what is coming.

[@jeffbrooks1513]

my mental health and overall general health took a toll. being treated has made such the difference for me!

[@coolpaul2518]

I’m just happy to finally realize that I’m not alone and going crazy, I thought I was going to lose my mind over all this stuff that it happened to my body at the age of 42

[@MamaMia44]

I'm excited to watch. I am 44 years old and I started suffering from menopause 4 years ago. The doctors told me it depends on your mother. My mom got it at 45 and I got mine at 40. They say it comes 5 years before your mom. I still don't know much except going through the symptoms of having it. Those hot and cold flashes make me feel like I have a flu for a minute. I am so glad for this podcast episode.

[@rizzart66]

I'm in tears. My mother died of breast cancer and I have been terrified of HRT for this reason. My meno smptoms are all over the place. Still have not passed the one year no period mark. I've blamed myself for my weight gain, depression, mood swings since the pandemic. My first call after the holidays will be to find a provider who specializes in menopause.

[@dragonfly1430]

My mother died in 2014 from uterine cancer believed to be caused by HRT. She basically made me swear on her death bed I would not take hormones. So went through it all natural. I suffered through perimenopause and now have been in full menopause now at 58. I spent years of horrible sleep, weight gain, skin issues, etc. I still have symptoms. I wish I knew more.

[@avril.227]

BioIdentical hormones. Natural hormone therapy doesn’t have the same risks

[@margaretqueenofscots9450]

@@avril.227Yeah, not all hormones are equal

[@PeggyMitchell64]

Just go carnivore, your body knows what to do to heal

[@thelikomagallery5080]

I honestly wouldnt take this doctor's advice. HRT is not healthy for you at all. I would try whatever natural method is out there. My mom is 65 and doesnt take any of these HRT stuff and she is doing just fine. I am 39 and i know menopause is around the corner maybe and i plan to start working on myself now

[@ssmith5127]

After simply watching the opening moments - I want to scream thank you! Do you have any idea what it means to an aging female to see a young man such as yourself give this topic the attention it deserves? Especially after watching the women I've loved throughout my lifetime struggle without understanding or adequate support. Women have been dying (literally) waiting for this level of acknowledgement, attention, understanding and support.

[@alypat3443]

Well said, Totally agree 👍

[@user-qm5nq9wg3d]

YeS!!! I have been commenting for some time requesting for Steve to get someone on to talk about Menopause because he has such a huge following and these individuals whom are taking to media platforms to get the subject of menopause and hrt and how it impacts relationships aren't getting the exposure they so desperately need!!!. I almost cried with tears of joy when I saw this video today. THANK YOU STEVE!!!!

[@user-xg9nu8do6b]

well said, 100% concur

[@dianebell8677]

Hallelujah, men should understand that it affects all the people around us , not just us . I have been chatting to my son , making him aware for the future , for the lovely lady in his life . I sometimes think I’m going mad ! It’s really frightening.i am on a strict healthy diet , exercise down the gym most days go to bed early , HRT and I still feel I’m treading water .The worse is when I go away and I can’t do these things so much , the wrong food , not so much exercise , any alcohol and interrupted sleep.My irritability returns , lose confidence in myself and lack positivity. It does impact my new relationship, as my partner doesn’t understand what’s going on and I’m quite good at explaining to him what I’m going through .But unfortunately his a different generation and thinks it’s a Womens problem , keep it to yourself .iv even promised not to talk about it any more , to keep the peace .I am sure my divorce had something to do with the menopause and I’m trying my best to not let it affect this new 7 year relationship . Big Thank you Steve ❤️ a very mature conversation,I take my hat off to you . Good luck lady’s your going to need it ❤️❤️🙏 xxxx

[@gloriakummer5357]

I wonder if it translates into his personal life though…

[@ScotchWhiskey23]

I had primary ovarian failure at 28. Full menopause at 30 partial hysterectomy at 32 had hrt therapy but dint work. my bones sucked. Started bio identical hrt and they gave me progesterone when I shouldn’t have had that it made my symptoms so bad. My husband was very supportive during the crazy time. So now I’m on a super low dose estrogen once weekly. And started Mtb in 2012 and helped with bone density. And fought my way out of osteoporosis thru my spine at the age of 34. Now 49. And have no red areas in my Deska scan. Completely green. My hair came back my skin is lovely and feel very good.

[@kilikena09]

I have pof too, started at 33. I am now on HRT five years later. It’s been the hardest five years of my life, broke up with my ex during this time. This is inspiring

[@maryjanesinkansas9287]

I sent this to every woman in my phone. If I had socials, I'd share it there too but I don't. SHARE THIS! It's more than just diet! It's empathy. It's love! 🤗✌🏼🙏🏻💕

[@lightbodyvehicle]

I gained 30 pounds, night sweats, depression, anxiety, hair loss, lack of motivation, lack of energy. nightmare scenario. doctors gave me anti depressants, and anti anxiety meds. never helped me with hormones. it ruined my life. family thought I was crazy. this should not have to happen in the 21st century.

[@redrock740]

The only thing that has helped me was weekly fasting along with daily yoga and meditation. I have learned to accept I'm getting older and will have to be more careful with my lifestyle.

[@fingerprint5511]

Its because its women and the Patriarchal Capitalist isn't supportive of women.

[@zamev]

I hope you were able to get HRT. I did and gave my life back.

[@user-rb6cp5pe1b]

I read HRT causes cancer and eating aorganiccarrot adayhelpswithhormones??

[@pamhenderson3850]

Same but I've gained 50lbs since I hit menopause at 50 yrs old and now turning 60 in a few months...drs treat, you like your crazy and want to give you antidepressants and anxiety meds or I know women told they needed anti psychotic meds...it's awful! Not sleeping sweats, weight gain , extreme fatigue, brain fog, body pain on and on

[@tslilbearshoppe9870]

I was offered no relief. I was made to be afraid of hormones. My own mother suffered through it and didn't take any hormones so I too thought that was best. When I told my FEMALE doctors that I was having mood swings and hot flashes they offered me psych drugs, I thankfully refused. It is disgusting how we are treated by the medical profession and by female doctors as well. Shameful

[@nataliaratnikova9963]

That's why they taught in medical school that hormones is cased cancer? I think you are smart about it. Company just promote those stuff make billions. No study at all.

[@nattypatty3667]

Ah yes, it's because you're a woman ofc. HELLO, that's what's what the medical industry does. They don't take the time to truly understand their patient's issues. It's a numbers game and all about prescribing meds.

[@cristinacrowe9037]

Same experience

[@jennieoh8543]

You have to look a it in this perspective. A 49 year old women goes into OBGYN she is still cycling and asks to have her rx for birth control pills refilled. They are synthetic doses are pretty high she never got cancer. A 50 year old women goes to same OBGYN asks for HRT due to suicidal thoughts and all the other awful symptoms. He says no. The hormones for hrt are body identical and made from wild yams and are a tiny drop compared to BC pills. If it was not for the misreporting of WHI OBGYN would still be handing hrt to their menopausal women.

[@toussalelady2234]

From my understanding some of the depression drugs are used off label, at lower doses, to reduce severe hot flashes

[@deborahclark4400]

I started watching this video at my daughter's house at the weekend and found it really very informative, it was good to see a woman give this attention it deserves and knowing she had grown with her patients through this age, was even more showing her understanding and want to help, definitely worth a watch 👍👍👍👍👍👍❤️

[@MpoweredbyMe]

I'm so glad I ran across this podcast. I was holding off getting HRT because of the cancer risks, but now I'm definitely going to have the conversation with my PCP. Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤❤

[@welshie2007]

I started at 40, but I "manned" through it with no help. At 47, I am finally out of the bad parts, but I have aged so much. I never knew menopause sucked the energy out of you. No one talks about it. I feel kinda robbed at a young age. I felt like my body started dying around me.

[@karynnotkaren693]

You can still get hrt. It can help your skin, bones, heart which would help with feeling low energy. I would talk to a doctor to find out the options. Good luck 🍀

[@MrsShimmyOnDown]

Did you get the Covid jabs? Because if you did, your experience may be stemming from adverse effects of these.

[@-Free.Spirit-]

I started at 42. Doctor didnt even consider it to be "early" menopause and offered me nothing. But I didnt need anything. Menstruation simply stopped. I had little to no issues at all, just the odd "hot flush". Guess I am one of the lucky ones. I do wonder if THE PILL interferes with the female hormones and I was hardly ever on the pill since I had one son when 25 an left his dad when he was 6 and have been on my own ever since, mostly sex free so didnt need to be on that poison that fks with your hormones. Am in my 50s now so well past it all.

[@CarolinaCarolina-ph9mx]

@@-Free.Spirit- I didn't do the pill for more than a few weeks because it caused me to have pretty serious depression in a very short time, so I said forget it to that stuff, so I may be a good counter to your experience to say, at least not in all cases, having taken the pill may not be the problem in menopause. Maybe, I don't know. But my time with it was so short as to be a nonuser, and when menopause hit me at about 47-48 years of age, it hit hard. I had the worst hot flashes for years, and 8 years later, I still deal with them on occasion. I would get a hot flash at night when I was trying to sleep, I'd push the covers off of me until I finally cooled off, then, as I was pulling the covers back up, just that little activity would cause me to have another one! Forget turning - guaranteed hot flash. I had really horrible myclonus start around that time, so turned to taking some CBD and THC to get sleep, and was surprised to see that they helped with the hot flashes, so I kept doing them for a while. They knocked them back to where I could function somewhat, and after a while, I was grateful I was able to stop taking the supplements. I appreciated this doctor's talk, and definitely want to look into HRT and other supplements now.

[@sunnievictoria9917]

lol@@MrsShimmyOnDown

[@patriciareaves8315]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🥹 Every word of what she said is true. It’s a disgrace how the medical community has let down women. Our men are leaving us because of these issues. We are suffering in silence. Mental, physically . 🙏🏾

[@ZsuzsaKarolySmith]

Half the medical community is women! Do they not face the same issues?

[@9Mountains9]

It’s terrible that men are not staying and loving you through thick and thin.

[@krustysurfer]

Women are leaving their men.... 70% of divorce is initiated by women going through some part of menopause... I am a personal victim of it.

[@sharmainetheblackbarbie8126]

He wanted to leave anyway sis, he just waited until he had the right opportunity.

[@DK-zu6tt]

@@krustysurfer "Victim." Not. My husband has been there supporting me, even before I knew I was going through menopause. Either you love her and will help her, no matter where she is or what she is going through....or not.

[@beckyh9733]

Thank you so much for this interview, I discovered her on TikTok back during the shutdown days and learned so much, but was never able to fully comprehend everything about what menopause is to me until today. I had nearly 25 years of a multitude of chronic problems including chronic joint and muscle pain and NOW I understand why. I am post menopausal now and have balanced hormones for the first time in my life at 58 and FINALLY feel FANTASTIC. Thank you Dr Haver.

[@EruvwuObuaya]

Thank you for sharing. I have saved this podcast and have shared it with others too, especially my husband as we're both clueless and I'm perimenopausal at 56! I'm sorry for your loss Dr Haver. Thank you for serving women everywhere! 😍

[@TordeanRivera]

I’m a man and I really appreciate you sharing this. My wife is going through a lot of these changes and I am really trying to help her. Thanks soooooooooo much

[@Laugregall]

My 92 year old nanny mae took HRT until she was 71 and says this is way she is still thriving and out walking every day and has all her mental faculties ✨

[@Davina29080]

When did your nanny Mae start taking HRT?

[@keekeemyfirstcat8410]

I started at surgical menospause, age 43. I am 69 now and will not quit HRT.

[@Melh05]

@@keekeemyfirstcat8410 What type of HRT are you taking? My Ob-Gyn just prescribed me oral Estradiol and progesterone. I’m a little concerned about blood clots although I’m not a smoker, 55 and in good health

[@growthrulove]

What is hrt?

[@keekeemyfirstcat8410]

@@growthrulove Hormone Therapy

[@MishkaTia]

Thank you Stephen for inviting this amazing Doc she is saving so many women misunderstood because of what they are struggling with during perimenopause and menopause 🙏🏼💕

[@ppjctotoro]

I've been listening to a few of your shows now and been very impressed, but now my respect is through the roof! I was searching for more from Dr Haver as I am 42 and suspect I'm in perimenopause. Thank you for dealing with this topic as a man and helping people become more aware! You've earned yourself a subscriber!

[@DrYouMrTube]

As a man who knows a lot about hormones. this is GOLD. everyone, and I mean EVERYONE over the age of 30 should listen to this doctor and watch it a few times.

[@SharonRasco]

Also Dr. Louise Newman in the UK. She's brilliant and doing so much to inform people around this significant topic. See her website, podcasts, instagram lives etc 🌟

[@eggandchips4t]

​@@SharonRascothank you for the information x

[@currypowder15]

I've educated my daughters and told them not to wait until menopause, start before. Diet, exercise and vitamins.

[@k8marlowe]

Yeah, I personally felt like used up, damaged goods after menopause. I felt like I had lost what made me a woman and, like I was no longer valued in our society. I became invisible. The worst part was that no one ever prepared me about the emotional impact of menopause. No one from my generation had any idea what to expect.

[@dsszerothlaw]

That is so sad 😓 I'm post menopausal now, no periods for 3 years. They just suddenly stopped. No variation. I had one then a gap of 6 months, then one more, then nothing. I've had very few symptoms that can't be attributed to external factors (e.g. stressful events) I feel extremely lucky.

[@gillw8988]

This is s so true I feel invisible and useless

[@user-fl8hw7dt9w]

This depleted hommonal imbalances has sad side effects 😢

[@JaneH3675]

What you said is how I have felt. Like my body turned against me and I felt useless, and didn't feel like a woman anymore. I'm 60 years old now, don't have much energy, and just prefer to stay home. Age 48 to 55 were the worst years.

[@WendyTalkRadio]

So sad

[@janetbaker1038]

This is such a great video. Thank you both so much. ❤ Dr Haver, your family history is unbelievably heartbreaking, yet the way you've channelled your grief to help others is just wonderful. You're inspirational. Thank you. Sharing this in my Facebook menopause group with gratitude.

[@jemsjemski533]

I’ve started noticing all of these symptoms, I’m 43. This is hugely eye opening. The staying afloat theory is massive 😮

[@carripiller]

I was introduced to peripause with irrational rage and migraines at 43!!

[@jemsjemski533]

@@carripiller I used to get migraines when I was younger and they stopped when I was 18… just started getting them again… and I’m such a mess of anger and tears at the same time, for irrational things (not all the time, but sometimes) Had bloods done recently and I’ve a ✅ for health, so they are going for more bloods now for hormone levels. Apparently you have to be over 45 for any perimenopause to happen according to the nurse I spoke to 😳

[@carripiller]

@@jemsjemski533 peripause can begin in your 30s if you hear the Dr!! So, I would definitely push the matter with your Dr or Gyn!! I definitely knew my rage was not normal at 43🤣 I do not take anything now at 53, and my periods are just really starting to skip. But my mood is okay and the other stuff, like joint pain and muscle, I am beginning yoga for strength. But definitely speak up for yourself!!!🩷

[@melissasue3328]

"Strength over skinny" that really resonates right off the rip and "I want to see the girls I raised become the women they're meant to be "

[@n54ll64]

We are being lied to about everything. Everyone has their own opinions on certain things. Best way to navigate life is to be aware of everything and to use your own discernment. Different strokes for different folks.

[@elizabethabbott2982]

we really need to; I have seen some real medical goof-ups

[@hello3146]

I must disagree with that advice. Yes, there are medical screwups, corrupt studies and strong medicines can have side effects etc. BUT our bodies are very complex and even with many years of training, MD’s (and clinical studies) disagree. The responsibility for your health is yours but you must rely on their knowledge to guide you in decision making. Not only do you not have their knowledge, emotional factors like fear,denial and bargaining, magical thinking, & rebellion against authority figures,for example,and human tendencies to rely on anecdotal “evidence” rather than huge studies and statistics can interfere with making the right choices. You are a babe in the woods when your health is at risk so ask questions but follow the numbers and hope for the best. I have seen people die regretting ignoring medical advice and handling things on their own. Medicine is not perfect but it is what we have.

[@lafettemorgan6676]

The instant stabbing pains, shoulder neck, teeth clenching tension, and crawling itchy skin is debilitating 😢😢

[@tharris504]

I have frozen shoulder and did not know this was associated with menopause. My physical therapist said they didn’t know why it happens other than it happens frequently in women over 40 and those with diabetes. I do not have diabetes, but I’m over 40. Glad to have come across this interview.

[@zofiajaneczek184]

As a poor, low income, working class woman I have been let down by the medical community multiple times throughout my life. I’ve been uninsured the majority of my life due to lack of money. I’ve been forced to take my medical care into my own hands. I’ve been forced to educate myself and go the natural route. Low cost and free medical care doesn’t work, access to it is difficult when you don’t have a living wage income. You become invisible as a woman as you age in this nation and disregarded medically too. I’m surviving and not because I’ve gotten any tangible help. The information is out there to help with many issues but you have to want to find it and learn on your own. I have a regimen now that I’ve figured out for myself. WOMEN BECOME INVISIBLE AS THEY AGE in this nation. This is for everything! YOU must take things into your own hands. As a lower income woman, you matter even less in this society. Especially if you have no family, few friends, and a threadbare support system.

[@ct2co2AZ]

You are so correct. It’s a good thing you are intelligent enough to do the research and take charge. It’s a sad state of affairs

[@carliebeau5329]

I have government health care. It's excellent. Better then regular health care. So I think it's a personal choice to say your invisible

[@LGee-ue1rq]

Just listen to the lady for a change and stop being so judgmental! You seem to be a great gaslighter towards people you don’t quite understand! Just chill and become a better listener!!!

[@GLifestyle50]

Very sad and so true…the health care system in this country is broken.😞

[@thenextcountry]

@@carliebeau5329 What a terrible thing to say to someone. Not everyone is qualified or has enough funds to get on "government health care".

[@Katie-jm2bs]

I go diagnosed as perimenopausal at the age of 36. Here are my symptoms (which might be helpful for some) erratic periods (start early, start late, skipped). Anxiety, heart palpitations, mood swings (one day feeling really low, another day feeling fine, quick to snap, irritable), hot flashes, cold flashes, night sweats, waking up randomly at 3am, itchy skin - including in the ear canals, weight gain around the stomach area, hand tingling, joints and muscle aches, low sex drive, hair growth around chin, neck and upper lip, white noise/ringing in ears, dry or watery eyes, fatigue, insomnia, headaches, migraines, brain fog, forgetfulness, constipation and diarrhea. HRT is optional - but you should take it if your symptoms are debilitating or you’re self destructive.

[@CherylBerryl]

Bio-identical hormones.

[@charlottebruce979]

See, this is why it terrifies me. How are you still alive and functioning, you obviously did and as billions of women before you you survived!!

[@qqrq]

​@@CherylBerryl could you please say more about these?❤❤❤thank you

[@punkowl00]

You just described all my symptoms. I also started at 36

[@SingleHotWitch]

Right there with you. My GP is slowly starting to listen but I was also offered anti depressants as a first point of call. There's nothing wrong with my seretonin so it's a totally inappropriate treatment. I tried to buy HRT from boots online but they insist on doctor referral if you are under 45. It's a joke. I'm literally showing up on their door every month until they treat me appropriately. I'm also doing all the holistic stuff, diet and exercise. Thank goodness this information is being shared more!

[@mrsrestorationoftruthyahsc3057]

I started menopause when i was 49 and OMG i needed to see/hear this video to understand it!! Thank you so much for sharing🥰

[@Ehkaya]

Fatigue, hot flashes and sleep disturbances are my hardest.

[@preciousmocha78]

This young man is remarkable. My hat is off to you for having this conversation and bringing this conversation to the forefront. This needs to be shared and spoken.

[@tamarahaskins2774]

I totally agree! He's asking her all the right questions too!

[@xannaz9226]

I am 64 and this information blows my mind. Unexplained high cholesterol, recent ADHD diagnosis, ✔️✔️✔️ I was nodding my head the entire episode. Steven I'm a subscriber, but never expected to learn such valuable information on menopause here. Thank you, a young man, for giving voice to her. I'm going to find the best doc I can near me and order her book. I'm ready to get after this. Thank you thank you thank you.

[@kitbram2033]

Hormone therapy must therefore start before the age of 60 or within a decade of menopause to avoid blood clots, breast cancer, heart disease, and stroke.

[@Bexiboo.]

Can I ask did you get vaccinated? Also what's you diet like day to day Thanks xx

[@sunnysal3889]

@@kitbram2033Every person should have their individual risk evaluated by a knowledgeable provider. Blanket age restrictions are incorrect, and depriving some of necessary treatment.

[@chandra6231]

​@@Bexiboo. Good Morning; I did get vaccinated and my periods were SO HEAVY 😮😮. I found out back in October that I just started peri-menopause. I am 50 years old.

[@DK-zu6tt]

@@chandra6231 Have your doctor check if you uterine fibroids. I did. I would have to stay home for 2 days during my periods because I would bleed out in 30 minutes. Once those fibroids were removed, I went back to my 5 day manageable period of my 20s. It was SOOOOO worth it.

[@carrier411]

perimenopause is awful. 1 year and counting of daily irritability (progesterone kept me calm!) and not wanting people around me, getting annoyed with people -strangers, anyone, a perpetual bad mood. Never been irritated in my life like this endurance test. and weight gain for nearly a year. help!

[@lafettemorgan6676]

Well done, doc, we needed you. I talk about it with my son, who's 21. He didn't understand why I complained of so much pain, but he listens when I explain things to him.

[@outlinehappiness]

I’m 37 and trying to get a doctor to take me seriously when I talk about the incredible pain in my back and elbows and wrists which started happening a year ago during my period. And the sudden acne when I’ve not had it all my life. The incredible wave of emotion I feel the week before my period. Every time I’ve seen a doctor in the UK I feel like I’m being gaslighted and condemned for wasting their time with my appointment.

[@youngwt1]

Sad to say it but I’ve had a much better experience with private healthcare. My wife uses a private menopause clinic and they have been wonderful, maybe if you can afford it start there and get some tests?

[@melissaw815]

I'm in the same situation in the U.S. healthcare system.

[@24galia]

You are not alone. It's not just in UK like that. And we live in western Europe! Imagine elsewhere!

[@educational1651]

I am so sorry. I’m in the UK too. I had undiagnosed severe anaemia for 3 years. My doctor refused to do blood tests. I was given prescription after prescription of pills to treat the symptoms I was experiencing, when they didn’t work, my doctor decided that I was having viral infections back to back for years. This was caused by the hormonal contraceptive in my arm. Since having it put in, I would bleed non-stop. That surely should have given him a hint about what my problem was? Apparently bleeding profusely wasn’t a side-effect (he lied, it was). How doctors can be so negligent and uncaring? It’s unbelievable.

[@kellibodony1077]

I had no mental changes but physically I would never let my husband touch me again due to pain. Are we both supposed to live our life like that when BIOIDENTICAL HRT can correct it??!! I ended up going to Carnivore (eating only animal products and dairy) and my hormones corrected so I no longer need HRT. It may not work for everyone AND the elites don't want us eating meat. I wonder why?!!🤔 I also no longer need any meds and my arthritis, anklyosing spondylitis, joint pain, Ulcerative colitis and psoriasis has all cleared. That's a huge money loss to the pharmaceutical companies and to doctors.🤔 Follow the money!!💰 My husband also joined me on the Carnivore WOE (way of eating). We both got super trim and have more muscle than we did 10 years ago. We are 57 & 58. A friend in my neighborhood went Carnivore and he is fit, no longer a diabetic and no longer needs blood pressure meds!! 😁💪

[@kathleenyonce2556]

Excellent content. I’m 54 and literally was made to feel dumb by my OBGYN said “calories in calories out period. There are no exceptions” when I told her I keep expanding with weight but have made no changes. I’m glad this conversation is changing so we can find the right answers

[@juliewright1895]

She’ll get it someday when she hits menopause. Sorry you were told that!!

[@DebbieDooo]

That is why when I sought out a new Gyno, my list of specs consisted of being female, being close to my age and specialized in menopause symptoms and treatments. I am very happy with my choice. She gets it!

[@keralee]

The "calories in calories out" model is sooo obsolete and any doc saying that is the ignoramus...not you! Far too many have not got the sense to realize that the body is an incredibly intricate feedback system that constantly adapts and changes. Sadly, they lack the humility to admit that they dont know how it all works...

[@baronvonhoughton]

So you can break the laws of thermodynamics? Fascinating. Your Dr is absolutely correct of course.

[@Js9534a]

Find a new doctor? And watch your carbs. 😊

[@laurabartoli5909]

I've been working with menopause patients for 9 years and advocating daily for all the things you mention. Thank you.

[@marlineduroseau2293]

I'm sooo happy this video came across my feed. To say I've been struggling the past 2-3 years is an understatement 😩. Watching this in feeling validated. Thank goodness my doctors started to listen to me after being hospitalized 2x as I thought I was literally dying from the litny of symptoms i was experiencing. Thank you!

[@wendyrancourt1993]

I'm 60 and have been on HRT for 15 years. I will NEVER voluntarily go off it. I also strength train and eat a clean, high-protein diet. But without the hrt it wouldn't make much difference. Without it, I suffered every symptom on the list, on a scale of 11 out of 10. I educated myself when I was going through this and I have advocated for myself with a long line of (sometimes really ignorant) doctors. I live in fear that I will be unable to keep finding doctors willing to prescribe, or that the hormones will no longer be available- because the pharma companies by and large have stopped making them. They want us to be on a whole list of meds for each separate symptom, rather t han just one or two that ABSOLUTELY FIXED EVERYTHING. Women- and everyone who loves a woman going through this- need to kick up a fuss about this and not take no for an answer. It's life or death. Literally. Without my hrt I would have no interest in living. Go back to that hell? Never. Society DOES not value post-fertile women, so we HAVE to value ourselves.

[@nosebot]

Do you get your HRT through your doctor or do you use an online service? Also do you use bio-identical hormones or synthetic hormones? I’m trying to figure out my own path here because what you’ve gone through with menopause describes my current experience.

[@successandspirit]

100% women put way too much faith in "drs." and allow them to push them over. that is part of the problem.

[@Maevelikeschampagne]

@@nosebotI get bioidentical testosterone gel and progesterone which is bioidentical. I’ve only been on it 6 weeks at a low dose and it’s making such a difference. I have all of the symptoms and I am watching them diminish

[@nosebot]

@@Maevelikeschampagne Are you getting those via your regular doctor or an online provider?

[@wendyrancourt1993]

So far I've been able to find drs (ob-gyns) to prescribe, and it's been the regular pharma version not the bioidentical because no drs in my area prescribe those. I've been extrememly happy- and healthy- on the hrt I'm taking. @@nosebot

[@LostNFoundASMR]

I hit post-menopause at age 39- Im 41 now. I missed my pre menopause stage as far as knowing that’s what was happening to me because no doctors would check my hormones - they refused to believe it was hormone related at my age. I was told my brain fog and feeling hot (like I was going to pass out) was just me having anxiety. Thanks to them I almost lost all bone density in my left leg and I got lost trying to find my way home one day. Oh and one summer I felt like I was having a stroke episode which prompted me to finally demand testing. I suffered for four years before I was able to get someone to listen to me. I would write. A book if I told you the thing va my body went through. It was pure misery- I told my doctor that I didn’t want to live anymore because I had no quality fo life. I was mocked by nurses and doctors when I would describe my symptoms. It was horrible. Four years of misery that I can’t get back. I could have just been on the estrogen and progesterone and be doing fine. I feel great now with it. If I miss a day or two I will feel it almost instantly. The medication literally keeps my body in line. People need to stop diagnosing females as mentally unstable every time we have a concern.

[@Nonybusinessxxxxxx]

Wow, I've learned you have to put pressure on these egotistical doctors. I had a situation that dealt with Lymes disease, the "Doctor" didnt believe that my headaches at the back of my head along with painful bug bite could be related to lymes because I didnt have the rings. I insisted they do the test and what do you know? I had Lyme, couldve progressed to permanent severe symptoms or death if I did not advocate formyself. Since then I lost all faith in Doctors (esp after the push for the untested money generating covid VAX)

[@lisasargent2841]

This 87

[@Elena-fe3os]

I did not recognized my symptoms. Only when my period stopped,months ago, I put all together. I was not prepared, nor informed

[@LG-oq4dy]

I'm done with male doctors due to the way I've been treated by so so many. Been yelled at, laughed at abilled with 0 treatment, just for going in over symptoms. My mom used to talk about how horrible she was getting treated after a certain age, getting called hypochondriac. I didn't get it, and now I'm 49 and have experienced it myself. Not saying all male docs are like this but I'm not willing to go to any more.

[@Tracylynn62]

This sounds just like my experience.

[@teeve1500]

I am very impressed by this lovely young man who is showing genuine interest in women`s health. Most guys dont give a s.......What a guy, take note, men!!!