The "NO-COMMITMENT" guy, commits to a 20-year YOUNGER woman. (SATC Analaysis Part 5)

[@insightsbyv]

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[@2491jess]

Carrie is always anxious because she almost doesn't eat, when she eats is greasy food, she wakes up so late and all her life is so unhealthy. Big lessons here

[@maevemaiden]

And smokes cigarettes lol good points

[@Trishapaytasofficial]

Such a good point

[@catu7089]

Yeah, the girl basicaly lives off cigarettes and cosmopolitans.

[@rockabillymuffin]

idk, seems a little simplistic to me

[@lorrilewis2178]

You can be healthy at all wake-up times. Why do people think early risers are more healthy or better in any way? As long as you're getting your stuff done, it doesn't matter.

[@sarahleon3294]

When you end the analysis of Carrie, I need the analysis of Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda. PLEASE

[@ThatWeirdFinn]

Can you imagine the end of Carrie-analysis?? 😱 Life will be meaningless! 😁 Half kidding. 🥲

[@sarahleon3294]

​@@ThatWeirdFinnTotally! I need MORE

[@BeckyEllis-vd8on]

And we need a “and just like that” analysis

[@AlexNur07]

Yes, we care far more about them. Carrie was the worst character. The least interesting also.

[@lunallena5594]

People trash their ex and then melt when they see them face to face. This show really showed the women's romantic tragedies more realistically than other shows did before. Carrie was a doormat for Big and selfish to everyone else.

[@Trishapaytasofficial]

Well said!

[@lunallena5594]

@@Trishapaytasofficial Thank you!

[@isa-r3j]

I wish I knew if this was intentional, or if the writers were just also not self aware

[@lunallena5594]

@user-sl1rh8iw3h Maybe, and also people enjoy watching the characters struggle. Writers write what viewers will or what they think they will watch.

[@taylormade9748]

Big knew within months he wanted to be with Natasha and Carrie waited years. I have been a Carrie and I'm 28. I'm definitely now going to move like Natasha

[@lorrilewis2178]

Carrie's main problem is that she tried to force a square peg into a round hole. She didn't know when to move on! If the relationship doesn't develop easy and organically, it's not worth investing in.

[@taylormade9748]

@@lorrilewis2178 i absolutely agree

[@thesecondYouTube]

He decided to marry Natasha in his head after a few hours.

[@taylormade9748]

@thesecondKZbin yup

[@prima-madalina]

He’s a social climber- Natasha had utility for his image

[@siaprasad8400]

This is why i keep myself from telling myself the cliche "his loss", "i was too good for him", "he will treat his new gf the same" etc ... toxic positivity because it may be true it may not be true i dont know the real story, he could treat his new gf better than he treated you, he wasnt sure about you or didnt see your value. Irregardless, its not doing me any good and I am focussed on myself and bettering myself. After seeing carrie act like this and how desparate she looks trying to make herself feel better by shitting on big and talking big about her.. yikesss

[@MrsSurrealista]

Grown men don’t change. One thing is compatibility between two people, but if he was a shitty or abusive boyfriend there’s a big chance he will be that way with his new partner too.

[@skromnyasha]

​@@MrsSurrealistaor avoidant. They rarely see themselves as the issue and think everyone just not compatible with them enough or he wasn't sure. I mean, kinda fucked he was with you and wasn't sure? What does that mean? Why he even started anything? That's not very normal or healthy behaviour in my opinion. If you not sure maybe try working on a relationship and have conversations with your partner that you choose initially. I'm really starting to hate how normal and easy it is for people to just noped out out of relationship as its some shoes that doesn't fit. Maybe don't cause people unnecessary trauma of abandonment when your foot will ruin any shoe.

[@MrsSurrealista]

@@skromnyasha EXACTLY! And as women we stay around over intellectualizing and analyzing and trying to normalize this behavior over and over again, IMO as a result of the cultural psyop that if anything goes wrong, it must be our (the woman’s) fault. So he strung you along? You just weren’t compatible! Men know what they’re doing. Big knew he was stringing Carrie along. He knew he wanted to marry Natasha at first sight lol.

[@7Mushrooms7]

I think that right after a breakup this is a fine coping mechanism. But after the initial shock and grief, it's good to have some self insight and take responsibility for our actions so that we don't repeat the same pattern.

[@corneliahanimann2173]

I agree with this wholeheartedly. When I went through my last break up, I was pretty in tune with my emotions, I was not shy to say that I miss my ex, adress that there were good moments too that were worthy of being mourned. Obviously a break up involves mamy conflicting feelings and I knew that was what I had to sort out, but whenever I would bring that up to my friends, they would insist that I am better off without him, that if I miss him so much, why don't I try to get back with him as if I was unaware of the reasons for which I decided to end things to begin with? I just felt like they wanted to support me, by gatekeeping which feelings I should and should not feel while not adressing the more complicated reality of a break up. I think a big part of dealing with a break up is also mourning the future you have imagined with a person, to analyze what that was and eventually reach a point of knowing what you want better, understanding who you and your faults are better and walking into a more certain future. The loneliness I felt from friends was the some of the most toxic feelings I have encountered, I thought I could be my authentic self to them and be accepted as that more complicated and hurt version of me.

[@meliponaplays]

This attitude of "I don't need to do anything the guys just find me" really explains why her seminar later is a major disaster

[@kinj5422]

😂😂😂 cause all the ladies that attended the seminar were willing to admit their own agency in their decisions and take some accountability where Carrie would never 😂

[@cannellecinnamon5504]

To answer your question about the situation with the guy who was “short coming”: With him, Carrie wants to talk about their issue because she’s on equal footing with him. Same socio economic background, his mom is a writer like her, she’s accepted by his family so she’s comfortable enough to be assertive. Whereas with Big, she always felt inferior because he was old money, a world she never had access to AND she was not accepted in: the distinguished mom wasn’t interested in knowing her, big didn’t make an effort to to include her in his world, and he never showed her admiration. Very difficult to be assertive in that situation…

[@lorrilewis2178]

Agree

[@yanan4249]

I'm sorry but being assertive means you can express your needs and thoughts in most of the situations when you need it. It's your quality and it's in you, somebody's parents and background have nothing to do with it.

[@lorrilewis2178]

@@yanan4249 But you can't deny that people are conscious of power imbalances. Big had more power in the world than Carrie and she felt it. That impacted her behavior with him. It should not have been a factor, but it takes a strong person to overcome it.

[@7Mushrooms7]

​@yanan4249 it shouldn't have but a combination of factors, including that one, seems to have made Carrie act totally different with Big than with guys that didn't feel so "out of her league" . It's not rational but it seems to be how Carrie operates.

[@Jenny-ls7hf]

His family was wealthy, too, and certainly more so than Carrie’s family. She was able to press him to talk about it, because it was early and she wasn’t “obsessed” yet like she was with Big. But she also did press Big, she was assertive (and even kinda crazy) with him multiple times she’d throw a fit and yell him how she feels

[@tinachristine4573]

Quality content. Where were you 8 years ago when I got all the wrong lessons from SATC? But thank you your helping me become even more Boy Sober.

[@ThatWeirdFinn]

"boy sober" haha love it

[@BeStillandKnow0000]

I thought Carrie was in denial about Big, but i think she's in denial about who she is and how she shows up in a relationship.

[@BeStillandKnow0000]

and i think she overestimates, her specialness to guys just because they like to have sex with her, not knowing that, Big and some of her other partners, only see her as that role. so to her, they are denying this great chemistry, but to them, they just like her for that. which is so sad... she couldn't see that.

[@pluraliatantum3055]

​@@BeStillandKnow0000yes! She felt special with any guy, who honestly never was interested in her as a person, but meat. Carie thinks relationship is only sex 24/7, but guys wanted from her only sex.

[@BeStillandKnow0000]

@@pluraliatantum3055 yesss.. her abandonment wound made her blinddd :(

[@mommabear1986]

Omgosh, yessss!!! Your videos on SATC are my favorite.

[@insightsbyv]

Yaayy makes me happy 🤗

[@Britta_no_filter]

@@insightsbyvcan’t wait for Part 6!!

[@amysworld5521]

​@@insightsbyv the problem is u with u r too much negative and even if some things u say nice but u critics the women more and judge like a man u r abnoxious

[@mommabear1986]

I'm obsessed! I've watched this one a couple times now 😂

[@talv7624]

Have been watching your SATC videos and really loving your analysis on it. I just ended things today with someone after four years because of his addiction. In a weird way these videos (especially this one)really help to rationalize and see things in a better light. At the end of the day human experience is so beautifully universal and it is really good to hear someone just saying things out loud, thank you!✨

[@ThatWeirdFinn]

Hugs!! Sounds like a hard time, hope everything goes well. ❤️

[@talv7624]

@@ThatWeirdFinnthank you dear!🤍

[@pepper1474]

Sending you strength! After some time passes, you will be looking back at this decision and be so proud and grateful for choosing yourself

[@mommabear1986]

Carrie tries to convince herself that she's over Big by bashing him, but it's so counterproductive. She just picks at the old wound, never lets it scab. Just dig, dig, dig, "why does this still hurt?" Toxic behavior. Im glad her friends spoke up and told her to see a therapist. That level of fixation is bordering on obsession, especially after she stalked his ex.

[@toriyt2714]

Now I can’t wait until you get to Aiden. My poor Aiden.

[@sunnypie2]

Yes “poor”. Big is rich and can pay for anything. I think that’s the biggest attraction

[@7Mushrooms7]

​@sunnypie2 I think that more than money it's the fact that he's so unavailable and that triggera her need for validation.

[@sunnypie2]

@@7Mushrooms7 good point too

[@maenad1231]

@@sunnypie2 He’s literally just NYC personified to Carrie. Not even a real person. I don’t think Carrie ever even loved him just the idea of him and what he represented - her winning him as a validation of her own idealized self image and being the most massive ego stroke of all time. Considering how carry treated Aiden and her friends, I don’t think Carrie ever truly loved anyone other than herself

[@lorrilewis2178]

Aiden is a great guy, but I never thought his lifestyle matched with Carrie's. She hated his cabin in the woods and he was a "cabin in the woods" kind of man.

[@squam7610]

Rewatching the scene where Carrie sees big at the party and confronts him ……. She is such a brat honestly. She’s standing there like a little kid .. “is it you?” LIKE GIRL READ THE ROOM. It’s honestly funny.

[@cannellecinnamon5504]

Especially that she came with a date and was rude to Natasha, acting like Big is still hers… I mean , I understand her shock since he basically lied about not wanting marriage, living for work and not wanting separation from her etc

[@luenneA87]

I always thought it was hilarious how Carrie thought Natasha was a teen when the one behaving like a child was her 💀

[@squam7610]

@@cannellecinnamon5504 exactly like she was so dismissive to natasha and creating such an awkward environment when she should’ve realized then and there it was done and saved herself the embarrassment.

[@k.o.390]

I love your analysis and it makes me realize how well the show was written.

[@verapaunovic8125]

Well, her column is named Sex and the City, so for her, those are the most important things. Big is checking these marks, as incredible sex, and the epitome of New York. It’s very interesting, as you pointed out, that she has more patience for commitment issues, than for issues about sex. I think that the writer did a phenomenal job at showing her relationships because it’s her perspective involved in the whole process of her dating life. Even Samantha found Smith with who she had developed a romantic relationship that was meaningful and important to her life.

[@SigmaSigmaSigmaJgirl]

I love Sam's facial expressions when Carrie is going on and on about it being Big's loss.

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

I think Carrie clings to 'they pick me' because she's constantly fighting massive feelings of unworthiness.

[@oljamedvedjeva3763]

28:50 I think it was not only the lack of commitment vs. lack of sex issue here.... but also the fact that Carrie was always much more eager to make excuses for Big compared to any other guy. AND Big was as slippery as a snake when he didn't want to talk about something: he would change the subject, or call her "baby" or, my personal un-favorite, give some vague and mysterious one-liners that didn't even make sense or count as an answer. But there always would be a potential for maybe. Maybe in the future, he would be open to discussing it, maybe she'd change his mind, etc. ... But this new guy, Mr. Fast and Done, told her point blank there would be no discussion about it. And he made it in the most obvious insecure way, so for Carrie, there was no point in trying 🤷🏼‍♀ Love your analyses videos!

[@Lalameniaa]

Agreed. Big was so good with his words, he would make a silly joke or say something that would calm Carry just enough at the moment... Guys like this are dangerous.

[@Khaegch-favh]

I learned this from my mother who always gave people the ICK with her desperate behavior, then would protest that its THEIR loss... IT WASN'T. We all knew it. She would chase people around demanding that they listen to her rewrite history, alwats made herself the victim and give herself special privileges to cross peoples boundaries. But she would still be saying that nonsense to anyone who would listen. It was gross but she was so unhinged nobody was going to he the one to argue. That behavior is GROSS and doesn't make anyone miss us.

[@SigmaSigmaSigmaJgirl]

Sounds like my mom

[@AlliBrunnerMusic]

girl idk what you put in these videos but they're the only thing that motivates me to clean my apartment 😭

[@HoneyLittleSis]

I just finished watching your previous part earlier today when I was putting together my new bed and was so bummed that I couldn’t binge the next video straight away lol CAN‘T WAIT TO HEAR YOUR TAKE ON THIS 👏🏼 🔥

[@Tmgirl_01]

Broke my angle running to your page for the new satc post

[@frosinicapandispan5534]

😅

[@ChevonJBenzo]

Just discovered your channel yesterday and have been binge watching your hour videos. I love them! ❤

[@hipnhappenin]

Oh Mary! Great timing!! How are you so emotionally intelligent when it comes to relationships??

[@reginafromrio]

That's hilarious (because it's a show.) He straight up tells her RIGHT after sex that he loses interest in women 😂😂

[@tonichan89]

Sex to Carrie is like jingling keys to a toddler.

[@Trishapaytasofficial]

The way I always wait for you to do more of SATC episodes and as soon as you post I get so happy!

[@radhiadeedou8286]

It's not the point but Natasha was at least 15 years younger than Big

[@MsNelson341]

You were talking about her not taking accountability for the guys she chooses for the guys are just supposed to find her and you’re right, there are two sides to that. What wasn’t discussed is if ladies don’t take accountability for self, some guys can sniff that out. Lifestyle tells a guy a lot about you. Carrie’s screamed that she lacked morals, boundaries and standards. Big was a pretty intelligent man and has dealt with his share of insecure women. Carrie was easy prey. She was just too full of her own crap to see it that way. Look at how she discredited the therapist. She ran from the accountability the therapist was trying to get her to see she lacked. Take note ladies. Work on getting out of your own way. It will elevate you to a position where guys wouldn’t dare try you like Big was able to do with Carrie. If they do try, you’re strong enough to call it out and move on. She literally was the only woman he couldn’t commit to. The others; His ex wife, Natasha, the movie star were all women he knew he couldn’t toy around with. Although the relationships didn’t last, he knew he wanted a relationship with them and not some uncommitted fling.

[@kashankva5274]

I absolutely love your commentary on this! Keep em coming haha

[@amandabun]

A welcomed treat as always. Roll on the next instalment 🥳! The episode ex and the city, finale of season 2 is for me-one of my favourites. Interesting that carrie’s reaction to big being engaged to Natasha (who she names ‘the stick insect with no soul’ (ouch and so wrong), she is furious that big didn’t want to marry HER. But foreshadowing what she does to Aiden! Breaking his heart…..again. Love these uploads x

[@flickerofdrama]

How are you so good at this 🤌💕 Keep these analysis coming and not just for SATC. Would love to see you talk about more shows and movies.

[@elipotter369]

I had a friend who said: "I'm so glad you like salad, like me". I was a bit confused, as all we ate was canned food when i stayed with her....i finally realised she thought canned tuna, beans and beetroot was "salad"! When i looked in her pantry, there was nothing at all except rows of these canned foods and one other - corn i think which was also "salad"

[@helenlamer8622]

Raaaan as soon as I saw this posted

[@xionxiv9293]

14:31 💯 Relateable 😂 I also feel exhausted just thinking about playing such games x.x Love your direct nature / way of communicatinh 😊 ❤ Git your channel recommended by chance yesterday (prob. Because I heard some reviews fo satc from another KZbin Serena Skybourne (?) ), now I am just bing watching your videos 😂 Fun fact: I've maybe watched 10 episodes of the show and I do lot even know if they were even from the same season.

[@Cherrylady-g6]

I don't really get why the carrie hate but im 26 and i get her but im 26... Anyways the reason I believe he didn't commit to her it's because he was a business men who knew the image he needed to uphold and also he wanted a woman who was more up in the social class dilemma. I honestly don't see him as the price, i dont think he was such a great guy... He just had money and was well stablish in society, especially on the New York elite society so i understand why she though he was the dream and i get her in that too but of we're realistic he was a douche and at the end of the day i think he was looking for something that made him feel secure. Carrie was unpredictable, fun, outgoing, a bit irresponsible but at the end of the day i think she was very much a sunshine type of girl like thw golden retriever girl and he wanted a black cat. And i honestly think that has to do with the way he perceives how a woman of society should behave. U don't think shes at fault and i don't think she was better either... He just didn't see her as a wife and theres nothing wrong with that, she doesn't stop being a wife type just because is bot his idea of a wife is nuts to think like that as women. They just wanted different things amd i honestly do like her despite being irritated with her a lot of times...

[@lorrilewis2178]

But then Big got the "black cat" and wasn't happy with it. He lured Carrie back in and even threatened at one point to out their affair to Aiden and Natasha.

[@prima-madalina]

It’s interesting that Carrie never mentions his backstory. If he grew up in a wealthy elite family, I think she would’ve mentioned that. He gives me social climber vibes.

[@Cherrylady-g6]

@@lorrilewis2178 yes but my point is that he got the woman he thought was part of the elite not necessarily that he likes her or not... In my opinion the girl he was engaged to seems to be something he also admires but I think he enjoys being seen with her rather than actually liking her for who she is, like the part where he acts annoyed because of the furniture... I think he's the problem but I also think he liked carrie, enjoyed the time with her but I don't think he saw her as wife material because of her carefree nature and that's not really an issue nor is her fault to not be what he thinks a wife should be...

[@Cherrylady-g6]

@@prima-madalina true but I don't think he ever displayed that to her. Her mom seems part of the elite so I think is mostly the habit of rich people to keep appearance rather than doing what you want because you enjoy it. To me Carrie represents that care free enjoyment and she doesn't really behave like part of the higher social circles he probably is used to. To me is not a her problem but a him and what he thinks he need to do instead of doing what he wants

[@lorrilewis2178]

@@prima-madalina We didn't get much of a backstory on any of the characters. However, the show made it obvious that Big came from old money when Carrie stalked him at his family church. His mother exuded old money.

[@chelscara]

6 minutes?? Best lunch timing ever ❤

[@insightsbyv]

Buon Apetit! 😁

[@krisztinasz4503]

I hope you will continue this analysis with Big and Natasha. :)

[@MariaA-x6g]

Omg finally you uploaded the next part! So excited ❤️ will make the rest of my Sunday 😊👌🏻

[@ericaclaraomena611]

I LOVE LOVE your analysis!! waiting part 6 already

[@margaritachemerys1819]

Love these recaps!!! Please keep them coming 💘💘💘 sending love form Ukraine

[@iamapieceofcandy]

I loveee these videos

[@insightsbyv]

Thank youu🤗

[@meliponaplays]

I always found it strange that he said he loses interest in women and then asks Carrie a deeply personal question about herself. Like, maybe the year of therapy was working? But Carrie totally looked past that to have her own "breakthrough"

[@tybrown7112]

I thought that too! I genuinely thought he would come back in the next episode but nope 😆

[@neuwebstudio]

Love this videos, keep em coming!

[@indiat.7242]

I’m so ready for you to get to her and Aiden I know it’s an unpopular opinion but I didn’t like their relationship at all and everyone swears she should’ve chosen him and never cheated ,of course she shouldn’t have cheated that was terrible but yeah I was not here for those two lol

[@ThatWeirdFinn]

Yeah, they really did not match!!! Aidan wanted to stay home and eat chicken, and Carrie wanted to go out every night. And Carrie is definitely not a dog-person. I would have died of anger if my boyfriend's dog would eat a pair of shoes that could not be replaced!! I was soooo angry at my own dog for doing it, so the BF dog would have needed to go (woth the bf haha). But after sooo many years I am quite sure I am just not a person who gets anything from dating. I wish media didn't force feed us women that we need to be with someone to be whole.

[@lorrilewis2178]

The relationship with Aiden was ridiculous. Their lifestyle preferences were a mismatch from the boisterous dog to the cabin in the woods. The writing was on the wall when Carrie wanted to go out, but Aiden wanted Carrie to rub his belly while he dozed off after eating fried chicken.

[@pluraliatantum3055]

For daring Bon Jovi she thought she stepped out if her pattern because he wasn't rich and she did not know about him anything. But she did not know her pattern was not rich man, but wrong man

[@RS-vo2wi]

i love this analysis

[@maenad1231]

If this was real life and he wasn’t a bad enough person to cheat he would of ended up with his younger wife not Carrie. I feel like irl men can’t change for a woman who doesn’t make him want to be better from the start but then their dream girl falls out of the sky and he starts changing all his worst habits at from the beginning of the relationship because now he finally wants to change. Seriously if you gotta convince a man to change for you it’s never gonna work, you’re just wasting your own time & energy I may or may not be the younger chick dream girl who fell out of the sky… (my husband was never a rake or player like mr big tho lol)

[@lorrilewis2178]

Well, Big cheated because he was bored with his younger dream girl. He made that clear when he complained about her to Carrie and lured Carrie back.

[@skromnyasha]

It's not a good sign when a person only changes for somebody else and not for themselves. That's just another layer of inner issues which will came up sooner or later. Seems like you put men on pedestal with this take, they use this "dream girl" just as much as the other not his dream girl. Why did he even start a relationship when he's dreaming or someone else? Maybe because he's a leech and delulu, and wanting someone younger is the red(est) flag there is

[@Some_guy_passing_by]

Irl majority of men cheat on their young wives . 😂 He totally would've done everything to keep that wife , but nowadays, the wife wouldn't put up with this . Any Gen Z girl of 22 wouldn't hesitate to divorce this shady arse dude .

[@shayla106]

@@lorrilewis2178He complained but he wasn’t willing to leave her. Also, he asked her to marry him, she didn’t force him like Carrie.

[@lorrilewis2178]

@@shayla106 Remember when he told Carrie he was going to tell Natasha about the affair and Carrie stopped him when he picked up the phone?

[@furlycee]

Bruh she just had to wait 1 month for that guy from AA to be able to date her. She could have respected him enough to wait a month. But she’s an awful person and wants the validation now. She’s honestly the worst person.

[@canopusstar5157]

I really didn’t have TV when this was on but I find the commentary fascinating. As someone who was on the ‘cutting edge’ of both the sexual revolution and the ‘2nd Wave’ feminist movement. I think this is all very helpful for younger women exposed to the old ‘romance’ myths…I’m guilty of it but I wrote 2 historical romances made to my own tastes….but at this end of my life I wish I had more encouragement to live as a single from a yoiung age…I went through things that probably would not have happened if not for ‘love & marriage’ To my credit I did live independently in many ways and now I am quite the Solitary, living happily far away from cities with my cat and dogs.

[@ShaneeKrichely]

This is so frustrating bc on the outside it’s so easy to see Carrie’s flaws but it’s so clear how much she doesn’t see them. And I know she doesn’t change so 😭😭 I don’t think I’m gonna finish this show. But I love your analysis

[@milanoonthemove]

are you a therapist or psychology major V?! Your insights are so spot on 😮

[@sunshine8z]

I wish she were my therapist

[@europeannighean]

29:27 Look, I love eating salad, that my mom calls me a Rabbit 😅 it's a joke between us. But if I'm in restaurant for lunch, I'm ordering a hamburger with fries, or waffles with cream or a vegetarian pizza. But if I feel like having salad, I would order it with chicken. Sometimes I would crave for a chocolate cake slice with a cup of tea. If I want a plain salad, I could have it at home, and even have it with bread, converting it into a salad sandwiches.

[@Stillpril]

Once Carrie gets what she wants she doesn't want it anymore...

[@maojen__]

Wow that was so insightful. Thank you!

[@TKZells16]

For me, salads are home food. Its not food you pay for at a restaurant, or at least that i find worth going out for

[@chanellemartin5463]

curious to know who you think carrie should’ve ended up with?

[@lanaalba8392]

That ending got me 😂😂😂

[@waggawaggaful]

He may be willing to commit, but the much younger woman will not. She might think she wants to commit at first, but nothing is steady at that age. And because women have so many more options than men, it just exponentially increases the chances she’ll move onto something better.

[@stephysteph8558]

It's so much worse than that 😐

[@emmafoster6434]

Yes another one. So excited XD

[@seemu2927]

The no committment guy just doesn’t like you enough. If he’s too busy or too scared watch till he finds someone who looks like a model or acts like poon star he’s commit straight away. Move on girls. They’re on value because you place value on them

[@rachael8078]

I hate when women say men are scared. Men aren’t scared, they just don’t like you or want to deal with you and that’s ok, they might be a hot mess and have nothing to do w you or it could. The meeting of two compatible, attractive to each other, similar values and dreams is really rare to find so people should be easier on themselves.

[@thehapagirl92]

Exactly he doesn’t like Carrie and only married her because she had stuck around long enough and he threw her a bone

[@sunnypie2]

Bon Jovi looks so young

[@timaf4458]

I think it's a great analysis, but I want to add something. Carrie seeks validation because she is insecure, and after years of being with Big or chasing him, it's understandable that she's insecure. Her relationship amounted to emotional abuse, it is normal for her to be worn down, especially since she met Big when she was less experienced. I don't like to way so many of these channels are holier than thou. I do say this as someone who relates to Carrie to a certain degree, but I've had therapy and I was abused in the past by both family and partners. I refuse to compare women are abused and who have no foundation of identity due to society and their backgrounds, to women who always grew up with love and understanding and who have the capability to be secure.

[@revenge0lobster]

I appreciate this comment. I love SATC commentary, but I think the best takes are more about exploring WHY these people act as they do, and make those choices, rather than simply shaking our finger at them for doing so. I think this show (whether it intended to be or not) is an unparalleled period piece - even though it isn’t an “old”show! There is so much to learn about these women, their male foils, even the side characters, and the tone of society and expectations in the early 2000s in one of the most lively, cosmopolitan cities in the world. Maybe I sound crazy, but this is 1 of 2 tv shows ever that I rewatch and revisit and return. The other is Mad Men. For what was marketed as a girly caper of a tv drama, this show is dense and very thought-provoking.

[@byttercandy]

Girl the salad rant is SO real 😂

[@meloderieugif2294]

We all know in real life Big would never marry Carrie or any women under 25

[@camilafuturo]

Big didn't commit to Natasha. Yes, he married her but cheated almost immediately. Their marriage started to fall apart very quickly as shown in the scene in the furniture show when he runs into Carrie and Aidan. It's was morning and he was already drunk and angry. He married Natasha for social status. Natasha was a young socialite and made him look better and that was what really did it for him. I'm not saying he returned to Carrie out of love either. He didn't loved her too, but he was attracted to her and knew he could manipulate her. I'm also surprise everyone praises Natasha behaviour so much, she initially turned a blind eye on the affair. She said that herself while chasing Carrie down the stairs. Only when the humiliation becomes to big (no pun intended) she leaves. The silver line for Natasha is that she does move on which is something Carrie is unable to do due to lack of self esteem. In later seasons Big falls for actress/model pretty hard and chases her endlessly. Which to me is another prove that Big obsessed over women who increased his status, not love. He was also looking for validation.

[@Black-eyedSue]

Calm down. “Take chocolate.” I’m stealing that. She’s awesome & needs to move in here to guide and scold me

[@smauilein]

The thing is....EVERY SINGLE ONE came crawling back....BUT I wasn't the same ;oD

[@ThatWeirdFinn]

Eating salad is great during the summer! But yeah, more substance is needed. I think Carrie is just such a sex columnist that SEX cannot be the issue in a relationship. Anything else is ok, but sex is non-negotiable.

[@MaximumDull]

Salads are great if you know how to make them. Restaurant salads are below minimum effort to appear accommodating. You can have seeds, and a whole array of precooked/dried things to add along with other forms of protein and a variety of vegetables. I think meat centric culture has made salad look like pathetic leaves on purpose to seem like a less viable option.

[@MeghanBean]

I think it’s weird you think girls trips are only for 20-somethings… also some of us just like salads lol

[@Sombercat]

Yeah and they can come with chicken with is very filling ! I eat mine with a ton of ranch so def not just cause it’s healthy lol

[@evaleemarien]

But Big was not committed to Natasha

[@jademcl4727]

Ik people rag on Carrie for her goofy outfits, but I actually really like the allover place cowgirl outfit ❤

[@rebeccamccormack1075]

I eat salads for lunch lol I love salad

[@MichelleMyBelle33]

A Lightning bug

[@rachael8078]

Well men love when women need their help. So is it a game or flirtation? Asking him to open the jar and me saying he’s the best and strongest man ever is not a game. I want him to feel good and I like when he helps me 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@sierram5458]

You look a bit like Courtney Lapresi from Masterchef 😊

[@blueeyedk8025]

sorry I know this is random but you are completely beautiful! are you french? or italian?

[@andreahaslinger82]

hahahahahahahahaha... you're absolutely right with this salad-thing... Their meal looks like the food for a rabbit or a hamster... 🤣 it doesn't look even delicious, but this chicks pay a big prize for it - I'm sure... and no they won't get fed up from this leaves, so they have to consume their missing amount of calories in alcoholic form 🥴

[@morganalefay5454]

❤

[@carollipton4584]

This commentator takes 4 1/2 sentences and sentence fragments to say what could have been said in 1 sentence.

[@insightsbyv]

Ahahha I do like to talk, yes, admittedly 🤣

[@amysworld5521]

U r abnoixous u always bash carry very pick me

[@ciciolhaaqui]

Your opinion is often very biased and based on your own experience, which means sometimes you say things I’m shocking to hear coming from a seemingly informed/educated woman. You can have sexual chemistry with someone you don’t have a lot of in common with, the fact you haven’t experienced it, shouldn’t mean you’re demeaning those who have. Also some points would hit home better if you weren’t so condescending and self important.

[@insightsbyv]

Sure, Cici, I'm not sure where I said that, though. Was I referring to myself? Talking about not being intimate just because of the looks..? That would sound like me, yes. And yes, my opinions are biased.. very difficult to have an unbiased opinion, don't you think? Maybe this is just not the right content for you? Thank you for the time you gave it though. It's very appreciated, and I truly hope it wasn't all that bad. It would be a shame all this time wasted.. I hope I don't come off as rude, I'm sure that wasn't your intention also.

[@Avoranation]

She didn't say not having stuff in common with... the question is, if you can't get along just talking, if there's no chemistry while hanging out, how did you get to the point of f*king? You're talking about stuff in common and a kind of friendship, where you're right, you don't need to be friends or have stuff in common to have good sex, but how did you get to having sex with a dry boring no chemistry meeting? That doesn't make much sense! Also, suggesting she's uneducated because you feel attacked is a little too on the nose. Passive aggressive comments like that are totally unnecessary to convey your point of view.

[@bojanab409]

You are taking this too seriously, it's just a show it's not meant to be analyzed to that extent and detail.

[@BeckyEllis-vd8on]

No no no this is what we want 🎉

[@sohviirah7166]

Then why are you watching? Many people enjoy these deep dives

[@bojanab409]

I thought it would be interesting that is why I was watching, but this is pointless. I also think she is a bad character, but at the end of the day it is just a show, it's meant to entertain, these points she makes are so out of proportion and nitpicky

[@meluvgiraffes]

Yeah, nah, take it from someone with two and a half media and communications degrees that you’re not taking it seriously enough

[@Sunflower_wer]

Thank you for a videos!!! I really love them🤍🤍🤍

[@matchaleche]

OMG you uploaded this video so fast 🩷🫶🏼 I'm bleaching my teeth now, best timing, gonna get that 20 something's shine 😂

[@insightsbyv]

ahahahah love it 🤣

[@angelapalmieri3883]

The word.....DESERVE... is soooo cringe for me.. truly one of my most hated American word... I agree 💯 about the ego and pride keeping me in a situation 🙏.. growing up is hard to do Bella...64 still learning ... People that play games are UNGROUNDED.. UNSTABLE and NEED to play the games for the EGO..💚🤍❤️👠💯

[@IconVlog.]

I didn’t know til right now that your name was Mary so is mine 🫶🏾

[@insightsbyv]

Hei Mary! Aii, sorry for the confusion, my name is Vesna (you can call me V it's easier),... I just like saying Mary 🤭