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[@lonniedobbins1195]

What's really illiterate is the fact that *We as black people didn't adhere to those roles in our home in the past.* So why are people trying to do it now? What Fantasia is saying is *Women Wants To Be The Head!* Women that wants to order her man around how she thinks men do to women. *The Problem?* *That Man Didn't Treat Her That Way!* I always saw my wife/girlfriend as an equal! It didn't matter who cooked as long as food was cooked. Who Washed The Clothes, Emptied the garbage and other stupid shit. *I didn't want to be with a woman that didn't want to work/Go to school/have hobbies/ help make important decisions.* The women in my life all cheated, Two Wanted Me To Do Whatever They Wanted, Others Was Asking For Money, Expensive Gifts, Bills Paid, (watching Ghetto Bewitched and the sister complains her boyfriend of three weeks refuse to pay a $600 light bill)(Actually What I Encountered From Women And I Just Met Them)(One Said She Didn't Have Rent Money Five Minutes After Meeting Her. Another told me of how she was having difficulty paying her bills within minutes of meeting.) Rampant! *Black Women Have The Wrong Idea Of What Marriage And Living With THE RIGHT MAN.* They grab thuglife off the streets because they have no place of their own and they can terrorize them with being kicked out. *I've Been In That Situation Too!* Some thought I would come back. I don't play with the lives of people like that. *I Most definitely don't find it a game or a bargaining chip to win an argument either.* What happens when men move in with those on a power trip. *THE HEAD OR WHO'S IN CONTROL OR SUBMISSIVE NEVER SHOULD BE A SUBJECT with the one you love and loves you*. Black women allowed themselves to be brainwashed by THE LIST. *The list created of what they expect from and How The Man They Wants Looks.* According to this list they want *A Rich White Man*. I made $60,000/year and Black Women wouldn't even speak because they thought I was a janitor. *I Refused To Buy The Latest And Dress To Impress After So Many Asking For Money Upon Meeting*. What black women looked for before they decided to talk to a guy. If he had expensive clothes on, the latest tech, Flashing Cash, Bling! I said *An Intelligent Woman Will Know Economic Security And A Man That's Likely To Be Dedicated To His Family And Not The Streets.* PSYCH! They called me gay and fag for having my own apartment, Flowers, Washing Machine(didn't know having one as a man was GAY till then.), and everything else. The thugs reinforced the gay slurs to keep the women from choosing working black men. All Black men with jobs and wasn't thuglife was gay. The *REAL MAN* campaign. Told black women that the thugs in the Streets are the REAL MEN because they're Violent And Ready To Fight Everybody! *Those are the men you took into your homes that Wants To Control Everything In The House,* and as you said, SHE'S THE BREAD WINNER, while he's the Housebitch babysitter!

[@blackberry4life482]

@@lonniedobbins1195 I agree with a lot you say. I've been married for 26 years and those rolls don't always play out that way. Peoole gotta do what they gotta do. We just believe in working as a team. What's important is taking care of the foundation and making life work for you and your family with someone that has the same goals in mind.

[@crissoa]

@@lonniedobbins1195 you must be looking in the wrong places. Also, I don't think most women are looking for ball players. They just want someone who can provide the basics. 60k is more than enough.

[@shellbeeforreal3915]

I see what youre saying about the pro black male dating someone not black. The point about the options they have resonates. I say that because I am a pro black woman but im getting married outside my race. I think I ended up with who Im with because I grew up in a very colourist country filled with self hating men that projected their hatred onto me. Hispanic and mixed race men were often the ones who showed most interest in me and respected me. Black men always treated me like the bottom of the barrel. Now that its a trend to have a black woman or to be black ive seen them show interest in me. But its too late for them. I found the love of my life adn he's hispanic and Iranian. Love black men though because my father was a pretty wonderful dad and still is.

[@TLJones-bq7wk]

We gotta get to the root of the issues. Let's start with the expectations of black girls compared to black boys. My mom must have told me and my sis 1000 times "a man dont want no nasty woman" as she was drilling in our heads the importance of keeping a clean home. Meanwhile, my mom and dad (divorced) never said shit to my brother about being a husband. Me and my sis were RAISED to be wives. And my brother was raised to be a good person, self sufficient and stay out of trouble (jail), but my brother was not groomed for husbandhood specifically.

[@creamsoda444]

The thing is a lot of young men(who want a traditional woman) don’t understand is that to get a traditional woman you have to be a traditional man. You can’t expect a woman to cook, clean, take care of the kids AND pay the bills. What are YOU doing? I grow up in a traditional household, my mom made dinner every night and raised the kids and my dad has a 9 to 5 and made sure there was food on the table. Understand the balance. I think a lot of young men just want a mother/caretaker they can have sex with, they don’t actually want to be adults.

[@Wildtingz]

This!!!! Sweet baby Jesus THIIISSS!! What are YOU doing my dude?!

[@ICreateThoughts]

I totally agree.

[@yespls4184]

So true.

[@feelingthinking]

I see no lies

[@baianabd7042]

Coffee AtMidnight a freakin mennn

[@mara_veena]

If I have to compete with another female to get a man’s attention, I dont want it or him.

[@disabledbabe]

@THEwhimsical1 Not if you meet the right person. Love is not a competition.

[@SleepingGiantAfrica]

@THEwhimsical1 Loool, I was thinking the exact same thing

[@yvvngmlaba]

Quxxn M speak on it, love ❤️

[@dmoney9285]

Quxxn M ... You wouldn’t be a very good Muslim then 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@mxchic05]

@@disabledbabe Facts!

[@mermaidtingzzz]

Submit and pay the bills? Sounds like being used lol.

[@19Hollisterchick90]

Sounds like new slave play

[@KiaRoane]

The Little Blerdmaid facts!!!

[@brianabellissima1264]

I can’t with her, she’s a certified bird brain. She will never learn

[@omozeidehenre239]

Did Fantasia say she pays all the bills in the interview?

[@em.415]

Omoze Idehenre She didn’t have to.

[@Laroc1982]

I was freed the day I realized the “perfect women” get cheated on too. Every day. It doesn’t matter what you do. I was free from that moment forward.

[@Kk-fj5tn]

The day Lemonade dropped!!!

[@GameChanger-xi4iy]

So does the perfect man. Guess what Humans are flawed wow shocker.

[@voxomnes9537]

@@GameChanger-xi4iy What an asinine comment.

[@misst7923]

"a feminist in the streets and pick me in the sheets" BAAAARS 😂😂

[@deaunafoster1214]

I never understood why there had to be a leader in a relationship. Why can’t two people who love each other collaborate within their relationship?

[@ellcally508]

Exactly!

[@kayklue3937]

Cause we’re just creatures like everything else on this earth and there’s always an alpha in nature the one thing we get wrong is pushing the idea that the male is ALWAYS the alpha and that’s not always the case in nature

[@TishaPisha]

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!! My EXACT words to this guy I was talking to... talking about "power struggle". The person coming in, beating their chest, demanding that you submit, demanding that they be the leader, demanding that they make the final decision is the person creating the power struggle. If I'm working and paying these bills, treat me as an equal partner, PERIOD! We create the terms for our relationship.

[@TheKoyn]

This

[@gotnojams3679]

@@kayklue3937 but what is there to submit to ? When you're in a relationship you contribute as much as you can. exemple if you are the bread winner than I get the other person trying to contribute at home to me sounds like common sense. But What do people mean with women should submit, Like should I come home from work and than be his personal house maid?! I'm more so confused 😂

[@drroaf]

To me, the true sign of HAPPINESS and CONVICTION in your choices is to NOT impose your choices onto anyone else.

[@MrsIslanddiva]

Best comment ever

[@morena1484]

🙌🏾

[@MarianDrayton]

Passing the offering plate to ya sis! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@angelofscorpio]

Yesss, love this comment 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💕

[@drroaf]

@@MarianDrayton Thank you!! I RECEIVE it!

[@lexis.6075]

I don’t think we should shame women that prefer to live in a traditional marriage and relationship, but those same women need to STOP shaming women that don’t want to live a traditional marriage or relationship. Don’t shame us and we won’t shame you.

[@oliviatheresa]

Yessss!!!!! 💯

[@jsspald]

And honestly I didn't know the judgement was so real. On both sides.🤷🏾‍♀️

[@kushinaa1XD]

Exactly 👏👏👏

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

Nobody is shaming not being a non-traditional woman, just don’t get mad at the man for not being the head of the household.

[@PanamaPanama-su2ps]

Peace Lexi Queen👸🏾, I agree🙋🏽‍♀️💜, and will ALWAYS agree.. Facts 4life❣❣❣❣👏🏽👏🏽✌🏽💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯Have a stupendous day.

[@mckeewardiv6307]

If you want a do right woman you gotta be a do right man. -Aretha Franklin

[@AslanNotYoshi]

Thank you!

[@Alunaevergreen]

🙏

[@m.williams3497]

That’s my song!

[@KTRN52]

It would be easier to lean into the patriarchy if I get the house, the car, the bills paid - because that what headship implies - but when women want that from headship we're called gold diggers.

[@kayklue3937]

Katrina no babe just tell them it’s called hypergamy

[@KTRN52]

@@kayklue3937 😆! but what if I can afford all those things on my own already? It's only hypergamy if he out banks me. I'm just saying - if you want the title so badly, do what's expected of you. Sweep me off my damn feet Prince Charming. Do you know how nice I'd be if I got to keep my own money while being maintained by a "head of house"??? Tuh!

[@iamlaurengill]

*Black women

[@iamlaurengill]

Yellow Kello for the umpteenth time, hypergamy is marrying into a higher social class. Your man can still pay all the bills and you still be in the same financial position and social class

[@jessicab331]

Yellow Kello y’all so pressed to use that term... they just consider that gold digging too!🤷🏾‍♀️

[@neisha92j]

I am SO in love w the wave of conversation happening right now in terms of black women, love, partnering, and beauty. KEEP TALKIN YO' SHIT KIM, YESS!

[@LoveMatters4eva]

True

[@bd10232003]

So true! We been down for so long I’m so happy we’re having this conversation.

[@angelofscorpio]

Yesss, so true!

[@cynthiahoward2285]

Yes!!!

[@Kaylagregg2076]

I really don’t know how people who can’t see don’t wear contacts or glasses 😂😂😂 y’all just be living any type of way

[@TahtahmesDiary]

Yeah well, try having your twin toddlers break your glasses and not be able to afford the replacement. It really sucks, but like she said you get used to not seeing!

[@hentbust4204]

I lost mine a year ago 😂 i need mine asap im so blind

[@hentbust4204]

bertasu Strange. Being without glasses makes it harder for me to hear lol

[@biancalord488]

I can’t see well enough to drive without mine

[@elixalithemango]

First of all let go of my blouse and secondly my glasses is fine being worn by my dressing table.

[@Artbunny87]

And people dont accept that some people Dont want to be in relationships. My mother in-law said it took her years and two failed marriages to figure out that she doesn't want anyone in her house. And she's a very successful retired lawyer. But she has a social life and life long friends. She said she’s free.

[@Sassysunset]

😩😩-- Listen Ain’t nothing like when you figure out what it is you want in every area in ur life!! Shout out to her!!👏🏾👏🏾

[@nbucwa6621]

Same w my older sister. She is 50 this year but I'm glad she finally for to a place where she realised it's okay to not want what society expects you to want.

[@1infoful]

Nuggets of wisdom that only come from truly knowing yourself

[@KenzieLorenz]

Don’t look to me to pay any bills if you are the head of the household.

[@wendyguity4168]

Amen

[@marthadivine8426]

A thousand times yes!👏👏👏

[@AnikaDavidson]

Riiiiiight!!!!!

[@JNYC212]

First of all, if you're taking the word submission like it 10 BCE yeah but it 2019. I'm dont think she meant to be a ding dong in your relationship I think she's trying to say let there be a head and follow where need be instead of conflict. I think sometimes us women just like men can get in our own way. Its not that serious. My father was the head of the household but he let my mom take total control when it came to our religion and it didnt make him look weak. As a man he lead but he also knew where he wasn't the most effective and let my mom come in and she was a submissive wife. I dont think it works for everyone but what she said isn't bad, I mean really you have Cardi B having her ass grabbed by her HUSBAND in public but we mad at a word. Somethings a little off here. To each is own and best of luck to folks looking for their better half!

[@aleka..]

@@JNYC212 "instead of conflict" attitude, sorry, is no different than 10BCE, no matter how you try to frame it here. If there's a need for conflict - and humans, being all different, must have conflicting needs/wishes sometimes - that conflict should happen, so it gets to be resolved. Being creative with solutions satisfying for both sides, or compromise. What you suggest as fine is one person's needs not being taken into consideration - which is a path to being in unsatisfying relationship and towards feelings of resentment. Don't get me wrong, one can go through life ~happy if they had little tension (due to not overlapping interests) and/or submissive side was taught to be happy with little area they got to be in charge of. But world knows better way of being partners in 2019, on the basis of humanist values, equality and cooperation, etc, no hierarchies.

[@jusletursoulglobaby]

y'all out here playing traditional marriage cosplay 🤣😂☠☠

[@Valentinathevamp]

Soul Glow 🤣

[@alanmac36]

Soul Glow Yes lolll that sent me😂😂, being in the military I saw this alllllll the time

[@RayRay-yt1ly]

🤣😂🤣

[@candaceking1]

Screamingggggggggggg

[@ArcaneThingOfBeauty]

Girl!!💀💀💀💀💀

[@itsallaboutperspective3183]

Women.having standards makes all the difference.

[@smilergal89]

Okkkurrrrrrrr, if you have nothing else baby.

[@sequoia4631]

Yep and boundaries, self respect, clear vision, independence and willingness for interdependence are important too.

[@nuggetsnicole4851]

Kanye Sunday services make me uncomfortable too. A lil to close to worshiping Kanye. Im just waiting for the cult shoe to drop....

[@lashaeleaf8842]

Stephanie Collins exactly!!

[@lrs1519]

I haven’t listened to any of those videos for the year that he’s been doing it. I think it’s bc of what you mentioned. If people are finding the value in it, bless them. It’s just weird for me.

[@amberlimbaugh]

Stephanie Collins Yes. A little too Jim Jones for me. 😬

[@Zikomo7]

I listened to 10 minutes of it. In a nutshell: “who go harder than ‘Ye? GOD!” And then some basic facts like the sky being blue. Then just gibberish

[@TititoDeBologay]

He's consistent with his shenanigans. Remember the "I'm a God" lyrics/ explanation. Kanye has been through his lyrics,acts very consistent with himself. Some of us are to busy worshipping his media persona to realise that.

[@tab0108]

I've been happily married 7 years. We don't follow traditional gender roles at all and consider each other to be equals. We lead where we are the strongest. It's that simple. I fall back on things I'm not familiar with and he does the same.

[@CaribbeanQueen6922]

And that my dear is called submission. Contrary to what people think it is a dual contract in a marriage. Women don't just submit to men, the man must also submit to the women. You trust each other to lead/follow in each others strengths and weaknesses. That is the secret to a successful marriage and it appears that you have found it.

[@tab0108]

@@CaribbeanQueen6922 no it's not. It's a partnership. A union. Submission is "the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person."

[@taimusic8874]

teeahrahahnet um 😐 yes that’s submission. You said you yield or step to the side when you don’t know something aka you don’t have the authority to move forward cuz you don’t know about the subject and he does the same. Yes that’s literally submission hence the or in the definition doesn’t always have to be force. All submission is , is when you don’t know what you doing you step to the side and let the person who does lead. Instead of being proud or crazy and risking it

[@tab0108]

@@taimusic8874 don't have the knowledge or education to move forward not authority. Save y'all gender roles and definitions for your relationships. Not mine.

[@taimusic8874]

teeahrahahnet you get authority when you know the topic. For instance my parents have been married 30 years if there is a sound in the middle of the night clearly my dad will be the main character stepping up in the role of the protector. Fast forward to tax time numbers aren’t his thing , while my mom is good at numbers so she’s the leader when it comes to taxes. How is that wrong? Your first comment literally said just that y’all switch roles based on familiarity with the topic. If I have 8 years of schooling within a certain topic I’m an authority of that topic.

[@Mpz3cat]

I’m just so tired of people telling women what to do.

[@Melly16yr10]

Over it to 😡

[@AlwaysAmTired]

This reminds me of the video about beauty. Women are always being told they need to fit so many societal standards to deserve love, companionship, and acceptance.

[@wendyguity4168]

So unfortunate.

[@bauthentic333]

Big facts!!!

[@lorettaknoelk3475]

Yes!!! Needing to be natural. How dare u wear weave. How dare we want to workout, dress up, wear make-up or get surgery without men in mind

[@tintswalom2134]

Especially black women

[@Babyluv_]

You look beautiful with glasses.

[@carmenadams575]

Ms. Richard I’m saying!😏

[@MsLaRue]

Agreed

[@wokewooxia7688]

Lies!

[@shanzoni1200]

Submission is okay, but it's not only the woman submitting to the husband, husbands are supposed to submit to their wives as well. It's supposed to be a collaborative process

[@AhhhsoNeo]

Shanz Oni funny how people always miss the second part.

[@AslanNotYoshi]

Finally someone said it lol

[@brooklyndecember]

They separated and got back together. I wonder what went wrong there. Also, after 5 years of marriage they don't have any kids together. And she's the bread winner. My point is, so little about their union is traditional yet they're out here talking crazy. This is "traditional marriage cosplay".

[@kushinaa1XD]

Thank you. 👏👏👏 It needs to be both ways to be an successful relationship.

Verde Lane omg yes

[@yazmina84]

I'm tired of hearing advocates for traditional relationships putting down women who don't have relationships and/or making judgments about feminism. It's unnecessary. Also, as a feminist who is married and raising three children, I want to mention that many of us are married and some of us actually have egalitarian partnerships that actually work! Stop spreading that lie too.

[@19Hollisterchick90]

I'll add that many of the women who are putting down feminists and women who don't desire traditionalism aren't married themselves. They're telling women who didn't have to do xyz for their husbands that that's the only way to get wed.

[@em.415]

Traditional marriage is actually arranged marriage, child marriage, slavery and polygamy lol. But they like to cherry pick.

[@iamlaurengill]

Come on facts!

[@baianabd7042]

Girl this!!!

[@TrevonFoxxx]

No lies detected whatsoever

[@kevinc3342]

Traditional marriage in Western culture is (women) marrying young, but at legal adult age, and with the blessing, guidance, and approval of parents and/or highly-trusted family members. It's not about underage marriage. All that other stuff is (e.g. - child marriage, modern-day slavery/trafficking, polygamy, etc.) is part of other cultures APART from Western-style marriage.

[@deej5608]

TELL IT

[@fatflirtyandthriving]

Also, I agree that this idea of "getting a man" and "keeping him" is such a lame thing to invest in as a Woman. We NEED independence as much as we have dependence. There is no such thing as lifting up because I agree both sides need to lift each other, equally. Traditional mindsets about relationships are the blueprint and foundation of Patriarchy

[@nikki7287]

This! Exactly what I think as well.

[@Laroc1982]

It’s such a low-level pursuit. Every woman I’ve ever known like this is lame in every other area of her life. She’s boring, lacks ambition, seems to lack intelligence, etc. A good man is a blessing, but he is not the sole purpose for our existence.

[@shadekiful]

U said nothing but a word! Yes! A very poor investment.

[@fofotheclown1051]

@@Laroc1982 EX👏🏾ACT👏🏾LY👏🏾 !!! When I say this people think I’m being “mean” or “not respecting other women’s (so-called) goals” No I’m speaking a brutally honest TRUTH and y’all are in ya feelings 💯

[@strawberryloli]

lmao at your inability to contain the shade-- I'm the exact same way! 😂😂😂

[@Zikomo7]

Women like Fantasia are at war with themselves. They’re happy to have a man but deep down they know they didn’t want to be the breadwinner.

[@raen1384]

How do you know she is the breadwinner? What is the definition of a breadwinner?

[@brooklyndecember]

Well said.

[@jazrerunt6868]

Rae N Agreed. Furthermore, she is Fantasia! She’s not a regular woman. If she said “my man has to be the breadwinner” it’d be like me saying “I only date me 8ft and taller”. HOW MANY GOOD MEN WOULD SHE PASS UP IF SHE DEMANDED HER MAN MAKE MORE THAN HER??

[@Zikomo7]

@@jazrerunt6868 No one cares about Fantasia's standards, or lack thereof. It's about her preaching the same tired "women need to submit" without acknowledging that there's nothing to "submit" to

[@AmaLoveGoddessTV]

@@Zikomo7 right

[@WilliamsPinch]

I had a black woman optometrist and she dragged me for sleeping in my contacts and threatened to change my script 😓

[@olayinkaidowu9492]

kyra williams not that she dragged you. Dang that’s not cool but it’s very dangerous to do it.

[@digthewarmth]

You deserved a talking to, that's really dangerous and can damage your sight more. The most extreme case I've heard is a girl wore her contacts without changing them for months, and an amoeba grew in her eye and ate away at her eye. The normal case though is just that your subscription gets more severe when you sleep in them often.

[@WilliamsPinch]

digthewarmth I didn’t say it wasn’t in my best interest lol, but she dragged me just like a black mom would.

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

Damn 🤦🏾‍♀️it is dangerous, but why drag you

[@Ilikefrogs..]

She sounds hilarious 😂

[@Dop3ritrean]

I've worn glasses since I was 15 and yes, being able to see clearly is life altering! It's like seeing in the world in HD or 4K! 😁

[@alibear1895]

Thisss!!

[@kushinaa1XD]

Lol same

[@acopeland8248]

😂😂

[@aliahc8595]

I've had them since 1rst or 2nd grade.... I don't even remember what the feeling was like to not have glasses 😅

[@sabrinajohn6023]

I guess Fantansia didnt learn anything from Mary J. Blige, Wendy Williams, and other women with a lot of money who married down. He'll be spending her money on his other women

[@raen1384]

I believe she has a prenup...and he asked her to get a prenup.

[@poelomokgotho8127]

But his incharge of the finances pre nup or not. And the fact that she didn’t think about it sounds insane

[@monimuppet6132]

That's a good point: If you're attempting to make yourself desirable to a man, the man that "picks you" isn't necessarily someone you're compatible with. My father always told me that like attracts like, the opposites thing is just surface level stuff. You'll attract whatever you are, so if you're not being yourself then...yeah. I'd rather be me and remain single forever than change just to have someone that I eventually will despise, along with myself.

[@ayana188]

You don't always attract what you are...I had to get that theory out of mind....ppl attract ppl for all kinda reasons.

[@joyleath07]

Gospel

[@Tima-oz5te]

That's some good advice, also reminds me of when Kim said "I'm not trying to be everybody's preference "

[@eurekamreum5458]

This is so so so true, thtat's why we should always take the time and effort to know ourselves first!

[@Me-tb8rs]

I’m not paying half. Dam sure not paying half and submitting.

[@mermaidtingzzz]

🤣🤣🤣 the way I heard this in my head is A1.

[@TheJayWay]

FACTS!

[@naledis8384]

Sha da da da dah

[@quetta1182]

I agree. My daddy paid all the bills. Not going to submit to no one who's looking for a roommate or a concubine with financial assistance.

[@biggmack1449]

Best comment 😂😂

[@MadeleineSwannSurreal]

"Let your man lead the way?" Haha no, we're a team. Also I was so blind when I first got glasses I genuinely had a panic attack when I saw the real world

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

Madeleine Swann “Let your man lead the way” is exactly what it means to be a team. He’s the head and she’s the neck.

[@jerrilynpapilon9611]

If a man wants something to submit to him he should get a dog.

[@aishiac7371]

🤔🤔 I never had a black woman optometrist.. Why did I just get jealous???

[@backlashtoignorance7371]

I had one also moved away and man I liked having her as my eye doctor!

[@brooklyndecember]

I have one! All my docs are black women except my dentist.

[@jasminehill6312]

I have a Black woman optometrist!!!

[@brooklyndecember]

@@Wowyana Or Northeast.

[@5pctLowBattery]

Verde Lane what city ?

[@greatgownsbeautifulgowns]

Fantasia also said in that interview that she was about to marry him AND NOT SIGN A PRENUP--and that it was actually HIM that said he would sign a prenup! Never take advice from somebody like that who has worked so hard for half their lives to get where they are, gets into a relationship and marries somebody AFTER KNOWING THEM FOR THREE WEEKS(she said that in the interview too),AND THEN has to be talked into signing a prenup by said significant other instead of coming up with that idea on their own!

[@iguessitsokyungrichbaby2813]

he’s a decent person who definitely has heart eyes for her too since he came up with the idea of a prenup. Three weeks ? That’s not long enough to start sharing bank account information

[@zigowl1193]

He is a reasonably person thankfully. Golddigger (they come in male too) would have just been "get us to the church".

[@wendyguity4168]

What does she know? She can't read. Jk, jk jk. To each their own.

[@Anne_p]

@@wendyguity4168guity she can read. that was years ago when she was poor. she has since gotten tutors. there are tons of people who were in her predicament and not woman or man enough to admit it or seek help.

[@wendyguity4168]

@@Anne_p, do you know that jk means just kidding? Wait, let me fix that. Let me tell you what jk means. It means just kidding. Try to smile this weekend.

[@lilyzemengist8091]

I don't understand why men and women can't just work, pay the Bill's, raise children, and follow their passions EQUALLY and TOGETHER. YES, it is ABSOLUTELY difficult to accomplish those things and perhaps it is not practical for people in certain financial situation. However, we can try and continue to strive for that. I don't ununderstand why when we live on our own as women/men we cook, clean, and pay the bills BUT as soon as we enter a relationship/marriage we give up doing life that way. It doesn't make any logical sense.

[@dayd6383]

There is nothing wrong with being equal in a relationship. There is also nothing wrong with the woman submitting and the man being the head either. The problem is some of these men want submission and don't have submission money.

[@lilyzemengist8091]

@@dayd6383 Why isn't there anything wrong with a women submitting? Historically, when has submission benefited women when we are the ones submitting? I would argue that the concept of submission or being/acting subordinate in any relationship setting/space is devaluing and dehumanizing.

[@dayd6383]

@@lilyzemengist8091 Historically, submission wasn't women's problem. Being denied to go to school because it was believed that we are unintelligent among other things were the problem. Nothing is wrong with it because some women dont mind letting their man take care of the financial aspect while they be the housewife. Submission by itself is not negative or positive. It all depends on the perception of what submission means to each person which will determine if it's negative or positive.

[@dayd6383]

@@lilyzemengist8091 Based on your response you probably think submission means you are not respected and pushed around by your man. So the real question is why do you have a negative perception on a woman submitting to her man or letting her man lead? Especially since it's a choice now unlike in the past.

[@nadjak3410]

@@dayd6383 I think submission in the traditional sense automatically comes with financial dependency and that has never benefited any woman - especially during times, when the men could technically divorce and keep the children if he wished or abandon them along with their mother. Today, this dependency is not as strong anymore, but the financial aspect is huge.

[@cotinaspann9475]

I have never and will never take relationship advice from someone just because they are celebrities. You relationship is yours and yours alone. What works for some doesn't work for all. So always keep communication open with your partner and work out what is good for you both.

[@mara_veena]

Not everyone follows the Bible anyways lol...

[@brianabellissima1264]

She’s a bird 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@a.d.w8385]

Those who bring up the bible dont even 100% follow it. They puck and choose that's why Christians have the stereotype of being hypocrites.

[@dmoney9285]

Quxxn M ... The bible don’t even slap like that

[@TwiFiveGirls101]

Omg. You look so much like my sister. I thought you were her.

[@danyahellandreas2384]

@Nova Starr That is a bold faced lie... Blatant Idiot. Old Testament was old covenant law unto the Israelites that followed Yah's laws, NO ONE else.... you BIBLICALLY illiterate twit. Don't speak on a book you know NOTHING about. Go diddle with the Quran… coward.

[@afrochick9142]

I see this a lot in the Black Community. A woman gets a man and that gives her the right to be the sounding board for all the rest of her single sisters. After 12 years of marriage, only one baby daddy (my husband), and 14 years of being together I’m more qualified then Fantasia to say this.First, nothing’s wrong with being single. Work on yourself. You are a whole well rounded person with or without a man. Don’t allow married women to pull rank, and make you feel like they’re doing things the Riverview way because they have a Man. Be authentic to your own needs. Every relationship is different. The way Fantasia is doing it is her way,. Why women feel like there’s some imaginary thrown because he put a ring on it is beyond me. She’s giving out all kinds of desperate please pick me energy. You’re beautiful and you’re better than that.

[@bbtbae]

“I’m sure they have lots of fun on the vacations Fantasia pays for” KIMMMMMM 😂😂😭😭

[@Impossibly_gorgeous]

😂😂😂😂

[@naledis8384]

'See, if you can't spatially expand my horizon. Then that leaves you in the class with scrubs, never rising' - Lisa Lopes 'Left Eye'

[@sbond7510]

I have a black female optometrist and we talked trash about each others football teams while she did my eye exam!

[@nicolem2877]

This is really a black issue. For the most part our community has been riddled with poor male leadership for so long that the very idea of letting men be totally in charge of all decisions is a disastrous idea. Not only are they suffering from the effects of racism and struggling to provide for their families in ways that their white and other counterparts have not had to, but they feel like if they force us into supporting them that somehow their situation will improve. The truth is it will not. If anything it’s gotten worse. I think other communities are able to operate under traditional gender roles and it has benefited them but I think that black women are becoming fully aware that it only adds to their misery. Even black women who have grown up in traditional two parent households have been done dirty in relationships where men didnt hold up their end of the bargain. It only works when everybody does what they’re supposed to do. There’s a reason we have three branches of government. absolute power corrupts absolutely!

[@williamhunter8773]

Kim: "It's not draggin'. It's just jokes." Also Kim: ** Continues to drag ** LOL

[@liteflightify]

“Girl, that’s why yo man spending up all yo money” 😂

[@allthewayupnorth_8155]

He has his own business.

[@jrr7031]

Ah ah ah!!! THEIR money, not her money.. marriage, Right?????

[@rebecca4829]

@@jrr7031 Ah ah ah! "I don't want to get married and let her get half of *my* money". Tsk Tsk.

[@jrr7031]

@@rebecca4829 LMFAO 😂🤣 you know exactly how I was trying to word it too!

[@rebecca4829]

@@jrr7031 Of course 😂 two can play at this game. Hypocrisy isn't one sided. 😏😉

[@jhlifedesigns]

I am a white gay male in my late 50s. I have learned and being exposed to your points of views on being a proactive black female you tube content provider on what it means to be a black young female in our modern times . I know it has given my life a richer, more accurate information on what black women face daily in America. Im greatly troubled about the issues I have been learning about and blessed to have found this channel . I pledge to continue watching and learning as much as possible so I can have self awarness so my decision and actions will be a positive force of change in the lives of especially black women. As in any decision that desires to insight change it always starts with educating oneself on the absolute Facts of the subject.

[@asiablackgrl6482]

I don’t want it! Yes girl! I agree. No scraps.

[@themusictherapychannel5521]

Fantasia was going to marry that man after knowing him 3 weeks with no prenup😐 I wouldn't take any advice from her, girl just sing!

[@baronicquelangisa3168]

😂

[@darmadusa]

I like Fantasia as a singer. She's one of my favs, but when she started on the, "Women need to do this and that" stuff, she became annoying. ...But hey, that was coming out of the mouth of a woman who claimed she married that man after dating him for just THREE WEEKS! 🙄 She's going to "submit" alright. Down the road she's going to be "submitting" alimony checks to that man when he demands for her to maintain the lifestyle she's providing him. Smgdh

[@LethalLemonLime]

the man made her get a pre nup

[@shaytaylormade5244]

Hell yeah and it was around that prenup he’ll look at Sherri Shepherd Mary j blige Jill Scott’s Wendy Williams etc etc

[@oliviatheresa]

It makes me mad that it is always thought that EVERY woman's goal in life is to be married and have children.....and the females who don't want that are seen as less than!!!! Society claims to be so empowered but we still have that 1950s mindset. I am a introvert who loves my alone time and don't desire to be married with children. That is my decision and does not make me less of a woman. We have so much farther to go in our backwards thinking! 😔

[@kwameopoku3576]

Olivia Theresa every bloody man has told to provide sooo tough

[@oliviatheresa]

@@kwameopoku3576 Im sorry I don't understand what you are trying to say......

[@jadibdraws]

The biggest issue I have is if your gonna do the traditional route do it all the way then maybe I wouldn't have a problem with it and it'd seem more appealing. This new "traditional" shit seems to put more of a burden on the woman (specifically black women if we being honest) where as in the biblical sense it use to be a little better. Now a days these ppl want you to "submit" but also pay half the bills if not all. But also cook, clean, have the baby, play the biggest role in raising the baby why they just barely present?? No ma'am! If he taking on all the financial burden which is REAL traditionalism then okay. But black folks got it bent. When white women decide to live a traditional life style they do it all the way. Black women talking about they tired of being "the strong black woman" yet dont get by taking on that role your doing it even more so.

[@raen1384]

That's not true about white women at all. Some of them struggle, it's just their info is not exploited like Black women.

[@raen1384]

@GlamGirlTiffI'm speaking on the fact that white women struggle too, that's it. You are speaking about the choice between white and Black women being able to stay at home or not. Those are two different areas. I'm Black. And I know many Black women dont want to trust a man in order to stay at home. We have to look at all angles. And white women actually dont do traditional all they way because they still have their husbands helping them at home with what is considered women work. There are so many scenarios, so wwe shouldn't claim majority or anything regarding race and gender roles. That's why I made my statement.

[@raen1384]

@GlamGirlTiff what is the percentage of white women being stay at home wives since there is an exception to the rule? Also, what the percentage of Black women who dont want to be stay at home wife's vs those that do?

[@LoveStarsWorld]

I definitely wouldn't say it was better in Biblical days. You could stone a woman for cheating. Women had virtually no rights.

[@juicyparsons]

you so smart Kim! when people discuss gender roles they hardly do it within the context of modern life. what gender roles will we take on when the robot wars and climate catastrophe are underway?? lol

[@catdeluxeatday]

Truth.

[@yasey908]

😂😂😂😂

[@raen1384]

Girl, they been talking about robots since the 80s and I'm well into my 30s. Lol

[@samwallaceart288]

I wouldn’t put it past Disney to nuke the world just to spite Google.

[@TJ_Eats]

Imagine making the man lead when you're feeding him. What a fimp🤣🤣🤣

[@redpillscience958]

"A scrub is a guy that can get no love from me" would make for an awesome video title ;)

[@123cutieputtie]

Lmfaooo your right. Mom remarried recently I lowkey cant stand dude. I be looking at her like really you gonna put up with this bs. Then I look around he built my mom a new house done bought 2 new cars and this lady dont work she constantly going on vacation 😂😂😂😂 then I was like ohhhhh well let me shut up they havent even been married 5 years yet. I mean hey if all I gotta do is cook and be affectionate for a man to act like the "head" lmfao okay. Ain't no 50/50 in these part 🗣🗣🗣🗣

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

Very good point! Today's society is so confused. The men are getting the best of both worlds. Modern day men want the perks of being the king of the castle but they also want feminine perks by having a woman help financially. Submission is earned.

[@theryguyryan4143]

Not Sarah in the bible wasn't going half on the mortgage! I cannot lololo Fact, though!

[@madamesativa1319]

I’m washing my dishes and shouting “CAN’T GET NO LOVE FROM ME!” 😂😂😂

[@2006glg]

Y'all have to keep in mind that Fantasia is from North Carolina and she's closer to Gen X than a Millennial. Also, being from SC myself, black people from the Carolinas are...different if I am to say it politely. Again, those are my kinfolk so I'm just being honest based on my experience. That church stuff is strong with them. Also, Fantasia is not too bright. Yeah, I said it.

[@sallymae4250]

"Dating advice scammers"?! 😭😂 But seriously, as I'm lying next to my very successful husband in a neighborhood where I've befriended other wives of successful men, I can't help but laugh at the crappy advice they are giving women on KZbin on how to marry rich men. No woman I know did that nonsense. None of it will get them more than a few bags and their rent paid once or twice. Just call it what it really is which is sex work. NOTHING is wrong with play for pay if both parties are cool with the arrangement, but when your sitting behind a camera or Google pics telling women to copy White feminity to move up a class, you are being disingenuous. Tips on sugaring is not dating advice🤦🏼‍♀️

[@Lakishia]

Who are you talking about because I followed some accounts on here and I just don't want to be bamboozled spill the tea

[@zakari334]

Shirley Dennis so spill the tea then

[@KhaosDancer]

You may not get a rich man, but you can get a comfortable, well to do man if you follow certain hypergamy tips. Be pretty when you go out; be soft. Be able to have intelligent discussions on news, books, etc. Go out, ALONE, to have your coffee in a more moneyed area with your smart, soft, pretty self.

[@sallymae4250]

@@KhaosDancer Nooo. The "soft and pretty" thing only appeals to men who actually want that. I don't know why everyone assumes successful men all like the same type of women. In fact, there's a few masculine women I know with rich husbands. They look no different than the average, dress down, tired SAHM. Being well-read is great, but it's not a good enough substitute for a degree to the bourgeois. Every woman in my neighborhood has at least a bachelor's degree and either came from a high paying job or still has one. I met my husband through a colleague of mine. I was an RN at the time when he invited me to his party where I met my now husband. Hypergamy conversations fail to acknowledge that the vast majority of people marry within their class. They tell you only dusty men care if you have your own, but that's a blatant lie easily dispelled by statistics. These men date down all the time, but rarely do they truly entertain women who aren't on their level academically, socially, or financially. Women online are saying you can be a $15/hr secretary and land a six figure man by going to coffee shops and bars just by being feminine because they know the demographic who follows their videos. Think about it, how many hypergamous KZbinrs are actually married to millionaires? If it's so easy, why are they on KZbin trying to make money not layed up with their benefactor? They're selling a dream they haven't yet fulfilled because it pays well. The advice given is perfect for sugaring, but it won't land you a millionaire husband. It likely won't even land a six figure income earner. Women would do much better aiming for a man that's middle-class, because that's the class with the most kept women. The problem is everyone knows those women earn their keep through house duties and the women online have them convinced they're too pretty to contribute 😒 Soft and pretty will only get you so far with men of any class.

[@KhaosDancer]

@@sallymae4250 you didn't hear the smart part. Only being pretty is not enough. You have to be smart. I'm sure some men like masculine women; most don't. It's not for everyone. Hypergamy does NOT guarantee a millionaire; just like loving a man doesn't mean he'll love you. I can tell you it worked for me. I'm happy. If it's not for you, great. I know you're smart beautiful and have your game plan for what you want

[@nezzylearns]

You are so right. Why can’t people just speak for themselves instead of preaching to everyone.

[@marthadivine8426]

Submit to what! She's the man , protecting and providing in the relationship...

[@fatflirtyandthriving]

I agree! This is why I always come back to your channel. Great insight and conversation

[@nthatidoesntknow1309]

Ugh I could live in your brain! Seriously you’re easily my favourite thinker on KZbin 😭😭 I love theory too and this channel feels like a warm hug to me. A black South African girl who has had to face that same criticism of being bitter when just trying to make sense of the world and all the systems that shape our world.

[@Isachanya]

“Who can mingle with white folks” OMG 🤣 priceless ! I have experienced this. It’s like damn it’s 2019

[@symonew33]

I don’t let the pick me’s annoy me anymore cause nothing will ever be worst then when they said they would save their husbands over their kids if the house was on fire.

[@mommaphoenix8617]

You gotta pay the cost to be the boss. Period.

[@nbumbury]

I've honestly just gotten to the point that anytime there is a pick-me controversy, I just share that video of Claire Huxtable schooling elvin on serving your man...Just to wake my timeline the f*** back up

[@AhhhsoNeo]

Ayana Ruby share the link please

[@TahTwinkletoes]

🤣💯🎯

[@boricua584]

My mother has been married to my father for 34 years. They have never raised my sister or I to think I NEED a man or that I should be submitting to my husband (they are Christian too). They have a healthy loving relationship, it’s not perfect but they genuinely love and care for one another, all that to say, I personally have never heard that kind of advice from a woman in a happy healthy relationship. So 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Feedaneeshaqua]

“You have to submit and pay the bills?!” - a Word

[@19Hollisterchick90]

This is the first time on KZbin I've heard someone use "pick-me" correctly. For the past four years I've always heard it referred to women who throw other women under the bus for male approval, but on KZbin the hypergamy community has hijacked it to mean any woman with different standards than them. They're the ones willing to lose weight, wear makeup, change their style, fix their hair, change their voices and mannerisms just to fit a certain man's standards. Btw, Fantasia must think we forgot how she had to go to the clinic to get rid of some other woman's husband's baby👀 Don't play holier than thou now😂

[@LethalLemonLime]

ive noticed this too omg by the hypergamy youtubers and when i first heard them say it, i was like huh? I don't think that's what it means lol and it wouldn't even make sense since it's literally pick and me

[@19Hollisterchick90]

@@LethalLemonLime Right. Ironically, Black feminists came up with pick-me. The crowd hypergamy hopefuls see as their complete opposites. Now it's took on a whole new meaning thanks to actual pick-mes🤦‍♀️😂

[@crissoa]

She eventually had his baby 😔 I think his name is Antwaun Cook.

[@kimperry7267]

thank you for clarifying this. That term never made sense to me before this video.

[@nbucwa6621]

Yes, I think way too many people are confused about what the definition of a pick me is.

[@MsLaRue]

"I'm sure that they have fun on the vacations that Fantasia pays for" I'm 💀

[@__CJLORRAINE__]

Laughing at: "traditional marriage cosplay" & "Bruh, don't you have somebody else's money to go spend?" & "I'm sure that they have fun on the vacations that Fantasia pays for."😀😅 These "light drags" are going on for miles hun, lol.

[@bbdeer8795]

“I’ve just been out here blind!”😭😭😭😭😭 . That’s so funny! I desperately need to go to the optometrist too. I bet my experience will be similar to yours.

[@jr3kg3]

I like how in the Animals/Bird Kingdom its always been the male species that has to prove himself to the female before she will even consider breeding with him...

[@aliciaa927]

I was in shock when I noticed my dentist was black. Then we had a conversation about clothes. You have no idea how happy I was lol

[@Wordalways]

As a black man, I will tell you that I have the conversations a lot with both my male and female friends. What I have found is that women who want traditional men do not want to be traditional women or know what that means. When asked the definition of both roles they readily answer the role that traditional man should play. When I respond with the attributes of a traditional woman they quickly and abruptly reject any notions of the accompanying roles. What I have also found is that women who hold themselves out as feminists still prefer the man to be a traditional man. This relationship/role dissonance is both interesting and mind boggling at the same time in this context. I believe in the end that any couple should be able to define what's best for them. While providing our own beliefs of relationship roles, we should be careful not to pass judgement on opinions that diverge from our own.

[@msnewsenior]

Notice how the term Pick Me’s applies to women only.....

[@kevinc3342]

The term for a "pick me" male is "SIMP."

[@Kitt-Sage]

White knights are male pick mes

[@samwallaceart288]

Lady Kusani - yeah pretty much

[@bres.4806]

@@Kitt-Sage I think they call them Simps...although funnily enough they're mostly men who put common sense and what's right before being "team man" .

[@mariahhenderson1470]

@@bibaolaitan5189 Are you talking about Nice Guys? Bc they are well known for being "nice"/pretending to be friendly and then react violently and with insults when rejected.

[@transparentsunflower8295]

My friend and I love it when you say "I'm fine thank you for asking!"

[@whenyouwishuponastar6643]

I lean on the more traditional side of things, but even I can say come on lol. Marriages aren’t failing because women are trying to be the king in the house 🙄 it’s just easier and more accepted to get divorced. Keep in mind, there were laws in place to keep people from getting divorced. People were just trapped in bad marriages lol. If anything, you just need to have the same perspective on that type of thing as your partner.

[@MsKala]

This is going to sound like a cop out because it is to an extent. I'm not going to entertain Pick Me's. I'm not going to share tea and empathy with people that will never reciprocate it and won't listen to my point of view.

[@MsKala]

And another thing...I was kicking it on Facebook and a woman put a funky cool spin on being valued by her man. When their relationship started, she did all the things Pick Me's and pick up artists tell women to do. One day her man told her that she doesn't have to do the most for him to love and respect her.

[@KKKtrucky2]

I'm not a feminist... But I think it is very sad that a lot of women Define who they are by whether or not they're able to get a man... Because I noticed that Fantasia has that mentality that she needs to have a man to complete her self.

[@lovely7464]

When you said she paid the bills, I almost fell out of this CHAIRRRRRR 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I am trying not to Holler in this Starbucks

[@JaneraRose]

"I got a little bit of something. You have to have a little bit of something. And we can have a little bit of something, together." Hi, Kim! I'm a frequent viewer - always left entertained, informed and tickled - and the way that I screamedddd at the quoted. By the time you held out the mic for audience participation with No Scrubs, I was already rolling on the floor (literally). Your interracial love video got my attention and I've been here ever since! You just...get it, every single time. Keep shining! ✨

[@tatathebutterfly]

Submitting to a man today is like submitting to a roommate. They wanna go 50/50 on everything.

[@raen1384]

I feel you about seeing Black female doctors My dentist is a Black woman and the office is down the street from my house. Best feeling in the world. ❤🦷

[@diva23luv]

Kim you are LIFE!

[@SHIVAAAA100]

The submit and pay the bill SENT ME 😂😂🥺🤣

[@zeetuslupeedus]

I feel like what works for you, works for you. What I'll never understand is how old school men want old school women but dont wanna play their old school ass parts. Also, women and men used marriage for very different reasons than a lot if us do now. Women HAD to be married a lot of the time because they needed to be taken care of. The women took care of the home and kids and the man worked and took care of the financial security. Marriage is and has always been transactional, but to treat it like it's the same concept as it was 50 years ago or more is silly and just unrealistic. Men who have money say women who want them are digging for hold when ...isn't that the point traditional man ? I've never subscribed to the traditional wife and husband , gender role shit and I got a good man just fine just the way I am. We are perfectly happy as is and I never had to play a role. Again, what works for YOU, works. This idea that we are auditioning to be the wife is tired. This entire "wifey" "wife material" bullshit is exactly that. Bullshit. I've never been able to connect with that. I'm just a human person who made a connection with another human person and we felt like we found the person we wanted to life partner with. We have the same values, political views, and desire to NOT be parents. We take care of ourselves and each other. We aren't expected to do more than the other or less than the other and on bad days one person picks up the others slack and so on. Idk why this is a hard concept to understand for some people and why this is looked at as some kind of shitty way to operate in a relationship. This shit is tragic. Also as I commented on someone's reply below, there are studies that show that men benefit from marriage far more than women and that after divorce women are far happier while men are sadder and depressed lmaoooo

[@kwameopoku3576]

Kelly Ann Teague i also don’t understand how woman dont wanna play their parts men can never leave the provider role but u guys can I hope a lot of bm find self worth somewhere snd avoid marriage as it doesn’t benefit them at all

[@thecutbeautii3399]

I deeply appreciate this comment. I’ve been with my partner for almost 4 years and people keep asking when will we get married. We have no intention to and when we tell them the disdain on their face can sometimes be gut wrenching. What works for us may not work for others and that’s ok. I just wish people would respect our relationship decisions the way we respect theirs. I have my own home which was acquired prior to knowing him and I recall his sister asking me if I would put him on the house and I vehemently said no. She asked why because that’s what her husband did and I said “he wasn’t with me when I went looking for homes nor did he contribute to the purchase. I bought a house but with him in it is a home and that’s enough. I’m also not your husband.”

[@tiffdawn4428]

I have no problem with women who want to be traditional. That’s fine. But they keep coming for us when we didn’t send for them. Like why do you feel the need to make my life like yours? Also, to the men who agreed with this. I feel like submission is natural. You shouldn’t have to tell a woman to do that lol

[@kwameopoku3576]

Tiff Dawn yep because bitches like u n all the other date up bitches are harsh to them wen they just prefer the traditional way all us guys see how u are

[@tiffdawn4428]

kwame opoku lol bitches like me? 😂 you don’t even know me but ok 😂😂

[@Decadancehallking]

I love the glasses Kim, and hope you are doing amazing. Whew, the truths you unearthed in this conversation. I clutched my pearls at feminist in the streets and a pick me in the sheets!

[@googleuser4428]

She also said "husband is the head and wife is the neck"- the head cannot turn without the neck. These "new options" are the reason why this current world is in such a mess today. We have become a "free for all, do whatever" society, dismissing biblical teachings and traditions, especially the black community. Don't knock these people for trying to have some STRUCTURE in their lives. I am with Fantasia on this.

[@thecommenter2666]

The word that starts with the H, woooooo that word starts war in the black woman youtuber streets

[@daghettogandhi7242]

What’s the word 🤣 I can’t figure it out

[@mariahhenderson1470]

@@daghettogandhi7242 hypergamy?

[@Kiannamonroeee]

Your viewpoints are always thought provoking & well put together. I love it. ♥️

[@AddBowIfGirl]

Loved every minute of this video.

[@SugaCane110]

Right... let them lead us into a ditch with a hole in the bottom of it. We’re all winging it. YOU choose who you wanna wing it with 🤣

[@TheWindingRoad1991]

You said it, Kim. A lot of women out here are giving other women bad advice. If one is not careful, it will have them feeling like they can never do anything right. Also, people need to get out of the mindset that cooking, cleaning, and raising kids is strictly a woman's job. It should be a collective effort. If anything, those of us who are trying to spread wisdom out here are the ones who are getting "gaslighted."

[@madamesativa1319]

I always think of those KZbin channels that say “the questions to NEVER ask men, if you want him to choose you!” And each time my only thought is that question has to be “do I want you? Do I like you? What are you bringing to me?”