The Power of Feeling Safe: How Kindness Restores Resilience | Ling Lam, Ph.D. | TEDxBelmontShore

[@adamblum2491]

Great job and I love your dry humor. I especially liked the line: "We are here because our ancestors are in the top 1% of anxious people."

[@Itsme_yaGuRL_]

This video is NOT getting enough recongnition. This was a beautiful theory. TRUTH! This needs to be lectured in jr high and high schools.

[@jesssong7533]

This was SO SO beautiful. Not only was it a clear explanation of polyvagal theory with relatable metaphors and humor, it was also just such a beautifully written presentation. I am MOVED and so inspired. Thank you for this.

[@yonwalls3918]

This is the most somatically grounded and informed discussion of the Polyvagal Theory and its application working with clients (and ourselves), that I've heard. It follows from a recent trauma summit I attended with Dr. Porges who established the Theory. He too has the language, warmth and authenticity to story-tell this often complicated theory of evolution and our nervous systems. Thank you Ling for being a trusted voice and practitioner that brings this relevant model of safety home for ourselves and our clients!

[@freedimensionnow]

THIS IS GOLD, I hung on every word, you are a master of communication.

[@rossmacphee8724]

Dr. Lam captured the very essence of the human existence. So foundational, explaing why developing a richer understanding of ourselves can make the world a better place for all. Bravo!

[@Reemkenza]

This made me cry. So helpful. Thank you.

[@samarjsingh]

Dr Lam has a gift of communication that takes us out of our own perspective to a space where we can observe the picture that he draws for us, without the fog of our current knowledge. He then brings us back to our own perspective so we can look at the world a little differently - more humane, more kind and more polyvagally. Thank you Dr Lam. These skills are greatly needed in our topsy turvy world of the pandemic where fear is everywhere.

[@Yosetime]

I think that was the best talk I've ever listened to. Thanks!

[@HollyNelson]

Beautiful! You are a master at creating word pictures that connect the mind with the heart. Eloquence personified. God bless you!

[@michaelterrell2720]

Loved it, Ling! Deeply resonated with your summary of fight or flight: "the price of safety is eternal vigilance." Appreciate you sharing your vulnerability too.

[@psychologyis]

Absolutely excellent. Your use of analogies here was masterful. Thank you Dr. Lam!

[@hannahammerli9061]

I love this. Thank you Ling! I will review this until it becomes second nature to really know this in my bones!

[@sarahluthman7315]

Thank you Dr. Lam! I've missed your lectures. Thanks for sharing your insight and information about polyvagal therory.

[@savithananjangud2921]

Thank you Dr Lam! You beautifully explained a profound concept in such simple easy to understand language. Looking forward to more such talks from you.

[@nancysahrling8817]

Thank you so much Dr. Lam for your very powerful lecture! So good to hear you speak again. I will pass this on.

[@reneesanguinetti8845]

You did a nice job explaining Polyvagal Theory. I appreciated your descriptions and examples as well as your humor. Keep it coming!

[@whodat4124]

What an awesome talk. Much appreciated!

[@kristiewalthard1400]

Great summary of Polyvagal Theory! Thanks, Dr. Lam!

[@stephaniebarragan3113]

This is so powerful! The analogies are spot on!

[@francesregal4589]

Thank you so much for such a great lecture, Dr. Lam. Your strength in your own vulnerability, honesty, and depth of real feeling are palpable. I love the example of the rubber band and the ladder. Gah! So helpful.

[@chrisschoedel7597]

Beautiful.

[@rachelgarst6884]

Great talk. So human and humane.

[@TwoGrainsOfGold]

Professor Lam! You are the best! Truly genius and an asset to SCU!

[@kiranrahman9652]

I really enjoyed this talk - extremely easy to follow and understand - thank you!

[@natalieyates7650]

This is great. Thank you, Dr. Lam!

[@DrShawnHorn]

Love this! Beautifully said. I hope you get to tell this on a stage! Well done my friend!

[@alexandrialopez1029]

Yay, Dr. Lam! So happy to see and hear your knowledge again 😁

[@lomatai4]

Excellent talk- would love to hear more.

[@shaktiheart13]

This is soooooo good. So very good. Really well conveyed!! And I am a somatic experiencing practitioner!! Gold!!

[@briankivuti]

😂 After the beginning of this talk, I had to pause, as I kept imagining a series of villains with creepy voices saying sweet things like "sweet, sweet Brian. I love you (ominous breathing), be mine forever! I am here (deep breathing, with a sinister smile) with you, always." 😂😂

[@bvqween]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 exactly proving his point

[@ReneeStClair-lw8si]

Wonderful to listen to, very helpful for all! thanks!

[@vickyventer7488]

Loved that. Thank you

[@RichardKHassen]

This is beautiful and it really speaks to me. I wonder Dr. Ling, if you can speak to the kind of resilience, that can exist despite being near tigers? We see this ability developed by a few Auschwitz survivors in the most unsafe environment, as described by Viktor Frankl in “Mans Search for Meaning”

[@TheRealLing]

Thank you, Richard, for your question. There are 3 categories of inputs for the body to evaluate safety - one is sensory inputs from the environment, second is relational signals (especially non-verbal), third is internal variables (body-based signals influenced by thoughts/beliefs). The power of the human mind is such that we can feel scared in our own home, yet we can also have hope in the midst of Auschwitz . Frankl himself said it best: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

[@CrystalNouveauC]

@@TheRealLing Thank you for this Dr. Lam. Are there any further resources you can recommend on the topic of safety and resiliency?

[@justpassingby0]

Look around at the jerkness - love this! 😂

[@rajbisht3375]

❤

[@kenyadaposey3907]

Currently experiencing that tiger right now 😔

[@unicornpink7953]

spoken like an absolute POET