The Power of Setting Intentions: 3 Steps to Heal Your Mind, Body, and Soul.

3 Steps: How To Set An Intention To Heal

[@itchyeyesmcrealize165]

As soon as I stopped drinking, my life changed for the better. 2 years in and it never ceases to amaze me.

[@angecynthia347]

Talk about it!! Cut out the narcissist in my roots( my mother) and all of a sudden all the weird habits i picked up drained, i no longer feel need to do because those voices of you are not good,you will not survive,you have no space in the society,you are not blabla..cheii ajahahaha now i actually laugh wondering what the heck had taken that woman's soul

[@t1sg]

This is 12 step work. Big book says 'action and more action.' Faith without works is dead.

[@Brownkid422]

The bullet point summary is: 1: set your intention. What is the actionable goal you want to accomplish 2: what 3 things did I do today towards that goal 3: be congruent with your intention. Stop doing the things that actively destroy the goal. There are also things that can make you feel like you're working towards your goal but are actually just wasting time. Avoid all such things. Take control. Set boundaries. Demand more of ourselves and others.

[@rachaelflett346]

Thank you xx

[@sanditeale3632]

Thank you

[@spinpedal1327]

Thank you, I got bored with his rants whilst waiting for the points to come out.

[@Scott-nr2ji]

"How DARE ya??!"--screams the narcissistic abuser..

[@celiaverdinho54]

Hello Richard, a very important message. SOLUTIONS! No more self pity! The Narc is f**k others. F**k the Narcs! Move on FAST! I agree we can learn with you and your experiences but we have to take control of ourselves and our lives! The bullet point Genious! Thank you for sharing! Divorced 6 years and open to Love when it comes! II am action personified and an emphatic with an invisible sword up... Never had professional therapy for anything. Old school...Fall today...Spend a day in bed and then get up and go running. I don't want to be anyone's victim! I TAKE JUSTICE FOR MYSELF! London was full of corruption and toxic people so I moved alone to Portugal. I live alone in my castle and had a 3 month crush in Nov.2020, which ended as soon as it started. He forgot to mention he had a girlfriend and a child🤥 Portugal is also corrupt and have toxic people...Boundaries is a must!🤩😍 But as more 🌞 great food Markets and ⛱ Happy days 😋 I don't take drugs and I don't like to smoke but I love wine in moderation!😇 This is wine country🤐 I am not malicious and not Dumb just saying! Watch for those who are? MY LIFE SEEMS 👍 Wish you all MODERATION!

[@hiya1399]

20:21-24:10 You nailed it. I lost over 20 years of my life in psychotherapy and it didn't help a thing about my life. I stopped going in 2016 when I learned about childhood trauma and found you (and many others) here on KZbin. Not a single therapists I had over 2 decades told me about CPTSD, trauma, codependency, emotional flashbacks, NOTHING. I wasted so much time talking and talking but these people had NO PROBLEM cashing my checks. People keep saying the mental health system is broken and nothing they can do. Bullshit. The system was BUILT THIS WAY.

[@carmel-wayfinder5401]

Disgraceful financial agenda... We're so lucky to have authentic sincere individuals like Richard to signpost us back to ourselves 👍🏻

[@vibetribeuk]

I think what it is with therapists, they have to follow a framework, I am a psychotherapist but also trained with Richard Bandler in NLP caused me internal conflict as I do agree with Richard, I am now a Lifecoach! it's nice to hear how you found traditional therapy , thanks for sharing 💛

[@cynthiafortier2540]

I agree, totally. Talk therapy did nothing for me. 2 therapists made me feel terrible about myself and my choices. I figured out on my that I had cptsd from childhood trauma. Healed and processed and accepted the past by watching vidios like this. Thank God for them!! Thank you for your post!!

[@karenkersten8340]

So very very sorry… I always taught those topics you cited… and definitely collaborated about the Solutions!!! Always had an action plan with my client…

[@Jerryfallwell]

Yeah Almost 30 years of therapy and psychiatrists. Very little help at all. Have been using a life coach for less than a year and I’ve had really good progress. Still working on myself but I feel so much better about my situation.

[@SuperTreemendus]

I really wasn't expecting this, it's really refreshing! "What we do is we celebrate the dumbest most disgusting members of society, and we put them on pedestals and we all stand around them and 👏 applaud them, and dribble, It's unforgivable."

[@SM-br7br]

“They care about you as a concept.” That hit home. It’s what I’ve been knowing but not knowing how to put into words. It’s helped me finally make plans for my life outside of the control of the people around me. It’s a good feeling.

[@karenkersten8340]

Really true

[@andersondavid6849]

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[@carleerose]

Same

[@celiaverdinho54]

Good 👍! No one will care as much for you as yourself!

[@prismonthethehorizon5793]

This is the realest talk on this subject.

[@krishely5955]

As a 54 yr old woman who has seen a few therapists over the years I totally agree My biggest moments of growth have been found in my ‘dark nights of the soul’ Thank you for reminding me to stay away from being a smother mother despite a society that seems to want to encourage us to be that way

[@marik6025]

So glad you shared this. This too has become my conclusion. I've taken another approach this time... Total immersion to save myself. Thank you so much for your wisdom.

[@suzybeaman6758]

I love this idea of accountability! Holding myself accountable by asking "What 3 things did I do today ..?" Power and Responsibility. BOOM!! Internal Content - My Positive Thoughts CAN change my Trajectory. Richard you are The Reason I am So Thankful for my current life and progress in recovery from Narcissistic Abuse. I LOVE the thought of "2 Weeks is all that matters - it's all we can control." So to FOCUS ON ACTION, Is the Key!!! 💖 And this IS what I've been doing - from your amazing years of impacting my thoughts, and my recovery. Thank You, dear man! You truly saved my life, and I am forever grateful. 🙏💖

[@annmarie6870]

I was held accountable for myself today which was nice I also didn’t receive my medication for my psychiatrist was sooo angry but I chose to be nice to people we always have a choice I don’t have to go by my feelings but apart of me is still so mad

[@fadwajapan6404]

In any abusive relationship...you are the one who welcomed them in your life... First recognize that the trash belong to the trash. Love yourself ..this is your cure... You have opened wounds from childhood.. Narcissist only spread salt on your wounds ...he didn't cause them. Your enemy is yourself so live in peace and love yourself.

[@ginamac8136]

Hard truth.. and some would call this victim blaming.. but we have to heal the self or these toxic people keep walking through the open door.

[@dawnross2514]

Richard, wow 😳 you've woken me. I recently went back to therapy stating explicitly that I only wanted help formulating a plan of action to move forward and guess what, I end up sitting there for an hour talking about the past etc & feeling crap. And it took so much effort to reach out & obviously money that is so precious. I need to rethink what I'm doing. Thanks for having the balls to go against the accepted approach, you are right, the mental health system keeps us as perpetual victims and I know myself how I've wallowed in that. Heart felt thank you. Lots to think about 🙏💙xx Re the giving up drinking, I can attest that after being off alcohol for over 3 months now, my anxiety has dropped dramatically.

[@shellyjackson745]

Kicked out my narc 2 months ago and clean and sober as of 15 days! Love you and agree 💯!

[@carmel-wayfinder5401]

Keep going my friend 👍🏻

[@suzannemaroney4579]

I didn’t hear anger in your talk, I heard honesty! That is what’s weakening our society, the raw truth is taken for anger.😵‍💫 thank you Richard!!🙌💕

[@userspade4039]

Richards sharp and present exploration of his ideas are refreshing reminders to stick with the work and keep with the basics. Always uplifting and inspiring content Richard thank you

[@suzybeaman6758]

We DO get more of what we Focus upon. This is why I gave up on seeing a Therapist over 20 years ago. Your insight has helped me far more than any chat with a Counselor ever could. Your Raw Insight, and Brutal Honesty about the Recovery Process is huge. "No real men, anymore" ... Which is why I have decided to remain happily emotionally regulated and single.

[@karenkersten8340]

Yes…chatting without goals and a plan seem counterproductive

[@lilrodz]

The truth teller will always be scapegoated. Beautiful to see how much growth continues to be created through this work and sharing of information. Thank you. 💪💜

[@MargaretDeRossetGordon]

Good God, help me. Just had a conversation with my narcissistic mother. It’s amazing how they create this parallel perceptual reality, convince you that it’s true, and then rip out your throat. I feel smeared with dirt from my interaction with her. Really horrible. Thanks for your videos. They help me feel less isolated and stuck in that narcissistic house of mirrors. They’re like the long hallway back to love/reality.

[@alexandrashvarstuhk7625]

Richard I still use your hand mnemonic! My therapist loves it too and she is 83. Your advice is precious. You and my therapist helped me heal. Healing for me means I no longer have to carry my past. I carry my future in the present. I appreciate you, thank you for your work.

[@Ezra.Artist.Alchemyst]

Whoooooooeeeeee! Excellent and brilliant Richard. I like your anti-fragile philosophies. It has been such an honor to watch you evolve. So much respect. I just had a really tough session with my counselor. In counseling with my son with the goal of breaking the chain of inter generational trauma. It HAS been quite productive but our last session I really felt like she was poking at things to provoke a flashback and prove our need for her. This message is giving me much to think about. I have heard before from you and in other spaces that therapy that looks backwards a lot really isn't that helpful for CPTSD sufferers. I am so frustrated by the fact that most professionals in the field of psychology don't know much about personality disorders OR CPTSD... it mirrors how doctor's spend hardly any time in school on nutrition. What the actual fuck? Have to support the idea that perhaps we need to burn some things down and try again.

[@annalisetrunzo]

Felt like vintage R.G. Loved this. Thank you.

[@victoralove2506]

This is the key that has been missing to my growth. You can read, journal, have therapy, KZbin and classes. Nothing will work if we don’t take action. You’ll just remained stuck. Great Richard. Thanks

[@angelmcintosh3115]

THANK YOU, Richard, for not caring. THANK YOU, for sharing the TRUTH. No one really cares. I intend to heal, damn it! I will heal.

[@susanroberts7492]

Absolutely spot on!! Life changing and truth that sets us free!

[@staceywebb7740]

I agree one hundred percent my first two therapists opened me up and left me completely raw and then ended my therapy. My current hypnotherapist is awesome we did talk about my past because there were issues I did not understand but we moved on we are focusing on now and where I would like to go. I will say I was raised to believe that I must help others even if it hurt myself. I was convinced that my purpose here on earth was to save others,and I did it with gusto. What happened to me?I was an empty husks of other people's pain with awful illness causes me physical pain. When covis first hit I started doing yoga,meditating,and I found your cptsd course I did it,I felt a little better but I had to do more,which I have and my life has changed dramatically I am no longer a smother mother but I still have more to do.

[@ip9608]

There’s something about you, your energy is strong and persuasive. This gives me power, strength , positivity. Thank you so much for your help.

[@tinadeiwert8]

Ty Richard for never giving up on helping us/others.

[@natalijamartina]

My observation also. Great man and mentor!

[@nicodemus2848]

RICHARD, I HAVEN`T HEARED A SPEACH LIKE THAT IN A LONG LONG TIME! AND YOU ARE VERY VERY CLEAR. TAKING A HOLISTIC APPROACH IS THE ANSWER. ONES DIGNITY WAS SACRIFICED FOR BEING A VICTIM. NOW, I THOUGHT THAT HUMAN BEING WAS ANYTHING BUT.... AND I SEE IT MORE OFTEN THAN NOT! AND IT PAINS ME, BUT IT`S A FACT. AND WHAT WILL ONES MICRO CONSCIOUSNESS DO IN THIS MASSIVE INSAIN LIFE NEGLECTING WILDERNESS? WELL... GO ON WITH A BRUTAL HONESTY THAT APPLIES TO YOU IN ALL ASPECTS AND FROM HERE... MOOVE! DARE TO KNOW THY SELF. THANK YOU RICHARD

[@nickieglazer33]

I appreciated your rant Richard and the eloquent kick up the bottom at the beginning, thank you. Great timing! Best wishes from Nerja ☀️

[@catsmeow3478]

Loved this. God bless you, Richard. You’ve helped me so much over the last three years since I found your channels. I’ve implemented boundaries, become mentally and emotionally tougher, recovered significantly from the intense trauma of the last six years, understood that I’ve had CPTSD from childhood, shared your work and teaching with friends which has helped us all, and drumroll…I won the incredibly painful and draining six-year legal case against the narcissistic psychopath agent/contractor and his equally evil brokerage that defended and represented him at no charge, outed and ousted key officials in the local and state governments that protected him and am helping others with their cases against the same parties. Following you was a respite and huge part of how I steeled myself and was able to manage everything required, including the 10-day trial last year in which we crushed the defense, when they usually crush the claimant. I did your first 30-day challenge and it was very challenging for me, but I’ve reaped the benefits in measurable ways. Can’t thank you enough for being the best coach/healer/philosopher in my journey and healing. I know you know how much you help people, but I’m glad to be able to add to the collective results. The world is a better place because of you. Bless you. 🙏💜 I’m happy that Johnny got his justice too! 🙌🥳

[@starsoulsandi]

& that is beautiful, thank you for sharing

[@alchemicalrelationship]

You are amazing! I am going to use something from the spiritual community...you are an example of the healed divine masculine. You have beautiful yang energy! You come across compassionate. Being compassionate is telling the truth and allowing others to do with the information as they please!

[@eloisemae2462]

'Consume content that is related to your future. It's now.' ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

[@rm-pc3544]

Richard at his best. Man I wish I learned this stuff a few years ago. The video is full of gold nuggets . Thank you Richard.

[@MT-tx7bu]

LOVE, "The first person to say "no" to is yourself. Perfect! Thank you, Richard! We want others to respect our boundaries, we have to respect our boundaries. :D

[@saracowherd3539]

We love you Richard. You are always on the cutting edge of these things and you are right. I feel that psychology has hurt more than help. But IFS therapy is changing my life.

[@firewoman13merica65]

Well, you have outdone yourself sir . You have nailed the smother mother effect I can not put into words how much YOU & your nuggets of wisdom mean to me. Your style,your delivery, your majestic presence rattle my soul. Thank you ! Namaste as always I will think of you signing off shirtless on horseback wielding sword & shield shouting FREEDOM!

[@wordivore]

Speaking of going into the past, I've tried to do some "rewriting of my past" in my mind a couple times. I thought it might help me feel at least a little bit empowered. I imagined things like standing up for myself when I didn't, being a better older sister to my siblings when I was a young teen. Asking for things I'd wanted when I assumed the answer would be no. Taking advantage of opportunities I missed. Basically fantasizing. It didn't work one bit. It made me feel angry and agitated. It was like opening up an already raw wound. It was definitely stupid to try a second time. Lol.

[@johanjansson2723]

Brilliant! Love this. The will to heal must come from within. To heal, the stressors must be removed. Any form of threat, fear, shaming or merely distraction from what is important. It must be quiet enough for ones own desires to be heard. The desire to heal. Others desires and behavoiurs have been implanted in us. We use learned behaviours to achieve what we want. Very often those learned behaviours will not lead us to the desired goals. Why not question it? A small change in behaviour often makes a big difference. Try learning your own simple way to take a small step in the direction you want to go.

[@candycamus]

Absolutely. learned helplessness I see it across all boards, all lines, everywhere

[@sharonegan5245]

Btw.. not seeing angry - seeing passion.. appreciating the direction 🙌🙏🤝 Probably best course of advice/action I’ve ever received.. I have 17,373 things to thank you for (exposing, revealing, helping with) .. Continue this vibe 💯 you’re onto something 🙌💗🤩👍🙏😂

[@marinapapaliolios1346]

Wonderful insight, you speak the truth, "yea, ye shall know the truth and it will set you free!" Amen brother, Amen.

[@gayefarthing5648]

Richard so true learned helplessness is one that psychology needs to give tools to you have touched on a lot of people who have come from this regardless of the background and May your intention focus us towards on getting it right to the goal we must achieve you are truly a beautiful human being

[@rebeccavoss1803]

I should say that educating myself about the narcissistic dynamic was essential but once understood...you must be determined to archive the lessons, leave the past in the past and ACTIVELY move forward....thank you again for pure honesty!

[@franstockley240]

Exactly. Thank you Richard. We must keep our feet on the ground and face reality no matter how hard that is.

[@coribanane2305]

Thank you from Germany! Richard, you are so right! You talk with passion about the serious problems in our society. We are all (!) connected, but nobody cares. Humility? All the best, Franziska

[@philjones6522]

Discipline and action. I was actually thinking about these concepts a day or two before this video came online. I try not to live in absolutes but for codependents, I've come to the realisation that it's fairly black and white. If I'm not disciplined, I have weak boundaries. If I don't take the necessary actions in life, I fall back into the same traps. It's a simple choice for me nowadays. I've probably become a bit too black and white in this area of life but I felt I had too. Otherwise I just fall into the clutches of another's controlling behaviour pretty much everytime.

[@NoeticFT]

Thank you so much for all of this. Sincerely.

[@caraheagy1715]

Thank you for having the balls to speak out! Appreciate you!

[@rebeccavoss1803]

THANK YOU , THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!! I'fe been on the yo-yo recovery train for 17 years...I've subconsciously been working towards this but you just gave me a tangible plan...and made me remember that my determination to escape my situation began with 1) awakening...finally seeing the truth 2) acknowledgement that I must get out or die 3) answering how? From that moment every action was one step closer to that goal....it took 10 years but I did it!!!! A year later the flashbacks began and I've been fighting to move passed them since....great plan, thank you!!!!

[@fightswithspirits915]

I saw a psychiatrist is early 90's. When I told him I didn't think it was working, he attacked my inner child by saying things about the relationship to my mother. His only intent was cause me pain before leaving. It was hurtful. Now here I am. Today my inner child and I sat on a bench eating ice cream giggling at the world, being happy we have a soul. Oh, we're grinding an ax against mom. We don't hate her, but she was not who we thought she was. It's this truth giving us the ability to heal. Richard's training on the Dual Mothership was a real eye opener. It shattered the shared fantasy and allowed me to search myself for my reality.

[@annemarie9980]

My biggest take away...be humble...accept I am always at the beginning....get back to and master the basics of everything.....love your take on life Richard💖🌟💝🌟🕊

[@kingdomtime3295]

I agree on your distrust....becuz well if you can see the problem you need to find your way out and be accountable for the change in your behavior.....seriously once i learned about triggers from my trauma experiences as a child....I am learning to be more of an observer....I really did learn something from an astrologist... learning not to bear down on the negative allow it to pass through you best you can and if you can do this .....your higher self will show you the more positive way of being and what the positive is for you......the more normal stance....lol....love you Richard! :)

[@mariaelisanaimegiovanardim1102]

Been listening to Richard Grannon for years now. Brutal thruths i nedded so much to be told of in order to finally find constancy in action.

[@angelinejohnson9511]

I've done good work with a few therapists, but I come to the session much like a grad student going in to see an advisor: I spend time thinking about what I want to discuss, and often it's associated with insights gotten from prior sessions/work we've been doing, and insights into how current situation/behavior is playing out due to past-stuff from dysfunctional past/family, game plan for change i'm following and how it needs to be adjusted/reinforced. Doing the work I've done WITHOUT the grasp that I was, indeed, dealing with narcissism and borderlines WAS hampering, but developing *all* the skills in parallel is perhaps all for the best, in the end. I feel like I have indeed gained a graduate education on the topics, without any certifications to acknowledge it. But there's a big difference: if one is paying out of pocket, and trying to improve one's life, it's NOT the case that it's acceptable to NOT begin work with a therapist without a bona fide goal, even if it changes, as other (larger, latent) issues come to the fore. It's not appropriate to go to a session with no early idea what one want's to work on, discuss. It's really unfair to both yourself, and the professional who wants to be of good use. It was important to ME to really come to sessions with something to 'work' on, and if not totally resolve, at least pull things apart somewhere safe and better grasp what was pulling my strings, or if there was cognitive distortions on my part, or how I'm doing practicing a new skills, connect some dots. And, having someone witness the work I was doing was often just as relevant, as their simply wasn't anyone I could appropriately approach to discuss what I was trying to work through.

[@Ipdex]

Quite brilliant. I've been in therapy for 8 weeks now and every session is geared toward me telling the therapist what it was like for me as a kid, and what my 2 main relationships with (NPD/BPD) women were like and why they behaved the way they did. Everything about the past (which I know because I lived it), nothing about what I can do to break free from doing it again and change my life and values etc. Your video's teach Richard and thats why they are so powerful. Therapy just lets you talk to somebody about something you already know + they drag out some stuff you've forgotten about - but its the same thing. Thankyou for all that you do mate, best wishes, Russell, UK

[@70onward-upward]

Richard, there are no words adequate enough to express the depth of my gratitude for the help you provide. If negative comments are left, for you or the video content, I sincerely hope that the people who find your channel, who need to hear, absorb and put into practice the information you convey, are not swayed by the opinions of others who may have been sliding down the bannister of life with the splinters facing in the right direction. Many of us are not that fortunate. This is the only comment I have ever left on a social media platform (other than the rare message via FB to family and friends) as I am not comfortable with nor do I understand the need to be so visible and while it may seem that way, I have not done so in this instance because I suddenly have the need to be seen. I have left this comment because the doubters, the critics and those who have never experienced trauma at the hands of others - trauma that feels like damage to the very core of their being - may fail to understand how extremely important the work you do is to the people who need the support you provide. The messages in your video are so clear, especially if seeing a professional, as a person initially may only take part in the therapy (during the learning phase) but must become fully active and take responsibility for their own healing. This resonated as giving the emerging 'self' over to others or having the control of 'self' taken away to be in the hands of others while seeking treatment and support, and the continuous telling, retelling, reliving and journaling which felt like a constant source of poison, failed drastically. This can never be the path of healing as for me, these same scenarios with ex partners or parents resulted in so much of the damage to my 'self'. And so I say Thank You from the 'self' I am slowly gaining through your lessons and tools - as I have always been told, or have been led to believe, that I did not have the right to 'self', that my only value has been, is and always will be in serving others and to be a figurative and literal punching bag for those who wanted to be abusive. I also thank you for your honesty, the straight down the line delivery of your messages and for being a Voice of Reason in a World gone selfishly mad. And while I do not know you nor pretend to, I appreciate you for who you are and what you are achieving for and on behalf of people around the world including those who may be like me and: * are reeling and struggling to make sense of it all (I have recently torn what was left of me away from the last narcissist I will ever be in a close relationship with - my stated intention); and * just want to heal in the best way possible and move on, with the baggage of the past left in the past where it belongs and not being: continuously unpacked or added to in the present; or carried into the future to be further added to.

[@stephjohnson2344]

You are 100% right, thx for putting this in words!

[@gigievans395]

TRUTH! I've been in a hostile/toxic/CPTSD Mother/Daughter traingulation/Scapegoat situation for years! I have used this protocol on my own since the REALIZATION hit me beginning 5 years ago in my 50s.......IT WORKS!! AND yes, therapy will give you TOOLS to deregulate FASTER, but YOU HAVE TO APPLY AND DO THE WORK! ROCK ON RICHARD!!!!

[@JessicaJLandi]

I found a 12-Step program helpful in transforming my life. The suggestion to turn my life over to the care of God as I understood him was brilliant. Since I had negative connotations about God, the suggestion of restarting the way I thought about God with the idea of a "Loving Spirit of the Universe" was really helpful, too. Hearing people's stories of how God turned even the worst things in people's lives for their good and the good of others was a life-changing truth. Definitely my relationship with God is foundational in having a joyful, peaceful life...and healing when bad things happen, fully expecting God to use them for my good in Him time. It's a wonderful life.

[@stephenallpress3166]

Hi Richard, I would like to thank you for your intention, your will, tenacity, time and consistency. I used many of your personal practice ideals and introspection to help me heal and grow. Stay strong, be well and persist on your path. I'm certain you have helped more people than you can possibly imagine. I would love to do a Podcast with you maybe in the future who knows, I left the Pharmaceutical industry after 30 years, trained in alternative therapies, experienced an NDE, integrated as much experience as possible and now believe in my passion, path and purpose. Thank you so much for all your years of work. Sending you my heartfelt gratitude 💚🙏

[@susanmark1744]

Love this talk it’s so liberating. Big thanks Richard makes so much sense.seriously.

[@elizabethcampbell9474]

It’s so wild to me. When you say what people in the comments may say it’s the opposite for me. I watch your videos because our ideas/ philosophies/ beliefs are so similar. I love it. I’ve never heard someone else talk out loud how I think to myself. Very comforting!!!

[@DennettDanielle]

Omg This is so fantastic. EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS 💯 SPOT ON!!!!! PREACH!!! Fabulous analysis and delivery!!!

[@annmarie6870]

Richard this came at the right time I work with a narcissist and he’s a nightmare I finally texted my boss and told him that his behavior needs to stop. This is me fighting for my co workers because he always treats them like crap and always comes into work angry it gets old after a while. I’m sick of being treated bad in a passive aggressive way and want to yell at this dude. Such anxiety the struggle is real

[@vannamarie8430]

Love this!!!! 💯

[@alphacattar1020]

YOU TALK REAL SHIT! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 THANK YOU SO MUCH. I LOVE WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS. KEEP MY SANITY AND MAKES ME KNOW THE THINGS IM NOT INTRODUCE OR USE TO.

[@KelleyCasonSheetz]

Yes! Preach it! You are the man!!! Thank you sir for all you do ♥️

[@judemcleod5530]

Richard I so value your opinions and your great sense of authenticity Thank u wise wise words

[@steveheliosone6174]

You’re spot on about therapy/therapists. I was referred to one recently through work, and in the introductory meeting he told me I needed to “embrace the suck.” I was in a crisis, confused about years of narcissistic abuse. Not even an attempt to earn his money. Sad that I get better info and advice from KZbin videos.

[@prairiesovereignty1753]

Yess to get closer to your goals, you need to make a plan, and complete tasks that have specific relevance that get you closer to those goals, and be consistent in TAKING ACTION every day.

[@tahnyaiva4494]

In 2 short weeks you've changed my life richard

[@jaseisonthecase1891]

Fab, straight forward talking. Givers have to set limits, because takers never do! As a generally kind person, I’ve been unkind to myself by helping others and suffered for it. I don’t blame them now and that’s because I’ve learned to say “bollocks” Their problem, isn’t my problem! Having had some serious problems of my own, it’s interesting to find who’s there for me! They are good people and everyone else can go……and I’ll leave the rest to your imagination! 🤣😜!

[@eatmeals3156]

You weren't angry - you were blunt and direct AF...what everyone reckons they want until you say something they don't like 😆

[@tashabourgoin2619]

Thank you! I agree 100%. Finally someone is talking about this!!!

[@wishes8737]

No it’s hard truth, I’ve been in therapy 5 years and still in pain and it’s the discipline to fight it. My problem is self worth and at 50 fear. You have spoken the truth.

[@BlueSky-ff4oy]

I caught the very end live only, and could NOT agree more that people need to MASTER the basics. There are some very nice people, whom you cannot "reach" for them to absorb and implement a basic point, without almoist being mean or shocking them, to get them to focus long enough or snap out of their trance of just not paying attention. I taught classes for 20 years in upscale places. One morning 8am unbeknown to me I was pre menstrual. And i said to the lively upscale ladies in e v e r y stance I have to address their foot position. Over and over. "Just LOOK down at your feet now, and look down in EVERY stance without me having to TELL you, so we can talk about the MYRIAD OTHER things we can never get to". They all got a fright and that was probably the SMOOTHEST class. But yes, we are phakked. We have to study and learn how to fix ourselves and some really big things are irreparable. Being beat into a Slave mentality comes to mind. By a narcissist.

[@carmensegger3162]

Greatly refreshing!!😁😁action and taking responsibility for myself!!

[@califgrl]

Took a couple of breaks in between (gotta work) but really appreciated what you had to say. Thanks Richard❣️

[@nancymc]

wow, what an eye opener. Really makes me think. We need to take full responsibility for ourselves in a nutshelf. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@chschaley]

I feel enlightened when I listen to your concepts. I am changing and for the first time since I was a child, I feel alive. I’ve started meditation, therapy, joined a recovery group and I am seeking change and moving in the direction of health. I also have always had an instinct that culture was going the wrong way.

[@chschaley]

Thank you!

[@WhitePelicansareReal]

Thank you Richard, this by far I think is the best content you have ever publicly put out. I agree with you 100%, you have not been cross or rude you are speaking of reality which is hard for some to swallow. Well done! Thank you also for the knowledge and reminder to get right with myself, no one will ever rescue me; only myself.

[@DeborahOlander]

This an amazing video. So much I agree with. So many years in therapy and so little healing. Also lack of boundaries is making this world miserable. No rules of courtesy, responsibility, expectations. This is why so many of our societies are failing

[@maggielynn7485]

Amen.. 25 years and just learned hes a covert N.. damn that was a punch in the face.. I’m not going back.. journaling reminders of pain and manipulation episodes to remind me who he really is.. heavy prayer work and personal responsibility on accepting behavior that I knew deep inside was not ok..shingles, IBS, migraines, eye pain, hair loss.. I knew I was not ok..

[@trishahunt79]

Straightforward no bs. That's what I'm here for!

[@AlwaysStampinVideos]

BEST video i have experienced so far on my five year journey of learning what narcissism is and the effects it has on people! TY so much for being brave enough to say things that many people won’t want to hear. There needs to be a collapse in the system. That’s how growth works in each of us. It will most certainly help (eventually) the mental healthcare system. Thx again for posting! I’m glad you care at least a little haha

[@lorrainenicoletti6232]

No bull sht ! And style . Been learning from you for awhile on U tube. Thank you

[@sfquigley]

You should make some merchandise "STOP THE ROTT! Agreed! I'm that gal you describe! Going on 3 years and still dealing with my Hoovering covert Narcissus. Setting my 3 intentions not giving into fear! Thank you!🙌♥️😁

[@flexcapazitor1940]

I thought the same thing about the shirt!!!

[@pennydreadful4028]

I appreciate you been so frank. Ive been thinking on these exact same lines the past two weeks and all it does is keep us stuck and living in the past. Im sick and tired of feeling stuck in the past. I'm done and I'll be damned but Im moving forward, growing up and taking responsibility for my own life.

[@waterbottle2183]

This was/is a good video. I’ve taken you up on a suggestion you made to a follower’s question - daily setting 3 intentions for 10 days “run the experiment” - also writing ✍️ them down.. Thank you..⚡️☀️

[@phoenixkali]

You're describing ad verbatim my therapist I quit after one session. Went in with a trauma of hyper-vigilance, came out retraumatized about my childhood which I left behind 30years ago and dealt with as an adult armed with knowledgeable tools I learned thru study at home by people much like you Richard. I didn't pay him, the adult in me doesn't bow to bullies like my inner child used to.

[@barbrarosen7224]

I’m in total agreement with all your say. Plus, your way of expression had me belly laughing. All so true! Love you.

[@DianaLDiehl]

Thank you for your insights. This perspective is crucial to moving to the next level in mature self responsibility. I believe psychotherapy has been essential in releasing me from the prison of psychological blindness analogous to words releasing Helen Keller from darkness. But it is not the end game. I hope the need for moving from passive self-contemplation to active responsibility becomes a normal part of therapy. And I hope I can make that transition because it's time to level up.

[@thisbeautifuljourney-empress66]

boundaries and accountability ~ great message Richard. Thanks!

[@sharonegan5245]

Wow Richard - I concur completely 👌 you’re right to become emotional about this

[@Sharon-kr1ui]

This was absolutely spot on.

[@janed7774]

This is a great message Richard.. I love everything you said .. 👋👋👋

[@Gotprivacy-noyoudont]

Wow- radical reality! I love it!!!!! Thank you.

[@sarah-mm5of]

I LOVE YOU RICHARD and how you shoot from the hip, calling all of it like you see it!!!!!!!!!

[@tree9top]

Spot on Richard.

[@bigbear3694]

Great vid Rich, more of this needed for sure 👍

[@opposingshore9322]

Best video you’ve made in a year.

[@cindylyadon35]

IT’s sucks finally waking up at 45 it’s like I’m a cup that can’t get enough food in knowledge now trying to turn this into wisdom, or betters actions I like how you have broke this down into basic concepts