The Quarter-Life Crisis Is More Stressful Than Ever

The quarter-life crisis is the first adult crossroads we come to in our lives... but are we really even adults when we get to it? In recent years we’ve seen a lot of attention given to quarter-life crisis stories, like Girls, Mood, We Are Lady Parts, Crazy Ex Girlfriend, High Fidelity, and Chewing Gum, as well as movies like Frances Ha, Shiva Baby, and Tiny Furniture.
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[@ImTHECarlos98]

I just turned 24, but my entire 20s have felt like one crisis. I’m hoping it gets easier by the quarter-century mark. Cmon frontal lobe..

[@lucypreece7581]

Dude, same.

[@LisaF777]

You've been in your 20s for only 3 years and a bit. A lot changes between 24 and 29 so stay strong.

[@trinaq]

Don't worry, you might not feel this way forever. Stay strong, you've got this. 💪😘

[@nowaymyname]

I’m 25, almost 26. Part of you will feel lost but I certainly feel like I know myself now. Just realize that you’re still young and can still choose to do whatever you want with your life.

[@ImTHECarlos98]

I go from worrying about my studies with all the weight of the past year holding me back, to worried about my employment now that I’m graduated and have nothing to do, no income yet. It’s sad because I worked my butt off for my engineering degree. But I just sit around all day and get stoned 🤷‍♂️

[@eyesofwater123]

I think one of the main cause of quarter life crisis is thinking life is linear, for instance: attend school, get married, settle down and live happily ever after by a certain age (this is just and example). Life isn't linear, stuff happens, things don't always go as planned, and that's ok. Life is a journey and we shouldn't feel shamed for not reaching certain milestones at a certain age. That's just my opinion.

[@kellylima649]

Thank you for putting into words what I feel. It’s so confuse to me that I’m living and felling things now close to 30s that I thought I should have “passed” as a teenager. But things aren’t really like this, there’s no chronological order to things in our life

[@cassandra2968]

That’s so true! I realized how unrealistic it is to make my life like a timeline.

[@eyesofwater123]

@@kellylima649 Anytime. I felt the same way in my earlier 20s because I was sheltered. I felt behind and socially inadequate but then I realized the road before you is longer than the road behind you and since then I don't sweat reaching these "milestones". Everyone's journey is different and it doesn't make you a failure just b/c you're not in the same position as someone who seems to "have it together" Good luck ❤

[@Piojo2276]

This really helped me thank you

[@thelonercoder5816]

no, not really. it's deeper than goals. And I don't want a "traditional" life of marriage and kids. My quarter life crisis is fueled by people moving on with their lives and questioning my purpose here on earth.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

As I said before: There’s a crisis for everyone at every age. I leave you with that as the world burns. Have a great day 🌈

[@fynnstarke]

wow thank you that's so insightful

[@rudigerh5234]

Thank you for enlightening us. I can see now.

[@sarahspeakss]

I like you.

[@bpswank429]

Are you gay ?

[@daniellevinson6975]

15 - 18 years: "Who am I? What's my path in life?" 18 - 24 years: "OK, I've got *some* idea! Let's see if I'm right." 25 - 26 years: "Looks like I've gotta go back to the drawing board..." Does anyone else think the above is a reasonable yardstick for tracking the next generation's development?

[@lolaagurl]

turning 26 next month and this is the exact timeline I experienced lol

[@daniellevinson6975]

@@lolaagurl 😮 You mean *all three* of the above applied for you?

[@TrulyMademoizelle]

THIS! After 4 years of college and you reach your mid 20s you realize, like me, you didn't really learn anything from your crap degree (media in my case) or what you thought you wanted to do isn't that anymore and now you have to restrategize your career choices while simultaneously trying to start saving for a house and family

[@lolaagurl]

yes, all three. you hit the nail on the head!

[@daniellevinson6975]

@@lolaagurl Cool, thanks!

[@PrettyPrincess9609]

I just turned 26 and I experienced the quarter life crisis at 25. I’m still going through it right now. I feel like a failure because my life didn’t go as expected. I didn’t get a house, I’m not working at a career that I love, I started to lose interest in making jewelry for my side business and I no longer want to work on it, I didn’t get married, I’m not financially where I want to be, I’m depressed, and I haven’t started crossing off things off my bucket list such as traveling the world.

[@MrEvldreamr]

Lower your expectations, you wont be nearly as depressed if you do. Youll begin to be appreciative of what you do have going for you.

[@fauxmintdissident]

@@MrEvldreamr “appreciative” for what? struggling? naw,

[@jessykaros]

same here. I don't know if it helps all that much, but just know you're not alone. I'm 26 and still living at home, trying to get my B.A is becoming bleek, I'm not married or even in a relationship, etc. Life is so hard rn that it literally keeps me up at night how I'm going to make it out of this place. sometimes I wonder if I made the wrong choice being a college student. I'm incredibly depressed and even suicidal. this doesn't have a happy ending, but I hope it helps knowing that you're not alone.

[@marvel096]

I feel this in my soul

[@TimeQuxxn]

@TheDream honestly don't accept mediocrity. Anyone has the power to take the control back of their own life.

[@johnypanta6208]

I'm constantly feel like I'm behind 5 years in my life. I experience things where in my head I should have 5 years ago. I'm 30 and I'm at a point where I should have been at 25. I felt the same thing when I was 25 for my 20s. When I was in my 20s I still felt like a 15 year old teenager.

[@calejacobs3448]

Same

[@tinamisuu_2390]

Can relate

[@Cinnamon38]

Same

[@aspergianstoryteller6204]

Same, mate.

[@nikkichehrazi]

i feel this way right now

[@EBThisThat]

I’m 42, still trying to figuring things out because I had to take care of my parents, but I’m just taking things as they come. Whatever happens happens.

[@AxxLAfriku]

should i skip school for youtube video making? i making good stuff but i need much time to making. maybe replace school with making videos. i have two girlfriends. thanks for your opinion dear tos

[@SunFlower-jr2qh]

@@AxxLAfriku this is a decision none of us can make for you. Perhaps consult a tarot reader to spur some direction from your stellar connections!

[@hbeachley]

@@AxxLAfriku as someone who went back to school later in life, go to college. It’s a lot more than just job training. You meet amazing people and are exposed to all kinds of ideas. AND it’s so much easier when you’re younger and have more energy. (But, like others said, you have to make your own choice.)

[@yagsidog]

@@AxxLAfriku had a look at your content. Don't skip school.

[@BeyzaByza]

@@yagsidog lmao🤣🤣🤣

[@bohgirl11]

High school makes you believe you're going somewhere when you get high letter grades, excel in sports or extracurricular groups, and achieve what the teachers tell you that you need to achieve. Then when you graduate, they're like, "You're on your own, bye"...and you suddenly don't know what to do next, unless you did your research and have a plan before graduating, which is definitely not easy. And then you're exposed to the stresses of real-life and you realize they prepared you for NOTHING! Or at least the bare minimum.

[@kkaugustine1958]

Needed to see this vid. 26 and WAY behind in life. Got Agorophobia at 18, and had JUST started getting out the house the last 2 years. So I didn’t go to college or anything! Was stuck in my house, in my own head. I’m trying to fix that rn and get higher education and out my parent’s house. Life can seriously suck and throw you curveballs for sure.

[@emily884]

take it one step and one day at a time! i actually developed agoraphobia during the lockdowns with covid and slowly getting better day by day :)

[@grazynawolska8160]

I feel for you, I also have mild agoraphobia.... lockdowns really retiggeted a lot of it :( what helps is going for small walks around the neighborhood daily... or even google map a location you're going to and see it before hand on the computer and virtually walk around. The netflix show "the cook of castamar" really helped me come to terms with it as the main character had a severe case.

[@TrulyMademoizelle]

You just started going out when everything was on lockdown 😂

[@kkaugustine1958]

@@TrulyMademoizelle Yeah, to the grocery store and the like. Little places. When you have severe agoraphobia, it’s hard to leave the house at all. I couldn’t even open my window! Much less step out my house at all. So going to the grocery store for the first time in years was a big deal for me.

[@TrulyMademoizelle]

@@kkaugustine1958 were you don't to WFH before the pandemic? Cuz this must be a huge plus for you

[@nataliabae3149]

I’m 21, soon turning 22, and it feels like everything I’ve done after high school has been damage control for what my parents didn’t prepare me for.

[@hayeslundry]

Oh that’s the rest of life basically.

[@toluwalaseogundare3411]

Me too

[@Kas_Styles]

Yes this.

[@ana.leorne]

from someone who's been (and survived!) through it: remember the process is not linear. you'll feel the existential dread. then it will pass. then it will come again. then it will pass again. and so on and so on. i'm 37 now, done most everything i ever wanted to do with my life (and more) and still have existential crisis on a regular basis. my take is that once you stop having them, your life is over. they're part of your constant growth.

[@ClaireCraig]

if thats you in your profile pic, you're gorgeous!!!

[@ana.leorne]

@@ClaireCraig oh wow, unexpected compliments from a very cool girl, thank you

[@greyLeicester]

Dont cut them, push them back

[@amkstj]

that's beautiful! thank you for the insight.

[@jenkinsjrjenkins]

It feels disheartening being single in the quarter life crisis. Cinema tells us a quarter life crisis ends with romance and finding a person to commiserate with. Even though self-love is so important to fulfill, it feels like a gut punch to be totally alone.

[@Takisan111]

My aunt found her true love at 40. She said that what's great about finding love later is that both already know who they are and what sort of things matter to them. I find this thought comforting as I also felt bad about being single during my quarter life. I'm glad I didn't so something dumb like rush into a relationship simply to be in a relationship.

[@virginijar2907]

who needs self love? all you need is a man!

[@hayeslundry]

Being single for almost all of my late 20s was the best thing ever your brain knows who it is so it can actually now start realizing what’s important in a partner. You can create real standards.

[@juliehwang]

right. I feel like an orpan. lol

[@dancingintherain7221]

Quater Life Crisis, turning 30 crisis, mid life crisis and all the crisis in between. I have come to the conclusion: to be a life is to be in some sort of ever changing crisis.

[@ikz8439]

oh wow i don’t know if this made me feel better or worse 😭

[@mimidlbx]

I was 25 when the covid bomb exploded in 2020… i felt SO lost because i was already planning a dream life and starting to take actions towards and because of an external force I had to stop everything 😭 It was such a chaotic time because it made me though so much about my life and my goals Thankfully I got a new job a week before turning 26 and it helped me rearranging my scattered self, life and goals 🙏 I was unemployed for 1 year before it, plus with the covid situation, I had a bunch of time within my hands that I used to go back to reading (as some sort of escape), that turned into a habit I don’t regret of getting back then lmao

[@zacharyrhodge]

Just turned 24. Going through “post-grad syndrome” in 2020, a time where you’re not really supposed to go anywhere or meet anyone, has easily been the harshest experience of my life so far

[@nikibronson133]

Well you’re not really at your quarter life yet you’re still in your early 20s but I get what you mean. I’m 23 and I’m turning 24 soon and this isnt where I thought my life would be at this point

[@alliecat1019]

I’m turning 30 and I feel like the last five years have been just one big quarter life crisis compounded by the world imploding.

[@ClaudiaHi]

Me too 😞

[@yekaterinakarnashauskaite1708]

Same

[@fabrinamacedo7257]

I just turned 29 and I can say the same.

[@kelseyford1974]

Me too :P

[@rupsachakraborty9386]

Same here

[@fcv4616]

I remember being thoroughly confused with myself between 24 and 26 years of age. It was at age 25 that I accepted to myself that I was gay and dared to move abroad, and at 26 I started feeling happier in my own skin. Maybe I was going through a quarter life crisis. I’m 33 now.

[@alicianelson1252]

27 here used to be supper stressed about aging but after covid I realized we could all go at any time so why is a certain age a big deal

[@hbeachley]

I’m almost 50 and I feel like I’ve been in “quarter life crisis” for 25 years. So, y’all are doin ok.

[@hotinmybags]

Sending you love and hoping bright days are ahead, you are so strong to be in the thick of this journey but still taking it one day at a time

[@hhk0698]

You scare me

[@ikz8439]

naurrrr

[@thatsoely]

It funny how when I was a teenager that I though in my mid 20s I thought I’d be a full adult but 24 and still figuring out everything!!

[@VideoDeadGaming]

You'll never figure out everything, accept it.

[@Takisan111]

@@VideoDeadGaming I think life would be really boring it we knew the answer to everything. It's fun waking up and learning something new. It keeps life fresh in a way.

[@nsteak4236]

Ughhh me rn

[@thatsoely]

@@VideoDeadGaming that’s really true and comforting

[@thatsoely]

@@nsteak4236 me forever lololl

[@nathy0308]

I had a major crisis at 17, another in my mid 20s, and currently having one now that I'm a week away from my 32nd birthday. "30" didn't hit me because my 30th was 2 months into the pandemic. But here it is now. I think it'll be easier after my mid 40s. This is what I tell myself. But maybe that's overly and naively optimistic.

[@danielafiguera1077]

Same here

[@natashadelvillarr]

This all makes sense. I turn 25 this year and I feel soooo stuck and depressed :(

[@Chris-rg6nm]

Women's brain finishes developing at 21, Mens continue until 24-25. Lots of people get this wrong.

[@alextroy9202]

I am turning 21 in a month & I feel this

[@huejanus6459]

Same :/

[@CookieBear187]

I’m at the crisis, almost 25. Questioning my 6-year relationship, not sure what job I can get after graduating, and when and if I can go to grad school. Definitely not an easy time to be 25.

[@Chris-rg6nm]

Women's brain finishes developing at 21, Mens continue until 24-25. Lots of people get this wrong.

[@charlesweil8035]

Not at all!!!!

[@Takisan111]

Ugh, yeah. I remember that time. I do not miss it. Suprisingly 30 was actually really nice in comparison.

[@rubytuesdayphoenix]

The "Saturn Return" when I turned 27 really kicked my ass. Like, I literally had a year and a half-long nervous breakdown (I don't really know how else to describe it- for 18 months and change I felt like, emotionally speaking, I was all raw nerve endings and pain), ended up in the hospital, impulsively chose to move out of state and go to grad school when I had absolutely no game plan as to why I was going back to school... I had dreaded turning 30 so badly, but once I did, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted and I could breathe again. Several years on, I'm still living in the city I'd moved to in such a bad state of mind (it's hard to articulate to people when they ask why I moved here- it's a much smaller city from the place I came from- without just admitting that essentially I was just trying to get away from myself), but I've made a life here, I found friends, I've made a home. Looking back, I realize that having that experience was the push I finally needed to get help for my depression and anxiety, which I've had since childhood. Just wanted to leave this here in case anyone is in a similar situation and is afraid of what the future might bring- sometimes, it's pretty cool.

[@sophieboulter2790]

And I think it’s important to acknowledge that the quarter life crisis can take a lot of different forms. For me, I’ve always been pretty sure in my vocation, but I had a lot I needed to figure out about my womanhood. What being a woman meant to me, in the society we live in. Sometimes the crisis can be a crisis of future personhood, rather than future career.

[@stephaniewilliams6756]

Bingo. And my acceptance that maybe the way womanhood has been defined by white culture means i dont identify as one anymore

[@yehetmykkaebsong]

Of course this video comes out on my 27th birthday - perfect timing. The first time ever that I've had no excitement for it and actually had to be reminded. Made no plans other than requesting to be left alone to recharge. Turning 25 in 2020 in the midst of a lockdown really has prolonged the crisis 😅

[@Kadaspala]

36 here. Starting this think there's scarcely any distinction between quarter, half, etc life crises and it's all just a singular non-stop adult life in the context of late stage capitalism crisis.

[@cassandra2968]

I spent the majority of my 25th year grieving from grandfather’s passing, dealing with depression, going to therapy, and taking care of my grandmother. I will be 26 this month and am finally working and attempting to enjoy my life little by little. The numbness is finally gone, but I still feel lost in life. I’ve also set boundaries in my family. Telling them how I feel about them as well as calling out how I’ve been taken advantaged of. If they need me, it’s on my own time. I’m tired of getting up and doing things at every beck and call. Not anymore!

[@marvel096]

My grandpa also passed last year, my 25th year as well, I feel this comment so much 😔

[@gabrielanava9996]

im so sorry you lost your grandfather, and hope you find your way in life, Blessings 😘😘

[@cassandra2968]

@@marvel096 I'm so sorry for your loss :(

[@mastersnet18]

That’s good that you’re putting boundaries with your family so young. I only started now in my 30’s.

[@cassandra2968]

@@gabrielanava9996 thank you 💕 and I wish the same for you if you haven’t found your way yet.

[@lovelyA933]

Didn't know this was a thing lol. I just turned 25 this year and I did feel a change in my body, but most importantly I have felt more at peace and calm. 19 to 24 was a rollercoaster, it was one huge crisis after the other but I feel a lot more optimistic now and I think it's because I've let go of toxic expectations and have slowly come to terms with my reality. I'm still uncertain about the future though, but not as much.

[@mohneysageisalie]

I'll be 29 next week. I still don't have my life figured out. I've been saving up for a house for awhile now but somthing always happens to cause me to lose my savings. Usually my car breaking down. My parents pay for my car insurance and my phone bill. I also don't have health insurance. I have a minimum wage job that is so easy and pointless that I take some of my time back by secretly working out in the storage closets.

[@100Stratusfiedx]

It hit me at 20 years old and I’m 24 now. It just sucks because by 25 most people have graduated college, just started a career, in a relationship, or have a family. It’s disheartening when you haven’t accomplished any of that.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

‘The Lost Daughter’ was quite intriguing and low-key unsettling but it made me happy that I can take tips on how to be happy and crisis will happen all the time so I might as well be happy sometimes.

[@lucypreece7581]

I just turned 24 a couple of weeks ago. Immediately had an existential crisis.

[@trinaq]

Happy Belated birthday, I can definitely relate!

[@lucypreece7581]

@@trinaq Thanks. it was during Easter weekend.

[@Chris-rg6nm]

Women's brain finishes developing at 21, Mens continue until 24. Lots of people get this wrong.

[@nsteak4236]

Mentally 22

[@whathell6t]

@@lucypreece7581 You’re not only alone. I had the existential crisis; and everyone had it and will event. It’s all about the struggle.

[@winterbutterfly8861]

"Before I know it I'm gonna wake up and be 23 and my life is gonna be behind me" My 23 years old self who has never even had a boyfriend: lol

[@jackcadaver8848]

Just turned 25 so I'm feeling this HARD especially because I feel like so much of my life got put on hold cause of the pandemic Coming out of it as a 25 year old when I went in as a 23 year old is a terrible trip! But it's so true, I really did feel that shift in thinking that people talk about...

[@brunaramalhogalamba4884]

I turned 25 this year. And I promissed myself to make this year the best one yet. And so far, it is. I experienced the "quarter life crisis" when I was 18. Even as a teen, I had always felt and behaved as if I was in my middle 20s, and now, my real age has reached the age I always felt I was. Now people say I actually behave my age. I'm not a failure because I don't own a house or a car. I am in the degrees that I love and wanted, I'm in a career I love and fought for, I am exploring more the things I love and exploring new places and experiences. I am crossing things off my bucket list. My family is healthy and happy, and that is what matters. I may not be where I wanted to be financially, I may not be where I wanted to be regarding health yet, but I will get there. As I have always heard: "what matters IS getting there, not WHEN you are getting there". And that is all you need to think about. Don't measure your success and milestones comparing yourself to others timelines.

[@amazingdoublea]

I've been 25 for 3 months and I feel like a whole different person honestly. I'm EXCITED to be a REAL adult. Learning things about myself, having new experiences. It's all so exciting and feels like I've been given a new chance to live.

[@trinaq]

Congratulations, I have also been 25 for the same amount of time. The human brain doesn't fully mature until we reach 25, so that might be part of why we feel slightly mature by the time we reach our mid 20s.

[@amazingdoublea]

I also was a suicidal teenager so I feel VERY lucky to even see this part of my life. Very blessed. Very excited to see even the new struggles I'll have in adulthood.

[@Chris-rg6nm]

Women's brain finishes developing at 21, Mens continue until 24-25. Lots of people get this wrong.

[@micdaveydancer]

My crisis started at 25 in 2020 which is a terrible time to start. Had recurring panic attacks about who I am, all that has happened, and how clueless I was about where I was going. I’ve had 2 years of therapy and it’s gotten better so there is hope. I also think turning 27 felt like a real shift. I gained so much clarity and empathy for my past self and those around me. To all those in their early to mid 20s, hang in there and keep close to good friends✨

[@sweetimmortalife]

As a woman just freshly turned 25, this video made my struggles feel seen and validated. Thank u so much The Take. Love your channel and video essays. 😭💖

[@natnat8393]

At 29 I felt like I began to experience my "quater life crisis". At 25 I felt like I was still relatively young (which I was) and learning but now at 30, I sometimes feel like should have had more sorted than it is now. I spent my whole youth playing a major role in helping my single parent dad take care of my younger siblings (which in turn severely affected my mental health and when couple with literally no support, it spiralled and got worse). While I do love them, their lives are better off at a young age than mine now (uni educated, no debt, having their own place, etc) so I feel left behind. Especially when compared to a lot of my old high school mates. I'm sure that there are 35 year olds who feel that way too. Despite all that has happened to me, I still think 25 is a bit too young to feel like your life is ending, especially considering that people are increasingly leading far longer, healthier lives. With that said, I believe that comparison (the "thief of joy") is the real enemy here so the aim is for us to learn that it's ok for us to through life at our own pace. Stay safe kids

[@weirdgirltrope8584]

I’m 24, will be 25 this year and I’ve had this crisis ever since I quit college in 2020. Not by choice but because of money issues. I still don’t know what I want out of life but I had found my niche…it’s just going to take me longer to reach my goals. I might be 30 before I have my life ‘together’ but watching your slow adulting video made me feel so much better for slow adulting. ❤️‍🔥

[@prepare_for_trouble_and_ma7750]

1997 🤝

[@Genedide]

I want to rid of the social concept of "adults/maturity"- that working 8-12 hours a day imminently after graduating college with only going out 2 times a year is "superior" to "immaturity." It's destroying out community & dating life. Apparently, I'm supposed to be able to go LA-->NAS, be eating charcuterie boards for brunch, and going to Tulum and Las Vegas every year. I'm 25 but I'm living each day like I have 5 years left. Me I've been an undergrad for 7 years, now I'm gonna be stuck in my hometown for another 2-3 trying to pursue a programming certificate so I can finally start my Master's in Statistics & move to DFW. Oh, and fuck monogamy & marriage; don't forget to form a union!

[@josefk7437]

Most quarter life problems are about the means to establishing yourself not being accessible.

[@denisiyaden1231]

I was 18 when covid came to our world and it left me without last months of high school, first months of college, left me without friends which then led to depression and me leaving my studies. Two damn years of my youth I'm sitting at home trying to figure it all out but it seems just impossible... I'm sad that there are many people like me but I'm glad that I'm not the only one

[@miaandmelanie]

As I smoke out the window, 3 months into 24, I am damn scared for what’s to come. I graduated in debt in the pandemic and are far from my career goals. Hell, I picked my major wrong! As I get more debt (and cats…), I wonder when will my life really start. I aM terrified it never will.

[@RobbieManic]

25 - on a postgraduate course (teacher training), broke up with my partner of 3.5 years and had to move back into my parents' house before I move out on my own, very much like Tiny Furniture. Also had a major self-realisation and embracement of self identity over the last year. So, yeah; the Quarter Life Crisis hit me hard.

[@BeyzaByza]

I'm 24 and I've spent my last couple years facing with quarter life crisis. Lately, last week actually, I finally got out of it. It wasn't easy period but I'm so grateful that I experienced it before being 25. Some people doesn't question their lifes until 30s or even 40s... I finally know what I want, the way I wanna live my life, who I wanna be, etc... Good luck everyone:)

[@MekareP]

I'm 37 and I think my entire adult life has been a crisis. Either through bad decisions I didn't know I made or world/societal issues. Peace, what's that?

[@purpleflows5680]

Agh, I feel this so fundamentally😔

[@nicolec8884]

Same here and I'm 36 😑

[@muscular-lr6er]

It's amazing that most consider our mid to late 20s as the geriatric phase. I'm 26 graduating with my first bachelors degree and in two years building my first home. Yet I'm still figuring out what else to do with my life. I still want to enjoy the parties and the vacations in my 30s and 40s.

[@PoojaPatel-mj7pz]

I feel this. When I was 23-24 I had made peace with the fact that I wasn't where I thought I would be in terms of milestones (still in school, single, not financially independent etc). But when I turned 25 all those feelings about being behind in life hit me again. I know everyone's life journey is different but I feel like I need to be more put together now. I feel like I will probably get over myself at like 26 only to get the same feeling back when I'm 30. 😂

[@KattMurr]

I'm going to be 50 in September (!) and still have no idea who I am...or what I want to do with my life....the first 50 years of childhood are the hardest....lol....

[@jerlinej3516]

This channel can be really cathartic

[@ashwinipurandare9418]

I am 32 and i feel like my quarter life crisis never stopped ans its getting worse day by day. I am not lazy. I try to make my time as productive as possible but i feel like my life isn't going anywhere.

[@avacadotoast5492]

I'm 22 about to be 23 and it's making me feel so anxious. I feel like 2+ years of my life were just wasted in a way because of the pandemic.. it's sad and it sucks.

[@honeycomb97]

I'm turning 25 in June. I'm a high school drop out on disability for depression and anxiety living with my parents. My best friends all seem to have their shit together from the outside and I avoid them because I don't want them to know just how much I've failed to catch up. Can't even think about starting school until after COVID, and I lack the will and emotional stability to socialize or develop that way. Just feel so lost.

[@thewayoffire9316]

I’m more or less in the same situation as you. In 2013 I graduated high school, went away to study history and sociology (I’m an Italian living in Switzerland and went to school in another language which isn’t mine). After two years I dropped out and came back home, had two internship in social services for two other years, went to school again to be an elementary school teacher but dropped out again due to anxiety and depression. Since then I’ve been on disability too. I’m 29 now and don’t know what to do next. I’m trying to take care of my health and traveling but COVID makes it difficult. I want to go back to study one day. Hope everything will turn out ok for you ♥️

[@ikz8439]

@@thewayoffire9316 i wish you so much luck, hope, and happiness towards your way. seriously. that’s tough. i’m proud of you, whoever you are ❤

[@thewayoffire9316]

@@ikz8439 Thank you

[@joey1723]

@online I'm so sorry that you're going through a tough time. Please never give up hope. I'm a similar age to you and I too have had several mental health crises. During those times, it always seems like everyone else is together but you - I can assure you that this is not true. Everyone goes through tough times but in this social media age, we're tricked into thinking everyone around us is deliriously happy. Hold on, things will get better I promise.

[@lucky-belindaniko9732]

I can relate to this so hard. I just turned 30 and I feel like my life is just beginning. I struggled a lot in my 20s because I couldn't find a job so I wasn't financially stable. I also couldn't move out of home after studying abroad and experiencing independence. I felt like my life was a lie because I had two degrees and my career wasn't going the way I had hoped. To add insult to injury I kept comparing myself to my peers who had stable jobs and seem to be figuring out their lives. By my late 20s I was done and I decided to become an entrepreneur. Now I own a fashion brand and I'm building it from the ground up. I'm taking it day by day and not allowing societal pressure to get to me. I am much happier as I love being my own boss, and I have the freedom to be creative. It also helps that I have really good business partners. All in all, life is what you make it! Don't be afraid when things don't go as planned. The road to success is NOT a well paved one!

[@ikz8439]

❤

[@marissawilson9460]

Yeah I still feel this way now in my 30s. Can’t buy a house, can barely afford anything, feeling like my 20s in University were a waste and I’ve lost some of the best years.

[@m.g.m.6408]

I really needed this video. I’m still 21 but this year I finish uni and I’ve felt really pressured to know exactly what I’m going to do with my life afterwards by every adult around me. I feel like I’ve lost most of “the best years of my life” (uni experience) due to COVID and now I just have to become an adult by force. I needed to hear this to remind myself that I still have time to know myself and that life is messy and that’s ok

[@PokhrajRoy.]

‘Wild’ by Cheryl Strayed is actually a beautiful memoir. It’s so beautifully written.

[@AlbertoEscalante15]

I would say I felt this (and sometimes still do) at 26. What happens is that you realize that you will, indeed, get old, like everybody else, and that you’re not that different or special. I will say though, that knowing that you’re just like everybody else lessens that voice inside your head constantly pushing you to beat yourself up about what you haven’t achieved. I, for example, didn’t enroll in college until I was 23. I was considered an “average” high school student and I thought it was more important to take some years to learn about myself. At 23 I enrolled in a community college and after a year I transferred to an Ivy League, whereas someone may have gone to college right after high school without really knowing their strength and weaknesses, gotten a degree in something they would never work in, just to return to school. Forget the timeline; focus on you, your growth, all else will come once you focus on maximizing your potential in ALL areas.

[@samfilmkid]

I thought I had everything figured out at 26, then BOOM, Covid, then BOOM cancer diagnosis. I am okay now, in remission thankfully. But yeah try going through all that in your mid twenties and add lymphoma to the mix. I can't even watch the Worst Person in the World because I know there is a character who gets cancer and dies.

[@maksimnikiforovski2034]

You know your audience well! Thank you, The Take

[@Soniakilovaki]

This is the video I needed the most and I want to thank you. SInce I've turned 25 (and bit before) I was searching for these movies, so thank you for giving me a great list. Now, I am almost 26 this sh*t still happening, I hope to figure out soon!

[@collingreen5592]

It's relieving to see I'm not the only person dealing with this. The personal expectation we've all given ourselves to be something great, to have great things, to do great things and have it all figured out already... it's tough. Seeing people in your life who are already better off and just asking yourself what they did right and what you're doing wrong. Not having the answers, not having a clear cut path to follow is hard. But its a path that we don't have to walk alone.

[@HeVn7LaO]

What is sad about it is because some/most of us can’t afford to wait for ourselves to be adults because we are breadwinners or pressured to earn for a family or help a parent financially…i know it is not the story in the US but here in the Philippines it is a common practice…to the point that sometimes children take care of their parents at the same of time taking care of their own families…

[@87glassrose]

I am ten years past my crisis and boy did I do some silly things at that age. Relationship with a really inappropriate person. Moved across the country and abandoned my young nieces. But I came back to it all and settled into the life but still wasn’t ok I also had to leave the faith I had grown up in that probably did the most good and now I have a decent life with a good man.

[@ninreck5121]

you unironically mentioned the bee movie? I've never been more proud

[@PKMNFan4664]

I'm 22 and while that may seem so young, for nearly a year and a half, I've felt so unaccomplished and felt like I've done very little I want to do, and it seems to compound my nihilism. I've pretty much been like this since my 21st birthday in February 2021.

[@yahyarajaee5883]

I feel like none of us the kids of the late 90s have been truly happy since we hit puberty. It’s always one thing after another without a halt and is killing us slowly. Honestly how many of us can confidently say that we were/are happy with during the last 10-15 years?

[@loverrlee]

I’m 32 and I don’t think I ever left the crisis…..

[@RudolphManor]

Our 30's are the last stage of our young adulthood as we are transitioning from our young adulthood to middle age in our 40's. I'm 33 and I'm feeling closer to 40 than 21. Lol! Especially when I feel a mental shift happening where I feel older than I really am most times. 💯 When time passes by so fast, it's like a flash of light. That's why I don't rush my time, because I get better with time when I take my time and enjoy the time I have left here on earth. 🌍

[@indrinita]

I’m actually in my mid 40s now and it wasn’t really until my 30s I have to say that I finally found a good person to be in a healthy relationship with and by the end of my 30s finally finish my schooling (when I decided I needed to finish my master’s degree) that my life really started to feel like I had a direction that felt satisfying to me. After a string of bad relationships, travelling a ton, starting, stopping and restarting then finally finishing two bachelor’s degrees in my 20s (the second of which was finished in 2007, just in time for the financial crisis of 2008), I just felt like I was drifting from one survival job to another, not sure what my next steps could be. I actually did have a pretty good idea of what I wanted to do in my life at that time, but every door seemed to be closed to me, there was no way I could see that I could build up my career. I felt so beholden to forces that were simply not under my control. The only thing I had going for me was that I graduated without any debts. It seriously took two decades of theoretical “adulthood” and a move outside my country before I finally started to feel the tide turning. I just want to say here that sometimes these things are not necessarily due to bad decision making or poor guidance, though those things certainly don’t help the situation. If you’re living in a time or a body where the circumstances are against you succeeding and finding your path, you have to swim upstream for decades sometimes, trying things that no one told you could be helpful, before some things start to click. As a younger GenXer who is at the cusp of the older end of the millennial generation, not only was our generation screwed over by boomers once we started our careers, but we didn’t have the benefit of a healthy or “spoiled” childhood like stereotypical millennials had. This meant just trying a whole bunch of different things for years and years, making tons of mistakes, and eventually, hopefully finding a way that works. There really is no formula for people like us. We simply have to do, that’s all, including “making mistakes”, and while hoping it will all make sense one day. Plenty of people don’t even get that lucky. I honestly believe we’ve been screwed over by previous generations, well particularly the boomers. Now I am simply trying to work in a field that not only won’t be harmful for future generations, but actually lay a path that will make things easier for them in all the ongoing and coming crises.

[@tsrocks2029]

Very insightful

[@saraangel6696]

I’m 29, and i felt completely fine at 25. No crisis, nothing. But cut to my 29th birthday and omg i don’t know what to do with my life or where it’s headed. I don’t know what i like, want, need or anything. I feel lost. The querter life crisis is only starting to hit me

[@emily884]

i've been in a quarter-life crisis since my late teens until now at 24. still recovering from things that happened then and other events that keep on happening

[@alextroy9202]

Sameee

[@greyLeicester]

A size 10 would have been perfect 😖

[@FinalfantasyFRANtic]

Thanks for this!! I'm having a really difficult time transitioning from Uni into a Job right now, and having someone spell out that you grow up at your own pace really helps.

[@snowrose6253]

I had this really big crisis when I reached 18. I expected to be more mature all of a sudden and people in my life sure as hell expected me to act like an adult...but I just felt the same. If anything the expectations just made me depressed and more emotional.

[@stevegeorge6880]

By the way, I'm kind of surprised that you didn't at least mention Douglas Copeland's book Generation X in which he explicitly refers to a mid-20s breakdown experienced by people that is often marked by introduction to Ritual substance abuse.

[@valentinabernal6698]

Im 23, i think i am in the mist of the crisis. I recently dropped off of law school and changed my direction completely upside down. I've been in and out of depressive episodes since i was 15 and i just recently realized that it was because of societal and family expectations of me, amongst other family and personal problems, And even tho im still battling depression and major anxiety disorder, the choice i made of leaving law school is almost the only thing that has brought me joy in the past 5 years of my existence. I hope i can get well soon and that i can succeed in this new life path I decided to choose, this new life im creating its whats keeping me alive tbh. Sorry for the broken English, its not my native language. I hope everyone that finds themselves in the middle of this quarter life crisis is able to get out and well soon and also i hope you all are able to find what truly makes you happy.

[@vloggetts]

In awe at how you guys managed to make the bee movie profound 😂😂

[@JasmineTea127]

The Take always puts videos out right as I need them

[@BKME19]

I enjoyed the “30 crisis” you all posted last month as I am in my 30s, but this quarter life video is also enjoyable as it feels like just yesterday I was relating to this video. Life def gets “clearer” in your 30s, but one thing is for sure, we learn everyday and are constantly evolving! Every decade is always something new! Love ‘The Take

[@hafsaz4513]

That opening clip was killer because I am literally turning 25 in June! Which is something I've been dreading since I turned 24 😅

[@RegalCandy]

I had a rough quarter life crisis. I hit a wall and literally had a nervous breakdown. I was so optimistic and all of a sudden I didn’t feel like the sky was the limit. I was married with two kids and a home owner by 25. I literally thought all there was left to do was die! I was terrified of turning 30. I’m 34 now and it all seems silly in retrospect but I also weep for my younger self cause I had no clue and no one to give me advice. I vow that I will be there to help my daughters through this difficult time cause it gets better, way better. ❤️

[@zaeemakhan1170]

25 this year guys ✌

[@trinaq]

Happy Birthday in advance, I hope that you enjoy the day!

[@elizrebezilmadommdo1662]

At 22, I can relate to this and I have no idea if I'm ever going to get out of it.

[@luhedi6303]

I definitely went through a quarter life crisis. I thought about my life and feeling unaccomplished and just broke down crying and had to call a good friend who is their thirties. She talked me down and consoled me. I feel better now and I am still continuing college, I am trying to make a future for myself at my own pace.

[@akshatawhaval8495]

Today, just today I truned 21 and had this same discussion with my friend on this particular crisis I feel like you just read my mind and told me the exact thing I needed to hear thank you sooo much for this amazing gift. This might be the most useful gift I got today.... Thank again @thetake❣️❣️❣️❣️🥺🤗

[@Chris-rg6nm]

Women's brain finishes developing at 21, Mens continue until 24-25. Lots of people get this wrong.

[@emelyblixt4172]

I turned 25 right in the beginning of the pandemic, I was on sick leave due to burnout, I quit my job because I couldn’t go back to that toxic environment and I have never felt so worthless. I was even living with my parents. Exactly a year later, I was in grad school, got my dream job and was living with my boyfriend. Now at 27, I’m about to graduate, I have been offered to stay at my job that I love and my boyfriend and I are looking to buy a home. So trust me, it gets better. Maybe not on my timeline, but a crisis will pass

[@thekingofoktimes]

I'm 25 now and will be 26 soon. I look at my life and I feel like haven't done much and not experienced much. This makes me feel unprepared and unsure about taking on challenges and achieving goals expected of me by society in the next few years; career, financial security, marriage, etc. What makes it harder is not having a partner and my friends slowly but surely drifting away after college, hence not having someone with whom I can navigate this.

[@user-nk8cj8sz1l]

Thanks for this, im just going through that crisis, and let me tell you these few months, counting from january, has been the hardest. Hopefully it will get better this month 😁

[@thePribs]

My entire 20s was a series of crises. But after I turned 30, things started looking up. Turning 32 in a week and I feel like my life is getting wonderful. 💕😊 I think what changed is i finally started to love myself.

[@maylalyons677]

My 20's we're awful!! It wasn't until I turned 30 that something finally "clicked" and even then it was still a few years after that before I stopped sweating every little thing!

[@Zeverinsen]

I celebrated my 25th birthday in the middle of the pandemic. My mid 20's have felt like some sort of surreal limbo, like these two years haven't happened and that I'm still where I started. NGL, I feel so stuck right now... But I've applied for a couple of studies coming up this autumn, and moving to a new city is a daunting prospect, but maybe it can help tackle this sense of... *Imprisoned rootlessness.* I've finally found something I'd like to do with my life. I hope it works out!

[@chinnyb4942]

I really needed this. I recently turned 27 and I feel like I'm in a standstill. I feel like there has to be more to life than just working, going out, rinse and repeat.

[@stephanieevans9223]

This video came at the perfect time for me!! I’m about to graduate uni in July, and while I have some goals and plans in mind, the future is extremely unknown, and it’s scary that there’s no definitive pathway anymore. When we’re kids, everything is planned and structured for us by our parents and community, so it’s daunting to have to be an adult and make those decisions ourselves. It doesn’t help that other people will have expectations for us even though it’s supposed to be our time to make our own decisions. I guess all we can do is be smart and trust ourselves.

[@iriseyez]

I’m 23 and trying to figure out what my life is pointing towards. Trying to become a teacher in this teacher shortage but it is hard.

[@AnnetteWarren]

I turned 24 in 2009. I had just graduated business school when the financial meltdown began. There were no jobs and I definitely had a crisis. Now it seems so long ago and all my worries were for nothing.

[@Vivalarosa45]

I'm 43 and I still don't have it all "figured out". I guess I never will and I accept that. I had crazy times when I was in my 20s but now that I'm older and a bit slower I take this whole growing older thing one day at a time.

[@christophersmith210]

I’m 28, and have been in constant state of life crisis where I created my persona; someone who embodies CHAOS fueled by his inner battles between good vs evil and doing the right thing, being a good person and being a nice guy- but never getting respect no matter how hard he tries so when he starts getting a little more sarcastic, a little more aggressive and having some attitude; his friends n family tell him that’s not the right way. So he finally realizes that nothing he does will ever be good enough; and when he does create his own future, people don’t like his motives even though he’s doing things his way. So he finally starts slowly sinking deeper n deeper until he is all about gone. And when he finally sheds the last bit of his old self and now he can finally be The Villain he was born to be.- this is called storytelling and it’s my bread n butter for why I write n create

[@floragcaldeira]

Turning 25 in the beginning of a pandemic made the crisis even worse