The real reasons for ADHD tax

[@lyannecb8499]

After watching this video, I went and cancelled Audible and Kindle subscriptions! I feel so proud of myself for persevering, as one took half an hour to work out how to do it and get through the "But are you sure?" messages! (ie, the one I was actually paying money to, as opposed to the free subscription which hadn't gone onto payment yet...) We can do it! Thank you for body doubling me, let's share the chocolate that's the reward! 🍫

[@MeldaRavaniel]

I'm super proud of you!!

[@lyannecb8499]

@MeldaRavaniel thank you! And I'm super proud of all of us!

[@danr.5017]

These apps are also built using a bit of unfair consumer psychology to frustrate people into stop cancelling their subscriptions. These "Dark patterns" work a little too well on people with ADHD.

[@wolfdragon4176]

the headphones one is so real. I moved out last week and found 8 pairs

[@ADHD_love]

Lovely find!! Now you won't have to buy any more for at least a week! 😆

[@aidenflame1576]

Headphones hack? Barely lose em if u almost never take em off. But now i have a diff problem which is getting them replaced or buying new ones cuz the old ones wear out cuz i can barely stand not having headphones amd earplugs on most of the time I actually got to nap a bit earlier with just my earplugs and it was heavenly. Rubbung my ear on the pillow. Wish i could more often lmao Ps i share a room so thts why. If i could id get those soft sleep headband headphones

[@Goshdarnet]

My poor husband doesn't even say anything about me bringing home notebooks, binders, stationary, pens, stickers and worst of all, books, that he knows i will never read.

[@ADHD_love]

Awww, Love the none-judgement. 🥰

[@mardellantolin2498]

Same!

[@kassard1]

I feel so seen ...or is that called out? 😅😅😅

[@nansw]

I currently have a hazard on the stairs it includes unopened paint and unopened rollers and brushes, also a pile of decorative items. Six months sounds a bit quick, lol

[@autumnsimril535]

I have $500 of painting supplies beside dozens of Amazon boxes (because I might need that cardboard) next to Halloween decorations I bought last year. I can't stand to be inside my house because I need it clean but I have nothing to do when I am off work beside to go shopping and make the mess worse. I work 11 hrs a day because any less would not be good enough. I am scheduled to take today as a vacation day but I came in because I am afraid that if I am not here for 1 day they may decide they don't need me at all.

[@kristinburton4953]

It's been 20 twenty years for me.

[@MakeupCleaningAndCats]

@@autumnsimril535oh wow 11 hours sounds rough! Maybe if you’re gone for a day they’ll realize they do need you! But aww you should have taken the day off 😢 music can sometimes make cleaning a little bit more fun lol, but yeah 11 hours is a lot

[@MakeupCleaningAndCats]

I’m glad I don’t have stairs lol 😂

[@lizard-breathOG]

I currently have been painting my rv interior one bit at a time. Finally painted everything after a year.. it’s not the right color so I’m starting over. (It doesn’t match the not painted parts, and somehow I couldn’t tell until I put all the cupboards back on) Here’s to another year 😂

[@baejay798]

Missed appointments that you have to pay for anyway and then make new ones and pay for those as well. Groceries all the time, not just with special diets. Trying new subscriptions and never using them. Hobbies that cost money that you hyper focus on for a week and then lose all interest in. Missed opportunities for pay raises and better positions at work. ADHD is expensive.

[@janedoex1398]

Just have mold or scabies, your groceries will rot the moment you touch them. *sarcasm off* Yes this is a real situation.

[@emilyrose9082]

Even walking round the corner to my mums is hard without headphones I feel you ❤

[@hannajung7512]

I cannot even exist in my home without headphones...

[@brianrosenthalbudack]

Keep headphones, socks, and a towel in a dry bag in the car. As an aud adhder it's a life saver.

[@LibraryAce]

A towel is about the most massively useful thing you can have!

[@marlene606]

​@@LibraryAce why?

[@minnythechihuahua934]

whatever the items, I try to duplicate them in different places like home/work/car.

[@johnfloden6406]

Yes... to all of that. Plus you missed one. I've lost a lot of money from mail-in rebates that I never got around to sending.

[@pattie2day]

Me too !!

[@dxg999]

It's Tesco vouchers for me.

[@brightpage1020]

I won $20 on a lottery ticket I’m too ashamed to tell my husband I bought for $5, so I haven’t cashed it. Been in my car for 4 months at least. Waiting for me not to throw it out by mistake now that I’m driving kids to school.

[@fanime1]

I've actually tried mailing those before and never got anything. I wonder if it's a lie or something

[@wizardofaus2985]

And vouchers..

[@verniceaure4865]

5 years ago, I started carrying a small (5 in x 8 in) bag with crossbody straps to carry my essentials around the house: earpods, phone, small notebook & pencil, asthma inhailer, glucose test kit and random bits. I live in a 2-story house with a basement so my health/ mobility issues meant that I didn't have the energy to backtrack and/or try to find misplaced items. Now that I have to use a walker or 2 canes, I don't have extra hands to carry things. I wish that I had thought of it sooner. It hasn't completely eliminated the ''oh, crap - I left my phone downstairs", but it's a lot less and my family appreciates that.

[@Annii_Oakley_]

@@verniceaure4865 I wear a waist pouch 🤭🤗

[@bettertogether5774]

Just had to say finally after buying your book about a month ago and after much procrastination 😂 I finally had the motivation to pick it up and read it thinking just one chapter like usual a week and I will be fine after 4 hours of hyper focus I am half way through already only one other book in my entire life have I been able to do that with thank you it's brilliant. Going to get tested for Autism to as think I might be AUD.

[@skittles2055]

You did it! 🙌 making the choice to do it And actually follow through is a victory for sure! Pat yourself on the back 🌟 the little things really add up!

[@user-px5lm9gl2n]

I read your book and almost cried when you called it ADHD tax. My parents use to call it stupid tax and would say that I will learn for next time.

[@skittles2055]

💕

[@rick881]

Wow. Family, the other F-word. Kind of started an RSD rage on your behalf there. (I do not associate in any way with my parents anymore)

[@BenjaminKibbey]

"Yah, but I do need spares..." So, so many spares. Which I will not be able to find and so buy more spares. Theoretically, eventually there should be enough spares I will come across them every time I turn around, and maybe some of them won't even be the broken ones that only half-work, but which I held onto because I can never find any of the spares and a half-working set is better than no set. Also applies to reading glasses, pens, and phone chargers. ADHD is why I buy earbuds, reading glasses, charging cords, nail clippers, and any number of other things in bulk packages.

[@seabrookel5037]

My mom says if you go to grab a thing and can’t quickly find one, it just means you don’t have enough of them yet and should go buy another. Eventually you’ll reach a saturation point where there will always be one readily findable. 😆 Hers is scissors; last time I went into her desk drawer for a pen I found seven pairs there. 😆

[@papaspaulding]

goes to open letter, sees red writing, "phew! dont have to open that," *throws it in the bin forgets about it

[@ADHD_love]

HAhahahahaha!! This is too true!!

[@marlene606]

I lost my headphones and my plugs, also a dog brush. Only a dog brush was found in it . This is a nightmare losing all the time staff you need every day.

[@jbug884]

Omg! I’m a pain in the arse! This just highlighted it! 😮 “It’s me, hi, I’m the problem it’s me” 😂

[@laurencook2076]

It's the headphones for me. Felt so hard I can't even put it into words correctly

[@AT53000]

Beyond real!

[@herbststern2378]

Haha headphones and sunglasses. I can't without both. I have so many. You would think I could find them when I leave the house.

[@ladylilac4363]

My tax was nearly $100 in late and overdraft fees this month.😭 I've been so good for so long! I had surgery 3 weeks ago, I'm stuck in bed and it's mucked everything up. I can't afford this.

[@skittles2055]

💕

[@nictnt8197]

ONLY 5 pairs??? This kne spoke to me. I can't walk around Walmart without them just about. But that's ok, they sell them..... lol😅

[@DanaMac1977]

Love you guys! This hits hard! One of my big ones are the reusable shopping bags that I have a billion of because I forget to bring them in with me shopping so then I buy more!! I do keep them in the car now which is a least a step in the right direction! Cheers from Australia. Could you guys do one on alarms? I literally probably set 8 alarms a day just so I don’t forget…well EVERYTHING 😂

[@catalysthellgoddessadept3019]

I find keeping one of the reusable bags on the passenger seat of my vehicle helps me to remember to grab them before I go into the store. Unless, of course, I'm "just getting one item," (it's never just 1 item) so I don't even need a bag. In which case I come out awkwardly carrying the invariably bag of groceries I got to the car so I can put them in a reusable bag there. Progress not perfection I guess....

[@bridquet]

@@DanaMac1977 that’s a kicker… the bag stays in the car. I have shopping boxes with handles. They are my safety-net / emotional-support-guide-box. Shop with the box. When it’s full, game over, go to the check-out. If it doesn’t fit, it doesn’t sit… in the car… or the entry-way at home… or on the kitchen counter… or on the bed… or the floor… or stacked on top of the floordrobe if/when there is no more floor… ugh, I am a hot mess (literally, menopause is the inner-furnace turned up to 11!!) I will stop typing now. Bye-bye. Good luck, my dearests.

[@catlifechannel3886]

Alarms are the only way I don’t have mouldy washing, or burnt food, or missed appts.

[@DanaMac1977]

@@catlifechannel3886 I’m reading this reply as another of my alarms ring 😂

[@susanne5803]

That's why my backpack is always so heavy. I have duplicates of everything I might need in there. And since I don't find them immediately, they turn into triplicates and quadruplicates (are those even words?) ... I intend to empty and reorder my backpack once a year. I end up emptying my backpack in the store when I buy a new one, because the old one tore ... Sigh.

[@briana9918]

They're words now 😂

[@bridquet]

Woof. It is ruff. It appears we may be ADHD soul doppelgängers. So so sorry. So so so so sorry. 😢 (ps. Hi. We are not alone! Tho we may never meet, I feel the feels.)

[@12210830]

I have so many large "purses" and also backpacks, it's hard to keep track of things. Whichever one I'm using will get too full, so I'll condense what's in it and put what I really need in a different bag to use. Stuff is in every single bag, whether I'm using them or not. Makes looking for things take longer and/or impossible. Especially if I can't find all of the bags. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Some days I wonder how I survive at all. Yikes.

[@bridquet]

@@12210830 you & me both. A go-to “solution” (for me) that comes around & goes around in cycle, (then alternates with one bag. One. But, I need me some fun & variety, so back to the multi-purse multi-verse.) Keep all bags with duplicate everything. All-the-things in every purse, backpack, tote… and when my space-spaz time continuum crashes, I don’t have time to check before going out the door and grab n’ stuff a “back-up” bag to have in the car 😵‍💫 The great mystery of life really is HOW did we actually make it this far??? Because… What? Why? How? Huh???

[@susanne5803]

@@12210830 It really helps sometimes not to have money. I have and use only one backpack until it tears unfixably and then I buy a new one. My mother used a bag in a bag with a zipper. She put in all her most important stuff and just stuffed this bag in whatever bag she intended to use that day. But all bags had double and triple reservoirs of cough sweets and paper hankies ...

[@gamebuster800]

As an app developer, I thank you

[@rednaskel3138]

I didn't know that buying 6th pair of headphones is ADHD - thank you!

[@violastern9462]

Can't stand going out without headphones, ppl noise is the worst! I'm constantly having to buy new shades too coz the brightness of the sky murders my eyes 😫

[@Wunjo-Wunjo]

My entire bathroom is a hazard. Prepared it for decorating, ran out of energy, and enthusiasm. That was about 8 months ago.🤫

[@ADHD_love]

Just wait for the moment the hyperfocus hits. It will come.... Maybe some time in the next 5 years. BUT, when it hits, that room will be THE BEST!!

[@kelliefreetealady]

The light in my bathroom has been on ‘strobe mode’ for 18 months or so…. I put battery fairy lights in there instead as apparently it’s easier to keep buying batteries than change the bulb 🤦‍♀️

[@Wunjo-Wunjo]

@@ADHD_love Haha! It will be spectacular! When it happens. You two give me hope. ❤

[@Wunjo-Wunjo]

@@kelliefreetealady I know that feeling. My bathroom light bulb also stopped working about 6 months ago, and apparently it's easier to take a little battery powered lamp in there, and have dark showers, than buy a bulb. 😁🤦‍♀👍

[@kelliefreetealady]

@@Wunjo-Wunjo hard work isn’t it? I do look way hotter in battery powered light though 🤣🤣🤣 Every dimly lit cloud and all that 🤣🤣

[@rockitmacca]

Ouch! How did you know about my food shopping habits?!

[@ADHD_love]

Right!!

[@brightpage1020]

This is too right on! 👍 ❤

[@AuDHD_Mom]

While I appreciate that I'm not alone, I'm also incredibly frustrated that this is my life. I also never remember to return an item within the return window. So, to save money, I just don't shop. Ever.

[@Zeverinsen]

I'm too cheap to have paid app subscriptions in the first place lmao 😂

[@synthstatic9889]

I'm ADHD AF and I don't go anywhere without my earbuds.

[@MeldaRavaniel]

...so I'm hoping the IRS will be lenient, but my latest ADHD tax may be $4000... I file my taxes by hand, because fork Turbo Tax, and didn't realize I needed to include a form about my Health Spending Account. So IRS sent me a "hey we think you owe, you have a month to respond", but all I saw was "PAY US ALL UR MONEY" and I immediately shut down and put it on the stack of "to do when calmer". I did finally get to it... But I'm a month late... 🤞 for me. 😬

[@MeldaRavaniel]

Some wins, to balance this out: * I like wireless buds, but I use wired ones connected to a Bluetooth adapter and I tangle them around my neck and just wear them all the time. I did have to work up to the responsibility, but I now have a set of really high quality IEMs that I haven't lost yet. * I drink (imbibe?) Soylent for breakfast and lunch. It's not for everyone, and I wish it didn't involve as much plastic, but I waste so much food if it has to be stored in the cold-box of oblivion, so it's worth it. Bonus: never have to wonder what to eat, what to buy, spend time preparing and cooking.

[@Museofmemory]

Easy way to never lose your headphones is to never take them off.

[@htpkey]

The headphone situation literally happened to me yesterday! I have 6 headphones at home 😄

[@regentmad1037]

sadly the whole "buying spares for when you lose some" is completely accurate.

[@veryhightoday]

keep up the vids guys👾

[@SYA357]

Bless you! You reminded me to cancel my Adobe upgrade just in time. One day longer, I would have paid almost 30€ per month.

[@fluffystraightjacket733]

On the earbud thing I have a specific pair that I keep in my backpack at all times. It was life changing

[@sabrinanelsen8660]

Yep. Or ordering something twice because you couldn’t remember if you ordered it or not. 😂

[@jacquelinedurban1461]

That is correct.

[@ClintEPereira]

Good think my money/food anxiety keeps me from doing any of this! 🙃

[@flatflo]

Question for y'all: What are your favorite earphones for going out in public, like grocery stores? I hate in-ear buds (small ear canals) but feel weird with big over-the ear ones in public. At home i usually just use my phone apeakers to listen to audiobooks. Which reminds me, i need to cancel my Kindle Unlimited $$ubscription that i havent used in ages as I prefer audiobooks these days.

[@htpkey]

I love the Shokz headphones. They don't go in your ears, are very lightweight and you can still hear your surroundings.

[@MusicMode-ul2qz]

You know that you are living in a Neurodivergent household when you have the stereo playing music the Television streaming a movie that's been watched Multiple times and you're in a completely separate part of the house with headphones on mixing music. Sadly I'm not joking. She came home from work found me in my studio shook her head and walked away laughing.saying why can't you just be watching porn like a normal guy.

[@MeowwYouDoin]

Finally, an explanation for my terrible adulting skills. 🤣😭🤣 Someone adopt me please! 😅

[@bridquet]

@@MeowwYouDoin when you find your new adoptive owner, see if they can handle another one us, please & thanks ;)

[@adders135035]

Lol the house numbers sitting in a Bin on my stairs from when they re-sided the house have been brought to my attention again, I guess I’ll move them so it’s not a hazard. I made new Numbers because I didn’t like the others. 😂🤣

[@12210830]

I completely forget and don't even notice thinks like that that are laying around. When I finally notice, I'm frozen not being able to decide what to do with whatever it is and then start feeling bad about it. Is that how it is for you?

[@adders135035]

@@12210830 Yep, see it again, then scold myself and say “I need to do something about that” move in with my day and repeat the cycle. Lol Some days I’m not so hard on myself and when I’m having those days I start small with items I know have a home and keep moving till I feel accomplished.

[@adders135035]

@@12210830 it’s ok to have bad days and not know what to do, it’s about trying to find a solution that works for you. In some cases I even ask others “Hey what should I do about this” because I honestly won’t do anything if I don’t.

[@sarahfellows3074]

I had to buy some headphones yesterday. They were £17.00 and I bought the wrong ones 😫

[@christinac6710]

Usually I relate to about 1/2 of what she’s saying. This video…100% me

[@lem5689]

The whole food...yup big one I just don't bother buying fruits cause I know I won't reach to them lol....I would say freezer food better buuuuttt I still had some food getting freezer burned cause it'll be there and I don't feel like cooking or eating it or just forget it's there

[@MeldaRavaniel]

...ah yes, the frozen guilt box... I finally came to terms with the fact some locally sourced meat I had bought cough10cough years ago was not actually going to be edible and put it in compost. I felt like it deserved a funeral. 😣 My parents bought me a chest freezer as a present and I had them return it (they were mad, but...). My tiny freezer is already a place where food goes to waste, I don't need a bigger frozen guilt box! I would fill it, too, because the hyperfocus would be like, "think of all the sustainable foods we could buy now!". But I just am not a responsible food haver. 😓

[@kassard1]

The headphones! I had a graveyard of headphone cases where one always gets lost but i dont throw away the remaining headphone and case and they sit there for months collecting siblings because it never fails to hapen with the next pair and keep them in case I find the missing one and I never do. 😅 Also the food! I forget to eat or that Ive een got food until I get especially hungry and then suddenly all this out of date food magicaly appears in the fridge and then its ages before I remember to chuck it out. 😅😅

[@zer03d14]

Not sure how I feel about being called out with the fridge one tbh

[@annabelleattwood]

Cool couple🎉

[@hestikleynhans4926]

It makes perfect sense to me tho😂

[@Ruckus6112]

Does the Dubbii app let you enter all the food you have on the pantry shelf so you don’t forget and buy it again and again??

[@Annii_Oakley_]

The amount of Bluetooth headphones, earbuds, wired headphones, studio headphones, portable speakers, headphone jack converters I’ve got surpassed double digits years ago… gotta drown out those thoughts at all costssss. P.S. I heard it described once as “the babysitter” as it entertains the part of our mind that’s bored and restless and cause its *SO* much easier to get things done with them on…

[@TheBronzeGoddess]

I would have a pair in the glove compartment or two. Or would that not work? 🤔😊

[@gemmacruz8529]

Most probably you have forgotten that they are there!

[@iKit306]

Well, you see, to make this work you have to buy two pairs today. One pair to use on the train now and one pair to put in the glove box. Because you're not going to remember to put today's pair you use into the glove box for future use once you get back into the car. I tried something similar with car stationed silicone earplugs. The amount of times the stupid things ended up back upstairs in my apartment where they did not belong...

[@hornpilepheonix6254]

Don't forget, as soon as you buy the new headphones old ones will turn up immediately. Causing it to just be a waste of time and money

[@cowsonzambonis6]

FOR REALS, though 🤪

[@SC-gp7kt]

All of this is me 😂😂😂❤

[@reneeharper84]

I hate how much money I lose because of things like this...

[@DarrenSangita]

I had to buy ANOTHER 2.new pairs of.earbuds this month ...!!!

[@3vanescent96]

I don't do this besides leaving shit and impulsive spending

[@AK-47-yall]

Yep. I heard someone else call it the ADHD tax and now I see it in so much of what I do. Forgot sunglasses or sunscreen for the beach? Oops, have to stop on the way and buy more. Forgot to pay the bill on time? Oops, now the electronic toll bill is $25 instead of $9. Bought $100 worth of stuff for the new hobby I was totally going to start. Oops, still sitting in Amazon box.

[@nicolevanty8605]

So real

[@crlake]

Yup.

[@Haley.W.927]

💜💜💜

[@Fella_friend]

When I have subscriptions I don’t want. I go update the card I’m using for it cause then I can’t pay them

[@janedoex1398]

Oh gosh no , WHY IS THIS ALL SO FAMILIAR!!!!? *But* I have between several (~7)physical and ( who knows, I think I am misdiagnosed )mental Diagnoses, but only ONE that makes me - just some quotes: A psychopath, an always lieing, attention seeking, totally not Carina about anyone, dramatic, violent , MANIPULATIVE, "stay away as far as you can" , crazy , moody, lazy, dont ever to be trusted who**/ pu**, cu***, etc by people - even some of these in more polite medical terms - by medical staff. I never ever raised my hand against someone- wait no. That's not true. I ran out on a discussion or a monolouge that was held for 2 hours and I said I could not take it amymore, I wanted to calm down and TRIED to leave. But the other person wanted to " win" the discussion by Beratung me until I couldn't take it anymore and making me flip out - so that I looked like the crazy one. But this time I refused. I ALREADY SAID VERY LOUD TO OLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE, I WANTED TO GO, I WOULD TEXT OR CALL TOMORROW, but I refused to let his tactic make me go *verbally* mad. I had paid for my drink and repeatedly, uncreasingly loud for everyone to hear said I wanted to go and be left alone . I went out of the Restaurant , but then he cane after me. At first going un my usual marching tempo then running , rhen sprinting. My appartement 100 feet away , so I already had my keys out in my hand, because I knew he wouldn't let me out of this "dialogue" , when he suddenly cought me, grabbed my shoulders, spun me around, he was already SO in my face and I raised my hands in front of my face and because my hands aren't big, a part of my keys or the chain and carabiner must have stuck out and scratched him on the forehead. It was not intentional. I SAID I WANTED TO GO AND LRFT ALONE 10 TIMES ! ( I was trying so hard to remove myself from when I felt I could loose my temper - VERBALLY!) I asked several people if I ever raised a hand . The one closest to me are the ones who likely upset me. They all said no. Atm I can be verbaally nasty to cry and apologise a 100 times 20 minutes later because I didn't realise soon enough before I was overwhelmed...) Sometimes I wait a day anx ask if they will even read a Text, because I am so shamed I slipped up again. People who ate not close to me or played no role in early childhood psychological , emotional and verbal a**** aren't at all " at risk"to get me verbally getting angry.

[@rick881]

I am sorry you went through this. Everyone should be taught to respect someone saying they cannot take any more, nothing can be accomplished at that point anyways.

[@janedoex1398]

​@@rick881 wow. This is the first time ever someone di😂didn't call ne a crazy , nanupulative b**** . Thank you.

[@janedoex1398]

​@@rick881thank you so much for even reading this amd not calling me names. Sorry for any typos. My eyes are a bit leaking

[@johnroekoek12345]

What does Whole Food mean? Even Google Translate and the subtitles in my language don't know

[@kokitsunetora]

Food that isn't processed. Like, fresh fruits and vegetables in their whole form

[@iKit306]

In this context I presumed they meant Whole Foods, a grocery store chain. Notably an expensive one. And she forgot she bought food that she meant to prepare/cook.

[@Jay-ql4gp]

Right?

[@MistyOne]

Omg. This is me 😔