I'm new to this channel and I feel like the videos I have watched resonate a lot with me. I hope people who are watching this heal from things they're fighting with.. really struggling with my explosive emotion because people keep saying I'm expressive and emotional. I feel like I keep showing myself toward the wrong people. I wanna die so bad everytime I don't fit in or feeling spiteful towards people who can't accept me. I really hope if there's someone who's like me in some way or another are healing, so I know it's possible to be overcome.. thank you for staying alive and living your life
@ytwithlove5 ай бұрын
Hello Julie. Long time listener, first time commenting. I think I really needed to hear this today. Because I've been telling myself I shouldn't feel the feelings I have. That they are bad or are wrong or that I should be grateful for what I have and feel differently. I know hearing my grandmother tell me I shouldn't feel sad because I missed my grandfather after he died because "he was dead and rotted in the earth" didn't help things either. But knowing I can just feel the feeling and it will pass - that's a great thing. Thank you for making this video and posting it today. Because I really needed to see it.
@Marekcatholic5 ай бұрын
I think what helps me is to sometimes step away from a situation and come back to it with more clarity. Thank you Julia for a great video! :)
@ryarya32915 ай бұрын
Very interested in processing emotions by the body
@niaselah33485 ай бұрын
It's not that we say those things to ourselves. Is that we internalize the messages we receive first as children and then reinforced by society During my whole formative years I've received constantly that invalidation. When I protested bc q tiny part of you always feels it's wrong, I was told it was a sign I was not well mentally. So more invalidation I think making this distinction is key bc the invalidation didn't come from you, it's not what you truly think of the situation and of you. It's just wrong messages that were given to you that we are programmed to internalize. It's always easier to change what's not intrinsic to us
@SoulGlowHealing4 ай бұрын
Hey Julia, thank you for your videos. I am learning a lot from you in my 30s about healthy emotional processing. ❤
@lesliengo83475 ай бұрын
I can't decide which one to use first, so whatever feeling comes up I will determine which to use. That being said, I notice myself having anxiety flare ups from time to time. I can show myself understanding and validation, ask myself what I want to do, and let the feeling pass. In this situation, seeking a healthcare professional would help a lot.
@MariyahWatkins-my7th5 ай бұрын
good morning its very early glad to meet you Mariyah here love listing to you love get your class
@awname87715 ай бұрын
You are amazing!! Thank you for your insight and vast wealth of knowledge going in deep within
@lilmouse47505 ай бұрын
Thankyou Julia, some good advise & things to consider in this session. 💖💖
@efraimrichman59815 ай бұрын
Thank you Julia (:
@dmgsoultogetherness66675 ай бұрын
when others judge you fir being angry at something ... shaming you for losing your cool
@lesliengo83475 ай бұрын
You can give yourself validation and understanding for what you are feeling. It is completely normal to feel anger. Ask yourself "what about this thing or person am I feeling angry about? And what am I making it mean when people shame me for feeling anger?"
@karolinajensen37185 ай бұрын
I think I would use 1-2-3-4 and sometimes 5 alone ❤
@michelleveloni13295 ай бұрын
Love your videos!
@Brian-rs4ug5 ай бұрын
Feelings lie to you much of the time. They can not be trusted. We must question our feelings and act accordingly. It has taken me many years to learn this. Just because you feel something, does not mean it is true. We often misinterpret things or are living in the past of the lies we learned and believed as truth, often from childhood or broken relationships from the past. Learn to take your thoughts captive and act accordingly.
@Dezzyyx5 ай бұрын
Whether it is true or not, the fact that you are feeling it makes it true enough in that sense, whatever information is valid regarding the feeling that still does not make the feeling itself any less real, the fact that you are having the feeling is real. To deny something that is real does not make it less real.
@Brian-rs4ug5 ай бұрын
@@Dezzyyx You shouldn’t defy the feeling. Acknowledge it, and realize feelings are what they are. But also realize they are unreliable and can distort reality. You must learn to separate your feelings from reality. Journaling is a good way to process your feelings and separate fact from fiction. Learning to manage your feelings will require a process, time and deliberate effort to work through them.
@captaindan10005 ай бұрын
The only time in my life where I ever heard that emotions were wrong is on Star Trek. More specifically they are illogical. It came from Mr. Spock and he has a completely different take on how to deal with emotions. I'm not Vulcan so I'm thinking i should listen more to Julia and less to what was said on TV during the 60's.
@Dezzyyx5 ай бұрын
only thing that is illogical is disregarding emotion, it's there for a reason: that is logical
@Sereneis5 ай бұрын
'Big Feeling' is havi ng your child terminally-ill, not walking in Vancouver after lunch with your friend. You don't say what happened there
@Dezzyyx5 ай бұрын
feelings can feel big, that makes it a big feeling. It is also relative. If a child lost his toy, it's natural for him to feel big feelings, to him it is big. It does not have to mean death to be a big feeling. If that was the case we could never feel intensely without life or death situations. That's not how humans work.