The truth about getting married: Q&A with my best friend

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@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

Asalamu alaykum my loves! Thank you soooo much for tuning in today! Today's episode is all about marriage, with my best friend Laylah who also married young. :) From getting married young, to navigating intimacy conversations before marriage, vetting a potential significant other ALL THAT JAZZ. If there's anything we didn't cover in this video, feel free to drop ya questions below and we got you.

@_-FreePalestine-_ 4 ай бұрын

Also do not forget to pray Isthikara continually. Do not stop praying to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala until you have gotten married, No one knows them more than their Lord. He has knowledge of not only everything about this person but also your compatibility and what the future holds for you both. Prioritize Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and He will bless you, to Him belongs the best outcome.

@Belkys. 4 ай бұрын

I also got married to get out of the house. I don't know why it surprises me to hear that other people have done that!

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

No same, every time someone says that I get so surprised. We're really all living the same lives lol. Truly no unique human experience

@NailahDudley 4 ай бұрын

Also don’t divulge your mistakes and sins. This is important. If Allah has covered you sins don’t expose them, even for your potential husband.

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

Nail on the head. We don't need to share EVERYTHING with a potential significant other tbh.

@aiyanaxthompson 4 ай бұрын

Firstly the way you both laugh together is so contagious Allahumma barikkk why was I giggling along with yalllll !?? I love this video sooo muchhhh truly so needed for us sisterrssss !!! Jazak’allah khair for gifting us this gem of a uploaddddd !!!!! 🫶🏾🫶🏾🤍🤍

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

AW MY LOVE thank you so much! I was kekekeing too as I was editing hahahah im glad it you enjoyed this video

@Fnxz856 4 ай бұрын

We needed this, more girl talk on this topics. It’s so hard to find advice for us sisters to apply when it comes for marriage. InshaAllah we would love to see more … so many gems, gem of the day < make sure you are making a statements so you set a standard and then follow it up with a question to see if this is something compatible>

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

Aw thank you for your kind words my love! I know EXACTLY what you mean, because I know I struggled for sure when I got married 8 years ago. Grateful this was beneficial for you.

@athenaNS 4 ай бұрын

Mashallah May Allah protect you from evil eye ❤ Allahumma barik

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

Ameen ya rabbal alameen, jazakallahu khayr my love

@Niqabi95 3 ай бұрын

I’m only 5 minutes in and I’m loving this video Ma’Sha’Allah!!

@makm67 4 ай бұрын

Damn I need a best friend 😭 thank you two for the vulnerability and wise words. I'm in a situation with a revert who's more intellectually interested in Islam than spiritual and I'm stressing over if it's good enough if he does the bare minimum or if that means he'll drop the deen later or something horrible... But yea, i hope you can do a Q and A with revert experiences cause they have unique difficulties that need to be seen too 😢

@maheenkamran3598 4 ай бұрын

I discovered your channel recently after already following your Instagram. I hadn't realized you had a KZbin channel. So it was a happy surprise when I came across your channel. You really give me big sis vibes just based on your experiences, not your age, haha. I know you're young ❤❤. The thing you mentioned about being sensitive is very relatable. I think, along with kindness, what's important is someone who is warm, accepting of the emotions their spouse goes through, and responds in a loving manner. People who raise their voice and are aggressive just put me off. It's really beautiful to see the sisterhood you have in your life, and I hope I can find this kind of sisterhood in my life, too. Love the video ❤❤

@honestjo2187 4 ай бұрын

JazakiAllahu khiran for this video💚 the series called “The Muslim Family” by Muhammad al-Jibaly looks like a nice resource for someone looking to get married/who’s married. I haven’t delved into these books yet but hope to insha’Allah.

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

Wa iyaaaki my love! Thank you so much for sharing, inshallah will add these to my list :)

@Rosenyc 4 ай бұрын

Honestly I’ve been married for 3+ years and I’m struggling real bad hearing different perspectives is good to hear and I was just like u Fatima I wanted to “leave” so bad but I ran away from one issue to another without understanding what marriage actually is 😅 I was so delusional when married woman told me it’s not what u think I used to think they just don’t want me to get married 😂💔 I would love to hear more about laylah (with an h) 😂 perspective on divorce because it’s so taboo to talk about in my culture

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

awww thank you for watching my love! Marriage can definitely be a struggle during the adjustment phases tbh, and even after. Congrats on making it to 3+ years, definitely not a small feat by any means.

@Rosenyc 4 ай бұрын

Omg it’s so nice that u reply to all ur comments 😢and yes wallah ur so right I really feel like it is a coping mechanism and thank u time really does fly I always think didn’t I just get married then I see how many years have passed and I’m like oh wow 😂 ❤much love Fatima I am a new subscriber and I don’t plan on leaving anytime soon I love it here ❤ p.s. I have one more question 😂 when it comes to having kids do u think it’s a good idea to have more then one if after ur first u saw no one there to help u and u didn’t see ur spouse being the best parent (I’ve heard before that it’s mekrooh to do any type of birth control when ur husband is against it ) what’s ur thought on that ?

@Rosenyc 4 ай бұрын

@ummyoms ❤

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

@@Rosenyc girl I be TRYING! hahaha

@Rosenyc 4 ай бұрын

Ahh ur asking the tough questions but to be 💯 with you I personally asked why my parents had so many kids if they weren’t always the best parents to us they choose quantity over quality . I feel I was put in a situation where I (like my mother) won’t have much say over what my kids can and can’t do I don’t want them to grow up feeling like they weren’t raised the right way so I’m scared of having another but my son is two and a half so even though I don’t see the rush everyone around me is questioning my choices 😂 but I really don’t have anyone around me so it’s not a total bias my family are all overseas and I don’t really have any friends making friends as an adult is so hardddd it’s so nice seeing u have laylah and a community around you cherish them❤

@Diamond-cz6uj 4 ай бұрын

Ma sha Allah. May Allah bless your marriages. Happy to see this kind of content.

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

Aw ameen ya rabb! Jazakallahu khayr my love 🥹 may Allah bless yours if you’re already married OR bring you a spouse that’s good for you if not yet :)

@bangtanz7689 4 ай бұрын

am so glad this appeared on my recommended page, literally everything you guys said was useful and insightful and great advice and reassurance, literally everything...like exactly what i needed to hear, thank you sisters

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

Aww welcome to this side of the internet, my love. So glad this was beneficial for you! Feel free to drop any questions if you have any inshallah

@dinatemouri5214 4 ай бұрын

Allahuma barik sisters this video was wonderful! I loved it

@rodaisa7274 4 ай бұрын

I’m always thinking I need to lose some width before I get married get clearer skin like I’m obsessed with wanting to look good for my future husband that I’m not even looking for a spouse till I feel confident but tbh I don’t want to get any older and still not be married and alot of people tell me I defo don’t look fat I look slim but idk I guess I’m my bigots critic I don’t think this should stop me from looking my for a spouse

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

This is so real! And on top of that, society got us thinking we need to look a certain way, I promise you when you find your person inshallah they will be IN LOVE with you.

@rodaisa7274 4 ай бұрын

@@ummyoms yeah true and Jazakalkhair xx

@ummyoms 4 ай бұрын

@@rodaisa7274 wa iyaaki my love

@starsighting7167 3 ай бұрын

Yall look so beautiful in hijab and niqab. I wanna wear niqab but scared to get the next step😂😅

@semihat1630 2 ай бұрын

Girl, I'm in the same boat 😅🥲. May Allah make it easy for us!

@houstonmuslimah 4 ай бұрын

Assalamualaikum dear sisters I’m a new subscriber and allthough this is my first video of yours that I’m watching I feel blessed to come across it. You both are blessed to have each other and your group of sister friends. Alhamdulilah It is so heard to build sisterhood where I live in Houston, Texas. May Allah strengthen the ummah.