The TRUTH Above LOVE, LUST & SEX - Create A HEALTHY Relationship | DeVon Franklin & Lewis Howes

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If you want to create more attraction in your love life without just having sex during quarantine then be sure to watch DeVon Franklin & Lewis Howes discuss the keys to a healthy relationship.
DeVon Franklin is an award-winning film and TV producer, New York Times best-selling author, international speaker, preacher, and spiritual success coach. He serves as the President and CEO of Franklin Entertainment. DeVon is best known for his films Miracles from Heaven, Heaven Is for Real, and his New York Times best-selling book, The Wait, which he co-wrote with his wife Meagan Good.
With a commitment to uplifting the masses through entertainment, DeVon has quickly become a force in the media as well as a leading authority on faith, spiritual wellness and personal development. DeVon is committed to using media, whether it’s entertainment or social platforms, for good instead of bad.
I’ve had DeVon on The School of Greatness twice before, and even though we weren’t able to meet in person for this one, he brought the same energy, the same light, and the same hope as he always does. To watch our past interviews together, visit Episode 769 and Episode 409 to learn more about healthy relationships and spirituality.
Some of us are spending more time with families and partners. Others of us are isolated and unable to connect with friends in person. Whatever your situation, DeVon has great advice on how to connect, how to communicate, and how to have healthy relationships during this tough time.
Join me on Episode 940 to learn how to have thriving relationships in difficult times with the inspiring DeVon Franklin.
Why setting expectations for each day is important for the relationship (4:36)
Why the model relationship has to be imperfect (9:41)
How having a genuine commitment to your partner is essential (13:48)
How understanding control will give you peace (22:21)
Whether communication or sex helps a relationship become better (28:21)
Why focusing on how this isolation will help us is important (38:12)
How helping your partner find success will help your relationship (48:12)
How praise and gratitude will help you navigate your pain (54:31)
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[@lewishowes]

What will you do to improve your love life right now?

[@Billwilderment]

Continually working on transparency and agreeing with your partner to always see each other's sides and make are you each commit to making sure you have "Heard" your partner. It's been my experience that most people do not separate sex from intimacy, however from my own personal experience I grew up in a way that they were on the other end of the spectrum. Understanding there is a distinct difference and separation between sex and intimacy and THEN communicating on how to use one to strengthen the other!. Devon's point on Expectations is Key as well as communicating simple agreements on how to deal with something each time a disagreement comes up! great interview Lewis!

[@jonathanbowen3640]

Be patient...

[@Billwilderment]

@@jonathanbowen3640 without question that is one THE most important abilities to attain! :)

[@annerodriguezinc]

First step would be to get a love life I suppose 🤔🤭😁 Until then I'll keep working on and loving myself so I can be ready to love authentically when the time comes 🥰 ❤️

[@tessouiddir]

Lewis Howes every thing it takes 😃

[@sofiekirk9206]

Guys... Im a 50 year old woman with two young daughters, 21 and 19. I am so happy and excited about the men you are influencing for this generation of men... Keep up the great work, so that our daughters could benefit from the wisdom you are passing onto the young men of today. You are both beautiful young men who are doing a great service to the world and making your mommas proud!

[@ScaryToRemarry]

I met my wife on Instagram. We lived in two different states so we couldn’t have sex. I believe not having sex got us to know each other on a deeper level before marriage.

[@bathtub_farter]

This time will show us who truly loves us and who is just tolerating us.

[@jaybae7315]

😂😂😂Yup!

[@TheEndRange]

Can we clone DeVon Franklin? We need more men like you!

[@esthernankya09]

I'm with you

[@keirastewart8907]

Girl.. You ain't NEVER LIED!!! Dude fine as hell to

[@bibi141489]

@@keirastewart8907 😂

[@drewsson]

One of my favourite quotes by Lao Tzu goes like this; He who conquers others is strong. He who conquers himself is mighty. 💪💯 Stay mighty people.

[@lewishowes]

Amen!

[@SouthernBelleMichelle]

I watched every minute of this, I was glued! So much value in this video. This pandemic has really helped us build a foundation with someone literally over FaceTime. I feel like it’s a luxury to get to know someone long distance to really pick their brain and see if they really are a great match for you rather than being side tracked from their appearance.

[@lewishowes]

So happy it was supportive you!

[@cindyparker1854]

You rarely hear these truths spoken and this is what people desperately are in need of today.Thanks to Devon for being courageous in truth. I will pass on these talks to others.

[@MatthewCoast]

"Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity." - W. Clement Stone

[@_cndrn]

"Their busy-ness is not an indictment on whether or not they love you." This was so important for me to hear!!!! 9:00 to 9:16 so so so sooooo important for people to hear who DO put their worth/happiness on their partner (we must stop doing this)

[@j0hnc00]

Lol no, that's be why his marriage sunk

[@StarTempleOracle]

Not all of us have been able to stop. My job never stopped and I am busier than ever.

[@dimediamond]

Lord I have seen what you have done for others and I know you can do it 4 me❤

[@brujalinda]

Dimepiece 954 yes amen 🙏

[@kimberlyrandolph5306]

I make sure I affirm my happiness each day, then I reach out with a phone call , text or Zoom call to check in. My guy is self employed & a caretaker so I listen when needed & affirm my care while social distancing. I give him the space he needs. & trust if it’s meant to be it will-.....

[@MrMkayultra]

Kimberly Randolph , my man is a caregiver to at a nursing home. We have to maintain social distance.

[@sak08002]

Oh man, this is the first time I’ve heard something by DeVon and I LOVE LOVE LOVE HIM!! The second that he came on I just got a sense of joy and started smiling. Seriously what a beautiful person. Love what he had to say! I had a big fight with my boyfriend of 2.5 years during the 3rd week of the quarantine, since we don’t live together and had different expectations of seeing each other. But that made us have some serious conversation and now I feel like I fell in love all over again and this has been amazing for our relationship and communication.

[@deena3003]

Wow...i love that Devon talked about how some men expects their wives to give up or feel they need to push aside their purpose for the sake of supporting their husband's purpose....that's a huge acknowledgement!

[@nicholasotieno4666]

I have learnt that to wait is to delay the temptation for instance clarification in a relationship in order to get what you really want in life and become the person you want to be. I will hold on this in my entire singlehood life.

[@lifegenius763]

Devon, you're outstanding! You are gr8 role model for men. I really appreciated your high quality content. Resonated so much with me. I'm a single guy looking to date and hopefully find the ultimate love of my life. Even though we don't get taught about love, relationships at school, your content gave me so much learning today for me to consider as I consider my next steps in the dating world. I've purchased your Wait book - can't wait to read it! Thanks Lewis for another gr8 podcast!

[@jujubee90275]

I love Devon's energy and that he serves the Lord💜💜💜

[@lewishowes]

💜

[@joycebrower8822]

Lewis Howes... This may be my favorite interview that you've done. So much good, useable, and insightful truths and info. I'm meeting a man for the first time in a couple of days...we've been talking. This podcast has given me heloful info and tools. A takeaway from podcast... "Anything we deny, we empower to destroy us".

[@bleuclegg6295]

I just read The Truth About Men last night. Finished it in the wee hours of the morning. Loved it!

[@candacenkoth]

Listened to it on Audible. I shared it with my entire network! Very enlightening and to be read by every body, especially single people.

[@christinamason3297]

Yes! Guys! I’m staying positive and full of love but the struggle between Men that Disappear if you don’t sleep with them right away to the Men that Disappear right after you sleep with them even if you waited is real! Ladies let’s hold our Value to Men that want to get to really know us, Love us and Make us feel incredibly happy and respected! 💕

[@VaneezyTV]

Thank you for this one! I am learning how to establish a new love life & I am manifesting better relationships so this podcast is perfect for me. I believe that this quarantine is teaching us to build relationships that serve us.

[@adrianac9747]

wow I watched it with my mouth and mind opened, you 2 guys have a great connection and the question about fear is so powerful. These are difficult times and I can't be more grateful to have on my side a man that loves me, completes me, understands me, tries to make me happy with small things. We were about to get married this June, but we canceled it due to the current situation. I was disappointed and thought this is a sight for us, so we should never commit to one another, but he made me realize marriage is not a must in a relationship but love, communication, respect are. So we postponed it. I really liked this video , in fact I watched everything you posted recently (luckily we have internet these days)

[@joyefulshaman]

WOW he is so spot on! Thanks for introducing him on your show!

[@nicolelalena1436]

Finding myself during this crazy time. This post is helping me find clarity. Thank you so much!

[@tiffanywilson4005]

Great pointers to take away 👍 I love the consistency on DeVon's platforms.

[@mighty5189]

Devon Franklin!!! you are a such a Great Man, you are dancing while talking about love. Amazing!!!

[@AaronLichtanski]

This was so encouraging love hearing from you both and the spiritual aspect was so life giving from Devon ✌️stay safe

[@alexmcqueen1122]

Thanks for a value Lewis! Great episode 🖤🙏

[@diyasmrprojects8642]

Great interview. Thank you Lewis for bringing so many great people to help us with our struggles ❤✌❤

[@calindo_n]

I love the energy am getting from these two ❤️

[@annerodriguezinc]

Great content. Coming from a childhood where I grew up with very weak male role models, how life changing to see, hear and experience a compassionate, connected and strong man ❤️💕❤️ thank you ❤️

[@shunwilliams6180]

Thank you so much for sharing I appreciate it very uplifting

[@tamara3161]

I just learned so much through this video. That's some really good, deep advive here. Thank you!

[@carlic7923]

The Devil, whispered: You "Cannot"!!! withstand the "STORM" !!! The Warrior, Replied: I AM THE "STORM " !!! "WE" can be the "STORM"!!! Do not give up. We have been given power over everything, even the "Crony" Virus!!! ~ Blessings ~

[@GodisGracious11]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🤩🤩🤩🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 so true!!! Everything you both talked about is true! So raw!

[@drewa1999]

Incredible! Thanks fellas!

[@louisagraham8957]

Awesome loved this such sound advice THANK YOU

[@AlonaBallardBuckeyeJeans]

Another great interview. Thanks Lewis and DeVon

[@lewishowes]

thank you!

[@Paula-qi5ve]

Thank you so much gentleman! You both very informative! I learned a lot from you both! God bless you both! ! ❤️🙏☮️🌍😇

[@iolawilliams4610]

Watched this with my partner and made written notes. Absolutely invaluable knowledge shared and even more refreshing that it's between two great men. Ps Loved Lewis enthusiasm and reaction to Devon. Thank you both 🙏🏾

[@Paula-qi5ve]

You both are very informative! Thank you so much! ❤️🙏☮️ god bless you both Peace

[@KikiAndJeffreyPearl]

it's Karen, if it's Love you will know it and not have any fear or desperation about the other person not 100% loving you unconditionally. Unless one or both of you are not ready OR it is not the right union. Then you need to let it go and work on the only relationship you can control for 100%++ love and that is with yourself. Once that is overflowing the magic begins. If you have ANY feelings other than the feeling that the other person loves you unconditionally-release the relationship and the fear. There is no fear of the other person leaving or not loving you when it is right so if it is right it will happen if both parties are ready. I was in that wrong relationship for 3 years before I met my true love whom I have the gift of waking up next to for the past 29 years. When we met the 2nd time (the first time was 3 years earlier and only for a brief few moments with no connection/contact in those 3 years) the Universe actually pulled us together because the time was right! We were both in the place of 100%+ self love, 100%+ self worth so the confidence level was not at the ego level, it was at the level of overflowing self love where we both had so much to give that our goal was to give, with no expectations or conditions. It is possible for everyone to have this kind of love, take it from a couple who is together forever and the love grows more passionately everyday! Wishing you Great Health Abundant Happiness And Outrageous Love

[@dimediamond]

So happy to see this. ❤

[@sheilagray6732]

Great talk and information.

[@margaretlennon824]

That so good Pastor Franklin Amen 🙏 🙌

[@emilyyoung9527]

I love this video so much!!!!!! Just what I needed to hear. I love listening to how passionate both of you are about self improvement and improving relationships.

[@maryihezie1190]

"If you wouldn't give them the code to your phone, why would you share your body with them?"~ Devon Franklin. That part. Preach Pastor Devon! :)

[@sandraberry1734]

Oh my I had this same conversation with my ex, I said I cannot make him happy he felt I could. I'm confident he wasnt Needless to say we split up because he felt I was to busy with work!

[@Hawatejan22]

Praising in the midst of Pain the best therapy!!

[@jujubee90275]

Love you Devon!

[@samisharma601]

Ladies tune into this conversation ...this is the most informative info on men

[@judithperez8892]

Amen praise God

[@shantilove3768]

Good chat guys. Love waiting for sex until intimacy has been built and a commitment made. Sex is way beyond a physical act.

[@caprobatica]

✨WOW!!!! ✨ Thank you SO much DeVon & Lewis for sharing the MOST POWERFUL message in 2020!!!! As a single man for over 8 years (dang, that's as long as your marriage, DeVon!), I truly found this soul-awakening words FULL of lasting clarity and applicable wisdom for my life! You both sparked mountainous inspiration for me in your different relationships and I really appreciate You! Please keep shining as our generation's (C.O.P.) - Champions of Positivity and here's to celebrating your inevitable peace, prosperity, and self-defined happiness as a PRESENT reality!!! I'm sending you my mightiest (⚡ #Caprovibes ⚡), a SUPERNOVA of positive energy!!!! Victory is yours, Largy (The AcrõGecko)

[@LovelyPeach40]

Thank you for this. I am on the right mind set and track as a single lady. Also dating

[@kimberlyrandolph5306]

Lewis ticked by your facial expressions . I always enjoy when you Devon chat. Blessings

[@lewishowes]

I'm an expressive person :)

[@BFNLEO]

Lewis Howes me too! I have been judged & teased about it throughout my life but now I embrace it. Why? I’m grateful to have this ability to INFECT people with my enthusiasm for life & learning! (It’s made me a great story teller 😆🤷🏻‍♀️) It enhances conversations with a feeling of genuine mutual understanding. It unconsciously tells another, “I am hearing you, I want to/DO understand you, it’s safe to show me who you are. “ && like Kimberly said it’s quite endearing to watch & always gets me smiling w/ you so thank you.

[@bleuclegg6295]

Lewis' facial expression crack me up.

[@lewishowes]

🤪

[@elenarotestan5823]

Great expression " why eat breadcrumbs, when all.you want it's a full meal. 👏👏

[@PinkSallyProductions]

Great interview, thank you both. I heard a lot of the ideas that Dr John Gray talked about in. ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’. I am sorry that you didn’t both have a chance to go into more depth about couples who are separated whilst lockdown/isolation, that would have been of great use too. You both helped me today, and many others I am sure. Thank you 🌹

[@ucy8057]

Absolute love you both! Lewis and Devon, what great men! ❤ someone build me a cloning machine pls?!

[@Arzucowell]

😌I told you so...

[@beckytaylor1063]

oh, taking out the trash! Even as a man, you can recommend to women and read The Queen's Code. It is an amazing parable on the doing of things that have value to her to feel supported, even if it is taking out the trash.

[@ginam.4990]

Lewis is friggin adorable

[@ralphvolcin1096]

YEAR 2022 Update from time of video post 📅 Brethren LEWIS HOWES and DeVon FRANKLIN: I love that you talking about balancing pain with PRAISE 🙌and PEACE ✌ 🤳 We are near the same ages in our walks 🚶‍♂️ in life, 38 years alive now. FAITHFUL PRAYERS 📖 📅 🤳🏈 🙏🏽 for HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS 🙏 Peace ✌ and love 🤟

[@misti.desoto5558]

2 Yrs from now, where do u want to be. Nobody, Can do for U Do it. Live Life Fir YOU!!!!!! Find You First!!!!! LOVE It, God!!!! The Virus Opens Our Eyes...!!!!!! Thank You My Loves. So Much Inspiration. Love You. LOVE God, Love The Real Life......

[@Aoriun]

Amen.

[@neelamdasan4147]

What is the best website to find love?

[@marynunes7078]

Omg where can I find guys with these thoughts 🙀🤷🏼‍♀️ usually a lot of guys don't have affective responsibility

[@dolsiemercado3140]

Good conversation. Be considerate and avoid getting coronavirus.

[@Arzucowell]

Lewis, Lewis Lewis, You make me😂

[@razadaza9651]

Men an women both want each other’s bodies at the same time… it’s not often a one way thing

[@keirastewart8907]

Lewis Howes low-key admires his manhood!

[@Arzucowell]

And where is guarantee, that other person who you dating is honest with you, a lot of people hide their inner true self very well?

[@anthien6451]

Unfortunately that is the part that you cannot control. Hopefully before you make the big commitment to anyone you’d spent a good amount of time to study the other one in all life scenarios possible, and to catch and address any red flags you might have come across. It does take a bit of luck to find the right one as well.

[@elenastaffy6119]

Boy am I glad I’m not in a relationship or married I have my freedom and my quality time without the hassles of reporting to someone freedom is the best thing in life. 😁

[@KikiAndJeffreyPearl]

it's Karen, this feeling you are relishing in is a wonderful expression of one who is in a relationship with oneself to fall in love with yourself so completely that when this happens and you are overflowing you will share that love with another. Enjoy your journey as every stage is wonderful. Wishing You Great Health Abundant Happiness And Outrageous Love

[@lepikova]

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[@misti.desoto5558]

My brain dont function on Negativity. Own what U Allow6 in Life Then U Can Go Forward........ Own what U allowed wrong n your life.. own it You Will GIn Power for Yourself n Go Forwo6. OWN IT ALL.... POSITIVE IR NEGATIVE.....

[@misti.desoto5558]

How can one be lonely when they love themself.. " I am Who I Who I Am Because. I Am......Basics... Love Naturally..... No Conditions or Expectations.. it's Hard. Exspecially when A Women Is So Independent.. Nothing Wrong for Man or Women Being Independent. COME N WORK TOGETHER, THEN IT'S RIGHT, RESPECT!!!!

[@jmw1683]

Men need to learn to keep their hands to themselves and girls need to learn if the guy is putting pressure on you to have sex then he doesn't respect you nor is really interested in who you are. If he isn't willing to spend time getting to know you and your mind, he isn't worth wasting your life on . Most men just want to communicate with their "piece" and women think they are special just cause the guy "wants" her. No, he just wants what he is getting,not YOU. Too much sex in this world is ruining people. Not opposed to sex, but everything has a right time and place= less broken hearts, less frustration, less blaming yourself or the other person. Most women feel love for a man way before men do.

[@lilytoh3580]

The covid should be a time to know and love each other and be good as the chances to be promiscuous is not available and get loser to God and teach their children how to respect and love when they grow up. An opportunity for foing great things together without outside distractions or hindrances, with so much valuable time that would not be possible when not in together, because one or both are out working. Such a great opportunity to have free time to make love and get even closer to each other. I am shocked that some couples use this valuable time to indulge in domestic violence, instead of growing wiser and more loving and appreciative, and learning ways to make each other happy in bed, as well as learning and teaching each other, and if there are children, to grow better as a family and closer to God in prayer and love and knowledge.

[@ElegantStyleAndVlogs]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@HitMeOnMyPeja]

2 months? Try 2 years.

[@johnagustinbelicena9517]

I found my passion here: facebook.com/groups/myhustleathome/

[@kameliajaber58]

[@kamilahspeaks2200]

I think you need to make her a honest wife. You sound like you’re already committed.

[@annakarina6999]

Just a friendly reminder: Gay partnership is not God design. You can connect with your spouse of the opposite sex but in a gay relationship you should rather start connecting with God and His Word to reveal that being in a homosexual relationship is not what God wants. He actually wants a new Holy life.

[@tamikalee4441]

#Realfacts 💯💯💯💯💯

[@keionclark7369]

The gorgeous path additionly tow because trowel accidentally slow under a squealing broccoli. tacit, aberrant umbrella

[@Kysersosa1002]

Whelp I guess the true nature of hypergamy showed its face in this man's relationship as well. Sorta hard to take advice from him eh? "Happy True Year" Devon, hope you understand that traditional relationships are dead and stinking. Protect yourself by understanding, she was never yours, it was just your turn. This is the generation of "rent-a-chick".