The Two Ways We Experience Anxiety

The Two Ways We Experience Anxiety
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[@1STLUCKYB]

The body gets addicted to chemicals from constant fight and flight and we can unknowingly be looking for those "hits". The evidence is there that the brain/body doesn't know real or perceived threats apart, it's just all systems go, which is why we need to keep interrupting the negative thoughts for positive response ones. We literally change the chemistry. Spot on with excitement and fear chemistry reaction, they are the same. It is what we do next with regards to our thinking that's the game changer. Panic disorders are scarey but we can relearn outcomes. I'm treating mine as a TMS symptom. I know it'll get easier and back under my control.

[@Inge508]

Great insightful comment! Thanks 🙏 Wish you a calm good panic- free day.🌺

[@joaniemiller4362]

I deal with anxiety and I know it stems from a need to control stuff. Thinking about bad outcome in situations instead of thinking positively. We really need to make a habit of thinking in the most positive ways as we can . Life is tough enough we don’t need to make it worse with our crap thinking. Good video Dan . Also on bad dreams we got to shake them off.

[@Inge508]

Spot on Joanie!😜👍

[@1STLUCKYB]

Father in law passed yesterday & big family issues going way back. I know there's a funeral coming up,my anxiety hit high levels. I went out and was fine. As soon as I got in my home, chest pains etc then panic, then I started the self soothing and the pain subsided. Life is challenging but we do all have an inbuilt tool box. Sometimes we need to stand back, look in from another perspective and breathe. You're helping us all get there. Thanks

[@Inge508]

My condolences 💐 ❤️

[@PainFreeYou]

I'm sorry about your father in law.

[@jue7434]

@@PainFreeYou my condolences to you, I was in the same situation last month my mum past and my anxiety was through the roof worrying about her funeral But there was so much happening on the day and so many family and friends around me supporting me it truly helped. Stay strong 😊

[@mr2nut123]

Sorry for your loss :( For me, seeing family at a funeral is just as bad as the event itself. I don't get on well with most of them as they're all about money and condescending.

[@1STLUCKYB]

@@mr2nut123 last saw them all at mother in law's funeral 3years ago. My family completely left out of all dialogue. Somehow despite the panic I got up and spoke in the crematorium without absolutely annihilating them all lol I'd always kept quiet in a lot of situations til then. I found my voice n used it positively. All ties will be cut from the narcissistic people on that side very soon. Thank you

[@diane1089]

I have symptoms of anxiety as long as I can remember. Years ago I decided I did not want to live this way anymore. I took matters into my own hands and did a self help course. It was workbooks, reading and cassette tapes! This explains how long ago that was 😂 It was 16 weeks long and I did the WORK. I was amazed when I realized that it was my thoughts that were keeping me in this state. Changing my thoughts and habits over time really worked. It reappeared recently after the pain left, and I am still a work in progress, but I have so many tools now that I am confident. By watching your videos everyday I have become indifferent to those feelings and have not freaked out. I give myself consistent messages of safety and because of my clarity I know I am going to be ok 👌 You have helped me with this and for that I am grateful Thank you Dan and have a great day!

[@PainFreeYou]

Great work doing the work. You are proof you can make a change.

[@Julie-iw3mh]

@Diane Can you remember what course you did or if there is a similar course out there now? I have read DARE Claire Weekes all of them but not been able to get better from this horrific anxiety.

[@diane1089]

@@Julie-iw3mh I’m not sure if it’s still available but it was called Attacking Anxiety through The Midwest Center for Stress and Anxiety

[@asirbbrisa]

I have experienced anxiety panic attacks for about 15 years and being treated by therapists medications none of that really helped and at times may have made it worse. Worrying about what's causing things anxiety never really helped me but acknowledging it calling it out what it is calling it a fearful thought and then replacing that thought with a healthy thought immediately was the only thing that reduced my intrusive thoughts. I swear sometimes my brain's just bored and tries to scare me. Daily movement, healthy eating, and not consuming too much information social media or news we're also things that helped. Savor A mindful eating book made me be more aware of what not only I'm consuming with my mouth but also with my mind. So I try to feed myself healthy thoughts haha! It's helped tremendously! Thanks again for your videos! 🙏

[@PainFreeYou]

This is beautiful. Love your entire approach.

[@Inge508]

Bravo for that!👏👏👏

[@khajababu1403]

Hy Brisa! , iam suffering from severe depression And physical bodily pain symptoms for last 3 months, iam taking two psych meds present.. can i tapper of both clonazepam (0.5 mg) & vortioxetin (10mg) have been using for 3 weeks only.. I don't want to stay on these pills which cannot give me relef rather more I'll feeling.. Please advice me n ur support needed 🙏 iam eagerly waiting for ur reply, I don't want to regret in future help me.. Does his idea helps me to overcome depression and physical pain also.. Please help me out

[@MorningsWithMaria]

I love you Dan. Sending virtual hugs - your videos work more than meditations ( both have been helping.. it’s like having a friend in the living room with me coaching me through it, I always leave your videos thinking.. it wasn’t that serious and learning / picking something new each time. Also appreciate the consistency. 😊 Hope you are having a great Monday ❤

[@lucid118]

Thank you for this Dan. Anxiety is my primary TMS symptom. There’s a great book about anxiety called “The Body Keeps the Score” by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk. I also find that writing humor about anxiety is helpful.

[@PainFreeYou]

Excellent - thank you for sharing that tip about writing humor about anxiety.

[@chana5770]

I have had anxiety most of my life. It is not new. Anxiety in itself is not a problem if you can learn to live with it. It comes and goes. I have learned to accept it and not worry about it. Actually the more you focus on it the more it will bother you. You give it more energy when you focus on it. Thanks for the video.

[@PainFreeYou]

You are very welcome.

[@lucid118]

What you are saying is also what Dr. Claire Weekes (bio: “The Woman Who Cracked the Anxiety Code”) says “Float don’t fight.” Thank you!

[@PainFreeYou]

I like that. Float don't fight"

[@pattyboucetta1897]

I’ve also been hearing a lot from other KZbin advisors that resistance is not what really helps. Acceptance and presence is the key. And as you said, telling ourselves we are NOT in danger. 🙏🏼. Easier said than done - I’m sure many agree.

[@PainFreeYou]

Not easy for sure. But staying stuck in fear isn't easy either. ;-)

[@macijane236]

I used to say it was crippling, but you’re right because it’s about neutralizing our anxiety. ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Yeah, scary words to describe our experience just keeps the brain on high alert.

[@LoveAngelMusicLady]

Around five minutes in you mentioned basically the weather changes can be an unconscious cause of anxiety-omg you got it! Lately my local weather has been hot dry/cold rain back and forth, more than ever before. I recognized I got a headache every change!

[@PainFreeYou]

It's not the weather itself. It's the hyper sensitive nervous system and vigilant brain that interprets it as dangerous. Teach your brain that the weather change is not dangerous and this pattern can shift.

[@liamo54321]

@@PainFreeYou hey Dan so change weather can affect are nervous first time heard this?? Every time season changes I feel my symptoms get worse you ever heard this happen??

[@Fulfill_Your_Potential]

For type A people, being able to “chill out” is a critical emotional skill. I hope to incorporate this into educational curricula.

[@deniserouthierledoux8133]

Yes--anxiety is really hard to have --going to practice this method -I really have confidence in approaching it this way. Medication or not-applying this method should work.

[@JaySoul711]

My anxiety (panic attacks) kicks in when driving longer or when the weather heats up or when I’m on hikes. It makes me feel dizzy and blurred vision, but it always got better when I accepted it and keep doing normal everyday things. Before I could barely drive city to city, now I’m driving county to county. I’m able to go on longer hikes too. However, ALL my pain is gone. It’s taken a lot months coming up on a year, but it keeps getting better :-) thanks Dan!

[@PainFreeYou]

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your success.

[@robertasmith3437]

Fantastic video Dan really helpful. The way you described it was spot on. Thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@jenniferhankinson1910]

Yes. Barry McDonagh. Author of DARE. Worth the read. He has an app that details ALL of this beautifully!❤️

[@aikoshimada3167]

I liked this video a lot. I have more anxiety issue than the pain issue, and I do have a tip for those who suffer from anxiety. Some anxiety I feel is so uncontrollable that it is hard to stay calm no matter how much I try. But some anxiety is "manageable." When it's "manageable," I try to stay calm, and try to feel all the sensations in the body, instead of trying to get rid of it. However, when it's really big, and it's scary, I start to really focus on the sensations of my feet touching the ground. I mean, really trying to feel how the soles of my feet feel the ground. And then I start to look for the areas of my body that feel okay, and acknowledge that some parts of my body feel completely okay. Then I go back to feel my anxiety or the sensations of the anxiety in the body, just enough, so I don't overwhelm my system or re-traumatize myself. Then I focus on an object, whether it's a tree or a lamp or whatever my eyes go to. And I really observe the object with lots of curiosity. Then I go back to the anxiety sensations just enough to feel them, but not long enough to get too scared. I do this back and forth thing for a while (this is called pendulation) till I feel the here and now, and also know that there are other things other than the anxiety. Once I feel more okay with the anxiety, I use Dan's teaching of the calm reassurance. I tell myself, it's okay that I'm feeling this, because it's just temporary, and that it WILL pass. I tell myself "this" is just an echo of the past. I say "I don't know what it is exactly, but my subconscious got triggered by something, and part of me is experiencing some past that I don't know or remember." I say "I'm okay now, and that whatever it is, it's going to calm down eventually." Then I ask myself, what do I need right now? Or what didn't happen then (in the past when I felt high anxiety because of something that happened in the past)? Or what does my body want to do? All kinds of answers come to me, but for me, personally, my answer is "I want reassurance that I'm okay, and I'm protected." That's when I realize that I was never tended and reassured that I was safe when I was a child. For so long, I totally scared myself believing something was wrong with me or my body, or something bad was about to happen, and now I realize I need to reassure myself that everything is okay. Sometimes, when I ask those questions, I get an answer like "I need to be held by someone" or "I just want to hold on to something tight." I think I need to learn to hear what my body is wanting because it's not easy to know what I really need. Anyway, it's a long comment, but I hope this is helpful for someone. Dan's videos are so helpful, and he is so right that it doesn't matter if you have pain or anxiety, or any other non pain related discomfort. I believe his approach works! I'm still dealing with anxiety, but feel like I'm heading the right direction.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@deniserouthierledoux8133]

Good comment about medication. Gotta do them both for a while, no biggy.

[@seffie4363]

brilliant video Dan thanks x I have cfs and chronic anxiety is one of the root causes so great to deal with both using the same method, keeps thing simple and reminds me how they’re connected 👍

[@PainFreeYou]

Great to hear this was helpful for you.

[@dee4844mz]

Tms causes our body to get used to the anxiety that comes with it and it becomes learned. So I'm using the same techniques you teach for tms to help me with mine.

[@PainFreeYou]

Excellent!!

[@maatjederegt7434]

Right Dan! Thanks!

[@PainFreeYou]

You're welcome!

[@reneea6357]

My therapist would say my brain has been ‘hijacked’ by my limbic system. My amygdala neural network has been over activated. This has happened a number of times - the worse tends to be when I’ve hit a new milestone in trauma therapy. It’s a natural occurrence when the limbic system feels vulnerable and all of the alarms go off. And these days they’ve gotten louder, causing more ‘colorful’ days than ever. The good news is that means I’m at the heart of something important in my subconscious and I have a whole set of tools now with CBT, TMS work, and Dan’s dailies to help me through. Medications are a part of it as needed but I know that’s not the solution. It’s just a reassuring tool to use at the tough times. But the real ‘cure’ is in my own consistent work to apply these principles of TMS and PDP that I am more certain than ever are the cause of all my physical and psychological challenges.

[@throttletorque8837]

I completely agree with you Dan. I can relate to everything you are saying

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad to be able to help.

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

Excellent video, well done. Very helpful. Thank you for this message 🙏🏻

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad it was helpful!

[@serpaco2]

Thanks Dan the Man ...good subject.

[@PainFreeYou]

You bet

[@ramanamadduri6669]

Thank you Sir.

[@PainFreeYou]

You are most welcome

[@lucid118]

I thought this was interesting from an article in Jama “People who thought they’d been infected with SARS-CoV-2 had more persistent symptoms than those whose infections were confirmed by antibody testing in a recent study.l

[@PainFreeYou]

Fear drives symptoms for sure.

[@Julie-iw3mh]

I have chronic crippling anxiety and can barely cope with it each day it has robbed any quality of life for me . Stopped me driving far or seeing my friends and family and working. Not much of a life here on my own and not how I envisaged my later years at 58. It feels a permanent part of me now so don't see much hope of recovering from it sadly.

[@Inge508]

Nothing is permanent.. try to stay in the present, baby steps, not looking at the future yet. Read my comment from Eckhart Tollé. It will help you I think ! Lots of courage, everyone deserves a happy life so do you!🤗Inge

[@Julie-iw3mh]

@@Inge508 I did read your comment Inge and it makes sense. What page is it on in his book as I have the book and listened over and over to it. I'm so full of fear it's insane so system is jacked up all day with so much fear of the future and regrets of the past. Much love 💓

[@Inge508]

@@Julie-iw3mh it was something a friend printed for me. I don’t have the book. You also can find his take on this on you tube! Take care ! ❤️‍🩹

[@PainFreeYou]

Start to shift your language from chronic crippling to temporary. What are you doing to shift your thinking about the anxiety? The more you believe it ruined your life and that you cannot do anything about it, the more challenging it becomes. As stated in this video, there are two aspects. Our physical fight or flight response and our thinking. You can use your thinking to affect your body. We believe what we think and say most often. Change the script and change your results.

[@Julie-iw3mh]

@@PainFreeYou it's mainly my thinking but when the adrenaline fires up I get scared and tense and message to brain is danger danger. I just don't know how to change the thinking, one thought usually negative, and whoosh comes the adrenaline and then more fear and more adrenaline and more fear and more thoughts which get scarier and darker and on and on goes the loop. I need a pair of scissors to break this loop but unable to do so this far. It's exhausting. No gap from thought to whoosh less than a millisecond. Have signed up for CBT anxiety therapist and hope she can help me or else I will go insane for sure. Adrenaline fuelled thoughts actually make you feel and think insanely.

[@sarahberesford4724]

Scubiner says TMS is subconscious anxiety

[@PainFreeYou]

Yep - the solution is still the same. Safety.

[@jenniferhankinson1910]

What you resist, persists.

[@moneygetten]

Pills are never the answer... You are 100% right Dan... The same with insomnia... You can take sleeping meds...but when you keep freaking out, it only helps very little.

[@PainFreeYou]

Yep.

[@michaelchua3942]

The fear of anxiety is perceived danger of having a disease, constant monitoring of body symptoms worsens anxiety

[@mr2nut123]

Good morning sir!

[@PainFreeYou]

Morning!

[@CruisingWithElena]

Let go of all reasons why u can’t get better just do it as a play a game just do it for 3 days let go of every reason why u CANT overcome why u can’t heal why u can’t do it and live ur true self. Let it go and be who u really r and that’s peace in ur mind and body. How do u know it’s who u really r cuz ur pain ur fear ur discomfort is tge sign from within saying I don’t agree with u. U r false it’s not who u r. What feels good is the truth that is residing within ur soul❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Love that. Let go of the reasons you can't get better. Sounds like a video title.

[@marieberglund149]

That’s me every day 😪💔start the day crying

[@greg_nicholls]

Hi Dan. Is anxiety a TMS symptom or a consequence of fearing TMS symptoms? To be honest I feel like anxiety has become as big an issue as the pain.

[@PainFreeYou]

Anxiety is a TMS equivalent. Just another symptom. And yes, our thinking can create or keep anxiety persistent. Try not to view anxiety as a new problem to solve. While it's not comfortable, it's not dangerous and it will pass.

[@jessicanilsson5941]

Yes i got the heat and Cold

[@jessicanilsson5941]

I got Cptsd and unsafe in my body

[@jue7434]

My problem with anxiety is,my lower back hip muscles are tight especially when I relax so this is like a vicious circle I can't seem to get out of, tight muscles Anxiety leads to negative thinking any advise please Dan,? I'm swimming 3 times a week but it's hurting badly to do so. I've not been for my swim this week.

[@PainFreeYou]

Tight muscles are the result, not the problem. Meaning, fear/danger tightens us up. You don't have pain because you have tight muscles. You have tight muscles because you have pain. Consistent messages of safety is very effective: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4TWfKF3nKappLs

[@jue7434]

@@PainFreeYou Thank you for this Dan you are a wonderful human being and deserve a medal for all the help you give to so many people. You are truly a God send to so many people Your daily videos get me through each day 😊😊

[@lindascott7644]

❤

[@sarahberesford4724]

The anxiety just goes over the top of the pills

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, that can happen.

[@elaineremains]

urban legend alert lol anxiety does NOT feel like excitement!!!! lol great talk today, Dan!! i'm a problem solver, or i used to be, and that means always coding for worst case scenario... EVERYBODY'S mind works that way, but some are better at it than others... anxiety can be VERY dangerous when one has anxiety that lasts all day... you can start taking arms against a sea of troubles, and by opposing them, end them shakespeare knew lol but Hamlet was an awesome problem solver haha how do i deal with it? gaba, kava, ativan, and trying to find a way to think BEST case scenario, which is terrifying to even contemplate hahaha

[@Inge508]

Hi Elaine. Wishing you the best possible daily scenario! Btw: I bought Eckhart Tolle’s book and will start reading it! Will also be calming for mind and body! Have a good day!🤗🌺

[@elaineremains]

@@Inge508 hehe, yeah, eckhart tolle is calming, but i have this FREAKING PET PEEVE about people who find SUFFERING to be something good, that we grow from it, etc... i have not found that i grew from suffering!! that's like saying a house got stronger from a tornado hitting it... it bugs me and i have a sort of existential flip out going on over the whole 'problem of evil in the sight of a benevolent God'.... and i just don't think calling said evil 'a growing experience' is right... seems like a terrible way to cope, calling evil good, and good evil lol yep,, i'll have good day lol thanks sis ... you have a good day too, xoxoxoxoxox

[@Inge508]

@@elaineremains i think once my suffering experiences is in the past I will be grateful for the growth and insights it brought me.. on the moment you are fully in the s… it’s normal that it freaks you out.. that’s not the Truth only what I think of it.. take care!😃