The Worst They Can Say is "NO"

[@softfairy_xo_]

To be honest, if someone I'm not romantically interested in but I knew wasn't a bad person asked me to a dance in front of people, I'd probably tell them that I'm not into them like that, but if they would like, I'd still go with them. I'm not the best person, but hurting an innocent person's feelings, especially in public, just isn't for me.

[@sha78962]

When people try to hurt innocent people in an insulting way they are literally embarrassing themselves.

[@softfairy_xo_]

@Do not read my name exactly!

[@raspberrytwist6263]

I was once asked to a dance by one of my old friends Turns out it wasn't just a friendly thing, and he somehow knew my exact dress size. This spiraled into him asking me out despite knowing I already have a boyfriend... even eventually PROPOSING. We're freshmen. So yeah he isn't my friend anymore :)

[@Aisha_Luv]

But what if you want to go with someone else?

[@piegirl8263]

Never understood people who feel the need to mock those who ask them out who they don't like or aren't interested in

[@paniniprincess5211]

It's probably because they think their the superior one and they get a big ego boost so they feel the need to show that their the one in charge. By tearing down someone else ruining their confidence.

[@TheSnakelord_]

I don’t have to worry about rejections, because I will NEVER ask anyone out. Dating isn’t my thing at all, and never will be lol

[@soyswauce]

I don't do dating either tbh, but I really like somebody rn and I talk to him quite often. Tbh I don't want him to be just my friend, but... ugh

[@go1d3n.nightmare]

@I am me I had classes with a guy throughout high school and we became good friends then became best friends very beginning of our senior year. We started dating then too and now we’ve been together for almost 3 years, married for almost 1 of those years and living in complete happiness and peace 🥰 I was also one who didn’t care for relationships and dating people and I was hesitant about him but he was too sweet and precious of a guy to miss out on.

[@aggie5668]

Neither am i bc im lithromantic BAHAHAH

[@winniethepooht5776]

@@aggie5668 what's that?

[@winniethepooht5776]

@@thankyoujieun ah. Interesting.

[@themew1088]

Once a guy wrote me a note saying they liked me and wanted me to be their girlfriend. I barely knew this guy, and I wrote on the note back politely saying no, I didn't like them that way. I saw them throw it in the trash at the end of class, so no one should have known about it. Later a bunch of guys in my science class asked me how my boyfriend was, and I told them I didn't have one. They proceeded to tease me and say that the guy was. This eventually turned into bullying and over the years I've had to go to the student councillor multiple times, in tears. So now whenever guys of this specific personality and friend group say they like me or that their friend does as a joke, I become extremely blunt and say I know they don't, and I don't like them that way either. It'll probably stab me in the back one day, the bluntness.

[@srinidhi_11]

Aww that's sadd. People can be really so rude sometimes. Hope you are doing well now💞

[@themew1088]

@@srinidhi_11 Yeah, its a lot better! They only bother me three times a school year now!

[@themew1088]

@@srinidhi_11 the sad thing is the only way it could have possibly started is if the guy told the other ones.

[@themew1088]

@@katie15732 I hate that that means my life is a cliche.

[@themew1088]

@@princ3ssangéli thank you, that means a lot to me😊

[@shadowboxer1]

People put others down because they think they're superior, but the reality is the joke's on them.

[@paniniprincess5211]

Yup because they'll be the one's looking back at their actions and knowing that their the jerk and have to live with THAT while falling asleep.

[@booklover1298]

5th Story: The stuff the person asked questions about is typical when interviewing for a job. The company should've answered the questions or just not interviewed the person since they (the company) didn't want to answer the person's questions. I also agree with Kyutie (Ellen) that the company refusing to answer the questions/not telling the person their salary is a red flag. A person should know the salary they would be making before deciding whether or not to accept the job. 6th Story: The girl felt like/thought that she wouldn't have any fun, so she should've said no when the person asked her to the dance. 12th Story: The guy shouldn't have mocked the person. The person asked in private and didn't push it when the guy said no. It should've ended when the guy said no.

[@StarSong936]

I was once accused of being a scrooge because I don't go to Christmas parties. They changed their attitude when they found out, that was the last time anyone last saw my dad alive.

[@BeanKally]

Daaaamn that took a turn

[@nightm1me]

oh. i’m so sorry

[@raineblackstar3522]

Everyone i liked was always disgusted by me and my presence alone. Finally had a boyfriend in March. It hasn't even been a month and a half and he already has someone else he calls his soulmate. I guess people still don't like my presence enough to stick around.....

[@ashlismith8596]

Ellen, people judge others because they're secretly insecure but hide it by making fun of others to boost their ego.

[@mazieglick563]

These stories are so sad. At least they had the courage to ask their crushes. I would be too shy.

[@yvy.830]

the thing is if someone asked me out and i didnt like them i would still be hella flattered, like do these ppl going 'ew' hate themselves that much

[@user-bz4gz1ze3p]

ikr, i’m literally someone who used to be the person who people asked out as a joke when i was younger, i would feel so flattered

[@Mythical4227]

In a nutshell “The worst they can say is no!” *entire planet explodes*

[@Kyutie.]

HAHAHA oh noooo

[@parkgimmy4225]

But still this video gave me the courage to confess to my crush.. and his rejection text was the cutest and kindest that I'm still head over heels for him

[@catshowingmiddlefinger4792]

This guy when I was 7th grade, He never even came up to me and told me he liked me (I have only seen his face once and I don't know him at all) , he always sent his friends and his friends would beg me to go to a quite place, so that we could talk. I was not comfortable with being with someone whom I don't know, that too in a quite place. I said no multiple times and after they over did that thing, I just said I'd complain to the teacher if they don't stop. Then, I hear a rumor that I'm crazy over him and I don't stop following him. Like wtf

[@krystrl]

when I was 9, someone confessed to me and as a stupid little girl at the time I said "ew no", I feel so bad to this day.

[@manikkyn]

You were nine, you handled that much better than when I was nine 😭

[@igiveup8811]

I don’t get why people have to be mean when rejecting someone. You can do it in a nicer way. I’ve rejected a girl because I had a boyfriend and I’m straight, and I tried to be nice as possible. I get sometimes you have to be more persistent when people don’t understand that you don’t like them. I’ve also had to deal with that. But you don’t have to be a complete jerk about it.

[@Doveghost]

I wouldn't call these people "toxic", if someone asked me out, I'd be horrified, especially if it was someone I'm not already friends with, it's happened before and it's the worst feeling to experience, the feeling that someone likes your body when they don't even know who you are.

[@wendybarker5118]

A friend of mine asked a woman to dinner, once. The women lied to the church pastor that he was stalking her. The pastor believed the lie.

[@js8303]

Ellen always finds the most interesting subreddits! ✨

[@shadowboxer1]

Another silver finish for J S! ====> 🥈

[@js8303]

@@shadowboxer1 Thank you! I was beat by one second! Can you believe that? But of course, my show-within-a-show (brought to you with the help of Ba Gawk) is called *_Shining in Silver (and Sometimes Gold) with J S_* so it’s still in the name😌

[@solargomez2490]

I'm sympathetic with the dog story because it happened to me too. Love you Ellen 😍

[@matw1025]

This has happened a couple of times, when I ask my mom for simple stuff (sometimes it's for school or a birthday gift; I'm the plain less expensive chuld out of three). She was go on a right about how she's a single mother of three who is a manager for over thirty people at work and that I should stop making it seems like she's my only parent. Me and dad don't have a strong relationship and he lives miles away. I wish she would've just said a simple no instead of making me feel like a burden. She has a somewhat good point but it stings and leaves a bad taste

[@tommoway134]

She was right tho 😑

[@unknxwnyy2744]

You should tell her not to say stuff like that, especially when its just simple stuff. If it hurts you for her to speak to you like that, tell her to just say no next time. I've experienced something like this before but both my parents are together and are kinda cheapskates and stubborn.

[@matw1025]

@@tommoway134 😃😄😃damn, I have so much emotions that want to reply to this but I'mma just say, "Damn"

[@ronaldblanton9738]

These people need to realize that a simple "no" would be enough. They don't have to go the extra mile and be mean about it.

[@minalol5144]

I have a story for this! About a week ago I managed to ask my crush out, but he had an ortho appointment when the movie was showing so I tried to find other movies that we would both like and would work with our schedules. He never answered any of the things I had to ask about other movies so I asked him if he actually wanted to go out and he said possibly. Yesterday my brother showed me some things he sent me and one of the screenshots said “Tbh I like u better and i’m not even gay.”........ouch

[@noemirodriguez9137]

He ain't the one! Imo, just leave him. If he doesn't want to go out with you, it's best to just wait for the one that does!!

[@Snixker]

In fifth grade, I was in New York w the school choir for a really big choir event. After the event there was a dance party at what I now realize was kinda a rented out night club. Only people from the event were there and they kids ranged from 9 to maybe 15 or 16. There was one guy from another school who looked to be abt Junior year in high school who was kind of the main dancer on the dance floor. For some reason that mildly made me mad, don’t even remember why, maybe cuz I was 10 years old and stupid. I noticed the guy’s younger brother walking around so a went up and stopped him. He turns around, sees me, then lowers into a bow holding out his hand and asks if I wanted to dance. This kid was my age too. I’m talking 10 - 12 years old, like what? Well I, never having had anything remotely close to a romantic experience whatsoever, gave an aggressive “NO” and walked away. I still wonder if I hurt his feelings-

[@HannahsMusicAndNovels]

Do you think you could do a community post asking people questions as such and do a video based off the comments plz? I think that would be a really interesting video since a lot of these stories in the comment sections have A LOT more jaw-dropping drama than the subreddits imo 😊💖🙏

[@sariahbowman1681]

I like this idea.

[@HannahsMusicAndNovels]

@@sariahbowman1681 Thank you 😊💖

[@hottest_moomoo_aghase3105]

That's a great idea!

[@imawakemymindisalive13]

HELP!!! I have had a crush on this guy for so many months, i baked him brownies and asked for his number and we talked for 16 hours, and then i confessed and he said he liked me back. i was so happy and just amazed. he says the sweetest things and calls me beautiful and amazing and says every time he hears his phone he hopes it’s me and every message from me is like a gift. i felt the same way and we are planning to go on a date once i no longer have covid. i was so excited. but i’ve spent the whole day thinking about making out with girls and shit like that, and i all of a sudden don’t find him attractive. i mean, i do, and i want to be friends with him, and spend time with him, he’s an amazing person. but i can’t see myself doing anything physical with him anymore and i can’t bring the butterflies feeling back. i haven’t texted him today. he didn’t text me either. i don’t know if that will make it worse or not. (context: im bi, or something) please help me.

[@diyaroy9449]

so you just want to remain friends? the best thing would be to tell him that

[@user-bz4gz1ze3p]

hmmm idk, the same thing happened to me except i don’t think ab making out w girls i just don’t like anything romantic or anything like that at all anymore, and this happened to me before also, i thought i was straight but then y e a h well bisexuality can be fluid, sometimes you can be super attracted to some genders and sometimes super attracted to the other. but if you’re consistently thinking of it like all the time, you might want to tell him that maybe and remain friends

[@imawakemymindisalive13]

@@user-bz4gz1ze3p i think it’s honestly just a being fluid thing, i find that some days i’m leaning completely one way and then the next it will be opposite, some days i don’t even feel attraction. i am very much confused lol. i think i do like him though, i just need to become mentally stable 😂

[@saffi_taffi]

there is a label for that I think, I’ve heard ‘novosexual’, ‘abrosexual’ and another but I forgot. Could be worth looking into. You could also only be attracted to people who don’t like you back - unfortunate for you, but still a possibility.

[@imawakemymindisalive13]

@@saffi_taffi interesting. i will look into the labels, but luckily I am not attracted to only people who don't like me. I still like him, even though he ghosted me for 6 days and then 12 and I haven't heard back. He was so passionate and now he is silent and i hate it

[@parkgimmy4225]

After watching this video, i kept thinking of confessing to my crush and i finally sent a confession text about an hour ago... His rejection text was so kind and gentle that now I like him even more 😂 But I'm going to give up, it's not like i already didn't know that i never had a chance

[@parkgimmy4225]

Update: i can't move on and he still doesn't even know my identity

[@MikeyGrrrace]

@@parkgimmy4225 I appreciate this update even if it's bleak. 😂

[@littleninnie]

Omg, that job interview part happened to me last year. 3 weeks after the job interview, I call the agency back. I was told, verbatim "Oh?! Nobody told you? The offer was withdrawn, a couple of days after the interview ". SMH🤦🏾‍♀️😤

[@nancyomalley6286]

Those are the kind of companies that you hope will go belly up within the month! Toxic workplace!

[@ashleylarocque4500]

If I had said yes to someone, even if I hadn't meant to, I would have still gone with that person.

[@meiuzumaki7440]

The thing with rejection is that when you try to reject them nicely they tend to think they still have a chance and will continue trying.

[@umasvlogsanddisabilityreso9377]

My worst they can say is no: Basically this didn’t happen to me but the guy fixing the fridge and his company. The fridge has been malfunctioning for like a year and a half and we’ve been working with this company for like 3 months to see if they can fix it. My grandparents hired this company. They always cancel like 5 times before they actually come. They are always like “Oh my car broke down” “I’m stuck in traffic” “I’ll be there at 7:30pm, not 3” “I’ll see you in 3 weeks”, etc. My family gives them the benefit of the doubt even though when the company finally comes, it’s for 20 minutes and a different guy from the company comes each time except the last two times. He came yesterday for 3 hours but left his work unfinished, God knows when the company will be back. Yesterday, he got what he deserved. My dog bit him. My dog obviously doesn’t know what’s going on but karma got him and I hope he comes on schedule and stops his excuses. I’m like “why don’t you fire this company?” My grandfather says “well you obviously don’t know how companies work” my grandma translates by saying that once you sign a contract you can’t walk out (tell that to TV cast members lol). The guy’s nice but he doesn’t keep his schedule on track and I just have a bad vibe from him and his company

[@heathfekiff7893]

The first one could have been an honest mistake on the guy's part. My cousin had short hair through elementary/middle school and everyone would always confuse her for a boy, even some of the teachers.

[@ginathecookie]

I don't think "Can you not?" is a red flag lots of people when they confess are insistence about getting an answer and probs don't know Aro or Aro spec people exist too. Not everyone is, of course. but those on both sides can take things badly. whenever someone confesses to me, most of the time it's a burden as not only half the time it's a seuxal harrassment prank but they don't get I'm not fully wired that way (Demisexual and slightly Demiromantic) and it's just a headache. "Why don't you like me?? but I love you!!" whenever I try to let them down gently, they dont care. so yeah for the red flag part it depends as sometimes.. we're just tired and we'd rather people just not. whatever happened to just friends or friends first too? Edit; Typos. Also, no I have not said "Can you not?" per se to someone who's confessed buy have tried many times to get confessors to leave me alone after I say 'I'm sorry I just don't see you that way.' I've also been the person who was laughed at. So mocking isn't ok at all, I think we on both sides should be careful. do what needs to be done but don't harrass NOR mock/laugh at the other person. That's not cool. Be cool, kids.

[@randomthoughtsofaunistudent]

I really want to know the content of the person saying “can you not” then no. If it’s like someone asking a very inappropriate question I can see why they would react that way.

[@aliciab.b.1837]

Something like this happened to me very recently, he did say a simple no at first but a few days later and texted him and it went something like this. "Hello.", "Today is my girlfriend and I's 2-month anniversary." What happened to hello? How are you? Etc.

[@RegularInvader]

The first story sounds like the girl was a late bloomer.

[@ashlismith8596]

Jeez, instead of going into details, just say yes or no

[@jessicaswinbourn.320]

The last story, I think the best he could do is the chair.

[@amateurflor13]

this is why i won't ask anyone out. i mean, i don't really want anyone and don't think i really can like ppl if i tried, but.. idk i have enough body image issues like i don't need anyone to be like this lol

[@soyswauce]

My friend said he would shave his head bald (he has an afro) if me and my crush started dating. This is now giving me so much more anxiety. Rip me 💀💔

[@Thesilliestkid]

Date your crush so hard your friend has to shave off his scalp /j /j /j

[@ashlismith8596]

I wonder how these people from these stories are feeling after

[@ruvskm]

there are some many things worse than "No"

[@mindyourbusiness2954]

Luv the vid as always Ellen:) I noticed that some people have an entitlement problem with a side of god-complex disorder yet they aren't either they're just very rude & ignorant P.O.S. human beings it's easy to be kind but takes a real effort to be @$$holes to another person an when bad people are around others just like them it escalates & makes it seem like more bad then good in the world yet I agree with you on they're showing their true colors an it's very ugly so you dodged the bullet wit that person!!! Take everybody looking forward to the next vid stay safe & be kind it does make a difference:) ❤

[@yienafatang]

i love your content!! can you do more among us or sleepovers setting??

[@holoangie9106]

I was in 3rd grade and asked a girl (we were friends beforehand) out. She proceeded to ghost me in 4th grade

[@Tattedlady60]

The person that was turned down for the job may not know that some employers don't answer those questions until they get an "acceptance letter or email" At least, that's been my daughter's case when job hunting.

[@debadritachanda4863]

Makes me glad my crush said 'No, i don't like you that way but dw we are chill.'

[@StarSong936]

@ 0:10 Same for me but reversed. I asked a girl out, and she said she doesn't date girls.

[@StarSong936]

@ 0:30 My brother went to his boss and said "If you don't give me a raise, I'm leaving." His boss said "Bye."

[@spade339]

This whole video is full of emotional damage

[@karasanchez9720]

Ahh I'm so late but just know that all of your fans plus me love you and coco loved the video 💜💜💜

[@ZombieLeo94]

The guy dancing with a chair Plot twist: his partner is actually a chair.

[@islajadepierre9060]

Ellen you look so beautiful! I love your videos. I look forward to them.

[@gamergirlmimi263]

Rejecting someone Kinda be funny cause they asked you out and then you say no then they say oh I didn’t like you any way I just find that funny 🤣

[@Trane141Kingz]

I never went to a school dance. good riddance. I wasn't gonna do it

[@yumybunny2698]

Okie so this is from the other perspective, I feel kinda bad for this but in third grade on the last day of school I got a confession on a sticky note. Little me had no clue how to react or what to do about it cuz I didn’t know anything about the idea liking someone. So I gave it to my teacher😵‍💫 and left it at that. Did I reject him?? Do u count that as rejection lol? Now that I’m older and seeing this video I always wonder what went thru that boys head seeing me do that.

[@Amberlily9207]

I had a guy come up and kiss me before asking me out. I went with it but I turned him down not because I didn’t like him but I just got out of a bad relationship

[@ejynk]

thumbnail story is why you should only ask out bisexuals (we would appreciate it very much thank you)

[@babywaffles]

Is: I asked my first guy crush out**. not i asked out.

[@wings3572]

I love you Ellen! 🌸🌺🌸❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@KaizenBurg]

I love your videos

[@enakshiparua836]

0:47🤣🤣🤣

[@ashlismith8596]

The first story: bruh🙄

[@blobbythepotato7062]

❤️

[@js8303]

Congrats you’re first! Only beat me by a second😱

[@Kyutie.]

oh blobby!!

[@shadowboxer1]

Here's your gold medal! ====> 🥇

[@iamswag9017]

Supa swag

[@ashethetoasterstroodle]

Is the screen black for everyone or is it just me

[@elysialvr]

Just u unfortunately

[@ashethetoasterstroodle]

@@elysialvr okay thank you. I got it to work

[@jeanbean_bc]

On behalf of the girls named Jennifer, we do not claim the one at 7:54 😐

[@Sagesku115]

Early! Love your vids!

[@beatriza.castillon8166]

I've never been this earlyyyy😭

[@elysialvr]

Ooo

[@shadowboxer1]

Third! Here's your bronze medal! ====> 🥉

[@buck99]

💞u

[@creamyrosemilk3065]

hiii

[@its-suki5933]

Bro how the fuck did she get 4 likes.......

[@lily-j6k3k]

Hiii >•< !! Early!! Yaayy

[@elliehorton24]

early :D

[@allwayssparkaling4169]

early