The Wrong Tone of Voice ("You Dummy!")

[@alexanderlyon]

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[@DoADipset]

At the end, it would have been funny if he added, "you dummy." I kind of felt it anyway

[@ThanksYep]

Thought the exact same thing 🤣

[@alexanderlyon]

Ha! it would have been funny but . . .

[@oioio-yb9dw]

​@alexanderlyon too late, or maybe you can make a new one because 2024 just started😊

[@Mae-th4wf]

Omg. I have heard the phrase “it’s not what you said, it’s HOW you said it” in my relationships for most of my life. And I have never understood what that means (or how to fix it) until now. THANK YOU.

[@kenetinuade9657]

Tone of voice is one area i am glad i can confidently say i have made some progress in over time but i really appreciate the technique you shared as it will help me further. Thanks Alex

[@alexanderlyon]

Great job!

[@richarddebono7092]

This is priceless! I think I use the "you dummy" tone too much 😂😂😂

[@alexanderlyon]

Hi, Richard. Well, at least now you know what to listen for? And thank you for the compliment on the video.

[@karlatyson12]

I’m here because I’m a current clinical intern ,during mock therapy sessions my supervisor keeps saying I come off defensive. I think I’m calm professional with a even tone but he thinks otherwise 🥴😂

[@caseyd3664]

Same with me. I’m told “it’s the way you say it”, but I don’t know how else to say it 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s just how I talk.

[@iamme5417]

Thank you, it sounds like a simple technique to implement.

[@cherylecooper906]

This is great advice!! We've got to "tone" our tone!! 🤣🤣🤣 Thanks, Alex. 🥰

[@alexanderlyon]

Ha. Nice!

[@richarddebono7092]

I think you mean "tune" "you dummy" 😂😂😂

[@paolagch2977]

Thanks so easy!!! And so personal.

[@willrobbins6115]

What a great piece of advice. Thanks Alex!

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks, Will.

[@JustAnotherFallenAngel]

Thank you! Very helpful 👌

[@maina2537]

Thank you that works for me

[@jenna3362]

THANK YOU! This was super helpful

[@sarameiragootblatt1819]

wow this is a great tip

[@Ricocase]

Great points! Best ways to start and stop STAR interview responses?

[@chooseaname1423]

Thank you so much for this. I have autism and I do not understand how I can learn tone and I can’t hear myself, but I know it’s something I have to learn to have better communication with others. Other than your two videos which I will be watching, do you have any more resources or exercises to recommend for this?

[@wessean6288]

wow, loved this! 🥰❤

[@paulstejskal]

Wow this is a brilliant tip. Thank you!

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful!

[@SagRising19]

Awesome tip!

[@kristnalaehan5972]

This is great

[@GermaineMills]

ok maybe this has a good point

[@TheCCress]

To me this isn't tone of voice it is just phrasing

[@thatrandomblackwoman1701]

Would you make a video of examples where "you dummy" does not fit please?

[@bococlacko9380]

Can you expand on this? I could use a whole video on the topic, I'm trying to come across as less pedantic, despite being knowledgeable, but people hate being corrected!

[@alexanderlyon]

I have two full length videos on tone of voice. If you search for "tone of voice" and Alex Lyon on KZbin, those two videos will show up.

[@StudyabroadWithAbhilasha]

My tone sounds very authoritative which gives them wrong impression that I am angry and bossing them around. How to improve!

[@alexanderlyon]

I have another long video on _how to change your tone of voice_ . Take a look.

[@ritahiggins139]

Why would I want to build a positive relationship with a dummy?!

[@jwell3336]

So you can still degrade someone in a good tone and it still be disgraceful to them. The tone is only one part.

[@JolinHard]

Huh??

[@ElevatorWasher5000]

I’m autistic this still didn’t really help

[@sarameiragootblatt1819]

my tone is anxious and childlike! help!

[@prestonik]

I hate my voice!

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm not crazy about my voice either. I think that's pretty common. When we hear our own voices on a video or audio recording, most people I know don't like it.

[@sandrasandiford4346]

Me too, it’s harsh to begin with.

[@nancyzehr3679]

My old boss!

[@alexanderlyon]

Oof! Sorry to hear that, Nancy. I'm glad it's your old boss and not your current boss.

[@nancyzehr3679]

@@alexanderlyon Me too! She was a bit (a lot) narcissistic (managing partner for a successful law firm), so I guess...? It was a hard descision to leave, but my gut told me it was going to get much worse before it got better. Thanks for putting out this content. I find it very helpful and useful. Stay well!

[@ernie8401]

I can’t. I’m a rude dude

[@conniegreco8409]

❤️

[@adrienss_1888]

Say “You Dummy” Respectfully. He disrespecting respectfully

[@SacredOm369]

So what about guys like Dr. Jordan Peterson who just let it rip and then get a million followers?

[@ryana2952]

wut

[@Kyle._.505]

Wut the wut in the wut

[@lolidva3807]

What BS

[@sandrasandiford4346]

Whatever it takes to make relationships and life better, is not BS.