DIVORCE and falling OUT of LOVE in MARRIAGE & more with Tim Ross

[@RearviewWisdom]

“I just stuck around until I fell back in love with her” …. I think you’re saving several marriages with this. Because the way Satan would whisper loudly in your ear that the love will never return is a different kind of warfare.

[@SharondaLeonard]

Say that!!!!

[@ayeshahaskins8722]

This the realist most truthful explanation of marriage that ive seen and heard in awhile. A lot of people need to know and hear this. The most powerful line he said was, "i cant tell you how many times i then fell out of love with juliet. I just stayed until i fell back on love again." Bar.

[@Sparklecheryl146]

It will be spring again 🌻, It will be spring again 🌱 It will be spring again🌷

[@marcusfriends4832]

Finally 🙏 someone has the guts to tell it like it is

[@berlindarogers1033]

I agree with you and amen 🙏🏾

[@dii-N-sd]

Some ppl are so in denial about these topics. They can't stand when someone like Tim keeps it real. Ppl like that sugar-coated vision of marriage, etc. Then REALITY knocks them upside the head. 😂

[@berlindarogers1033]

I totally agree with you about some people who don't want to hear this, which is the TRUTH. I love to Tim Ross because he tells the truth. ❤❤❤

[@miriahperkins3662]

Yo little boy ain’t fixed 🔥

[@mabhuhadebe2397]

Thank you Tim. I know now how it'll be in my next relationship. Got married and divorced. It's been the most painful almost 10 years of my life. Now I'm gonna learn about me and life.

[@abby999]

divorce is so hard, forgive yourself and take it one day at a time

[@mabhuhadebe2397]

@abby999 Thank you @abby999. I've heard I should forgive myself. Maybe I don't know how to. It keeps getting back to how him and his mother got me in just to humiliate me and then reject me. It hurt so bad. Every day I tell myself I forgive them. Every single day. Thank you so much for the encouragement.

[@abby999]

@@mabhuhadebe2397 you’re welcome🥰🫶sometimes in our mind we can forgive before our body actually lets the thing or person go. therapy has been helping me enormously. in fact my therapist has had me doing homework sheets on self forgiveness. it’s hard work but good work. i hope you find support similar to help you walk through this painful time-none of us can do it alone♥️

[@myinnocentlife8885]

In in the dead of winter 🥶. Thank you

[@TeeRenee830]

Not talking to both at the same time 😂😮 No but seriously love is a choice because I’ve been married for 11 years and been with my husband for 20 years. Somedays we are in love and other days we get on each other’s nerves. It took us 10 years being a hot mess and doing life with each other the wrong and ignorant way in our 20s before God woke us up to how to really love each-other and what that meant in His eyes. We’re not perfect but we’re working to be better allowing God to lead us while showing our 4 kids the right way to love and not the worldly way. 🫶🏾

[@Tramaine108]

To fall in or out of love is to say love is simply a feeling. However, it’s a choice to desire TO DO for someone and TO DO on behalf of someone else even when they are not at their best or you are not at your best. But love is not a choice. It’s an act of the will accompanied by emotions led by actions on behalf of its object. So love is an action because you DESIRE TO DO for someone else. The question now is whose will is the statement referring to?

[@Monique_Diedericks]

I needed this. I thought spring should be all the time. Thats where my head is always but this is so so so true. And it takes work

[@christelhall4]

Thank you, I appreciate it. I do need to pray more. I have started counseling. I haven’t cried in a while. I feel like I’m all cried out. Some days I have peace about, others I wonder if I’m making the right decision.

[@breyonpatterson8857]

Tim just so real he be spitting facts

[@abby999]

thats what happens the closer u get to jesus…as a human u can never be perfect on this earth however tim’s a wonderful example of walking with Him

[@vivalageegee]

Ok but how do we survive Winter because mama is TIREDDDDDDDD!!!

[@ashleyjoyspeaks]

😂😂😂 “They’re acting!”

[@NtegFamilyYouTube]

Amen!

[@josh4063]

Thanks for this

[@intimacywithclarissa]

This conversation in a world where polyamory has become the solution for many. The argument that one is not normal. The world is wild, confusing, and overwhelming.

[@Random.338]

It is wild but it’s not confusing. If God wanted us to be poly. He would have made 2 or 3 women for Adam. But he only made one.

[@eharrisark870hogg4]

I needed this you speaking the truth 💯

[@krbourne]

Thank you for your honesty. This was helpful.

[@tracysnipes2144]

3 decades and found out he never wanted to be married apparently. I lost myself for him and lost passion and attraction due to no closure from the past wound he caused but I said he is so good and worthy. He never communicated and said what he needed never said his needs so he seek it elsewhere and never worried about how I felt so he neglected me for someone else unbeknownst to me. I just thought he was tired from working to much but he actually was sleeping else. Where still sleeping in the same bed.

[@faustinadonkorofficial]

God bless you Sir for helping our Generation! God bless your marriage and children! God protect you all! Blessings!

[@duvaughnblack1147]

Tim will always have a song lol 😂

[@NBnNC]

3 songs in 10 minutes 😂

[@Bronzyglow]

Yes. Thank you for being honest. ❤

[@brandonwilson4470]

This was fire needed to hear it

[@SimplyAisha16]

It's winter over here right now, but spring is around the corner

[@tonyaharris4204]

I’ve been married 22 yrs and now separated about to divorce all because he shared with me I love you but not in love with me I said I don’t like you so now I’m in my own seasons and btw the video was good thanks just wanted to share

[@latoyaamb3r]

That’s normal though. I just thought everyone knew that. Everyone I know that has been married for decades has gone through that. But their friendship, respect for one another, and God has kept them together. They always come back together. Sometimes it takes years. But the enemy is not your spouse. It’s your two against whatever is coming between you.

[@tonyaharris4204]

@@latoyaamb3r I thank you and wish there was a way to hit the like and dislike button because it was good to share and yes I know now that it’s not the spouse that we are fighting against it’s the spirit in that person at the time. I know and understand that the spouse doesn’t have that much power to upset or tear anything apart but the enemy knows the past hurts and triggers and uses those things to separate people however both parties have to understand that. I know that now and knowing that comes by and by however a lot of people are not aware of the God, enemy, stay and/ or come back together dance. Hurt people hurt people and when you are hurt you cannot see straight or wisely. However what I can say is that it’s important that both must or should marry someone that is their friend and there must be communication healthy and unlimited communication. how ever at the end of it all God will have His say and will get the glory because we know that all things work together for our good to those who are called. It’s always bigger than us.

[@cassyj3001]

Thanks for your transparency!

[@shemeshclark3105]

The "Amen's" in the background LOL!! BIG facts though!!

[@7Logik]

No excuses for letting your body go , get into the gym . No excuses if you made a “vow “ to be with each other then you vowed to be committed , yes that means looking good , because fitness is a healthy lifestyle . Often times so many people let themselves go because they’re comfortable…. Well, that might the very thing that costs many people .

[@Coconamarestoy]

Not true at all. Life be lifing for A LOT of people. That's life so there are things that happen that can cause people to "let themselves go". But as he said "there are seasons" in life. Get back to it together and encourage your partner and inspire them not berate them. Allow the seasons to happen and not give up. What was once young will get old and bodies change with children, stress, jobs, lifestyle, medical conditions etc.

[@Jesuslovesme36512]

its true AAAAAAND on the flip side, if you can't have love and patience while your beloved comes back into health and healing, then your vow wasn't a vow, it was a superficial commitment to vanity. I'm saying this 13 years in, after body issues and actually seeing more love at my heaviest etc, than when I was thin and beautiful ., still am beautiful, just different. and Now i get to freely walk back into health without the superficial expectation that i HAVE to do this for a spouse, but rather for my 9 and by conjunction, OUR) longevity... just sharing a real life experience.

[@Mr.Finley_Jamison]

Good Preaching Preacher.

[@inspirationsbynse]

Keeping it 💯

[@notzoyrblacc]

This was a great word. That porn topic hit home craaazy. 😂

[@Theohybrid]

The Truth About Love by Pat Love", talks about this. Theres gonna be highs and lows. But you can get back in love.

[@ElleJae-b9q]

Broken boyhood!!!

[@SEAC_GOD]

💀😆 @2:00 & hummingbirds are 😂👐🏾

[@jasminecarter8998]

He hit the lil Kim 😂

[@tawandahaulcy8700]

Preach👏

[@bdoug87]

My eyes might be playing tricks on me but gotta say that the picture behind Tim looks like Diddy in the 90s /early 2000s era lol

[@breyonpatterson8857]

Dawg he came for me

[@ninasky7]

On tuesday morning bust it open 😂😂😂

[@cwagsr7189]

This young man is hilarious 😂 😃 😄

[@islayzz7514]

What camera and lenses are you using

[@AxelFoley-sb5re]

I agree with the message, but he was kind of doing a bit to much with the antics.

[@r.walker7986]

People don't fall out of real love. You were never in love in the first place... Fact is most people are not really in love, they are infatuated with the person and what is being talked about is a cycle of jump starting and reigniting the feelings of infatuation over and over again... A lot of times people will never actually meet the ;love of their life or who they really desire to be with so this is what they have to do to not be alone. Play these mind games to make themselves feel like they are in love...

[@RepentImmediately]

How long have you been in love with your spouse?

[@94ftoflogic_idr14]

You’re wrong and it’s ok. Yes plenty of ppl get stuck in seeking infatuation instead of mature love or they chase intensity instead of intimacy. Some suffer from limerence etc. But to say certain people aren’t really in love because they have seasons of less romance less intense feelings doesn’t mean they aren’t in love with their partner. All emotions and feelings are fleeting but love is more than that it’s a commitment, duty, call to action, and essentially a discipline.

[@5_24_20]

Bro I been saying this for years. I don’t think it’s possible to fall out of real love or people change after marriage. We just choose to Ignore certain red flags then say they changed when we married. No u ignored it thinking it would change in marriage. Find what u can tolerate. Yes I’m single but because it took me time to heal my wounds as a kid to grown man. I’ve only been in love once in high school and early 20’s. I never got tired of her. Nothing she did made me not love her. I just think it’s unfortunate that we will find real love multiple times in life but it may be possible.

[@94ftoflogic_idr14]

@@5_24_20 bro you’re describing infatuation/limerence and borderline idealization of the woman. “ nothing she ever did made me not love her “ everyone and I mean everyone has some habit or pattern that annoys you. Love is absolutely accepting the red flags in another love would also allow both of you to accept where y’all can grow to better the relationship. In the honeymoon stage which can last 3-5 years those unmet needs from childhood etc don’t necessarily show up but they also do after the dopamine drops back to baseline.

[@5_24_20]

@@94ftoflogic_idr14 that’s the problem those childhood issues show up in the beginning if we listen and pay attention and not be so stuck on how she look or how much we like her. Listen with the spirit not the flesh. I’m one conversation if y’all talk an hr or so as a real man lead by God u will know right then if she’s someone u can build with. We just don’t listen. We always as men wanna lead so much that we over talk them and miss the red flags

[@travelwithsouthernchick5112]

Broken Boy Hood need to be a clothes brand!!!! Most men do this mine walked away after 13 years!!

[@JayBando213]

💯

[@Mastrwill24]

Why Tim going so hard? A lifetime of wisdom in 10 minutes

[@Monique_Diedericks]

You definitely don’t know anyone. You never actually know someone

[@abby999]

until you know jesus😂🙏🙏🙏

[@Monique_Diedericks]

@@abby999 Yep he is the only one we can truly know

[@christelhall4]

What if you’ve been through all the seasons( more then once) over the course of 20 years and your husband is 21 years older than you?

[@MsLi-ef1xp]

Pray, cry, get counseling..do everythang. Speaking from someone who is divorced not by.my choice...it's super ghetto out here. Blessings

[@latoyaamb3r]

That’s normal. Sometimes you’re in love and he’s not. Sometimes he is and you’re not. Sometimes you both are in love. Sometimes you’re both not. Be friends. True friends. Life partners. It’s you two against the issues. Dont make each other the enemy. pray together and draw closer to God. Pray for God to cover yall and give you the fruit of the spirit that you still handle each other with care love respect patience kindness temperance during the seasons you’re not in love but still committed to loving each other no matter what. That’s the vows are for. For remembering your commitment even when you don’t feel like it.

[@christelhall4]

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I truly appreciate it.🙏🏾

[@katrinagarnett3256]

Do you have a short with you saying “I Don’t know how many times I’ve fallen out of love…”?

[@shunqettacunningham2608]

😂😂😂😂

[@ndidin1]

I don’t understand y spiritual leaders are saying the N word to seem tapped in. It’s mental slavery either way, addressing boys to be men but calling them N words at the same time. Stop it

[@kyleychanel5574]

hes black please

[@ndidin1]

@@kyleychanel5574 so what we can use other words to address each other… words mean things

[@j.conley237]

You make perfect sense but make sense of the fact the N word is now used a tool for us and a weapon for non-black people. I think when using the N word it doesn’t represent mental slavery for us anymore because we KNOW our history and struggles and victories and the N word is describing REAL feelings and honesty. Just like cussing is not good to say but it is not a factor or way of living, it’s a way making people understand you because unfortunately ppl don’t hear you unless you can relate to them about your frustrations and your points to describe tough feelings. It takes real work to cuss out someone without cussing and it take real effort to not use the N word among your black peers without connecting with them on a level that no one else can has personal access to. Other cultures have there slang/racial slurs towards EACHOTHER even though their history is rich. But you right. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@dariuscallegari3527]

Absolutely right! The word meaning hasn't changed, people have diluted it and grown accustomed to hearing it, but that does not change the meaning.

[@lexxiethomas289]

I agree!! Although we aren't perfect .. I don't agree with his language sometimes .

[@carlfrancis4704]

Men should love but never be in love.

[@GodisGlamorous]

I. EAT. AT. HOME!!🔥🔥🔥