HOW to DETACH. Detachment IS the game changer.

[@gabbyyeargain]

"You need to get as obsessed as you feel about other people about yourself" - This is what I needed to hear.

[@humanyoda]

I question the wisdom of being obsessed.

[@AaronTompkinz]

😂you are so selfish so empty so shallow dieing to self I'd the way to true freedom

[@zoerami365]

I hope your detachment journey is going well!. Remember you are the only being in your universe.

[@raimi8mm]

I like this a lot. But since I already know my deepest parts of me even though I may totally not be aware of certain things, my neurodivergence, will not let me even attempt to think this way.

[@raimi8mm]

​@@humanyodaobsession is an indication of intense and complicated emotions. Same with addiction.... Both concepts have something to do with making something a priority that shouldn't be a priority.

[@marialovell6967]

Never make another person the centre of your world... The ONLY person who should be centre of your world/life is YOU! ❤

[@Coneman3]

Hard for INFJs.

[@electrodynamicorb6548]

Women have no problem with that philosophy.

[@jehuni3364]

My childrens are center of my world right now!

[@justnow4846]

I believe this is so true even in spiritual term. It’s ok to centre around Me Myself and I .. w/out intentionally hurt others.

[@susym9729]

❤this

[@PeterCianci]

Great message! Over 20 years ago my very wise, beautiful wife said to me, "just make me feel loved, appreicated and safe" and you will get all you want from a wife. She was so right! I love, work hard and protect her and she inately respect me, which is all a man really wants. To often today there is a struggle for "respect" in a relationship. She told me my job was to love her and respect is an automatic byproduct of that love from a woman. On top of everything else she is so amazing at...honestly 30 years later and I am far less worthy of that woman than I was the first day I met her. Praise God.

[@debbiedeakin7763]

That's beautiful ❤

[@donnaharlow4608]

How wonderful ❤

[@juliusmatuzevicius]

Or do the same thing for your loved one and get dumped by her. Women can be cruel

[@racheloshaksmusic]

You are worthy of her since you were able to give her what she wanted which was love, appreciation and safety

[@PlaywithDaisy]

@@juliusmatuzevicius maybe because you are cruel

[@TeresaGutierrez-e8k]

Love this So inspiring My mind has been completely consumed by thoughts of him. It’s been six months since he left, and the pain of losing him feels like a physical ache. The laughter, the memories, the adventures sadly, it’s all gone. I’ve tried everything to distract myself, but the harder I try, the more I find myself thinking about him. How do people let go and move on? It’s been months, yet the memories of him are still so vivid. I miss him more than words can say.

[@AngelaGardner-t6c]

Sweetheart, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My heart aches for you I can only imagine the pain and longing you must be feeling. Last year, my fiancé ended our three year relationship without giving me a reason. I cried every night because I couldn’t imagine life without him. It was one of the darkest periods of my life. But I want you to know that you’re not alone, and I’ll always be here for you. in my search for healing, I reached out to a spiritual counselor for guidance, and it made a huge difference for me. With his help, my fiancé and I were able to rekindle our relationship, and we’re back together now.

[@TeresaGutierrez-e8k]

A spiritual counselor? That sounds fascinating. How can I reach out to him?

[@AngelaGardner-t6c]

His handle is Father Tosin Ayodele. He specializes in rekindling the spark in broken relationships.

[@TeresaGutierrez-e8k]

Thank you so much for sharing this I really appreciate your honesty and openness.

[@prettyblessing3306]

​@@TeresaGutierrez-e8kNo don't do that..I'm telling u,u will definitely regret it..forgive your self and move on

[@victoria_hypnotherapy]

„Does he like me?“ does it matter??? It will play out as it plays out. - Game changer. Needed to hear this!

[@KVG822]

We should be questioning if we like him or is he just there?

[@laoisemeehan]

I'm embarrassed to say this anxious attachment made me develop serious stalking tendencies, even to guys I barely knew. It brought me nothing but pain in the end, it didn't change a thing.

[@graceomakada5082]

I can relate being too attached to anything takes away your freedom subconsciously while cultivating other destructive tendencies

[@justanotherviewer00]

How did you heal?

[@laoisemeehan]

@@justanotherviewer00 I didn't.. I don't believe we can ever fully heal. Its ongoing, constantly in a flux. It's a relief to know this. It's also a relief when you realise wanting to be healed, rather than accepting where you are, is what is causing inner turmoil and conflict. I am at point a (suffering, grief, anxiety) I desire point b (healing, peace) the desire itself is actually causing more conflict and grief. I sank into point a, and flipped point b the bird.

[@trollzynisaacjohan1793]

@@laoisemeehan you will heal, I no longer carry shame that I was unfortunately sexually assaulted at 7. We can heal with effort. Jameela jamil coined it perfectly in her interview with Russell brand.

[@JudeLawKingKlaus]

Always asking myself, how did I become like this? Have I always been like this?

[@sitarskee3281]

I remember when I first heard this quote "You are not your thoughts", it really changed the way I looked at myself. Detaching myself from my thoughts really helped me improve my confidence and I generally accepted myself more. I always thought of myself like I was a loser, weirdo etc. But those were just thoughts, not reality. Something so simple, yet it changed my life completely.

[@baptizedbyfire13]

"Your mind will take the shape of what you frequently hold in thought, for the human spirit is colored by such impressions." - Marcus Aurelius

[@thunderpooch]

Uh, you're kinda your thoughts. A better concept is, "You're not the toxic thoughts you were programmed to have as a child." Question your initial reactions. Chances are your lizard brain is kicking in. Children take shortcuts to survive. You formulate emotional responses to get your shit bag parents on board to better respond to you. That's what most people are dealing with.

[@MorningsWithMaria]

same I love that, I want to remember it more often “allow the thoughts to pass like clouds” is another similar favorite that grounds me. Like when I feel super sad, I feel guilty about feeling sad and then I remember those quotes and allow myself to feel sad. and funny enough.. the sadness goes away lol

[@sylviachiamaka9763]

​@Dr. Christopher Johnson hi

[@the_irmacita]

I love this comment so much! Thank You 🙏🏼 😊. Blessings your way ❤

[@melblack]

Spending more time with yourself helps a lot. I can quickly attach to people but I also quickly dettach. I know I'll be fine without them cuz I've done almost everything on my own. You have to find your own worth and focus on yourself, you should always be your top priority!

[@MichelleFarrismft]

This was such an important point - spending time befriending yourself DOES make a huge difference because you can rely on what YOU think instead of negating it for what other think. Great point Mel!

[@Syncwithnature24]

Exactly 💯 since my childhood i been doing all alone .but some voids made me feel i need anybody i need to rely on them ..yes i did but now i have realized it really very well that i can do better alone i have the power to love myself and not let anyone make me attach to them and then leave me like a dog panting in summers and crying .i know myself ,my priorities , my soul what I need and moreover i am now familiar with my great self ❤

[@bterreqwr]

This is why isolation is crucial, find yourself before finding others. Indeed you wont have to find them after you have found yourself, for your authenticity will be that magnetising.

[@annebowles550]

Its just finding your own worth has been the hardest part for me....

[@superscience4817]

I'm struggling on focusing on myself. I still keep on thinking about her. I know that Focusing on myself and Improving myself would be the Best Investment that i can give o myself but im still struggling to do it. I'm still looking for her. I still want to be updated about her. I do still have feelings and still can't detach.

[@earffquakee_]

thank you scarlett johannson for teaching me about the law of detachment

[@too602]

I agree

[@heathertjaden756]

😂😂

[@mayra.1intllectual4u72]

😂😂

[@TheErikapal20]

😂

[@xmchughs]

This character is amazing 😆😆😆

[@evareyes2001]

I used to be so self confident. All of the sudden, I feel as if I’ve found myself so dependent on surrounding my happiness around other people. This video really heals my heart

[@aloramorar1064]

I was feeling so low yesterday because I couldn’t control how I felt about him and why he didn’t choose me. But I came to a realisation to detach. Then this morning, you posted! Universe is divine and that you appeared on my KZbin page.. WOW! Thank you so much Margarita!

[@BB1060b]

This happened EXACTLY in the same way with me! Wow

[@aloramorar1064]

@@BB1060b wow really!!! Collectively trying to detach! Love that for you! 💕

[@steadypace1262]

This was timely for me too, right on time right now.🕊

[@myrthe_vlinder]

same here. this was absolutely not a coincidence haha

[@helensamson1676]

i have been in ur place then i detached completely three weeks before like no contact at all and now am feeling really good trust the process and be disciplined

[@mousseva]

"We're almost blind to the fact that we are here to live one life and the quality of it needs to be amazing. The man needs to add something to your life. You don't need to struggle like a mule up the hill of life with him on your back, doing nothing. Why? Were you born to carry this man on you at the detriment to you?" 🤣 Cracked me up so hard!

[@i_observe9846]

Same with women

[@heyitsjennifer]

😂😂👌🏽

[@kerrymillar1267]

I revel in being a mule

[@ConradKurtMorgan]

So true where are you from?

[@mrsteff24]

100% Right though

[@thevisualboard]

You're so right! My ex left me and I never would have- if he didn't. Thank God, because I walked straight into the love of my life. Detachment means opening your eyes to the reality of the situation, not romanticising the good parts. Detach for yourself and actually visualise your future life; it works.

[@soulsgold]

Detachment will give your partner the freedom to come closer to you. If you are attached to an image of a person, how you want them to be Then you are trying to control the result, the situation, the person, constantly observing them People feel that They are energetic beings They feel your life and purpose are predicated on their actions and reactions How can they be themselves? (notes for myself)

[@ananichi]

Screenshot this. Thank you.

[@user-yi7td2sq9b]

Great points. And, if I may add, it gives you and them the freedom to recognize "this person isn't for me, and that's ok". Sometimes I personally find myself involved with people I don't really want to be with, but I'm afraid to break it off.

[@agape843]

Insightful!❤

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

But how do we know if out anxious feelings are activated by someone who is manipulative and withholding basic respect? How do we know if it's us, both or just a response to a person who is playing our mind. Confusing bc the advise is often: set boundaries, don't accept breadcrumbs. I recently ecoressed my confusion to a guy who would go quiet for 4 days. I tried to endure but eventually I told him we are not compatible. He was surprises and said he is emotionally unavailable. I still don't know if I ruined it. I don't chase or text nor call. So I control myself but if i really feel low and disrespected I will tell someone if they want me they will stay. I'm sad still but it is what it is. He said it's not sustainable.

[@bbm2116]

​@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 I'd advise that you let them go. If you're strong enough to be broken then you can wait on them. Sad truth, they're just who they are. I personally got anxious due to the inconsistence, lies and manipulatolion. I don't know what took me this long, I'm in the beginning of a break up initiated by him. I hope and pray I don't come back here to write about this in the next 5 years. My mind is done, my heart? Am still talking and begging it to let go because that is what I would like. I don't know how but I know it is what I want now, I really don't care about what will the future be like, I know the future I want is a future with peace, love, trust, respect and transparency. All the best🌺

[@margaritashamrakov]

Margarita this is beautiful. I agree. I stayed with someone for 9 years and tried to make it work. I am ashamed of how desperate I was . That was not love. I was afraid to be alone

[@zinazoulou3574]

are you still together or did he break up with you?

[@ParisianBreakfast]

​@@zinazoulou3574"That was not love." Sounds like they are not together anymore.

[@joyserwaah]

"if you're sitting there focusing constantly about when he's going to propose, he's not got anything to propose to. because you've become a mirror of his expectation." this is it. this is what changed everything for me. thank you

[@Zelanias]

could you elaborate this? I didnt quite understand and i really wish to understand/grasp this...

[@Laurenrenrenren]

​@@Zelanias Same..I don't really understand

[@luckystone2293]

I also don't understand.

[@izzahz730]

What does that mean

[@adrianoss.bougas3720]

can you explain?

[@kylieb5246]

This made me cry like the entire video just thinking about how much time I’ve wasted wanting people to like me, when the whole time I just need me to like me. Thank you for all of your videos they are helping me through the tough test period of my life ❤

[@motha_earth1386]

Yes it has been such a time waster but Im so grateful to still be able to learn

[@cloudyy-dl1fb]

I’m already in that situation again, and I realised few days ago that you should love your internal self first than to rush yourself to fit in with some people. But it’s actually those people choice to whether they want your attention or not even though it’s complicated. Especially nothing in this world is perfect. So I decided to accept how it is, having to just start re-focusing on myself again and be more careful with my energy that’s not force

[@patriciapage4625]

If anyone cheats you will eventually find out sooner or later without searching the stuff. You'll drive yourself crazy. Self worth in yourself is so important.

[@Cheptabgaa]

This is such a great point ! I've been there and it almost drove me nuts trying to find evidence, which I found 😢. But these days, I don't even care to look through phones or social media ! Detachment has given me such peace of mind !

[@lauralynn1667]

Absolutely!!

[@mmaya772]

So if you just randomly say that you prefer to start using protection (if y’all aren’t)then what if they ask why? Do you just tell them the truth? Just curious when it comes to that.*​@nailahdavis569

[@AutomHatter]

This is basically how I eventually stopped drivigg by myself crazy which a partner who abuses alcohol. I used to search the house up and down much to the detriment of my mental health. Finally one day I decided I was done searching. Because I knew that if they were drinking… it would find me eventually.

[@iamcaitlinroseb]

This woman seems to be the only person I can hear for my currently fragile heart. Deep down there’s a huge confidence inside of me, thank you for helping me find it.

[@J4smine3ee]

This is my first video I’m seeing by you. I’m currently pregnant by someone who gave me a sense of security and safety and I felt like it would last forever. After I found out I was pregnant he said he didn’t love me as much anymore and that he didn’t want to be with me. I’ve been hurting so much. Your video really really got through to me and you said everything I NEEDED to hear. It hurts but I want to be happy again and your words have fully made me accept I need to detach. Thank you, you’re truly making an impact. Godbless you and Thank You 🙏!

[@sprinkles8288]

i hope everything works out for you 🩷

[@iflaziart]

I'm so sorry what you've been through... May God give you strength and patience and bring your life new miracles and more self-love...

[@activemindset]

I am so sorry to hear that. I wish you the best in your journey with your baby ❤

[@Renegadespirits]

❤❤❤

[@gigilou]

I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. Sending you so much love and strength ❤❤❤

[@gabriellepitts3707]

I started detaching when I learned about simulation theory. I swear, within moments of just stopping the momentum of "control" everything was magnetized toward me! People started to bend over backwards to make me happy because there is something magnetic about someone that is indifferent.

[@ilovepasta4eva932]

what is that theory exactly about?

[@LiketheSunflower]

Can you elaborate on how the theory effected your behavior? Very interestjng

[@jonistrand6702]

Can you tell us more? I am so happy your in a good place and good things are happening to you.

[@gapeach7814]

Isn't it so weird how people want what they can't have. You get more of what you want by acting aloof than you will being anxious & trying to prove your worth.

[@leveweld]

This is a good point. Basically because its all a virtual video game, there is no point in taking everything especially yourself, so seriously. So chill out, be indifferent, but love and trust. This is my struggle. Although I've been aware of this for awhile now, I never applied it to my attachment style. It's so easy to get caught up in this life

[@habibaelhadidi4702]

Your advice is spot on I've been trying to figure out why I got so attached in the first place and I think I now realize it is me not liking where my life is at now and sort of looking for an escape through someone. The solution is to focus solely on creating a life you like and then everything would fall into place.

[@leidapollak7079]

Best Podcast

[@sassenachdragon]

That is It in a nutshell. I know this is the case for me too. It’s like you think that person being in your life will solve your problems for you and it’s an easier route in your head because it requires no effort to let someone do it for you, but because you can’t control people or force them to do what you want and solve your problems that the real solution is solving your problems for yourself because you are the only person you can affect and truly control. Besides most people don’t like to have someone who is heavily dependent on them.

[@kimadiggs237]

Yes take of “you” first, and everything will fall in place😢😢🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@ladyAiZell]

😊

[@superscience4817]

💯

[@WorldofLos]

I’m a 44 year old male and I amd so thankful for finding this video. I really needed it. I find myself getting attached to things, losing myself, and wondering why I’m never good enough. I’ve missed out on so many relationships and opportunities because I was stuck on one person or job that I was dysfunctionally attached to.

[@Zuuzaankaaa]

But the experiences taught you something, didn’t they?

[@gapeach7814]

Same here. I'm in therapy trying my best to work through it. I hope you consider doing the same.

[@luckystone2293]

Obviously bad experiences can teach you some things, but there should be more to life than constant painful lessons.

[@TheRetroWoman80]

Been there, so unhealthy.

[@Mags765]

Same for me now. Working through all this. Blessings 🙌🏽

[@yanacshell]

"There are many ways to take this video", is very true. My fear of detaching is about my job. It's tiring, unorganized and somewhat toxic. I want to leave it, but I'm scared to. I know I will be leaving the job soon though. I have to for my peace of mind.Thank you. This is helping me face my fears. Update: I left. I don't have my dream job just yet, but the new one now is way better, so I'm grateful 😁 while still working towards my goals.

[@healthright3657]

Good for you!

[@elliellieelliee]

Going through a hard breakup being dumped as a anxious attached. The quote about not running to bring the chocolate cake is a new mantra of mine.❤

[@alexawilsonartvideos]

Sounds like mental boundaries, but with yourself. We are not taught boundaries with our own thoughts. Self-integration, self-love is mastery. Thanks for the video. It was interesting!

[@Margarita.Nazarenko]

Great way to see it

[@Purpleiciousbabe]

Facts!

[@xXSharkAttackxX]

"Mental boundaries, but with youself" very well said

[@richrich2862]

This could be attained with affirmations - every time a self boundary comes up in your head- switch it up with positive affirmations about yourself and about the situation - do this until you have self regulated and entered into the state where an intrusive thought rears its ugly head, your mind instantly and automatically counteracts it without something positive instead. Read The Power of The Subconscious Mind and Psycho-Cybernetics - authors are doctors and it’s live changing how incredibly powerful we are and how to implement that power into our every day lives to change into ideal selves and our ideal reality. Goodluck ❤

[@yasminebelghith6741]

In 23 minutes you've changed me more than my therapist of 4 months. thank you

[@Margarita.Nazarenko]

That’s incredible to hear 😍

[@mepersepolis2959]

I'm also seeing a therapist. I have been doing the work myself for two years until I couldn't take it anymore. So I went to a therapist to help me. I told him everything I've been working on and how it bothers me that my trauma has a hand in it. The man just repeated everything I had diagnosed in a firmer tone expecting me to look surprised, and considering that was my first therapy session, I was disappointed honestly. I don't think I want to go back

[@Glitter101]

Very very wise lady she’s amazing it is about owning who you are and working with that. BTW Most therapist are text book they come from an academic background and use their intellect to “listen” and help . If they are inexperienced in real life issues there will be a disconnect between therapist and patient( for want of better word) which will be apparent.

[@mrkeitt]

💯

[@alunalalune8691]

This is so so so timely. Literally the universe had to force me into detachment from someone that I love who was spiraling. No amount of love, intimacy, or soft guidance can save someone committed to dysfunction. I finally accepted that the lesson was not in me proving I could "help" or save this person. But in the fact that I should be ok with help/saving myself- even if it means letting this person go to figure it out. It was really really hard but I appreciate how the universe send me these little nuggets of wisdom like today in your video just to say: You're doing the right thing keep going. So thank you

[@steadypace1262]

Well said and yes we need to save ourselves, if the person you are trying to help is a true narcissist they won't appreciate you trying to help them.🕊

[@alunalalune8691]

@@steadypace1262 exactly and so many of the covert traits are there. Hindsight is always 20/20. Is it just me or is that emotional disorder pretty rampant nowadays

[@steadypace1262]

@@alunalalune8691 We are living in a more narcissistic age that's for sure, the amount of crimes out there now being committed by some adults and even children now is quite disturbing. Without empathy a person's heart can grow cold very quickly.

[@alunalalune8691]

@@steadypace1262 please be safe out there…

[@steadypace1262]

@@alunalalune8691 Thank you and take good care of yourself too.👍🤗

[@filizsayar3583]

Well said❤ "detachment can help you control your reality without letting it control you!"

[@DaxCollier]

This video is a great guide for learning to detach healthy. For those on a journey of self discovery, the journey to self love by Cameron J. Clark is a fantastic companion.

[@RealTalk-mq2ug]

My life moves with grace. I use my intuition wisely. I see connections and the deeper truths. All that I need is within me. I dwell in the state of presence. I am a timeless, eternal being, connected to the wisdom of the Universe. I see challenges in my life with great clarity. I learn from the challenges in my life, they are spiritual lessons. I love and accept myself. I open myself to insights and clarity.

[@motha_earth1386]

Sooo beautiful!

[@sasankabordoloi5027]

Detachment and letting go is the key for happiness, learnt it myself the hard way!!

[@nusratjahantumpa3579]

Me too

[@devotedtoextraordinary]

“If you’re sitting there focusing constantly about when hew going to propose, he’s not got anything to propose TO, because you’ve become a mirror of his expectation” MINDBLOWING

[@SanriohasmyHe4rt]

Whenever I get anxious I take a step back and bring full awareness to it, like taking a pause by looking at the " anxious flare up " for what it is and let it pass by giving myself love and compassion. Being an anxious person is like having a little personality disorder that needs to be manager, but the good thing is that you can eventually be a secure person over time

[@dianacolvin4472]

“The way to make a person do good to you is to speak into them as if they are” ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I really wanna hear more about this!!!!!!

[@Raymondgogolf]

Hi Diana tweet t greeI hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful Woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you…. T

[@januarybaby]

31 years old and because of YOU I'm just now figuring out why I am the way I am. Letting go feels so good. You're amazing keep helping others!

[@Stephaniacat]

same girl, i started working with my self concept but deep down i still needed to hear this from someone. Even though men that i liked approached me, in my early to mid twenties, i just didn't have the confidence and would ended up chasing them and giving desperate vibes. Just like margarita, i had attachment issues and they'd ghosted me or used me. Now that I've been watching her videos i realized what are the things that I was doing right and what are the things that messed up my relationship with those men.

[@wa5561]

The pep talk I needed. No one, except you, was able to help me with my anxious attachment. I feel like I am going through a deep transformation and it was long overdue. My head was torturing me with all this anxiety and nearly ruined my most precious relationship. Detachment felt so unfair. It felt so unfair that after all these years and efforts, my heart and willpower is drained. Despite getting its value and importance, I still don't like it. I am still wounded and I pray that in some time, I can cry happy tears that I am still alive and going stronger than before. Thank you for your videos, I needed them to redirect my head. There's nothing worse than having a great life on the outside with so many things people pray for, while inside my head there is just mental torture, hopelessness, and the wish to die. It feels so fucking unfair to detach from my most beloved wishes for my life because they were the reasons I was motivated to do anything. I cultivated so much talent, discipline and knowledge, but it does not give me any joy without connection.

[@pd4916]

You're not alone

[@equisisters8107]

wow, i feel this so hard. good luck on your journey 🤍

[@AntiFeminist_She_Her_Queen]

Don't give up

[@mericium-invictior]

❤

[@Toilettenpapier11]

I have recently started my journey towards detachment because my heart was broken pretty badly and I was trying to find a way out of my attachment towards that person. Unfortunately I started taking steps back into my old habits again, obsessing etc. Then I found your video today and it was a much needed reminder for me to start cultivating myself and stop pouring my energy into that person. Thank you so so much! And to everyone watching, I wish you all the best on your journey - you are enough and don't need to be completed by somebody or something else! :)

[@Cheptabgaa]

Wishing you all the best too ❤ and a peace of mind ! Not being attached is such an empowering feeling !

[@dawnowens1951]

❤

[@chinky_]

Thank you I needed to hear that

[@lididuye]

Oh detachment! How I love it! Went from anxious to detached thanks to a heartbreak I had no control over. Went through self soothing and self affirmation. The spot light is on me now…winter to summer ☀️

[@NeecieJames]

“Sometimes we are blind to the fact that we’re here to live one life and the quality of it needs to be amazing.” Absolutely! I’m sharing that!

[@Krystinanc]

The teacher comes when the student is ready! Thank you for this message. Beautiful soul 💫

[@user-pk5pl7ox1e]

Great topic! Control is all about FEAR. Fear of unplanned situations and not knowing how 1 will deal with it in the moment

[@Pioramic]

💯

[@jaminicholas4026]

I’m so glad I went thru his phone ! He always said I could and there’s no lock sooo. trust your intuition . Now I’m single and grateful

[@chromewench1595]

Same! I'm happy I did too! I wasn't frantic, I found what I suspected, I was relieved! I moved on happily!

[@WhiteKeyBlackString]

I've always had a very repetitive cycle when it comes to romantic partners; falling for charming people who said words of comfort easily which made me feel safe but their actions would not match what they say. It would be a repetitive cycle of me hanging on to breadcrumbs and people-pleasing in order for them to remain interested in me. I started getting better after several heartbreaks and at one point, I finally started the journey to fall in love with myself in my late 20s. I was really loving myself being single and I had no desire to date at all until this year when I started talking with a guy and the familiar feelings of a crush started to appear because he is very similar to the type I would fall for, except this time, he was less available. All of a sudden the work that I had put into loving myself disappeared and the last few weeks had me constantly being anxious when he wouldn't reply and thoughts of a failed outcome would plague my mind to the point that it disrupted my work. It was only a few days ago that I found your videos and only today that I got caught in another anxious cycle of waiting for him to reply that I decided I have had enough of tiring myself out, losing sleep, losing appetite, losing time and sight of myself, just because of the potential of this connection. Thank you so much for making these videos; now I am on the process of learning to love myself even more and this time, with the added element of being interested in another. This will really help to challenge my own love for myself and how to balance it with my feelings for another, and I will work hard to get to a healthy space for it. Thank you for your videos, really ❤

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

So very relatable 😊 ❤ ..

[@ngxoxo]

your story sounds extremely similar to mine! we are never alone 🤍

[@sage2181]

I'm going through this now. It's even harder when the person isn't toxic and is a really great human who does show up for you...they just don't think you are their ultimate person.

[@tsitsih15]

Taking a person off the pedestal and blocking them for good often helps me in this kind of a situation. If it gives you butterflies and anxiety it’s not good for you. Look at it this way ; You have attached yourself to the possible future which you will not get to with someone who’s inconsistent, they don’t value you enough to worry about not disappointing you… are you not better off counting your losses now rather than holding onto the illusion of a bag full of air for months?

[@sage2181]

@@tsitsih15 i agree with fully removing them and access to them such as social media, old photos, etc. Blocking completely removes my anxiety. Now they are not in my realm, we cannot communicate and I am freed up to enjoy my time with people who are not devaluing me. It pains me when any of us choose folks who devalue us. I think most times these situations start off magical so we have no idea a few months in their avoidance and other issues are going to now come to the surface. All of a sudden we are confused and want the magic back. I use block frequently now when I start to feel like someone is keeping me around as a placeholder. I am no placeholder. And often all I am missing is the physical closeness and sex,which can be had by others.

[@freebird5469]

Dropping all expectations about how any other human "should" behave in any given situation has brought me tremendous peace. It leaves me freed up in myself to hear my own inner guide, and experience my true inner calm. From that, I move through my situations and relationships with purpose, not meaningless chaotic drama.

[@monse.7067]

The universe truly works in wonders. I am thankful to have come across your video! My anxious attachment has caused nothing but inner turmoil which in turn leaked into external destruction (that I am currently facing). The checking phone thing you mentioned here is truly pointless-you will find what you seek out. Now, I am focusing on self love and being 100% and secure within myself. At the end of the day my thoughts and actions can only be controlled by me. If I know this about myself then it’s foolish to try and control someone else. If they choose to cheat, it’s on them. What isn’t meant for you will exit out your life. I pray everyone heals and at some point reach forgiveness within themselves and others💚

[@Cheptabgaa]

This is 💯 true ! I recently went through a period of intense turmoil after finding out that my partner was intimately speaking to someone else outside our relationship. I obsessed about going thru the phone ans social media As part of my journey and working on myself, I discovered detachment and these days, I could care less about looking at phones or social media.. I have the mantra of what's meant to be found out will be found out [ without me losing my sanity] and what's meant to be will be ! And if someone wants to cheat, that's on them and has nothing to do with my self worth ! I'm still in the process of fully integrating this into my life !

[@MrsMe6339]

It’s always easy to speak on this subject once you have gone through the process of detachment. When your in it … it hits way different . I know my time is coming of not being attached to my person

[@luanasantos6995]

Of course it's not easy, baby. But once you start doing the work to get there, it will get better with time! Trust me. You'll be fine.

[@earth-air-water-fire-aether]

Michelle jones, you're words sing like the pigs oink, and the words bark like the moon. I'm kidding. I thought I comment because I agree, I just wish for people to think independently, not by stupidity, dumb opinion that is formed by well, stupidity. I'm all for the best, and the greatest, growth.

[@kzmademe1099]

Struggling with this same thing Michelle. It sounds so solid and makes perfect sense, but trying to do it is overwhelming

[@abbyphillyhrm]

Same place at the moment 🥺 I really need this to happen, been almost 24hrs no contact from me. I've got this..............................update Still no contact yet, last we spoke was April 10th 2023, I kept texting no replies Today is 25th, I totally stopped....il be back. ........someone should like this inna few weeks as a reminder, I'm presenting the best version of myself.......I've got this May 24th 2023 ....Still Zero Contact. Achieved so much inna space of 2 months almost, now my head is clear. 100% Detached ❤️🌺I love ME. Who's next to like?

[@adepeju4944]

Everyone would go through their own processes but at different speed.

[@misshern3696]

I’ve been working on myself and I thought I was strong. I recently spiraled after losing my job and ruined the connection I had because my attachment anxiety was blowing out of proportion. I’m working on balancing myself again and getting back on my feet.

[@emelda-workouts6242]

Detachment-Taking care of yourself without controlling others. This hit home😇👌

[@sarahchong9616]

When i feel shaken up or stressed out, I come to you and listen to your calming voice.

[@caribgrl1]

You have hit on some valuable stuff. Your 'chocolate cake' to 'cheesecake' analogy was an answer that I have been searching for for a years- that of becoming indispensable. Love it. Keep dropping the gems!

[@donalgraeme]

When you said, "It's like creating a best friend out of yourself." Tears came to my eyes. I was broken up with recently, and am struggling immensely right now. But I think that if my best friend were me, the same way that I'm the best friend to those about whom I care deeply. I would not feel so much despair right now. I currently, am not my best friend. Nor have I ever been. I'm too-often The hateful: Judge, Torturer, Taskmaster, Punisher, Abusive Parent, Slaver, and The Stick-never-The Carrot, to myself. If I showed myself half the kindness that I do my loved ones (especially "her"), or sometimes even strangers in distress. I might not be so beaten and traumatized inside. And even though you are much younger than I. With this video, I am a man younger than you. And you are the big sister that I never had, but need so much right now. You have no idea. Thank you so much.

[@lididuye]

It’s in you! You got this! I used to be where you’re at where I would pour and pour into my loved one hoping he would match my energy. Now the spotlight has turned to me thanks to self affirmation, self soothing, self love… I am extremely kind to yourself and always team me! It’s in you!

[@donalgraeme]

@@lididuye Thank you for your encouragement. And I am glad that you have found self-love. I will try. Thank you.

[@LunaGatuna888]

Attached to nothing, connected to everything, and so it is. Thank you for sharing. Working on this myself at the moment.

[@colombaishannon5351]

You made me cry. I’ve been struggling for so long and I just do not know what to do listening to you validates that I am not crazy.

[@jacquelynlauren97]

This is amazing. I have been so worried and had anxiety all week bc me and my bf are on a break(still together just not living together rn) and I’ve been thinking about all the possibilities that could happen. And have finally come to acceptance that I am more than enough and capable of handling myself if he chooses to leave me. I have a lot to work on and have been and will continue to for the rest of my life, and I’ll never be perfect but I can deff be better. At the same time though I know who I am and what I bring to the table. And I’m proud of who I’m becoming. I think this is the struggle God put in my life to show me you have to change or your life will never change. I see a specific life for myself and I won’t stop till I get there. Weather it’s with my partner or alone. Thank you for this video.

[@ieattrees8551]

Hey, are you okay?

[@jacquelynlauren97]

@@ieattrees8551 You know we were on break for two weeks straight, and it was horrible. But I know growth doesn’t come without pain so I accepted it and prayed a lot about it. And I asked God to show him the clarity he needed, weather it was in both of our best interests to stay together and work things out or if we were better off apart. And probably a week and a half after I said that prayer, my boyfriend told me he was just sitting in a room by himself and something just came to his mind and he gained clarity on everything. He said he knew in that moment he wanted to be with me and make things work with me. But when he said “I gained clarity on everything” I knew that was God. Crazy how God works. And this break actually brought us closer together. We have some things to work on and have been talking to my dad who is like a free therapist for us😂 but it’s good to have a third parties opinion. Especially a professional. if you guys both really want the relationship to work, you will put in the work to make it happen. I would pray about it ( if you believe in a higher power) and really focus on yourself. Go to the gym. Walk in nature. Mediate. Guided meditations on KZbin are my favorite. Especially for anxiety. Hang out with your friends. Read self help books. Those really help me when I’m in a rut and especially on our break. Praying for you and your situation! 🙏🏼❤️

[@pamelasimmons1689]

Relationships shouldn't require breaks. Run. Fall in love with a person who can't get enough and WANTS to be with you. If it's a back and forth game it's 100% temporary and you need to let go now and heal now. Stop digging in deeper. Major red flag.

[@jacquelynlauren97]

@@pamelasimmons1689 unless you’re in a long term successful marriage, I don’t think you should say anything on healthy relationships. We took our space and are now doing better than ever. Sometimes two people just need space. And that’s okay.🙂 no relationship is perfect. 2 years strong 💪🏼

[@ieattrees8551]

@@pamelasimmons1689 Relationships aren’t black and white like this, and neither are people. You can’t generalize

[@teresanoriega4669]

Podcast?! Yes! Self confidence, Self love Self worth And the how to’s More about anxious attachment and how to get out of it. Yay🎉🎉🎉

[@eatsmartcoaching]

“You don’t need to struggle like a mule up the hill of life with him on your back” 😂so much wisdom ❤❤❤❤❤

[@BeardsmithBarbershop]

I am pretty sure my sprit guides led me to you because since I have found your videos, I have applied everything and read the books you suggested. In a couple of months, I have shifted significantly and have saved myself and my relationship. Learning about my anxious attachment and why I do what I do has led me to a healing journey I never thought was possible. Thank you for this information. ❤

[@ms.harripersad8227]

What books did you read that helped you ?

[@JMarkYo]

@@ms.harripersad8227 id like to know too!

[@A.S0123]

Stay away from thus spirit guide stuff please. As a fellow human I am telling you it is not what you think. Call out to God. The real God. If possible get a copy of the Holy Quran if you truly want to heal. May God bless you.

[@BeardsmithBarbershop]

@@ms.harripersad8227 Attached, How to be in Adult Relationships, The Tao of Dating, The Four Agreements, and my current read is Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome. Super fascinating book.

[@BeardsmithBarbershop]

@@JMarkYo Attached, How to be in Adult Relationships, The Tao of Dating, The Four Agreements, and my current read is Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome. Super fascinating book.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.

[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@mark6662]

I'm going through a bit of a heartbreak right now and slowly beginning to realise how my anxious attachment issues are affecting my relationships with people. Your videos are really helping me and rewatching them at times when I find myself struggling.

[@judyroberts4596]

I have such a toxic relationship with someone in my life and I needed this! It’s so hard to let go when you love someone. But when enough is enough I have felt that “STOP” feeling about this person.

[@Raymondgogolf]

Hi I judy my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful Woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….

[@somethinggood9267]

​@@Raymondgogolfstop preying on women

[@outroseok]

having an anxious attachment style is rough, I just met this man and every day I fear he'll find someone better and block me. I find myself over analyzing everything which I know isn't healthy. After a weekend camping with my family where I spent the majority of it by my phone waiting for a message back (which sometimes took hours) and it put a dent on my entire trip I decided it was time for me to detach.

[@Vladie1987]

I’m actually going through something like this , I think I have expectations about how she should treat me and I and making steps to disregard those thoughts and expectations from her . The truth and fact is that she does care and love me . She send me pictures of her smiling , she tells me when she’s going to head out and fills me in in her day to day and I believe it’s my own thing that I have from my past damages that I have accumulated over the last about 10 years from inconsistent women . And I love this women already and want to better my mental security for her . This video and creator is helping me realize this adjustment of myself that I need to put this in myself

[@Andre-eu5xd]

Hey were you able to work on it?

[@shedagirl1726]

You are so correct, It’s been a process to not personalize what others choose to do, I’m still me and it has nothing to do with me, I’ve learned that I’m enough and if someone else doesn’t see that it’s not for them to see or they Dont have the capacity to. What’s outside of me DOESNT matters more than what is in me!

[@lididuye]

Preach! 👏🏾

[@smithsage330]

Thank you! This was powerfully transformative for me.

[@romaanaaamir686]

This is absolutely brilliant. As an anxiously preoccupied person. I absolutely needed to hear this.

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

I needed to see this. My life motto is now “so what?” It used to be “It is what it is.” But now it doesn’t feel as carefree or unbothered enough. “So what?” if I get broken up with? “So what?” if I’m not married yet? It doesn’t matter in the end, it won’t matter 10 years from now. Learning to detach and live graciously

[@olakonwa464]

Love this motto 💪

[@deedee5827]

What a beautiful video! I didn’t quite understand the concept of detachment until I saw your video. I will definitely be practicing the tools you shared towards achieving detachments.

[@Cheptabgaa]

Love this too !!

[@jaybee4288]

Why won’t it matter in the end? Because you have faith there will be something else? Or because you feel apathy for life? Sadly it does matter, at least to me. If you want to have children it matters. If you want to have stability it matters. If you want company in old age it matters.

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

@@jaybee4288 I made an error. I was trying to say if it won’t matter 10 years from now, it’s not going to matter in the end. So it’s not worth worrying about Gotta keep in mind what matters. Everything has to be put into proper perspective

[@teanna4569]

When you put yourself first it’s very easy to detached… I’ve mastered that over the years and you have so much power of yourself and the energy around you because you’re in control of YOU

[@KelliHarrah]

Can’t wait for this podcast. I could benefit from hours and hours of “attachment theory”. And you’re so good at talking about it because you’ve lived through it.

[@theresamelendez4906]

“If you want to be happy, be IT”. Woah…. I don’t know why… but this statement is powerful. Thank you.

[@corrisauls9453]

"I'm here to bring cheesecake" this is incredibly clear and makes so much sense.

[@melrose1999]

When I tell you that this woman has opened my eyes and came into my life at the most perfect time. As someone that has struggled with anxious attachment in relationships for years on and off and it recently coming back up again in my current relationship, I really needed these videos. I’m currently trying to learn and implement detachment, ways to lessen my anxious attachment and to tune in to my feminine energy. All of this information overload is overwhelming but Margarita does an amazing job in every video to get to the point, not to sugar coat things, and telling me exactly what I’ve been needing to hear to snap myself out of my anxieties and unhealthy habits.

[@Raymondgogolf]

Hi melrose I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful Woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….

[@beccavry]

This was necessary for me to hear at this specific time in my life. I grip on for dear life to feelings and concepts that I feel are "right" and yet ultimately limits/hurts me in the end. I'm going to work on dethatching from concepts in the way you describe, taking many steps back and observing through a more neutral lens. This was very helpful and perfectly stated, Margarita!

[@jeffolsson7188]

I have had problems with being too attached my whole life and it can really be something dark and destructive. I was on a date yesterday and just waiting for the text reply the day after is all that I can think about. When I see somone I really like then I don’t want to wait a second. I’ll listen to this video 2-3 times as meditation haha. It won’t solve the way my entire brain works but it will make me feel 20% better today. Thank you for making this video ❤

[@yowdhann7134]

I'm a man and I can totally relate what you are saying. Mind is your enemy especially if you are delusional. Be thankful for the lessons, I know it's hard to let go but ask yourself if that brings peace in your mind. Be smart in your own body, mind, and life. Use it with care my friends

[@jas2beinspired146]

I watch this whenever I’m feeling anxious or my thoughts are becoming negative. Thank you, it brings me back to my own self worth 😊

[@gadjoemi0722]

I think you talk about detachment far better and in such a practical way than anything I read. The example of chocolate cake and cheese cake.... I am WIP anxious attachment style person and i realized for all my past relationships I made the guy the cake they liked, completely thinking I was being nice and cute and in the end I would lose myself in the relationship so deeply I didn't even know what I liked or what was good and right for me (no boundaries)... This is profound. Thank you

[@cinthaa1]

This feels like the greatest therapy lesson we all needed. Thank you so much for making this essential realization so easy to grasp. I will keep watching this video anytime I let a guy or a situation dictate my happiness. ❤

[@TeresaErikssoni-eg2wy]

This video has helped me detach from my husband of 30 years who recently cheated on me. It’s been one year and I listen to your video over and over and it helps me more than therapy. Thank you Margarita🙏❤️

[@Raymondgogolf]

Hi Teresa I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful Woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….

[@adapv9584]

I wish you strength, courage, love and healing🙏 live your life as you want, YOU are your true love&soulmate. Nobody else.

[@dawnowens1951]

If you feel a disconnect or the energy that your partner is experiencing situations with another person, your intuition is on point. Detachment is not easy! It’s possibly the most difficult emotion to overcome.

[@LeeChrissy]

I absolutely LOVE this video. I couldn't agree more. The more we love and prioritize ourselves the more attractive we become. This is tried and true in my dating history over the years. The more anxiously attached I am, the more I push them away, but when I focus on me and not really on them, they chase. The tough thing is that I only become anxiously attached when I really love them so it's challenging for me unless I do what feels unnatural which is to pull away and that's the opposite of what I want. It works, but it doesn't feel good because of the inner turmoil it has caused to get me there. That's why I push people away now. I love being by myself and in control of my own emotions. When I fall in love I lose control and it doesn't feel natural. The same person who I keep pushing away keeps coming back and I'm too in love to say no but I'm pushing him away so I can keep doing the work I need to do on myself without the distraction of mixed emotions.

[@jeedwards1981]

I do this too(im a man I realize this video is geared to woman moreso). I become anxiously attached when i love someone , i think because my wife left me suddenly and unexpectedly(blindsided) so new relationships I anxiously attach. This video really helps me

[@LeeChrissy]

@@jeedwards1981 Thais Gibson on KZbin has some great videos about attachment styles. I'm obsessed with learning about them. Obviously there's a whole human and circumstance behind every attachment/avoidant style, but I find it healing diving into all this.

[@IshiaRayel]

Margarita! I'm still watching the video but I just wanted to let you know that I've learned so much from you and I'm grateful I came across your videos. I love your vibe and aspire to be more like you. Keep inspiring people and keep doing what you're doing xx

[@Margarita.Nazarenko]

Wow, thank you!

[@amberwinders6892]

For someone with bpd, "detachment can literally save your life." Is a very real thing.

[@Ann-MarieGibbs]

What's"pbd"?

[@Chrysalis616]

@@Ann-MarieGibbsborderline personality disorder 🙏🏼

[@dailyinspiration805]

Thank you so much for making this video. It was extremely helpful to me. I found myself pausing often to write things down. I particularly resonated with when you said "reality is things are not certain. If you allow yourself to be thrown around and not have an inner center, you're going to spend most of your life trying to get back up on your feet". I feel so grateful to have found this video because this concept of detachment is EXACTLY what I've been needing. Thank you again for what you do!

[@tekla9935]

I liked the way you described the absolute necessity of obtaining your own validation. The processes really do end up strengthening us ., authenticating ourselves.

[@braelenlowell3654]

I have never commented on a video, but I have to say what you said is SPOT ON. I am blown away by your level of understanding and your ability to communicate that (to us) and put it into words. I’ve always wanted more self love and have imagined it as positive thoughts towards myself rather than a way of detaching and looking out for myself by freeing my stresses through my thoughts AND actions. SO HELPFUL. THANK YOU.

[@Helene_experience]

I’m there now and it’s paradigm changing. I’m grieving the illusions I had about external factors that would define me. I can’t see any other way than detachment and it’s empowering. I’m just not used to it at that level of being. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🌀

[@davidbrianfaulkner]

Absolutely wonderful perspective! I'm a recovering anxious attachment type and mostly find myself secure in my relationships and dealings, but I stumble from time to time.

[@BadSummerMusic]

Just listening to you is helping me come down from a very bad place that I hate going into. I’d like to be here but it’s tough at times. Thanks for posting.

[@MelisJoy]

This video is life changing. One of the best I've seen in a long time. I can't thank you enough, truly. I've suffered from multiple traumatic events & have major depressive disorder & PTSD, I fight it every day. I have no family bc they all passed, a struggling relationship of 6 years & only 1 friend that I'm so depressed I barely want to see bc I'm usually in survival mode & trying to get myself out of debt. Many people have walked out my life due to the pain, people I considered family, which only deepened the pain & hopelesness. I very much find myself as anxiously attached to people & have a fear of abandonment. I never used to be like that. This video gives me hope & empowerment

[@acanamero226]

You got this!! You are enough and worthy of receiving everything you desire from life❤ cut yourself some slack, you’re doing your best! Self love starts with being kind to ourselves, hugs 🫂

[@artemisthehuntress1076]

You are changing my life...one video at a time. I found you first on tik-tok which led me here. You resonate so much with me. Thank you from the core of my being. I'm 49 years old and having an anxious attachment style had me in a ruined state/ cycle of relationships most of my life. Which kept me in a constant state of pain, uncertainty, hate, sadness, confusion, despair and feeling unworthy. I'm now understanding whats happening and taking steps to create a better life for myself through your teachings. Thank you. Thank you🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@TheMentalManifester]

You are telling the TRUTH. Only people who use detachment in our daily lives can talk about old life scenes without feeling or reliving the pain. Not everyone can. It feels like a movie or halftime tape review! 🏈

[@Margarita.Nazarenko]

Exactly

[@skylergrey8655]

I've done it. But I have regressed. Trying to get back to that point in my headspace. Struggling to remember the steps I took that got me there.

[@dunyashaalthaus]

wow. thank you so much for this. i've relistened like 10 times and it's changed my mindset completely.

[@conradsmithlacsina4166]

I hang on to every word that you say. I just need to let you know that you are fixing and healing me-- one video at a time. Thank you very much.

[@glendaflorian115]

literally thought it’s time to focus on me; detach from outcomes. the second i came on youtube there’s your video. insane timing! love your content so much 🥺🥺🥺❤

[@rmrmrm004]

Yessss. This is one of the best videos I’ve seen on Detachment. I have had anxious attachment style for a long time. I have made growth the last year but this really clicks. Detaching is important. I am focused on growth with myself, resetting my life with a new career and living in the present. It’s easy to fear the future and what is next and what “could” happen. But I am actively not focusing on that.

[@lesleefresquez3329]

I have listened to this over and over. I am very anxiously attached and this is helping me so much. Thank you, you are so wise. I have been blessed to have found this video and you.

[@FlowerUruguay]

what I like about having detachment as a goal is that it applies to EVERYTHING. Ive realized I attached my value with my ability to make money or whether I earn money or not at the moment, and now I have the intention to detach that in order to feel valueable regardless of my working situation

[@RT22444]

It’s taking me a devastatingly long time for me to find a therapist after a heartbreaking breakup. You have no idea how helpful these videos are. I watch a couple on repeat daily to really get the messages ingrained. I feel so much more grounded, stable, calm, and empowered. Thank you sis ❤❤❤

[@RosaBrownlee]

You are tap dancing on my toes right now and I am so grateful for you and the timing of this video. It is exactly what I needed to hear. Being able to replay it when my confidence is wavering is such a sweet bonus. Thank you for sharing your experience to make the rest of our lives better. You have changed my life ❤

[@AlenaLea94]

This is so true and I really have to say that your thoughts and prompts are changing my way of thinking. I thought I had overcome my anxious attachment style but as I became unstable it came creeping back in. So thank you so much for helping me gain a new perspective! 👍🏻