8 Mistakes Women Make That Ruin Their Relationships

[@taytayqueen7024]

I don’t end up watching your videos much anymore, but I came to say this: your videos were life changing for me last year when I went through an emotionally wrecking breakup. Well, fast forward 1 year: I am the most confident I’ve ever been in my life- my career, the way I look, the way I treat myself, everything has changed 10x for the better. And I still remember crying on the hotel bathroom floor hiding from family during vacation watching your videos on anxious attachement. Thank you so much 🙏🏽 And yes, my ex did come begging back lol and I still loved him but I finally loved myself more enough to say No, you do NOT get a second chance, bye.

[@lou15176]

Oh man the bathroom floor scenario 😐 feels like rock bottom, but sounds like you are doing a lot better these days 😊😁 x

[@tree8779]

I am so happy for you, girlie💗 I've also had a full year and some months of a situationship heartbreak and spent so much time blaming myself and feeling worthless and used. I have made some significant changes to myself and my life, but reading your comment has motivated me to do more for myself and keep growing and glowing✨️ May you keep finding more love and beauty for yourself 💕🌸🌻

[@JoePotter-wd5zh]

I love your videos

[@LanaLane46]

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[@valeriebielinski4242]

I feel you, girl!! So happy for you now!❤

[@cookie24006]

1. *Trying to change him* 2. *Wanting to be his world and be on his mind all the time and not creating mystery* - men love us most when they miss us and women love men most when they are bonding, sadly. I can confirm this as my boy said to me "when we talk whole day i lose the anticipation and excitement to talk to you that's why i need space". So be ready to give space ❤ 3. *Being the unhappy girl,* always complaining. Motivate him to do good for you by complementing him. If he does nothing good for u, then why u even with him sarah? :) 4. *Making him do your hobbies and live your life with you.* "Couple hobbies"😂 If your guy likes gaming and you like to play football, do your hobbies. You don't have to do each other's hobbies to be in the ideal relationship. It would rather spoil the relationship if you force your hobbies on your man. 5. *Using intimacy as manipulation* i.e. if he does something wrong, you refuse to have physical intimacy. It's a recipe for disaster. 12:18 - if you are genuinely upset, communicate that peacefully 6. *"I can do it all myself" attitude.* - a relationship is built on mutual efforts and not one sided efforts. 13:58 - let the man do efforts as well. Make him feel like he's something useful and not a piece of trash 7. 16:15 There's a spectrum of feminine energy that ranges from total openness (like peeing in front of him😂) to total mystery (like he asks whether u love him and u r like "kind of). *And both of these extremes r disasteous to ur relationship* So what to do? Don't always be same. Don't always share routines. Don't overindulge in him (why do u want him to know the number of times you've pooped😭). Don't sacrifice ur sleep or good habits for him. Be whole in urself *but* also be with him, love him, be fairly accessible and present. 8. *Constant nagging and criticizing* 18:30

[@basicinfo2022]

Thank you!

[@lili19393]

THANKS

[@Calmingrainsounds3163]

Thank you

[@marguskiis7711]

Superb

[@yyl2683]

Thank you AI

[@ninabonifacic6500]

It’s hard to tell if you are dating a good man when in the beginning most of them act much better than they really are. Sometimes its just dumb luck finding the sincere one

[@illusione_xx]

those nuance little signs are always there, dont look how they are acting or what they are saying, rather their non verbal communication and reactions to things. you can really feel it if you tap into the feelings. test them, ask questions and just dont even give yourself easily, one of our best trump-card as a woman is indecisiveness, you can be unsure the right man will be standing solid beside you

[@rogerford483]

There should be a movie call shallow Gal… women that arnt virgins are so shallow now a days.

[@sumimasen_wtf]

​@@rogerford483Ah yes, the purity complex. 🙄 Can say the same about men. There are hardly any around who are virgins.

[@Softanddramatic]

@@rogerford483how did you land on this channel? Don’t you have anything better to do?

[@juliaadams9373]

Not only are you so wise and life changing, but you are SO FUNNY I always walk away learning something new and giggling

[@Jillisa2]

I once dated a guy who had no patio furniture on his back deck I suggested a table and chairs set would be lovely and practical for his backyard and he freaked out and said I'm smothering him 💔 You can never say the right thing to the wrong person or the wrong thing to the right person 😢

[@katenicholson4152]

Because if he wanted a patio set, he would’ve already had one.

[@BashaerB-h2c]

That’s NOT the man for you. It’s not normal to be that smothered over a small suggestion

[@Dawn2Dusk23]

​@@BashaerB-h2cWhat if he had said her living room was ugly and she should replace her furniture? Lol what gives women the right to judge or "improve" on a man's life?

[@kristenk708]

​@@Dawn2Dusk23are you for real? Since when have men become snowflakes? She just made a suggestion and didn't say anything bad or insulting. It was definitely the wrong man!

[@char6081]

he was a little wussy hope he got that figured out

[@jessicajoyhardee6668]

“You don’t need to be two peas in a pod OK Jessica” - I died bc this is sooo me! Margarita you are my secret weapon for womanhood! Thank god you like to philosophize! 🙏🏻✨💓

[@jessz444]

Same 😅🫣

[@humorbroke]

Margarita you have been like a motherly figure to me when it comes to these relationship tips. As a teen with strict Indian parents I never had any trusted adult from whom I can get these tips.Then I discovered your channel and you have helped so much from then on. Thank you.

[@allurachanel]

i listen to your black cat / golden retriever video every morning while i’m getting ready for work. it has absolutely changed my life. the things you have mentioned in this video goes hand in hand with that video and ever since i’ve started implementing it, i have noticed (almost instant) positive changes in my relationship. thank you ♥️

[@manishamaya2692]

I love that video too!

[@claudiap.6838]

Your sense of humor is really under appreciated. Girl, your humor and the way you deliver it 👌🏼

[@Abundance1ness]

Just wanted to give you Love. I just read your book, and watching your videos. You have helped me so much on re inventing myself at 41 years old. I'm so greatful for all your golden nuggets of feminine wisdom. Lots of Love and Respect to you Margartia. You are changing thr world for the better! Keep on keeping On❤

[@LindseyGiardini]

I LOVE IT...What she said about her husband being different and not even watching her videos. Like seriously I'm so thankful for this information. I got married two weeks ago and he's MY OPPOSITE. I'm cerebral. I'm thinky. I love psychology/personal development. He couldn't care less. He's concrete. He watches TV and plays video games and drives a big truck. 😂 I thought we'd be a recipe for disaster at one time but actually I'm so crazy about this man. And one more thing: I was anxious and he was avoidant. But we've made it work!

[@brandyelder652]

I needed to hear this today! I have violated a few of these rules lately and I’ve noticed him distancing himself. Thank you!

[@amandasanchez8369]

I love when you say random names 😂❤

[@kelly.nicole]

Margarita I hope eventually you make some content about how to be a healthy parent!

[@Margarita.Nazarenko]

I’m working on that one myself xxx

[@bonniebrill602]

Love the marriage/long term relationship content!

[@summerchanelart]

I am binge watching your videos and learning so much. Im on a mission to rebrand my life. I deserve so much more!! Thank you for opening my eyes. Your videos are heaven sent. So much love for you sis. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@languageandmana9255]

Thank you for the videos about early stages of dating because it's often in the early stages that people ruin a great potential

[@rakhiganar3275]

It’s hard to find a nanny 😭😭 also I love how you just randomly say names!

[@amberc6355]

I was taught to do a lot of these things by following the relationship of my parents! And then when I got in relationship…..these are the skills I utilized and it led to me being pretty miserable. The points you are making are important because they emphasize the balance being together and being apart. We need a bit of both in relationships for them to be healthy. Intimacy is built on togetherness as much as it is on separateness. About being different but finding shared space together. I think that’s what a lot of us might have not learned.

[@razannassri6738]

This is my second video of yours that I watch and I LOVE your content. Also I love your sense of humor 😂 and the way you talk 😂

[@birthinfluenceembrace]

I'm in a relationship also with a man who is very different from me in the ways you cited. 😅 he's a masculine man who doesn't really get into all my self development hobbies and spiritual stuff . I sometimes have compulsion to get him into my things but I find it isn't necessary . And ya it even propels better attraction when i have my own shit going on 😊 thanks I needed to be reminded of this!!! 😊

[@monasmemo9307]

You’re like my bigger sister giving advice I didn’t know I need before but the best one!!!! I really appreciate you. Thank you for posting this gem.

[@mayaa7396]

They way I’m screaming my love for you through the phone rn, I literally love love love u. You are Her!

[@belleccino]

This came at a perfect time. I pray to God that all good things find you because you are truly helping all of us

[@chunguchipalo5066]

Margarita is a very intelligent woman! So much knowledge

[@cartermoon3561]

This video very well may have saved my relationship threee months ago. But I was most likely not ready to receive it. I’m grateful to receive it now and understand it to its fullest- although I wish it wasn’t too late for the previous stage of my life

[@KaraSanyal]

girl, im a tuff crictic, ur good ur really f***in goode. thank you!!

[@apichinim]

Margarita, I have to say, I have been watching your videos for the past 8 months I think.. and honestly I this might be the best one! GIRL, the print t-shirt with my face! I did that in my last relationship, sooooo embarrassed to even remember it haahahahaah

[@karinakethel]

Saw your new book on the shelf at big w and bought instantly. So happy for you and excited to read!💕💕💕

[@Sar_bear77]

I bought my bf of 4 years underwear with my face all over them and he literally couldnt stop laughing, he loved it! I think it depends on their sense of humor. Some men might find it creepy though, esp in the beginning of a relationship.

[@cmc7507]

It’s sexier and more provocative than on a T-shirt. Plus no one except you see his underwear!! It is funny & your inside joke! 😊

[@caffinatedirl8466]

I love your videos thank you so much for your wisdom and guidance 😊❤

[@samco63]

The bodily functions one! Omg I hate it. I am a prude honestly, I don’t want them to know I pee or poop haha. But my place is a tiny one bedroom and his place (where I stay more) is similar - one toilet. Right next to the bedroom and living room and bathroom (So I can’t even pretend I’m having a shower). I HATE it! I go to bed and wake up with tummy aches because I can’t bring myself to go in his house - after 15 months! lol. I’ve always been like this even in 5 year relationships. Angling to love to his other bigger place buy that’s at least a year away of holding all my stuff in. I can’t even escape at night or early in the morning because we have dinner together and then walk together in the mornings (that’s our real alone time together as we are so busy during the days)

[@ColdBrewBarbie]

love this! Joined your course! So excited to learn more!

[@shreyalucas460]

Every time i click on your vedio makes me wanna pat my back for putting good info in my system .😂😂❤❤

[@jiminsbulge9448]

After trying so hard to keep it well suppressed with everything I’ve learned from you, a little bit of my crazy slipped out in a moment and it scared him off 😓

[@valentinavsl4148]

that shouldn't be enough with the right person, don't worry

[@thatmisshannahjones]

Your hair looks amazing🥰

[@kingadatoma]

Thank you, Margarita. Very useful.

[@varalikagupta6826]

Thankyou Margarita❤

[@Softanddramatic]

Queen, you’re getting me through a hard time right now. Every time i feel a way i watch your videos and get the bad bitch back. Love you ❤

[@chrysrob]

Love these! And you look 🤌🏽 today! ❤️

[@sofloppy]

i love this womannnn. I love your energy so bad!!

[@SaraZ1239]

Thank you for this. You look gorgeous

[@bananaisyuk23]

6:59 “..and BUHrating and BUH BUH BUH” 😂😂😂 dying

[@ValerieSenatorova]

Thank u! You are great as always!

[@bill8216]

100% I (44y) tried to date someone like that (32y) the immaturity was not necessarily her age but it was like adopting a child, having to do everything with & for her, what a nightmare

[@bill8216]

my aunt and uncle had the sock conflict, it almost ruined them, they recovered somehow

[@CiaraRubin]

Oh mah goodness I love your content! Mom of 2 boys also and we LOVE kiwi co!

[@dani5639]

Hello Margarita . Thank u for an amazing video again . Could you make a video about marriage life after having a kid ; how do we balance things

[@eu_enia]

You’re so cool Margara,I wish we were friends ❤

[@rachelhantz9644]

Margarita and co! I love this content. I bought the New Rules book:) I’m wondering- are there any books out there that talk about the masculine and feminine principles in relationships? I’d like to read one with my partner, who is also interested.

[@haejin7528]

I’m dying at the “I saw a squirrel. 🙂 I saw a flowa 🙂‍↕️😉”

[@galhits]

Great tips. What about women who love a man too much?

[@shums77]

That was fantastic 🤩! Would you mind sharing the podcast of the divorce lawyer ❤?

[@carlyhampton]

Love this video, as usual ❤❤❤ My husband hasn't watched any of my videos either. But that's ok because KZbin is 'my thing' and you won't catch me playing soccer anytime soon lol

[@TheGossipTales]

I have done everything she mentioned not to do 😒 now i have no doubts on why he left me💀

[@unicorniah]

Girl you are so funny I love hearing you speak

[@DNS0875]

My husband is chatty, philosophy and extremely intellectually eloquent. I’m a good listener and a sharp eye for everything psychological. As. A musician in an orchestra, it’s not uncommon to have performances during the weekend. He joined twice, which I found cool, I could proudly show what I’m about. But I’m also very glad he doesn’t join every weekend. That would feel like him putting me on a pedestal, I prefer the only way around. On the other hand, he’s a composer and producer of electronical tracks, scores and songs. He works best at night and sleeps thill mid afternoon. It’s just the rhythm he feels best with. Which means I have to rely on myself for almost everything (broken down car, clogged toilets and laundromat filter cleanings among others).

[@teresarenee1183]

Margarita we would totally wear a shirt with you printed on it!! 😂❤

[@sakuraqueen1734]

I don't care to share how many times I pooped unless it's my siblings or mom, bc it's TMI and it's funny to annoy them (but they do the same back). Peeing and pooping is not something I want to share with a husband, he doesn't need to know unless it's a medical concern that he can help with, or it'll effect him.

[@IGAIAKNITS]

Are you a virgo Margarita?

[@Denytalks]

You are amazing😊

[@BauJ7]

I think you meant home goods lol, Home Depot is the “home improvement store”. But point was received

[@pinkashp]

Ohhhh that’s what she meant lol I was like he makes me go with him for his hobbies 😆😆

[@NawrasMatee7]

you look so pretty here ❤

[@nicolel.4484]

I had hobbies. (That he was jealous of.) I knew how to spend time alone. We were long distance, so I asked him if he could call me goodnight every night to bond. He called me needy as a response. And I got meaner. Bc I felt like I was asking for too little, and he thought I was asking for too much. Even though he was the highly persistent one in the begining. I also expected him to call me after a fight. And not hang up. Or be a diva. I needed the reassurance that he wanted to repair things in me. But he kept me in limbo. The relationship went from deep romance to and ugly one. I especially got ugly after all the broken promises. I asked for a 5min call st my convenience. He would pick his bros over me all the time. I am now single again. I still have my hobbies. I have my money. Still though, i would like a man who desires my presence more than his bros. At least a couple times a week.

[@libramacky9335]

you look so gorgeous. I love that curly hair.

[@sarahxo6546]

Not you calling me out of my name girl 😂 so true

[@kairivint]

Thank you❤

[@Nathalie0721]

“Let us compress together and connect”😂

[@Babyduzzit]

First time watching you, and you are hilarious, but also very helpful, i love your personality, you are so cute ❤❤❤😂

[@marguskiis7711]

Brilliant. All true!

[@aleksaola0619]

I love relationship topic ❤️❤️❤️

[@roxy7255]

This is so true I met a guy who copied all mu ideals and interests so attractive I like my

[@_pomegranateseeds_]

Hi Margarita, thank you so much for your videos. They truly help so so much. I wanted to ask you if a lot of these behaviours come out as a consequence of just being with the wrong man? I feel like I've changed a lot as a result of not feeling like he loves me as myself. So things like oversharing or wanting to do things together and show who I am to him became kind of like an obsession because I feel like I'm not being seen. It makes me sad that they want us when we're not there, and we want them when they don't want to be there. It feels hopeless. Do you find yourself actively stopping yourself from exhibiting these behaviours with your man now? Or does it come naturally to you because he doesn't cause those insecurities by being uninterested/distant? Thank you

[@ariannam.9360]

Okay question: How do I gracefully respond/handle it when a man tells me I am not texting frequently enough. I have had this happen several times where men have expected me to treat texting like instant messaging which I dont and at times I do not respond if I felt like what I received was not meant to be a drawn out convo. So how do I explain that my communication style is not text 24/7 I do not want carpal tunnel

[@tkanon]

What’s so funny is when I’m completely done with a man… I start to over share like he’s my gay best friend. Then he’s like “why are you treating me like this?”. Cuz I’m no longer sexually attracted to you sis! 😂😂😂 #SoToxic 🤦‍♀️💀

[@Centimilli]

Thank you....thank you ....😘🙏🏼✨️

[@EdelweisSusie]

The ads spoiled it for me. I read the commenter’s synopsis as soon as the ad appeared.

[@Khanyiee]

Well in order for her to continue providing “free” content, it needs to be worth her while where possible. Watching the ads fully is our way to say thank you. I find this complaint weird but also I guess you are just sharing where you are at? 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Softanddramatic]

Then buy premium. It costs to watch entertainment.

[@wuxian1]

love u girl!

[@aomamesighs6049]

I admire the person you are, Margarita. Now i know what I'm about to say is out "of context" I want to ask you something though, please boycott whatever has to do with supporting Israel. Because you know what's right.

[@urScorpioLady]

I agree with your 💯… 1000%

[@Takingitslow9]

You know, you can still drink whatever you want but not promote it on camera especially with what these companies are NOT advocating for.

[@moonlight9333]

Omg feeling called out 😂💔

[@azb255]

:) you made my day everytimee love you

[@stellazhang9089]

The word you are looking for is philosophical

[@tessouiddir]

What brand of collagène do you ecommand?

[@kristenk708]

Ok I've done all of these :( can we do damage control for an ex? He broke up with me. Is there a way to show him I've truly changed and improved?

[@kristina4395]

I dont want to change him.. i want to change him back 😅 Its not my fault that he was different first 2 years if the relationship.. go back to that, thats what i signed up for... Rigged 😃😃😃 we are married 9 years

[@asl6299]

17:40 what is the name of the author/his book and podcast please?

[@GodHelpMe369]

I'm in hell no escape I'm 45 years old and all 45 years of my life, so far, have just been trauma and suffering

[@Softanddramatic]

If you think there’s no escape then there won’t be one. You have to get away from the victim mentality.

[@wassabilove1111]

This content 👏👏👏

[@msnicolevickers]

I never try to change a man. He is a full grown human being.

[@DNS0875]

My husband is chatty, philosophy and extremely intellectually eloquent. I’m a good listener and a sharp eye for everything psychological. As. A musician in an orchestra, it’s not uncommon to have performances during the weekend. He joined twice, which I found cool, I could proudly show what I’m about. But I’m also very glad he doesn’t join every weekend. That would feel like him putting me on a pedestal, I prefer the only way around.

[@nadiafedorenko491]

Philosophical

[@polpolpol99]

I feel like it’s gonna be boring if we have nothing to talk about, and I’m not saying it’s girly stuff like shoes and facials, but I love me a smart man and I’ve realised if he’s not versed in history/geography/politics/cinema/psychology/biology - at least a few of these, I just won’t admire and respect him

[@elissesaito499]

I wish I had come across these videos 5 years ago… But better late than never I suppose.

[@makumaku1616]

So the mystery about pooping is attractive, noted

[@victoriapurvis3402]

I've learned that my man acts more like that negative nagging wife than any person I've ever met. But he also loves me more when he misses me. Which is annoying.

[@lillywang6333]

I really hate this type of “keep your man intrigued” content, make you design your whole personality with a single purpose of keeping your husband happy and always wanting you. It’s deeply disingenuous and sad.

[@bill8216]

“philosophical”

[@EEfg-p6e]

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