Not Every Man is Obsessed with You

[@XPLOSIVization]

So shes using a camera to constantly look at him, but counting how many times hes looking at her, The Irony of it all is too real

[@TheBaumcm]

Couldn’t possibly be staring at the camera that some rando is using in a grocery store

[@SingleTax]

That's what happens when TikTok brats fall madly in love with their own female plumbing.

[@jimbothegymbro7086]

imagine someone is not only staring at you but staring at you through a camera, you'd glance uncomfortably too, I know I would

[@seanvillage]

People like this are making me dislike social media more and more.

[@SingleTax]

@@seanvillage Social media itself is neutral. It's the attention starved brats who abuse it that are the problem.

[@potato93586]

He’s not looking at you because he’s a creep, he’s looking at you trying to figure out how it’s possible someone could be such a self-centered a-hole

[@skyegroome223]

He was probably looking to see when she was going to be done. That's what everyone does when they're waiting in line for a register to open up

[@TheBeelzeboss]

Even if he was looking at her ass (he was, for a second), whats wrong with that? its a glance, girl has a fantastic ass on leggins, sue him.

[@kaoe145]

When men start refusing to look at women, they will cry that men think woman or so beneath them that the refuse to look at them.

[@MrKarmapolice97]

Even if he did look at her who cares I love people watching he didn’t do anything out of the ordinary

[@billwiernicki3364]

Most guys his age don't find women who are "inked up" attractive anyway.

[@avalerionbass]

Thousands of men online can look at you a million times over online, but god f*cking forbid ONE man looks at you in person.

[@PaulFormentos]

I'm looking through you is what I tell em.....

[@CadillacSunday]

Daaaang!!!!!!! THAT!!!!! THAT RIGHT THERE!!!!!! 👍👌

[@Bloodrayne800]

They only want 6" + musclebound hunks looking at them though, that's the problem

[@Momtopreemie]

The irony

[@SmokeThaHerb]

This one 😂😂

[@joshuakelly9390]

I love the irony of this girl getting annoyed with somebody looking at her as she literally has people looking at her for a living.

[@corvusheller328]

Maybe she does

[@joshuakelly9390]

@@corvusheller328 huh?

[@corvusheller328]

@joshuakelly9390 my bad. I misread your comment and then responded inaptly due to it. Pardon me

[@br5632]

I would be looking at the camera cause I would be annoyed at getting filmed 😅

[@Nabinut]

It's because they are not paying customers for her OF. They need to give her the $10 a month like all the others😐😐😐

[@SamBrockmann]

This woman is filming EVERYONE without their consent, and the people staring at her for violating their consent are apparently . . . The problem?! 😂😂

[@BadMannerKorea]

Consent is not needed, because it’s reasonable to not expect privacy in a supermarket.

[@corvusheller328]

If she did it in America then its allowed. It is her right to. If I am missing your point, please try to make it more clear. I am not being sarcastic. This is a no bullshit zone

[@corvusheller328]

@@BadMannerKorea I would go a step further. It doesn't matter if it's their "property" bc we don't live in a plutocracy

[@Max4Z]

@@BadMannerKorea right, but doesn’t mean it still doesn’t bother some people

[@baldhermit]

@@corvusheller328 I think the point is that she was wearing tight clothes, filming everyone around her for an internet audience, but upset she gets looked at? Maybe I am just some old grumpy guy, but in my life the men and women I have known that were traumatized by ... (this is the internet, let's say they were traumatized by inappropriate behavior) would usually go out and about only if they had to, in baggy clothes. That is what upsets me most about this, vying for attention and taking it away from people that were and are actually harmed.

[@justjosie8963]

And thank you for standing up for that gentleman. He literally was just trying to check out his groceries and she was in front of him. Sheesh.

[@ThomS8]

not figuratively?

[@starlight5138]

I saw this meme of a girl saying she felt creeped out when she heard two guys say "damn bro." "I know man, same." When she was getting gas, And the reply was "gas is 4.50 a gallon, you think they were talking about you?" And I think that pretty much sums all of this up perfectly.

[@andrewyoung2796]

Excellent. Even morgan freeman isn't safe

[@Sadhrita2002]

😂😂

[@Sadhrita2002]

People are so in their heads these days

[@TrimTrimmer]

Her brain only thinks about herself so why would she think others aren’t I had a mate who was convinced I’d woke up on his birthday fully aware of the fact it was his birthday and then purposely made sure I didn’t see him that day or wish him a happy birthday 😂 the idea I wouldn’t be aware like he was aware was one he wasn’t going to believe, I didn’t see him for about a month around it, I said to him when it’s your birthday nothing happens to me it’s just another day. I don’t take note He would let me down last minute every year on my birthday cus he just couldn’t be bothered and thought I was getting him back, truthfully speaking he wasn’t that important anymore and I just didn’t realise or see him anyway, but he never accepted i was unaware because i didn’t realise. They are only aware of themselves, you aren’t living when you’re not with them, only they are really living. Weirdos. Special case I call them. Different rules for them. When they take from you now they’ll be owed later.🤷

[@AverageCommenter2023]

Question. Why are Americans upset with a gas price that isn’t ridiculously high? I’m living in The Netherlands where at some point you would almost pay $10 a gallon. Just curiosity no offence.

[@The_Super_NOVA]

I get super embarrassed if someone sees me take a selfie in my car. Their shameless filming of strangers in public is not a normal mental state.

[@thing1thing2themediamaniac43]

WTH are you taking a selfie in a car

[@jeanblaaa]

@@thing1thing2themediamaniac43sometimes good lighting

[@The_Super_NOVA]

@@thing1thing2themediamaniac43 well, when I dress up nice to go somewhere, it's a semi-private place to take a quick picture of the makeup and hair I worked hard on before I go join people in a public setting where I can't take a photo.

[@paddington1670]

i havent taken a selfie in like 8 years.

[@rorydean6803]

They can’t produce good content. Fucking influencers 💀

[@spideymcgee4718]

I work at Home Depot and soooo many women come in wearing nothing and most of the tike me and my co workers look at these woman and make fun of them because they are at a place where mostly men go, in a skimpy outfit and just want the attention. It's truly pathetic.

[@acleanpairofsocks]

I’m a woman and I totally agree. I know we’re not supposed to say this, but they are literally asking for it.

[@NFSBeast2365]

IKR? Feels like everywhere is the red light district 😂

[@StayArtsy]

I myself am a girl, but I was raised with this interesting thing called "manners", oh and I was also taught these handy skills called "self respect", "basic human decency", and "don't go around filming people for clout because that's just plain creepy", which these internet women seem to have ignored to satisfy their massive egos.

[@Joe-hz1nw]

I’d assume you had a father active in your life

[@StayArtsy]

@@Joe-hz1nw kinda, when I was younger he was mostly at work and we only really saw him on the weekends.

[@sci-fi.tsunami]

Unfortunately, manners, morals & shame have all been thrown out the window with yesterday's trash.

[@DDD11239]

​@@StayArtsy To provide for you, kid.

[@Sadhrita2002]

👍

[@NYChronicles]

these women piss me off so much, it's getting absolutely ridiculous. Thank you Brett for calling these women out for their disgusting behavior.

[@banana19934]

Not just women! It's everywhere

[@krikeydial3430]

I feel bad for them. When they lose their good looks they will lapse into a state of severe depression.

[@BryceShamwow]

That woman should go to prison for 20 years. When she's out, she won't be anything resembling hot anymore.

[@sci-fi.tsunami]

@@krikeydial3430 THE WALL gets them ALL!

[@DDD11239]

​@@BryceShamwow Well, all those prisoners will have their way with her. It'll make her feel validated.

[@dearthofdoohickeys4703]

I opened the door for an older lady with a cane the other day. There were no phones, no accusations, she just thanked me and we both left happy. Life doesn’t have to be difficult, and strangers can be nice.

[@danasandoval624]

I agree! I am older and I still appreciate good manners. I also enjoy a man opening my door for me, yes I can open it myself, but it just is nice and I like it. Thank you for being a gentleman, we all need to appreciate and be nice to each other.

[@evgeni6367]

Exactly! I saw couple weeks ago a man with a broken leg wanted to open a door with one hand and I instantly helped him. He said „oh thank you so much“ no phone, no story, no nothing. He was like 30+ so just be nice to other people and they will be nice to you. Not always, but do not expect to to something nice only for the camera

[@CheerAngelLeShea]

One time I saw a white man leave a gas station and then quickly turn around and run back so he could hold the door open for a black woman. She smiled and thanked him. They both had the type of manners that makes for a nice society and I remember wishing I could see more of that but instead I get women finding an issue with it

[@Santas_pantsToes]

THE MAN WAS LITERALLY JUST LOOKING TO SEE IF SHE WAS DONE PAYING AND WAITING FOR HIS TURN TO CHECK OUT. 😂😂😂 (stop being so self centered)

[@nrg6245]

Narcissists are evil and unaware when it comes to it.

[@ThomS8]

You sure it wasn't figuratively?

[@Anana315]

I can’t imagine scrolling on social media only to see my dad in an influencer’s video, getting accused of being a perv for just minding his own business! I would be so angry! People got so comfortable filming strangers, it is infuriating!

[@jennifers1040]

I just want to say something that some people might not be thinking about. Just because it's legal to record strangers doesn't mean you should. I have a PFA against abusive ex, and somebody was recording me in a local place recently and I got very upset. I was legitimately worried for my safety.

[@Ana-xq6sh]

So sorry for you :(

[@meleebrawler6462]

As Brett herself once said: Not everything is about you.

[@mssophiad03]

That’s the biggest thing you’ll learn as you get older is that people generally DON’T care about what you’re doing. The guys in the gym are just trying to do their workouts. Plus they’re pointing a camera at someone and the OTHER person is the creep? That’s strange behavior. She’s holding up the line and has a camera.

[@YourFriendlyNeighborhoodHuman]

AMEN!!

[@RainTheDoctor]

EEE HI V!!!❤​@@YourFriendlyNeighborhoodHuman

[@Iamtemjin]

I agree Terry Bogard. They are doing everything they can to make themselves look unapproachable altogether. Which is working.

[@hadas_wertheimer]

Well quoted👌

[@NaitsirhcCheck]

She is standing there, saying nothing while recording the man behind her & basically staring at him. She's the problem.

[@michaelblacktree]

I'm not a lawyer, but I believe it's illegal to use someone's likeness without their consent, for commercial purposes. Those influencers' social media accounts are monetized, so it should count as a commercial purpose. Lawyer up, and sue them for royalties. If they start getting sued into oblivion, they'll get the message.

[@ThomS8]

Most American answer ever!

[@Rachey9]

Main Character syndrome is so annoying. Like no one really cares that much Becky🙄

[@mssophiad03]

Fr it IS getting out of hand

[@Esmeralda-2003]

Funny. I always thought of myself as a side character.

[@Esmeralda-2003]

@@mssophiad03 You are the main character in your own life; we are all side characters in the grand scheme of life.

[@corvusheller328]

​@Esmeralda-2003 thats probably a fucking lie

[@corvusheller328]

​@@Esmeralda-2003or maybe not

[@udderlylost1178]

Using a complete stranger in your only fans content without consent (while the stranger is at work and obligated to interact with you for their job) is absolutely diabolical.

[@llareia]

Plus that man who was just trying to work was absolutely correct; he was sexually harassed. In some jurisdictions, that would even be considered sexual assault due to the rather extreme and graphic nature of it. If she was a man doing that to young women, she'd be on a registry. That woman is disgusting.

[@beththomas8430]

He should sue her.

[@djaeger-k5m]

@@beththomas8430nothing will come of it cause the victim is a man

[@jesshallock5346]

It sounds illegal, honestly.

[@TDOTSE1]

​@@jesshallock5346definitely illegal she is monetizing him without a realease form signed etc he definitely has a case

[@Elenalamp]

I’m just waiting for the day an influencer non-consentually films someone who needed to stay anonymous for their own safety. It could actually put someone in danger.

[@lrzbhnsn]

This is a good comment and I 100% agree

[@brandonjames412]

I'm a little more enthusiastic for the day that an influencer non-consensually films the WRONG person and ends up creating a documentary of their own m***er. I feel like that only needs to happen once or twice for people to start checking themselves, so here's to hoping.

[@abigailtrumbo178]

I’m in KSA where filming and photographing in public is usually illegal. But the Snapchatters and Tick Tockeers are walking around with phones out and up and just filming everyone without a care. It bothers me because I don’t want to be online and if I were to be recognized online here, it could cause problems with my husband. It just baffles me that even in a society that holds privacy sacred, this is a thing!

[@brandonjames412]

@@abigailtrumbo178 Fundamentally, most people are hypocrites; they may well, situationally, place a huge value on their own privacy...but remember, we are but NPC's in the worlds of such people.

[@Icedxylophone]

The narcissism is oozing out, and I don't dislike them being shamed for it.

[@katiestevenson8920]

These women are unbelievable! Selfishness is off the charts. How dare they put random people on blast like that! This should be illegal. It’s a violation of personal privacy!

[@LeeEverett1]

Unfortunately it's so many of them nowadays

[@monilip]

It is illegal in many places in Europę. You can film crowd without asking for everyone's permission, but cannot film and post single person without her or his permission.

[@lawrencecrocker4870]

while i agree with most of what you said, personal privacy ends the moment you leave your house and enter the public domain.

[@katiestevenson8920]

@@lawrencecrocker4870 Might be too difficult to change the laws specifically to address this issue. But with the internet drastically changing society we need to take privacy into account. In my opinion this is a mild form of slander.

[@lawrencecrocker4870]

@@katiestevenson8920 ya it would be even harder now. imagine having to get the consent of every single person in a shot to be able to post anything. nothing would be postable lol

[@Tinyoak2]

5:29 is where I was crocheting some leg warmers for my daughter while listening , heard that, laughed with you and had to start my row over because I lost count...😆

[@melissagodwin1594]

As a fellow stitch counter, I feel your pain. 😂

[@Joe__________]

Calling people creeps while filming them and posting it online without consent, toxic women these days...

[@Poohbear_022]

Very toxic especially those people who’s just there in the groceries filming and doesn’t buy anything, they looked like a clout chaser seeking attention they think its cool nah they just get themselves embarrassed.

[@BenSenneck92]

He’s probably waiting for her to get out the way

[@alexandriav3956]

I mean, you don’t have an expectation of privacy when you’re on public but I still do agree with you.

[@TrimTrimmer]

You have to ask permission in the US regardless, some states have individual laws of their own which are a slight variation of everywhere else based on local decisions but in the UK for private use you don’t have to ask permission, filming in certain places, public spaces, parks, Government and State organised events (the coronation etc.) and properties stadiums and arenas sell tickets with legal wavering of rights. You’re much more free to film in the UK because the government and councils own more land and are responsible for more situations. In America private business is more responsible for, what the British government has some control over, they take the permission away in every contract. It’s common sense things you can’t film in schools or into private properties There’s less of a culture to sue, you could go to the law, but the courts wouldn’t pursue something without evidence of damages or harmful consequences, or intent to follow you, how viewed it is or is likely to be. I had to look up if you can record phone conversations the other day it’s not illegal to record sound or picture, it becomes illegal through distribution and is only valid if damages are proved, you won’t get much punishment or compensation though, they make it not worth it.

[@yeahdonaldgaming3348]

She doesn’t even know that man, he could be a respected guy, a grandfather etc. also what happens when a real serious situation happens to other women? When an actual predator commits vile acts. Acting like shit like this is a big deal diminishes actual situations that would warrant outrage. Absolutely sickening with these girls. Straight up narcissistic behavior.

[@boxtradums0073]

And that’s why an ever increasing amount of men wont help women with anything

[@Melissa-hd3jr]

I think he was looking at the camera to see if he was in the shot, if I saw a camera pointed in my direction I would move around trying to not be recorded

[@victorcates9330]

My view is that he's likely entirely innocent. But if he was looking? People have eyes. If you had a dude in a mankini, men and women would find themselves looking at things they really, really don't want to. A certain amount of looking would then be involuntary. There's a difference between someone who looks, tries no to, but would try harder if you were facing them. The motivation to not look requires that you accept that your gaze innately impugns or degrades, OR you're polite enough to try and make the other party feel comfortable and not demand their time or attention. Someone looking a little is different to someone walking behind you catcalling for 10 minutes ("situations that would warrant outrage"). I'm not a neurologist, but I had some idea that the brain has different systems working in competition. So I must respect this person would perhaps be concurrent with the animalistic. I think it might be outdated as model, but the old suggestion seemed to be that the reptile brain was nearer to the brain stem. I'll put it this way. In a romantic understanding you could view humans as half way between animals and angels. Expecting them to behave like animals has issues (to put it gently). Expecting them to behave that perfect angels that don't see physical beauty (until they're given permission to) might also be unrealistic. I just think if attraction is innately insulting, that would be bad news for marriage. A couple years back there was a UFC weigh in. After the male fighter removed the bulk of his clothing for the weigh in, one of the ring girls looked like she was about to swallow her tongue. It was... odd. But I don't think she should have gone home, taken a whip, flagellated herself until her back bled, while thinking "YOU HAVE SINNED! SHAMEFUL INSECT. SIN!".

[@MacLocky]

Your point perfectly describes “crying wolf”, a concept entirely lost on this exhibitionist.

[@nrg6245]

Imagine recording yourself buying groceries… we can all tell you’re coping with something really hard. You’re not happy wit yourself, you can’t even do basic chores without recording yourself being narcissistic.

[@Greekgal101]

As a teen girl the creepy “trans women” are the bigger problem

[@stxslayer]

i agree

[@banthatracks_gaffisticks]

Wannabes

[@StayArtsy]

so true

[@personreanimation]

Men can't be women. Women can't be Men. Trans doesn't exist. It is made up bullshit.

[@starlight5138]

Same, honey.

[@KettleMan1000]

"The world doesn't revolve around you" it was a pretty common thing I heard from my mum growing up. It's a weird thing young people think without realising it until their older, but now it seems people are embracing it rather than growing out of it

[@catsaresocute650]

I mean that's true, but then it just is creepy. That dosn't mean it's intented to be. How about we make a social rule that sais you can only look at a stranger for 15seconds or so. Especilly a woman. And then you know they are there so you can go about your way without doing that again

[@Mrmonkeypants88]

Well remember this generation rarely heard those phrases, they were told they were special and unique.

[@yourcrazybear]

@@catsaresocute650 " mean that's true, but then it just is creepy. That dosn't mean it's intented to be. How about we make a social rule that sais you can only look at a stranger for 15seconds or so. Especilly a woman. And then you know they are there so you can go about your way without doing that again" How about not creating any more stupid rules?

[@JS-jn8ku]

Anyone ever stare, but not seeing? You are thinking about something, or exhausted, and don't even realize someone is in your line of vision? I have...and remember apologizing, because it seemed like staring, but, no, just spacing out.

[@catsaresocute650]

@@JS-jn8ku Well yeah, but you appolised and moved on to do something different as soon as you realized. That's still going to make her feel bad ofc, you but it's the best you could do

[@angeliricafort2478]

Somebody tag whole foods. They should ban this kind of behavior. It's an intrusion of privacy.

[@Quietreach1987]

I’m so tired of people filming other people in public. Who needs to worry about being in a police state when “content creators” selectively film people without their consent.

[@Alteringrealitystudios]

My favorite effect of this sort of narcissism is when in a store they act as though because I'm walking down the aisle I'm going to speak to them and then my better looking wifey comes along. And the look of stupidity that sprawls across their face is priceless.

[@S2k_GRsti]

Love that one too

[@gothic_oma]

Haha, I love it! 😁

[@HermioneGirl1987]

That’s great 😂

[@brandonjames412]

Better still when your wife isn't around and they're staring at you and waiting for you to say something to them, then far from that, not only do you not say anything to them-you don't even give them the slightest glance. I actually had that happen once where I think someone was recording. After I had passed, she asked me to reach something (I'm 6'3") on the top shelf for her; I assumed it MIGHT have been a legitimate ask, so I reached it and held it in an outstretched arm behind my back for her to grab without even so much as glancing at her.

[@teramedia7333]

@2:10, this shouldn't be a criminal offense. It should be a ban-able offense. As in, the store reserves the right to refuse customers. If she is going to willfully hold up the line and inconvenience other customers, then the store should ban her. It isn't even about recording - it's about willful unacceptable, inconsiderate conduct on her part.

[@rajakghosh6602]

Women aren't mad men are looking at them they're just mad they aren't getting paid by men to look at them.

[@SD-mi2vc]

Or its the men they actually like

[@grantstratton2239]

It's that women have figured out that women band together when one of their group is attacked, and men instinctually want to protect women. So the knee-jerk reaction to a woman playing victim to a man is extra attention and a witch hunt against the man. I'm pretty sure this exact dynamic is the basis of the oppression Olympics in modern feminism.

[@jamesjonnes]

She isn't mad. She's just competing with other women to see which gathers more looks from men.

[@mithicash1444]

Yep, same women show everything for 4.99/mo 😂

[@lout3921]

I think defamation lawsuits should be a serious consequence to those people.

[@DDD11239]

That's only if it is proven to cause monetary damage (or property damage). Psychological annoyance is hard to prove.

[@leagueofotters2774]

@@DDD11239damage to reputation?

[@brandonjames412]

@@DDD11239 There'd also be a case to be made if it damaged a person's relations with a family member somehow.

[@spencercollins6613]

Her transitions to sponsorships are god-tier! I️ never see them coming, awesome job!

[@victorianeal9369]

God blessed her with a gift!

[@booch2912]

Hollywood needs permits and licenses to film in public and need people to give consent to be filmed yet a normal person can just film whatever they want and post is just ridiculous.

[@brennanthabault1351]

Where I live you can technically film someone in their house as long as you're not on their lawn/property

[@megchippendale529]

That’s what I thought watching this…same with Australian film & television

[@tearsong8744]

@@brennanthabault1351 Where is that so I can never go there? That's creepy.

[@jdanon203]

@@tearsong8744 America.

[@bigtantoes5092]

These people don’t want you to look unless it’s through a screen and makes them money

[@S2k_GRsti]

100%

[@mamsy1169]

Which is EXACTLY why she posted it. Rage bait.

[@DDD11239]

​@@mamsy1169 Do you condone the act?

[@lilyjohnstone3582]

Thank you for speaking up about this stuff.

[@LeeEverett1]

Narcissism is running rampant nowadays and it's such a shame.

[@preston_s.]

I look at people in front of me at checkout all the time, whether I'm attracted to them or not. Because they're IN FRONT of me.

[@lrzbhnsn]

That is just outrageous! You should at all times close your eyes when you're in line!

[@remc0s]

You sicko!

[@brandonjames412]

I'd stop doing that unless you're not particularly concerned to end up in one of these videos. Just pick a fixed spot and stare at it and completely ignore anyone who happens to be looking at you. That might seem a bit overblown just to avoid being featured in this sort of video, but most people probably deserve to be treated that way for some other reason, and I have no desire to have small talk with anyone anyway, so these sorts of influencers encouraging sociopathic/avoidance behavior only benefits me. You can still be polite and hold doors, return shopping carts, etc...just look completely away from the person while you do. It's actually pretty fun to try because you have to fight your natural inclinations to glance at someone, at least, so you can make it kind of a challenge. In fact, maybe even come up with some sort of reward you get if you go an entire day without directly looking at any woman you don't know; that could make it more fun.

[@stefslyfe]

Thankyou for making this video. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve glanced at girls, not gawked, not stared, but simple passing glance. Only to have them immediately become overly defensive and guarded. And I understand safety but not all of us men want you, think you’re this uber desirable irresistible being. And sometimes we do think you’re cute, what’s wrong with a glance? It’s to the point now that I literally don’t even look in the direction of women for fear of being seen as a creep.

[@Triaxx2]

She doesn't hate attention. She hates people being allowed to look without paying for the 'priviledge'

[@skinman499]

2.99 dollars per month 😂

[@sadface7457]

She isn't made his looking but getting free product 😂

[@davidbellecy1709]

This is an excellent observation.

[@jacobmccarthy1171]

Me (breathes): Girl: sorry I have a boyfriend

[@SamBrockmann]

Here's how you respond to that: "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU!" Then, after yelling that out - yes, even if you're in a library - simply walk away. She looks like the harasser then, which she is, if it's truly as ridiculous as you make it sound.

[@katiestevenson8920]

😂 that’s funny. These women are crazy.

[@awesomecronk7183]

"Oh that poor bastard"

[@buckjones4901]

Ya I love it when I have zero interest in a woman and just being nice, and she feels she needs mention her BF lol.

[@Momofukudoodoowindu]

@@buckjones4901to be fair, 99.99% of my stories involve my husband

[@kirstiemills335]

So glad someone is finally talking about this. Just put it away girls, no one needs to see what you ate for breakfast. Have some class. What happened to being classy and humble? The attention seeking is on another level 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@rebekahmontesdeoca565]

This kind of thing make me so self conscious about how many I'm looking at people, which otherwise I wouldn't think about at all.

[@callmemayhem6366]

And you should continue look at whatever you want to lol. Don't let this bother you it's not illegal to look at somebody.

[@BecketGrimm]

Yeah, I have that too. If I think someone looks interesting or attractive, I;ll just sorta zone our and observe everything about them. I don't even realize its creepy, often.

[@ShaferHart]

In the gym is more of a problem. Since before smartphones women went there fishing for attention more than doing any workout, it was kind of ig before ig for them, but the recording of it is new. I don't personally care for them nor look their way but I absolutely hate when people record me in the background.

[@dj393]

I must admit I am a people watcher. I love sitting on a bench and watching them walk by. My youngest son gets upset with me.

[@brandonjames412]

@@dj393 It sounds like you're kind of a pervert and now normal people are getting caught in the crossfire, on camera, no less, thanks to you. Good work.

[@lilshrek369]

Im so over these "influencers" or streamers. They took over the gym culture and ruined it for us, now we can't glance ANYWHERE cuz we're creeps...but yeah you go ahead and record us 🥴

[@Mandy-y8b]

Such a good point!!

[@brandonjames412]

If I had an independent gym, then I'd sue on two grounds: 1.) She didn't have consent to film my property; she's also portraying my members negatively. 2.) She didn't have consent to use her filming of my property for commercial or self-promotional reasons. Either way, I don't go to the gym anymore; it's not worth it.

[@lilshrek369]

@@brandonjames412 At my gym, I kid you not, there a sections with tripods, cameras, gym pros posing...all while people are waiting for set bench or the weights they're hogging. And it's strange, cuz it doesn't matter the time, they're ALWAYS there lol

[@brandonjames412]

@@lilshrek369 I'd just stop going to that gym, or any gym, for that matter. I can get my cardio outdoors, and even if I exercise less, dying of an early heart attack is better than dealing with these people anyway.

[@cloudsinmycoffeemug]

girl your transitions into the sponsors are so good

[@maryrichardson1318]

In this day in age, with so much crime, especially against the elderly, he is probably just trying to be situationally aware of his surroundings. I am 63, and was taught by my soldier husband to always be keenly aware of my surroundings. I am just bold enough though to go and ask the girl filming me without my permission for her Instagram or whatever social media she is posting on, and then tell her I will have my lawyer contact hers for my cut of however much she is earning.

[@GulfKat]

Love this! This is the way. I’ve considered wearing a mask and hat anytime I’m in public because the amount of people on their phones is crazy. I don’t want myself or my child recorded or photographed to be put on the local Facebook hate pages etc. Not to mention the hidden cameras for “pranks”. Dystopian.

[@llareia]

Honestly at one point it looked like he might have been trying to get up the courage to ask her to stop, and since it's heavily edited I have to wonder if he actually DID ask her to stop and she clipped that out and posted this for vengeance.

[@trivas]

The old man was thinking WTF is she doing recording with her phone? He was just waiting, luckily I haven’t run into one of this “influencers”

[@dermagnus8482]

Could be a jail time day for me. I am sick of these lunatics.

[@Poohbear_022]

Its illegal right filming someone without consent

[@tusiamilusia40]

im so happy you’re on spotify its gonna make my daily commute so much better

[@tanswork2025]

The old man has the feeling that he is being watched. Of course he is going to look at the cameras direction!

[@edmoss7952]

Trust me as we get older we havn't the energy to be checking you out. We want you to move along so we can get home and sit down lol PS: Don't take everything so literally folks it makes life so much easier when you don't.

[@BadMannerKorea]

Uh, I'm "older" and I check out women all the time, and in fact it's a natural occurrence to look at people we find attractive. There's even studies on it. It's basic evolution, biology, and psychology.

[@hatchhermit77]

@@BadMannerKorea Same. I don't even realize I'm doing it sometimes because I'm usually thinking about something else while my instincts act in the background.

[@brandonjames412]

@@BadMannerKorea Resist and overcome your biological impulses; they're outdated and useless for survival, anyway.

[@yogithamohan2631]

It’s soo true , I felt bad for the old man , because he just wanted to check out , thank you for standing up, plus , it’s absolutely soo true , all the gym influencers, they’re all like , oh no we are not sexual objects , yet come to the gym in same skimpy outfits for attention , thank you for talking about this ❤

[@iamjacksselfloathing4857]

One day soon, someone is going to file a lawsuit against one of these influencers for defamation or slander and win big. Only then will this stop.

[@evanaltman9286]

You're really rolling the dice on that one for convincing a jury

[@iamjacksselfloathing4857]

@@evanaltman9286 How hard do you think it would be to find 12 people who either hate influencer culture, or are jealous of an influencer's popularity? The hard part would be finding a jury unbiased at all.

[@brandonjames412]

@@iamjacksselfloathing4857 I think you'd have trouble getting to defamation; although, it could be easier if the influencer in question speaks as to the 'FACT' of what someone who is staring at her is thinking, rather than her opinion. As long as she's only speaking to her opinion, then the video is actually evidence in her favor (as opposed to against her) and would only really hurt her if she used the video to make an incorrect factual assertion about the person. Beyond that, the person filmed without their consent would have to be able to prove some sort of material (read: financial or personal) damages as a direct result of the defamation, or they wouldn't have a cause of action. The good news is that juries in civil suits (though most don't make it to a trial) make their decision on a standard called, 'Preponderance of the evidence," which in this case, would mean that they only have to believe that the person was more likely than not defamed; they don't have to believe that the person was defamed beyond a shadow of a doubt. Also, the number of jurors and percentages might vary, by jurisdiction, but civil juries often don't have to unanimously find in favor of the Plaintiff. 3/4ths seems to be fairly common, so if twelve jurors, you would need nine. One thing that I think some people forget is that these stores/gyms are OPEN TO the public, but aren't considered public venues, in the strictest sense. I'll tell you this: If I owned an independent gym and an area influencer made a video like this (without my permission) about one of the other members, I'd talk to an attorney and try to find some grounds to sue her ass for loss of business. My case would be that she didn't have my consent to film there; she didn't have consent to use my gym for commercial purposes AND she has caused great financial harm to my business because people are afraid to become members of my gym due to being worried about being captured in one of these videos. I'd obviously find shills to lie and say they would be members of my gym, but are worried about being on such an influencer's video.

[@DavidGarrison-ok9yo]

Love the show thanks for standing up for men

[@Scoops.Troop16]

Honestly one thing that can help with embarrassment that worked for me is js focus more on the fact that people wont even remember you doing it and if they they arent gonna judge you! Really hope that helps you brett! ❤

[@rathy21]

we need to bring back public shaming of inappropriate behaviour they will get the attention they want and we will get our privacy back on the streets,gyms etc

[@beththomas8430]

Right! People should start suing for defamation of character and bullying (publicly humiliating them on the Internet), harassment whatever

[@Cooksongrl]

It's crazy this putting their whole lives on display sometimes means they're not embarrassed by anything. And if they are they retaliate by calling it bullying. Yes shaming was not always nice but it did help society be more normal.

[@maryrichardson1318]

That one in front of the tube reminded me of last year when we went on a cruise. A group of us were taking pictures on a really scenic part of the ship. We had met two other couples and we were taking turns taking pix. Another lady and her group came up and decided they wanted pictures in the same location. She said "Could you guys just move out of the way so we can take these pictures?" My husband piped up and said "We will clear out as soon as we are finished, you can either wait or come back later". We took a LOT of pictures, on purpose.

[@drawingwithNyx]

😂damn

[@kash9854]

I look at people all the time, I’m not checking them out

[@Cryptid.Couture]

For me, when I'm looking at people, I'm usually thinking... that was a choice.

[@Ka_tari_na]

I look at people too, I’m a forgetful person, sort of like Dori, I hate it when someone greets me and have no idea who they are, so I tend to look around mentally preparing myself incase I see familiar faces so I have time to organize my memories 😂

[@catherinebracy4332]

@@Ka_tari_na Yes! A fellow Dory! It can get annoying sometimes, especially, in my case, being better with faces than names.

[@tonylouis6072]

It's not just the behavior that we need to crack down on, it's the mentality. All of this shit is deeper than what we see physically.

[@chrislair6832]

I'm so glad she's getting put on blast by people like you. It's just sad. How many times they get away with it

[@kermitthefrog2311]

I so hope she saw all those comments calling her out. The level of self absorption is absolutely astounding. These people need an intervention.

[@dracocaelestis6370]

old guy just trying to pay his groceries and go home while that girl is making everybody wait for her to finish shamelessly filming herself and others in public.

[@JenaeMyers]

Thank you for creating real, authentic content. You have a great personality! Keep up the great work!

[@Greekgal101]

The fact that these people are so self absorbed

[@sally1569]

He is probably looking to see what is taking her so long!

[@Lefthandlimp]

Its a constitutional right to be able to film anything in public. You have no reasonable expectation of privacy when in public spaces.

[@brandonjames412]

You're half right; I mean, you're 100% right-but the constitutionality of it is inapplicable if the owner of the store/gym/other business chooses to take action when you (presumably) didn't get prior consent to film. If this were a public park, or street, your point would indubitably hold.

[@AlyssaMaeFriend]

Ugh these people/social media makes me sick.. glad to see I'm not the only one who thinks it's ridiculous

[@CoffeeMugTwentyFive]

I do my grocery shopping at 6-7am; no fighting for parking spots, no fleets of shopping carts to weave about, no long lines at checkout and no one at self-checkout. I'm in and I'm out.

[@kermitthefrog2311]

And likely no influencers filming themselves lol

[@CoffeeMugTwentyFive]

@@kermitthefrog2311 cross my fingers every morning.

[@kermitthefrog2311]

@@CoffeeMugTwentyFive 😂😂

[@sci-fi.tsunami]

I used to go at 3am when Walmart was open 24 hours.

[@CoffeeMugTwentyFive]

@@sci-fi.tsunami It's a good strategy.

[@TiffyCorbin]

I was so happy to see this video. I literally just trolled women on facebook yesterday for wearing skimpy outfits just to trap men and then claim victimhood from it. It’s not okay or empowering to be wearing absolutely nothing out in public in the first place. How’s it empowering to you when you see yourself and what you’re wearing maybe twice and for like a couple minutes at most and then it’s everyone else who has to see it the rest of the time? You’re not empowering me by looking like a tramp. These ppl dress the way they do for attention. You can believe that. And men aren’t the only ones staring. I don’t feel comfortable when I see it and my husband is with me or my kids or grandkids. Period. My husband would never cheat anyway but that’s not the point. This is getting absurd. We should be mindful of impressionable children and complete strangers when we go out regarding how we dress. And we shouldn’t be dressing like this anyway outside of our home. As women we should definitely have more self respect.

[@Bushodai]

I live in the south and was raised to open the door for anyone and everyone just to be polite. After multiple interactions with young self absorbed women like this one, I now only open the door for women over 40 and other guys. They’re actually respectful and understand concepts like gratitude and common human decency.

[@brandonjames412]

Just continue to hold the door for all women but make it a point not to look at them. I don't understand why you're holding the door open for other guys; they can go f themselves. My condolences on the fact that you live in the miserable cesspool known as the American South; you seem literate enough to join us here in civilization, should you ever find yourself inclined.

[@sporostuw9767]

being a public person like streamer/influencer and telling you don't want attention is the ultimate hypocrisy

[@charlieeco1]

Just start suing these influencers for defamation and set a precedent

[@DuncanClair]

There couldn’t be a more perfect engine for amplifying and enabling personality disorders than social media. You are statistically, almost certainly not the main character.

[@BadMannerKorea]

Actually we're all the main characters. The term "main character" here is being used for actions that go beyond the norm, but the reality is our brains make it so that we believe we are the main characters of our lives.

[@thing1thing2themediamaniac43]

​@BadMannerKorea AS Brett said we are the main characters in our own lives and main characters in our immediate families lives and perhaps main supporting characters in close friends lives But yes Main Character Syndrom is getting out of hand

[@davidcox3076]

@@thing1thing2themediamaniac43 And the people you mentioned also knew if you were crazy. Now, you can postt on social media and announce it to the entire world.

[@brandonjames412]

@@BadMannerKorea None of us are the main characters and almost everyone is individually unimportant, myself included. In the extreme long-run, none of us will have ever mattered-even the most significant of us during humanity's time of existence, which will be but an inconsequential blip in time on the universal scale. It's very important to learn that you do not matter whatsoever and teach that to others, as well.

[@BadMannerKorea]

@@brandonjames412 Not true. If someone 100,000 years ago didn’t have kids, you would never have been born. And on it on it goes. This applies to consumption which increases growth, future technologies, etc.

[@ryankuykendall2010]

Brett is the Queen of "transition to sponsor ad"! Honestly, boss Ben should take notes!😄 Congratulations on the marriage !!🎉😁

[@greenisnice9345]

But how long has she been staring at him? The whole time! How else would she know.

[@dearthditch]

Yep. She clearly didn’t just “notice this while editing”. She’s been filming him the whole time and looking at the Picture in Picture and reacting to him live. 🤮

[@t.mcwhorter7592]

She acts as if she isn’t looking around at people! Yet if someone glances at her, it’s because they’re creepy 🤦‍♀️🤮🤡

[@whisperinghopebus]

Brett, you may not read this, but I hope you do. You're a breath of fresh air! I enjoy your videos with your down to earth sensible attitude. Don't ever change. Your hubby has a wonderful wife! God bless from New Zealand

[@ryanrichardson1169]

Yeah if someone is sitting there, not checking out, and just hanging out I’d be freaking wondering what the hell’s going on too

[@mickbenson9161]

It's getting ridiculous out there now. Feminism, dating apps, and social media has completely ruined W. They're on a different planet at this point.

[@llareia]

This is my biggest problem with social media. It skews your perception. You don't see the millions of women who aren't using it every day, or the many millions more who ARE using it but aren't being narcissistic creeps, so your conclusion is "women are crazy".

[@Eric10179]

My one buddy told me “don’t objectify women, they’ll do that themselves”. So true in today’s day and age lol.

[@JohnSmith-zo6ir]

In Australia I charge these people under our public nuisance laws. It is $1,100 for a first offender, $2,000 second time and $3,100 third time. These people always argue that it is a public place so they can do what they want. In a public place, they have to consider the rights of the public besides their narcissistic selves. Im sure America has public nuisance laws. Use them.

[@davidlynch1958]

I'm curious what they are doing specifically that's illegal. Filming other people?

[@MustardSkaven]

@@davidlynch1958 Holding up the counter for content. Annoying other people in line.

[@JohnSmith-zo6ir]

@@davidlynch1958 They are a breach of public nuisance laws. Filming people in public, who are an unwilling and unpaid participant, for a video (especially one that is being monetised), is a breach of the public nuisance laws. So they are a public nuisance.

[@JohnSmith-zo6ir]

@@MustardSkaven Exactly. You got it. They are a public nuisance.

[@fishmonger7020]

There’s no law like that in America. If you are in public , then you can be filmed.

[@aubreyw659]

Why does no "influencer" have the first thought of "Oh, theyre just observing their surroundings, everyone does this"

[@maryrichardson1318]

Because they are not actually observing their own surroundings, only their surroundings as it relates to seeking attention. Honestly, a serial killer could walk up to her outside of the camera shot, and she would never know.

[@BlueDauntless]

@@maryrichardson1318Very interesting theory. I cryptically wonder if it has been tested.

[@Cooksongrl]

Because from the time they were 2 they were raised with a phone in their hand so actually standing quietly and patiently waiting using the time to think and observe what is going on around them is a foreign concept.

[@DDD11239]

Because, they failed to study basic biology, regarding 350+ million years of survival evolution.

[@sup9542]

Most people don't observe their surroundings these days. So many heads in phones. A big reason why the quality of driving has gone downhill.

[@seantran4178]

Nothing wrong when he's watching at her. Same here, I would be looking at her if she is wearing that kind of outfit. I found a lot of ladies in Costco. Love to be watching your comments, Cooper. Because I love so much when you comment about the viewers. You are so sweet and hilarious. Make me laugh a lot.

[@barnacleboi2595]

Blasting people because they glanced at you while also hoping with all your inner power that they either keep looking or look more times so you can complain about it more.

[@brandonjames412]

You know what I wonder about? You probably don't care, but I'll tell you anyway: There's almost no way that could have been the first mark, right? I mean, maybe it was, in this case, but it can't be the first mark every time. Isn't it funny to think of her spending an hour in a grocery store, simulating checking out, until she finally gets a mark that looks at her what she deems to be a sufficient number of times?

[@reneerose9968]

How dare people look at a camera that is clearly filming them

[@Assorted-Moose-Nonsense]

Exactly. He didn't even look at her, he looked at the camera. Probably because it was on her phone and the screen showed what she was recording. He waiting in line wondering why this self-absorbed twat's filming him.

[@katiestevenson8920]

Exactly! He’s wondering why he’s being recorded not ogling her.

[@buckjones4901]

Really the old guy is probably looking and wondering what the heck is she doing, he should have said "hurry the F up bimbo!" Instead he was being polite and waiting.

[@jimpanse1638]

😂😂😂💯

[@oneofmany7051]

I was thinking the same thing. To me, he is clearly looking at the camera, not her.

[@OGA103]

It seems to demonstrate an interesting shift in thinking. As children we think everyone cares about us, what we look like, what we wear, etc. but usually we grow out of it when we realize that strangers don't care about us. Which honestly is very comforting. I didn't care what the random stranger in the grocery stores thinks about me because I understand that he literally doesn't think about me at all. It's nice. But now with social media and "influencers" they didn't seem to ever grow out of that phase. Their livelihoods rely on people paying attention to them and caring about what they look like/what they wear. Hence, they think the entire world pays attention to them at all times. It's a strange phenomenon.

[@manuelsteele7755]

Thanks to Brett for another excellent analysis. I am an old Generation X who returned to Arizona State for a PhD in his 50s. I study AI/ML for data science and engineering. I walk around campus as if HR is flying a drone over my head. I avoid any conflict with students by being as neutral and nonchalant as possible. I also avoid "brief glances" at young women. A good example is in the College of Education. I had a class on applied regression with R in that building. I was going up the stairs and saw a young woman about to go up too. I remember thinking to myself "Don't stare. Don't even look at her briefly. Just look at the stair steps." I remember doing that, and while I was looking AWAY from her and just focusing on the stair steps, she abruptly turned around and looked at me. I remember thinking if she had seen me looking at her, she probably would have labeled me as a creep and posted it on social media for thousands of followers. But instead when she turned around she saw me just focusing on the stair steps while going up. I do things like that all the time to avoid those ridiculous conflicts Brett noted. When I went to ASU the first time for an MS in Bioengineering in the mid 1990s, I used to go to the gym daily. In my three years of working on the PhD since 2021 at ASU, I have not gone to the campus gym even ONCE due to concerns of gym influencers filming themselves and slandering guys on social media instantly without due process. I just go to a small, unpopulated gym at my apartment or hike around Tempe Lake. For the latter, I avoid proximity to the scantily clad influencers who literally run in "revealing" outfits in the summer heat. Those narcissistic influencers remind me of that old, early 1980s video "Strip" by Adam Ant - lol. The gym influencers are out-of-control slandering men like that on mobile apps. In 1995, social media did not exist with mobile phone apps. The internet modems were dial-up and had about 28 kbs. See the old 1995 film "Hackers" to witness the outdated technology when the internet was young decades ago. So, the attitude of "HR is flying a drone over my head" has kept me out of trouble with influencers and their pejorative threat of social media castigation in my 3 years of working on a PhD at ASU. Neutrality is priceless and glorious. I aim for it stringently.

[@kaiseryuuki4098]

I'm old enough to remember when in order to take a picture of someone you first had to have them sign something to give you permission. I was born in the 90s, btw.

[@Poohbear_022]

True now they didn’t ask for permission first and it can give us the anxiety right, cause not all the people are the same some has traumas too 😂 like is it that hard to talk to this person and just ask for her consent 😂 90s here too ,grow up with good morals and right conduct 😂

[@LaurenVHamill]

I agree, Brett, we need to get back to privacy and decency. I can’t believe our society has gone this far.

[@Cheeseman510]

It is absolutely bonkers, BONKERS! How can someone record everything going on around them, everyone in the vicinity and then have the audacity to claim they’re the creep!???!!? This behavior deserves to be shamed.

[@incurableromantic4006]

This has become such a been a problem in gyms ("influencers" who treat it as their own personal studio) -- that a lot of them are now banning filming without prior permission.

[@raymondbrown940]

Dang... I'm becoming obsessed here. I'm finding myself taking a sneak peak ahead on the timeline to see when the segue will occur and then trying to catch it before she does it. Those transitions are smooth... It's like... every time I watch a Brett Cooper video, I end up saying to myself, "Dang! She got me again."

[@josephrocca8693]

As a red blooded heterosexual male in his 50's, if an attractive woman is in my vicinity....I'm going to look. I'm old...not dead. I could understand if I was leering and drooling or if I got handsy (which I would never do to a stranger) then I would deserve to be called out on my behavior. If you can't accept a complimentary look, you have no business being out in public. Wearing a tight halter top and skin tight spandex...guys are going to look.

[@RochelleLong924]

When I see an older man lookin (just looking) I give a polite smile because thats what I feel is the polite thing to do, they might not even be looking at me but just incase, I usually give a smile, sometimes people are just looking around lol and if you happen to make eye contact with someone, (man or woman) it’s polite to smile, whether your looking at me or not should be irrelevant if your not actually bothering me, Lol people are aloud to look at others. I don’t see what the big deal is.

[@catcat9582]

Even if you wear a maxi skirt men still look and look. People like to look at people

[@johnreilly8672]

There is actually a thing called "people watching" it's been around longer than than everybody living on the planet today.

[@lapdog5355]

SHE"S the creepy one!

[@thewrongmissy7653]

🎯

[@rampant_1644]

I think one has to have low self-esteem to develop that narcissistic disorder. Hand-in-hand with that self-esteem issue is the trust issue, or lack of trust in others. Validate my existence by looking at me to boost my ego , so I can tell myself that I am wanted. Sad that they don’t understand that their true value of a person lies within and how they interact with others.

[@TerminatorT-2024]

Damned if you do give them attention and Damned if you don't give them attention. Men, it's time we leave this clown world to the clowns.

[@corvusheller328]

Thats what you get when you elect a clown like Trump

[@dermagnus8482]

Time to strip away rights from them again.

[@Moccsnosocks]

@@dermagnus8482 I'm a woman but LOL some women really don't deserve it, boobs for brains

[@JaydesBebeGurl]

Women need to get a grip bc my husband was just being nice to a lady n she tried to accuse him of flirting n I was like umm no that guy is my husband n he was just being nice...go touch grass lady...we've been together 15yrs being nice isn't flirting

[@brandonjames412]

Other than holding doors or returning shopping carts (wherein I don't look at the person when I do) I've simply stopped 'being nice' to women; you should tell your husband to do the same lest he be featured in one of these sorts of videos. Actually, I'd argue that Brett would have done well, in edit, to put something over his face because...while she's making good social commentary...she's also amplifying the outreach of the offending video.

[@purplehyacinth5646]

I 1000% agree with you on every word you said in this video 👍🏻👌🏻👏🏻🙌🏻