the life I should have lived - revisiting my past

'the Life I should have lived' - revisiting my past choices (and why they matter)
I remember when I first heard the concept of our "un-lived lives' and thinking it sounded rather odd. I can only live one life right now, why wonder about what could have been? And yet, I find that I do wonder, quite often - it's natural to consider other ways we could have lived, or decisions we could have made. I think it's easy to fall into this thinking when we believe we have made a mistake, or regret a choice. And yet, I think there is power in considering what 'could have been' - but instead of letting it lead us into guilt or regret, let it inspire and empower us to enrich our lives with multiple passions and interests. We cannot fulfill every dream, but we can carry the essence of those dreams with us. I don't know if this is a very relatable subject, but perhaps it can inspire a conversation. Sending my love.
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[@LindaCasey]

Take it from this old lady who was always told that I should choose just one subject and do it well, but because I had more than one passion, I ended up following several diverse ones simultaneously and as a result was able to combine them into one fulfilling life. Follow your bliss because there are no wrong choices. 💞

[@kellychauncey3040]

Yes, Linda!! Me too... I have played in all the things my heart desires and its so beautiful to see the pattern of how they all end of working together because I become the common piece. It ends up creating a beautiful humans with compassion & love for living! Please Paola, don't master a few things of interest become a master of learning and everything your heart leads you to become! God bless you for this channel. I learn so much from listening and watching you. You are a blessing to me.

[@mariawelling4194]

You got that right! ❤️ 😍

[@francespeto3305]

Very well said! I think all of us can take what we need from your advice. Ty for this🥰

[@Native-Kitty]

Amen to that Ms. Linda! ❤❤

[@vanshikakar1501]

Relatable to me too😃💖

[@pameladonnelly8068]

You remind me so much of my daughter. I have always called her an "old soul" as she is so wise beyond her years. I believe you are as well. She is an artist, musician, nature lover and introvert who easily gets overwhelmed by people even though she loves them. It is the beautiful souls in the world like you and her that help the rest of us understand what is important in life. Thank you dear one.

[@jeanne8264]

Beautiful words ! Your daughter is blessed by Having such a wise mother !

[@bettyboopbear4044]

Maybe your daughter is an HSP (highly sensitive person.) When I discovered Dr. Elaine Aron’s book on the subject, it changed my life, and everything finally made sense. I was in my mid 30’s when I realized this, (I’m now 48.) had I know earlier, my life would’ve have certainly been very different...better. If in fact you’re daughter is an HSP, it is my hope this information will empower her, and to know she is not alone...that everything she feels finally makes sense, in this loud chaotic world. That’s what it did for me, anyway. Blessings

[@amanda2692]

As being a quieter person too, I often ask myself if there is any place (professionaly) I can fit in or if I need to create that place myself. It's a harsh world and being sensitive is a curse and a blessing at the same time. Two years ago I quit university to start something totally different (working with animals) and never regret it. But I often still feel quite lost and struggling with what to do with the time that is given me. Thank you for being a little companion on this yourney. Sending you my love from Germany🌿

[@Handlebrake2]

Lol, blessing? It seems like a losing hand in this world.

[@ramashkolnik9713]

What is it you do with animals?

[@elvenaubade]

could you give any advice/tips on how to quit without feeling like i’m quitting or disappointing others. i’m about to finish medical school but i know in my heart of hearts i most likely won’t be working in the field. i honestly would love to be a writer but i feel like my family won’t even understand much less support my choice.

[@jennykolbjornsen6805]

There's a great book by Julia Cameron called The Artist's Way that would be quite supportive and revealing on your journey . It's an international bestseller . The 12 weeks program will bring measurable results . Good luck

[@Laurelin70]

@@elvenaubade Start writing now. Go and find a way to make your writings financially and socially productive while still studying or practicing in hospitals. Try to be assigned to a children section and write some stories for them. See if you can do both, or else find a publisher for your stories and earn some money, so your family can see it's not just a flight of fancy but a real profession.

[@kathleenroberts7972]

I remember doing a 5th grade report on what we wanted to be when we grew up. All I wanted to be was a mother. I got looks og discouragement being I didn't want some big career. I had both motherhood and an important job. But motherhood hands down was my greatest joy.

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

I'm a housewife and there's nothing better for me. I run our social life as a family, I'm molding my children, everything that truly matters in life is shaped by my hands as the mother. I couldn't dream of a better life. I wanted to be a dancer on Broadway when I was little. Glad I didn't.

[@ellen823ful]

You chose wisely.

[@heatherbooth4337]

I wanted the same, I’m now childless at 43

[@ediewall6360]

I am 65. In highschool , I recall , in class, two girls behind me discussing how many kids they each wanted to have. I could no more relate to them than someone from a distant planet. I see having children as unjustified imprisonment and slavery. No haters please. We each have our own experiences. I was held down or enslaved or something in past lives likely imprisoned for a crime I did not commit. I was raised by immature Nazi- like parents who pushed obedience. I had no freedom. I have NEVER for a nano second regretted NOT having kids. I feel BLESSED that I do NOT have children. I do have many dogs. I am self realized, creative, happy and have freedom to do as I choose. I am not lacking in any way. To each her own. Others are NOT needed to be whole and fulfilled. Give back to life in any way that you choose. You can give to plants, to the environment, to people that are already here.

[@tgeetoo9451]

Dear Kathleen, May your heart deepen and be healed with tenderness towards yourself, at this point. God bless you, dear and precious one.

[@TheCottageFairy]

I remember when I first heard the concept of our "un-lived lives' and thinking it sounded rather odd. And yet, I find that I do wonder, quite often about other choices I could have made - it's natural to consider other ways we could have lived, or decisions we could have made. And yet, I think there is power in considering what 'could have been' - but instead of letting it lead us into guilt or regret, let it inspire and empower us to enrich our lives with multiple passions and interests. We cannot fulfill every dream, but we can carry the essence of those dreams with us. I don't know if this is a very relatable to you, but perhaps it can inspire a conversation! Do share your passions below, and how you incorporate them into your life. Sending my love. MY ETSY SHOP is closing near the end of the month due to my tiny post office getting too busy that time of year, I appreciate your support in the meantime!🦊🍄 It helps me keep this channel running: www.etsy.com/shop/thecottagefairyart

[@TheNyuszus]

This topic reminds me of the poem "The Road Not Taken" by Robert Frost. Hope you don't mind if I add it here. Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear; Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same, And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black. Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I- I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.

[@anonygirly]

The Midnight Library is a semi-whimsical novel about unlived lives 😌 And of course pop culture movies like The Butterfly Effect and even the recent Netflix movie Look Both Ways explores how one decision/encounter (chosen or not) can lead to drastically different unfoldings...and yet also not necessarily. In the end, the 'what' may be less important than the 'how' (though they are interrelated)

[@hildegardkhelfa5358]

A well-known saying is: you understand your life backwards, but you have to live it forward. Mistakes, wrong decisions and all are part of life, growth and important experiences. And all led you to the now and that now seems very promising and positiv. We would never be able to appreciate what we have, what good there is, if we would now know about the other parts and dark valleys of life. It is all good like it is.

[@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar]

I have rheumatoid arthritis and lost my nursing career. As my disability became more disabling, I lost more and more of those unlived ideas. It’s something I work through in therapy but I LOVE how you framed it… and gently reminded me to enjoy all my passions as fully as possible.

[@annetedder8202]

Each choice we make is exactly the right one. There can be no other way. It is the only way that life unfolds.

[@sarac3325]

My 13 year old daughter and myself are quiet introverts and she is having a hard time at school because of “all those extroverts”😊 I think only us quiet introverts understand each other.❤

[@ritagreene8376]

Yes

[@2Sugarbears]

I am an unquiet introvert. 🤣🤣🤣

[@sherilynangel6498]

Hi Sara...I'm sorry your beautiful daughter is having a difficult time at school xx Sending all my love & wishes for her & also you 💜🙏💕 I hope she is able to stay true to herself and feel strength and resiliency throughout her life xx Blessings to you both xx

[@unlockyoursoulmemory4199]

my daughter is similar, but it is so precious to sense her beautiful soul

[@lea_australiannativefaunaconsv]

Quiet introverts end up being artists, scientists, musicians, conservationists, see beauty in all living things & nature, have a great insight into what is right for them and their needs in their chosen work and life, and generally are great true friends. Quiet introverts know they have special gifts to nurture and these gifts will end up being part of the beautiful creative person with sincere & true friends🌷

[@deskgamesix]

I was a firefighter for four years in the eighties and have been a law enforcement officer for the past 35 years. My Masters is in history and I sometimes think how nice it would have been to teach. Perhaps I will some day. However, I learned long ago not to doubt myself and the life I have chosen to live. My wife and I have raised two great sons (neither have followed me into the emergency services 😁) and we have had a blessed life. I don't know, maybe I will open a bookstore in a small town when I retire...

[@Motherhubbard170]

who would have protected society if you'd been a teacher, NO REGRETS

[@marianl3447]

i LOVE your comment 10 42 ..it's beautiful. .(and what does that number stand for? the number referring to is 10 42.

[@THEMAX00000]

My mother died 31days ago. I’m so grateful for these videos and how peaceful they are. They lend a tremendous amount of perspective. I too long for a very simple life. I will never live that one kind of life, everyone keeps telling me about all of the opportunities I have a head of me now. It’s frightening and overwhelming, so much so that I find that I ultimately want to do nothing. Thank you for providing some peace and comfort through your wonderful videos

[@susanschildknecht1673]

So very sorry for your loss🙏🙏

[@katem3961]

Give yourself time to grieve. There is no time limit for the process. Tiny steps, your mum would want you to be happy I'm sure. Just be kind to yourself 😌 and take care.

[@jenjem5810]

😓 Sorry you are facing this separation. One day she will be restored. May you be supported and FEEL supported. There is a promise found in every translation of the Scripture John5:28.resurrection awaits.🤗

[@katelynnlouise9235]

My dad is actively dying and I am also so drawn to your videos …. I saw another lady comment they also just lost a parent. Something about your videos has healing and soothing and calming qualities…

[@THEMAX00000]

I’m so sorry 😞. You are not alone

[@starlight1867]

You might not have been accepted for your writing earlier in life, but your talent definitely lies in your art, poetry and videos. I have your book on Kindle (partially sighted I read better on an iPad) and it is wonderful. 👌I’m sure if you wrote and illustrated a children’s “fairy” book - with your gentle storytelling and beautiful artwork it would be a best seller ! Yesterday is gone - today is here right now to live & enjoy and tomorrow is to fulfil your dreams ….many blessings dear soul 🙏

[@gailmarion100]

I am 80 years young and enjoy your videos with the beautiful scenery of our Valley… I also love the success you have with your wonderful videos.

[@lindalogan2688]

Beautiful video. ...I'm 53 now, too emotional to respond further. God bless you young lady 💜

[@albertstraumVLOG]

[@VivaLaVittoria]

Thank you Paola for the video. I have to admit I spend a lot of time thinking about "what if" and my "un-lived lives"- like it crosses my mind on a daily basis. In my case there are a lot of thoughts of regret and wishing I'd done things differently. But I try to remind myself that I don't really know how things would have turned out if I had done this or that. It's easy to look back and see "mistakes" but I have no real way of knowing how my life would have played out differently over the span of years if I had taken a different route. So I try to just stay present with what I have today and feel love and gratitude for my life as it is.

[@vivdoolan6846]

My job was so stressful, I was a Social Worker. I started my own business but now I'm so isolated from working on my own all the time it's really affecting my mental health. I'm not a person that thrives in solitude. Paola your films are works of art, this is your medium !!!

[@moshe2495]

Create a social circle and use your newfound independence to travel, meet new people and experience new things. A stressful, toxic career is not healthy ( physically or mentally). Remember why you left in the first place. If you are missing toxic socialization, something is wrong.

[@sommesoul33]

Maybe use your skills for people in need in a volunteer way? For children in the care system maybe? It is an intensely stressful job being a social worker but it comes with skills from working with different types of people and coping with people being aggressive etc. Those skills are invaluable to those who need them. You would meet new people too.

[@jdcollins5248]

I'm in a very dark period of my life and there are some things I'd do differently if I had a choice. My faith is still my beacon and looking forward to your book.

[@karolina8465]

I can relate to this so much. My life has been a rollercoaster and some big dreams were dead before I was twenty. Living in a poor country made me anxious that I will not be able to choose what I love in life and it's still a struggle. From my youngest years I often heard that there's no place for hobbys in adult life, it was so awful to even listen to that. I made some choices (dictated by my health) not to pursue a career, and am more happy than I would've been otherwise, but at times I tend to question my past choices. Because they're not in line with todays world.

[@lynn-marieyoung5370]

I am glad you chose this path, as there are not too many brave sensitive souls on youtube. And I love your so called "Archaic" way of writing/talking, it's beautiful and authentic to you. Keep being you ❤

[@darkangelkate3950]

I agree with you. Paola is wonderful and I am so grateful to have her on KZbin.

[@melissaebbert3844]

I think this is a common question a lot of us as ourselves when you’ve created a certain life path. Did I make the right decision in having kids when I did? Should I have traveled more? Is this it for me? Am I truly happy with the life I’ve built? I’m 36 and I find myself questioning a lot. (Mid life crisis? Lol). Thank you for your kind words and reassurance. Love your videos! They calm my soul!

[@carolefox6553]

Not Mid Life Crisis. You're too young. Maybe just the normal 'teenage questioning' that seems to show up every 10 - 15 years. LOL

[@ninajazzy1840]

You know how to recreate the magic atmosphere in your videos. You have a great talent, interesting thoughts and refined feelings.

[@albertstraumVLOG]

[@johndej]

Wonderful video! This was quite thought-provoking for me as an old guy looking back on the paths I've taken in my life. In some cases, there were dead ends and unfinished goals. In others, it was like being in the fast lane on the freeway. Each brought joys and regrets. But looking at my past, I'm not sure I would have done anything differently if I'd known what was ahead. Overall, I'm happy with where I ended up with a few exceptions. At my age, playing these memories like a video in my brain takes more of my time than planning new adventures for the future. I think that is to be expected as one ages though. Thank you for sharing another beautiful video. I truly hope whatever is ahead for you will bring you joy and satisfaction. Have a great week!

[@philomenaward1833]

Lovely, I'm still taking different paths and some have led me to really scary teraine and I wonder, still how did I make it th through, I was asked at aged 23 to write my life story I thought it rather weird as I felt I hadn't lived enough yet, the professor who suggested it, was right I've kept diaries ever since now at 70 years of age I see I have something to write about and yes it's been worth it even the dead end paths.

[@turquoiselistener7238]

I've spent a lot of time reflecting on this too, in a couple different directions. I was always strong in math as a kid and often wonder what my life would be if I'd gone into engineering. At the same time, this year I've decided to explore hobbies, like little lives I never thought I could have - singing lessons, woodworking, dabbling in art. And I've really enjoyed that process!

[@flowergirl7260]

A life of variety can be a joyous, fulfilling life.

[@rowenaconahan4803]

Paola, you light up my life! I think if you ever wanted to offer an art class in your community, people would flock to the opportunity to enjoy some time learning with you.

[@anetherealpursuit]

Your videos have brought me relief during dark times in my life, and I can’t thank you enough for it. I’m so glad you didn’t give up on your writing and continued to share in the form of these videos. You’ve inspired me to do the same, as I’ve been writing novels for years and although I will be releasing my first one next year, I also like to share my work in a more immediate sense and your beautiful language and way with words in your content made me realise these visual mediums are wonderful ways to do that.

[@juliethompson8888]

As a 76 year old woman who married, had children, educated formally and informally, with 3 careers I am now embarking on a new one, that of widow. A new chapter to write and I wonder what will be next.

[@robot_collective]

Sincere condolences. My grandma lost her husband a few months ago. They were married for 60 years. It was such a hard time... She has good and bad days, but her energy is coming back now and I am so proud of her because she is mastering this new chapter with such a wise heart and positive thoughts. We are stronger than we think. I wish you a fulfilling new chapter Julie Thompson.

[@AdaraBalabusta]

Sending you an empathy hug, Julie. May you be comforted and supported on your new path. ❤️

[@Uapa500]

Sending you my warmest hug 💖

[@louiseedsall6096]

Sending a heart hug- I hope this chapter will be enriched with good memories that comfort you.

[@princessguingon123]

Sending you my big hug Julie.

[@aliciataylor7625]

I frequently think “she has such a way with words, and is such a fantastic storyteller, I wonder if she’ll ever try writing “ while I watch your videos. This video especially made me wish you would so I was delighted when you started talking about it! I’m looking forward to your book and hopeful you will continue to put your writing out there, fiction and non fiction! Your style is absolutely perfect, my favorite type to read, and difficult to find these days. Thank you for putting these beautiful videos into the world❤

[@roosa9815]

Managed to cry in my morning porridge, again. Thank you for this video and talking about this subject💛

[@TreezRainAndSunshine]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤(((WarmComfyHugs)))

[@rachelfirst8621]

As I am currently finishing my undergrad and applying to Master programs, there is such anxiety about even getting accepted and subsequently making the “right choice” of where to go. This video has brought me so much comfort in stilling my heart and making peace with the future. Thank you! ✨

[@jdcollins5248]

Your degree is a great accomplishment, but let it live with your heart and not vice versa.

[@StochasticGreen]

I applied to grad school because I had no idea what I wanted to do, only that I wanted to move out of the US. I picked a random school in England that I had never heard of before and 18 years later I still live in England in a village with husband and daughter doing something not really related to my field of study. You always make do with what life brings you and never know the things that they happen even if you try to plan it all out.

[@gilidominitz1842]

The opening photoshoot is mesmerizing and so are you and your insights, very appreciated and valued here at this platform 💕💕

[@BarbyDailey-Rurallife40]

As we get older, we look down that road of "what ifs" and can see some clarity. When I made the decision to say OK to moving far away from my daughter and grandchildren and joining my husband in having a little ranch and raising cows I was heartsick for many years because I missed them. But we have made so many memories here with them and our move gave my daughter courage to move with her family away from that area to begin a new adventure in another town slightly closer to us. Regarding the weather...this year it was like a light switch. A beautiful autumn day and the next waking up to a winter wonderland. No gradual steps into winter .

[@Parianparlay]

Linda’s comment is so true! I too am an elderly lady and was told as you were that my writing was too old fashioned. Yet there are plenty of people out there who appreciate every word you say on this channel. What the publishers really meant that there isn’t a big killing money wise, it’s too small an appeal, of course we all knew that. I was given a token for my Christmas present and I’m off now to buy your LOVELY book Paola. I so enjoy your films please keep on making them I’m quite sure they help a whole lot of people! ❤️💐😘xx

[@veralake5898]

As a person in my 50s I can tell you the pressure to have a degree is mainly from a young perspective. 10 years after you get a degree no one will ask you what you studied. 20 years after your degree you will not think about what you studied. You will become interested in politics and world events, the environment and humanity in general. Your interests will change many times over the decades. You may love cooking for 10 years and decorating and then suddenly change to gardening or music or other hobbies and not care at all about cooking. Life is interesting that way. You can study anything anytime. My mother told me "an active, and intelligent brain is never lonely " and she is right. The biggest pleasure of learning in university was the participation in learning in groups. I miss that. However you can take classes and learn with other people at any time in your life. I also used to have some seniors in my undergrad classes and at the age of 20 wondered why they were there. Now I have committed to studying archeology and anthropology when I am a senior! I cannot wait to be that wrinkled old lady in class with 20 year Olds around me and kicking butt and getting As in everything. Ha!

[@Shannon.Hazleton]

True. I was very educated when I met my husband… I moved to the state where he grew up and we started our marriage when I was nearly 30… by that time, no one asked me where I went to college or what my degree was in… I’ve lived 20 years in this area and a good portion of the people in our lives over the last two decades don’t even know I have a degree and went to grad school…. Was trained as a behavioral therapist with children with autism… sometimes I find it funny that they don’t know that side of me at all.

[@linda4th]

I received your book yesterday and have taken a brief look through and already know it will be one I will cherish. Thank you Paolo for your insight and for teaching us how to be more intentional and enjoy life. I will be sitting down with your book over the weekend here and there savouring every page. Take care until next time xx

[@georgemaxwell4984]

I love gardening. I choose to be a teacher but having retired I've been meaning to take some gardening courses. You've made me think about it so I'll do it over the coming winter. Thank you. 👍 - Frances

[@_negentropy_]

It’s never too late to become a scientist. I did at midlife, and I found my way there from a heavily arts background. Your sense of wonder and curiosity are so valued and needed in scientific fields. The difficulty is preserving those precious gifts amidst the rigidity and formality scientific pursuits. But it can be done. Whatever you choose to pursue at any point in your life I have a hunch you will find the beauty and meaning in it and that is a tremendously special gift you already share with us all. Wishing you the joy of discovery down all the paths you traverse in this lifetime.

[@LianDyogi]

“What aspects of those what ifs I can imbue into my present existence in order to enrich my day”--I love that so much. So practical and at the same time, honoring our true desires.

[@butterflymuse2707]

I love this :) I just recently had the realization that I can just like... Do whatever I want? Lol. Like within the constraints of life, of course, but I was lamenting that I wish I could study herbalism and religions and my husband was like "why can't you?" And I realized... That I can. Nothing is stopping me from watching KZbin and reading books about the things that I have always wanted to learn. So I am doing just that! And it's so enriching!

[@kjbcvintage]

I was surprised to see how many leaves you still had left out there in the pnw in this video. Over here, in the mountains of Virginia, our leaves are basically all gone. It just got cold but seems far too early for winter here as well. Hopefully, we will still have some warm days where the temperature reaches the 60s. We have enjoyed many warm days here this Fall and I hope they continue. The gray days of winter when the sun doesn't shine through the gray sky can be depressing. The cold is not something I enjoy at all. The one trade off of these beautiful mountain views I get to enjoy is the cold winters. I could move to a warmer place like Florida but I wouldn't have these peaceful, beautiful and rural mountains surrounding me. Much Love Paola! Never stop dreaming! (Kaci)

[@nicolelopresti7308]

Paula, you are so wise! Thank you for sharing your insights. This video comforts the anxiety that plagues me over 'missed opportunities' and 'un-lived lives'. I have so many dreams and passions, I feel like time has run out for those that have yet to come into fruition. Though I share your sentiment of re-imagining how elements of the past can be integrated into a different path forward. One that, perhaps, I can't even imagine ❤

[@SimplyEastTexas]

I know God has given me many blessings and tokens over the years, and now He is using your video to let me know He is still there listening to me and it is a ok to question and rethink how I want my life to go forward. I never seen your videos before but look forward to following you. Have a wonderful winter.

[@rianneshirley01]

i always get so excited when you post a new video ☺ usually i'm never there at the moment itself because i am fast asleep in the Netherlands! this is a lovely way to end my day thank you Paola😊🌿🌸

[@hobhamwich]

I always enjoy the peace and imagery of your videos, but this one is inarguably the most profound yet. The idea we can continue to live our unchosen, alternate lives, but in other forms - that is an astonishing statement, and yet immediately recognizable as truth. Well done, you.

[@ny2phillyholloway592]

I remember that other fulltime job. Now you teach us all both young and old. One thing for certain you always have a choice to make in life. Got confirmation your book is on the way and I can't wait!! Que Dios te bendiga amiga💗

[@thats_nice_canada6283]

I definitely can relate to your message Paola. My work does not tap into my interests that my soul craves but seeing this comforts me in knowing the moments I take each day or so to allow time for what I love is well spent! I hope to find a way to incorporate my interests into my career. Sending love from your neighbour to the North 🍁

[@Elizabeth-arb22]

I really appreciated this video, Paola! I find it interesting that your works were rejected because of an "archaic" writing style. Sheesh! When I read fiction, and even some non-fiction, I often wish that writers would use better grammar, and a wider range of vocabulary. There are so many wonderful words that not many people use, and I really appreciate your videos because you have a delightful way of expressing yourself. Bravo! I am so looking forward to receiving your book this month. I would buy any book you publish. Sending a virtual hug to you!

[@mariacristinadiaz5190]

I love Victorian literature and I love this kind of writing.You should keep writing as you do .The world needs people like you. I would be delighted to buy your books and so many people too.

[@annettemurielle]

Your videos are always so soothing, as well as informative. I love it when you "take" us outside with you, but I also really love it when you just sit with us and share your thoughts and reflections. We got early snow and winter too, although because we're so very near the mountains we also get a lot of Chinooks with the warm winds and the melting snow and spring-like weather for a few days, so our winters are broken up which is nice. Wishing you all the best of the early season.

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[@nathalielorit9417]

I am so glad that you found a way to stick to your original self and express yourself properly, poetically, with a rich vocabulary and not at all archaically.... There is so much beauty in your videos and I find such comfort hearing your wise words and your analysis of life, turning the challenges of life into enriching experiences that make you grow. Yes, you might be an "old soul", a beautiful old soul, but that doesn't make you a bit archaic. .. Oh, and everything you create, be it pastries, soaps, herbal drinks, embroideries, paintings....( the list cannot be exhaustive, you are too much of an artist,) your gestures are so calm and confident that it appears very easy, while there are probably long hours of studying diy- and- traditional recipes books behind the magic of your creations. Thank you for sharing.🌼

[@Mgsa20]

Glad you didn’t give up! I love your thoughts and perspective! ❤

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[@lynnlange1147]

The poetry of Robert Frost always sends my thoughts along these lines....I'm not sure who said, "Life is such you can only live it looking forward, but only understand it looking back." and, as I get older and look back to 40 years of teaching, kids, grandchildren, etc. I really see the forks in roads. Your area is just lovely...as are you!

[@deliaeva]

I used to feel so anxious about this topic. I felt so much pressure to choose the "right" way that would make me the most happy. That life does not have to be perfect to be beautiful and worth living was a very big insight for me. Now I don't think there's a perfect right way and wrong ways anymore. Instead, we form our own way my moving step by step.

[@Carolmaizy]

A wise person once remarked how thank goodness we dont get everything we wish for, and thank goodness we do get some things we never thought to wish for.

[@beckyarmstrong4990]

Thank you Paola. My life's paths did not lead me where I thought they should, but what beautiful places I did go. I guess I experience life just as I was meant to and not how others thought I should. At 64, I am quite content with a simpler quiet life style and have no regrets. You have a beautiful soul and you follow what feels right for you. I bet I would have loved your writings. That is why I look forward to receiving your book soon. How nice it will be to cozy up with as we tend to slow down this time of the year. Take care of yourself.

[@LB-ku6ry]

I always look forward to a new video from you. I’m am an introvert and artist. Your videos are made with care. It really feels as though you are creating a mood for your viewers, a healing mood. Personally, I look forward to your videos because they soothe and calm me. They are healing and comforting. They are beautifully made. Your voice is soothing. Thank you for these gems.

[@Tipplit]

3.23… spectacular backdrop. I wish to live in such places surrounded by abundance of natural beauty and forage and walk in such lovely woods foraging, tree hugging,admiring ,trekking :))

[@fannyriand4917]

Watching this video has made my heart feel so much lighter... I've just graduated university and I feel quite lost as to what I want to do next, and it feels like choosing one thing will be giving up so many others. This was a wonderful reminder that we can still experience pieces of many lives, no matter what path we choose. Thank you :)

[@PeaceWorks108]

There must be a word to describe the charming, heartfelt ‘paintings’ that you enact in your videos. I look forward to the beauty and feeling they touch in me💥❤️

[@angelachihladze4789]

I’ve never thought about this conception before watching your video. You’ve just opened a new perception for me and made me think. Now I’m seeing how I’ve been unconsciously incorporating my ‘un-lived’ lives into my today life in a way of hobbies and skills with a goal of having at least a glimpse of those ‘lives’ (with all the regrets, of course). And realizing it right now has blown my mind. From now I will continue incorporating those things but in a conscious way and trying to let go of all the regrets. Thank you. You’re doing a Good thing ❤

[@senbebe3320]

By imagining what our lives could have been is such an interesting concept! Yes it’s so true that even though we’ve made certain decisions we can still explore those interests in other ways ❤️. I think having this knowledge makes deciding a bit less stressful and thank you for your wise wisdom once again Paola 🥰💕 xx

[@francineh.7825]

Have you ever considered writing a blog and sending emails as I would love to read your Victorian/archaic style of writing. Or writing a book with that style? I've put your current book on my Christmas wish list so I can hardly wait to read! This video is very relatable as I am also interested in so many things and wish I could do/learn them all unfortunately have to keep reining in my squirrel tendancies haha.

[@barbararoyal6139]

Your videos have brought many beautiful and precious gifts of the heart to so many. Your path has helped to make this possible. Thank for sharing your journey as it has unfolded thus far🕊

[@albertstraumVLOG]

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[@annavoytenko]

There are millions of paths we can take. At every turn of our lives we choose one of them. It's wonderful to accept that we might have lived dozens of characters and that none of them is better than the other. Paola, I love your words: "We aren't missing out we're allowing our diverse interests and passions to live with us even if it's in a small way".

[@craftingwithsam8472]

The universe always puts us where we are meant to be. In every moment there are lessons for us to learn and others to learn from us. You have the ability to make your what ifs come true. Everyday wake up and do even one little thing that fills your soul with passion. Where you live looks like a fairytale to me. All the beauty that surrounds you. I think your life is so full. A degree isnt what makes you successful. You can teach art classes without a degree. You are an amazing human being and artist. Leave the nest and fly litttle bird. I send you love and healing energy.

[@naatie22]

This is so so relatable, thank you for voicing it because I am feeing the same way. I went to school and started my career in the veterinary field and now had to choose between staying where I established myself and started a life or moving again. I opted to stay while knowing I wouldn’t be working in my field. Now I struggle with having all sorts of passions and feeling like I need to pick one and focus on it, but you’re right! I can have bits a pieces of everything in my life ☺️

[@smithmusicstudies]

My life is definitely full of unlived lives, lives I didn't expect, and twists and turns that return me to paths I thought were closed. I did not study music in college because I did not believe I was good enough and that the market was saturated. However, I moved to an area where there was quite a demand. It has allowed me to reopen my more creative side after 6 years in law enforcement, followed by becoming a mother and several bouts of serious health issues. I am definitely learning the character choices we make on the daily build up to more than one road untraveled. If I had stopped playing violin in college (even though I didn't major in it) this may have never been an option for me. But I made that decision to not quit. My dad played bass for his college orchestra and hasn't touched one in decades. He often tells me he wished he kept playing. I try to encourage him it's not too late. But he seems resigned. It at least encouraged me to keep playing. In short, keep reading and pursuing your interests little by little. A lifetime of that attitude will build to more than you can imagine.

[@easydoesit1962]

Hi Paola! I think I may have said this before, but I really enjoy your content. I get anxious sometimes and your videos bring me back down to earth. They help me relax and remember what's really important in this life. Thank you and God bless you! 💛

[@chisuku]

It reminds me of the book I read not long ago "The Midnight Library", which is also about different lives that we could have lived :) It's a great story and book, I wholeheartedly recommend it and don't want to spoil anything, so I'll leave it as it is. I know how it feels to second-guess your decisions. I've always been afraid to decide on anything, so I just went with the flow. For the first time in a long while, I made the decision to try to pursue a career with things I like myself (electronics technician for devices and systems). It's a very demanding and difficult job, so I honestly don't know if I can pass it, but I'll try my best anyway. Mainly because of my disability, I'm having difficulties. But I've learned to try any way!

[@KatAnne17]

Great book!

[@warriorqueen863]

Hi Vanessa! I know you can do it. You can do it if you pit your heart into it. Pray also for God's guidance. It do really helps a lot.... And if you trust in God, even if you have disability, He can make you healthy when you're at work. Trust me cuz we're the same. I have rhinitis but everyday when I go to work, I lift everything in the Hands of God. And God never disappoints! How I wish I could repay the kindness of God but I know He doesn't need it because He's overflowing with abundance. Let us show gratitude to the kindness of God by being grateful and kind to everyone especially the needy. #PrayingForYouVanessa🙏🙏🙏

[@elodieleaf]

Thankyou for the beautiful video💗I became a professor and thought that was it. But the rigidity of academic life did not suit me and I moved countries and started painting and writing poetry🌺Then totally unexpectedly my life changed completely as I was diagnosed with ALS. I never imagined I would one day be dependent on carers, personal assistants and a wheelchair user. It took me some time to adapt to this new life and loss of independence and the freedom to just get up in the morning and climb my favourite hill near my home. I have now achieved being in a happy place again and I view life from a completely different perspective. I love your videos and as I am an outdoor girl at heart, the nature scenes are soothing my soul🙏🏼💗

[@anandsingh696]

Incredibly meaningful and so relatable topic. Thank you

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[@catelizabeth]

This is such a beautiful video. It truly does resonate. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Also, those shots of the mountains...breathtaking!!!

[@cynthiatreynor1973]

Sometimes our life paths are not our choice. Some of us are on life paths that were chosen by situations beyond our control. The best way to figure out if you're doing the right thing is to ask yourself, am I content? Am I providing myself with basic needs and a feeling of contentment? If the answer is no, then you need to make changes.💗

[@hollywood7702]

I loved your rosehip hunt and thoughts about our unlived lifes-life paths, I havent thought about that in a while, and probably I suppressed it, and you are right, why not let it influence the 'now'!! By the way one tning I miss is the beauty of old style writing, it takes one away to another world, I would LOVE to have more of that around. We also had a surprise snowstorm and two feet of snow, power cuts and broken trees, but oh so beautiful and magical.

[@lisacarey4951]

Selfishly, I'm so happy you have done what you went for to live your life!!! It has fed so many of us, the gifts you share with us and many others are really that - gifts!! Thank you for each part of what you do in your work and life.

[@debbie7116]

Your videos are so lovely - I always marvel at the time and expertise it takes to produce one - all of the multiple camera angles, the editing, the music - every video is like a little fairytale movie, and so professionally done! And as to choices made in life, it took me until I was 30 to decide to be an art teacher even though I was also drawn to science and medicine and veterinary medicine and forestry and social services and natural architecture .... And so I was an art teacher for 25 years, but I also did secondary academic research for doctors on the side, had lots of pets, am designing my own sustainable house in the woods, and I have a wonderful life! So my sage advice is - Do not worry about the path not taken, for they all meet up down the road.

[@AndreaNoid-n4k]

I set my love of music aside to pursue a study of medicine. I set that aside to homeschool my kids. This is so helpful for me to remember. I have recently only had music in my life as I teach my children the piano, but have been feeling a desire to do more. This really encourages me to pick up my flute again- just because I love it. Thank you!

[@jannybranciforte9295]

I just loved what you talked about here, Paola. It is a perfect way to expand one’s dreams to include sweet elements of those dreams, whatever they may be, on s smaller, more possible way, on a more intimate scale. Thank you your exquisite filmmaking and your precious ideas that you share with us all. You are a treasure.

[@sallysmith4492]

Thank you for sharing about your various crossroads of your career choices. I find that subject fascinating!! I am absolutely certain, from my framework, your current vocational decision has absolutely been a perfect fit with talent, ability, personality, motivation, intention, etc.You question because you are so richly blessed with so many talents!! For instance, In the beginning of your video, I was floored with your talent as a cinematographer. Some of the footage completely was breathtaking !! Your ability to communicate with words and art is nothing short of remarkable!! All of what you have accomplished on this channel will take you to substantial future paths...frankly, wherever you desire!! My dear, the world is your oyster!!! Just so happy that you have blessed so many people on this stop on your career path!!!

[@carolinelawrie7142]

Archaic writing 🤣🤣🤣 my husband tells me I talk like someone from a Jane Austen novel. I love language and I'm always trying to expand my vocabulary. As a child I wanted to be a novelist and run a boarding cattery. Or study horticulture and have my own plant nursery. I actually became a nurse but my childhood passions live on through my love of and care for nature, my rescue cats and my garden plants and wild animals. I love to study and learn new things and make herbal skin products and candles for myself and gifts. I'm very happy with solitude and a few good friends. I can't handle noise, crowds or parties. My life path chose me and I've learned that I'm very happy with it 😊😺

[@paigehaas1319]

I married my husband at 25, had my first baby at 26, and a 7 year old step son. I'm 27 now and I've often wondered what life would have been like if I traveled the world instead. I also live in a little mountain town in Colorado, and I have not utilized my psychology degree as i get to stay at home full time. There's always the what if's. However, I wouldn't trade my family for anything! And the simple, nature filled, introverted life is fufilling. Thank you for sharing, sending love ❤️

[@rebeccahubbard3817]

You should absolutely read The Midnight Library. Such a great book.

[@bluejay6184]

Dearest Paola, you have so many gifts! Though you may think you have not been able to use them all, I can see that you are doing so beautifully. You love sharing beauty and knowledge; have you ever considered using your KZbin platform to teach art? You would reach thousands of people of all ages, while maintaining your quiet and slow existence on the other side of the camera. In-person teaching can be very stressful while trying to meet every need of your students. For little ones, there is that trying aspect of needing eyes on all sides of your head in order to maintain safety and calm. Teaching arts and crafts, painting, sewing and needlework, as well as cooking and baking are all very welcome and popular for KZbin audiences. I have already learned a lot from you. I’d love to learn more! Much love to you 💕💕

[@omalleysmith9100]

Every time we shed an old 'identity' presents a great opportunity to create a new one. I will never stop re-imagining, learning and creating. You're never too young or too old to pursue what fills you up as far as I'm concerned. My goal is to move forward with childlike wonder and optimism and just go for whatever I feel like doing in the moment. Cheers.

[@barbaracarlson1331]

As we age, we do question decisions made in the past, but faith comes into play because I do believe God leads us along our journey and decisions we have made.

[@IammeS]

I too believe nothing is by chance…. Our decisions were made to get us to the point we are now in life. Some things were not meant to be for we could end up mush differently… even differently that we would not enjoy. I believe if we trust God , He will lead us to ourselves as He see us.

[@grannyp.w.4343]

Soooo much wisdom in your words. Thankyou for sharing your woods with us…🍂🍁

[@lindafisher8441]

Girl I wanted to run through that field with you!!!!

[@bellesbottoms]

Me too

[@AngelPuffCait]

Thank you for bringing up this topic! I've been thinking about the "road not taken" so much lately. Although I'm happy where I'm at in life, it's difficult not to second guess my decisions. Beautiful video as always! ❤

[@katiewright2232]

So beautifully expressed, as always. I think you have touched on a universal feeling that most adults probably have at some point in their life. We are imbued with the notion that we need to pick a certain path in life, but we are ever-changing Beings and the world is ever-changing and “one path“ can’t possibly fulfill all our interests and inclinations, but we can keep them alive and incorporate them into our days, as you said, even in small ways. I definitely do that with my interest in some bits of writing as well as studying some biology, which I never realized I was interested in until recently. Thank you for another beautiful video.

[@antine1279]

Beautiful, beautiful camera work! The colors, the items you use, just very calming and beautiful. As for the topic, I wouldn't necessarily frame it as "lives not lived", there is the one life we are living, that's what matters. The choices your are making now and will be making in the future. The past is gone, I try to not think about it but focus on the present and what I'm doing, choosing and creating right now. With that being said, in the present I am incorporating multiple interests and activities, some of which were long term passions, some of which are new. There's time and space for everything you love once you get rid of the things you don't love. Thank you for the video :)

[@miaanguiano2868]

I love your videos so much they make me happy.😊

[@cozyleafyt]

I know this feeling very well, I'm still only starting my path but it scares me that I've made the wrong decision so thank you for talking about this!!

[@joyeetaskitchen]

Dear Paola, the great thing is you know how to be happy with anything you have, even if with those red rose berries. The choices you make driven by your passion worth a lot. I wish I could be there with my passion. Best wishes 😊❤️❤️❤️

[@markelliott58]

I love your storytelling Paola and wonder if you attended classes or read about film-making techniques because you seem to have mastered the art and I'm so happy for that! Speaking of childhood dreams, mine was the classic one of hoping to grow up to be a big league baseball player and getting paid to play. Of course that never came to be but I did attend college after a few years out of school with no particular goal in mind except to be more than a jean salesman in the local mall. And my biggest joys in life have come from music and travel - there's a bit of the gypsy in our family - and for that I am ever so grateful. Here's to a season of warmth in your winter wonderland and love to you and all who love you.

[@marianl3447]

WOW great concept to do a video on and what you did with it is to me, a treasure of wisdom. And i love that you created your own audience for your kind of writing and thus for your book ....well actually we already existed and it is not that you created your audience but that what you did was bypass the opinions of others who don't know really who and what your work was written for ..and so you just persevered and we found you.,..and you drew us to you. How special is THAT. And the impact is not about your STYLE of writing or your vocabulary...but the authenticity of you and what you think and say and the richness of that ----is beyond what anyone who missed the value of what is in your mind and in your words and your experiences shared, and is in fact....unfathomable. The simplicity of such a mind that is so present that a moment is a dimensionally rich experience that most miss in their busy lives...is beyond words.

[@vb7438]

Thank you for your beautiful video, it really spoke to me. I'm so glad you kept writing, your way with words is magical and comforting. Little did those publishers know! Xx

[@traceyhill7784]

As I sit here in the UK excitedly planning for the next stage of my life, although not quite finished with this stage, I agree that you can have multiple small elements that enhance the day to day. So looking forward to the book release and thoroughly enjoying your videos x

[@verdaderanaturaleza]

Thank you for making this beautiful and inner light kind of videos

[@JonesLeFae]

As a 54 year old woman, I have had multiple passions during the course of my life. My passions have included designing and creating handmade jewelry, textiles, sewing, tarot card reading, drawing, writing, gardening, cooking, and archaeology. I pursued my dream of becoming an archaeologist late in life - returning to school for a bachelor's degree at the age of 40. I then went on to get a Master's degree and have been a professional archaeologist for 6 years. It's not always easy and I may not stay in the field for much longer, but I am enjoying the experience while I have it! I always find time for gardening and hiking in nature, and cooking wonderful vegan food every day. Sometimes I even get to make some jewelry. I'm still not exactly sure where my life is going, but I know it is somewhere wonderful! My other passion has been raising two wonderful children to adulthood and watching them mature and grow and pursue their own dreams. What a magical circle of life!

[@Might_b_iz]

Your videos are so beautiful, peaceful and help me relax even when I’m at work in my little cubicle. Thank you for these beautiful, insightful videos 🙏🏻💕

[@mihaelaclaudiap..2]

Happy to drop the first comment, this is a fantastic topic Paola, I look forward to this video! Happy to be here once again!

[@TheCottageFairy]

Ah thank you so much Mihaela! What a beautiful name!

[@araceligomez3735]

Your videos are AMAZING! I really enjoy and look forward to what you have to say. The snow looks so wonderful. Coming from an area that doesn't get any snow, I think you are very fortunate to live there. Thank you for sharing your time with us. You are a beautiful person and I wish you much more success in your writing and in your life.

[@kimberlygilmore5245]

You’re a wonderful writer! And a very talented cinematographer, artist, etc. And you come across as a genuinely kind person. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and talents with us.

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[@sheilajones4491]

I believe the life path that you choose is the one that you are meant to be on. There are opportunities to learn grow and pass on knowledge to others through your own experiences, so good or bad you can often help others through your own trials and tribulations. I certainly have had many lives and each one has given me something special either I have gone through some pain which later I used to support others going through similar things. Other choices led to personal growth and quite exquisite happiness so whatever you do in life embrace it and take it forward with you there are no wrong choices. Sending love to you and this beautiful community. ❤