DO WE EVER ARGUE? (8.21.18)

We sat down for a #Q&A and talked about conflict in #marriage!
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[@thefreylife]

You guys had some really fun questions for us! Thanks for being a part of our family!

[@sophiepalmer-doran344]

my mom and dad had a loving rationship, they never argued. sure there were misunderstandings here and there but there was always love

[@ITSJUNE2]

I LOVED YOUR ANSWER ABOUT ARGUING....MANY YEARS AGO I LOOKED AFTER A LITTLE GIRL WITH CF, SHE WOULD LAY HEAD DOWN MY OUTSTRETCHED LEGS WHEN I DID HER CHEST PT. NUTRITION WAS VERY HARD BECAUSE SHE WAS SO FUSSY, WE WOULD OPEN THE ENZYMES INTO A VERY SMALL AMOUNT OF NON DAIRY ICE CREAM, THEY WENT DOWN WELL. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF, LOTS OF LOVE AND RESPECT 🤗 🤗❤️

[@VertigoBear]

Literally impossible to picture you two arguing.

[@randieopal1596]

Mary what's your middle name

[@kellilarson6128]

The Frey Life I love how you both look at the positives in everything, and really stay away from the negatives, even when answering the questions!

[@IceBerg365Ministries]

"There's always a bright spot" 😂😂 I want that on a Frey Life t-shirt

[@fralinsandfriends]

I love that Peter tends to be more philosophical (I love philosophy) and Mary is more to the point (which I also love). It's just an observation, but it's fun to listen to you guys.

[@megchilcott]

I adopted my son from foster care and he has Cystic Fibrosis. He was 8 pounds at eight months when he was placed with me. He has a feeding tube and does wear a vest twice a day for 30 minutes (more if he is sick). He does have lots of meds and we are so thankful he DOES qualify for Kalydeco (a drug that does address one of his genetic mutations at the cellular level). He is now three and weighs 26 pounds and is the happiest and funniest guy. You guys did a fantastic job of painting a picture of what it is like for babies/toddlers today with CF. I love you guys. I watch you every day and it has helped me choose joy and given me good guidance for how to raise my son to choose gratitude and remember he is perfectly made by His Creator. He's such a gift and an answer to prayer!

[@lynnrose7562]

I love, "Do we ever argue? Yes we're human. Human beings have disagreements. LOL. Excellent advice on communicating during a relationship. I love hearing about the two of you. You guys are the best! Mary, you have beautiful hair. Peter, you have a cool middle name.

[@chronic_chiari_warrior7481]

You make me feel like I'm understood. I struggle with chronic pain and i suffer each day. I'm glad I'm not alone in the struggle and the fight. Keep fighting Mary! I pray everyday for you.xx ❤💙💜😍🙂

[@lauragadille3384]

Alex Cooper Praying for you

[@chronic_chiari_warrior7481]

@@lauragadille3384 awe. Thank you for your kindness.

[@jcbogdon]

Alex Copper I also suffer with conic pain an have most of my life. It’s so draining to wake up in pain an go to bed an hope to sleep but some nights it’s hard the pain can keep you up all night. Mines mostly back an hips. I broke my hip at 13 yrs old an have had 4 surgeries an 2 of those 4 were hip replacements. So know my back is shot because of the hip issues. I’m 43 an I’ve been in pain more of my life then I’ve not. I’m more dependent on medication then I’d like to be but because I have to take care of my home, husband an son. So to do those things I have to take certain pain medication to give me a little relief to be able to take care of those things. Hope that your pain isn’t as bad!

[@chronic_chiari_warrior7481]

@@jcbogdon I have a Chiari Malformation and Syringomyelia and Hydrocephalus.... So it's mainly nerve pain.... it hurts all the time. What do you do to help the pain?

[@jcbogdon]

Alex Cooper I see a pain Dr an take medication. That’s about all I can do for my pain. I’ve had all the surgeries I want. An now I just have to live with it. I’m sure you understand that.

[@ll9483]

You two are the definition of relationship goals! I think a large part of marriage problems (mine in particular) come from a lack of communication and a difference is how two people communicate with each other. Your videos have helped me with my decision to discover the differences and issues with the way my husband and I communicate to better our marriage. Love The Frey Life!

[@Dacuteone08]

God and communication!! Trust and unconditional God kind of love!!! You two are a wonderful example of how a marriage SHOULD work! 💖

[@rae1957tn]

For the person that asked about babies andCF there’s videos on KZbin regarding that . You two should teach a class for engaged couples it would be very helpful. I’m 68 and I think we could use some of your advice

[@punkchick1395]

Mary, I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos. I’ve had a really rough few days and I saw that I hadn’t watched this video yet! I pressed play and when you said “good morning” I smiled for the first time in a while and just felt much better. Thank you so much for being such a light in this world!

[@moriganna67ify]

Everyone argues time to time. What you guys said about learning to resolve conflict together and grow closer through it, is so true. You guys keep it real and I love that. Please don't ever change that.

[@Kb1901kb_kris]

Ollie cracks me up in this episode

[@francesd2913]

You guys are years ahead on the relationship scale. Your attitude toward solving conflict is something that takes years of trial and error to learn and you have done this in such a short time. You are truly well matched and I believe you have found your soulmate. May God continue to bless you. Take care.

[@nadinesteidl6153]

You two always help me with my outlook. I have Stiff Person Syndrome &. I enjoy it, even when I’m in pain.

[@michellehinson3660]

Ollie jumping up at the end was so cute! It looked like he was saying, "Yes... I am ready for my close up." How sweet!!

[@KarJaneDavis]

“Come on dad! Just one sip! Dogs needs caffeine too.” Lololol

[@MissSavvySue]

I really liked this Q&A, especially the question regarding arguments. I feel like you guys should talk more about your relationship and the difficulties you have had. We only see your life from what you show on KZbin, and sometimes it can seem like you both are the "perfect" couple that never argues. It would be nice to hear more in depth how you both work together to solve problems (including specific examples) and just other aspects or advice as to what makes your relationship work.

[@drewharris7785]

"yes, we are human!" lol. glad to know it. You guys are SO CUTE and awesome

[@Stormy5475]

I like the honesty in saying when you say your human and sometimes selfish. It shows all of us that what we go through is normal with our loved ones. The fact is we only see a tiny piece of your day. You guys rock the mentoring thing by all of your blogs.

[@kat-napzzz]

That’s exactly how I feel about being in the hospital, but I didn’t know how to phrase it to people who want to visit. From now on, I’ll have to explain that I’m working. Love that!

[@drewharris7785]

Peter's portrayal of the babies in the vest was awesome!

[@kenzaj17]

I’m french and I’m surprised that Lecompte is Peter’s middle name rather than his last name. It literally means The earl in French and describing someone’s role in the society was used as a last name in France

[@sorchaoreilly2633]

I guess it's an American thing. I'm Irish and I notice many Americans choose Irish surnames as their kids names simply because they're Irish. Like Riley is a popular one which I'm sure comes from Reilly, a common Irish surnames. Ice Cube's first name is O'Shea, Kelly is an Irish surname and there are people called McKenzie which is a Scottish surname.

[@MSKPELLEGRINO]

In America, some people use the last name of a female in the family line - frequently the pre-marriage last name of a grandmother, great grandmother. It's a way to acknowledge the family cultural heritage as we have so many multi-culture families. For example, of my 8 great-grandparents, 2 are mostly German, 2 mostly Scottish, 1 Dutch, 1 English, 1 Turkish.

[@Jamie_Winsh]

It's especially important to have a positive , non conflict like relationship in a chronic illness relationship and I think hospital stays and big parts of life like that bring u closer to eachother

[@susanmedved2295]

You are the most delightful couple and your channel is my fave. I was looking for someone else with a GJ tube and ended up at the Frey Life. While our medical problems differ, you inspire this mom of 4 grown sons. I’m so glad that you live in love of God and maintain Faith, which is so critical when we’ve got extra challenges. Elijah is a gift and he’s so very loved and nurtured…thank you for sharing your journeys with those of us who need a bit of inspiration..you’re a lovely family. And: I often relate Peter to my husband. Aren’t we blessed with wonderful partners who join us in good times and bad? God holds you in the palm of his hand, Mary. You are the “sunshiniest (not a real word)” woman and i pray for your health and happiness. Hello to Ollieboy!

[@annecody1952]

What 'til you're married for almost fourty years! My husband and I have been together for a little over fourty years. It's been a rocky road, financially and mentally, but every time something happens, bad things, things have a great turn around to the better! Even with our girls, who still live with us. They are in their thirties, they work, but they don't make enough to be on their own. The way things are now a days, I would rather they live with us. Anyway, I'm glad you are feeling better. God bless you and your family.

[@FiMilton]

It makes sense that even you two argue, it just seems so different from the relationships I’ve seen. The thing I hate most about summer break and being home from college is listening to my parents argue. I hope to someday have the type of relationship you two have 💖

[@tayloralvord1976]

It’s too funny that Ollie boy knows when the vlog ends

[@daniellebudick9485]

I cracked up at ollie's reaction to a donut.. I'm like what does he know about donuts? LOL

[@karencrookedfingerscraft3408]

100% agree with you about hospital visitors. I love my friends, they know not to visit me.

[@eej1983able]

God bless both of you. I have learned so much from these videos

[@daniellebudick9485]

❤️❤️❤️❤️ ollie's reaction to a Dunkin' Donuts run was sooooo adorns!

[@terriehumphries6028]

Your voice is sounding better today. That is a unigue name and awsome at that. My husband and I have had our spats over the years and in December we will be married 27 years. We were actually told we would not make it 5.

[@alyseandrews1066]

Ollie at Dunkin Donuts is the funniest!

[@liny0026]

Hello from Australia I am a new subscriber and I am loving watching your vlogs . I have Pancreatitis (non alcohol induced) and have physical and mental struggles relating from this. Watching you overcoming your daily struggles is so so inspiring to me . Anyway I just wanted to say hello

[@coralinejones956]

Yall should really do marriage counseling. My grandaddy was and he would be so proud to hear this💗

[@lauragadille3384]

Glad to see your out and about. Got my expensive college medical books and errands today. I'm excited to start clinicals next week.

[@BrainFreezeWave]

Oh my God, the way Oliver is sitting between you two 💕

[@Marie_Lynne]

i know there is always a lot that happens behind the scenes and that peter and mary don't vlog every moment of their lives but is anyone else having a really hard time imagining what these two ever fight about?? of course it happens, and they're not perfect but at times it sure seems like it. i love them so much.

[@2listening1]

Happy Year of the dog to Ollie! :)< ^,,^

[@mariemarieb3250]

Mary your flowers look beautiful!

[@rivkahmiri513]

Ollie is the cutest the last couple vlogs.

[@MrCockatiel2007]

I have been married almost 20 years. Arguments are common in any marriage.

[@cherylh1916]

You look wonderful!! Praying the healing continues!! Much love!!💟

[@jackieguerin7812]

I had my lungs drained last Wednesday getting results on Tuesday, l love the way you cope with everything.

[@hollyosgerby1901]

Great Q & A session in the car!! Love your middle name, Peter.......sounds very regal & distinguished. Glad that you were feeling well enough to be outside, Mary! 🙏🏻🤗❤️

[@DottyGale8]

I so love Ollie! He always makes me smile!

[@frankbaez9844]

Keep Smiling Mary Your Such An Inspiration For So Many Thank You For Sharing Your Journey With Us Love Watching You Guys And Ollie #KeepSmiling

[@SimplyStacyL]

At my bridal shower, my friends wrote random advice in a scrapbook for us. One person wrote “always argue in a foreign accent to keep things from getting too heated.” Try it sometime... it’s hilarious

[@FunsizedStyle]

Ollie's head tilt gets me every time

[@rivkahmiri513]

Because you were able to work out communication is why you such a good couple. Too many people don't emphasize good communication first before marriage

[@faithupright3138]

"Cheap coffee" *Ollie initiates the cute head turn* me: *melts entirely* Ollie, you're so so precious ♡

[@a_p_r_i_1]

Ollie is cracking me up in the back seat

[@melissa-Ann]

Can you guys do a QA here on KZbin? Yay!!! Glad to see ya outside!!! Go Mary!!! 🎉🙌 🌼have a great night🌼

[@1hotmesstanya381]

You guys are so sweet!

[@ArstyImogenSky]

Love your Q & A's.

[@justdaisy15]

Love team Frey you guys are the best and I keep you both in my prayers that you both continue to grow together! 😊👍🏼

[@mistycgrimm]

I have a wonderful marriage but we can get on each other’s last nerve. It’s part of it! (in Mary’s accent) 😂. I wouldn’t trade him for the world!

[@angelgirl6966]

Sending prayers for a speedy recovery

[@barbcobbett7206]

You guys are so cute and I love when I get a notification and I see it's your video, thank you again for sharing all of this with us! It reminds me, a person with severe crohn's disease, to keep putting one foot in front of the other in hopes of 'tomorrow' being a better day especially when I'm having a bad day or bad stretch of days! Like lately had a rough past 2 weeks or so, so thank you! Much love from Ont Canada!

[@cottoncandyfriends8933]

Barb...I say that all the time...just to put one foot in front of the other without losing my mind & make it till I can go to bed! LOL. JESSIE

[@barbcobbett7206]

@@cottoncandyfriends8933 exactly! That's usually the highlight of my day bed time lol

[@Darienlover999]

Love how Ollie shot right up at the end 💙

[@judybalsarotti9608]

Peter- I am French also! My maiden name was Berard - it was Berard de la Pin- or of the woods- they were cabinet makers and did also make caskets when the need arose. I can track my dads family line back 7 generations! Love your vlog and your relationship to each other and God. So enjoy your clogs!

[@jamicacraft]

😂😂😂 Ollie just wants to go home!!

[@blairmarie9872]

Mary and Peter can you make The Frey Life phone pop sockets for the online store??? Love this vlog and your online store!!

[@blairmarie9872]

@@pammym190 Thxs must have missed that

[@dawnlaughlin4873]

I thought they did, but maybe they are out of stock?

[@dawnlaughlin4873]

Yes, under phone cases

[@dawnlaughlin4873]

The buttons that go on the back of cell phones to make them easier to hold, the pop open and close

[@denisefraustro8630]

Sunny side of life

[@addisongrenier604]

I love how you zoomed on Ollie. P.s I love watching your videos.

[@mariemarieb3250]

Poor Ollie! I saw him jump up lol

[@Jennstravels]

Glad to see that you are doing and feeling better to get outside! :D

[@theartistdrunkonart]

Everyone argues... me and my twin sister... me and my friends. EVERYONE does!!!

[@verashular7378]

You guys are so mature for your age. My husband and I argue over money because we are on a limited budget and with health issues and now we are stretched to the limits. So stressful.

[@charliesimmons2312]

I could have listened to this all night!

[@penelopepolinsneemeyer4757]

Lovely to see you out and about! I hope today’s follow up has gone well xxxxxxxxxxxx

[@jennifersherry893]

You guys are adorable!

[@FreebirdTMH]

Ollie is especially cute in this video!!!!

[@latanyafrancois6824]

I've been married for 11 year's please keep us in your prayers

[@johnrapp87]

We disagree but never argue,going strong 29 years so far. It can be done if you love and respect each other 😍 we also laugh together and support each other through everything. Your right that communication is key.

[@bunzer.of.wunzerton2235]

Congratulations 29 years man that's awesome!!! God bless.

[@pinkyblessed2218]

Focus on the Silver Lining - new T-shirt! Yes! With The LeCompte Life on the sleeve!🤣 kidding

[@KP-fj5vp]

I was so thinking about whether you two ever argue. You both seem so well connected all the time

[@mguthrie4271]

Great tips about communicating!

[@Kvarnell30]

My daughter is almost two she has her enzymes, vitamins, vest, hypertonic, albuterol and pulmozyme. Currently she has a cold i might have to call clinic tomorrow, see if we need to do some antibiotics her cough is getting way junky.

[@dawnwilson4286]

I adore you two so much!! 💜💙

[@wacorbetts]

Random question I thought of for no other reason besides curiosity. Are Mary’s ears pierced. I don’t think I’ve ever seen her wearing them but I bet you could totally add some inspirational merch to your online store!!😀

[@sanriogirly1991]

Hey guys!! I can't imagine you both arguing..You both seem like the ideal perfect couple..But like you said, we are all human!

[@deecates7715]

Lol....just wanted to say Ollie is so cute! !! I love watching your vlogs. I have said this before but I don't leave many comments but I have a couple chronic illnesses and I am in and out of the hospital quite a bit. It really amazes me how positive you both are when Mary is in the hospital. And now I try to be more positive too when I am there. Also I wanted to say it was so funny and cute when Mary was getting the close up of Ollie at the end . Lol. He jumped up and was looking all around.

[@Fedeloveschocolate]

I love you both.... you’re so positive.... i would like to be just a half positive and joyful as you are!!!

[@jcbogdon]

Love the purple flowers! Lol sure you spend more time at the Pharmacy then most of us. When you drive up the must just say well here’s Mary an Peter for all her meds. 😂

[@makingmemorieswithbabies1897]

I just recently found your youtube channel and I think it's great. Ollie just sitting in the back in this video just chillin is adorable. How long have you had him? How did you go about having him as a service dog?

[@bunzer.of.wunzerton2235]

So glad for you Mary!!!!! Love on those flowers 😍

[@katherinemaas6712]

You probably already know that LeCompt is French for the The Count, which makes me think of Sesame Street! It's not actually pronounced either the way Mary said it nor exactly the way Peter pronounced it. But it has a couple of sounds that aren't found in English, so English-speakers typically replace those sounds with English sounds, which is pretty much what Peter's pronunciation did. Fun language facts for Wednesday (late night).

[@wacorbetts]

What is the significance of the ring Peter wears on his right ring finger? Related to Moody? Or Scotland?

[@service_poodles]

I believe it's his school ring from Scotland

[@Trekkifulshay]

One time my husband and I arguing over which cabinet to put the salt and pepper in devolved into using Blue Clues [Mrs Pepper and Mr Salt] as our reasoning for why we were right. What about baby paprika?! So now when we're arguing we bring that up and it lightens the mood humor really helps. My husband and I were also long distance while dating and our engagement and I think it helped us learn to talk.

[@2listening1]

2:04 People DO say "bright spot" now.

[@nicolareay8460]

Aah bless him ollie was so confused when you said goodnight, lol 😂 🧡

[@utoobcandy]

Pharmacy apps can cut out some wait times /make the whole process so easy. I can't believe how much time I wasted resisting downloading the app lol

[@djlawlz4041]

Ah, the joys of being chronically ill when you get the GIANT pharmacy bags.

[@carlpalanzi1136]

Hi I love gardening, your garden looks beautiful. Did you do all by seeds?lol stay positive!

[@carlpalanzi1136]

Hi there I am nicole Carl is my husband in March it will be 45 years, and we still are in love a and happy.

[@kimmiekins]

sooo jealous!! I think I've said it before on one of your past videos... but Dunkin in MASS is so much better than out here in California.

[@joannepauley9622]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY WEEK MARY!I 🎂 (and the crowd Roars!). Great Q and A. ((Oliver))). 🎁🎁🎉🎈🎈

[@joannepauley9622]

Corny Joke alert! What is brown and sticky? A stick

[@kimberlyhayes6006]

My port gets like that too where it's hard to flush. Its so irritating.

[@libbygibson5612]

Your flowers look beautiful!

[@ThePumpkinparade]

Wow to the motorcycle in the back. Haha. You guys keep my day going.

[@vitasolano3272]

Loved your q&a 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕 love hearing about things . I didn’t know you guys had long distance relationship. Interesting .