A Practical Guide on Finding Inner Peace | Jack Kornfield | Knowledge Project Podcast 156

[@keitheddie5]

It is 4 43 in the morning. I am a n impatient 72 year old woman, still listening to this soothing man… what a peaceful wise mam from my generation.

[@MsSouthard1]

It’s 215 am here and this 72 yo woman listening to this ❤ koan and live in gratitude they are available to me in my sleep less ness

[@Tinyteacher1111]

I was doing the same thing in the middle of the night. I’m 69 (not quite!), and have recently been abused by my adult disabled son who is now in a psychiatric/rehab facility, thank God❣️🙏

[@carolgarrett1786]

I am similar to you in this aspect, being a 71 year old, myself. Also listening with great interest to Gabor and seeking answers and comfort. Bless you🙏

[@carolgarrett1786]

​@@Tinyteacher1111Wow. You sure have a lot to deal with. Praying for your protection and healing 🙏

[@Danielle-l3y]

​@@Tinyteacher1111Bless you 🙏 I am 72 years old on Tuesday and I still am working with one of the 2 brothers with autism, that I have been working with for 20 years. The youngest of the 2 has been out of the house for 2 years now. He became too violent to keep at home anymore. His family and I have been bruised and bitten and battered for the whole time. But he got 6ft plus tall and with lots of weight behind him. We could no longer manage it or him. He even bit off a piece of his dad's ear... His mom calls the hospital everyday to see how he is doing. It gives us all a heavy heart that he can't be home. But that is where he needs to be. Try not to feel bad that he is gone and it's okay to feel relief that you don't have to be afraid and abused anymore. It's the best thing for everyone involved. My prayers are with you. 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏🙏🙏

[@bibipersaud9018]

OMG! The story about Shay! Now I know why my teacher Mr Elliot used to take me home for lunch daily! His wife would put a plate at the table and serve me. So embarrassed shy worthless. I was mortified, hid everywhere and cry cause I could not understand kindness compassion etc. Coming from an abusive home I guess he must have sensed how sad & unhappy I was. Different times!!!! I was 8 and literally walked 7 miles to school daily but dreaded going home. I'm 74 yrs old retired RN and thought of his kindness ever day. So grateful for the angels that we meet in our journey.

[@briansteppacher4174]

Be awake and aware. YOU MIGHT NEVER KNOW WHEN YOU MEET AN ANGEL UNEXPECTEDLY.

[@Sparkle835]

"How you live depends on what seeds you water." Brilliant 🥰

[@dolly_llamas_tea]

My finger accidentally clicked this video and I’m so grateful it did. So many wonderful gems in this video. Thank you, I needed this more than you will ever know. Thank you!

[@firesign4297]

☺️ Always Remember...There are Truly Know ..."Accidents" ☺️🙏🏿 it was meant...for...You☺️🫂🙏🏿❤️

[@ambermariemalone]

Mine too!

[@susangreen3871]

Me too!

[@marciasinger]

No accidents, really -- life IS synchronous: predictably unpredictable. Are you studying 'law of attraction' yet? Miracles are natural blessings.

[@dondamond7151]

Truly helpful. In my own suffering and grief, allowing it and then directing metta toward myself is a gift from listening. I got exactly what I needed. Does anyone realize that these videos appear as pockets of consciousness, giving us what we need in this moment? Wow

[@mamikoeda6098]

Exactly, precisely

[@FlElvis]

Absolutely.

[@cindymcgee4500]

I do. It is helpful for right now. 😢

[@Sparkle835]

I so appreciate the gentle, calm voice of the interviewer. He is the perfect pairing for main course Jack Kornfield.

[@SantaCruzHappy1]

What a fabulous interview! Jack Kornfield was my introduction to Buddhism back in 2003. Both he and Tara Brach are my favorite insight meditation teachers. I love the presence of both Shane and Jack.... THANK YOU!

[@marymannis1656]

This man intones authenticity - he comes from a place of human experience, not theory. The Crux of the matter is that true suffering does confer a visceral wisdom that is essential for self awareness - which also seems to be the key to understanding the other - the more I understand myself the more I see myself everywhere, in everyone, and in every facet of life, beyond all we previously understood, and collapsing the boundaries between our experience of The sacred, and the profane. Reflecting upon Life is hard - and holy.

[@patriciaactis]

❤

[@melkydd7415]

You write beautifully

[@camilleespinas2898]

Nice job!

[@user-rx4bi1ic4z]

I listen to many people, such as Jack, in many YT videos and, despite my reservations about YT, for various reasons, i am so very grateful that these teachers are brought to us by wonderful folks like Shane. These vids are free (ok...some adverts), beautiful, thought-provoking snapshots, and I'm amazed at how many of these wonderful people are on our wee planet. At our highest, we humans are nothing short of sublime (IMHO). If we can learn to work with our shadow sides we can be even better. Big hugs to all of you xx

[@coal.sparks]

"Who you are is not your body. You rent it from Hertz." The humour that comes along with Jack's wisdom makes it so much more potent for me. :) Thank you for this interview.

[@ritamarozke]

Thank you youtube, to let me discover Jack Kornfield and some other people who effected my life deeply

[@nancyrussell6598]

WE CAN LEARN THIS. MR KORNFIELD WAS NOT BORN THIS WAY. IT'S NOT AUTOMATIC

[@elinannestad5320]

me too - I benefit from seeing and hearing Thich Nhat Hahn. And Theravada monks.

[@amberwiese364]

I agree... We have access to people we may have never had the opportunity to learn from, without the onset of the Internet and all these platforms. I have always loved to read, but now I'm able to basically listen to anything my heart desires, while I'm doing other things! It's doubled if not tripled or even quadrupled... The knowledge, wisdom and teachings of so many gifted and wonderful people from all walks of life and all parts of this world, that I'm able to learn and grow from! It's truly amazing and a gift I am thankful for every single day! ❤️☺️🌻

[@umeshg9107]

amen

[@tonyhill2318]

Me too!

[@LoesungFeuer5]

Love how the universe always lets me find the information i need right at the moment. "Im afraid of suffering and want to run away from it" is exactly the thought i had the last days. And now this person begins this video with "I hope you arent afraid to suffer" and damn i instantly knew what it was about

[@SusanMazzella-ne1zj]

When I've had quite enough ask invisible world for help I'm guided. Haven't thought of JK in ages. Environment affects/infects when I lived in San Francisco Bay area it's home. 20yrs of east coast CT in particular retraumatised me into a state of despair. Playing with new phone I got a couple weeks ago. Connection/communication acceptence

[@michelej1800]

You must have an Amazon Alexa like me….I swear it is listening to my thoughts! (I hope and prefer it be the Universe, God, loved ones who have move on, the angels….)

[@alexedgar6539]

I have read and reread every book of jack's I could find. A profound teacher who has changed my life. 🙏🙏🙏

[@neutralobserver7161]

"Man's troubles are rooted in extreme attention to senses, thoughts, and imagination. Attention should be focused internally to experience a quiet body and a calm mind." ~ Gautama Buddha

[@waterkingdavid]

I think I know this Alex Edgar do I not? 😊

[@sapofish]

There's so much peace in his voice! I profited greatly from listening to this! I've read most of his books but never heard his voice before. so much practical WISDOM in this talk!! Thank you!!

[@lspag7415]

Yes, just beautiful x

[@lisabeed6001]

I listened for 17 minutes, and kept thinking how much I love his voice. I then went to read comments, and I see yours 🥰

[@neutralobserver7161]

"Man's troubles are rooted in extreme attention to senses, thoughts, and imagination. Attention should be focused internally to experience a quiet body and a calm mind." ~ Gautama Buddha

[@ershwezinsuzan671]

Yes i love to listen his voice ❤

[@otg1433]

Even serial killers can have sweet voices and angelic smiles..peace in his voice..O' boy.....

[@ethanredd3342]

4:25 grateful for all the knowledge we get from KZbin about how to be with ourselves especially since most of us in America don’t receive any kind of knowledge in that category.

[@neutralobserver7161]

"Man's troubles are rooted in extreme attention to senses, thoughts, and imagination. Attention should be focused internally to experience a quiet body and a calm mind." ~ Gautama Buddha "Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it." ~ Gautama Buddha

[@ethanredd3342]

@@neutralobserver7161 thank you

[@yogalife365]

Naval Ravikant praised Farnam street and I had to check these blogs and videos which lead me here. This channel is my all time favorite for any interview that I wish to watch. Apart from that, there are time stamps if I wish to return and relisten. I get emails with BOOSTER SHOTS of wisdom.. This kind of service to humanity by these podcasters surely makes me feel that I am born in an era that is blesssssssssssed. Thank you. 🎉❤

[@janetpattison8474]

Awesome interview. A family member went to India, to join a Buddhist monastery. For over 40years I’ve chanted the old word for God, HU. My dreams changed immediately, and I’ve never looked back. The HU opened the doors to love, protection, past life recall, and much more. HU - God on YT. HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU for love. ❤❤❤❤❤ It’s the only reason we’re here.

[@jillhallisey8741]

HUU?? what is tht?

[@WinifredOdriscoll]

@@jillhallisey8741 primal sound like OM

[@yogaandceleste8328]

I’m so grateful to have stumbled upon this amazing listen. Thank You 🙏

[@lisabeed6001]

For me today too! 🙏🏻 Sheerly accidental but exactly what my soul was needing… for much too long now ❤

[@sharonjoan9997]

Ah yes soul nutrition😊

[@hanazakaria1642]

Am also grateful for the interviewer, putting his wonderful questions. His questions are very important. ❤ for both the great guest and interviewer.

[@susangreen3871]

Yes…what you all said!

[@ninarekhi]

Wow, that poem was so beautiful. This talk was therapeutic in itself. Thank you ❣️

[@Bee.in.]

I love Jack, I love the interviewer, I love you all ❤ I’m so grateful to have found this. I don’t know the interviewer, but like Jack said, you have a Presence so profound, it took me(us) on a beautiful journey- Thank you

[@jeanettenejadi1777]

❤

[@rsaug]

What a blessed kind soul he is! On my spiritual path & my goal is to become as composed and down to earth as he is.

[@camilleespinas2898]

Good luck 🤣

[@maryannestevens9703]

Great interview!❤️I agree with Jack. Shane is an amazing interviewer. He lets Jack speak, is vulnerable, genuine and asked excellent questions.❤️

[@wayofspinoza2471]

This is excellent, I am a teacher and student of Spinoza's and Gurdjieff's Philosophy. The importance of facing our anger and understanding our emotions leads to freedom.

[@_xiper]

my body is ready

[@wayofspinoza2471]

@@_xiper that's great, however, is your mind ready?

[@lisao6928]

Hmm - I would like to know more about that.

[@adamk8724]

Lack of inner peace was costly for me and my body last year. So I'm glad Jack shared his insights.

[@neutralobserver7161]

"Man's troubles are rooted in extreme attention to senses, thoughts, and imagination. Attention should be focused internally to experience a quiet body and a calm mind." ~ Gautama Buddha

[@BuBu-uz9qi]

Do you believe that they willingly to murder me whom supported them at Ukraine war because they want the Vatican Nation to dominate the whole world. Hey Zuckerberg, why don't you stop your business with Asia, Middle East, and Africa?? Go back to South America , North America or Vatican country do business with them? Don't steal our money and power up your God darn Holy Pope Francisco to us.. You have to answer with the public what is wrong that you suspending my Facebook account permanently . When I saw the Vatican country does not say sorry to us after they have done bad with Tibetan people . Or isn't it a future purpose for you, Vatican Nation and USA want to dominate the whole world??? Come on, say it. If you don't answer, please stop your business with us. If I'm is You, I will stop my business in Asia, Middle East, and Africa.

[@kellycolmey3742]

Many years ago, I did a spiritual, silent retreat with Jack Kornfield in Bari, Massachusetts, at the insight meditation center. It was wonderful.

[@marciestoddard730]

you are so fortunate!!! things fill up too fast now, or are mostly online. what a treasure you have!

[@tempesnyder6243]

His way of explaining what meditation should be doing for you, it is miraculous. Thank you so much for that. The interviewer also was magnificent at helping to clarify things for me. A wonderful video. I have come back to it a few times.

[@susanlindarice]

I agree

[@Historian212]

There’s no “should” about meditation. It doesn’t work for every person; and there are different types of meditation. There are specific situations in which meditation can be harmful - something which isn’t discussed enough among meditation teachers. Many people who have true PTSD can do worse if they do certain mindfulness meditation techniques. This is well-documented, btw. Meditation is something to try; it may or may not be helpful. There’s no “should.”

[@maggiemaybe100]

Hi Shane. Thank you so much for this video with Jack Kornfield; I'd heard his name but that's as far as it went. There is so much to learn here and I love that there are experiences used throughout to illustrate the teachings. I agree with Jack about what you bring to the interview and had been feeling it before Jack commented on it. I think one way of accepting compliments without becoming flustered and self conscious is to acknowledge that it's a unique divine gift put in you. I'm going to listen to this at least one more time.

[@neutralobserver7161]

"Man's troubles are rooted in extreme attention to senses, thoughts, and imagination. Attention should be focused internally to experience a quiet body and a calm mind." ~ Gautama Buddha "Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it." ~ Gautama Buddha

[@alma-ci5ki]

Deeply, deeply touching. Genuine. Those piles of stones and the way honor was restored.. Thank you so. ❤

[@elinannestad5320]

I liked the stones too.

[@neutralobserver7161]

"Man's troubles are rooted in extreme attention to senses, thoughts, and imagination. Attention should be focused internally to experience a quiet body and a calm mind." ~ Gautama Buddha

[@28105wsking]

I have a lot of these kids in my ESL classes. Its always good to see them ALL again the following September! Life is short and very scary when you believe that the way you feel is caused by other people, and does NOT come from your own self! They don't understand how they themselves function, how their own minds work. Be sure to teach this and give them chances to express and feel the love and gentleness and tenderness they have in their own hearts. So many of them have been so traumatized by war and brutality that they have just never known how that feels for themselves.

[@tavenisadiri5069]

Thank you with all my heart Mr. Jack Kornfield.

[@bibipersaud9018]

Thank u Jack! Thanks to the interviewer! So grateful I stumble on this. I learned so much!!!! I'm sending it to my son in Australia who is in deep grief with loss of his dog yesterday!!!!! I will listen to this again as I'm sure to learn something new.

[@FretnesButke]

Wow,what a guy! The story of the candles and rocks knocked me out.🕯️ When he talked about his driving habits,I couldn't help but think of an old George Carlin quote,"Did you ever notice how those that drive slower than you are idiots,and those who drive faster are maniacs?".

[@waterkingdavid]

George Carlin was surely a Bodhisattva!

[@privateperson5769]

WOW ...that Budhist teacher 5O years ago ...probably 1OOO's of years old and we are just learning these concepts now as Westerners. That opening statement is so profound, abt facing your suffering and it setting you free. TY

[@hankwang8324]

Yes. Opening sentence is ear catching.

[@vanessapetrea2490]

The Buddhist teachings have been around for thousands of years, and the western world has had knowledge of them easily for over 100 years. There’s so much to know in and of the world everyone won’t learn about the same things at the same times.

[@neutralobserver7161]

"Man's troubles are rooted in extreme attention to senses, thoughts, and imagination. Attention should be focused internally to experience a quiet body and a calm mind." ~ Gautama Buddha "Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it." ~ Gautama Buddha

[@TeaTellyWMaria]

@@neutralobserver7161 Those are fake quotes. Please don't do that.

[@monirehaboutalebi606]

Great lessons, Thank you dear host, love from Iran 🇮🇷🇮🇷🇮🇷

[@APT-n2i]

Gentlemen, what a profound discussion that touched on issues of today that I would say are experienced by every human being. Both of you were sincerely respectful of each other's input. You are both such beautiful souls who enriched my life - many thanks and much love.

[@guinevere4365]

Thank you so much Jack for the kindness and love you are pouring into our world. Your beautiful voice, words and energy are such a gift toward ending suffering. I discovered Ram Dass in 1980 and his voice, while totally different from yours, had an equally nourishing quality, embellished of course with his glorious storytelling and sense of humor. You both have made our dear Earth a better place. Thank you.❤

[@BuBu-uz9qi]

Do you believe that they willingly to murder me whom supported them at Ukraine war because they want the Vatican Nation to dominate the whole world. Hey Zuckerberg, why don't you stop your business with Asia, Middle East, and Africa?? Go back to South America , North America or Vatican country do business with them? Don't steal our money and power up your God darn Holy Pope Francisco to us.. You have to answer with the public what is wrong that you suspending my Facebook account permanently . When I saw the Vatican country does not say sorry to us after they have done bad with Tibetan people . Or isn't it a future purpose for you, Vatican Nation and USA want to dominate the whole world??? Come on, say it. If you don't answer, please stop your business with us. If I'm is You, I will stop my business in Asia, Middle East, and Africa.

[@om7854]

Somehow I realise that the seeds of what I need to know is there already in my life experience.... I've been waiting to hear this talk for so long & I heard its teaching many years ago but being young I didn't quite grasp its meaning. Now being much older every word spoken here means so much now. Being a 'mindful witness' is exactly what I need to be. And now 'practice & more practice' of loving compassion for others & self, & minding the watering of 'seeds'.

[@TomTom-df9ph]

Dear jack Cornfield. Oh that I could deeply absorb your wisdom and keep it with me always.

[@jamesk8s1]

p.s. liked subscribed and belled because Shane is a great interviewer, he actually listens deeply.....someone who listens, wow.....and asks very aware questions......

[@knbsd3876]

I agree with he commenters on how beautifully this interview was conducted. So natural, so relaxed, so edifying! You are definitely a pro🙏

[@Jessica-ih9xd]

This is so honest and authentic. What a gem

[@om7854]

This conversation means so much to me especially 'the two kinds of suffering' . Thank you both.

[@maryatvan]

Thank you, Jack. It all starts when we 'l' come into realizing the inner place of infinate vastness exists here, now with & within. It is at rest, and here iñ the abundance as...the living, loving womb of wonder. May grace guide us by this boundless Oneness. Thou Art the Kingdom. Mindful self compassion Already a temple is.

[@beatesubasinghe8229]

thank you for so many inspirations - like watching strong emotions from some distance in order to disentangle. Although I meditate for years and theoretically know all this, it gave me a real aha-experience. Now I can handle marital disputes and especcially silent treatments much better! Also I want to say, that your conversation is an excellent example of how people should communicate with each other!

[@neutralobserver7161]

"Man's troubles are rooted in extreme attention to senses, thoughts, and imagination. Attention should be focused internally to experience a quiet body and a calm mind." ~ Gautama Buddha

[@francesca333]

Beautiful podcast by a brilliant gentle soul with his wise words, love this man....thank you, and I enjoyed several of your questions....especially the one about the negative mind being automatic, which science says is true, that's my way and what a great conversation about it....

[@nopeIdontthinkso388]

The humble interviewer and the gracious guest at its finest, thank you, Namaste.

[@tkppodcast]

[@sungoddiss]

I'm reminded of a poem by Rumi that goes: This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

[@rmschindler144]

Perfect.

[@lisafiel8457]

So the knock at the door from the SS was a good thing? This doesn’t make sense

[@daniellegeorge8969]

This was such a beautiful conversation. Thank you for sharing it.

[@helenfountain9163]

Thanks!

[@reneecole6744]

❤❤❤ I completely LOVE this interview and the both of you blessed men sharing your time, making space for anyone inclined to listen to these peace bringing wisdoms. Deep gratitude for all and myself for resonating with every word and emotion expressed.. Thank you 😂❤

[@mapimami]

Very grateful to have clicked on this video. I really needed to hear you both speak. Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏 ❤

[@juliecrawford-smith8457]

This man just throws me every time . How can he be so amazing with so many different human situations . I am always in awe of every word he utters . Thanku for the interviewers great questions ….

[@margaretkeefe2567]

I have gradually turned away in recent years from the metaphysical but find myself turning back when I listen to Jack. I find hope and consoling help listening to him, for me and all of us . We are adrift in an amazing universe but some of us (Jack) know how to take the human heart and condition along on the amazing journey.

[@ElaineMooreone]

I watched this and simply the demeanor of both these moderators was calming,assuring and uplifting. I learned so much within I can use without.❤😊

[@caliblue2]

The point comes after you say you will not bequeath bitterness to your children you understand there will come a time when they are faced with the same and the experience is shared. Children have to experience for themselves to totally believe. But sometimes (I speak from experience) one of the children begins to treat you as what they’ve been told and that causes big division and heartache. So even from the middle way I think it’s okay to teach values that manifest in their eventual understanding. They will see as the behavior will not desist just because the ex has moved on to a new partner. Time will tell and that’s really the only thing they will innerstand✌️🕊️💜

[@tonyhill2318]

Listening to Jack's story, it occurred to me that i have this false belief that most people have had happy lives and don't experience the suffering and mental anguish that i have. It suddenly became clear to me that every single person has had great suffering in their lives, struggled with self doubt, had terrible fears. And knowing this i feel so much tenderness for everyone, for every living thing.

[@marisadallavalle393]

"Undeserving". Spot on. Most likely if you have been abused by parents this feeling comes up!

[@ToddSloanIAAN]

9:45 I'll try and work with this little gem here that I can expand my window.... Tolerate what sweeps in. Further Your Story Goes that you could really get to see beyond What feelings are coming and going. True beingness... that conscious awareness... The fruit we all desire from meditation practice.

[@inrspc777]

Beautiful conversation. I am thankful to have found your offering. Thank you.

[@mjcaw5790]

Beautiful man, love the messages and the wisdom he has to share.

[@cassylane120]

Thw world needs yr bravery and brilliance! You are respected and admired and this is a travesty of justice. Sending strength. Only a great soul chooses such a journey

[@tonybenson8303]

Thank you so much for this beautiful talk. Here's to the power of love in truth. So grateful. Namaste

[@eilishorourke589]

I am a mindfulness teacher. This is my first time listening to both Shane & Jack. This conversation is so lovely. Shane your questions are simple. Jack your reply is simple. Thank you

[@bravelefave5642]

Lots of wisdom in this conversation. Seems like slowing our thoughts down so we can pause our reactions to find a new way to respond makes the best sense to avoid going to war with ourselves. Thank you Shane and Jack!

[@alisvoice1111]

Thank you for the beautiful Amazing words, thoughts & stories to understanding the human condition and how to allow the spirit to be free to grow.🙏🌻💕

[@scarlettestanley4304]

That was a bluly beautiful conversation! Siriusly, it hit home for me...thank you! Lapis Lazuli, rocks! 🤘 (hahaha...all puns intended!) This episode put me in such a beautiful, happy AZURE mood... 💧🌊🩵💙 True Blue Love to you!

[@amandadetour4365]

Culturally women have been trained to absorb losses and therefore take this high road in divorce. We get our angel wings if we stayed married to such a man and we get our angel wings when we absorb all the losses and speak no ill when we leave. However, ten years since divorce - while I am the spiritual sage because I have elevated myself in my poverty (not! lol), this is not something that has been fair or reasonable for my children. If I could go back I would get a great lawyer and be able to afford excellent therapy for me and my children. I have tremendous guilt in that my children have all been hurt and bewildered by their father. I question that I wished I had protected them with some anecdotal warning labels. I take no satisfaction in that they prefer mom in a cardboard box over dad in a mansion. I really don’t. If I could go back I would want safety and security for those children.

[@lousialb8962]

Thank you for shining a light on these dysfunctional cultural attitudes and the harm they do to women, children, and society. I also looked at the example Kornfield gave. While I can see that there would be no point to stooping to the husband's level of making up vindictive lies, I do wonder if it isn't an abdication of responsibility not to tell the children the truth about him (his affairs, his lies, his greed). How else can the children understand what has happened, why, or that it's wrong? When we don't speak of these things we condemn our children to having whatever childish notion their capable of formulating getting frozen in the unconscious, where it will likely drive them into the same unhealthy pattern. Looked at another way, it's not the mother who is responsible for bitterness the children may feel towards their father; he brought that on himself. To protect him from the consequences of his choices and actions is to deny him the discomfort it would cause, which is designed to function as a teacher. In short, it rewards and enables unloving behaviour. True maturity includes accountability. The "nice" and "emotional caretaker" roles (typically assigned to women) go too far and cease being productive when they don't require others to grow up too. When we allow spouses and co-parents to behave like spoiled, entitled children, we participate in keeping them that way, to the detriment of the actual children. Regarding Kornfield's example, the MORE living choice for that woman, her children, and her ex-husband (though he is unlikely to perceive it as such) is to tell the unembellished truth, not from victimhood, but from strength. She can honestly say, "Everyone deserves a wise, kind, attentive, and devoted father. It's a terribly painful disappointment that your father is incapable of that. I saw how that was hurting all of us, and I did what I could to keep us safe. We can get through this together." That teaches her children boundaries, self respect, resilience, and gives them a sense of safety and security beyond material possessions. Those are better legacies than the lie that Dad's a great guy.

[@Emscom]

Such a thought out response. Thanks for taking the time. Humbling 🙏

[@stregalilith]

Agree with most all of it with hope the world is changing and the families we build now will be much fairer to women and children but don’t give up hope your children are smart and will eventually see exactly who their father is. Mine did.

[@sallyfox7856]

I’m with Amanda when she makes her comment. My husband scapegoated me when we split up completely blaming me for what happened also for causing his breakdown which, in the eyes of everyone seems to have excused the violence he did to both me and his children, both physically and emotionally. My own family didn’t speak to me for months. I decided to take the highroad and not go after his money, and not badmouth him to our children, even though one of our 3 children was disabled. I suppose I couldn’t comprehend that he would completely neglect his own children, but he did. We lived in poverty while he lived in a mansion, had a cottage on a lake etc. He spent years telling his children, complete, lies and stories about me, and it has made my relationship with my kids very difficult. Their dad died a multi millionaire but he left absolutely nothing to his own children, not even his disabled son, who would have benefited from not solely being in government care. His second wife has a lot to answer for too so it’s not solely about men. Was I taking the high road or just plain delusional and stupid! In other words, I don’t think we should idealize someone who takes the high road because it can lead to a lot of pain and suffering for others.

[@sallyfox7856]

Two of my kids kind of see the truth now but that doesn’t stop the hurt they have inside and my other son still idealizes his dad and is in danger of becoming him too! I see the same behaviors and patterns in all of them truth be told!

[@boke5068]

Ooh how wonderful, you are one of my favourite teacher in Insight Timer, it's great to see you here.thank you for this interview.

[@bertibear1300]

Thanks Jack.These days we don’t need to go to any monastery , you all beat the path to doing it.Just watch what comes up with awareness and the habits and conditioning will fade.I am infinite awareness behind all the stories ,this vast space is what we are. The conditioning takes some time to work through but you can be the infinite awareness whilst these invitations come up and you can just refuse them.

[@Ginaginger9898]

Hi, Shane and Jack, I don’t know how and why tuned into your podcast. Ten minutes into listening to both of you I settled down, and listened till the end. Thank you both, you certainly made my day. Shane , I am starting my podcast, and wondering if you would interview me. Love how you choose your questions. Thank you both for all you do for humanity. You are way showers

[@leighterry943]

I am at the very beginning of this video, and thank you for the forward about suffering because it lured me in, and it is wisdom of the ages, but I felt compelled to thank, dear, Mr. Kornfield for his brilliance and wisdom that has only added to my Searching for spiritual Enlightenment and peace while waiting for Godot! Bless you, dear Sir, and I will certainly be following you and your work, and I cannot thank you enough for how it will change my life. Even in the opening sentences about suffering, you nailed my sentiments exactly, and I struggled to articulate. I know suffering for 34 years, of my 50 years, and it has been one catastrophic illness after another, until I sought spiritual enlightenment and God, and I was healed and transformed, though my journey is not finished, at least I know there is hope through spiritual enlightenment, and it truly does work and heal you, mind, body, and soul.🥰🌟🎁🙏🥰💜

[@jayarajvish]

By far the one of the best of Shanes podcast.

[@freyasmith9588]

Thank Yous; just listening in a bit here and found a friend. As a "Buddhist" over here in the Willamette Valley born in Berkeley/ Raised within Massachusetts I can relate to these insights, personal translations and Learnings as advice and methodologies of meaning. This stuff seems so crucial for these times of displacements; planes, trains, automobiles, records, videos, lights with changing families, cultures and spaces.

[@TS-zz1vm]

“YOUS”??????

[@jennifergalberth1240]

I lived in Berkeley for over 16yrs. Ashby FLEA MARKET in Berkeley was my world and I was in the drum circle there. I made friends with a main drummer and fell in love with him and his beautiful music. He is on the other side now. A BLACK MAN WAS A Buddha and they didn't see it. I DID. I moved away due to displacement and gentrification and racism, GREED, and corrupt officials. I suffered and grieve but I was put back on the path. Berkeley CA I won't forget.

[@Sippamanicola]

I could listen all day ❤ This is such an inspiring and valuable discussion.

[@nancytoulouse6973]

Wow! Do you mean to tell us that we as humans have the capacity to experience as many as 500 different emotions?!😮 We would never had known that - thank you for sharing that!

[@marciasinger]

Bless you --and Universe of us all --for your opening words: speaking of Being with Suffering, wholly, Listening, Learning, allowing the Heart be cracked open more fully, rather than running in fear from the pain... in countless ways.... The essence of freeing ourSelves to be alive and well, being Well Being

[@mariusbergseth219]

Beautiful conversation. Thank you for the wisdom Jack and Shane!

[@dagtooff5949]

Abstention from all evils, Cultivation of the wholesome, Purification of the heart, This is the messege of the Buddha.

[@therealgeorgieporgie]

Thanks!

[@tkppodcast]

Thank for listening!

[@eduardopicasso6559]

Fabulous Recently i did a retirement of vipassana meditation of ten days I total agree with this video, a skill so important to learn for living with more peace Thanks

[@rainbow_flo]

I've listened to this video maybe 3-4 times now. I thank you for this wisdom. This beautiful recipe can cleanse the soul daily as healing isn't a one time event it is continuous like our spirit.🙏🏽

[@rogerinkeywest]

😂😂😂 I thought I was a bit crazy for doing that myself, but....❤❤❤

[@rainbow_flo]

@@rogerinkeywest I listen to a lot of spiritual teachers, but his words hit differently.. ❤

[@rogerinkeywest]

@@rainbow_flo Glad you are getting something, and maybe millions more in the future, right?

[@elmarwolters2751]

Also, if we develop the inner observer , it gives us the pause to decide , now we may want to be in this world .

[@jeanniecarter1]

I feel that spaciousness in the interviewer too. I love this talk.

[@InnerShiftAffirmations]

Excellent interview! Thank you for creating and sharing ❤

[@vivekdeshpande4619]

Thank you sir. Thank you so much. This was so peaceful and made me feel so good 😊

[@narikarapetyan1331]

Thank you, flooded with light coming from this talk...

[@chriskrause2528]

What a beautiful enlightening uplifting and gentle talk - showers if thanks to both of you. So true what Jack so beautifully said about the moderator. I've seldom heard and felt a better synergy in a dialogue, and it really takes two to create that. Waves of love to both of you 🌊

[@terrybruno7404]

I love this!❤ this is so beautiful! I’m in the hospital with Covid & This so helps! I had ur cassettes from a long time ago! Appreciate This ✨💯✨

[@ktex4873]

Blessings and good energy from a KZbin stranger in Texas that you have a full recovery and and also wonderful caregivers during your stay. Both of my senior parents were in the hospital and ICU for 7 week and a 5 week stay last year. I understand how hospital stays can be. Hope you are well enough to get home soon. ❤

[@arthurlockwood8735]

Good luck hope you get better soon 🇬🇧❤️🙏

[@shirdisaibabagermany]

Thank You, beautiful to hear you, how you transformed to inner silence. We can learn a lot from despair, inner and outer war. LOVE is

[@kirstenrejmers9517]

I Got to Think about, what The child with The ceramics Bowl is listening to this so fine presence between you two so mindful people. I am deeply moved by your time together. I am grateful deep in My heart 🥰

[@doresnalwanga5499]

❤I admire your dedication to your work and your sense of humor

[@tahiraabbasi3593]

True powerful stuff. Thank you for for all the hard work that is being done . Thank you for sharing. 🙏😊🙏

[@Lori10721]

Thank You so much for your beautiful posts and all your inset as a monk. I really appreciate you so much.

[@ewelinak1575]

My dog is 15 years old and looks like 15 months old. She is eating 2x a day with 19 hours fasting. Never got a "human food ". It is really working:)

[@davida1606]

At some point, we just stop being so sensitive. We get fed up with ourselves, always feeling sorry for ourselves or fearful about things that might not even be true or might not even happen. When we think like a small person we live and experience the life of a small person. Somewhere in the past, we learned by example or you were talked down to think and be small. It might be to satisfy another person's ego or authoritative abuse. Once we leave that situation, we begin to realize our ability to think and be a bigger person. To not be a victim of circumstances or react like a scary cat. You'll know this is you if you tend to be extra kind to strangers or when around family members. You can be a full grown adult and still make yourself small around certain people.

[@charliebrannigan1275]

Such wonderful, life -enhancing wisdom. Thanks so much 🙏🦋🌱❤️

[@BH195829]

Awesome interview - a whole new apprentice for this great soul. 🙏💕😊

[@TOGAB]

You ALL are recognized and honored as the eternal, you are the most precious of the Creator, the I Am, and that which has always been and will always be. Our uniqueness is what makes us even more precious. The former vengeful hard drinking biker turned benevolent being, the recently divorced and downtrodden soccer mom now soaring like an eagle, our painful pasts fast becoming distant memories to be included in the Book of Records. I'm proud of you, I know what it took for you to get here, because I am you.

[@jackiepetrosky4611]

I am feeling under the weather and this is reviewing and pulling together mindfulness🙏 sessions, excellent.

[@QiqoQi]

It was really awesome. I kept saying to myself the gentleman doing the interview was really good and then you mention that I was so pleased you told him

[@flaviamarchesoni1284]

Great to hear this light ❤ made my day