We Inherited $7,200,000; What Do We Do?

[@afjm7499]

$7M even just earning 5% a year is $350k every single year. This dude needs to wake up and face their new reality. Let your wife “spoil” herself a little with some nicer flooring in the house lol come on man

[@batman6540]

Where do you get 5% a year? With what?

[@aaroncook5928]

​@batman6540 average returns are more than 5%, though there are dividend stocks that pay this. Hell current HSAs pay this right now. Even 3% dividend stocks would pay over 200k a year not including your day job.

[@Legendary865]

@@batman6540 you’re kidding right? Even a savings account gives you about 5% these days

[@firefly9838]

Some people just cant f*cking lose

[@TooThPasTe07]

theres an easy fix to this solution. they should put their money is a savings account to make 360k a year, and using the savings you can try making a small business just for the fuck of it. thats what i would cus i think id get bored doin no job

[@raphymartinez]

My dude is upset that he's losing the thing that he felt gave him control over the relationship. George is on point

[@cjlive5182]

Geez money drops in his lap and still has problems with it. What a dope.

[@lifestream4191]

The husband already built up a million dollars while she has been a home maker. He went from provider-protector, to insignificant. It's a real problem, unless you're an adrift loser.

[@Ap_twsh]

Yeah if you’re smart enough you can foresee once she gains total control over what they do cause she has the money she will see him as less and divorce. It’s not just him he knows what’s coming.

[@atombomb31458]

that could be it sir

[@rod1147]

It's not about control, a man just wants to feel appreciated for his hard work a man wants to feel needed, it's hard if she's a multi millionaire... I'd dump her

[@JohnnyBfromPeoria]

Don't put laminate floors in your new house.

[@d_all_in]

Having 8 million and cheaping out on your new construction is actual insanity

[@unbothered6357]

What did laminate floors do?

[@Cloth_Gloves]

​@@unbothered6357 bubble at the slightest hint of water

[@kbanghart]

​@@Cloth_GlovesI got waterproof vinyl. Seems decent.

[@kathys1285]

I’d tile the whole house

[@dannywilson850]

If you are worried about 8 million dollars not being enough to retire you really need do a self assessment.

[@chucktalor716]

@@dannywilson850 dude has emotional issues

[@Ap_twsh]

Nothing to do with that. She’s basically in control now and you can hear it.

[@wolfmantroy6601]

When hyper-inflation hits the USA it won't even buy a car.

[@KentPetersonmoney]

@@chucktalor716 He dose'nt know a blessing when he has it.

[@forceuser609]

8 million at 35 and 65 is a big difference

[@bradycone]

This marriage is going to be rough. Like Dave has said, getting lots of money just reveals more of what is going on inside of you. This dysfunction was already there, and now it's just being revealed at a massive scale.

[@chucktalor716]

We see it here clearly

[@mikejezek5214]

Nah, it's the fact he's now obsolete in the relationship. Women don't respect men of lower status, who don't have a use. He has no use now. It's female nature. They always want a man that's higher status than them.

[@Trial_Junkie]

Step 1 - Find this guy the best therapist money can buy.

[@katiewollan2]

Yes, that’s Jesus.

[@katiewollan2]

But you can’t buy Him 😊

[@rvog6584]

is John takin new patients? 🙂

[@nicolasbenson009]

My aunt passed and I inherited some of her portfolio and cash savings, I’m 31 with about 400k cash in savings and as usual everybody’s preaching invest, so what stocks are a good long term buy, only major purchase I intend to make is buying a home in 5years from my returns

[@JohnSmith060]

Lucky you, I’d buy a lot of tech stocks and Dividend portfolios with that.

[@BellamyGriffin19]

Don’t come to KZbin looking for KZbin advise, instead contact a fiduciary for proper guidance.

[@HectorWhitney]

Same, I just use KZbin for research purposes, I run all my major investment through an investment adviser, the market is just too unstable to handle things on your own.

[@ChristianKelv]

How do I reach out to a financial advisor, my portfolio has been struggling since 2022 and I’ve been holding on by the skin of my teeth.

[@HectorWhitney]

There are a handful of experts in the field. I've experimented with a few over the past years, but I've stuck with ‘’ Melissa Terri Swayne” for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look-her up.

[@Nothank1997]

What a legacy! He truly cared and loved his family to leave his family that money. Legacy truly is a life well accomplished. Well done sir!!

[@richardkoontz831]

Legacy is not in the number of zeros you leave, it’s not leaving it to zeros

[@ElKamarAchems]

Si this woman can’t even enjoy the money that HER father left her because her husband can’t grow balls and is scared like a little child. Please! Poor woman, rich as hell but poor in her own household. Bless you, hope you’ll find a way to enjoy this peace of mind and be generous!

[@hotdogs5265]

I would tell no one. But there would be signs. Like a 5 year old car instead of my 20 year old one.

[@barbiewhippin22]

So real

[@nathand.9969]

I am reminded of something Dave said once. "Money is just a magnifier for what's already there, if you're stupid you'll be stupid on steroids, if you're generous you'll be generous on steroids" (Or something like that). Guy has some underlying issue that needs to be dealt with so he can be at peace about this money and his future. They both probably also need to buy brand new cars, and do some fun stuff with this money.

[@liftman3334]

This mindset is more stressful than living broke. Had a great friend who ended her marriage after like 8 years her husband was a miserable person.

[@enricopallazzo3244]

Step one:tell the entire country.

[@joe1192]

😅

[@keithmawodzwa]

😂😂😂

[@Bbcta3]

And brag about it 😅

[@Earstolisten]

Step none 😂

[@reginadavis1028]

😂 She hasn't told her name so they're still safe.

[@shazz2162]

Take your money & run girl. You can have a great life & not stress over him

[@laurao8099]

The analogy George gave by saying... he built a sandcastle and you came in with a huge wave and washed away and now there's a mansion... was so good

[@rgbrown90]

My grandma was fortunate to inherit a good sum of money from her stepmother's family years ago and she and my grandpa invested it wisely and we're both very frugal, had five kids and lived and worked, not sure of the dollar amount their estate came to but it was a blessing and a excellent lesson in saving

[@JudePi-jx7yo]

If the goal is not to enjoy life sure.

[@rgbrown90]

@@JudePi-jx7yo ehh I think they had pretty good lives, both died in the comfort of their family and their own beds 88 and 95 years

[@bigcatdaddy7573]

It’s a whole lot scarier when you have no money. If it scares them that much, give it to me!

[@zeal4god402]

Wow, thats a HUGE problem if your STILL stressed financially with over 8 milllion in total in your possession. 8 million! Not 8 hundred Well done to her father for leaving an abundant of wealth to his daughter before passing away! Amen!

[@bhollingsworth]

7.2 million would be easy. Work and do what you want... retire whenever you want.... enjoy life.

[@gailhoover9263]

But still be mindful of your spending. It's 7 million, not billion. Lottery winners go broke every day.

[@bhollingsworth]

@@gailhoover9263 of course but as the guys explained if you did nothing with your money besides foolishly let it sit in a savings account, you're earning $350,000 on the principal. It would be so easy to live on 7.2 conservatively invested and live off the interest.

[@EyeNoMrGREEN]

@@gailhoover9263 Yeah of course but lottery winners are usually people who are terrible with money. Unless you literally went out gambling all of that money away there is no way you could run out of money with $7 million in investment accounts invested in safe investments unless the entire economy collapsed. That plus their million they saved on their own they could take out $250K a year and not even touch the principal. You'd have to be ridiculously irresponsible to mess this up and people who saved up a mil on their own are almost surely not. They could EASILY and I mean EASILY retire anywhere in the country and live comfortably. They could retire somewhere with a low cost of living and live like freaking royalty and not even touch the principal.

[@dog7881]

@@gailhoover9263That’s true but people that had the ability and discipline to get $1 million in net worth at a pretty young age are probably not going to go broke with this money

[@thebarbieinvestor5428]

lol that’s not legally his money. It’s her inheritance not communal money. We can start there.

[@michellefitz4287]

I had the same thought- this is her sole and separate property until she co-mingles it. Very interesting and sad to see this being a hardship for them

[@brianprobert3090]

The inheritance is hers UNLESS it's already been put into a joint investment account. That is an incredibly important decision that people often make without much thought. Putting your spouse's name on the account effectively gives them half ownership payable if you divorce.

[@tdaveniii]

She could divorce him tomorrow, keep the $7M, demand half of the assets they accumulated during marriage, and, just for laughs, be entitled to alimony and spousal support.

[@beckyg361]

Make sure you keep this money your sole and separate property. He is controlling. He used to be able to control you and used money goals and work to keep you busy. Now YOU are free. You could have absolute independence from him if you want and he is spinning over that possibility. My father was very similar to this. While I am ultimately grateful for his frugal efforts, I often thought he loved his money more than any of us. If I had to guess, I’d say in his mind, it’s a rope that binds you together. The rope has been severed. If he isn’t thinking rationally seek medical intervention. I didn’t catch how old you are, but early onset dementia is real. Wish I didn’t experience the brunt of it, but it made everything else 10x worse for my dad’s fixation on money. Your situation sounds very similar to mine. (Except the 7M part 😂)

[@brianprobert3090]

@@tdaveniii She could ask for anything but I doubt you'll find many judges who would award it based solely on the income generated by the investments being a lot more than he makes. Also, it varies by state, but they can also "consider" the inheritance when dividing assets to make it NOT work out to 50/50 on marital assets. I just went through this. It should be mandatory to learn this stuff BEFORE marriage instead of when you're heading to divorce court.

[@oshkoshbegone]

My dad is like this, its from the way you grow up mixed with a very anxious/stressful personality. People like this are very irrational, its like a massive mental block. Also they are very controlling people. Hard to get this person to change.

[@michellefitz4287]

Good insight. Thanks for sharing. Very tough.

[@beckyg361]

Same experience and dementia brought it to a whole new level.

[@jeanlucbergman479]

My dad was an orphan, came from nothing and he did have this mindset for years even after fully paying off the mortgage on a 2.5m USD house. Eventually he came around and started loosening up though. There is a shock aspect to this story, and a shift of narrative that people have to go through mentally whether quick or slowly and my guess is eventually he will deal with it. Its a good problem to have ultimately!

[@buckybarnes3803]

I was so caught up in my own financial bubble until I started listening to Ramsey, and realizing all of the amazing and crazy financial stories out there, like this one, I'm still surprised!

[@bcjammer87]

I understand why he’d feel that way but don’t think all men are wired the same. If my wife got handed $7M I’d quit my job tomorrow and enjoy life.

[@dabiz4272]

💯! 😄

[@ScottSullivanTV]

Absolutely! I think I would find some “work” to do to give my days some purpose.

[@naaanin4886]

😂

[@cutehumor]

Sugamama time!! 😂😂

[@chucktalor716]

And u probably let her buy floors lol this dude is about to get divorced cus of his emotional issues

[@ConnieBrown-gu6bb]

Inheritance is not community property. She needs to keep it separate from their money as a married couple. He has no say in how she spends her inheritance.

[@terpenator93]

How convenient for the woman lmao

[@bunacat1]

It becomes community property once it is co-mingled with joint money. So, for this lady, it is already too late. She has already combined it in financial accounts and the new house. The husbands need for therapy is high.

[@suen5006]

But if you have a good marriage, you share it together, it's not a problem. This is why so much money could ruin their relationship. He's got some ultra miserly issues.

[@BigMichael78]

That's an antagonistic way to view marriage.

[@mrsterious5845]

​@@terpenator93 Same result if the husband had inherited the 7 million. It's about law, not sex.

[@JWH808]

I know a few people that are so tight with their money, that I cannot imagine how they are ever going to spend it, or enjoy it, without going crazy.

[@stevenevangelist5221]

Asked a friend who inherited millions. Whats it like being a multi millionaire? His reply. Money aint everything. Asked meaning? He said money just pays the bills. Will never forget that

[@tomw485]

I’m not sure how useful that advice was. He is correct “money ain’t everything” but it is something. Having millions does change your life and your mindset somewhat. Once you have enough money to pretty much do whatever you want in life it’s both freeing and scary at the same time. Before you mostly worked to provide for your family. That was your purpose. With several million to your name your family is completely provided for. You work for a completely different reason now. You live with a different purpose and it can be very daunting to figure out what that is.

[@Beginningtopeak]

The dude has done the hard thing. He's done leg day 6 days a week, something regular people would never do and it isn't even advised. It is time to hit those glamour muscles baby. Hit the bicep curls, hit the triceps extensions, bench press for God sake! He has caused the family to scrimp and save, something regular people do not do, to the detriment and jeopardization of his relationships. Time to enjoy it.

[@tylercampbell6058]

Curls for the girls as my football coach would say when making fun of us.

[@privacyplease1556]

He’s not anxious. He resents her. He’s been working hard to save a million dollars and his wife, who stays at home, just got $7 million out of thin air doing nothing at all.

[@waynepimentel1680]

I hit the lottery and lost a friend for that exact reason. I mentioned my tax hit to him and got told he didn’t care, you didn’t earn it, and I was pissing him off. Haven’t spoken to him since tax time and saw the true person he is.

[@jesuslovesyou916]

​@waynepimentel1680 I'm glad he exposed himself, so you cut ties with that friendship.

[@enjoystraveling]

I think if a wife stays at home, it’s not just doing nothing. If they’re a good wife, it’s cleaning up the house. It’s cooking meals for the husband when he arrives home, if they have children. It’s taking care of all the children and babies and all the stuff that entails, instead of always visiting with friends or something fun they’re changing diapers, feeding children that don’t always want to eat what you want feed them. Not from personal experience. It’s just what I have seen. Of course, well off people could hire a nanny for the children, maid for the cleaning, etc. but the wife still has to decide who she’s going to hire make sure they can do their job and still probably has some jobs to do such as pick up the children, etc. etc. and most people aren’t well enough off to hire all those people.

[@enjoystraveling]

Also, if the wife stays home to take care of the children the husband and the house, if the husband suddenly dies or divorces her, and she stayed home all those years then she has not improved her skills for the job market nor her education.

[@GJH3735]

She’s in an abusive relationship and doesn’t know it. He’s trying to control her with the way he acts.

[@nahoooli]

She really is, she cant even spend her own inheritance without him micromanaging and throwing a tantrum. He needs to learn where his rights as a provider begin and end when it comes to spending money.

[@GrappLr]

What he fails to analyze is that they're adding value to the house with what she's asking. It's not like she wants to buy a depreciating asset. She's not asking to spend 100k on a vacation. It's 60k on something that'll probably add more than 60k to the value of the house, if they ever decide to sell. This is not "wasting" money.

[@carguyeyedoc]

It's not rocket science, pay off all your debts, then buy VTI or VOO and let it ride. You can either keep working if it makes you happy, or live off the interest. Either way, you're set for life now. Congrats

[@veteranredbeard6222]

Set aside 6 mil, then use 1 mil for things you ABSOLUTELY need. Dont lend money out. Double and triple vet your advisers. Diversify!

[@rezlogan4787]

It’s underestimated just how huge of a stressor and massive disruption a giant inheritance can be. It can wreak havoc in a marriage when a man loses his role as provider overnight. At that point, the man needs to find brand new sources of pride and the woman needs to carefully reexamine the virtues of her husband, because even if he has been a solid responsible provider, he is no longer needed for that role ever again.

[@jacklaker1939]

And that’s why the whole idea of traditional gender roles is bs. For a relationship to thrive both people need to be equal.

[@danieljohnson4418]

Imagine being "scared" of the consequences of inheriting $7 million. Give me a break.

[@problematicpolarbear6065]

You clearly lack the mental capability to fully understand what that does to ones life. You are one google search away from getting an impression what it means to be "rich" overnight and I find it hard to believe that you are that level of ignorant to never even have heard about that. Your comment is clearly a very lame attempt of trolling and ragebait farming.

[@brianbird3756]

It's being scared of losing her and her taking the money with her.

[@kristinfrancis]

I’d love to be “scared” by $7 mil. Lol

[@mathematician1234]

The guy has issues. With some good advice/help he can sort it out, relax, and smell the roses.

[@melanieb2132]

This IS a real issue. Their entire relationship was him in the drivers seat with the money. It gave him authority.. now he feels emasculated. He needs therapy

[@lifestream4191]

Nope, it's a primal thing. When my maternal grandparents passed away, my dad would not touch any of the money or the vehicles left behind. The man is hard-wired to be the provider and protector, even if he's not dominant. When enough money comes to the woman, she has lost any dependence on the man, the man inherently feels like he is no longer needed.

[@retsubkrod]

You don't love someone out of need it's out of want

[@mrb152]

They must not be great in bed.

[@susanlovesjava4961]

Not using money is not protecting or providing.

[@sadbug]

@sorryyourgirllostduuude

[@LouisianaSpey]

My In-laws are the same. Father Inlaws parents passed away a few years ago. They wont spend a dime, well father inlaw want, mother in law would have blown through it already, lol. But me, my wife and brother, and his wife constantly tell them to spend it. Go travel, update your home, buy a new boat, etc. They say, we want to hand it down, We don't want it, your parents passed it to yall, not us. Father in law is TIGHT. Side not, this is their second inheritance.😅😅😅

[@markg999]

Glad I dodged that bullet. My wife will not be inheriting 7 million.

[@carminedesanto6746]

Valid passport,good lawyer,good tax accountant.

[@lionheart93]

good marriage counselor like pastor>

[@carminedesanto6746]

@@lionheart93 Yes..and at the end they said ..your marriage is over not that you’re separated..that now without financial burden..you can have a new life together going forward..and yup,a 5 percent growth is $350k ..so you have an opportunity to not only take care of yourselves and family but leave a legacy for your descendants.

[@tylercampbell6058]

@@carminedesanto6746but if they spend the entire $350k of interest every year the principal amount will not grow and keep up with inflation. That $350k per year will only have the purchasing power of $175k per year in 20 years or so. I would invest the money in a 70/30 stock index fund to bond fund portfolio and withdrawal 2% per year which would allow the principal to continue growing substantially. 2% of 8 million is still 160k per year and you are only paying capital gains on income over $94k per year as a couple and at 15%. So their total tax burden should only be about 10k on that 160k netting them 150k per year to spend. Of course if they wanted to buy the house in cash and some new cars etc right off they could buy then it would reduce the annual amount they pay themselves by a little bit.

[@someonesomewhere1385]

um... honey its YOUR inheritance... get the tiles ; get the countertops !

[@dabiz4272]

Wrong. That's THEIR inheritance

[@Mc.flyyy11]

Exactly

[@jimmymcgill6778]

@@dabiz4272 Wrong.

[@allisonautrey2136]

​@@dabiz4272 No, it's hers. He didn't inherit anything.

[@black_tech_owner]

This is EXACTLY why men shouldn’t get married, I hope some men see this 😅

[@Johnny-se8hk]

In the 50's my late dad worked a modest job, mom was a housewife, and they lived a nice lifestyle including owning a home. Nowadays both I and my partner works and can barely afford to make ends meet. Luckily, I've just received an inheritance of $500,000 and concerned how to use money I didn’t work for. Should I pay mortgage since I’m still working, or do I invest in stocks rather than just staying 100% cash?

[@KaitlynDeve]

You should do a mix of both. Seek the help of a financial advisor and a real estate broker. Use $100k to get yourself a decent rental property, may need a mortgage but keep the cost of the property low, and put the rest into stocks.

[@iam_maryanne]

Well agreed, investing with the help of an advisor did the trick for me in less than 5 years, retired with couple millions before 55. I worked hard everyday as a teacher for 32 years, and my salary was over 100k annually, enough to get me fully invested.

[@J.woltz48]

@@iam_maryanne bravo! retired in my 40s after inheriting money from a childless relative, traveled overseas and found a girl almost my age, happily married but only issue is how to grow and preserve our wealth... think your advisor can be of help?

[@iam_maryanne]

Can't divulge much here, I take guidance from a Pennsylvania-based advisor 'Karen Lynne Chess' and most likely, the internet is where to find her basic info, simply do your research.

[@Mary-Flint]

glad to have stumbled upon this, curiously inputted Karen Lynne Chess on the web, easily spotted her consulting page and was able to schedule a call session. Ive seen commentary about advisers but not this phenomenal

[@Lon1001]

Probably some resentment, scrimped and saved for years, lived like no one else and all of a sudden it was all for nothing since his hard work really doesn't amount to anything significant compared to this giant sum of cash that just fell from the sky. Like what was the point of that diligence when he can no longer take pride in that accomplishment?

[@JudePi-jx7yo]

Interesting take. There is a real danger in over saving for sure. The dad is the villain here. He clearly wasted his life scriming and saving. Unless it was $10k in 2010 Nvidia stock or something. He never told his daugther or let her enjoy the money when he was alive to see it. Imagine a family cruise with the baby. Or a once in a lifetime honeymoon in Bali etc. Instead like her husband he squirreled it all away. Almost everyone who is a natural saver ends up not enjoying the fruits of their labor. Maybe the tempoarily converted by Ramsay advice are the luckiest ones though I doubt they revert either.

[@MichaelAnderson-wk1no]

The point of the diligence was that it taught him the proper character to now be able to manage a sum of money like this responsibly. However, it sounds like for whatever reason he is not emotionally able to understand that.

[@enjoystraveling]

@@JudePi-jx7yo yeah seems like the dad and the husband are cut from the same cloth. It’s good to responsibly save some and invest, but it’s also wise to enjoy some of it or put it into things she really could use.

[@DuhIdiotMoney]

I'm surprised they didn't digress for a minute to ask what Dad did so very right that he was able to pass down $7M, cuz homeboy was on the ball!

[@johnnyb33good21]

Owning a business and income producing real estate

[@Aristaifly]

yeah, especially when his own daughter didn't have an idea she will inherit 7M

[@KnowledgeIsComfort]

@@Aristaiflyoh so it was her dad?

[@mathematician1234]

Good point. I would have liked to know that too. I suspect, however, given that the daughter was surprised to the upside by a factor of two, Dad was likely just a working stiff who socked away money each month for 50 years and lived relatively modestly. The money grew and grew and he kept living modestly. Real estate in that part of the country is worth a pretty penny too. Maybe he owned some land with an ocean view.

[@ceciliaruns72]

You need a post nup, it’s your money. Budget it the way you want it.

[@retsubkrod]

That's a way to get a divorce. Also inherited money isn't a martial asset so she'd keep it anyway

[@cutehumor]

Yeah I would leave her too if she tried the post nup crap. I quit my job and enjoy sugamama time 😂

[@bunacat1]

@@retsubkrod Nope. The only way it is "hers" is if it hasn't been co-mingled with "their" money. If she put it is a separate account from the get go, it would be hers.

[@beerkegaard]

Lmfao he’s not going to sign that sh*t

[@JJs_playground]

The husband has issues. He's worried about upgrades to the house. He understands that if you spend 3% ($210,000) in upgrades, that's hardly anything.

[@michaelvan6675]

Check your math

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

Even then, first thing to do is put it in a high yield savings account, or spread it across a couple if they're capped, and over the next 12 months get over 300k in interest that covers all those upgrades and then some.

[@athousandandonenights11]

A lot of people are making the guy out to have more of an ego issue but I think he might be legitimately concerned about losing the money. He’s been the main provider for years and based on what the caller said, doesn’t seem that he’s had a six figure salary. It’s very possible he feels that if they start spending the money they’ll spend it all. I’ve been in that situation and despite having more than enough money it’s still hard to change your mindset when you’re so used to not having enough or just barely making it. Maybe than can put a pause in the house for a few months while he gets comfortable with the idea of having so much money and maybe go to therapy also.

[@ozemsadventureofrandomstuf252]

There is also a good lesson here…work hard whether you come From money or not. I mean to think of the life you can leave behind for your kids to enjoy is astounding.. But I reckon if you have had a very frugal life this is the blessing

[@nicodimus2222]

Easy answer...retire (unless you love your job and want to keep doing it) and enjoy the rest of your lives together. I say that as someone who is in a similar situation. Even if you only take out 3-4% of $7.2 million a year, you'll be very comfortable, will never run out of money, and can afford to be generous to others, which is really fun. If it's not an easy answer, either you're with the wrong person, or you need therapy.

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

Better answer: put 2m into a high yield savings account, the rest into dividend stocks, and let it continue to grow while also reaping hundreds of thousands a year from it, then your kids can inherit 20+m

[@Scarface_445]

I think he probably has tied his value to being a provider and hopeful savior. He works and works trying to help his family not be where mostly likely he grew up, poor. His wife literally can snap her fingers and solve this. He is having an internal crisis, maybe some counseling will help! His wife can 100% spend 60k on the things for the home. Maybe show him, invested what it provides. You won’t even touch the golden goose as Dave would say. Enjoy your lives! Her father truly was an amazing man!

[@innocuous_name7212]

Great advice! That isn't about money. The poor man is hurting and it is hurting his wife.

[@ilovenoodles7483]

60K isn't even 1% of 7.2M! Let the lady get the house that she wants as long all the money does not get busted through. There is enough money to have what you always wanted and then some!! A lot of some!!

[@krissifaith6709]

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[@ChrisGeidner834]

I came across your channel through this video- case studies are incredibly valuable, and I'm eager to see more in the future! Building wealth involves establishing routines, like consistently setting aside funds at regular intervals for smart investments.

[@KarenAnn88]

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[@HenryRichardson56]

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[@MaraMaruta66]

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[@Holly.Anderson92]

Wow. I'm a bit perplexed seeing her been mentioned here also Didn't know she has been good to so many people too this is wonderful, I'm in my fifth trade with her and it has been super.

[@JasonBrown.214]

" I started my investment with $7,500, a week later, we had grown to $28,645. This woman! absolute genius

[@Ianmundo]

Dude got emasculated by his wife inheriting money. What a weak dude. Enjoy life!

[@MDP454]

He thinks she is going to leave him. Pop culture glorifies women, leaving their man the second they have a better option. He doesn't see how he can compete with 7 million.

[@JudePi-jx7yo]

not just pop culture

[@alanm500]

I think you may be right.

[@stevenno91]

You’re aren’t taking into consideration that they are married, THEY have 7 million, not her.

[@JudePi-jx7yo]

@@stevenno91 inheritance is hers no?

[@jamesmorris913]

It was HER dad, therefore, it's HER money, to do exactly what she wants with it..that's EXACTLY what I would tell MY wife, if the same ever happened in our household! This guy's obviously ecinomically-illiterate, a raging control-freak, or malignantly insecure..probably, ALL THREE!

[@markfiala6730]

They didn’t consider that her now wanting higher tastes, stuff they couldn’t previously afford, is challenging his self worth of being able to provide

[@GAFB1122]

Would he feel like that if they won the lottery? I think it's how they got the money. Inheritance from her father. The dude needs to get over it.

[@fabsmaster5309]

I think John mentioned it briefly but it was quickly glossed over.

[@gk4thewin049]

​@GAFB1122 telling someone who is like this to just "get over it" is arguably the worst way to handle the situation. If you have any idea about how normal men find purpose, then you'd change your response. We've been providers for millenia and that's how we're wired. When you take that away, we feel, instinctually, like we don't amount to anything, and that we're replaceable. Which destroys us internally. He's afraid of losing his purpose and is now on the retreat. It's not his fault he's scared, it's how we're wired.

[@lemongrass3945]

Dude is crazy 7 million is perfect. It makes 10% a year. Then take out 5% that’s living off 350k debt free

[@NickAndTech]

It's not so obvious. The woman now instantly became the provider forever, permanently undermining his role as a man, it's cutting off his b@ll$

[@claudiaj2138]

@@NickAndTech🙄

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

​@@NickAndTechit's his fault for seeing it that way. They could put his savings into dividend stocks, put 2/3 of his value from hers into dividend stocks and the rest into normal stocks (or reinvest dividends) to build an inheritence for their kids. That way he gets to say he's still providing 2/3 of the income and everyone wins. Its 100% a psychology problem on his end and noone knowing how to spin it.

[@suen5006]

I dated a guy who was so insecure about money that he wore the same old clothing. In his drawers were tons of new clothes, gifts from family, but he wouldn't wear them, I guess because his old clothes hadn't fallen off. Sad person.

[@pamt3915]

NEVER commingle your inheritance. It’s NOT marital or community property. It was money bequeathed to you to do as you wish.

[@1jw298]

It is biblically. Why be married if and when you come into a windfall you totally ignore and not abide by the very definition of marriage,

[@allisonautrey2136]

You're correct

[@pamt3915]

It’s not marital property unless the beneficiary CHOOSES to do so by sharing it, putting it in a joint account or paying marital bills. Spouse’s aren’t legally entitled to an inheritance just because you’re married.

[@kensanders1000]

I think in order to keep it out of the joint account, the father would have needed to put the money in a trust for the daughter.

[@pamt3915]

Not true. The spouse needs to put the inheritance in any type of account that’s only in her name. When a spouse puts an inheritance into a joint account or uses it to pay marital bills, it becomes marital property that will be part of the divorce assets. By keeping it in an account under your name, it remains yours in the event of a divorce.

[@richard77231]

Plenty of lottery winners go bankrupt. It's certainly not unheard of for someone in this circumstances to lose it all, even if you think you've been frugal all your life. One thing lacking is defining, with the financial advisor, is what a reasonable withdrawal rate would be. Define your baseline income from this, maybe even one that maintains the principal and doesn't draw it down at all (i.e what if we put this all into a CD and lived off the interest). Develop of budget based off that. It's only been 6 months, it takes time to unclench that savings muscle.

[@michellefitz4287]

Very well said

[@Dread_Force1]

I wish my wife was halfway on my team like this lady is. Geez.

[@welshpete12]

Insecurity is the name of the game . When that goes away , its a whole new life !

[@shea455]

If I didn't have a plan for the money, I'd be afraid as well. Come up with a plan. Be sure any taxes and debts are covered, be sure a good chunk is added to retirement, and define what you can spend today. Done.

[@wwade7226]

I'd say this is probably the wisest advice. Take some time, sit down, look at the finances, consider the details and move ahead. Maybe you set aside chunks of that money in some retirement plans, or college funds, or whatever. Setup a fun money fund, a house fund, etc. Make a budget based on the interest (say $250k per year, leaving $100k for savings, etc.)

[@ianmowbray3284]

John is right, it’s nothing to do with the money. My mother in law when she was young had no money I have now known her for 30 years. Now she’s in retirement with 100ks in the bank and she spends nothing on her self.

[@LaneDenson]

If it were me, I'd be afraid of how that money changes people. Not just the recipients of the money - which is a big enough landmine of it's own, as we've heard in this call - but those around the recipients. If they start flashing their cash, friends and family are going to come out of the woodwork asking for handouts.

[@laurants]

This call pisses me off. Her husband needs to chill the ef out.

[@sudano9958]

Kinda simple, you have $8.2 million, Build a $900K house with everything you want, leaves you with $7.3, Invest long term index fund 75/25 low cost $5M, Pay off all debt another 100K put 2.2M in MMF or HSA and start living off that at $110K a year and any splurges out of that. In 10yrs your $5M will be close to $10M

[@ulf5738]

Her husband needs professional help to deal with his emotions

[@strawberryme08]

Make the house nice he’s got stuff to work through. He probably feels left out suddenly of the process but he’s got to get some scarcity mindset stuff done.

[@cornishpasty4344]

It's your dad's money. He would want you to spend this money how you wish. Not how your tight husband sees the world. Your dad would be devastated. He would want his daughter to be happy and comfortable. My mum (still alive) gave me a little money recently. She's like... it's yours to use as you wish. Even if you get a car or whatever it is that makes your life better. That's all she wanted. To make my life better.

[@dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099]

Good on your mom. I wonder why so many parents don't share their wealth while still alive. That would be a great call-in. "I'm rich and would like to share some of it while I'll still alive and kicking, but I can't bring myself to do it. What should I do, John?"

[@enjoystraveling]

@@dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099 I wish my parents had shared some while they were still alive since I went to college and I had to walk everywhere . I don’t have a problem with walking, I actually enjoy walking but it was small city where there’s no public transportation and hardly any sidewalk so it’s dangerous.

[@enjoystraveling]

I did have a job too, while going to college gradually saved up to make enough to buy a lemon of a car.

[@joespratling]

I have a parent that is this way…. About spending. Any changes their spouse wants to make to the home or any big purchases the controlling parent needs to feel in control of what happens if anything

[@bunacat1]

My Dad was that way. He has been gone for a few years, but my Mom is still hesitant to change anything in the house. My sister and I still have to tell her that Dad is not here and she can do anything she wants.

[@maryjanedavidson2804]

Technically this is her money, so get those hardwood floors, quartz countertops and tile in the bathrooms. Just don't spend 7 million dollars on upgrades.

[@Handsoflight7766]

I have a relative who actually cried of worry to me ( I am poor with zero retirement funds) of having enough for her retirement although she’s worth way past the million. Has investors, It is a mind set. Nobody seems to realize that you spend less on the usual things in retirement and you Don’t have the energy necessarily to do all you dreamed of so putting in a better countertop or higher end stuff into a house will actually increase the value of the home. … if you decide to sell it later it’ll have been worth it.

[@AstaKristjan]

I just turned 41 and awfully late to investing with barely any portfolio except my 401k, I have a decent amount of cash saved up and with inflation currently soaring AGAIN, I’m getting worried about retirement, my intention is to retire at 65. How best do I maximize my savings of over $500k

[@LarsBergstrom-uh2eu]

Retirement is now more difficult than it was in the past. it's all about balancing your risk tolerance with your long-term goals. Maybe consider speaking to an advisor to help in diversifying your portfolio to spread out the risk.

[@LivaHolst]

Many people often underestimate the effectiveness of a financial adviser in planning for retirement. Over the past 10 years, my Adviser has consistently restructured and diversified my portfolio and expenses, resulting in over $3 million in gains. While it might not seem like a huge amount, retirement now feels within reach.

[@Alejandracamacho357]

Tried doing things on my own at first, failed abysmally at it,tried following a colleague's retirement planning, same result. Now, I need that professional rescue. Please direct me on how to reach a sound CFA

[@LivaHolst]

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[@LivaHolst]

KATHLEEN CHERYL CONSTANTZ is who I work with. Have worked with her for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look her up.

[@mrsm382]

"What was his name?", "What is your address?" 😂. Thanks, guys. You are awesome. ❤

[@9liveslisa]

Invest it and live on 4 to 5%. An inheritance I received years ago is invest in 60% stocks and 40% is kept in a treasury account. I live very comfortably and I want for nothing. And I sleep really well at night. If you don't budget, I would start. Be intentional with your money and if you do it right, you will be fine. Also, just a suggestion, don't spend on big projects until you live with your new budget for a year or two. You'll make better decisions then.

[@genxx2724]

Are you using any of the money? How much do you take per year, and what do you use it for? Thank you.

[@9liveslisa]

@@genxx2724 I budget $1000 per month for recurring expenses, $1000 for food and incidentals, And about $7,600 a year for property taxes, home and car insurance, and income taxes. So I live on approximately $31,600 per year. And I save about $10,000 a year.

[@nationsnumber1chump]

Dave can keep his family together because he actually can spend as much as he wants on anything he wants because he's wealthy enough to do that. When both you and your spouse have under 10mil, its verify difficult to be satisfied that it will be enough for retirement and the years beyond. It's the times we live in. We could have hyperinflation in the next decade and it may be only worth half that, so make sure that you spend it on the right things and put it in the right investments before spending a bunch.

[@backyard1015]

The husband has a monster EGO!!! IF he didn't do it, it can't happen! By having $4-$5 million stashed away. You are free! Yes, it's fun to work super hard and say I BUILT THIS LIFE! But when something gets tossed your way, don't hate life! I see a divorce coming,! Husband will work 80-100 hours a week hating his life and his soon to be ex wife will build her life with a new husband that lives in the reality!!!

[@princessunknown3158]

Big bucks and biggest responsibilitys..... Use it wisely... Just be grateful... Try see it has blessings.

[@rexpjesky23]

I don't know why y'all say it's not about the money. This is all about the money. Husband's purpose for his whole adult life was to provide for his family. That's gone now. His behavior stems from that. Not people making fun of him when he was a child. What makes this worse is the money is from father in law. And that it was unexpected.

[@megalodon1726]

It's still not about the money. If it's about the money, he shouldn't sweat over her spending 1% of it to improve the house. It's about him losing his purpose. Now he needs to find a new purpose.

[@danmiser9974]

If I were a betting man I would bet that he just is worried about what other people's perception of his family is. Suddenly having a high-end home rather than a mediocre home is a weird mental shift. I'm not saying he's right but there's some justification to that emotion.

[@dannymartial7997]

Her husband is weak-minded. He was given a mind-blowing amount of money, and it completely broke his mind. He CANNOT handle it. He’s completely controlled by this inheritance.

[@DinaOnyu-ih7hw]

They were at first thinking about the inheritance would be "only" 3 million and was worried about money..... I can't with some people. A lot of us inherit parent's debt instead.

[@VGHSyntheticOrchestra]

Straight to an HYSA. Live off the interest.

[@royhoco5748]

I would use some of the money to pay for theraphy and counseling for him

[@semosancus5506]

Here's the deal - it's her money, not marital property. She can make whatever upgrades she wants.

[@dobia4486]

Yeah if she doesn't want to still be married

[@ThatGuysGuitars]

@@dobia4486with 7 mill, she can find another spouse 😂

[@semosancus5506]

@@dobia4486 Nah, no chance. He's scared about losing money he isn't going to divorce somebody worth $7.7 million. (.7 because she gets half of their $1M). He'll get over it.

[@broetchenahoi6524]

Agreed, in principal. I hope she keeps that in the back of her mind. But they've been married for decades, they're in this together. What's important is that he works on his mindset from scarcity to abundance - it sounds like he toojk on frugality as a survival tool and way of successful living and HER inheriting this massive amount basically wipes out the need for that strategy and mindset - and his control. They have some work ahead of them; I hope he's willing to do it. He may be able to heal a lot of old stuff and they have a chance to get to know each other in a new and deeper way - AND enjoy the blessing of financial freedom together. I hope it works out.

[@bradycone]

That does not fix the marriage problems. They need to be on the same page and making decisions together as one.

[@gaildevaney6074]

The dynamics in my daughters marriage are the same. Husband always uses his higher earning power to win most arguments. If I ever won the lottery and gave her $5 millions it would seriously upset the marriage.

[@jjpark1989]

You could live off the interest alone

[@robloxvids2233]

This man has worked his whole life and worried about money and security. Suddenly, none of that matters. His entire existence is called into question. She has stayed home and raised kids. She's built her life around her family. Imagine the dad came home one day and said "I inherited a maid, a tutor, a nanny, a chauffer, a shopper, a nurse, a chef, honey. Great news! You don't do any of that anymore!" She'd be going through an existential crisis, too. My services are no longer needed? Wat? That's a lot to take in. The 60k thing has nothing to do with money. He's fruiting out bc he doesn't feel like he matters anymore. And she's not helping by suddenly jacking up their lifestyle for no other reason than she can. She needs to be more respectful of what he's trying to reconcile internally.

[@enjoystraveling]

I’m guessing most women if the husband came home and said I now have enough to give you a tutor, a shopper, a driver, a nanny, etc. they would’ve screamed joy and said now I have more time to visit with my friends, do my hobbies and do interesting things with you because I have more energy !

[@enjoystraveling]

It doesn’t sound like she’s changing their lifestyle very much if she’s just buying a few upgrades to the house. She didn’t say she was buying a fancy car or a fancy trip, or designer clothes etc. but of course we don’t know everything on either side.

[@garybaltiejus7248]

Dont forget to take out a full page ad in a national newspaper

[@Ap_twsh]

Ouch that marriage is going down the toilet. He’s losing his position and she’s basically saying I can afford it you can’t. 😂 she’s in control now.

[@GuilhermeMeloso]

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[@Coryraisa]

Stay anonymous! Be wary of new "friends."

[@g8rayrr]

Rice and beans beans and rice 😮that's alot of a scratch. Enjoy yourselves. Your dad was a great man. He is my spirit animal.

[@joefroelich4934]

These people already had a million dollars and now they have over 8 million dollars What the hell are they worried about. If I had $100,000 dollars I would be more than happy. Also he a big baby.

[@bamafencer12]

Right! I’m paying off my credit card and getting new lights on my old truck. These people are nuts.

[@J52d-g]

Easy for you to say. You don’t have 100k though!

[@fadisalem2710]

Yupp I totally second that motion. I mean for goodness sakes most people would probably never see anything close to that in their lifetime.

[@BirdDogey1]

Love how Deloney equates wealth with goodness.

[@onebridge7231]

I hope she didn’t put her dad’s inheritance into a joint account and commingled the inheritance. If she did, now he can take half in a divorce.

[@onebridge7231]

Don’t spend the principal. Just buy U.S. treasuries or very secure investments. Live off the interest.

[@CorySpears1978]

“She” inherited 7M. “She” needs to enjoy it and be happy. Most ppl never enjoy this freedom. If “He” loves “Her”, “He” will support and cheer “Her” in every aspect!💯

[@nicknguyen5455]

It's all about money!

[@tonysilke]

My aunt passed and I inherited some of her portfolio and cash savings, I’m 28 with about 400k cash in savings and as usual everybody’s preaching invest, so what stocks are a good long term buy, only major purchase I intend to make is buying a home in 5years from my returns

[@Nernst96]

Lucky you, I’d buy a lot of tech stocks and Dividend portfolios with that. Don’t come to KZbin looking for KZbin advise, instead contact a fiduciary for proper guidance.

[@PatrickLloyd-]

Same, I just use KZbin for research purposes, I run all my major investment through an investment adviser, the market is just too unstable to handle things on your own.

[@PhilipDunk]

@@PatrickLloyd- Please can you leave the info of your lnvestment advsor here? I’m in dire need for one

[@PatrickLloyd-]

SOPHIE LYNN CARRABUS is the licensed advisor I use and i'm just putting this out here because you asked. You can Just search the name. You’d find necessary details to work with to set up an appointment.

[@PhilipDunk]

Thanks for sharing, I just looked her up on the web and I would say she really has an impressive background in investing. I will write her an e-mail shortly.

[@laafawnduh]

I'd like to hear the husband's side

[@djpuplex]

Her feelings. I feel,.I feel , I feel..No rational thought.

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

@@djpuplex sounds like the husband is not thinking rationally either...he needs to address his issue with money. Not even wanting to talk about house renovations is not healthy.