Husband's Lying And Sneaking Purchases

[@LittleHatori]

"You feel lied to and misled, bc u were lied to and misled." Dave's amazing powers of perception could not be more on point 💯💯

[@billschlafly4107]

The American people...right now.

[@mattwesley4435]

Dave has a gift of making a point without trashing the individual

[@velvetice100]

Forget Reality T.V. Shows: You cannot get more real that this show....WOW....I am learning a lot thanks Mr. Dave ......Houston, TX :)

[@anital5020]

Dave is spot on with this because I lived this same life. After 30 years I did just what Dave said and lost all respect because I was getting no respect. Been divorced 8 years. You reach a point you realize they will never change and you are done.

[@NVI2309]

My ex husband used to do the same ... would buy a bicycle for $2500, then a motorcycle for $25000 ... then, spending $5000/mo on toys and eating out ... we got divorced ... I am the happiest I have ever been

[@rebeccabarnesslone8012]

Hope.. because I know someone whose spouse has done the same

[@jet4415]

BestFriends My ex-husband was the same with money, it was exhausting. It is 20 years after the divorce, he is still broke living in a rental and I am ready for retirement. He is a nice guy but it doesn't change that he is and will continue to be a financial disaster. I am so happy, too.

[@LaDeeDah]

But let the men that comment on these videos and all women do is wait to take half their stuff, when countless women only divorce when it is the last option.

[@trapsarentgay4195]

This is why I won’t get married. I also hate women, so I should have a happy life

[@JoeJoe-ci5fs]

BestFriends amen!!

[@harrisonwintergreen1147]

This could be the wife of a guy I know. He is out of control with motorcycles ATVs trucks trailers tires rims etc. early 30s and still hasn't adjusted to fatherhood and mortgage, thinks he's entitled to whatever he wants the minute he wants it. Constantly blows the budget and spends waaay too much as a ratio/percentage of the overall income. Makes big purchases in secret then springs em on his wife "easier to ask forgiveness than permission ha ha ha". His wife is losing respect for him but he's oblivious. Very sad to observe.

[@sararomero7090]

I don't understand why guys like him even get married? Stay a bachelor and live that life if that's what he wants----freedom, fun and carefree is fine if you are single. But when you ask someone to be your life partner and then bring innocent little human beings into the situation, you have now taken on a huge responsibility. The kids didn't ask to be born; the parents brought them into this world and are now obligated to provide for them. He's obligated to live within his means and put his kids' needs first, her job is to help him out and leave the situation if he refuses to change. It pisses me off when I see parents are driving around in a Mercedes wearing designer clothes and the kids have rags on and their teeth are rotting out of their heads 😡

[@BrickoBanter]

How do you know this about their relationship

[@hotandsoursoup2664]

Sounds like my husband

[@gigi8528]

I've said it once and I'll say it again. If I marry someone like this I'd be filing for divorce in no time if it doesn't stop.

[@mrs8792]

This is exactly what caused my divorce. I put up with his spending and debt behind my back, until I couldn't take it anymore. We were married 24 years.

[@racpatrice]

Wow I'm sorry you went through that. What kinds of things would he buy if you don't mind me asking?

[@bearco11]

Great show, I am embarrassed to say I’ve behaved this way myself from time to time, this video is a real eye-opener for me as a man and a husband to take a hard look in the mirror, Thank you Dave! Sincerely, Bear

[@imungukalevera8671]

Hey. Why did you do it? trying to understand what the reasoning for a man is on the other side to hide purchases and what made you change your ways?

[@reesecup6915]

At least you are willing to learn and grow!

[@reesecup6915]

This only works if the person is willing to listen. Hasn’t worked for me yet.

[@Raegoul]

"He's a good man". Wow, how clueless is she? Completely disrespects her by lying and stealing money from the family and she still thinks he's a good man.

[@herbiehusker1889]

Raegoul he probably makes the money, so he feels like he can spend it. That said, he has responsibility for his family and needs to not be so selfish

[@pamperedgurl]

some women only remember how a man makes her feel. If you know what i mean.

[@TheQueenPsChannel]

pamperedgurl that’s uncouth to say. He could be a good guy outside of him having financial issues.

[@rmac8012]

Myla Pope sorry that's not a good man. FPU classes are full of ultimatum couples. The spender doesn't look like a good person when they are asked to explain their behavior. Taking care of your family doesn't entail putting your family in financial jeopardy. THEY HAVE FOUR KIDS!!!!!

[@TheQueenPsChannel]

R MAC that’s your assessment, some people are good in many areas of life and lack in one. Thank god you are not judge of what all good people are, I doubt there’d be any lol

[@karenjones8713]

My Ex husband was more comfortable being in debt than having extra money in the bank! It was so frustrating being married to him!

[@4knewt505]

I tried explaining that to my husband, many times. I cried, I was nice about it, I was angry, many different ways. People always made me feel like I was mean to him. I even drew up a financial agreement. Worthless. If I complain, I'm the person who doesn't forgive, who has no faith, and should let things go. And that's advice from family, friends, and Christians. I never saw the manipulation for what it was until now when I'm numb and in self-perseverance. There is always an excuse and double, if not triple the secrets. I know it sounds weak, but I feel abused and paralyzed. Respect for him gone. But guess, he's a "good man" ???? we are not mature in our finances and i have a son graduating. I listen to Dave Ramsey to make myself remember I'm not crazy. Am I an enabler, no. I'm tired. I don't have any more conversations left to try. I was stronger than this. I wasn't created to be like this.

[@rmac8012]

For some reason society values the "likeable guy" who makes everybody "feel good" rather than the "respsonsible one" who can bring longterm bountifulness to everyone's life. Then after you breakdown from the stress and on medication from trying to stay above water then something is wrong with you. Yes you have to be weird to deal with this foolishness.

[@yankeemockingbird4985]

Then go and start a new life without him and without those negative feelings

[@AtlantaHospiceRN]

My first hubby was the same way! Divorced 22yrs now. I’m financially secure and remarried 20yrs now n ready for retirement. 1st hubby is a nice guy but horrible HORRIBLE with money!!!! He retired from ford motor at age 48, on his 2nd ex wife, bought a house he can’t afford-always has “roommates”. One that is now in prison for abusing HIS daughter from age 8-12. His life, and now his daughters life is beyond a mess.

[@amyrussell860]

You feel like you have been abused

[@amyrussell860]

U feel like u are being abused and feel paralyzed because u ARE being abused-it's just not physical or in a way that can be seen. Dave is right with what he is telling this caller but so are you. Ive been in your shoes-and I'm a believer who had a life changing encounter with God as an adult. It took me about 10 yrars before I was ready to do this myself, but u need to focus on who is staring back at you from the mirror and ask God to show you what got you to this point in your life. Dont get me wrong, facing myself and looking at my role in my (failed) relationships, wrong turns I've taken, and the consequences paid was the hardest thing I ever did. People will not understand-trust me on this aspect. Trust God-if you go wiith him on this journey he'll be with u you every step of the way. I got throught it (for awhile I wasnt sure I would) but l am stronger, I know who I can trust and rely on, and yes, i have acquired a very accurate BS detector and the spiritual weapons to fight back. Btw, u are right, u were not created to be the way u are now. Hang in there.

[@classicrocklover5615]

Every time he puts his selfish wants before the family unit's needs, this "man" is proving to be a lousy husband and father. The wife and mother wants safety and security and stability for herself and the kids. Why is that so hard to understand?

[@sabrinay9430]

My poor mom is dealing with this. Her husband is a fool with money. It's infuriating to hear about it.

[@hitchjack]

I love it when Dave bursts out laughing at inappropriate moments 😂

[@mariamarafino3792]

Just separated from husband for this very reason

[@markfrederic32gmailcom58]

Hi 🙋‍♂️

[@Jason-uw3wn]

Dave has now been adopted as a marriage counselor lol.

[@Joseph-en7gx]

Glad my dad didn't act like this with 7 kids. Thanks pops.

[@katemiller7874]

No fun toys huh. Not with 7

[@rebeccabarnesslone8012]

I know a wife whose husband didnt have enough money for food and bought a $700 tv because it was only $66mth payment. After she had asked to have the regular size tv out of the bedroom so she could sleep better.

[@markfrederic32gmailcom58]

Hey 👋

[@nikkizetlian4421]

When you do that as a single man he is hitting himself but as a married man you hurt for wife and your kids.

[@gooney0]

Dave's right. I've been in Jessica's shoes and it sucks. The husband needs to learn that the money isn't "his." He needs to work with his wife to agree on these things, and be honest. A man who isn't honest isn't much of a man. If you can't believe what your spouse says you're toast.

[@MoniLop]

This woman married my EX?!!!! We lasted 6.5 years

[@Passbu]

Keeping it real af

[@darrenkrock736]

This show is making me want to stay single more and more and more.

[@billpetersen298]

Ya marry someone, who has their feet on the ground. Not because, they are pretty.

[@ChrisMFlorida]

@@billpetersen298 not always easy to see and people change.

[@jimroscovius]

Marriage is wonderful, when you marry the right person.

[@bryanjacobs1423]

Because you don't think you can manage a good marriage?

[@88niteowl88]

Same here!!!! This is the best season of our lives!!! I just came to this realization recently.

[@SunFlowur]

Her timidness tells me she is not ready or willing to leave this marriage

[@shaythiele1320]

I’d like to be a fly on the wall at Dave’s marriage counseling.

[@katemiller7874]

I’m confident he put his wife through hell. Possibly the kids he wouldn’t buy scholastic books for now he has a cheap ass daughter that does the same thing to her kids and she has money. Gross.

[@loveofgrowing515]

When you said this was an 8 I burst into tears... by that rating scale my situation is a 50...

[@Eagles.Fan.Since.Super.Bowl.52]

Heather 10 would be a divorce. I’d say he gauged it accurately. Sorry you’re going through a time tough.

[@yankeemockingbird4985]

Gather your strength and get the heck out This way your scale will not be 50 at all

[@RichardMeikle]

"Doesn't matter your still gonna be broke" - David "Bawwws" Ramsey 2017

[@wmurray003]

Trademark Ramsey.

[@LittleHatori]

When she said, "yes" it was the most saddest sounding thing I've ever heard on this show.

[@GMNGChristian]

"But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." 1 Timothy 5:8

[@antbanks415]

He needs to man up and be an adult.

[@jay-rus4437]

I was just like this knucklehead for many many years. And I was broke because of it. Once I got fed up with being broke, and then so stressed because of the mountain of debt I had created in my efforts to enjoy life and to give me distractions from the pressures of work. So I was stressed about money, and would then buy something on credit to distract me from the stress, but would then be more stressed about the added debt. What a crazy vicious cycle. Now....debt free but the house. Also self employed now and making more than I ever did working for others. Finally, at age 46, we have contentment. We gave up a lot of “stuff”, but it was so worth it. We dont drive high dollar SUVs or Sports Cars now....and we dont have a garage full of motorcycles, dirt bikes, or quads. We do have money in the bank now 😁

[@robindear5043]

@Justin Russell Bravo to you!

[@CrayonEater94]

She is too sweet

[@atlg8or6137]

Al Gonzalez you spelled stupid wrong.

[@ae4xo]

theres more than this finance stuff going on

[@kiaharper7172]

Yup. The spending is always a symptom of something

[@aldelgado9343]

i like the way uncle dave laughs

[@KTSpeedruns]

“My husband is keeping us in debt with his stupid impulse purchases behind my back... what should my tax refund go to?”

[@yankeemockingbird4985]

He should go to an acct that he doesn't have access to

[@rondagipson2184]

a divorce attorney!

[@PS-vc2yz]

He should have asked her and tell me how the college funds for the four kids look. Zero I suspect.

[@lisalee2885]

Husband is depressed and this is his fix

[@deansapp4635]

My wife would kicked me out. However, we talk about any purchase over $50.00

[@SilvioManfredDante85]

I guess we knows who wears the pants.

[@atxrivals]

@@SilvioManfredDante85 Says the single guy. Married couples discuss larger purchases. If you don't, expect to be divorced.

[@fpl_bailey]

financial infidelity 😂😂😂😂😂

[@djd829]

This is precisely why married couples should combine income and accounts, and work on a budget together. Discuss the pros and cons and prioritize their expenses, and definitely no big purchases without mutual agreement. You can accomplish so much together. This whole situation is absurd.

[@julialee143]

djd829 so true, people see the solution as separate bank accounts but that just drives people away, more independent and into themselves rather than bringing them together. People saying it’s his money because he makes the money, but he didn’t even have the money, he bought it on credit lol

[@besbtee]

My husband & I have separate accounts & he tells me I cant tell you a thing without getting upset. Well yeah he tells me after the fact. He spends spends spends & I have to guess what's going on. He makes decisions without me all the time. I work too, I tell him what I buy which is almost always for the household. But he does things on his own. I cant take it anymore. I beg for us to get on a budget but he doesn't want to hear it. I need help!!

[@sydney45]

@@besbtee Maybe come to an agreement with a joint account about either all checks getting deposited there and free-spending money gets pulled out or have all your checks go into your separate accounts and deposit half the house bills into the joint account every month. You'll know the 4 walls are safe and he will be able to spend from his account how he likes.

[@besbtee]

@@sydney45 thank you so much that is such a great idea. I have also started selles things & so far I have sold close to $300 worth of items & it feels great. Hubbs & I also had a talk & he agreed to cut up all his credit cards. But regardless of what he does or doesn't do I'm going to stay the course of living on a budget. Again thank you so much for the informative yet polite comment. Have a great day:)

[@twincherry4958]

@@besbtee Pre-marital discussions.

[@marcelawise2937]

Put your foot down now, momma! It’s your money too, things will get worse! He’s lucky he has a woman who has the logic to want to protect the family from future disaster!!!

[@markfrederic32gmailcom58]

Nice comment dear

[@ThreeorMore209]

A little bit beside the point - too many children, especially when they have these kinds of relationship problems.

[@321Mokas]

0:50 "a Quad to ride with the Quids" must be great!

[@BoogieBoogieAvenue]

She's not going to divorce this guy they just had their 4th child....

[@porter_moody]

He grasps the situation so quickly

[@sharicopas1239]

26 years, I tried it all !! He makes great money 💰. We are always Broke... spend and lie ! I’m done now ! Oh gee listen to this.. when the kids were 8 and 9 he says “ the bills aren’t paid kids because mom can’t do math”. Yeah about 14 years old 1/2 the time !!!! I’m not his mommy

[@someperson9536]

This reminds me that some people have a lot more than money problems.

[@WJ4x4OR]

Jessica: The toys are just the beginning so be prepared. Toys like these are an addiction. Soon you will see a the 100k truck on your drive way to tow your 250k toy hauler. Like I mentioned, this is just the beginning.

[@BetterNBetter]

Wow, after all Dave said her response was “I mean, he’s a good man.” Yeah, she’s the type that will continue to make excuses for him & his bad behavior. As much as I hope she’ll get a clue soon, i can tell it’s gonna be a long while before she leaves him (if ever). Smh, what a shame.

[@yankeemockingbird4985]

Dave is spot on

[@nryanmusic]

She sounds like she is in denial..... calling Dave for advice about this... Dave gives advice and she comes back with..."he's a good man.." ok then why are you wasting Dave's time?

[@Zoot_of_Anthrax]

My mom had this happen about 10yrs ago with stepdad. Came home to several thou dollar TV. Took one look and said “the TV goes or you do” .... wish id been that convicted with my ex. He would just spend and expect me to make ends meet. I used to have to beg and plead with banks to get NSF charges refunded on a regular basis. We made about 50k jointly and he’d spend hundreds every month when we were scraping by as it was with daycare and debt. Been divorced 12yrs and havent had a single nsf charge since!

[@whiskersredwood]

I would hate to be in this mess after having 4 kids with this man.

[@Yummy2u]

What Dave said is true. I lost soo much respect for my ex because of everything Dave said. Lost Total respect for him. My ex had an $800 truck payment. I didnt think it was a lack of self esteem issue on my end. Being I let it go on for so long I now see that I had a lack of self esteem. And Dave is right, when I finally blew up, i blew up.

[@dummgelauft]

And she continues to have kids with him...

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

I had a similar issue. It turned out that my husband was sneaking buying things and then would sneak them into his pole barn. He was using his "allowance" of $20.00 every paycheck (every two weeks) so it was hard to say anything to him about this. It turned out he was at the beginning of his cognitive decline. One he has his diagnosis I egan to make plans to move to a condo. Once we were living in the condo there was now no room for these things. I sent him to a counselor and he realized that he was filling u p a hole in his childhood where he felt he did not have what he needed.

[@rosebud7105]

What a heart-wrenching call... Good man wants to have fun with the kids/family but knows he can't afford it. Keeps the blinders on and lies to his wife... My hubby and I talk about every expense now, but it took us one or two minor mistakes before we got to that point. I find Financial Infidelity more painful than anything else.

[@GamerNRetro]

Love, Rosie I'm sure you do.

[@rosebud7105]

I completely disagree with you, A Miller. I've gone through more pain in my life than a lot of people, but there's always someone worse off than myself, as well. Don't judge a book by its cover. God bless.

[@herfirstmate]

A Miller How would you know that? If she thinks Financial 'Infidelity' is more painful than anything else, who are you to state that's wrong and that she hasn't "seen" pain", like what - yours? Please. Sounds like you have relationship issues or is that just an ASSumption on my part?

[@sb-nl6ge]

Financial Infidelity is more painful than anything else; really? If you believe that, count your blessings...………..

[@emilyh6293]

"Good man"?? No, a man-child that is shirking responsibilities.

[@lunagoddess1972]

My ex used to do this kind of thing. That's why he's my ex!

[@MouseRata]

Makes me wonder if he’s in the military since they’re in San Diego, and a lot of military people live that way....

[@ithacacomments4811]

Yep, the first thing my ex did when he got home from Vietnam was to buy a motorcycle....he had a cast on his leg from being wounded !

[@abagailshalom8989]

Why did she have a fourth child with him when he's done this before????

[@BebeBoi674]

He is like a kid collecting new toys.

[@marvinabigby5509]

This poor woman doesnt have 4 kids she has 5.i had this man we divorced and I am still taking care of him.When he needs a phone card he comes to me asking for help when he runs out of gas front have money calls me.when he is sick calls me.Its hard to break patterns .I dont always help but if it doesnt run me short I will but have him now grass take lawn and so simple jobs of this nature in return.

[@inthevault9603]

No, he is not. He is not a good man. She’s totally trapped. Don’t have kids with a douch bag. Better yet don’t have kids with anyone.

[@Simon-oy7kf]

I just don't understand how you can borrow money, not pay it back fully, so your net worth is likely in the red, and then continue to borrow money!!!!!!

[@healthibons]

Man, when i was a kid, I didn't get stuff like this. I had to wait in line at the police office station to pray and hope to get free toys. My parents had to scrimp and scrape, it wasn't until my sister was 10 that we got a SNES and even then only had two games. Children these days are spoiled. LOLz

[@PhantomMagician1846]

Don't say " I'm losing respect for you as a husband and a man" when having your talk. He will take that as a personal attack. he will respond with something like "well you bought all those clothes, jewelry and Converse Sneakers," and then a fight will take place. leave personal attacks out of it

[@LR-kj8ec]

She sounds like an enabler when she says 'he's a good man'

[@slubdub4971]

Divorce him fast and run...

[@DiscipleSteven]

Man these poor ladies that call in sometimes makes me so mad. lol Some guys can be some real idiots.

[@tirkdiamond]

Ok.. I 've been watching too much of this show. When she said we're 1k5k in debt, I was like: "Well, it's not that much". lol

[@michellegrovak]

He is using purchases to make himself feel whole. It never works to fill the spiritual hole with material goods.

[@thomas3340]

Congratulations you married a man child

[@Simon-oy7kf]

I mean, it was his money, until he decided to buy a house with someone and have kids with her

[@candigirl1788]

Lol he said it doesn't matter you're still going to be broke!

[@UnblockedOne2]

Financed, because he was too broke. Now, he's in even more broke. I plan on buying some ATVs too, but I'm paying cash.

[@ptulip]

People are so irresponsible.

[@jillstover8782]

Dave so nailed that! Ww3 b up in here if my hubby did that with loans already go buy more on credit RRRRRR

[@markfrederic32gmailcom58]

Hello Jill

[@ithacacomments4811]

Yeh, women at some point get tired of dealing with the manchild.

[@mercuryrising2424]

Sell the truck and have the husband can drive the quad to work.

[@llkk9900]

This woman is a doormat

[@IamJacksColon4]

when ur in that much debt and you choose to have a 4th kid that is irresponsible.

[@just_guess_]

He went and bought multiple dirt bikes and a quad when the kids weren't even interested in those things? It kind of sounds like the kids hand't even been asking for a dirt bike, or shown any previous interest in dirt bikes.

[@jjuniper274]

Too real. :(

[@4knewt505]

me too. :(

[@Artbynbru]

My 14 yr old child wouldn’t even do that.

[@nvmcrider8475]

Would you want this person as a business partner? If not, I think you know what needs to happen.

[@lovethemflowers]

I wondered if they were in Baby Step 2 when he pulled that stunt. Way to go Dad, buying all that junk you couldn't afford during Christmas. Christmas couldn't have been too merry for your wife. Sure, all the boys (including YOU, Dad) think the quads are cool. The sons don't realize what a financial mess you're making! I wonder if they sensed Mom wasn't excited about their cool toys, but couldn't understand why. I would have hated to spoil Christmas for the sons, so, if it were me, I'd have waited until the boys were back in school in January and when Dad and I were alone, I would have hit the roof. You wanna lie to me, you better not expect me to just act like it's no big deal.

[@lovethemflowers]

Oops, didn't listen so carefully the first time. Went back a 2nd time and heard her mention his student loans. Nope, not done with Baby Step 2.

[@janebaker4912]

you teach people how to treat you

[@tracygaluszynski1868]

He's living his life.

[@universalservicetechust3578]

And you live in Beautiful San Diego gotta be expensive

[@Josh-by9fv]

Talk to a divorce attorney IMMEDIATELY.

[@PalmBeachFlorida24]

Dave, you are wrong. She doesn't need counselling - if he refuses to be on the same page, she needs to divorce.

[@lenas5613]

The subtitles called it clod!!! 😁😁😁🤓😃😃😃

[@inthevault9603]

This sounds like things my husband would do though not to this scale but we were always struggling and now that I’m on my own with our/my daughter I have more $$$ even though some of my bills increased.

[@willelliott5052]

Little boys don't understand that no stupid toy pleases like financial peace.

[@JoseTorres-vo3pv]

This hits home with me...I’m such a little boy...I need saving...

[@thatsassyrepublican]

Dr. Dave I like it.

[@tracygaluszynski1868]

Her husband is funny. Love the guy.

[@sorsorsor11]

Welcome to America.

[@blackattack1840]

that bald guy in Tennessee is pretty much always right

[@thomasgrey6309]

@6:35 . . .she aint gonna do it!

[@annetraut8247]

I broke up with someone for a similar reason. Thank god I didn't marry him!