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[@terriesmith2616]

She said she spends money shopping at Amazon and eat out 5x a week. I see where her money is going.

[@littlesongbird1]

Exactly and she probably thinks her husband is a jerk when he tries to tell her to budget. I can see who he seemed upset when she said she created a budget etc recently. She was probably acting like she was some kind of expert and talking down to him when this was something he probably had been trying to teach her since before they were married.

[@stevegolacks8731]

If he married her, then she mustve thought her lifestyle was ok. His fault for being so cheap, and marrying a spender.

[@hiteshadhikari]

@@stevegolacks8731 yeah blame the man always

[@stevegolacks8731]

@@hiteshadhikari A lot of dummies out there.

[@AwesomeMan2696]

They are honestly both to blame, she’s dumb with money and he married her lol they both messed up

[@mikezerker6925]

I give props to the husband in this situation! He’s the one paying off debt and building wealth, while she’s the one spending frivolously. It seems like he was trying to get her on board with his plan but she’s the one who wanted to continue wasteful spending!

[@tokenblkguy00]

She wanted separate acts when he was paying his debt. Now she wants to combine since he has a big salary and less bills smh. This dude should run.

[@georgewagner7787]

No, he shouldn't. She was tired of arguing. But they need to talk

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Probably true, however until Jimmy weighs in, there can be no opinion on this matter.

[@terriesmith2616]

​@@alinatamashevich3354 LMAO 😂🤣😂 Okay you win the internet, I laughed my ass off at this comment.

[@Sheryl777]

@@alinatamashevich3354 👍😂

[@wrongwayeric]

@@georgewagner7787 Nah.

[@JCpNK]

She started off saying when she had control of the money they were living paycheck to paycheck. Now that it's split he's got money saved and all the bill's paid and she's still living paycheck to paycheck. Sounds like he loves her but didn't want her blowing all their money.

[@garrett21]

Sounds like he did the right thing. She’s a big spender and draws her account to zero every month. She has yet to learn her lesson and therefore is a financial risk

[@tkblackbelt2]

eats out 5 times a week + impulse buys on Amazon and wonders why shes living pay-check to pay-check 🤔

[@aljuarez8877]

Sounds like he has been financially responsible this whole time and she had been the incompetent one until she finally got fed up. She then realizes her ignorance and tries to make her husband into a villain when he was taking the necessary steps to keep this household financially afloat the whole time 🤔

[@socketyellow3]

Yeah, 5 times a week eating out and she makes half of what a doctor makes. Which typically is 200-300k, so she has terrible money habits with 100-150k. She used to spend all the money and now is annoyed she can’t spend 300-450k

[@jomarrivera3411]

I thought the same exact thing.

[@clarifyingquestions]

Right - the caller is like Dave, the spender and mr fun while the caller s husband is like Dave's wife with 6 year old left overs fall out of the fridge. You nailed it.

[@MrTmenzo]

Now that she realizes she can't budget correctly she realizes it's better to combine finances again 😁

[@Evil-Rod-Farva]

Like clockwork. The accountability of a child and the freedoms of a man. This dude saves his money and for his efforts he gets someone incompetent with money that is statistically likely to be overweight and to dump him because he’s “controlling.” Guys we’ve got to be more discerning and to be just as ruthless as the ladies.

[@elizabethallen4353]

What a mess. Not sure if he's super controlling or she's totally reckless, or both.

[@aaronkelly3035]

She’s reckless like every woman

[@MrTmenzo]

Watch at 3:28. She's not budgeting correctly

[@jasonbornne7767]

Try again, Elizabeth. He makes money, has an amazing amount of savings and is frugal. This sounds like it’s on HER for trying to take too much control of the finances from the bread winner. Shouldn’t have picked that fight while she had a joint account.

[@matthewholliman1399]

Either way, he doesn’t trust his wife. They need to set goals together and work together to get to their goals faster.

[@jasonbornne7767]

@@matthewholliman1399 There must be a reason he doesn’t trust her. They have to separate.

[@AutomotiveAnatomy]

I think the team failed to ask some key questions. In this call, she clearly is the one that needs to pay off her student loans and stop spending. Some more questions about what “they” owe would of clarify this. I’m with her husband, you keep spending while we are trying to pay off debt, this won’t work.

[@RegalRealEstateLLC]

I agree. I did not hear her say that she pays 50% of the bills. But Dave assumed that she did. Even if she paid an amount proportionate to her income, she still may not pay her agreed-upon portion. I think she is a spendthrift and that is the key problem. Only she can change herself. Many divorces happen because the spending habits of "spenthrifts" are usually NON-NEGOTIONABLE. They refuse to change.

[@danielrn133]

"he has an amazing savings and I am broke". It is literally like they are not married at all.

[@tdillins]

Sounds like she is using her husband as an excuse for her financial hardship. She would be in the same place if she was single. She just needs to learn to budget her money and stop spending. Everyone's finances are their own and you can't blame someone else for your spending habits regardless if you are married or not.

[@susanedghill609]

@@bellinaintheclouds still needs to budget though.....not how much you make but what you do with what you make.....😁

[@JustinCase780]

@1:08 "and started getting what I call like his big money..." 😮 Like bottomless ATM money?? 😂😂😂

[@src4409]

I moved in with a man many years ago. Our rent was 1200/mo. After he didn't have his 600$ on the last week of the month I made him put 200/wk into a jar in the house. The 4th week of 200 went towards a house fund for things we needed to buy for the house. It worked, but he was 20 years older than me and could not budget. I looked at his bank statement that month and added up what he spent going out to eat. It was 800$. He was easily making 60k/ year and was living like a college student.

[@ericl6386]

So he makes double what she makes and they split the bills probably 50/50 and she is living paycheck to paycheck and he is very frugal and likes to save and invest. The real problem here is the marriage. It does not make sense to split the bills as a married couple UNLESS you have a prenup or postnup or something like that. Legally she owns a huge chunk of HIS savings anyways. So if you dont want to share income,bills etc just dont get married.

[@seanjean9677]

Yes!

[@adrianmechelle3784]

This

[@elizabethallen4353]

Exactly. And don't live together, because someone is going to get pissed off about who's paying for what, and it's not a roommate situation

[@luv2read963]

She was careful to say they split the bills but didn’t say 50/50.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Yeah that's commitment, isn't it?

[@coolaunt516]

Money is power. There is a power struggle going on that neither of them is talking about.

[@TechnMoto]

Dude knows his marriage is ending so he is preparing for it. She is a mess.

[@MrTmenzo]

Seems like she didn't want her income paying for his student loans, now that he's paid them off and thriving she wants to combine finances again 😁

[@BadBrad119]

Very strange situation. He probably feels that she isnt committed so defaulted to saving himself. They are saying this is bad for a marriage to do even if you think the other person blows the budget

[@Margatatials]

No the solution is to both get on the same page Not avoid unity in order to avoid conflict.

[@hiteshadhikari]

@@Margatatials the solution was him divorcing her ass long back but now he is stuck and she can one day walk out and take his hard earned and saved money

[@sarrahconley3923]

Makes so much sense. My husband buys things I didn't know we needed. Then I get spoiled on it. I'm the saver and he's the spender. 😂

[@tracyaf6084]

I never would have thought of it this way but that’s my marriage too just in reverse. My husband is frugal and I am the fun one 😂

[@sarrahconley3923]

@@tracyaf6084 You probably make the frugal living more sensible by buying what makes life easier too.

[@tracyaf6084]

@@sarrahconley3923 it’s true we’ve been good for each other that way. He enjoys the vacations I plan and the little conveniences I splurge on like grocery delivery. He’s definitely influenced me to save more and our 401ks have us close to a million now. Our goal is to be able to have our kids get through college with no debt and have our mortgage paid off soon after.

[@navado75]

Reminds me of my sister paying off the credit cards only to watch her husband run them back up.

[@Sombra_Azul_]

The husband is W1NNING! Now, get a post-nup.😂

[@DinSea19]

I sense a lot of bias from Dave when it's the man with the money issue vs the woman, why is that?

[@jimroscovius]

Because the Christian belief is that the man is the head of the household. That man is not!!

[@angel-ij4xv]

stay away from Dave he makes money off his listeners

[@stud6414]

Just like in the modern churches the preachers don't preach they just give motivational speeches to placate the women who give up 10% of their income. Dave's audience is primarily female.

[@Sheryl777]

@@angel-ij4xv You're too close to Dave if you're commenting on his videos.

[@jimroscovius]

@angel He hasn't made anything off me, except for a couple of books I've bought, so you must be a troll. Why are you even here?? Just leave already. We intelligent people don't need you.

[@hiteshadhikari]

*She spends all her money, he got tired of dealing with her bs, he seperated finances because she was digging a hole for both.* *Now she thinks he is saving money and thats her retirement too and hence she doesnt feel like she should be saving any, if i was the dude, i would have left long back* *Also Ramsey want to have joined finances but they don't understand why he seperated finances to begin with, that is the woman is a spender*

[@formula112967]

You already know that Dave always takes the womans side using religion as an excuse to put his Captian-Save-A-Ho cape on.

[@hiteshadhikari]

@@formula112967 Dave Simpsy and co

[@alinatamashevich3354]

She is planning a exit strategy, watch out guy.

[@JustinCase780]

Big time.

[@dougholdem2898]

If a couple isn't on the same page financially, it's going to be a problem. Two main marital issues, money and kids!

[@acausevic1]

He’s seeing that his savings is high and she’s broke he’s worried that he will be broke merging money with her. Better yet why are you married bro?

[@hiteshadhikari]

Because cheaper to keep her

[@mike125520002000]

How is she the victim? Wow

[@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303]

This is how important it is to have an EF. Just this year, I had to fix my car for like three separate reasons: check engine light, rotor replacement, and engine starting. I brought my car to this new repair shop because all others I had gone to had good reviews, but I felt they were giving me shoddy service and its like $500+ a visit. Right now, I am on baby step two, BUT I have like $7k in cash in various accounts. Crap happens. Always make sure you have $.

[@chrisk4053]

Congratulations on your emergency fund!! Yes while it’s inconvenient and maddening to have to spend on repairs- you don’t go into debt and also you don’t have to stress out!!

[@scottthompson3493]

Amen to this!

[@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303]

@@chrisk4053 The bad thing is, had I only had $1k in EF; I would not be able to afford the third visit. So you definitely need more than $1k before paying down debt.

[@morningglory5597]

So true. And your car can be in perfect running condition, and like us, someone steals your catalytic converter out of the blue. Getting that work done cost $3,700, and you have to pay up front to the mechanic, and then you get a check back from the insurance co. Always have an emergency fund.

[@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303]

@@morningglory5597 I am sorry to read this. I had a coworker who had this happen to them.

[@enoll812]

The lady got mad at the guys debt. So the guy made responsible choices and got his bills paid up and got a good job. Now the lady is mad the guy makes more money than her? She said dinner 5x a week and amazon purchases but she’s mad at her husband? This woman is dumb

[@stevegolacks8731]

You cant seperate finances in a marriage. NEVER ends well. She may have a spending problem, but the dude sounds like a loser. A real man doesnt follow this plan. If he didnt like how she spent, he shouldve never married her, and if he still thinks he is right then he should divorce her, but not play this game. This dude sounds like a frugal loser.

[@socketyellow3]

@@stevegolacks8731 she has a spending problem if she is living paycheck to paycheck with a salary of 100-250k. Her husband is still trying to get her to control her finances, but she is acting like a child and refuses to adult. Would you rather he lets her addiction grow with 250-500k+? No, his wife is acting stupid with money so she can’t have access to all of the money. Even Ramsey said the same thing in a older video, if she is “misbehaving with money she shouldn’t have unrestricted access to it”. Don’t know why he just looked at the separate finances and not that she’s been misbehaving with money for over 15 years

[@socketyellow3]

@@stevegolacks8731 I do agree finances shouldn’t be separate, but in this case she’s a addict

[@stevegolacks8731]

@@socketyellow3 , so he should leave her then. Thats my point. Separating finances is a band aid.

[@Evil-Rod-Farva]

Unfortunately she’s a garden variety American Suburbanite Princess. This country is crawling with them.

[@9liveslisa]

Yes. If you are married, it is very important to be on the same page and the same road. There is no point in being married if you are not.

[@screwdriver_bandit]

You can see Dave’s patience leaving him in real time while this girl gushes over Rachel who offered no help.

[@alex182618]

4:37 this is when Dave was supposed to ask her about her income and spending habits, instead he decided to....make conclusions. 4:50 "He is not respecting your ability to enjoy life" What a statement. Social media divas are telling us how to dress, how to travel, how to throw money away. Here is the guy who does not want to pay for it, and here is the radio host, who makes a lot of many by lecturing him.

[@rcairforceone]

What's so wild is how he tells people all the time to NOT do that- beans and rice, rice and beans.

[@tdgdbs1]

Dave has always have a soft spot for estrogen; it clouds his objectivity.

[@OGFOOD187]

Dave has simp tendencies

[@RegalRealEstateLLC]

Dave dropped the ball on this one...

[@rudra7615]

I think they got this wrong. Her husband is frugal and extremely good with his budget. She is the weak one, who spends and doesn't control budget like him. Why should he share his hard work? She clearly wants more of his saved budget now. Isn't it obvious he doesn't agree with her ways of saving and spending money? The solution to this isn't for him to go counseling or for him to share him. End of the day, people need to understand some people aren't compatible on certain things and that is fine. If he ends up sharing his with her, she isn't going to change and this is going to be a train wreck. Trust me, this man decided this cause of financial experience with this woman.

[@kratostomatoes8587]

She's a spender and didn't want to cut back. He said fine, enjoy your shitty financial situation. She realized she was wrong and wants a piece of his income again.

[@jimroscovius]

He's a jerk. He doesn't want to respect his wife. He just wants a roommate.

[@terriesmith2616]

​@@jimroscovius I tend to agree with you but not in this situation. It takes two in a relationship. If he's a jerk and wants a roommate, then she's also at fault for tolerating it. A man will get away with what his woman allows him to. She tolerates it, allows it, so it's partially her fault because it takes two in a relationship.

[@jimroscovius]

@@terriesmith2616 I agree with you on that. They need to work together!!

[@JustinCase780]

​​@@jimroscovius She said that they have always fought about money and mocked him for being so frugal. It takes two to tango.

[@jasonrodgers9063]

EXACTLY!

[@squanchy474]

To top it all off, going neutral down hill doesn’t save any gas in an automatic car (which most people now have), it uses ever so slightly more gas!

[@bigt1114]

She's spending money she doesn't..have!... that's not her husband's fault!.... Bc 1

[@Shay-yg7nm]

Sounds like she's the one whose irresponsible. 🤷

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

Sometimes you have to get what you think you want to realize its not what you wanted.

[@AvalonMisty]

good wrap up Rachel!

[@freakymrq]

Just to be clear, going into neutral while going down a hill uses more gas then if you stayed in gear with your foot off the gas lmao

[@clintperry799]

Run dude run !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@bik3r230]

So they combine finaces so when they divorce she gets more YAY

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[@dianabinkowski3927]

Hubby and I joined our income but we split our bills according to our percentage of income. I made more than he did so bills were split accordingly. I made 60% of our total income so I paid 60% of the bills. It worked for us. Yes, we had a budget and lived well below our means. I had my fun money and so did he.

[@CraftyComeLately]

IF you're going to split your bills, you should pay proportion based on income. If he makes twice as much, he pays 2/3 of all the essential bills.

[@aljuarez8877]

She would still be in the same boat, more money to buy shit on Amazon.

[@littlesongbird1]

Agreed but amazon shopping and take out 5 times a week are not essential. I can see why hubby may be a little pissed off as I have been in his shoes. He probably wouldn't mind contributing more if she was better with money but feels taken advantage of if he has to pay everything and she gets to spend her money willy nilly.

[@latimer442]

It should be proportionate to the spending

[@bulls-nation5783]

I agree. We split the bills based on salary weight. Makes it fair.

[@jo4285]

I thought women wanted equal rights! 50/ 50. !

[@General_Zod99]

always keep finances seperate. period

[@eliburry6572]

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[@404TRUCKERTV]

She's hard headed!

[@johngoncalves4665]

She’s the problem and Dave knows it

[@rnt45t1]

She is not a good advertisement for any single man to ever get married. Absolutely not. Walk away, men.

[@Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries]

Well, if he gives her access she's just gonna blow thru the money. Seen it time and again. She said "I see the light now Dave! Now give me access to all the money!" 🤣😂 she acknowledges HE paid off his massive student loans while she can't even make progress on her debt. So who's the problem here? If I was her I'd keep my trap shut and be thankful my doctor husband will deal with my BS while he's basically saving the family and their finances. She's on thin ice. There are alot of women out there who would LOVE to be in her situation and more than happy to take her place. He'll ease up if she can consistently quit acting like a child and maybe cook once in a while.

[@RegalRealEstateLLC]

You read it exactly right. I have been in this situation and it is rare for spendthrifts to change. It is based on some sort of character flaw.

[@PersnameLastname]

When HE was making less, she was okay with splitting the money. Now HE makes more, she wants another thing. Then she goes to the DR show hoping for some sympathy

[@dalefrolander3583]

I had an ex like her. Once we divorced I was amazed at how much more money I had without someone else spending it all on stupid stuff.

[@loveubye2288]

This is financial abuse, divorce and take half.

[@BusArch42]

My parents did this. My mom was unable and unwilling to control her spending. My dad reacted by being insanely frugal to the point that us kids were malnourished as teens. I have permanent low bone density thanks to not getting vitamin D milk to drink.

[@diegutenroten]

No vitamin D in milk...

[@jo4285]

Thats me! My wife loves spending while I’m the one saving for our retirement and I was the one that paid off the mortgage! SMH

[@BusArch42]

@@jo4285 my dads fear was he would die first and she would spend herself into poverty. I had to promise to move her to a house nearby and control her spending if he died. She actually predeceased him though. I learned to envelope budget at age 14 because he was gone for a month for work. He put me in charge of their finances while he was gone. I had to tell her every week how much she was allowed to spend. Pretty sad when your 14 year old is more self disciples than her mom!

[@mamajojoworld798]

I don’t like when my daddy Dave does this. Dave does not hold most of his female callers accountable. He drags the husbands. I am a woman. I advocate for women but honestly , this woman needs to do better , take financial peace classes and manage her money. She also appears to not know her worth. Why is she going Dutch/ 50/50 with her pharmacist husband who earns twice her income? She is a spender, spends everything that comes in, shopping on Amazon every day, ordering , I can imagine the number of recycled boxes. Ups, FedEx, DHL , the pst office are tired delivering packages. She gets the most packages delivered in her neighborhood. I don’t blame her husband for keeping finances separately. I don’t like what some women do this. They agree to 50/50 knowing their husbands earn more. When they are unable to pay a bill, they call Dave to make their husbands look bad. Sister woman to woman , stop all that shopping. Go and take those classes and talk to your husband. Apologize for not managing your money and start combining finances. Why are you eating out five days a week when you can cook at home? Don’t be a lazy woman. Cook for the family. You husband is not abusing you to justify your cooking strike. Live your wage sister. You have a good husband to me. Put your acts together before you lose this good man.

[@young5ive426]

Dave constantly give women a pass. She’s the problem not the husband. He separated accounts because she didn’t know how to stop spending money 😂

[@lorrainea.285]

I want to hear HIS side of the story!!! The fact that she said “bills were always paid” says a lot!! Sounds like she is a HUGE spender & justifies it by saying the bills are taken care of. IF SO then WHYYY was the checking account always zero when their incomes were combined. Ma’am YOU are the problem!!!!!

[@joeriveracomedy]

Because her husband is smart

[@Enginshim]

A pharmacists house living paycheck to paycheck 😬

[@johnSmith-uz8nl]

When money is the issue... you need a budget. The hard part is to convince both parties to use it... not that simple. And some people are just to hard headed and will never change. Others may change, but it is doubtful. Then there are savers... like me and my wife who will probably never budget, we don't go out to often (1 x week cause we can afford it) and we use credit cards and pay our bills on time. We are at the stage of our life where we are trying to build wealth.

[@lisaowen7617]

Is Dave drawing during the beginning of this call? 😂

[@latimer442]

4:57 He's not respecting your ability to enjoy life and his frugality is creating resentment. Ummmm...how about she's not respecting his ability to plan for their future and provide for the family? And her spending is probably creating far more resentment than his ability to save. She is just resentful that he is tired of bailing her out of her own stupidity.

[@gp3012]

😅 she’s 100% the problem

[@livingunashamed4869]

She's going to be ok. If a divorce happens yeah half his stuff is now hers.

[@J-wu8sc]

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[@amireallythatgrumpy6508]

Actually, it all belongs to the court.

[@DanielGarcia-zz9eg]

She has bad money habit and the man is tried of it. Separate accounts shows proof she is the problem. I be mad if my spouse was spending all my hard earn money and have nothing to show. Separate shows she needs to cut back. I tell u this much, i have Separate accounts and it works. It shows my wife not to spend. Its not fair when 1 person works hard and the other has fun. No no no. Control your spending

[@newguyguy2578]

People got to discuss finances BEFORE they marry! Its not good to find out later a person is a major spender of wasting money.

[@andreatorraca8755]

Not a team…….sad……like to hear his side……..🤔

[@BridgeStamford]

I love Dave

[@antoniotiberi1569]

They are heading for a divorce

[@NoName-jm4ev]

He makes double what you make and he paid off his student loans and had a hefty savings, seems very financially stable and responsible. You are the problem. You are spending way over your means and the fact that you me mention Amazon shopping , I'll bet anything he is not the one shopping at the Amazon. She just want more of his money to spend..good for him for realizing what's happening.

[@acausevic1]

I’m glad I’m not the only one that caught onto this. Yet you have these white knights defending her. I love Dave’s money advice but his marriage advice doesn’t benefit men in 2023.

[@NoName-jm4ev]

@@acausevic1 buraz I've saying this for ever, no matter what the wife does Dave is on her side. It's always husband's fault. Dave blames the husbands for not doing more, not having a second or a third job or changing careers to bring more money while every time the wife is the one who is a stay at home mom, doing absolutely nothing while complaining that they don't have money. Dave is extremely biased in favor of wifes staying home.

[@acausevic1]

@@NoName-jm4ev I’m glad more men are realizing this and I wouldn’t have an issue supporting a good wife but one where the laws don’t favor women. You can’t divorce me under no fault BS. Take half of what I earned to support the family because you’re “bored”. Marrying in the west is a death trap for most men and for the others it’s walking on eggshells. No broad will ever have that kind of power over me under the government protection. Pozdrav!

[@NoName-jm4ev]

@@acausevic1 well said ..zivio

[@MrOfficer235]

Shes the spender. Sell the wife

[@jbnavarrete]

Nooo!, keep your finances separate. Don’t need a wife or girlfriend carelessly spending money irresponsibly.

[@ginoturano6821]

Sounds like her plan backfired

[@FreeAgent797]

I just hope for his sake she doesnt try to divorce him and try to get half. She's a mess...smh

[@pnwflipper2089]

I wonder what this lady thought they were going to say when she called.

[@patty109109]

She is horrific with money, and after six years he got sick of trying to correct her. She is the problem here.

[@sharonkornegay-shaw6076]

Did she help him pay off his student loan? Who was paying bills while he was in Pharmacy school? A lot left out here to me.

[@SirD1]

Ms, if no told you, you are NOT in a marriage, you are in a situationship!

[@jimmymcgill6778]

Sounds like she was spending all the money. That's why it's separate. But yet they still blame the husband?

[@DoctorSmartyPants]

In this caller's case, yes. Not in all cases must all finances be combined.

[@abcdlilbit11]

Feel like she leaving out details. Can’t believe they punished him, while basically saying she’s not in the wrong.

[@abcdlilbit11]

Well they basically shit on him for getting out of debt and preparing for his future. They never asked what her debt was, or how much. She still has it pretty easy, only having to pay for half of her living expenses. I bet it would be hard to just all the sudden have trust in a partner, after years and years of horrible spending habits, and terrible life choices. She’s probably racked up thousands of consumer debt because she doesn’t have any discipline with money. And now because she’s feeling the noose of those choices, and read a book on money. He’s supposed to just trust her and pretend it didn’t happen.

[@RegalRealEstateLLC]

Yep. They coddled this spendthrift lady who is not giving the whole story. She's hiding the details. My guess, is this. He still loves her so he asked her to pay a proportionate amount based on their combined income. Let's say she make 25% of the total income so pays 25% of all bills. She is paying 25% of the bills and spends the rest of her money because she is a spendthrift. She has no money left at the end of the month. If they had combined finances, like Dave and daughter suggest, she would spend all of their money and they would BOTH be broke and he would have no loans paid off.

[@adamseidel9780]

Interesting for hardline Dave to admit he’s the natural spender

[@jennyberger6688]

Dave the grandfather I never got. Thank God so much for him and his team! I love you al so much! You’ve helped so much

[@genxx2724]

I had a wonderful grandfather. But Dave is a good father/uncle/grandfather to all of us.

[@InsideJobGM]

Husband makes 2x what the wife does but wants her to pay 1/2 the bills…good deal for him, no wonder he doesn’t want to change things.

[@ed5952]

she didnt want to pay for his students loans, now she was in again but that relationship is done, she just hasn't realized it yet

[@fedguy9182]

She said they split bills not necessarily 50/50. More likely proportional to their incomes

[@mikesmith-wk7vy]

They need to get together make a budget together and she needs to promise to stick to it even if they have to go to the envelope system

[@ed5952]

They already divorced, but girl does not get it yet

[@k20z3keith7]

So now that he paid off his loans and banking the pharmacy money, she wants back in? Sounds like a healthy marriage... vows mean through thick and thin and this woman only wants to be there when things are good.

[@stevenp25100]

He's benefitted from her paying half the bills alot

[@mukhtargafar628]

Am not a fan of having a joint account

[@skyrobin4008]

Divorce in the future. what’s the point of being with someone if it’s you versus that other person? So he sees his wife struggling and does nothing? With his career I’m sure he can afford to help his wife out and it’s sad it’s considered “help”

[@colmwhateveryoulike3240]

It's one, albeit major, pragmatic concern that doesn't have much to do with why people fall in love but often has a lot to do with why they fall apart. So I would say the points of being together still exist and should motivate fixing this so it's not the point of divorce.

[@michaelleahy6848]

can she be a good shepherd if a larger amount, or is the concern she will be unable to avoid draining the account? does he have childhood experience with money which informs his actions?

[@DinSea19]

She basically admitted she's horrible with money, so was probably sabotaging their financial future and he put a stop to it.

[@bryannelson7612]

Good let her struggle

[@sammorreale3372]

Shouldn't she just admit that she's in a bad marriage? It's time to fish or cut bait!!!!!!

[@Perryspowerhousefitness]

Sounds like shes the issue

[@computer-training-for-seniors]

Dave, my mummy and daddy won't buy me a new Lamborghini. What should I do?

[@Foxie635]

Not fun for one with lower income to have separate account

[@sobeliever1638]

They split the bills yey she had no money left. What does she fo with her money while he has a nice savings account and no student loans? The man is so smart. She sucks at finances. She needs to listen to her husband more.

[@kleindropper]

The guy probably has an inkling he's getting taken to the cleaners in a divorce soon and is cutting off any further investment into the marriage. He is already facing a lifetime of alimony, so why help her with her debt too?

[@christinebutler7630]

Times have changed. Child support is a thing, yes, but alimony is rarely given any more and when it is it is only for a very,.very limited time. People are expected to get off their hineys and go to work.

[@txkid92]

There's a reason why the husband is the head

[@brianmott9010]

Drizzle drizzle my friends. Drizzle drizzle

[@auburnanger6679]

This sounds like he is being responsible and she isnt. If she budgets better then together they will be great. But i can understand why he'd want separate finances.

[@hojo85]

There is no mathematical benefit to joining bank accounts

[@kenyattaknox5163]

Does Dave have a band aide on his head?? 🧐

[@High5748]

ZOMG! It's not Dave it's an alien call MIB agent K

[@jasonrodgers9063]

He's morphing into a unicorn. !