Anxiety, Worry, and What-If's: Rewiring Anxiety Through Intentional Risk Assessment: Acceptable Risk

[@abijcj]

"your life is more than avoiding fear" - LOVE this quote

[@zudabenhur]

As someone who struggles with anxiety, and for someone who has seen hundreds of videos and channels on anxiety and depression, I can safely say this channel tops the chart. The quality of the content is the best one out there. Thank you so much Emma, for sharing your experience and knowledge. Wish you all the best! God bless.

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Thanks so much!

[@Dbiss]

100% agreed!!!

[@juliecrockett6394]

I agree!

[@michellegambo1053]

I agree.💜

[@rolguin8115]

Yes. I have been recommended as well.

[@nathantrudgill5057]

The THOUGHT of doing something you don't want to do, is much harder than DOING something that you don't want to do

[@Moshe.hersh.berkowitz]

I like this statement it's 100% true it helps me thanks

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

YES!

[@nathantrudgill5057]

@@Moshe.hersh.berkowitz you're welcome

[@hgg324]

Absolutely. The fear of doing the thing becomes worse than just doing the thing!

[@rehanfarooqui2071]

shout out jordan peterson

[@saffloweroyl3663]

Anxiety has been my life companion. Two years of caring for myself and an elder through Covid19 set off all my alarms and froze me. Scared all the time. Seeing danger everywhere. Twitched through 2 years of Prepping because, well, all my alarms were going off. I fossilized out of fear. In order to fully engage in the world again, I needed a jolt, a jumpstart, gimme the paddles. I took the biggest 24 hour chance I could manage to get that JOLT. I put on a glorious 12-pound beaded ball gown and antler crown, flew to Los Angeles (bless you Southwest for all the fun) and saw the Rammstein show with 50,000 strangers. Never did I know the power of camouflage. I'm still feeling a deep internal satisfaction that I did it, felt the fear, thought it through and did it. I did it.

[@craigfoulkes]

Well done for feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

[@alesmonggo2112]

Also, don't blame yourself no matter the result. Life is multiple of tests and errors. Its not the end of eveything

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

yeah! just put your very best out there!

[@dave1927p]

Be accountable for your mistakes, learn from them and move forward

[@oddlilbird]

I’m in that cycle of regret right now. Thanks for your comment. I’ll redirect my energy and thoughts to accepting what is and to moving forward

[@Helen-nl9lv]

Thank you. I really needed to hear that this evening. I have made so many mistakes.

[@suzannegilman7748]

@@dave1927p no

[@JohnM...]

Don't you just LOVE this channel?

[@coleman6203]

Thank you for your videos Emma. I am 56 years old and I've let fear and anxiety run and ruin my life. I've wasted my entire life but i'm hoping to have a better future.

[@bwinkle2915]

Me too, sadly enough

[@coleman6203]

@@bwinkle2915 ❤

[@sussannekeith5676]

I am right there with you as I let the what ifs kill some dreams.

[@coleman6203]

@@sussannekeith5676 ♥

[@catherinewalker9440]

Me

[@reallifepsych3309]

“it’s all about making international choices with acceptable risks.” exactly, let’s take control of our lives and lose the regrets/what ifs which only slow us down

[@jenjackson3034]

I have struggled with anxiety my whole life but it has recently become unmanageable and I know that everything you have said in this video is 100% true. There is no pill or therapeutic technique out there that can make the decision for me to step into the fear instead of constantly avoid it. Thank you for mentioning your own anxiety with making these videos. I am constantly saying things like "its easy for the person without anxiety to say x, y and z" It brought tears to my eyes to know that you GET IT and that this advice is sound.

[@DrMaikaSteinborn]

"It's so easy to get wrapped up in all the what-ifs." 🌿 I love your videos, Emma! 🍃

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Yay! Thank you!

[@lalavargo]

I'm a nurse and have recently been overcome by health anxiety. I need to get back to work but feel so triggered about being with patients. I really need help with this. Thank you for the tip to not completely avoid it but gradually get back in:)

[@Thegardenhose]

Running works wonders for me. Push your body to release built up energy

[@instanttherapy]

You need to change your triggers and make each trigger more passive and calming and satisfying.

[@bwinkle2915]

Breathing and mindfulness has been a game changer for me. Watching Emma’s videos have been so informative with things I had never heard of before. I have suffered anxiety and panic with avoidance for over 40 years. Slowly now things are settling and I’m making my way in a different manner due to understanding my body and what I can do to alter my learned behaviour. Good luck

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Check out TMS Dr Sarno's book or Dan Buglio on KZbin

[@timothyf.4543]

Your a Nurse!Hello,go to your provder.Asking someone onlie?Really,your a Nurse?

[@Angels_Are_Real]

We all love you, Emma! 💞

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

awwwww

[@bejamii2048]

OH my lord, you just made me realise something. "when you avoid something that feels dangerous but is actually safe". That is so awakening :D

[@offgridwithakid1503]

Climbing is amazing as an anxiety medication. It's both physical, so gets the heart pounding and the chemicals released, but also quite meditative. It focuses your mind on the problem at hand, and nothing else. I can honestly say, in 25 years of climbing, I've never worried about paying the bills, whilst halfway up a route.

[@Louisemel902]

I work in mental health and I've been recommending this video to my patients, but I've also felt the benefits myself! Sometimes I suffer from driving anxiety and will actively avoid driving for weeks at a time, which exacerbates the anxiety, so I really needed this video to give me a kick up the butt!

[@salligriffin7938]

I'm suffering anxiety about driving for a month? Why? Never had an accident. I'm with you ❤️‍🩹

[@chrisrhinehart45]

Me to what are you practicing when that moment happens

[@lyrav1528]

The difference you're making in the world is not small. I'm a teacher. Not only the tools you're giving me are making me a better one, but I'm also starting to teach the tools themselves. I am one viewer; I reach around one hundred kids a year and will do so, fingers crossed, for another 30 years. Who knows to how many people these kids will pass on these new skills. I don't want to worry you, but the difference you're making is in no way a small one :)

[@pressurewashingandhoodcleaning]

this message its so inspiring. i suffer from anxiety since i was 18.im 37 now. and what you talk about here is what i literally go through . im going to listen to this untill it gets ingraved in my amigdala

[@kalinmareus8540]

I said the same thing when I watched this video..lol.. Now I have this video on repeat.. Gotta watch it once a week.. Thanks..

[@edieann8330]

Thank you for videos Emma. I'm in an anxiety forum and I love to recommend your channel. So many people can't afford therapy, or have a preconceived notion what therapy is. You provide a good starting point for them. Your helping so many people. God bless you for your kindness.

[@anandsharma7430]

For people who struggle with chronic anxiety due to constant triggers from the same few sources, it is very very good idea to shift your location away from the place where those triggers arise for a while. If that is possible. If you're job is the source, try finding a new job. If your neighbourhood and people there are the source, change the neighbourhood for some time. If your studies are the source, then, if possible change the course for a short while. This temporary change let's your brain get a breather and a real perspective on what is real and what is imagined. When you move away from the triggers of your anxiety, you can identify exactly what is the real part of the danger, what is the perceived part and you can do this peacefully in the absence of the perceived danger. However, if you cannot distance yourself, the best remaining option is to go crazy and face your fears. Often you find that there are no real dangers where you perceived them to be. Finally, there is a universal fact - there is no remedy for misfortune. If it has to strike, it will whenever it does. If you live in fear of everything going wrong, well, those things will go wrong AND you will have lived in fear when they had not yet gone wrong. So the best way to handle misfortune or bad luck is to be happy as much as you can and only suffer just as much as is unavoidable.

[@foleysdogtraining1151]

Great video (my therapist assigned it as homework). As a dog trainer, here's what I recommend for people who are afraid of dogs. Check your local library to see if they have a therapy dog that visits. They are SUPER CHILL dogs who are trained to sit or lay down next to kids so the kid can read stories to them. It builds the kid's confidence in their reading (because a dog is patient while you sound out words and won't correct you if you're wrong). But for adults who are afraid of dogs, you are guaranteed to have a dog that has been temperament tested and will hang out by your side and not interact with you unless you want it to.

[@bethrees7468]

I have never felt so understood or been supported by such logical, actionable & grounded advice. Your calm, positive, humble & non-judgmental approach feels like a safe place to grow from. You make my mountain seem like it could (one day) be just another molehill. Living with an anxiety disorder makes me feel isolated, confused, undesirable & unfixable, but your videos are a glimmer of hope. Thank you for being such a good teacher & for helping people to navigate the mysterious terrain of the human mind. What you do is so important & appreciated. 🙏🏻💕

[@cellcoremax1]

I love that you picked climbing as an example. I'm a pretty anxious person when it comes to doing things out of my comfort zone, but I'm so fascinated with climbing. I don't know why, it just seems inviting.

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Climbing is an amazing physical, mental, and philosophical exercise, you should try it! Its honestly very "good" for anxiety, by helping you go through healthy anxiety and then release it.

[@debbiesivertson817]

Thank you for your wise words! And, on a side note, your voice calms me down 😊!

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

cool! thanks :)

[@sharonandrews4628]

I agree with Debbie , you have a very calming voice and a brilliant way of explains things . Thank you Emma

[@dalenjurgens6751]

Yep nice voice!

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

👏One important step in reversing the anxiety cycle is gradually confronting feared situations. If you do this, it will lead to an improved sense of confidence, which will help reduce your anxiety and allow you to go into situations that are important to you.

[@Moshe.hersh.berkowitz]

Thank you very much for your comment I will use it before any situation I will read you comment. thanks again

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

yes.

[@puffymuffin9064]

When ever i go out my brain goes into over drive it start thinking all sorts I never was like this.

[@s.d.a.d.r8538]

👍👍👍👍

[@jasmineoliva3690]

I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS SO MUCH! Thank you for helping me, I have been struggling with anxiety since last year. I live in fear now. I was never like this. Watching videos like this makes me feel like my emotions are real and I can get help.

[@kileybueler8295]

You are the only person who has been able to help me after multiple therapists and so many books, videos, ect for over 15 years and you made it so simple and I finally understand that I was actually making myself worse! I wish this knowledge was widely known before but I'm so grateful for you and your videos! You are truly talented at helping people and I just wanted to say thank you ❤️

[@anxietylab9126]

Thank you for this. I have to work hard to focus on the positive as well as the negative. I think it is a skill that can be learned. These methods do work with practice. Never give up y'all!

[@homenhungry4987]

You are so great, Emma.... I'm here cleaning the living room, and I turned you on TV to hear your voice, and you're just smiling ear to ear saying, "Today, we're in my garden...." So great.... Thank you for being you, and for helping us through this..... ❤️

[@ellajocelynn2875]

as someone who is constantly thinking of the what ifs and is going through a very stressed and busy few months which makes the thoughts worse , i feel seen cause within the first 2 minutes you said everything that i felt and i didnt feel crazy anymore. I think im crying tears of joy because ofc this happen at 11:30 pm on a school night which makes it all the worse but i really appreciate this.

[@Ms.Mel.Creates]

Thank you for all that you do. I don’t think you can ever fully know the difference you make.

[@jillarchi4920]

I love your approach to the subject of anxiety! Take control of my life is empowering for me!! Thank you!!

[@genevrajean1658]

You're really good at these videos. I would have never thought it caused you anxiety. I've been watching them daily and they have really helped with my anxiety and how I think 💗.

[@KRAZEEIZATION]

Good to see you again. My anxiety is a pretty small part of my life now thanks to great professionals like you.

[@puffymuffin9064]

Which mine was small in my life

[@launacasey6513]

I'd say if a dog is known to be somewhat aggressive or unpredictable, keep your distance. I was attacked by a dog a few years ago - I was entering the dog's home and it was known that this dog had issues. I didn't go into the situation with anxiety, even though I struggle with anxious thoughts. I love dogs, my best friend of 14 years was my dog, but this attack definitely made me more cautious. I started asking the owners if their dog was friendly before approaching. Luckily the situation only left me with a scar - it didn't create crippling anxiety. But I can totally identify with how avoidance and anxiety can make your world very small and limited. It's worth it to do the work to get ahead of it.

[@rossanajooste4360]

Hi. I would like to thank you, for assisting me to overcome anxiety. I have been set free. Continue with the great work!

[@marinan.9814]

I have batteling agorapobia (panic attacks were never mentiond to me when i went trough all checkings for "what is wrong with me" and i left thinking i have some desease unknown to croatian doctors) and usually,my "symptoms" started being unbearable trough fall and winter..and now.. I started to go out, and tbh, this woman helped me so much i can only pray to God He bless her, but i still have huge anxiety and flashbacks of hospitals as soon as summer pass by. If anyone have gone trough sth similar, i would appreciate your experience of how you delt with it. GB

[@instanttherapy]

I'd like to add that the more you talk about it, think about it and fear it, the more power you give it and THAT'S when it controls you. Change your focus. This is why yoga helps. Hard to focus on anything else when you're concentrating on breathing and maintaining a pose instead. Remember, you may think you're a multitasker but your brain can only focus on one thing at a time. So change the focus. Find something relaxing instead of focusing more on when your next anxiety attack will happen.

[@roschanvargonay9820]

My suggestion is: If you are afraid of dogs and want to change that, try to find a dog trainer who is willing to let you attend the lessons without having a dog of your own. Especially the lessons for very young puppies (Welpenschule in German; „puppy school“). You will not be overwhelmed by the rough „teenager“ dogs or even bigger ones. And you will learn a lot about dog behaviour that will help you interprete this behaviour and act accordingly if you see a dog. I have been afraid of dogs since my childhood. Then I changed my job a few years ago. In the new company dogs were allowed in the office. So I had to overcome my fear. Today I have 2 medium sized dogs of my own and do not have the least fear any more. I learned the signals that dogs send, when to retreat, when to approach a.s.o. In my case taking the risk has opened up a lot of new experiences and getting connectedcwith other dog lovers. Absolutely worth it.

[@jonnyaesthetic]

You are one of the coolest most down to earth and relatable therapist I've ever seen! Thank you for this video!

[@johns-mylifesmagic4774]

A work colleague, a couple of years back, encouraged me to focus more upon choosing 'what's right for you' as compared to always putting myself last in the hierarchy of choices. I've tried to enable that approach since then. In this talk, I found the use of 'statistical outcomes' as a decision/choice enhancing tool to be really helpful. :)

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Love that!

[@lexarey9479]

Wow... to be honest ..there is something I've been needing to face for the past 12 years of my life..I can't say what it is but rationally its such a stupid thing but emotionally its been torture..I have chronic anxiety because of it and I have basically cut myself off from my family because of it...I miss out on events and even avoid social situations because of it.... but this video has really inspired me to do something about it...I can't live my life in fear of what might happen while missing out on what could be the most important part of my life... it however does have something to do with unresolved ptsd ..but anyway..thank you for this video..its gonna be hard ..but its the only way for me to break free from this circuitous route of anxiety and avoidance..I thank

[@puffymuffin9064]

Me you together really you can't live all the time in fear if this and if that one step at a time im sure i will get there

[@bezuidenhoutreclaimworks7407]

You saved me. Im even not taking my anxiety meds any more.

[@silva10oli]

There's nothing wrong, or worse than expectations which are somehow like they're not gonna happen; and most of the time the real problem is right insede and hid on the deepest parts of our BEINGS. Your work is great 👏👏👏

[@mohammedwasimaltaf3851]

All I can say is "Love you for this video" It may potentially change my life for better & for ever. Thanks a ton.. May God bless you.

[@Samrules4ever]

Emma, my "friend" ended our friendship maybe because she felt that I was as worthless as your analogy of the milk to you. "It wasn't worth the time and energy to overcome the fear (of going out)....+ The cost on my life was so low." That's what hurts.... someone who is suffering from anxiety doesn't care that he/she is hurting others. Our feelings matter too. I hope those who are suffering from anxiety will watch your video, and take your advice to conquer their fears. They need to know that they don't have to face their fears alone. Let people around them help them.

[@puffymuffin9064]

I let someone help me to get out but I need to do more now like do things

[@Samrules4ever]

@@puffymuffin9064 I am very proud of you. It's not easy to conquer one's fears but your selflessness and your willingness to do something for yourself and for others is impressive. Do enjoy your life - those who care about you do care but if they mess up, don't take it the wrong way. We are humans and make mistakes. Nobody's perfect but striving to be better each day is key to a good life.

[@litadex]

I felt very anxious after I had kids... I was thinking all the time what if I go outside and someone kidnaps my baby, I spent 10 years with what ifs I hurt myself isolated and I hurt my family with my constant anxiety. Finally after 10 years I looked for help and I'm doing more and more stuff, I finally knowing more people and feeling at home here in the U.S. THANK YOU FOR YOUR VIDEOS!

[@joenelzayas]

I’ve always had health anxiety. Since I was young. More recently in life I’ve been dealing with actual health issues and it makes me super anxious because I’m u sure what the real fears are versus the made up ones

[@AvGXXX]

Same. Thinking of you.

[@MorganLeighMiller]

I hope everyone can one day completely overcome unnecessary anxiety. Its so hard to do but I am sure it can be done. Thanks for your video! Also your example of "am I going to get covid from my groceries". I was thinking should I clean my groceries??? Like use a lysol wipe on everything and then wash fruit with soap and water? Then I thought I cant do this to myself, I am going to make myself crazy.

[@marlene18g]

Thank you for reminding me I have the power and control of my thoughts! Super helpful.

[@deadmanwalking2572]

Some feel risk or extreme risk is their way of feeling safe. Nothing left to loose.

[@donnadobbs6589]

My world has gotten very small due to anxiety, its so bad that I'm struggling to go from Ireland to the UK to pick up my sons dads ashes its been 3 yrs now since he died , my eldest son wants me to go visit him in Berlin but the anxiety around airports and flying is very high , iv even developed anxiety around food , this video is so helpful, I will keep listening to it

[@elwiwi69]

This video changed my life

[@SayStephanie]

You are such an interesting, fascinating person! Thank you for letting us in your life and sharing such helpful tips!

[@emilycornwall6198]

Thank you so much for making the videos you do!

[@tommygoncalves9569]

This video hits different. I’ve been socially isolated and facing extreme depression. I’ve been wanting to reach out to my friends that I haven’t talked to in sooo long. I’ve been avoiding it, and my anxiety has increased soo much. Sleepless nights. This vid is so eye opening

[@chocojavachip]

Emma, can you make a video dedicated to Covid anxiety in light of delta variant amidst society (schools, businesses) opening up more? How to live with more risk than you feel is safe?

[@nicoleonfeels]

Hahah my brain is SO extra. Thank you for shedding light on this. 🤗

[@dalenjurgens6751]

A MOST helpful video here. I am struggling with the notion of driving in a big city, going cross country to be with someone. Thank you for this video!

[@marciodossantos9625]

Thank you again! Nothing better than walk up Saturday morning and watch your video. 🙏🙏 Thank you Thank you

[@gigipm3383]

I appreciate you sharing your own experiences

[@dee2022uk]

Thank you, this is v helpful. This week I have been experiencing a lot of anxiety with work. It started off with me questioning some advice that I have during a call, to the extent that I was worrying afterwards. I think this set the tone for the rest of the week, and I was having difficulty sleeping. I had a good night sleep last night but I’m still waking up worrying about different things, and it has led to a change in my behaviour also e.g, eating more, watching lots things to distract my mind.

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

rough week! I would spend time writing or diagramming your worries...something about getting them on paper can help your brain work through them.

[@dee2022uk]

@@TherapyinaNutshell thank you I will write my worries down and break things down to get more out of my head.

[@freeiran4885]

I’ve found this channel recently and I am loving it! Thank you 🙏 😍

[@megandelanoit5246]

Your videos have a big positive impact in my world! Thank you so much for making them!!!!

[@TorringtonFernandopulle]

The way you explaining is very understandable and clear, thank you very much for the valuable lessons 🙏

[@TYGZus777]

When I was 10 years old our family went on vacation in the mountains. My cousins and I went hiking up into the mountains near our cabin. One of my cousins was behind his sister but in front of me. In the process of climbing, his sister loosened a rock which fell into his esophagus and he began to choke. We all gathered around to try to help him, trying to turn him up side down and pounding on his back. The rock finally came up. I learned at that moment: Always climb with your mouth closed!

[@candycewindels1337]

Therapy in a Nutshell. My humble opinion, your videos make a big difference. Bravo to you for putting this out there even though it makes you anxious. I am working on getting stronger and being able to do more of the things that scare me which after 15 years of dealing with this is a lot. Lol.

[@taniav3283]

Im glad that u are making these videos, u are helping see the light. Thank so much. Please continue the videos.

[@arjunmrao4039]

Awesome video madam..very well analysed and explained...risk management , weighing the costs etc ..

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Thanks a lot!

[@arjunmrao4039]

@@TherapyinaNutshell I am so happy that YOU reply particularly to my messages .. Your videos are awesome ..

[@micro_adVANtures]

I spent thirty years as a full contact martial artist, I enjoyed the intense daily 2hour sessions. If I could not make a session I would self impose a punishment run of between 6 and 8 miles (I did not at the time see it as a punishment run). I thrived on being the best in my weight category, I welcomed the pain from injury and trained through it. Last year aged 52 I was diagnosed with autism and unusual sensory processing needs. Who knew?! The pain was and still is a form of self centering, to feel connected with the world. At 53 now I have not participated in martial arts for a number of years and since then have suffered deep dark depression each time spanning a number of years, costing me employment, relationships, marriage and health.

[@oxfordhappy]

Not a small difference - a huge difference

[@sheetalsoni7037]

Facing your fear gonna remove you anxiety!!.. thanks a lot for sharing

[@Swansue]

Of all the psychology videos these are sincerely the best.

[@rachelgarbe3932]

Why, scientifically, does avoiding things cause more anxiety? It is soooooo true!!!!

[@kwilson5832]

Thank you Emma. I have had problems getting myself in to 'What if?' anxiety loops for a long time, although I never really associated them with anxiety. I knew I was indecisive and wanted to make sure that I made the best decision for myself. However, I had a REALLY costly episode four years ago. I was looking to buy my first home and had just inherited some money so was in a great financial position. But I couldn't decide between location 'A' (where I was living, and near where my job would probably be moving to in a couple of years), and location 'B' (where my job was already based). Each time I saw a property in location 'A', I would wonder 'but what if location 'B' will be better?' and vice versa. My head knew I should go for 'A', but I was more emotionally attached to 'B'. I just wasn't thinking rationally and ended up not making a decision. I completely forgot that prices were likely to increase and that the longer I took to make a decision, the worse it would be. When the housing market went crazy during covid, I just knew that I couldn't cope with the anxiety of bidding wars etc. I'm now priced out of the market at 'A' and can't afford much at 'B', but I'm having to buy somewhere as I've been made homeless. Prices are now forecast to fall, so I'm even more depressed and anxious. My long-term relationship has ended as a result of me not making a decision, so I am devastated. In hindsight, i don't think I actually answered my 'What if?' questions. If I had, my decision would have been made for me. When I saw a property in 'A', I should have thought 'if I buy this and my job stays at 'B', my commute will be a 40 minute car journey. It's what I'm doing already and in the opposite direction to most traffic. I'll be living near my girlfriend (and she wants me to buy at 'A'), friends and church. When I saw a property at 'B', I should have thought 'If I buy this and my job moves to 'A', I'll be living 25 miles from my girlfriend, friends and church, the commute is a nightmare, as it's in the same direction as most other traffic, from a commuter town to a city centre. Driving will be stressful so I'll have to catch the bus, so will be dependent on their timetables and reliability. The commute in that direction takes at least 90 minutes each way. Just from answering the questions, it seems clear now, as I look at it rationally that I should have chosen 'A'. It's probably worth thinking about the worst case scenario that would happen with each choice as well. Remind yourself that if you don't make the decision then it will be made for you, and it will probably be the worst case scenario, but with worse terms than if you had picked it yourself. Another possibility is to talk with a trusted friend about the decision, as they will be able to consider it rationally, without the emotional attachment that you have yourself.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

Aw, that's too bad that you got in that tailspin. The appeal of a certain property might have helped make the decision for me too. It was likely better to go w/ what the commute will be now. There's just too much chance you'd stay at that job or find another in that area.

[@timmerred5]

I’m definitely finding your videos helpful. Thank you Emma!

[@mschrisfrank2420]

Ironically, I was actually almost bitten by a dog when I was three. I was afraid of dogs for a few years after that; but 30 years later, I’ve never had another problem with a dog. I even really like them.

[@sb8010]

Your content is brilliant. The best on KZbin by far. So insightful and helpful. You are amazing.! 😊

[@lailaburkardt9602]

You are a such a blessing! I want to thank you wholeheartedly for the videos and love you share!

[@kathleenunsworth4558]

Very good advice. We all have the ability to learn and grow and overcome our fears. I believe positive energy is the way forward. The world needs more positive energy. Thank you. 🙂

[@m.b.2381]

I really like someone and i reached out to him but he haven't responded.Then i started thinking about all the worst things that could happen.I wanted to run away because i couldn't handle the potential rejection but no,i will look forward to it.I will see it all play out and accept whatever happens.

[@anthonytsang2190]

Thank You Emma. You make a "Big" positive difference!

[@cmmhelmond]

I am absolutely a catastrophic thinker ... when going outside where people are .... I like your climbing risk assessment ... very clear .... I just need to use it in many other social anxiety occasions as I can .. thanks

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

glad it could be helpful

[@dzaileownie2738]

Thank you for helping people like me. 😍

[@michelwathen2347]

Emma u are 👏amazing an so relaxed an informed. But big dogs 🐕 on the loose has at all occasions came to attack ...which I'm so interested what to do not get attacked again. I love dogs by the way. But I cannot understand 😩 why bigger dog's just chase an attack. We still battling the rabbies bite on my niece. By the grace of God I've been so blessed to not loose my face.

[@earthlycolorbrown6246]

Your Garden is Beautiful Emma! Getting motivated to unpack and declutter!

[@yoshiromare3207]

Thank you so much for putting up all this information, seen a couple videos now and it definitely very helpful, I undesrtand myself and how I can have a healthier relationship with me☺️ Personally I have to accept my fear to success, I know where this limiting belief comes from but, yes, I'm missing out of a lot of things because this irrational way lf thinking. Everything I've lived or my family is just a lesson, I accept the level of risk that comes with success and compromise to live it responsable and conscious way. Thank you so much! God bless you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Gimo76]

I get all these intrusive thoughts when I am trying to go sleep. At 70 I would hope my anxious life would go away. So, in comes a thought that someone is coming thru my window and I shoot them. I yell negative thought , negative negative …. That doesn’t help. I had emergency surgery and woke up with surprises.. going in again for reversal surgery. I am not afraid of dying but my anxiety has been up since the surgery. In comes intrusive thought and me shooting guys. I enjoy your videos…

[@mirelladlima5278]

@Ales Monggo - yes we feel we have to win whatever we try. We must not be afraid of the outcome.🙏 because at least we have accomplished the task of trying and knowing how it feels. it ceases to be a fear.

[@hgg324]

Really, good, encouraging talk! I'm so impressed that you are afraid of heights and still enjoy rock-climbing!

[@kalinmareus8540]

I love this video, so helpful I promise you, I watch this video once a week.. Thanks for all you do.. You are a Godsend ... You are helping a lot of people... Thanks...

[@HarmonyShoal]

This actually makes sense, the problem is that most people haven't been trained to properly assess risks. This is evident with how people behaved during this pandemic. They either overestimated the threat and panicked or they underestimated the threat and killed people. It's also evident in the cybersecurity field where people do not have the capacity to understand such abstract threats. They will physically lock the doors on their homes and cars but they don't lock down their network. People are afraid of the wrong thing. They fear spiders even though only a handful of species are actually deadly. They fear bears or lightening even though the statistical chances of getting attacked by a wild animal or being struck by lightening are low. Yet they can walk around a parking lot full of cars and not be terrified of the relatively much higher chance that they might die in a car accident. Nothing feeds fear and anxiety quite like ignorance does.

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

totally! people don't have this skill, and honestly, I hadn't studied the field that I did, I wouldn't have this skill. But if you talk to serious rock climbers and outdoor sportspeople, they've all developed their intentional approach to risk management.

[@pastelambong]

I like your videos. They are not too long and concise

[@grainnegrau]

I love your veg garden Emma! And you do make a positive difference in this gal's life. I feel like the topics and examples you chose were straight from my life. I was a dog lover till I was five and I was cornered and viciously barked and snapped at for a few minutes by two escaped Dobermans. They even were yanking at my uniform skirt. My sister and my mom saved me, but I was on my way to school at the time, and I was shaking so much after the near attack that I couldn't go that day. I'm reminded of your video with the polar bear that was tranquilized and traumatized, but shook off his trauma and then went about his business. I'll bet he never got near a helicopter again though. Luckily, when I was visiting at my cousins' place, I got to meet their Golden Retriever puppy. Who could be scared of a Golden puppy, right? Well I was because my parents, young and very new at parenting as they were, didn't know to help me get over my new fear of dogs. Luckily my uncle is a very empathetic and kind man, and he saw that I was terrified of his puppy. So he spent an hour with me, slowly getting me used to the Golden - exposer therapy, right? And at the end of an hour I was rolling around on the ground with her, walking her on her lead, and just loving every minute of it since I really do adore dogs. Now my hubby and I have three dogs, and we don't ever want to revert to a life without them. There is risk, and sometimes problems as two of our dogs are dog reactive to other dogs outside the pack. But it's worth the extra effort it demands. And climbing - in another life I was like you, a safety conscious climber. I strangely love heights, and I agree with you that there are so many wonderful benefits to climbing. Though the climbing that I did was the result of my own risk assessment, even though I didn't quite call it that then. Thanks so much for the video - this is a really useful and meaningful way to choose and assess risks.

[@iboremytherapist]

i think i'll only do free soloing crawling on the ground. the sun actually created a cool effect on the evolution of the video throughout great video, with lots of personal examples!

[@JohannaVeerenhuis]

Ouch… I love your video’s and they ARE helpful to me. But mentioning that driving was the most dangerous activity is not very helpful for my driving anxiety… 🤪🤣 I have experienced that the driver who I sat next to had a black-out (my mother, when I was 17) and we crashed after I tried to steer the car for a while. And I have experienced that the break of my own car, when I finally had the courage to get my drivers license, was flat on the floor and I crashed again. When my husband drives, I’m scared of every tree etc. along the road. Poor husband. And I only have the courage to drive on minor roads, no highways anymore. But deep inside, I really like driving! Still, it frightens me so much… Best wishes and thank you from The Netherlands. 💞

[@thegoodnessofyourart4725]

I love the risk of a bee sting. :) This is such an awesome video. My mind does get caught up in the what ifs.

[@happydays3678]

Thank you Emma, this has been really helpful. I enjoy your videos very much. I loved the atmospheric lighting...very pretty. 😊😘

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

oooh that's awesome. I almost didn't publish this video because of the lighting haha

[@imbolc8024]

Thank you so so dearly, from Belgium🤗

[@dalenjurgens6751]

Thank you Emma for everything you do!

[@stefanieshepherd8687]

I wish this title were different. Something like fears not based on experiences. If you have anxiety about recent or ongoing experiences then I think it would be more helpful to think in terms of how to cope. I have really enjoyed your channel thank you.