5 STOIC Rules on How To Emotionally DETACH from Someone

5 STOIC Rules on How To Emotionally DETACH from Someone | Marcus Aurelius Stoicism

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@thestoiccommunity 10 ай бұрын

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@darleansago1585 9 ай бұрын

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🤍thank you

@frysslaughterlounge6807 10 ай бұрын

I'm not going to spew my story on here because it's long. All I'm going to say is I really needed this type of video.

@JD-hb5fo 10 ай бұрын

I hear you! But know your story-- however long-- is welcome. We basically all on here have pasts and paths and things we are trying to fix to the extent that they are in our control. Edit: this is *not* to imply any community members are nuts -- just that the anyone watching these videos is very likely evolved and vulnerable enough to be open to growth and aware tha personal and internal challenge is common to human conditiion.

@javS197 10 ай бұрын

Me too buddy, me too

@KA-ub4rc 10 ай бұрын

It's good to share so people can learn and relate and that support we don't get from people around us, you get support here

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Dont share there go to secure comunity . See these profiles with numbers isnt safe.

@callumotter647 10 ай бұрын

3:27 @@branislavkovalcik7613

@blackspiral_1126 10 ай бұрын

Went through a breakup that affected me more than i thought it would. I came here and was reminded of my resilience. Thank you for this video. It came right on time.

@moparlinke 10 ай бұрын

Im going through a divorce know. Im mad on myself for caring to much 😔 I got to let the past go. But my brain goes on overdrive 😢

@manfredc1001 9 ай бұрын

@@moparlinke you are not your thoughts or emotions. You are the observer of those things. Try looking at it whithout judgement and relax a bit. 10% is the real issue, 90% is what you think of it.. Hell is in the mind... Try to live in the moment.. now is all you have for sertain.. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is the future.. Today is a gift, thats why it's called "the present". Godspeed to you, i've walked in your shoes aswell..

@dwightwiley490 9 ай бұрын

@@moparlinkegoing through a separation now and it’s been tough for the same reasons caring to much…Best wishes to you bro

@raugust3376 9 ай бұрын

Im going through the same thing right now its not easy at all

@joselostx 9 ай бұрын

@@raugust3376 let’s all feel about about the fact that we all are hurting inside for another soul 😢 we must move on as hard and sad as that is … let’s pick it up my guys ! We have no choice 💪

@jasonuren3479 10 ай бұрын

'It's about detaching from outcomes too.' True. We only have power over what is within. We are powerless over everything else.

@thestoiccommunity 10 ай бұрын

Well said

@leepowell3990 7 ай бұрын

Very insightful!!

@EvolvingEmpress 6 ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯!!!!

@JayB934txs 9 ай бұрын

Without going into detail, I found this channel during the most traumatic and difficult period of my entire life. I am alone and without support and this channel has given me a lot of strength. I am dealing with my feelings and reactions in a much more tempered manner. Thanks for such profound and thoughtful content.

@Stubbornclarity 9 ай бұрын

Wishing you the very best in your journey towards profound growth. 💛

@micromed5 6 ай бұрын

I feel what you went through bro،, happy for you that you are in a better place

@emamahzaman2507 3 ай бұрын

Same here! Going through a breakup! And having no support This video helped

@jessicaagosto3633 2 ай бұрын

Jesus will heal you🙏🏻

@StoicAwe 9 ай бұрын

"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." - Marcus Aurelius

@sylviamills631 7 ай бұрын

Thankyou

@sylviamills631 7 ай бұрын

Men look real cool

@WayneFlynn-tz7fn 3 ай бұрын

Amen.

@ValerieStaten-b9y 20 күн бұрын

Wow, this is so uplifting it’s truly important to stay inspired. I feel such a deep sense of emptiness. It’s been two months since Jack left, and every day feels like an eternity without him. My mind is overwhelmed with memories of our time together. The thought that I’ll never experience the little things with him again is so painful. I’ve texted him so many times, pouring out how much I miss and want him back, but he hasn’t replied. All I can do now is hold onto the memories.

@SMITHJOHNSON-e8g 20 күн бұрын

It’s okay to grieve, my dear. It’s clear that you’re not just missing Jack but also the part of yourself that you shared with him. Reaching out to him like that shows how much love you still carry it takes real courage to be so vulnerable. Heartbreak is painful, but don’t lose hope. I understand how you feel. My own heartbreak was devastating sudden and brutal. It left me feeling lost and shattered. In my desperation for solace and guidance, I turned to a spiritual counselor recommended by a friend.

@ValerieStaten-b9y 20 күн бұрын

That sounds interesting! What exactly does the spiritual counselor do?

@SMITHJOHNSON-e8g 20 күн бұрын

His name is Father Tosin Ayodele and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their exes.

@ValerieStaten-b9y 20 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for the suggestion you have no idea how much this means to me.

@TheStoicSage365 18 күн бұрын

I understand how deeply painful this must be for you. Healing from such a loss takes time, and it’s okay to grieve and feel this way. Remember, though, that life is constantly moving forward, and while it’s hard now, focusing on yourself and what brings you peace can help. Marcus Aurelius reminds us that we cannot control others’ actions, only our own. Perhaps consider redirecting your energy toward things that nurture your soul-whether it’s a passion, friends, or simply the act of self-care. You deserve love and happiness, starting with the love you show yourself.

@arwmotivational 10 ай бұрын

Psychology says; never express too much love, affection or care to someone, Because it’s human tendency to underestimate anything that’s free of cost.

@jamiebonsall430 9 ай бұрын

Sounds like something Jesus said - don't throw your pearls before swine

@expiredfroyo 9 ай бұрын

That’s going in my diary

@terencehennegan1439 9 ай бұрын

Like it 👌🙏

@GetaLlamas 9 ай бұрын

True

@StoicismAwakened-365 6 ай бұрын

While Stoicism teaches emotional detachment to avoid dependency, psychology suggests that free affection can be undervalued. The debate lies in whether detachment truly prevents emotional harm or merely creates distance. Genuine connections often require a balance-authentic affection should not be diminished by its frequency or ease, but rather appreciated for its sincerity and intent.

@DaWeeklyStoic 10 ай бұрын

"I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the opinion of others." - Marcus Aurelius

@StoicWisdom-3368 4 ай бұрын

Fear of missing out is an illusion. Once you stop chasing someone else's life, you find the peace and joy that comes from being fully present in your own.

@Diachachimba 9 ай бұрын

Too much emotional attachment can lead to unhealthy attachment. It can have a substantial impact on your current, genuine connections with people in your lives. Idolize no one and find your own sense of self love as opposed to relying on others to define your own self worth

@zbz-d9q 6 ай бұрын

I just get out from 20years marriage that's failure from the beginning. In 2 months I cried, distressed, feeling completely failure. But after that I get up, solely focus on me.. start loosing weights by exercising, focus on my business, focused on my children. After a year I completely in love with new me. I looked great, my business grows, my children happy. There's nothing relieved me more than that. I start to embrace my new life as singlemom and start falling in love again with a better gentleman. I hope everyone that's having the same experience as me can do the same. I wish you all a happiness and remember to find your inner peace. ❤

@jessibeltran342 4 ай бұрын

❤🙏 working on it 14 year relationship is hard

@anetam89 3 ай бұрын

So happy for you🙏

@Lightsaber878 10 ай бұрын

Very important , never attach to someone more then Yourself . Plus this Topic Detachment is Big you can learn alot .

@thestoiccommunity 10 ай бұрын

Well said

@shawnmclean7707 9 ай бұрын

Attachment is a major topic. Western science has Bowlby and others talking about it. Coming from childhood relationships. I hear bhuddism talks about this too. Does anyone have good readings on attachment and detachment? I have meditations and letters from a stoic. Anything else?

@farting505 10 ай бұрын

Just be grateful with what you have in life today, for tomorrow no one knows. Losing health, loved ones, family and children is the worst pain of all. Great channel and selection of quotes, but sometimes reality is too much and a lifetime of experience. Good luck to everyone reading this and I hope all your wishes come true x.

@thestoiccommunity 10 ай бұрын

Thank you

@ValeriaM1983 7 ай бұрын

Sounds like complacency to me….

@ConnieSchenk 3 ай бұрын

I'm overly attracted to my boys, and I have suffered extremely emotionally. Trying to keep the Narcissim out of their lives,

@ConnieSchenk 3 ай бұрын

Attached to my boys, I mean

@ConnieSchenk 3 ай бұрын

@@ValeriaM1983what?

@Ambi999 10 ай бұрын

Right video, Right time❤

@Bensch85 10 ай бұрын

I second this! 👍

@StoicZone101 10 ай бұрын

Stoic Best

@Ricksda 5 ай бұрын

Man I love humans. So beautiful to see that we all suffer in some way but we continue to have hope and search for answers. It’s got me thinking that maybe the answer is right in front of us. Maybe all this time the relief has been in all of us here together thinking we alone but actually all sharing the same experience. Maybe we need to be more tribal and involved in each other’s lives. I think we all just miss real child like connection

@Sage-Stoic 9 ай бұрын

I frequently downplay my professional successes in an effort to stay humble or modest, leading others to be pleasantly astonished by my significant achievements. I'm making efforts to become more at ease with discussing my commendable work without worrying about coming across as arrogant.

@The_Unintelligent_Speculator 9 ай бұрын

I feel that now.

@annmboyd 10 ай бұрын

Today, I found empathy and humility, as well as an inner calm during a difficult day. Thank you.

@czy.rus.bon13 9 ай бұрын

Such an amazing video. Very powerful set of words and points. Beyond helpful.

@FalconHef 10 ай бұрын

As usual... deeply inspiring. Thank you! Detachment is perhaps one of the biggest challenges human kind face in this life. We are attracted not only emotionally but we also are trapped into the web of the pursuit of of must have, and there I believe, ego has a big take.

@TheBusie Ай бұрын

Nothing hurts than being In a relationship with someone who is not mentally, physically and emotionally there.Hope to apply everything mentioned I this video and having faith that it will help me detach from them for my sake😢

@kaebigemz2177 23 күн бұрын

Same here it's horrible 😢

@JelsieDeocampo 7 ай бұрын

Stoicism is my life saving in the time of my lowest degree of emotion that I almost end my life. Depression poison me almost every beat of my heart. Thank you to stoicism is the medicines that relieved me. You are very right in all of these things.

@zen_mindset1 4 ай бұрын

I never attached to a person or thing again. And being an empathic person is too exhausting. I definitely glad to found this community

@Roofless11 10 ай бұрын

I loved someone in a local group, I was friend zoned, Ieft said group and feel better for it,

@barbiebythesea 6 ай бұрын

Thank you.. I needed to hear this video.. I caught my boyfriend cheating .. been one week .. and I found this video.. and listened to your video “When someone rejects you” Struggling but I will move forward and prevail and grow emotionally from this betrayal. One door closes many more open!

@Rawksinator 7 ай бұрын

Me and my girlfriend broke up. She had some serious mental issues, such as bi polar. Despite that I still loved her more than anything, she knew that. Then suddenly she wanted a break, I found it hard to accept but I had to. The break was a long 6 months atleast. I was always kind to her even though she was always angry, aggressively Verbally impulsive but I still loved her. Then one day she decided to block me on all social media without an explanation. It hurts, knowing someone you loved, who said they'd always be here for you just cut you out like nothing and not even say why. She made me feel like i could taoe on the world, i felt alive. Despite that i was always kind to her even with the abrupt separation.

@LiamWahWah 6 ай бұрын

It’s really confusing when you give all you have to someone else and seemingly out of nowhere they leave. I was with someone not long ago too and they told me they couldn’t love me how I loved them - for over a month I’ve fallen deeper and deeper into self-hate and doubt, not really being able to see the future without another person by my side. But in the end acceptance does come, it’s a hell of a road to get there and no one’s the same but if you tell yourself you deserve to be happy again and maybe watch the video again when you’re ready for that it might help you. I don’t know you though and don’t know what you’re going through, I do know through experience though that other people leave and you’re the only constant in your life - so give yourself the love you give out, find that fight in yourself to take on the world and know that YOU ARE ALIVE, you can do anything!

@tomrawson9017 5 ай бұрын

unfortunately BPD and NPD people are just evil. It may not be intentional, but its not an excuse for how they treat us. You must move on as hard as it seems, and you must ensure you are not living waiting for her to come back. She will come back one day, but if you accept her she will only hurt you much more the next time she discards you. Stay strong brother I know the feeling, it gets better

@Liam-cj9cw 5 ай бұрын

I feel you brother my ex had BPD I love her dearly but she has done some terrible things to ruin my life.

@Ric_Roar 5 ай бұрын

There's a book called No More Mr Nice Guy. May help.

@Shambhu100 4 ай бұрын

Always be an asshole if the person is being asshole to you remember that

@TheStoicSage365 21 күн бұрын

This is such a helpful guide! Emotional detachment isn't about shutting off feelings, but learning to control our reactions and not letting others' actions dictate our peace. It’s a powerful way to reclaim inner strength and maintain clarity.

@Hezigrimm 4 ай бұрын

I think people forget what they mean by attachment. We will always have attachments to a degree, especially if you have a significant other. I think it needs to be said that what they are meaning here is over attachment of things. Having a great fear of losing what you are attached to is over attachment. Think of it as different attachment styles in relationships. Anxious, avoidant, and secure. Stoicism speaks of the secure attachment style of things. Speaks against the anxious and avoidant. I don't think they mean to let go of attachment totally. That is completely impossible. You can not get rid or leave attachments without being totally detached which then will alienate you from everything you care about. Stoicism is about not letting your emotions take control of you. It is about taking control of your life. It is about thinking about your decisions and not letting your emotions guide you in them. It is also about letting yourself feel those emotions but not letting them guide you or make your decisions. Feel these emotions and realize they are real and valid, but it isn't what controls or guides you.

@debo1301 9 ай бұрын

I’m struggling to detach from family members who have hurt me. I love them but had to stop engaging….. it still hurts

@MaggieWebster-o4r 9 ай бұрын

Wow that’s really powerful. Makes alot of sense. Now to put it into practice ❤

@zen_mindset1 4 ай бұрын

Definitely love this. Detachment is a beautiful thing people. Detach yourself and be in control.

@DJ-DJAS 10 ай бұрын

Thanks again 😊 Today a woman gave me a headache. I just walked outta door in silence. Detachment applied within minutes. I still feel good now. 💪🏾💯

@Jesusisking235 6 ай бұрын

What keeps most people attached to others is their insecure need for validation. We care so much about what others "think of us" that we hand over the keys to running our own lives. Only when you STOP SEEKING APPROVAL AND VALIDATION FROM OTHERS will you truly experience detachment and a new sense of your true self.

@theitaliangorrila 2 ай бұрын

I have good instincts. So it's awesome to see and understand how I've already acted and flowed.

@rantushR-ch6uf 10 ай бұрын

Wonderful Thank you

@thestoiccommunity 10 ай бұрын

Our pleasure. Thanks for your feedback

@CaviarBoston 4 ай бұрын

Peace and blessings to you along the journey

@S5Motiv 9 ай бұрын

You know, I preyed to god earlier today wondering what I should do and somehow while scrolling your video caught my eye. I don’t prey often but I’m working on going to church more and finding a place that I belong. I believe that this video was used as a message for me. Thank you for the time you put into creating this.

@donnarakitzis2719 6 ай бұрын

🙏🏻✝️

@0DINPRIM3 2 ай бұрын

This video was what I needed, especially today

@Schwarzeneggo 2 ай бұрын

Its quite embarassing but ive been stooping so low by getting attached to a fictional character and its been depressing. This video gives me sort of comfort, strength, and resilience to fight back. Thank you

@mayaypon1200 8 ай бұрын

Wonderful it’s something I needed today . Detachment from emotional baggage . It’s the freedom that I’ve always wanted , freedom to be myself without outside validation . Thank you so much

@toscabrutus1781 10 ай бұрын

Dis n Briljante episode die! Ek is rerig mal daaroor! Dis n hewige topic! Dankie!

@suyash4563 3 ай бұрын

My partner cheated on me, then someone introduced Stoicism and it is helping me

@Krsabc 7 ай бұрын

I never thought one day I’ll watch this kind of video I learned just one thing Don’t give them too much validation they feel queen/king Even they know nobody takes them seriously except you just walk away and give them shock They’ll pretend like they don’t care But inside they can’t digest your move on

@missmelissa3573 8 ай бұрын

I have very little time in my day but I gather daily meditation is the main trick to overcome a lot of the challenges outlined in this video. I also try to live in a day to day mindset and not worry about tomorrow or next week. For me the scarcity comment really hit home. I truly do feel as though if I lost my husband (it’s a bit of a challenging marriage to say the least), I would be alone forever or would end up settling with someone I’m incompatible with. This comes from a scarcity mindset and self worth related thinking too.

@Keltook 3 ай бұрын

Truth, once you know it, you can't not know it.

@BxndooLive Ай бұрын

Thank u . Control wats around u - ur mind - ur thoughts - ur growth !

@rdhawke 7 ай бұрын

I’m detaching from someone who has been a friend for about 38 years. It’s very difficult to do. I could be wrong in my assessment of the situation, so I’m considering it more of a separation than a divorce at this point. I did this once before and it worked well for me.

@Becky_Cal 8 ай бұрын

I needed this so much today! So glad I found this video. 8:45 this is very important!

@crimejunkie3103 5 ай бұрын

I need this . I’ve been in my lowest rn . My mind is spiraling and I can’t do it anymore . My daily life is getting affected , my health is getting affected and my mental state has been so bad lately.

@mariajosefinagravides3711 2 ай бұрын

Reading this reminds me of my current situation. I hope you're more okay now

@SuccessMindset2180 5 ай бұрын

1. Habit is the reason why we are attached to things in life 2. Practice is the way to adabt and learn detaching

@kimhazel2914 Ай бұрын

This is going to be on replay for me. I needed this.

@Barbramajk 2 ай бұрын

I am trying to get someone to let go of their emotional attachment. I sent them this video. Thanks! 😊

@lawrenceatkinson 10 ай бұрын

In all, I enjoy listening to your voice.

@Essexkiwi 10 ай бұрын

I agree with the comments about the voice on this whole series of videos. It is strong, calming, warm, clear and the articulation is superb.

@lawrenceatkinson 10 ай бұрын

@@Essexkiwi 💯

@ComradeCoop 3 ай бұрын

8:56 Thank You

@RedCrimes-r5f 3 ай бұрын

I discovered something powerful today about nyself i finally realized what my issue was thank you bro thanks man i appreaciate it.

@denisegassama6016 10 ай бұрын

Amen and Thanks 🙏🏾 😊

@mariannasantorinaiou3535 3 ай бұрын

I love stoicism ❤❤❤❤❤❤

@crazviolin5385 10 ай бұрын

Boy did I need to hear this. Thank you for the video and sharing stoicism. This is well received and subscribed.

@Brainwise889 2 ай бұрын

Much needed today ❤ keep Enlightening us

@kitsontuli2713 9 ай бұрын

The last 5 minutes are so powerful... Needed this

@mariapescifeltri953 10 ай бұрын

Very well explained. Thank you from the deepness of my mind ❤❤❤.

@thestoiccommunity 10 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful

@johnhombach2987 2 ай бұрын

Very useful. Thank-you

@singularitygazer4274 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this vid! I hope i retain what i learnes from this and ever so slightly strive for my personal growth instead of relying on external validations for my happiness.

@TeachMeBIM 5 ай бұрын

The way you verbalize is as if imagining oneself doing this.... Thank you for help.

@inker1972 4 ай бұрын

It's AI

@juliathomas2807 8 ай бұрын

The universe pointed me to to this video and I listened and I learned so much about my own recent experience; thank you so much 😊

@abdulmukanyela8266 3 ай бұрын

I believe its what i been looking for, for a long tym now. Thank you stoic community

@Real-StoicJourney 6 ай бұрын

Marcus Aurelius and Seneca's wisdom never fails to provide clarity. The analogy of emotions being like a kite really resonated with me. Learning to let go of what we can't control is truly liberating. Has anyone else found specific Stoic practices helpful in their journey to emotional detachment?

@Southernman469 2 ай бұрын

If its just my ego then Im good. I have been humbled before and I’m sure I will be again so if thats all it is then I am going to be fine. James says “ humble yourself under the mighty hand of God and He will lift you up “. I can humble myself. Oh and if you prefer a fish to me you go girl. Have at it

@JasonGallant-e2v 10 ай бұрын

I'm 50+how many years ago was this stuff thought up anything to help get us through and live a good life

@KingTez1983 8 ай бұрын

This was good. I needed to hear this.

@BenjieRodriguez-p5x 8 ай бұрын

Excellent talk of personal power used wisely ❤

@shatakshipandey8014 10 ай бұрын

As a young 17 year old girl , I am often tempted to get into a relationship with someone I want. This is not in my favour , Having a crush on someone is mind consuming , ensuing and disrespect to myself to a certain extent. Most of this can be resolved if i detach from the process of finding or talking to a desired person. I want a romantic relationship, but then i feel bad , guilty and irritated

@bebopbonsai 9 ай бұрын

You are so young, dear. You have so much life to live. Everything you want will arrive at the right time 🪐 Don’t be in a hurry!

@Yeah0bviously 9 ай бұрын

Stop focusing on what you feel or blank promises. Focus on behaviours : how people treat you and how you treat them is all that matter.

@Adarian27 10 ай бұрын

I enjoyed this one

@thestoiccommunity 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for your feedback

@verogrant3105 10 ай бұрын

Yes most definitely I noticed in the past I did a lot for people and they never did respect me

@JoannaLugo-jo9ww 10 ай бұрын

Lessons are surprisingly coming in few months so glad to learn

@terencehennegan1439 9 ай бұрын

Detachment can be a very uncomfortable process for those who have never understood boundaries, it feels tight and unnatural, it’s a real challenge but worth every ounce of energy to overcome. Question… “ what’s the difference between emotional detachment and emotional independence ?. “

@justynagod2916 10 ай бұрын

Continuously loving next chapters you share 😊🤗👌🙋🏻‍♀️✌

@jephrae007 8 ай бұрын

Great Knowledge!! We all been there lost but there is a light 💡

@ellakidd6512 5 ай бұрын

Thank you how true this is I am learning getting better, stronger ever time I listen

@Nigelsmom2136 7 ай бұрын

I am detaching from my only sibling. I am tired of the lack of respect, being insulted about my personal appearance, clothing, etc. Then she will say "I was only trying to help you." I didn't ask for her input, I believe that she enjoys saying hurtful things to me and I am done. I wish her well but I don't want to have contact with her anymore. Once I made that decision I felt such a sense of peace.

@shrutiskima Ай бұрын

Thank you so much

@DayByDavidO 5 ай бұрын

This was a really great one!!!

@MindBodyStorm 10 ай бұрын

📜Very uplifting‼️

@SaturatedInLoveTarot 4 ай бұрын

I LIVE IN LOVE… I GIVE IT FREELY AND RECEIVE IT ABUNDANTLY ❤

@vertigus28 8 ай бұрын

This is actually quite useful. Good job.

@latashajackson7870 6 ай бұрын

Thanks 🙏🏾 I really appreciate your post 😊

@baothungo 6 ай бұрын

Your attention to detail and clarity is unparalleled. 🎯 Thanks for another fantastic video!

@DominicTapang-fp5pr 9 ай бұрын

This channel is the best i think if i will watch videos from here it's help me to achieve the best version of myself.

@binibini7975 9 ай бұрын

Same!❤

@ChuNghiaKhacKy_ConDuongTriTue 9 ай бұрын

Emotional detachment is presented as a means to break free from overwhelming attachment, drawing from Stoic philosophy, particularly Marcus Aurelius and Seneca.