Sex and the City - Why No One Wants to Be a Samantha (But They Should)

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[@nerlinecadet]

@The Take please do one on sarah connor the terminator movies her evolution etc

[@Genedide]

Please explain the Mustache Twirling Villan

[@akshayatayade3599]

What is your take on "physical"?

[@ΚωνσταντίνοςΔημόπουλος-π6ν]

What season was 41 in?

[@Dylan.Alexandra]

😅😅 1:24 1:24 1:24

[@msvalentine1902]

No one wants to be a Samantha? Hell imagine being a successful woman, beautiful and smart who doesn't need to rely on men? I actually wouldn't want to be a Carrie

[@bloodtypena]

Agreed i wish i was samantha strong successful fabulous and i also dont want to be carrie i dont like carrie

[@startissu3]

so true, carrie's lifestyle gives me stress. i'm a hardcore miranda.

[@zakourille]

agree - i saw the title and was like "speak for yourself"

[@shannon1587]

Exactly ! The episode when Carrie judges Sam for the UPS guy ( or whatever he was, lol ) pissed me off so bad, because when Carrie was screwing her married ex & cheating on Aiden, Samantha was supportive & nonjudgmental, & she couldn’t show her the same respect ?

[@zakourille]

​@@SharonBoo0305 imo its more about knowing/learning what you want from life and pursuing those desires, no matter what society says, it doesnt have to be sexual, it could be lifestyle, or career choices for example

[@monitabril2]

I think that the problem is not that no one wants to be Samantha, but that almost no one can be Samantha. She was just too great hahaha

[@maloneaqua]

Well said

[@melove4ever]

She was the best character on the show 💙

[@DanaJaneWriter]

true! she is a superhero

[@RaverHates]

That's EXACTLY what I thought! Like, I wish I was a Samantha but I'm just not that awesome! And ya have to be honest on a buzzfeed survey, otherwise the whole world just goes crazy!

[@melove4ever]

@@RaverHates You don't fell that awesome yet. :)) But I think all you , and I for that matter, need is a bit of courage and self love and we'll be on the right path. Her courage and adaptability were amazing on the show!

[@lady_stog]

My favourite Samantha moment was when they all went to a baby shower and the expecting mother stole Charlotte's secret baby name. Without hesitation, Samantha defended Charlotte and called the mother a bitch. Samantha couldn't care less about baby names, but she is an amazing friend who knows how much that name means to Charlotte. I wish I had a friend like her.

[@Queensage77]

Yes I agree!! Samantha was such a good friend she always had her friends back!

[@matematicarka]

Same! That is the best Samantha moment! She doesn't share her friend's values, but she fiercely supports them! And is always accepting

[@carlab30]

Exactly!

[@masterbuilder4735]

well, I think that in this particular moment she only got a chance to call her former rival a bitch, but maybe both)

[@Mona-kf8fq]

Remember that while you may not have a friend like Samantha, you can always BE a friend like Samantha

[@rosemarygrabowska9949]

Samantha telling Richard "I love me more" was such a powerful moment for me; neatly encapsulating the idea that one should never sacrifice their own happiness and well being for another person.

[@Lee-qf9dz]

Yes! And it showed her self-awareness. She realized she was turning into someone she didn't want to be when she was with him, and she didn't accept that.

[@christinamccarthy8683]

Amen

[@largol33t1]

Samantha had the most memorable lines in the entire show. My favorite: "That f*cking Richard!!" 😂😁

[@emmyg3871]

I'm coming up to 30 and I've really grown to love Samantha as a character. I feel like depression and mental illness stole my 20's from me, which everyone says are meant to be the best days of your life, and a womans prime, and I've been feeling really upset because I've felt like my best days are gone.... But seeing Samantha be a sexy, confident older woman assures me that I can still go out and rock my 30's and 40's and have an amazing life.

[@raysaspaniol]

In the same boat and I feel ya girl

[@abbyabroad]

I relate to this, but this past year, at 35, I’ve suddenly realized that maybe all the stuff I thought made me a mess or my 20’s awful actually was interesting and made my life a fun story. It’s disorienting to see it this way, but I feel truly hopeful for the first time in a long while. It also came after I spent ages 28-33 figuring out who I really am and believe. TL,DR: YES to your sentiment, and YES to life NOT being over in your 30’s and 40’s!!!

[@meghanwebber4977]

@@abbyabroad came here to say basically what you are saying lol. I'm 35 as well. On the week of my 30th birthday, a group of 30/40 something's who worked at a boutique I was in all pitched in and told me, and I'm summing it up here, "they say a lot of things on what a blast your 20s are. But trust us, the best time is your 30s. You're still young, but with a bit more wisdom from lessons in your 20s. You'll embrace it" I spent all of my 20s suffering anxiety and depression and not wanting to be in pics or go out because I was too fat, or sad, etc etc. Making up for it now ❤️

[@abbyabroad]

@@meghanwebber4977 That’s wonderful to hear!!

[@thecoldglassofwatershow]

And 50s!

[@Nat-pc8nt]

“I love you, but I love me more.” I could only HOPE to ever be this well adjusted.

[@Hiiiiiiiiieeee]

That line hits deep.

[@RaverHates]

Yes. That's why no one identifies as a Samantha, she's aspirational. We try to be as well adjisted and confident as she is, but few people probably feel they're at that level.

[@ambriaashley3383]

That line is so iconic. It gave me the words for what I had felt in sooo many relationships up to that point, but couldn't describe. It's okay to be alone, it's okay to choose sex over a relationship, it's okay to be different. I aspire to have Samantha's attitude for sure.

[@alrune8]

Depends on how you look at it. She's either unswervingly true to herself or she just loves herself too much to actually love anybody else that isn't her.

[@monabohamad2242]

@@alrune8 the latter seems eh idk more believable somehow

[@chrisparkes]

Can we please give it up for Kim Cattrall's joyous and fearless performance that brought Samantha to life.

[@ambriaashley3383]

I love Kim Cattrall!! It's so messed up she was bullied by SJP for years while on the set 😒😒 Kim/Samantha was a HUGE audience favorite.

[@lin1130]

@@ambriaashley3383 completely agree. She had the most demanding scenes, and truly gave the show the sexual exploration angle and most of the hilarious moments, yet she wasn't paid as much as SJP, who had a less interesting, and somewhat annoying character.

[@quinnhendley4031]

it didn't take long for it to become samantha and the city for me ... samantha was the reason many watched at all. kim cattrall is ~ and has always been ~ glorious.

[@kittenwalks]

Yes! She is so gorgeous and confident.

[@jauipop]

Agreed!!!!!

[@emily9324]

Carrie : "dont u wanna judge me.....jus a lil bit ?" Samantha : "not my style" I love this woman

[@alrune8]

she doesn't judge because she can't, that's the only reason why

[@montrellferguson8156]

@@alrune8 But who can? 👀 I'll wait...

[@alrune8]

@@montrellferguson8156 Everyone does. Samantha simply chooses to keep her judgement to herself but she still judges, however, since she would like to have people stop looking down on her, she acts more accepting so she can receive acceptance in return, that's all.

[@montrellferguson8156]

@@alrune8 Yeah. I got that. Everyone DOES. Your statement said "she can't". It seems like you were implying that others CAN. My response is no one really has the merit to judge. Everyone does things that someone else would judge as unacceptable. So, no one CAN really judge others. I just want everyone to see that they can be Samantha. Just don't care what others think of you, be true to yourself, know your worth. And understand that no one is without flaw.

[@alrune8]

​@@montrellferguson8156 That's very nice but not everyone can be a Samantha. Too many preconditions to fulfil for it to be a generality.

[@fhdjhss837]

Sex life aside - her loyalty is inspiring. She's the ultimate friend

[@kevinbergin9971]

Yet she moved to England ... for some reason?

[@ricecake3215]

@@kevinbergin9971 the new show did Samantha so dirty

[@SithCelia]

I'd like to add to that sentiment about how much of a professional Kim Cattrall was that she could pull off such a seemingly genuine bond with Sarah Jessica Parker onscreen while not being close at all offscreen. She was so good at her acting that she sold me on their connection.

[@allisonchainz82]

yeah Samantha would never stop talking to her friends over that bullshit. Very weak writing. It seemed like a jab at Kim

[@dalehoward3704]

That's what I love Samantha for--loyalty to her friends.

[@luilo7848]

Samantha is the epitome of Self love. This is what a women should strive to be. Confident, fearless, Challenging and Bold in both personal and professional life. She is not narcissistic but only self respects her enough.

[@SC-rt7bq]

She is ashamed of her age, though. And sometimes the way she was pursuing some guys were a bit embarassing. Like in the first episode going after Big and not handling the rejection. Of course nobody can be insecurity free, so she has some insecurities as well.

[@laurenm7669]

Samantha is the best character. The least judgmental and most accepting (of her friends and otherwise), and she and Miranda are truly the most self-aware, independent, and insightful characters on the show. Of course, every character on the show is flawed - and some aspects absolutely did not age well and weren't cool to begin with-- but Samantha has always been my favorite and the most underrated.

[@sheltertwo7957]

Honestly they could’ve dropped every character except Samantha & Miranda. They truly were the best.

[@marsuvesblack9645]

Yeah... but 90% of most Women wouldn’t act like her, they don’t have the guts...

[@weltschmertzz]

@@marsuvesblack9645 that's because acting like Samantha irl will get you disrespect. Society wants babies but frowns on women having sex or having confidence in their sexuality.

[@Hiiiiiiiiieeee]

@@weltschmertzz true, but that is a society problem. And we only fix those problems when we fight against societal norms.

[@VampiraVonGhoulscout]

Meh, idk, Miranda always rubbed me the wrong way. I appreciate the intelligent career woman thing, but she grates on me. Samantha is awesome though.

[@madisoned]

Samantha is also a successful business woman but when viewers talk about her character, it's always about her sex life.

[@gabriellaberman]

I’m rewatching the show and it’s nearly all she talks about. When they’re having serious conversations, it always comes back to sex with her

[@pixiebomb28]

yes!they wrote her sooo poorly! she was an extremely successful business woman but its only sex all the time

[@SaraofHades]

That would've been so interesting to explore, especially because I think it's implied she comes from a working class background and was able to become rich and successful all by herself

[@Aster_Risk]

Her job was also an interesting one. I love Miranda who's also successful, but I personally think I wouldn't enjoy being a lawyer.

[@shannonchambers5885]

This is the flaw of sex and the city in my opinion. I know the show is about their relationships but I wish it wasn't. They spend so much time talking about men that all the other great aspects of these characters are drowned out. I feel like their great careers ,independence, great friendship and emotional growth could have been focused on more but their personalities were always reduced to a relationship status. I feel like most shows about women do this honestly.

[@125Dave8]

The single most empowering and inspiring moment in this show is still Samantha saying: "I love you too, Richard, but I love me more."

[@alrune8]

Can be seen two ways. Either: "I want to remain true to myself and I prefer my singlehood to a long-term relationship" Either: "I love myself too much to love anyone who isn't me"

[@smartbunny]

@@alrune8 It's "I can't put myself through the wringer for a man who may cheat, I respect myself too much."

[@monabohamad2242]

@@alrune8 I choose the latter

[@alrune8]

@@smartbunny Can be said too indeed.

[@olyrhys8724]

One of the best lines in the whole series

[@mysdance23]

My friends labeled me as a Samantha when we were younger. They meant it as an insult but I wore it like a badge of honour....and guess who they would come crawling to when they needed to talk to someone with fear of judgment. Samantha has always been and will always be my favourite character.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Good for you I wish I was like samantha

[@minp2001]

That’s a straight unintended compliment

[@kajalkardam486]

i have a problem with this title. Samantha was a great friend to all of the other girls, she was non judgemental she always supported everyone and she was strong headed and career oriented. she did not made any guy her entire life like the other ladies in the show. she was straight forward. i wish people can be more like Samantha ,more nicer, more kinder, more non judgemental .PERIOD!!!!!

[@alrune8]

Well you can't be a "strong independant woman" and ask not to be held accountable for anything you do.

[@jbjacobs9514]

@@alrune8 Huh? This makes no sense. If you're a strong independent woman, why should you be held accountable? For what exactly? Samantha never acted as if she couldn't be held accountable. Just that she shouldn't be judged. Why should she be judged? Unless you're jealous or a prude.

[@alrune8]

@@jbjacobs9514 If you demand not to be judged for anything you do, then you believe yourself beyond accountability for anything, it's only logical. Everyone judges everyone, even you. Samantha judges too, the only thing she does is that she doesn't voice it. Judgement is inevitable in somebody's mind. The only thing you can do is not say it. But you still think it. Plus, if you're a "strong independant woman", why do you even pay attention to other people opinion/judgement of you? Let them judge you, it's their problem, not yours.

[@user-wv1yt]

@@alrune8 Held accountable for WHAT exactly? Did she make false promises to any man? Did she cheat on any of her boyfriends once she committed to being in a relationship with them? She was even careful to have sex with her secretary ONLY after she fired him .. What accountability does she need and to who?

[@cattyelse2372]

yes but hey no, people have to judge each other constantly ....how humans are

[@TASconfidential]

Let’s see here: Samantha was non-judgmental, sexually liberated, independent, forward thinking, a self-made business woman, defies stereotypes of aging woman, AND was a loyal friend, and women don’t want to be her? I found it more strange how so many women wanted to be Carrie years ago. From her wardrobe, to her relationships and views, I always found her to be a hot mess.

[@FabalociousDee]

Main character syndrome. Plus, Sarah Jessica Parker had a bomb body and could get away with being cutesy in a way many women her age couldn't do. I think it was part of the reason why, at the time, we couldn't see her flaws that clearly.

[@Luckimee]

A HOT mess

[@Angrybogan]

So, does Samantha stick the landing and get herself a top-of-the-line husband?

[@michaelf7093]

@@Angrybogan She gets the young guy by the end of the show.

[@Angrybogan]

@@michaelf7093 That happens a lot: In La-la land.

[@fairdose]

Samantha is actually the most honest of the 4 characters. Despite her romantic attachment issues, she’s completely devoted to her friends and always shows up for them.

[@tasharice2781]

Preach! Samantha was the one that you could tell literally anything to. And she would go to bat for her friends. Like that time that that's snotty woman at the baby shower stole Charlotte's baby name. Samantha didn't give a damn about baby names but because she knew her friend cared she called the woman a b**** and right in front of all her snooty friends and left looks put was a power move. It was jarring and hilarious at the same time (bc who calls a pregnant woman a B*TCH to her face in public at her own baby shower) and I think Charlotte just felt like her honor was defended and that's what she needed in the moment. And there was always some tension between Charlotte and Samantha because they're perspective on sexuality are Polar Opposites but Samantha didn't hesitate even a second to protect her friend. She was also the only one that carry could talk to when she was cheating on Aiden. Not to condone what she was doing but just to say that Samantha was there for her. She also gave pretty good advice and she had short patience with people feeling sorry for themselves for too long. When big left Carrie at the altar, Samantha was the one to try to cancel that expensive honeymoon that carry had booked. And when that didn't work she's the one that turned it into a girls trip to cheer carry up. Samantha was gold. And hilarious to boot.

[@princess1peach]

Not to mention she always gets whats she in business and pleasure

[@alrune8]

@@princess1peach She gets what she wants because she fills a laundry list of preconditions that 98% of women don't and just can't.

[@princess1peach]

@@alrune8 not really bc not all women are the same. Some are doctors, lawyers, judges etc. I don't know where u got your propaganda from.

[@alrune8]

@@princess1peach propaganda? stop being a cliché, it's just observation. Samantha fills all the following conditions in order to live her life without major hurdles: 1/ she's Hollywood level slim and beautiful, no woman who is VERY ugly (not plain, really ugly in the face) and out-of-shape or obese can attract high-value men like she does, they don't even notice women who are less good-looking than she is; 2/ she's an accomplished professional working a high paying business, it takes time and dedication to achieve this; 3/ she has a close-knit group of ACTUAL friends as opposed to mere business partners or co-workers, which is her support network and this has no price; 4/ she lives in a city large enough to avoid negative consequences from her promiscuity and a hefty supply of high-value men and good-looking men; 5/ she has titanium skin and really doesn't give a shit when people call her a whore, she even owns it; That's a lot of things to gather for just one woman, just saying.

[@mariamibukia8140]

I think that the main reason why we might not want to be samantha is because we simply couldn't pull it off. Huge confidence makes you alienated by the society.

[@anthia1156]

That's what my father says: being overconfident and uncompromising leads to loneliness and you have to be ready for this. This is where I am at.

[@whatsonhermind1768]

Well said

[@ShoSho-cq7ct]

True but not in New York City . There’s many people with grandiose confidence and talents, making it the best for being who you are there.

[@alrune8]

No, it's just because her confidence has too many preconditions to be applicable: A/ She's Hollywood-level good looking; B/ She's a wealthy and successful businesswoman ; C/ She has a close-knit group of friends who are not business partners nor co-workers; D/ She lives in a city large enough for her to be promiscuous without major consequence on her reputation. How many women actually live exactly like this?

[@usernameisunavailable8270]

@@anthia1156 So does that mean that people want us to be insecure and not brave? No wonder why so many of us are stuck in this self loathing cycle. Or find It hard to not compare ourselves to others who have It better in any particular aspect of life. Money, beauty, health, material things. It is practically programmed into our brains. To be confident and follow our own path leaves behind the ones who don't dare try and do the same. They continue following the same herd, a march to no where. The ones who stray outside that line are the lone wolves. They are judged and mocked. They are taunted, belittled. Some march so far away from that miserable line that they eventually can't hear the berating. I wish I could feel this way....

[@TeaWitcher]

Samantha is STILL iconic to me. Flaws aside who cares if she has emotionally intimacy issues or anything. At least she owns it 100% and ignores society standards. Not fitting into the strict rules of society is not a phase for some people. They are just living how they want to live.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Yes samantha was always true to herself

[@TayronBerlanga]

"No one want to be Samantha" The gays...✌👁👄👁💅

[@CarloBenevissi]

I laughed so hard at this for some reason 🤣

[@felsonkitalingasa3052]

The gospel truth!

[@user-wv1yt]

Absolutely!!! I am a living example... Although I have to admit , I still have to work to live up to her standard. :)

[@markclark938]

@@user-wv1yt I am gay and just last week i fucked with a random guy i met in a disco like 2 minutes before the sex in the toilet. Why my comment here ? Because we talked shortly about Sex and the City characters (where we both said we are a Miranda but we dream about Samantha) after we did it and we just wished ourselfs all the best in life without getting strings. And we both nailed a Samantha. It was a healthy fun with no regrets. (And i myself was a prude for my whole 20s). So there you go, try a Samantha. It's fabulous. 🔥😊

[@konraddygudaj257]

“Men, Babies, Doesn’t Matter. We’re Soulmates.” Samantha Jones.

[@trinaq]

Yes, such an iconic quote, Samantha is DEFINITELY the best, most legendary SATC lady! 😇♥️

[@konraddygudaj257]

@@trinaq Also, don't forget about Miranda.

[@kaleahcollins4567]

That sounds kindah Sus

[@steamyvegetables1445]

@@kaleahcollins4567 WDYM?

[@RaieG]

As the only pretty out gay kid growing up in the 90s / early 2000s Samantha was a beacon of light for me. She was always unapologetically herself and never ashamed of her sexuality; and Those are tenets of life I still live by

[@seby826]

same

[@outinsider]

I can totally relate. I discovered the show when I was an out bi teenager, and I admired Samantha's sexual confidence. I think that's why I am today.

[@outinsider]

Also, though the show was immensely biphobic, Samantha's "I'm a trysexual, I'll try anything once." was empowering af. I'm more of a Miranda on the streets, but Samantha in the sheets. At least ideally.

[@imanicartwright4463]

Not even just her sexuality, she was certain of who she was in everyway. That's why I love her, she loves herself unconditionally. More women, heck, more people, should want to love themselves that way and explore themselves, desires and needs. Easily the best character, especially in the scene where she admits she loves someone but she looks herself more.

[@CarloBenevissi]

Same!!

[@Nehmi]

Literally, all gay men want to be Samantha. She is a hero and an icon.

[@Nehmi]

@@Mrchair-bk5ns lemme guess. You don't have a lot of gay friends?

[@abandonedfragmentofhope5415]

Not me but I respect and admire Samantha and have no problems with who she is. My respect for her grows as time goes on. As a gay man who's not really a fan of Sex and the City I wish I was Miranda though truthfully in real life I'm a Charlotte.

[@abandonedfragmentofhope5415]

Although I do want Samantha's open-mindedness and immense loyalty.

[@steamyvegetables1445]

@@Nehmi What did they said before he/she deleted their comment.

[@randomthoughts6625]

@@Nehmi they are 3% of the population everyone who has less then 15 friends is unlikely to have a gay one among them

[@sparkynutters690]

As long as you’re not a Carrie, there’s hope for you 😂

[@smileysmiley1494]

😂😂 lol

[@onemillionpercent]

yessir 😭

[@SadieDLdn]

There are so many Carries. I think the reason she gets so much hate is that she’s a character who embodies the traits people hate most about themselves.

[@lisabradford8180]

@@SadieDLdn until I started watching these videos I didn't know there is so much hate for Carrie's character😳

[@Twinflame_4]

@@SadieDLdnI don’t know many Carries in real life. I see more of the other 3

[@jesswhycamarz]

Samantha’s self love is goals. I mean beyond her confidence, she refuses to accept less than she deserves. That’s self love. It never waivers. So admirable

[@cristinarivera5707]

I love seeing middle aged women portrayed as single, successful and with a full life. This is why I adore Sex and the city. I hate the expectation that every woman is supposed to be married with kids or is supposed to want that. Meanwhile it’s perfectly okay for men to be commitment phobic, run out on kids and want to sleep around. Ugh! I absolutely love Samantha

[@bellam7546]

It's actually not oke for men to be commitment phones. It's a myth. Guys still do get the "when are you settling down" lecture. Do you know how much shit Leonardo DiCaprio gets for his lifestyle? These matters don't have much to do with gender. I get that it may seem that one gender has more expectations than the other but it might not be the reality. All I'm saying is let's not be too quick to make general statements.

[@cristinarivera5707]

@@bellam7546 Actually it does have to do with gender because women are absolutely under more pressure to settle down then men are. Leonardo DiCaprio is seen as a highly desirable lothario who dates super models. Women of a certain age aren’t seen the same way. There’s actually several episodes of Sex and the city that address those very issues.

[@bellam7546]

@@cristinarivera5707 That`s your opinion. I grew up in a culture where both genders are pressured to settle down and given a lot of shit for being promiscuous. I think society should remove gender binaries. It`s because of gender binaries abuse of men is ignored.

[@DrBitchcraft.]

Also while I really disliked carrie at times, She and Samantha being so adamantly childfree makes me so happy because it’s such a rare representation even now.

[@mesCheerios]

@@bellam7546 There are definitely different cultures where men get more pressure to settle down. However, this video and the context of this video is definitely around american culture and general western culture. & i would add that in other cultures where men also get that pressure, women have even more pressures put on them again. I was previously engaged to a bangla guy and when he started cheating on me i realised he wasn't really in love with me, he was using me because he was pressured to settle down. He certainly suffered for the pressures he had but settling down & impregnating someone else was p much all that was expected of him. By contrast, his sister had already fulfilled her parents' wishes to settle down & get married to someone she barely knew....but was given the additional pressure of sorting out her irresponsible brother's life all the time and giving birth to a baby asap and doing all the housework perfectly (and i mean perfectly or she would be spoken badly of) and cooking amazing food and managing all the family's problems & of course, looking beautiful too. She also had her own personal desire besides doing everything for everyone else, to have a good career but she dropped it for her husband. My strong intuition based on what i saw, is the reason she couldn't get pregnant was because of all the burdens placed upon her. She was an incredibly beautiful intelligent resilient person who should have been absolutely thriving in life.

[@iarahelenameirelles3027]

"I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever and blow whomever I want as long as I can breathe and kneel." That's my favorite line on the show.

[@pixiebomb28]

girl! i always clap 😂

[@karlascheggia8937]

Finally Samantha's take. The real sexual anthropologist, confident, honest and consistent with her beliefs. She never left her friends for men and speak her mind. I always wanted to be a Samantha and i still want 😍😍

[@pixiebomb28]

bro i recently rewatched it and i dont understand at all why carrie was referred to as someone "who knows good sex" its utter bullshit, shes extremely judgmental and prudish. Their roles should have definitely have been reversed

[@karlascheggia8937]

I am also rewatching. Even in episode 01x10 Carrie calls Samantha "insecure" and compares her with her friend Leyni. Samantha was totally authentic. It was not a sexual adventurous to get the attention of men or to get a husband. She wanted to experience everything in life. trysexual. Her words. Also, if she had problems of intimacy, she overcame them and still chose herself. Carrie wanted to conquer the city through Mr. Big. Samantha was all the time her own Mrs. Too Big. Also, I loved her style chic and sexy.

[@AveGoddess]

"The Good One's Screw You. The Bad Ones Screw You. And the Rest Don't Know How to Screw You!?" - Samantha Jones

[@MissMBA]

Some people just don't want to sleep around like she did but love her independence, sense of humor and boss attitude.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Exactly

[@juliakay6204]

In my teens and 20s I believed in “the one” and sought someone who fit that fantasy. In my 30s I was married and had 2 kids and felt like there was something wrong with me because my fantasy never included this part of the story and I discovered I really didn’t love my husband. In my 40s I got divorced and tried looking again but had no idea what I wanted or was looking for. I’m now almost 50 and I’m happy and content being single and have a great life. I actively choose to live on my own. I’m not sure which archetype I am anymore but it’s the one where I matter more than my relationship status.

[@cosmiccrush22]

You go girl

[@julijakeit]

let's be honest here - you didn't marry your dream man. You married someone who didn't come even close and who doesn't want to make your dreams come true, only wants his to come true. So many women settle for much less because they are told that having high standards is selfish, that having your own dreams and goals is selfish and that in the relationships you have to sacrifice. So you did and I am so sorry for you. But hey, it sounds like you found happiness after all!

[@GemR38]

Dear Julia Kay, I relate to your story and I am glad you managed to realise you were unhappy and break free, it takes a lot of courage to do that! I'm 35, single, never married and no kids. To the world I therefore am a failure in this regard. I don't care. I've had relationships but I won't tolerate being treated badly or taken for granted. I would rather be alone than be in a relationship that isn't real love on both sides. If I ever find that I'd do everything I could to hold on to it but if it isn't a truly loving relationship then it isn't worth the time, effort and heartache.

[@Ruby-dc3wp]

@@GemR38 have you bought your first cat yet

[@GemR38]

@@Ruby-dc3wp Lol :-) no doubt the unconditional love of a pet is like the purest thing ever 😍. Sadly I can't have pets where I live but I'd love a cat.

[@annabeinglazy5580]

"I love you too, Richard, but I love me more" must be one of my favorite lines of the whole show. She doesnt hate Richard (any more) but she cannot trust him any more, and it's messing her up. So she ends the relationship to save herself. When I was younger, seeing this kind of breakup blew me away BECAUSE it wasnt about hate or falling out of love, but about accepting that someone you want is not right for you, no matter how much you want them

[@nancyglezhdez]

Yesss!!! That was my favorite line 🌟🌟🌟

[@amyunderwood2113]

Same. I saw this as a kid and I was mind-blown at the statement. I felt that prior to that was love was always doing everything for your partner, but this made me realize that hey, I come first. I wish I had used that more and I would have saved myself some heartbreak.

[@Mel-oe3dw]

Very well said!

[@maloneaqua]

My spirit always resonated with Samantha because of her optimism and open-mindedness! Looking back...if Samantha seems emotionally unavailable it's because her emotions were always being leased by one of the other ladies who needed her to be the "strong one!" Even in the midst of her cancer diagnosis, and her own heartbreak... Samantha never cast judgment on them, and they knew it. So they ALWAYS brought all their baggage to her front door - Miranda with her perpetual pessimism and neurosis, Charlotte with her perfectionism and obsessive conformity, and Carrie with constant selfish and self-destructive behavior - in fact, she reminds me of how draining it can be to have multiple, close relationships. It's wrong to call her 'vain'. Just because she wasn't constantly picking herself apart like the other women, doesn't mean she's vain... a vain person wouldn't leave the mirror long enough to be such a constant support system for their friends, and wouldn't cheer them on and lift them up as often as she does. Confidence should be vocalized, there's nothing wrong about saying what you deserve to feel about yourself.

[@ambriaashley3383]

Agree with everything you said!!!

[@sarizonana]

Actually her commitment to her friends is what makes her the best character. She was truly the most mature in every way. In the first movie when Carrie was dumped by Mr Big it was Samantha who got them all in the honeymoon and the one who made Carrie eat and get out of her depressive mood. So she didn’t care for a committed relationship with a man but was very available for her friends.

[@carlab30]

Exactly! She always seemed the most balanced to me

[@brigidcoleman8728]

So spot on!!

[@foodandrecipes6195]

Wow!

[@Myview246]

Not every woman has the energy, the ability or the confidence to be a Samantha, thats why. Some of us don't WANT to sleep around, some of us don't enjoy sex that much, some of us are too lazy to put in the effort to bedhop (Me!) and some of us just don't have the confidence to do it. Having said that I LOVE Samantha for her fierceness, eagerness, attitude and her ability to go after what she wants. Its different, its rare and I think thats why she became everyones favorite. Because shes essentially our alter ego who has been turned into an actual person (or character).

[@veritysimone]

She's also the best friend out of the four. Her loyalty is incredible.

[@sofia__soul]

I am in awe of how perfectly Kim interpreted Samatha and made this character so iconic. I love her cute face, cheecky expressions and infectious smile...she could say the most provocative and kinky lines and yet look so innocent and honest.

[@actionfx1]

8:42 “Samantha’s character started as a fan favorite and has slowly lost popularity” ...I’m sorry, wut? Since when? Only one I can think of who this true for is Carrie... and rightfully so tbh.

[@aayushidua23]

Exactly

[@justjoannak]

Agreed

[@SnarkierThan-U-R]

Samantha has NEVER lost popularity, just look at her, nuf said

[@chanelbresnick1332]

Exactly what I thought

[@Kittykert]

Everyone should aspire to have Samantha’s confidence.

[@user-ko5xc7hs6v]

Exactly

[@matematicarka]

we do, but we just don't have it

[@tonnyrodrigueznunez]

exactly , because the real challenge is to accept yourself and have confidence without validation, but once you achieve that, it's really the ultimate freedom.

[@ShoSho-cq7ct]

Would it work if she wasn’t a white straight woman though?

[@alrune8]

There are too many preconditions to her confidence my dear. Not that many of us can gather that many conditions: A/ Excessively good-looking; B/ Wealthy and successful businesswomen; C/ Have a close-knit group of actual friends (NOT business partners); D/ Live in a city big enought to anonymize us and not expose us to public shaming (inevitable in small towns) and provide wih a hefty supply of good-looking men.

[@Michael-xi9nb]

That’s interesting, I never really felt that her character lost popularity over time. People often note that the character is ahead of her time - particularly in an age where we recognise that slut-shaming is a thing.

[@jk4351]

If anyone lost popularity over time - it's Carrie

[@rishabhanand4973]

Unfortunately, I still see a lot of incel /mgtow people online who slut shame a lot. Though hopefully that’s just a loud minority

[@Michael-xi9nb]

@@rishabhanand4973 Of course it hasn’t gone away - it’s just that (sensible) people are now aware that it exists!

[@pincmin]

I'm at the beginning of season 4 right now, and I'm loving Samantha. While Carrie is infatuated with CEOs (Big) and had a terrible sense of not being enough for whatever reason (the imbalance in power is one of them for sure, it's not only a psychological thing, won't deny it), Samantha wants to sleep with young beautiful men and older powerful men, not because she wants to live vicariously through them, but because she thinks they are at her level, that she deserves them.

[@Vejur9000]

This is an iconic landmark character in television history. Period.

[@titaoutre2738]

I strive to be a Samantha while being a Miranda! Those are the two characters with whom I identified throughout the series. I’m in my 40’s, single, career minded and sexually adventurous, marriage was never on the agenda and will remain that way, and I love that! More women should strive to be more like Samantha, successful, single, mature and sexually liberated! What’s wrong with that?

[@simplyrowen]

Amen! The keyword being CHOICE. We didn’t have one before. We weren’t allowed to work, so we NEEDED a husband to support us and ensure our existence. Now we can choose if we want an equal partner in crime or being single. It’s our choice, and that’s what was beautiful about Samantha. She owned her sexuality, she was unapologetic, honest, a good friend. She was free. That’s something we can all aspire to be. Flawed? Sure, but who can say “I am perfect”? No one.

[@RJ-ew9fl]

Yeah I strive to be more of a good friend and happy with myself and figuring out what I want. And that’s gonna be a lifelong battle and marriage isn’t really the key to my happiness.

[@anelbre0904]

Hear hear!!! My family is OBSESSED with me getting married and having kids. That sounds like a death sentence to me. I've evolved so far out of that thinking that it sounds like a fever dream I once had. They're actually angry with me that this is my choice in life. I don't care. Everyone I know is absolutely miserable with their spouses and kids, and I'll be damned if that end up being my fate. Not knocking anyone who's chosen that path, but I've come to realize that it isn't for me. I strive to be the cool aunt who breezes into town every so often then leaves on a whim again. The kind who travels, eats well, enjoys life and has a few lovers on tap!! Cheers to making that happen!! 🧜🏿‍♀️🍻

[@darkknight6835]

True true true

[@randomthoughts6625]

No kids. Your gene pool will die out

[@ariathy0072]

"I love you, Richard. But I love me more" that line really stuck with me. Samantha's such a strong, great character.

[@ramirenriquez6795]

Samantha is the "sex" in that city, Carrie is the drama queen (though I do love her), Miranda is the career-driven one, and Charlotte is the hopeless romantic

[@lemsip207]

Charlotte is also the most maternal though it's Miranda who accidentally gets pregnant despite only having one ovary and has to adapt to motherhood.

[@actuallyterry]

I feel like Samantha is career driven as well. The sex part just overshadows it.

[@ramirenriquez6795]

@@actuallyterry Yeah, she got her own company I forgot, the sex part indeed overshadows her professional side

[@cameronbennett8151]

I disagree with about half of this video, and think it took some things out of context to support the thesis but I liked watching it regardless. What I like about Samantha is how fantastic of a friend she is. It sometimes gets lost since the show is called "sex" and the city, and not "four best friends," but she supports them constantly, encourages them to love and value themselves, and prioritizes them over her romantic relationships. She's fiercely loyal and is often vulnerable around them and I think it's sad that because she's not often emotionally vulnerable with her romantic partners, people interpret that as her being emotionally immature. I like that she views sex as something fun that brings her a lot of pleasure -it's a new adventure for her each time. She goes after what she wants time and time again, whether that's a client, a man, or a membership to a pool. She prioritizes her career her friends, and sex. But unlike a lot of other headstrong women in media, she isn't portrayed as cruel, nor does she try to bring other women down. And while she can say be judgmental of other people settling down, it always came off more as an annoyance that she had to respect their lifestyles and choices, but they weren't respectful of her choices.

[@MJQueenForever]

Samantha is my SATC heroine! I absolutely LOVE her and always had a crush on her. Her outlook, never apologising for herself, the most directly honest, was the best friend to all the girls, and had the ability to love another but never gave up on HERSELF like so many others do because they choose what they THINK is right for them or go by society's rules, over their own self worth. Samantha actually was confident in her own skin. The only times her confidence was slightly shaken in herself, was when she fell in love... Yet always realised that she needed to put herself first! Which inevitably put the ones she loved first too. So they didn't end up getting super hurt because she became either miserable or end up cheating on someone she truly cared for. Especially for Smith. I still only accept the end of SATC the show as the true ending as Sam and Smith were my fave and had the most realistic love between them.

[@Svengali764]

Who wouldn't wanna be Samantha? She is the only one who's really master of her own life. I wanna be her, I just can't be her.

[@haminational3885]

awww honey ur being tooo mean to urself

[@mirandaosborne7196]

She is definitely one of my top characters on this show I just know I don’t have the confidence to be a samatha

[@msfriendsfan4ever788]

Who even has the confidence of a Samantha

[@ShoSho-cq7ct]

I tried to pull off confidence like her. But it’s not easy, especially if you’re an immigrant, colored woman. Reality is different for different people.

[@alrune8]

There are way too many preconditions to have that confidence. Don't beat yourself over the head for it. To be a "Samantha", you need to be excessively good looking (as in not average good-looking, not feminist good-looking, I'm talking Hollywood good-looking like Cattrall was in her prime), wealthy and very successful , and you must have a close-knit circle of friends, instead of business partners. Way too few women can gather the whole package.

[@ShoSho-cq7ct]

@@alrune8 agree! She’s a fictional character after all. Not to say there aren’t women like that. I bet there are quite a few in New York City

[@josepizzulo2418]

@Brighton thats the mos inteligent coment i ve read hear so far

[@ItscharliebabyXD]

Wait people don’t wanna be like Samantha? She is my role model! I love how badass she is.

[@BeGlamourlicious]

Hey sister me too. I want to be her. I will be her.

[@carlab30]

They’re going off a buzzfeed quiz which counts for nothing

[@alrune8]

Because Samantha is only badass because she gathers a lot of conditions that most of us can't have from the get-go, the main ones being excessively attractive to men and being wealthy and successful.

[@sailorspills3025]

The quiz was “do you see yourself as a Samantha?” And not “do you want to be a Samantha?” EVERYONE wants to be a Samantha!!

[@tamaritaP]

Samantha is a badass because no matter what she stayed true to herself and to the people she cared for, so it’s not about who wants to be a Samantha but who CAN be one!!!

[@alexisflowers5069]

"To be a Samantha is to be self assured, emotionally evolving, and true to yourself" freaking love it 💘

[@mariagabbott]

I love how positive Samantha was to her friends and even her own life choices. She never judged her friends, even when giving them advice. She's quite a modern character

[@historylover9999]

She is sex and the city. It was kinda annoying having a main character who was kinda prude about certain topics and acts.

[@bloodtypena]

Agreed samantha is open remember when carrie judged her when she was dating a woman or bitching about bisextuals carrie is my least favorite. She is weak and selfish and immature

[@Qu33nMary444]

Agreed, it's unfortunate when the lead character of a show is also the worst & most annoying one...

[@jk4351]

@@Qu33nMary444 Even more unfortunate that the actress that played the main character became a producer and had the audacity to pay Kim Catrall less than herself

[@Qu33nMary444]

@@jk4351 Ugh I know right?! But I love that in the years since the series ended, Kim has proven herself to be a hundred times classier & more talented than SJP in her career choices & general personality ❤

[@gaesimp__]

Honestly

[@LonnieBhi]

I think many of us want to be Samantha. She exudes masculine energy, has higher than average confidence, and no fear of being judged which is essentially rare. Being good looking helps too.

[@alrune8]

Being good-looking doesn't help, it's absolutely necessary to be Samantha. No truly ugly woman would have that many men looking to bang her.

[@pistachiosandpopcorn7146]

@@alrune8 Now you know that's a lie. Women can get it any time they want it . And no I'm not a red pill bitter man...I'm a woman that is a realist.

[@alrune8]

​@@pistachiosandpopcorn7146 Truly ugly women can only get it from ugly and/or obese men that no other woman wants. Dusties as they're sometimes called. Samantha only deals with high-value men who have a lot of options, so I'm sorry but good looks aren't optional here.

[@Sageoftheforest7]

@@pistachiosandpopcorn7146 Your average woman can get a lot of sex, true, but not with the handsome and successful guys Samantha dates. You need a hot bod and a hot personality for that! That's why Samantha is such a pistol.

[@mimiwey9014]

When I was younger than now, I never questioned the “work, get married, have children” but now I’m open to whatever life brings me, it doesn’t have to be that one route. So if I am happy as a Samantha, I will he a Samantha ❤️

[@Logitah]

I am really tired of toxic monogamy and the need for every character to be in a relationship (I am asexual). That's why I'm all for Samantha doing what she wants.

[@Andrea-hc4mm]

Exactly, we need more not wanting relationship characters. Just free unique interesting individuals living their life and following their dreams.

[@katherinemorelle7115]

I think if I were a very sexual person, I’d be a kind-of Samantha. As it is, while I do have a kid, I’m single and more than happy to stay that way. I nether want nor need a relationship. I have emotional connections with my loved ones, and if I wanted sex, I could easily find it (which I think is the case for most women- sex is not hard to find). But I don’t really want sex, and I’m happy with that. That being said, human sexuality is one of my personal interests. So even though I don’t personally have much of it these days, I still tend to be the person my friends and daughter seek out to talk about it. I pride myself on being non judgemental. I think there are many aspects to Samantha’s character that we should all strive to emulate. That doesn’t mean being promiscuous if that’s not for you, it means being non judgemental and accepting of human sexuality as it exists. That’s what I’ve always loved about Samantha. That being said, I definitely don’t have her confidence, and I wish I did.

[@shivanivij04]

Exactly mannnn !

[@laurenalexander3472]

Totally this. And when they do get together they must eventually have a kid even if it makes no sense to the characters journeys

[@DGenerationX1311]

Right?!

[@femmeviews]

Her so-called "friends" were actually her biggest haters 🙃

[@bored7148]

wait were they actually? i've recently been binging the show but i haven't noticed the group hating on her at all, besides charlotte (her total opposite) sometimes speaking against her lifestyle

[@SACERDOTISAIRENE]

@@bored7148 They didn't fully hate her but they could be really judgemental at times

[@nikidon99]

Especially Charlotte. She would always fight with Sam

[@femmeviews]

@@nikidon99 Always!

[@alrune8]

Haters? No. They were actual friends, instead of sycophantic business partners. True friends don't just flatter you, they also call you out when you fuck up or when you're about to do something morally questionable, otherwise it's not friendship, it's servitude.

[@KaylaNoelle1]

I always loved Samantha, I especially enjoyed watching her friendship with Charlotte, her ideological opposite, grow, and deepen. She *always* was emotionally open, she was just more comfortable exploring that side of herself in a platonic context, she would be a great friend for anyone to have.

[@FronkieTheSaltyRat]

I think it's important to discuss aromanticism as well! Literally some people are not interested in romantic relationships at all and we need to respect that and stop assuming that they're broken.

[@BrandiMonard]

i seriously thought that out of all the characters, everyone wanted to be samantha. Every time i talk to girls about the show, they want to be a samantha but they aren't. She is a very enviable personality! Im confused by the title but interested to watch!

[@user-zh8bc7jo6l]

I actually never felt that Samantha's character became less popular or applauded in recent years. I would say her and miranda get the most positive comments while Charlotte and especially Carrie are really hated by some, or at least disliked. Which I don't agree with, I love them all for all the kinds of womanhood and stages of life and maturity they represent. Also I found it funny that in that survey "which sex and the city character are you" yes samantha was fifth but carrie was under her with least votes. I think a lot of people lack some self awareness when it comes to their own messiness and capability to be flawed

[@gabriellaberman]

YES! I fully agree. Carrie is the most fleshed out character and I see her in so many of my close friends, including myself. The other three are easy to say “I’m like that” because they’re far more archetypical.

[@icedoatmilklatte910]

Samantha is bold, confident, nonjudgmental, tough and funny ... who wouldn’t want to be her?! 🤣 She’s always been my favorite SATC character (even though, I’m a Miranda 😉).

[@alrune8]

Because you can only be her while you're pretty and young enough. Past age 60, living like Samantha will make you look like the female version of the old guy in the night club.

[@bubblegumplastic]

@@alrune8 Ridiculous. Older people are allowed to enjoy their sex/romantic lives however they want, just don't engage if it's not your thing. An older guy/woman at the club is regularly the person I lust after and like to take home 🤷 they know how to fuck bruh

[@alrune8]

​@@bubblegumplastic Pfft. Older how? Like 70 years old? 80 years old? Don't be ridiculous. You like older as in 40, maybe 50 but not somebody old enough to be your grandparent.

[@bubblegumplastic]

@@alrune8 No man, 60+. They're not my grandparents, I'm in my 30s. A 60 year old is a daddy to me 👀 Just because you're not interested, doesn't mean no one is. Just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't mean no one should. Judging others like this doesn't make you a more worthwhile person 🤷 You're gonna be 70 one day, I hope you'll still have fun with your partner, whoever it is and however you find them. You don't stop being a person with desires at any point, society just tries their hardest to erase that fact and force older people into this narrow sexless concept. It's not right.

[@alrune8]

​@@bubblegumplastic Thanks for proving my point: you are 30 THEREFORE you might be attracted to someone that age if they're atheltic and rich enough because I highly doubt you would go for someone 30 years your senior if they were poor, paunchy and/or sickly, don't pretend you would. Fucking people old enough to be one's grandparent is a sexual kink very few people have. Too few to make it the "norm" or something that should be institutionalized. I don't care about being "better" than anyone, I'm just baffled to see people so afraid of old age. And I'm not even that much older than you. When I'm 70, I hope to be a respectable, responsible and knowledgeable grandmother, with other pursuits in my life than my orgasms so I can spend my days reading and spoiling my grandchildren with imparting some knowledge on them, and not a sex-crazed spinster who believes she's "free" because she behaves like an old pervert.

[@DaenerysTheQueen]

I always admired Samantha for her confidence and non-conformity.

[@trinaq]

I agree, even though I identified with Samantha the least out of the four girls, I still admired her confidence, wit and willingness to live life to the full! 💖

[@mtngrl5859]

I always identified as a Samantha versus the other ladies, not because of the sex but because of the devotion she had for her friends. I always have felt friends are harder to have than a boyfriend.

[@ornenow4703]

Living Single was a show about four single women living in New York that debuted four years before Sex and the City. Because it stars Black women this tends to be overlooked but it needs to be acknowledged.

[@LC_butnotfrom_theOC]

I think an underrated “Samantha” character is Katherine from Under the Tuscan Sun. Both are women past their 30s and 40s, unmarried and without children, very sexually active, and completely happy with their life choices, despite the fact everyone around them judges said life choices.

[@yolandacarroll558]

I thought of her during the video too! ^_^

[@Tof235]

Omg how I LOVE that movie!

[@marygracebuckley9367]

Yes! I just rewatched Under the Tuscan Sun last week, and I love Katherine so much! She lives her life on her own terms, and I have to admire that.

[@smartbunny]

I've never had anyone tell me I should be married or even ask me about it; yet on TV and in movies people bug single women all the time. Does that really happen a lot? That sucks!

[@JuxJacy]

@@smartbunny I am 38 and never married. I had a coworker once tell me she isn't friends with single people, that all her friends have to be married. Married women look at me suspiciously like I am trying to steal their dumbass husbands (spoiler: he may hit on me like crazy behind your back but I don't want him lady). It gets tiresome. There is definitely cultural influences pushing women into marriage. My married friend once asked me if I had ever been proposed to. I said no and he was shocked and basically made it out like I am less of a woman cuz no dude has never wanted to marry me.

[@DCMarvelMultiverse]

I once fell for someone who was very individualistic, a real survivor, and free. I then realized that if I tried to tie her down then she would no longer be the woman I loved. Thankfully, she would choose herself.

[@erurihope2543]

Hey, you dropped this 👑

[@Nat-pc8nt]

I HATED Barney’s ending. It was a total backslide and him not even remembering his daughter’s mother’s name was gross.

[@MissAngie25]

Who was Barney? I don’t remember this character.

[@genzi78514]

Totally agree, but I think that you are in the wrong video XD.

[@orangeface4759]

@@genzi78514 Nope. This person is talking about the part of the video where they talk about Barney on "How I met Your Mother".

[@Nat-pc8nt]

@@genzi78514 lol, they compare Barney to Samantha in this video, hence my comment.

[@Nat-pc8nt]

@@MissAngie25 from HIMYM. They talk about him in this video, as he’s a male, more accepted version of Samantha.

[@ledisquetel4151]

I don’t see anything wrong with Samantha; she is an independent woman that owns her decisions and doesn’t make excuses. Admirable!!

[@LauDor08]

Loved how real and down to earth Samantha was. Like saying marriage doesn't guarantee a happy ending. Her being nontraditional was apart of her charm. The only time she pissed me off was when she went upstairs with Richard while dating Smith. But overall, I love how unapologetic and honest she is. She's promiscuous, but she's never lied or led anyone on.

[@jlcii]

So, in short, the most attack aspect about Samantha is merely that she is emotionally, mentally, and sexually sound on her own, within herself. She doesn't need completeness by an outside source, AKA, a man. While the other three characters ultimately don't find true fulfillment until they are committed in romantic relationships, Samantha's ultimate fulfillment is simply her being herself, and loving herself enough to be happy without a significant other being necessary. As her classic line goes, "I love you, but I love me more." Unfortunately, in a patriarchal, traditionalist, conservative, nuclear family-oriented society, anything that isn't a man and woman joined together in holy matrimony and popping out 2.5 kids is seen as less-than-ideal or flat out unacceptable. This can be said about same-sex couples, polyamorous relationships, and lifelong celibacy, or being a bachelor / Bachelorette.

[@alrune8]

You can be a bachelorette all your life long if that's what you're looking for and if you understand the price to pay in exchange for this lifestyle i.e. the necessity of growing a titanium skin to shrug off other people's opinions (no emotional weakling can sustain lifelong singlehood, which Samantha demonstrates), all your precious belongings going to waste if you have no one bequeath it to, obligation of single motherhood if you want a kid, solitary old age etc... As long as you don't expect other people to protect you from the consequences of lifelong singlehood, you will reap the benefits. They just won't be the same as a woman who chose a different route because different lifestyles means different rewards and risks, that's all.

[@evanatbri-s13]

And it is seen as "LESS" for a reason.

[@cattyelse2372]

@@alrune8 such a judgemental comment and stuck right back in 1950.some people may want to be married but never meet anyone so are they supposed to go...f..themselves? do you think all married people dont end up alone and old when partners die and you can leave your money to a charity or people who need it so much for the precious belongings,Mothers and families are praised and protected all the time and some of them are very unpleasant people.They are protected and rewards financially by the state.Single women who are not much like samantha and few really are..get no rewards and long term single men neither.I dont see why families should be rewarded especially in these times of climate emergency.choice is also a fantasy

[@cattyelse2372]

@@evanatbri-s13 what does that mean? who says families and mothers are more?again, judgemental.who says she is less? we all end up alone anyway and many peoples kids are not that great and when the tsunami of climate emergency hits them their insignificance will be realised.

[@alrune8]

@@cattyelse2372 Climate emergency is such a convenient pretext for virtue-signaling people who believe not reproducing is going to make them "good people". Thanks for proving my point: people who are slaves to other people's opinions of them aren't suited for an alternative lifestyle, whichever it is. If you can't live your life without riding the pseudo-moralist bandwagon along with all the social media addicts, the twitter mobsters and all that shit, just keep on following trends and try to make believe you're somehow part of a community that would just disappear the minute Internet and electricity are down. Families are present and tangible, online communities are virtual, that's the difference. Someone like Samantha is a product of her era and Sex & the City would find no resonance if it had come out in the new 20's, even if Samantha was the main character.

[@BeGlamourlicious]

Samantha has one thing only a few people have.....SHE LOVES HERSELF. SHE IS AMAZING

[@dvdv8197]

I'd wanna be her. She's so goddamn free in every single aspect!

[@alrune8]

Except from old age as the show itself made a point to underline.

[@JugglernautNr9]

but is she really?

[@ahocka]

Best line ever, "I love you too, but I love me more"

[@haircarewithgauri]

Wow this video made me feel that maybe I should aspire to be like her. Her ability to love herself and prioritise herself is something that will help me. Plus, her ability to become more emotionally vulnerable shows that she can work on herself.

[@Spicie95]

I am asexual, so I don't relate to Samantha´s way of life, bit I've always loved her as a character. She is so charming and insightful, there for her friends, and, along with Miranda, grows the most through the series. I will proudly declare myself a Samantha in terms of personal fulfillment and a life well-lived.

[@BarrocoTarot]

I want to be Samantha!

[@imnotblonde670]

Me too she’s the definition of power

[@BarrocoTarot]

@@imnotblonde670 And freedom.

[@abandonedfragmentofhope5415]

Power to you!

[@emalaga111]

Same ^_^

[@mihinsawijesinghe7281]

Omg Same

[@Yuyu99000]

I adore her..and she went through A LOT so fiercely I can’t even.

[@alyssajchase]

I always thought Carrie was the best character - but as I’ve gotten older, Samantha is the one I’ve learned from the most! An amazing character - strong, beautiful, real.

[@QueXLcior]

I think what’s most important through your relationships is that you’re being comfortable and being yourself and with people that support that, no matter how it’s expressed.

[@xbjrrtc]

God, Kim is so beautiful. She was perfect in this role in every way. I wish the video had elaborated more on what a good friend she was to all three ladies, but overall it did a good job describing her character.

[@olgajaworska7430]

I honestly hate how monogamous relationships are THE ONLY default in all our media. As if finding "the one" is the most important thing in life ever, especially for women. That's why I don't watch anything with a romantic relationship as a main plot. I hate how every woman has to be "cured of singledom". Sex and the City has a lot of good qualities, but I can't enjoy it anymore. Samantha is still awesome.

[@godessa3619]

I feel the exact same way! Some movies I really enjoy that don’t revolve around “romance” are: 1. Like A Boss 2. Ocean’s 8 ❤️

[@ginoongbughaw3223]

True. I heard this is written by male writers.

[@sophiadanhalt]

She is the most interesting character of the show, period.

[@booksboundnoveljourneys1122]

I think Samantha has so many admirable qualities. I would kill for that woman’s confidence. I don’t know how she does it. How can a woman be that confident? Id love to know!

[@maloneaqua]

It’s very aspirational that someone as judgmental as Charlotte can be in a friend group with Samantha.

[@alrune8]

Because Charlotte, no matter how judgemental she may be, is just as sincere as Samantha in her ways. A tradwife like her wouldn't be genuine if she weren't judgemental, mostly because it's her way to show that she cares, even if it's not the nicest way.

[@favoritos934]

She deserves a show for herself.

[@princess1peach]

I'd watch

[@sunflowerlovesbees]

I adore her character ....good role for women who tend to feel belittled by men’s expectations!

[@Aster_Risk]

And other women's. Sometimes we can be really awful to one another.

[@sunflowerlovesbees]

@@Aster_Risk that’s true ...which is so unnecessary

[@kaylab6306]

Ok but the quiz asked who we SAW ourselves as not who we WANTED to be. Seeing yourself as a Samantha would take a buttload of confidence. I see myself as hot mess Carrie but would cut off my right hand to be Samantha.

[@rubyzeidman1334]

Exactly like those are two diff answers. I might not see myself as a Samantha, but I still love her and want to emulate her

[@jaky411]

Although in real life i might not be a samantha, I really find her character the most interesting and stand out. She never feels bad or sorry for herself for being exactly who she is and she sees her flaws as not a weakness but strength. She is not afraid of failure or what other people think besides what she feels is right for herself.

[@isaveiga31]

I love Samantha nowadays but judged her so much in the past primarily because I couldn’t see past her promiscuity. Her story, along with Miranda’s, is the one that touched me the most. She learned she could really be whatever she wanted, and that includes a woman committed to a relationship. In a way, she proved to herself that her choices were not based on “I can’t do that” rather than “I prefer to don’t do that”. She’s brave!

[@Beretboytoy]

To be fair, saying "I'm not a Samantha" isn't really the same as "I don't want to be Samantha". Still a great video though.

[@DaenerysTheQueen]

Also, as mentioned elsewhere, the problem is that Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte are more "schematic" and onesided than Carrie. We see a lot of one side of them, they aren't as nuanced as Carrie. Maybe that's why we dislike Carrie the most. Because we see all of her imperfections, ambiguous choices and decisions.

[@QuietlyCurious]

So true and well said

[@matematicarka]

agreed. often happens with the main character

[@gaesimp__]

I disagree, I hate her because she's self-absorbed, a liar, and she cheated and lied about it. She doesn't put her friends first at all and is just a child

[@monabohamad2242]

@@gaesimp__ then same goes for her friends

[@CarissaGlow]

“I Love You, But I Love Me More.” - Samantha Jones 😎🔥

[@julieake3875]

Thats what my dad told all of hs 4 daughters. Love yourself more than you love any man. I live by those words to this day.

[@maloneaqua]

Still hits like the first time I heard it.

[@rohmann000]

​@@julieake3875 way to be a narcissist

[@Hiiiiiiiiieeee]

@@rohmann000 it’s not about that. It’s about knowing your self-worth and what can make you truly happy. A lot of us spend our lives trying to make relationships work that just never will. And it’s honestly more cruel to stay with someone that you know you can never be truly happy with then it is to just let them go.

[@rohmann000]

​@@Hiiiiiiiiieeee Obviously I completely agree, and my comment was also meant to be slightly provocative. However, I do believe that the philosophy that you have to love yourself more than other people (say, your life partner) is actually a quite selfish philosophy. Instead of saying that you have to "love yourself" I much prefer the ieda that you must know your self-worth and have respect for yourself, as you just reframed it. But I don't believe that people should love themselves more than other people. And loving yourself more than your partner is not the same as having respect for yourself or knowing your self-worth. You have to love your partner as much as you love you, otherwise the relationship is doomed in advance, in my humble opinion.

[@Joann183]

I aspire to be Samantha. She was unapologetic about taking what she wanted for herself and I believe every woman should strive to be unapologetic about what they want too.

[@saneill17]

I look for Samantha in a friend! She’s so confident and says what she thinks. And very supportive. She’s best friend material for sure!

[@lavallepresenta]

For the first time I have to say I disagree with the comment that people where happy with Barney`s ending in "How I met", a lot of people were upset this character went back to his old ways

[@AgnessaMo]

Well, him becoming a father gave him some maturity, so maybe that was the part that made people happy. I don't know, I also hated the ending with passion.

[@jennivee5621]

years and years of character development just so Ted could get with freaking Robin smh

[@matyasnora1114]

I watched SATC first in my 20s, and since re-watched it a few times. I still find Samantha's character fascinating. Not because of her sexual prowess, but because she is unapologetically herself. She doesn't pretend to be something that she isn't, flaws and all. And I honestly think that that's the way to a happy life. She settled when she felt like it, moved on when she felt like it, lived her life on her own terms. She is not a perfect character, she has shortcomings, but don't we all? We are thought to always put others first, but sometimes we have to prioritize ourselves.

[@SP-pl9kg]

I remember my mom hating on her when we were watching SATC together. She was by far my favorite character and it was then I knew that my mom’s views and mine are eventually gonna conflict each other. And so they did.

[@roquintana8888]

Great analysis, I loved samantha from day one watching the show, I wish I had her confidence to live so unapologetic, truly an ICON