Things I've Changed My Mind About

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[@marylou42192]

Mine is that I don’t need every friendship I make to be at the “best friend” level. Some people can be in my life as the “going-out” friend, or the “gym-friend”, etc. I use to struggle so much with making friends because I always cut people out the moment I notice that they aren’t giving me the same energy. Now I know it’s ok, not everyone wants to be best friends with me nor do some people crave the same type of vulnerable friendship that I want.

[@yeyzee]

i agree w this heavily!!! more like keep acquaintances with benefits. no need to carry baggage that way

[@christinethinguyen2394]

I couldnt agree so much more with this!! 💕💕💕

[@Hahadot]

can't agree more with this there should not be an absolute definition of friendship

[@biandakanani]

ah, i love the way you worded this. you gave me a lot to think about 😅

[@alishalee1219]

Couldn’t have said it better!

[@Kimmy2hope]

I changed my mind on the belief “the point of life is to be happy” I used to believe that wholeheartedly and that we had to reduce the things that made us sad and experience as much happiness as possible. But through grief and overcoming challenges I’ve come to realize that life is about feeling and growing and experiencing. Yes it’s great to be happy, but it’s not “happiness or else you’ve failed.” A lot of experience has taught me that the negative emotions are great teachers. Both the highs and lows are valid.

[@vortexofweird]

I think that sadness and happiness are kind of like yin and yang. You need both in life and they balance each other. After all, happiness means nothing if you are “happy” all the time.

[@R0CK0Nbaby]

I love this!! Such wise words, thank you for sharing!!

[@austeja.bernatovic]

Thank you for this comment. It was so needed for me to read it, because in my whole life I was feeling the same - that happiness is everything. But since recently I have had my first few months with anxiety attacks and depression, I started to understand that to. It was so refreshing to read and see these words from someone else.

[@kiwi9660]

this life changing fr

[@ZZ-lq7kv]

@@vortexofweird Glad to see "yin yang" theory. Definitely agree with u

[@sp00keds0up2]

I used to be so bad at interviews but I realised it’s not all about getting them to hire you. It is also about seeing if you’re a good culture fit and if YOU like the company too!

[@_dearolive]

YES!!! Thank you for the reminder 😭

[@Awwdray]

HONESTLY. YES. NOW, I ASK... Why is this role open? I don't want that role to open knowing that someone left because the culture is toxic 😅 sometimes I would ask what made you intrigue with my resume/cover letter. So many questions. Interviewers should be interviewed too. And I think asking questions for yourself sets an amazing example of your curiosity but also critically thinking about the company for yourself

[@carolynchen317]

I used to think there was a “correct” way of living life- and I’d nitpick my romantic partners or friends that they *should* be doing this or that, if they didn’t have the same goals/lifestyle as me but now I realize there’s no universal right way to live life

[@azn2sun]

Yess! I realized this with how parents and grandparents say what would be best for your future! We all were literally dropped on earth raised to believe there are rules on how to live when there really isn't. Only ourselves know what our purpose is

[@96yessie]

Wow I can empathize so big on this, how do you overcome that mindset or what made it click for you??

[@FeisworldMedia]

This video is so lovely. It’s like having a therapist for free. Good job Jenn after all these years. I’ve been watching since 2013 if not before.

[@lynnekim]

Hi Jenn ❤️ I’m 21 and every time you talk about your 20s, I feel like I’m going through the same turbulence you once did. It inspires me so much to see a glimpse of the calm, fulfilled person I’ll become in the future 🥰 Thank you for your videos, they’re always so reassuring and uplifting ✨

[@williamkeeling2311]

Bless your young soul, you can't see how fake she is. She puts all her BS under the carpet and is a fake to people in their faces. EGGIE says it all with the deletion of the video and abuse and unhappy customers as well as the fake sustainable videos LOL

[@annainldn]

For me, it would be “it’s okay to change your mind”. Sometimes we think that we really have an idea of exactly what we want to do annnnd it turns out that after you do it or just before, you realise that you changed your mind. It used to be a major thing for me to accept and I felt “defeated” because of it. It’s okay to change. Specially your mind. Love your videos! Xx

[@Erikaok123]

I’ve changed my mind about Jesus… I was basically an atheist when I was younger. But my life has turned into a beautiful journey ever since my conversion to Catholicism. I have found true peace and happiness. Happy to see your growth, I have been enjoying your videos for over 6 years!

[@NextLevelMeNow]

Good for you! Glad you are in happiness!

[@aj2luvnpce]

Mine is: "In the end, you are on your own." I used to be very dependent on the people around me (ex. family, friends, partner. etc.). I was especially extremely dependent on the partner that I was with. If I had a fight with my boyfriend, my mood would be shitty for the entire day. If the relationship with my boyfriend was not so strong anymore, I would think that I was just not worthy of love BECAUSE that particular person didn't love me anymore. My worth was centered based on the relationship status with other people. But now (after experiencing a few painful breakups), I've come to realize that if I don't learn how to stand on my own, I willl always fall because no matter how strong the relationships are, it is only temporary. If you think about it, the VERY last person you get to be with until your last breath is yourself. So...why not work on the permanent and the longest relationship you will ever get to have - the relationship with yourself?

[@sunnik1019]

I well and truly struggle with this. I’m 26 and am still so “extroverted” and cannot go more than a day alone at home before I start feeling so low on energy and “depressed”. How do I grow to become more comfortable and enjoy being alone? I have hobbies such as gardening and reading but they only suffice for a day. Then I become anxious and down exponentially with each day alone. What helped you?

[@aj2luvnpce]

@@sunnik1019 Well, first of all, I don't think there is any problem with feeling anxious when beling alone. As long as you are gaining energy from spending time with other people and it's giving you positive influences, I think feeling the need to be with other people is very natural. But since I don't know your situtation in depth, I'd like to say that whatever it is that you are struggling with, I hope you find a way to overcome it and become stronger :) I'm 28 btw. Anyways, just to answer to your question, I am still working on becoming independent. It's still a working process, but focusing on MY own needs and trying to figure what what makes ME happy seems to be pretty important. I'm trying to find a way to enjoy the time that I get to spend alone. As you said, hobbies do help. But self-improvement is also helpful. For example, working out/studying/ doing something that will help you improve your career status - something that will improve your SELF WORTH in YOUR OWN way. ✨️

[@ilovemyears]

I used to be ashamed of my "small" boobs during my teenagehood. Then I met some of my best friends in university and they happened to have MASSIVE ones that brought SO MANY problems: back pain, bad posture, painful bras, and disgusting catcallers. I loved hearing from you that you love your boobs now. I think that calling them small or big is so subjective depending on who sorrounds you and your culture... Thank you Jenn for this type of video-reflexions, you always get to share with us how important it is to reflect, grow and adapt. Much love from Berlin :)

[@zen7353]

You articulate so well of what I've felt through my 30's. I turn 40 this year, and all those points that you've mentioned are things that I've become realized to be comfortable with myself but never really written down or organized to make them notable/remember for myself. It's so good to remember those mind shifts to celebrate how getting old (mindfully) helps and embrace all the things that life brings even more! Thank you for your video as always!

[@lizcartojano9549]

I have changed my mind about finishing what I started. A lot of times, we feel like we need to stick with something or someone because it's been a long journey and we're too deep in it to stop now. I do believe in resilience and persevering if times get tough, but only if your heart is truly still in it. However, if you're outgrowing something and it's legit not serving you anymore like it once did or it's holding you back somehow, it's okay to move on. You're allowed to move into different roles, have different interest, have different social circles, and you're not doing yourself a disservice by exploring new avenues of life.

[@GaGaObession]

gosh! I needed this but still am so confused - I am 5 years deep in to an accounting qualification & its so painful to finish / making me miserable, but I deferred 2 years and I just want to finish it

[@nomisibaya3196]

I am im the exact same position! Although I'm not miserable YET, I am itching to finish before I get there. I hope you cross the finish line🧸

[@GaGaObession]

@@nomisibaya3196 ahhh twins bless you!! glad you're not miserable yet - YOU GOT THIS & good luck!1 eek I have an exam in a couple of weeks

[@convosovercoffee]

Something I changed my mind about is wanting to be overly helpful. Yes, I love to help others and do everything in my power to help them, but I was putting the wants and expectations of others before my own and my own self being. I found myself constantly overextending myself for others, without them even reciprocating an ounce back for me. Of course, I don’t want to be helpful to receive anything in return, but I was doing myself a disservice by being too available for people’s wants and needs. I realized I was helpful, but not for myself. I was actually very damaging towards myself. I am on a path of healing and in order to be helpful for others, I must first help myself 🤎. Xoxo

[@inmyhead22]

This is so lovely to hear! I started therapy last year and I have been working on many of the subjects you have touched on! Once of the lessons of last year has been to set boundaries. What I can think as an example is when acquaintance or new/old people in my life have a sudden change in their behaviour towards me and act funky. There is not need for me to actually be there to fix the problem if I have not caused it (at least consciously). You don't like me, that is fine and it has nothing to do with as a person but more with the fact that A). we don't match and B) the projection of the other person towards me. There is not enough time to waste in places where you are not accepted. You don't have to please everybody and fix every problem, sometimes you have to just let go and make space for yourself and people that would fit with you without judgement. Big ups for the graphics in the video! xx

[@tessarose8430]

i love this! as a 22 year old, it's really helpful to hear what you've learned since your early 20s. thanks Jenn!

[@xjminahh]

honestly, ive been watching jenn (and so many other asian youtubers) growing up and it's really nice to kinda get a "sneak peak" on life. all the major asian youtubers are like ~7 years older than me, so it's always nice to see how they're going through their lives and how it could possibly apply to me in like 7 years. it's almost like having a older sibling go through things first and you learn from them. XD thanks for always sharing your experiences with us.

[@fatmahhadjiahmad4532]

Hi! Would you mind sharing the asian youtubers you follow? I happen to be an asian myself and i have been following asian content creators, too. the asian shared culture and values really fascinate me

[@georgiejanee]

I ended up changing my mind about having kids, I used to hate the thought, out of fear I think. Then I fell pregnant and gave birth to my daughter three weeks ago and that fear was just instantly love, definitely something I’m so thankful for.

[@annaroth6003]

I'm still working on the "I don't care what you think about me" part but I just have to say that you are so right with the "you become the persons you surround yourself with". And I kind of have to feeling that I became much more reflected and have grown so so much mentally thanks to you and your videos. So heres a really big thank you for that❤

[@jaquelamonet]

Being almost 24 in two weeks, I’ve finally found my passion . The biggest thing for me is focusing on what others thought of me or making everyone happy instead of myself , but now I finally feel free because I’m living my life with what I desire . These 20 somethings have taught me so much about myself and I’m going to enjoy the rest of the ride. ❤️ thank you so much for this video ✨

[@prashansasunuwar]

Thank you for the lovely video Jenn. It’s always so good to watch these “let’s just sit down and chat” kind of videos from you. You are so well spoken. You are able to articulate your thoughts so well & I love that quality of yours. One thing that I’ve changed my mind about is regarding romantic relationships. I’ve been single for almost 4 years now (after my ex cheated on me, had trust issues), and during that time, I was always in a lack-mentality, desperate for that one true “love”. And now, as I’ve grown older (I turn 28 this December), people around me have started to put even more pressure on me making me feel like I’ve already wasted the best years of my life & telling me how I now have to settle asap before my youth & beauty fades away or I won’t find anyone to spend the rest of my life with. But even through all this, I’m still hopeful for love & excited about life (specially my 30s) because of you & the wonderful life and family you have built (including your friends & your outlook on life). They all inspire me & I hope someday to reach the same level of contentment (that idgaf attitude lol) with the things I have. Now I think if love comes my way, I’ll gladly accept it, but I won’t ever be miserable without it. I’m on this self-love and healing journey where I focus on myself and strive to be better than the me from yesterday and I thank you for being my role model (like a big sister) every step of the way. Much love ❤️

[@kaylazhang2923]

I have loved seeing the evolution of your channel, Jenn. I've been here since your clothesencounters days and to see you now transition to a "self-help" channel has been radically gratifying for me. I'm very impressed by this video and would strongly recommend you to read the book, "Think Again", by Adam Grant. That book taught me that if we are not continuously rethinking our beliefs, we are not challenging them, and hence, have no moral reasoning for why we believe such things. I am currently rethinking my political beliefs by trying to take myself out of my Gen Z vacuum. Since I am 20, I find myself surrounded by lots of people who move towards the loudest voice, but not necessarily the smartest voice. All this is to say, I now enjoy open discourse with people of opposite belief systems. Thank you Jenn, I love you so much!

[@x0saturn0x8]

I absolutely love how much you've grown and matured, Jenn. You've become so wonderfully grounded and seeing you transition into your 30s so beautifully is inspiring. So glad to have followed and looked up to you since your Clothes Encounters days!

[@HJ-ul6mr]

jenn, your videos always bring me comfort and a sense of belonging, this video made me hopeful that i’ll be able to (one day in the near future) stop caring what people think about me etc.

[@jiangsuri3477]

After watching this clip, I just found out why I am like be unsatisfied with myself and even not satifyied with the outside world. It's just the fact that I criticize myself so much as im kindda on the way to pushing myself to the best. So when the things didn't meet my expection, then I just strated to blame myself or somethimes the surroundings. It's actually the voice of self-doubt!! So the real cure is like to genuinely accept who I am and to know more about myslef and just try to be friend with this "me" intested of trying to shaping an impossible doll "me" in my mind. Thx Jenn! Your video made me think a lot!

[@leafleafkris]

mine is being happy with the simple things and letting myself rest. i was living in nyc and hustling and trying to live a life i had in my mind but i just wasn’t happy, i was so tired and alone. i decided to move back in with my parents in my rural hometown, i got a cat, i relax and read and go on hikes and just do simple things that make me happy and it’s so much better than the hustle big city life i thought i wanted

[@joannac3711]

Ugh, love you so much. I used to think that being emotional was a weakness, but now I see it as a strength. My emotions guide me in everything I do and as I listen to them and learn about them I’ve grown so much more confident in my intentionality and worth.

[@pdx7341]

The pandemic hit me hard because it happened right when I graduated high school and was supposed to go to college. I had a rough 2020, but was able to learn more about myself and my mental health. I had a great 2021 because I was working full time, home with family, and went back to in person full time college. I love the growth I’ve made but Im now in a place where I feel too comfortable. I don’t need to do as much as used to, but I want to push myself to get back out there outside of my normal group of friends.

[@LaurenMichelleMD]

A lot of these statements really clicked for me around my late 20s and turning 30 this year. One of the best things about growing older!

[@kristinbaughman1224]

I really enjoyed this video! Such a refreshing perspective. Something I’ve changed my mind about is seeing my sensitivity as a weakness. That was something ingrained in me pretty early in my life. But I’ve come to realize that embracing my sensitivity allows me to have deeper connections with the people I love.

[@d.6396]

It feels so fresh to hear that yes you change your mind about things and yes it's still you. Sometimes it feels like we can't change how we think but this really shows we can. Thank you again Jenn🥰

[@adeoluadesiyakan3530]

I changed my mind about caring what people think about me. The feeling is great.

[@nubederizoss]

After years of therapy fighting anxiety, depression and an ED I'm still struggling to let go that image of perfection that I've always wanted to achieve, but I think I'm finally getting there, accepting myself and my body the way it is, and redescovering that is ok to be myself... that is safe to be myself, and that I deserve love despite my imperfections. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us, it makes us feel that we are not alone in ours 💕✨

[@carinsaleh7088]

Your channel feels like I’m talking to an older sister. Always so comforting and guiding in the most gentle way. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ♥️

[@KingMiHearts]

Powerful “the less you criticize yourself, the less you criticize other people”

[@cassidy527785]

Jenn this is so so so touching to hear how you have matured and progressed these past few years. and so happy to hear your lessons with us - love your comments on how you care less about what people look like and how your strive for perfection/criticism is toned down. These are things I’m working with in my 20s and am trying to grapple with :)

[@annabuda7049]

I heard it not so long ago that excuses are like poison in your life and it stops you from your dreams. Because you will always find excuses, and they come from doubting yourself, so I just started to pay attention to my excuses. I want to try more things and not be scared of failiure. Its hard but when you have kids you realize that you want to be rolemodels for them and want to give them the best life experiences and lessons possible, I want to live a life which helps my children have a healthy mindset.

[@seaweedjen]

Omg yes yes! Honestly ive contemplated getting a boob job too and it honestly made me feel so seen and better about not getting one seeing icons like you and weylie be so unapologetically who yu are. I also have learned to give myself grace and compassion (recovering perfectionist) and I've also learned that when i give myself grace, it allows me to give others grace too. Ive also learned more about about what makes me happy, and choosing to set boundaries.

[@tiyanirikhotso6013]

This is such a great video idea. I loved hearing your reflections and how you’ve grown and evolved✨ One thing I’ve changed my mind about is anxiety medication. Ive finally accepted that healing will look different to what you originally envisioned. I may change my mind again, but for now, I’m really glad I’m trying something new to support my mental health.

[@TheeGaoSter]

I couldn't agree more. As I move into my early 30s, things have changed. I literally can careless about expectations, expectations of others, what others think.. etc. I do me and that's what matters, because if you don't do you, who will?

[@__yussra]

I feel like the most change I’m proud of is that I don’t beat myself up for everything. What happened was done happening and I didn’t damage anyone so nothing’s critical :)

[@takada5743]

It's very eye-opening to hear that people judge others based off of how they dress and groom themselves. I feel like everyone is subtly aware of this, but it's much more potent to hear someone say this out loud, and it definitely explains some things

[@EssyJoy]

i changed my mind that i don't need to do anything or chase anything or be any title or finally arrive to be this final, perfected version of myself in order to find peace or to have a life well lived. i am learning to accept that this messy, in progress human, who is on many days trying to conquer her fears and to do her best bit by bit each day, growing IS me and to be celebrated. and that peace comes from this acceptance and not arriving at a final, perfected version of myself.

[@matheaedvn]

idk why but i feel that the authentic, old jenn is back, but she came back way better. she's thriving 🤍

[@thien_vo]

I used to really care about the opinions of “my elders” (aunts, uncles, parents) but after I became a mom, I realized they don’t know what’s best for my life. Only I can figure that out and that has really helped me self actualize and be more me.

[@chingtetombing4543]

Your content is something I’d never change my mind on!💖💗💖

[@tabi5550]

I have changed my mind from thinking that the future *is* the most important part of my life bc it robs me of the present moment where i can actually work instead of worry. I have changed my mind on thinking that i don't need anyone. I need people and I am ever grateful for the gift of friends and family.

[@davelee5843]

When you said after an interaction you like to ask yourself if you feel lighter or heavier, that struck me as a golden idea! It's short and to the point, like a thumbs up or thumbs down grade on said interaction. I will ponder this for some time and hope to incorporate it into my own existence. Thank You Jenn! ps, I just watched Carly Rowena's similar video and she said to come over here and watch yours! thx again, Dave

[@rayna463]

i enjoyed this video :) and yes! when you look at every older person as just an aged child, it makes everyone a lot more relatable

[@ziraffen]

Tell me why I started to cry at the end! Ive followed you for years and it is SUCH a pleasure to grow alongside with you ❤️ You were great to follow back then, but as Ive changed in lots of the ways you were speaking about it is equally a pleasure to follow you now!

[@roowook4105]

Your observation that "Everything doesn't have to be excellent" really resonates with me. I'm learning that if I continue to build this fantasy of "I'll only be happy if xxx happens" or "I'll only be happy if I end up with xxx kind of person" then I only guarantee I'll be miserable forever. Finding peace with what life has happened to give me has made life so much better. Thank you for sharing these insights with us Jenn :)

[@TheFrenchLady79]

I was blown away when you mentioned The Picture of Dorian Gray. It is such an amazing book and full of life lessons!

[@stephanielfagan]

Something I've changed my mind about recently is my outlook on hustle culture and trying to have the best career. I am an engineer working a corporate job and I used to have some milestones I'd want to meet like "get promoted by age 25" or similar. But now I am taking it a lot more easy. I don't need to try to climb the ladder all the time, I don't strive to be "girl boss". I am happy where I am. People say in order to continue to get paid your market value, you need to jump companies every 3ish years. By that standard, I am severely underpaid (been with my company for 6 years). I used to let that pressure get to me but now I just tune it out, keep my head down, and do my own thing.

[@GaGaObession]

love this realisation! everyone is on their own path & I don't always have the desire to hustle

[@linggg7576]

Love this! And love the premise of changing your mind as a demonstration of growth, not wishy-washiness. Thanks Jenn!

[@おおきに-m2e]

Thank you for this video. As a 23 year old, I leaned a lot from your story. I’ve been kinda depressed for the past few years and really afraid that my life would be this hard forever. But, seeing you having overcome things one by one over years and being proud of what you are now relieved my anxiety so much. You’re my role model. Thanks for sharing.

[@CajoCam]

Thank you for this. „The less you critizise yourself, the less you will critizise others.“ This fits my current situation with my partner very well. I struggle with perfectionism a lot. Very great to see you share your wisdom like that.

[@iris8009]

Thank you Jenn! I learned way more about myself than I could have ever expected when I clicked this video. These really struck. ❤️

[@emilyyy1203]

petition for a podcast by jenn!! absolutely loved this video, good food for thought 🥹✨🫶🏻

[@hiiiroobee]

Thank you for being so honest and raw!! I realized I also cared about how people dress themselves!! And that if they’re fashionable, chic, I wanted to be around that 🫢🫢 thank you for this video. I needed this 💕

[@hiiiroobee]

I’ve changed my mind about caring too much about what other people think. Definitely a daily practice 😂 but it is liberating.

[@dak4072]

I think this all changes are just the part of getting mature or being a grown person i feel the same, i change a lot my mind.

[@amandabracero-torres9590]

The part about being afraid of talking to parents .... OMG. I feel that. Glad you conquered it!

[@Toadkonghar]

Jen your videos gives me comfort

[@irsayson]

truly thankful of these videos. as a 23 year old, things are so difficult and I feel so lost but from time to time i come on here and think if jenn can do it so can I.

[@HotelsoapBand]

I relate SO much to the excellence thing. I talk to my therapist about expectations all the time, and it makes life so much better to actually be in tune with realism. With people, daily happenings, anything. I can't be let down too deep, and I can still get excited in a beautiful moderation I haven't experienced before my 20s :)

[@lachouapor]

"the less you criticize yourself, the less your criticize other people" - thank you for this

[@canna8676]

I changed my mind about soooooo many things, it's wild! Especially things I was so sure about as a teenager or as a child. The craziest thing is that I know I've changed and am not that person any more, but if I'm with someone who didn't register my change or only knew me then, I change back. Like I somehow react to their behaviour around me and their treatment of me. And no part of my reaction is actively their fault. This blows my mind every time.

[@albauroman]

There were a few things you said that resonated with me but I’ve had the exact same experience about wanting people to like me even if I didn’t even like them that much. It’s been a process to shift my mindset in that area but so, so worth it.

[@explorewithei1909]

I used to think "life is unfair". But since I started to change my mindset, I started to realize one thing. Yes. Life is not fair. It is just a universal truth. Instead of feeling down why it isn't fair, just move on

[@lunaluna-uh4we]

“I don’t care if you like me” Damnnnn I too shouldn’t be caring too much.

[@sp00keds0up2]

Jenn, you’re literally my guiding light in my twenties. Thank god for you ✨💖

[@ayanaliyeva21]

Before, I only see my negative sides, my failures, things I didn`t accomplish yet . But now I try to learn appreciating myself. Appreciate things I have already done, appreciate my amazing qualities, beahivors, charachters, appreciate my body, soul, mind and etc. I write notes to self. I write or say compliments to myself frequently. That make me feel alive, peaceful and happy

[@babiebhang]

At 22 years old... mine is that the way people treat me is not a reflection of me .. but a reflection of them... knowing that im a good person and that i dont do sneaky shit to people is enough for me .. fuck others and their shitty behavior.. we are way too hot to deal with that stress

[@sincerelysilvia]

This has to be one of my favorite videos from you. As someone who grew up watching your videos for almost ten years and now in her early 20s… I resonated so much like the hedonistic lifestyle, striving for excellence, caring about interactions, and etc… and it can be fun but it hits hard sometimes. It can be emotionally draining when I am criticizing myself constantly striving for something better continuously but in an unhealthy way. It was so interesting to see your growth and thought process, thank you for being candid 💕

[@Wanderwilderreading]

I love these self reflection videos, they're infectious (in the best way!!)

[@Dlibassi93]

jenn i love this topic 'things i changed my mind about' because it reinforces to people that change and growth is okay!!

[@SKYPEBBLES495]

Just a year or two back, I tend to get very annoyed when people tell me I have changed specially the way I dress, think, talk and treat other people. But now my mind about change has changed and I have never seen myself growing better.

[@QuynhHo]

When someone treats you badly, stop trying to figure out “why” it’s not always something you’ve done. They are probably going through something or just don’t like you. Similar to accepting that not everyone will like you and you won’t like everyone either🙂

[@tingyu8262]

I get used to overworking to prove my value and live up to my parents' expectation. I want to pay them back and make them happy, however, I suppress my desire to live as who I am to the point that I forget how to enjoy my life. Recently, I try to be thankful to my parents while making my own way. I finally start to prioritize my own happiness!! As Jenn said, I am also curious so much about what the future me will look like. Thanks for your video. I feel you and always appreciate your words.

[@stephaniekeramis4010]

Hi Jenn, over the years I have really filtered who I allow in my life, especially after having my son, this including family members. I didn't want negative influences around my son, and realized that I too enjoyed surrounding myself with people who were positive, motivated and always trying to evolve. I learned that being around people who were negative would change my mood and bring me down, I think partly because I feed off of people's energy. I'm thankful that I now have my little circle of friends and family who are positive and who truly care about me and my little family. It's always refreshing to watch your videos, thank you for sharing your journey and your growth with us.

[@winnieobunabor]

I am crying watching this because I have been thinking about getting a boob job too, I'm gonna be 24 in a few weeks. It has been on my mind so much to the point that I don't like to look at myself in the mirror. I was even getting jealous that my younger sister who is going through puberty has bigger boobs than mine and mine are super tiny. I don't have words to explain how comforting it feels to know that you had dealt with something similar, and felt the pressure from seeing other women, and even social media, but now you feel content about your body, it feels so encouraging, I am already feeling so much better and less of the pressure... Oh my, I'm literally really crying so much over this right now. Thank you Jenn, thanks big sis ❤

[@ynazzra]

Looking cute in that Beret, girl! Got me changing my mind about hats this upcoming summer

[@isabellatilley2322]

love watching this growth arc 🥺 also the communications major / conversations is so specific but i hella relate! what's helped me w that is just realizing that conversational styles just vary so much across brains & cultures & i don't even value having some sort of norm that gets enforced for everyone so why do i do it to myself 🤔 anyways really appreciated this video

[@strawberryred3379]

there's no rush- stop trying to rush your life and progress. Things will fall into place but on its own timeline. You'll be a lot happier once you accept that.

[@pixelatedddd]

As someone who was in their early 20s when the pandemic started, I resonate with all of these points so much now that I’m heading into my mid 20s! Life was the biggest rollercoaster in undergrad and I’m so grateful to have had the opportunity to slow down and recenter myself. Thanks for your openness and honesty Jenn! I love these reflection videos, pls keep making them!!

[@dastion1136]

I’m came from Taiwan, so my English is not very fluently , but every time when I watch your video always let me earn so many! Either language but also you try to use your experience to share those very good and helpful concept. Really thank’s for sharing all of this❣️

[@EssyJoy]

just watching your videos once every few months has really made me see just how much you have BLOSSOMED so gracefully over the last few years and it just radiates out of you. you are so in your skin. it has been amazing to watch you, comforting too and it gives me hope on my journey that i am still growing as well and won't always be the same :) life ain't easy shit but i hope to just learn to give myself the grace more and more each day, it's a journey. sending you so much love Jenn.

[@annnajx]

LOVE LOVE LOVE ur chatty reflective videos!! I always find myself relating to u so much and I’m only 21 - good to know there’s stability in the future after having a p chaotic start to my 20s :,)

[@lynninfinite]

To release oneself from the desire of wanting to be liked/accepted by others only comes when we shrink the ego. No one is owed our love or adoration so we shouldn’t assume we are owed the same by others.

[@kelsangt8971]

You should have a podcast, Jenn. You have so much wisdom to share. Also would be awesome if you invited guests that you admire and get inspired by.

[@glendapie]

sending love from canada! i used to think that life was a mountain-we struggle through the climb in order to reach the summit, where we have found all of the answers and never have to suffer again. all that is left do to, is to enjoy the view. but life is more like the ebb and flow of the ocean. there are seasons of joy, of love, and also of misery and grief. life is full and rich in that way, it isn't always meant to be enjoyed, nor is it always meant to be suffered. life is simply meant to be lived.

[@rebeccaly]

Watching Jenn’s videos is like free therapy

[@kyjuliaaa]

It feels illegal to be this early🫢love you jenn💕

[@MissyHobbes]

omg this felt like a therapy session that i needed to hear. pls i want part 2!!! i looove these introspective videos cus these seem like such personal views of mine but you explain them so well and i feel like im not alone in these situations??? ilysm jenn unnie

[@fruitful1716]

"I don't strive for excellence" hit deep. Nearly my whole life I've subconsciously always put pressure on myself to reach perfectionism (going to the best school, having the best grades, having the best friends, being the coolest person in the room, etc.) and it is exhausting! while I am aware of this, it takes a lot of practice to reprogram your brain to just l e t g o. thanks for sharing, loved the video

[@NotNia]

As a healthcare worker in a pandemic, I feel like I have made a HUGE shift in the way I think about things now. I don't care what people I don't know think about me anymore, I speak my mind a lot more ( which I know comes off as kind of rude sometimes and admittedly, I'm still figuring out when it's good to be angry about something and when I'd rather let things go) but I feel a lot more like myself and the person I want to be. From that I also learned that the people that matter to me, actually don't care about other peoples' opinions on me. A weird struggle to have, I know, but I was convinced at a point in my life that my best friends would leave me if someone talked badly about me. Frankly, they do not care and neither do I anymore ✨ We're all on an amazing path of growth, let's see what the world has to offer ♥️

[@孟熠李]

I really like the last opinion of ‘I don’t care if you like me’, especially since I just broke up recently. I have always been wondering why he didn’t like me anymore, which really made me unhappy. While now I realized that I like you since you like me, and I can also take the love back to myself as you don’t love me anymore.

[@JHuiYi16]

I could relate to the last one most! Used to always be afraid if people didn’t like me and thought something must definitely be wrong with me if they didn’t. Or if I didn’t like someone, I’m a horrid person. But I realised that I’m not for everyone, and that’s okay. I may not understand or get along with someone, and that’s okay too.

[@charlenerussell6843]

I’d love to see a parenting edition of this! I had so many ideas of parenting or so many judgemental “my child would never” thoughts pre kids that in retrospect now I have kids seem ridiculous x

[@jdunnswimmer]

Even with financial aid Jenn, I’m a 3rd grade teacher and I can’t afford better help. Mental health care is NOT affordable for us low/middle-class people. 😞

[@chocolatesprout461]

Loved the point about not needing to have the best of everything and not needing everyone to like me. As someone who always wants the “best” bang for buck, I feel like I’m always focusing too much on the negative instead of just being and enjoying the moment. Definitely a work in progress :) Personally I’ve learnt to care less about what my colleagues think about me, otherwise there’s just no way for me to get things done because I’m so caught up with other people’s opinion.

[@aileen_lai]

Loving watching Jenn sincerely talks about her young self and now. Always encouraging girls just graduated from college reassure her life💖