This Approach To Dating Is Delusional

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[@jewalker559]

I'll bet there's a dude in her "friendzone" that would treat her EXACTLY the way Kelce treats Taylor.

[@captainpalsy2092]

Yep, we know he's shut out.

[@SpoonHurler]

But is he 6'5" and arguably the best TE of all time?

[@Raymond7779]

That's why men can NEVER accept getting placed in a woman's friends zone. Simply walk away and don't look back. They do not respect the men that allow it to happen.

[@godncountry8323]

He probably doesn’t have Kelce’s looks or checkbook!!!

[@wallace245ful]

That is a fact ❤

[@haggus71]

"I will be dying alone." Good, that means no daughters for her to ruin.

[@loltroll2]

That doesn't mean that she is not getting run through by Chads.

[@MrTweetyhack]

she's already ruining daughters

[@jackdeniston59]

Nope. She will get a child to use.

[@DemiGod..]

@@jackdeniston59 If its a boy, she will make his life hell and blame him for everything.

[@ChuggsMcPickles-eh6lq]

Eugenics done properly, delusional folk don't breed lol

[@MrSmishSmosh]

This happened to me. I saw Taylor-Travis, and now I won't date anyone with fewer than 12 grammys.

[@AscndedAssassin]

Hahahaha

[@TheONE10X]

Same same. My next gf will be young, blond, super fit, amazingly talented and rich, and still have a heart of gold. I will NOT settle for any less! Why should I of all people have to???

[@jessejordache1869]

I know, like now we're expected to date some rando? Sorry ladies, if you have to tell me what your name is, you're not making the cut.

[@orlandopizano9432]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@aretwodeetoo1181]

​@@TheONE10X "Or I will die alone!" 🤦

[@therogueprince3790]

I gave up trying to understand women when a coworker I had a crush on but would never date me became furious at me the second she found out I began talking to another woman.

[@theartofwar1750]

Because her happiness depends upon your unhappiness.

[@thepubknight6144]

​@@theartofwar1750 That type of game is extremely sadistic I walk away immediately from any woman who pulls that

[@OffGridInvestor]

Yeah there's this thing where they want a guy who is looking up to them and wants them and they'll KEEP him single. But the second he finds a girlfriend, they go BALLISTIC like they damn OWN him like a pet and HOW DARE this is allowed to happen. He's meant to be my little eternally single simp that I'm wasting his time. So what you're saying IS COMMON, but I can't tell you why they think like this. And I'm in a family with many female cousins and tons of aunts

[@jasons6021]

Imagine seeing a 10 second clip of someone's relationship, and thinking why can't all men be like that 24/7? This woman is delusional.

[@martincoronado9232]

I think you make a very good point because if you learn to see mutations of things in this world, you’re going to find out how it’s not in one area only. What I mean is this if you’ve ever heard of that supervisor, that tells his subordinates to do a certain job, and he just, safer instance, Begins to shovel and show how a job is done and also says see how fast it is well that’s true because he did it for all of 10 seconds but if you can pound that with eight hours and the job is really big well, the supervisor is actually kind of wrong then because it’s a lot of work. and like you said all that woman saw was 10 seconds and she says oh look how great they are relationship is. You’re completely right when you’re talking about the long-term good treatment.

[@billylocke9633]

Why can’t all men just be like a HoF tight end? Its like we aren’t even trying.

[@jkbrown5496]

Wait, are you saying that sometimes people put on an act when in public? Soon you'll be telling us that the upstanding, society couple actually beat and abuse their children. Or the priest takes liberties. Or the law and order governor was selling pardons?

[@watamutha]

That and she aint Taylor

[@2ndTim3_1-6]

Whats often not said, women often act like teenagers in emotions and irrational behavior

[@seethe313]

"I can no longer accept anything but Travis Kelce energy..." If she gets some guy who does do all of that, she'll immediately ghost him because he's coming on too strong and being 'creepy' or desperate.

[@gregharn1]

Guarantee the exact phrase she'll use is "he was too nice & gave me the ick".

[@ESNchris]

she wants the "perfect man". OK but assuming such a man exist, yopu can bet he looks for a perfect woman...who is not her 😅🤣(definitely, if anything because she's way too entitled)

[@greglane501]

Exactly. Literally just watched a video on this. Modern women have had their brains fried by the internet. There's no saving them.

[@jst102295]

Exactly. And what does Travis Kelce energy mean? Spend millions on me and have a celebrity status/be a celebrity. She is nuts.

[@stefanorsan7518]

Travis kelce has that energy because it's goddamned Taylor Swift.. I bet the other girls he dated, didn't get 1/2 the chivalry act.. Also she doesn't want to date dusty "hingemen"...maybe guys don't want to date some chicken who doesn't have "Taylor swift energy"

[@starkilr101]

“It’s ok to be normal.” That’s a message most people need to hear and be ok with. Self included

[@kokoskokso]

Humanity needs all Internet to be switched off for a month. No social media, no dating sites, no duckface selfies, no Hollywood. Go out and try to meet people in the real world like it's 1980! People have lost their marbles this day and age, seriously 🙄

[@starkilr101]

@@kokoskokso agreed.

[@louisup5]

Also, swift has never dated anyone for more than 6 months, before breaking up with them and releasing an album about how terrible they were. So check back in on this perfect relationship next year

[@sharonharris9782]

The relationship seems to be doing quite well. So, next

[@davesmith826]

@@sharonharris9782 'Seems' being the operative word. People almost always revert to their default mode of being.

[@samfaught6458]

She dated Joe Alwyn for over six years.

[@jibberism9910]

@@sharonharris9782 Who tf cares child? Go live in lala land if you must, but stop bothering real folks about it.

[@loosilu]

This is incredibly nasty and unfair.

[@kevinathans4191]

I can just see the disappointment in Courtney having to explain this stuff to adults...

[@MachineMan-mj4gj]

She got that, “I got the report from the substitute teacher and I am very disappointed in you, class” energy.

[@MikeyP109]

@@MachineMan-mj4gj She is the substitute teacher.

[@TheDSasterX]

Unf she does have to explain it to a lot of folks here... :/

[@evansmith8824]

I basically had to say out loud wow do people really need this explanation should be just common sense

[@MikeyP109]

@@iamme25yago I think she was being sarcastic.

[@Maitreya0208]

“I can no longer accept anything but Travis Kelce energy….but Travis has basically just confirmed that I will be dying alone.” Your terms are acceptable.

[@KS-yb1wq]

Great post. She's got 50 years of alone time ahead.

[@SpoonHurler]

I hope she enjoys her cats.

[@jameshill6365]

Lol

[@meeeoooow]

​@SpoonHurler She probably has a weird "cat energy" terms video as well.

[@michaelstepa8748]

How is she going to determine if a man actually HAS Travis Kelce energy without dating him first? One of those dusty Hinge guys might just go head-over-heels for her same as Travis does for Taylor. The only things she can determine beforehand is if he's as good looking as Travis and if he's as rich as Travis. And then there's the flip side where she is no Taylor Swift. What does she have to offer a man like Travis if she DID find one?

[@softenerguy]

She doesn't want the football dudes energy, she wants his status. And she'll never get it especially with an attitude like that. She'll be lucky if anyone wants to date her after doing this to herself.

[@Twelvestrings]

I'd never measure up to that young lady's standards. Married forty years, raised kids with my wife, built up a home and security. My wife has taken care of me when I've been sick or down. I've taken care of her including when she broke both her arms and I had to do everything for her. My wife and I have been through a lot together, good times and bad. There's a lot of dusty, hard work to life. Still, it's nice to have those romantic times too.

[@melhenline8438]

The young people today have grown up being the stars of their own personal drama and think that prince/princess charming is coming for them. They think everything is a fairytale and have no concept of real life and what it takes to make a real marriage work. My husband and I have been together 34 years and it takes a lot of hard work and a healthy dose of humility.

[@Foxie770]

Amen!

[@davesmith826]

The reality is that no one can live up to those standards, even Travis Kelce.

[@missmonkeymind708]

This is still what most women want. The internet has just skewed our perceptions. The loudest, most attractive, and most controversial people/content get pushed through the algorithm to all of us.

[@TSierra]

This woman is absolutely delusional and she just eliminated herself from the dating pool. Let these females keep exposing themselves on social media…

[@josephgatti8339]

sad thing is that her friends encouraging this delusional mindset. She won't find anyone looking at only materialistic things and appearance. The most important thing in looking for a partner is personality.

[@axl8653]

They all are. She's not an aberration.

[@herberteto7753]

She's not needed in the pool.

[@watamutha]

Has she even taken a look in the mirror to see what she looks like? This is added to the delusional mindset.

[@emmw7794]

Women are never happy. Women perceive relationships with negativity because of Hypergamy. They always want something they don't have. If she has Travis Kelce it won't take long. "I feel Neglected" "He spends too much time training" "He's never home to watch movies" "He's always injured" "He's too tired for sex" "He flirts with too many girls" "I want someone more carefree and down to Earth" Men, we all know it's true. No man is exempt from this. I don't care who you are.

[@kidlightning1736]

Even if that chick happens to find a decent guy she is the type of woman that's going to sabatoge her own relationship by constantly comparing it with other people's.

[@SkrzekuZenmasters]

It says a lot about people when not only are they out of touch with reality but also prefer their own fantasy world to the point they prefer to die alone instead of accepting reality and finding joy in it.

[@alexb3299]

4:55 "Comparison is the thief of joy." That statement right there is all anyone needs to understand. Thank you for the words of wisdom.

[@broodster6697]

They expect us to be Travis Kelce when they're not even Taylor Swift.

[@Albemarle7]

She is not even Taylor Austin Dye.

[@KS-yb1wq]

Great point. That's funny.

[@hotpockets69]

I mean if you think Taylor Swift is at all good looking, you probably are just surrounded by people that only a parent would want to look at. Because her only saving grace is she's a wealthy singer.

[@MikeyP109]

No one expects you to be Kelce.

[@Euphoryaaa]

@@hotpockets69that is so true. This comment would’ve made more sense if I actually found Taylor Swift and all her red flags attractive

[@douglasalan5783]

My therapist says, “To compare is to despair.” Thank you for bringing a dose of reality to dating advice, Courtney.

[@Yggdrasill8]

I'm sure their are multi-millionares who feel inadequate and disappointment in themselves that they can't afford the personal spaceships and ultra mega yachts the billionaires can afford.

[@katiek.8808]

You are using the wrong words. Coveting leads to despair not making comparisons. This woman is coveting not comparing.

[@katiek.8808]

@@lordpalandus11 Jesus always makes sense. Best therapist in history

[@katiek.8808]

@@lordpalandus11 really? Might want to read the sermon on the mound again. Jesus addressed every law and tightened them.

[@spacedinosaur8733]

It's the difference between wants and needs. I need a car to get to work. I want an Aston Martin, but I need something with four wheels that I can afford and can go up a hill. But if I say I need an Aston Martin, then I'm never going to be happy or content in my life. Instead of a goal to work towards, it becomes a millstone about your neck.

[@isabellezoey]

Woman into women here: This is a real phenomenon. I went grocery shopping today and I thought to myself "You know, that cashier is pretty cute", only to instantly compare her in my head to every beautiful face I had seen this week on the internet. Fake faces, edited faces. Thankfully, I caught myself in the act and still asked her out. She said no, but I'm glad I did :)

[@On.Tel_egramRealCourtneyRyan]

I wanna talk to you privately..,,

[@atomic-fox]

TRUTH. Living your life vicariously through anyone else, and expecting the same results, is delusional.

[@spivackl]

From what I've seen, these celebrities have MISERABLE personal lives. They're always getting divorced, having afairs, having substance abuse issues. Ive been married to the same woman for almost 40 years. We've had 6 kids together. And I'm as happy with my mariage now as i was 40 years ago.

[@JS-mg1mk]

This chick also seems to forget that Taylor Swifts entire adult life has been filled with failed relationships. I truly hope things work out for them because he does seem like a genuinely good guy who treats her well but comparing your own dating life to that of a gorgeous, model-esque, hyper successful, ultra famous billionaire who hasn't even had a successful relationship herself yet is just setting yourself up for disappointment. There are plenty of guys who treat women this way but I'm guessing it's not just about the treatment. She also wants him to look like a professional athlete and have tons of money and status and be super tall when her own status and qualities do not warrant a man of that caliber.

[@letsarray5712]

That is 100% true man

[@silverdale3207]

Then you've got yourself a good women, well done. As you say most celebs have trouble, probably secretly wish they had what you do.

[@evacody1249]

Its funny but if you go and look at hardrock or metal bands people there end up having happier and healthy relationships. But when you look deeper you find out that the reason is they are are not going to all the Hollywood events

[@Tgogators]

At a pure statistics standpoint, the marriages or long-term relationships tend to be best when one of the is not "famous."

[@SentinelMace]

Average fit and healthy 5'11 guys with a good jawline, well groomed etc get literally zero likes/matches on apps these days. I recently asked a much younger coworker about this and she guesstimated that I must have had at least 200 likes on Tinder alone in over 12 months, when I burst out laughing telling her it was zero she couldn't believe it even after showing her the photos etc, women online are really this delusional and spoiled by social media and modern "dating".

[@billi4843]

Whatever weird agenda is out there.. it’s working… wouldn’t be surprised that most men get weeded out and the trait of being masculine is completely eradicated from the human race.

[@colingraham1585]

Women like guys they know. You’re probably attractive. You just need to go do yoga or something with lots of girls. Would help if churches had more young members.

[@JaimeJDoesStuff]

for real...its crazy

[@SentinelMace]

@@colingraham1585 I never had problems attracting women irl, quantity and quality was always there, BUT... they were never single, always taken.

[@Galimeer5]

That's one of the many fundamental problems with online dating: it's heavily skewed in women's favor to the point where they're overwhelmed with attention. A guy is lucky if he gets one match, women wish they only got one. And neither seem to be aware of the other's situation. Another problem is that online dating sites have literally 0 incentive to actually work because once you get a partner, you're no longer a paying customer.

[@judgesfiveeight]

The point you make at 07:35 regarding it being a problem for BOTH men and women is critical... as much as I leaned into "red pill energy" after my divorce, I maintained enough self awareness to understand that it can be taken too far. The fact of the matter is... the traditional submissive, always encouraging, never critical, constant ray of sunshine perfect wife is an oversold fairytale ideal as well. The pursuit of social media curated perfection is going to result in a lot of heartache and loneliness on both sides.

[@JustMe-zk9dc]

'Comparison is the thief of Joy' Courtney you have the wisdom on Solomon.

[@Petaljane]

Actually, that’s wisdom from Theodore Roosevelt, but Courtney employs it well.

[@JustMe-zk9dc]

@@Petaljane interesting did know that. Can't imagine modern Presidents with such pithy and profound insight

[@JohnCena-wl5vs]

Let us give her some credit for her realization that she will be dying alone, she is not completely delusional.

[@TheQuantumWave]

The level of disconnect from reality some people have is truly beyond words.

[@aaronkirkland5211]

It’s insane

[@zw3565]

I mean why can't she find a guy that when the cameras are on him he will open a door or look like he is madly in love with his girlfriend and then who knows what it is like when no cameras are around.

[@mr.robokat7993]

@@zw3565 It’s probably something to do with the celebrity worship, narcissistic culture we are living in at the moment.

[@contumelious-8440]

Well, she DID acknowledge that she likely won't find a 6'5" millionaire celebrity who worships her and is likely to die alone. So that's something in reality.

[@MrTripcore]

Literally most people are literally delusional

[@kylekampa6721]

Unrealistic standards is really the name of the game at this point

[@CaptCanuck4444]

My wife and I were once at a dinner with another couple, and the guy was a longtime friend of mine. His wife was getting drunk and said to him "why can't you be more like your friend S (meaning me)?!?!?!?" ...and then proceeded to list off all of the ways in which i was superior to him in her eyes. It was incredibly awkward and uncomfortable. He was humiliated and devastated. They're no longer married and he rarely talks to me anymore, despite my efforts to keep our friendship intact. Comparision is corrosive and destroys relationships.

[@EvsEntps]

I'm curious, what were those things you were supposedly better at?

[@CaptCanuck4444]

@@EvsEntps More masculine, in better shape, earned more money, better dressed, travelled the world with my family, etc…

[@shouldawoulda69]

Remember, social media is an escape from reality.

[@troyv-re4sl]

And now there is AI to brighten our lives, oh the humanity.

[@chrishendry9657]

sadly, it is also a reflection of reality.

[@BBAKER22]

Exactly

[@wonder777warrior6]

Now it's reality is an escape from social media 😅

[@Arvak777]

​@@troyv-re4slmakes sense why Alex Jones said AI is a demon. Not that AI is bad but when humanity begins to worship it's own creation we begin to learn new ways of hurting ourselves and others. Not in some Terminator Doomsday kind of way but with insidious little ways like escaping reality with social media and being detached from others.

[@ajtaylor8750]

Why do normal, everyday people constantly compare themselves to celebrities? She believes that because Taylor Swift, one of the biggest musical stars on the planet, is dating Travis Kelce, one of the NFL's best players, that somehow her standards should be that high? It's easy to treat someone like a "princess" when you're as wealthy as an athlete, but she believes those same rules apply to her. Ma'am, please wake up to reality.

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

Then again, the Travis-Taylor relationship might just be a big PR stunt to have everyone forget about the Matty Healy fiasco.

[@MikeJones-pf4wd]

​@@AlexanderSkinnerVidsI doubt it lol Travis has hit a goldmine with who he is dating & he knows it.

[@Rikalonius]

To use a sports analogy, what's the over-under on them lasting that long? The history of double-celeb pairings is abysmal.

[@mikesteelheart]

Honestly women have thought like this for decades since their little girl brains are incapable of distinguishing fake media and marketing from reality. Even back in the 00's all they saw were 1%er's on TV and expected hubby or bf to provide that fake lifestyle 24/7. That was even before the internet and social media made it 100x worse...

[@keithcourneya4900]

As a combat veteran of the war in afghanistan It disgusts me that sports ball players are seen as high value. None of them have put their lives on the line for society.

[@richardschorel6578]

I love it when a lady gives you that warm smile by just saying Hi.

[@JollyJoker369]

Your articulation of the matter is spot on. I wish this message could be absorbed by every person in the dating scene.

[@GreyWind86]

Quality high value women do not getting dating advice from TikTok, so this doesn't bother me. Women that approach dating this way think they're filtering out low value men when in reality they're just filtering themselves from high value men. It's a win win in my book.

[@USAFtactical]

Well said.

[@dalord63]

That is fine for you I guess but the percentage of high value women, (your term and not mine) is shrinking every day and the percentage of women that DO get their dating advice from TikTok is growing every day. The math doesn't add up unless all you care about it what YOU can get or what you got. The odds for any man to have to chase a TikToker mindset is a real problem. Eventually the funds for all of these cat women and baby mammas are going to start coming out of your pocket more than they already are.

[@jame8618]

@@dalord63 this is actually very true. tiktok only gonna get bigger and bigger which is a shame

[@MomoAfterDark]

@@dalord63 lol imagine still taking American women seriously at all

[@milesdaniels4135]

Well said sir🔥💯💯 Facts!

[@derekwhite7829]

The lack of self awareness of the girl to realize that she is no Taylor Swift, all while thinking she deserves a Travis Kelce, is the craziest part. Not surprising nowadays though.

[@Xander1Sheridan]

that's normal. Far too many women have zero self awareness. Same for far too many men.

[@elwoodblues9613]

Oh, but she's a 10, she is the table. She told me so herself.

[@lordpalandus11]

Well, she deserves to be treated like a princess, when she has her own security detail. Most women don't.

[@dankimbrough2411]

I've texted this to you b4 but I will do it once more. You are wise beyond your years! Keep up the good work. Hopefully, there are some women watching you and learning. I'm almost 62 yrs. Old, I've seen a. Lot a lived through a lot, now single again, and women are extremely hard to understand these days.

[@mikelastname9583]

Thanks! I appreciate the honesty in your videos!

[@samhann1732]

"Comparison is the thief of Joy." A gem of wisdom & a blinding flash of the obvious.

[@katiek.8808]

The real wisdom is coveting is the thief of joy. Comparisons are how you make decisions. It really is just B-asic I-nstructions B-efore L-eaving E-arth.

[@samhann1732]

@katiek.8808 I disagree. Discernment is how I make decisions. Comparison/Judgment is attaching an emotional value to thar decision. Judgment is the tragic expression of an unmet need.

[@katiek.8808]

@@samhann1732 comparison is not the same as judgement.

[@samhann1732]

@@katiek.8808 Are you sure?

[@katiek.8808]

@@samhann1732 tell me what comparison is being made when a criminal receives judgment?

[@billylocke9633]

It’s really not difficult to understand why men aren’t approaching women anymore. It’s like convincing your grandparent with dementia that the clock isn’t speaking to them. You can tell them the objective truth but their reality is fundamentally different

[@Microphunktv-jb3kj]

perceived reality, not reality.

[@peteranon8455]

@@Microphunktv-jb3kj All reality is perceived reality.

[@jackwhite8238]

@@peteranon8455ah but is their an aspect of reality that has not yet been perceived?

[@Sentinel82]

​​@@peteranon8455 If isn't the same reality based on established objective truths perceived by the majority of people then chances are it isn't reality.

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

​@@peteranon8455yes, but a dog is still a dog, and not a cat.

[@ErickMcNerney]

The older I get the more I do think preferences are part of the problem. When you are just a real, genuine person, then you are generally thought of as "boring". You're not if you get into an environment where you are comfortable. If both people are just real and genuine, the environment that is created is one where exciting things can happen. Authentic people are not trying to be a certain way to please others or appear to be something they're not. They are just being reasonable, attentive, considerate, empathetic, etc. They're just doing what normal people should be striving for. And in this environment, trust can grow. This allows for growth and even more learning about yourself. The moment you say to yourself "my preference is someone who is 6 feet or taller, has this kind of income, etc" you are immediately taking yourself into a shallow and petty realm. The preference for everyone should be the same - to find people who will attend to us and who genuinely care about us (and we should be able to do the same in return). Within that environment, anything can be achieved. Each partner will work for the other and sacrifice for the other. It has nothing to do with their outward characteristics or even hobbies, etc. It's their character. People will dismiss pretty big faults and red flags just to snag their "preferences". So what's the problem here? They got what they truly wanted. In our materialistic and consumer driven society, it is no wonder that our partners are chosen with the same mindset. The problem is that you are waiting to find someone who will fit all of your preferences before you are willing to invest and show vulnerability to them. However, if those preferences don't deal with the fundamentals of who they are, then they will disappoint you over time once their character shows all the way through. And trust me, you will not notice it because you've been too focused on the insignificant preferences. I'm not just talking some minor character flaws. I'm talking about narcissism and controlling behavior. We should be focusing on character first - how they treat you, others, themselves and so on. Then work our way out from there. We don't need to commit. But just look at character first... then physical attraction, then other things.

[@Jeff-ng5ig]

Your frank tenacity is sooo refreshing.

[@XfiverX]

I grew up my whole life hearing about how it was men who had unreasonable standards for dating partners and that women were less superficial when it came to dating than men. It's weird to see how the tables have turned, now that we've spent an entire generation or more telling men how awful they are, and ignoring toxic behavior and delusional thinking in women. We all have a lot of work to do.

[@kralexprofill4571]

They have not turned. It was always that way Many mens highest so-called standards are something along the lines of "I hope she's not a man", "I hope she shows up" and "I do not want her to be fat" Did men tell you that men have unreasonable standards or did women do?

[@XfiverX]

@@kralexprofill4571 I'm sure that conversation was female driven. However, I've heard guys nitpick a woman's appearance in a way that is gross and arrogant, so I know guys do it too. And nobody wants to hear that when it's about them, men or women. Realistically, I most guys will take what they can get, while women are getting more and more unreasonable.

[@emailchrismoll]

@@kralexprofill4571 exactly...i just hope shes not annoying or fat...that's pretty much the standard

[@michaelsix9684]

it's too late, I saw this behavior fifty years in college, girls then barely talked to you, wonder where they are now

[@BeWise4Life]

Tables never turned. People are just talking about it now. It'll take culture about 15 years to catch up. They are still on extremist feminist movement. To avoid discussing the male side they jumped on the transgender bandwagon but it's really just a matter of time before it swings the other way.

[@ozzycortes]

This is what social media does to Women.

[@michaeljjt1976]

Social media is mostly destroying everyone. It divides, it doesn't unite

[@AnonymousProPublicaHakr]

What? gets them fired from their jobs? Gets them doxed. 😮

[@prodge888]

Thanks for your analysis Cortney.

[@humbertomazzarri2567]

thank you for being so reasonable, well spoken and socially smart, your videos give me hope that its not all lost

[@williamhanson9442]

This girl is tapioca. The very reason why I don't mind being single. The sad part is, there's millions like her out there. Stay strong men

[@MachineMan-mj4gj]

Don’t you dare compare the deliciousness of tapioca to that wench!

[@riproar11]

*there are millions there is millions?

[@Dirty_Dumb_NAFO_Scum]

@@riproar11 tf is your problem, not enough to do in life, how's that for grammatically correct?

[@freedomstar3814]

She is not even cute looking for being 30 years old

[@jj-sc1kq]

I've had that same "Kelce energy" before. It's my experience that most women don't actually want it. If this woman had someone in her life treat her like that I am betting that she would get tired of it real quick.

[@richardcrocker8048]

As will Kelce

[@CaptPicard81]

But are you 6’5

[@jussiesmollet4137]

Does this TikTok girl honestly think she deserves a guy who’s really better than a 4? The stars would have to align in order for her to have a 6 take her hand in marriage.

[@Groovdog]

Taylor Swift may be the one woman in the world who wont grow tired of it as it is all about HER. She will dump him long before it becomes a real issue.

[@scottluther6699]

Lol, you treat a woman like that and before you know it she’ll treat you like a servant. And let’s be honest here too. How long have they’ve been together and does anyone actually think this is going to last more than 2 years? You treat your partner like she’s a part of your team. That you’re two are together against the world. Not like she’s a queen. That’s ALWAYS going to fail period.

[@mike6.10]

You’re a breath of fresh air. Thanks

[@GyvonJante]

Jealousy and envy is what she suffers from. It’s not just men. She’ll feel like this about EVERYTHING! Her kids, her sibling relationships, her wardrobe compared to other women,…. She’s a green eyed envy monster.

[@127Foxtrot]

Agreed, probably one of the most delusional, jealous and envious presentations I've ever watched. It's also very entitled, ugly and sad as well, we can only hope that one day she will wake up and understand the reality of normal life and expectations.

[@mikeses4392]

“It’s ok to be normal.” Well said!

[@MH-hy2ot]

How narcissistic do you have to be to believe that you're on the level of super famous celebrities and deserve the same treatment as them? I really do hope she stays true to her word and stays single, no man deserves to suffer her torment

[@D3M0NiTiSeD]

Thank you for these videos. You are a blessing.

[@michaeljjt1976]

If Taylor Swift (or any woman) is being treated like a "princess" ---she will get bored of him soon enough and he'll be next album breakup fodder

[@azurearcade342]

Yup, nice guys' reward is usually child support payments.

[@devilsadvocacy]

And Travis Kelce will be reduced to Swiftie status (a fan) soon enough; NFL careers are notoriously short and he will be quickly relegated once he gets cut from the squad

[@Sekir80]

Interesting, I made a very similar comment. Why do we think this?

[@grantwithers]

@@devilsadvocacy He's been in 10 years apparently, probably got another couple years in him. then dip out into commentating.

[@user-fc6ov2rg9d]

Tonight is the first night I knew that Courtney existed. At 66, about to go on my first date in over 20 years having lost my wife to cancer a couple of years ago. How very refreshing it is to listen to her common sense. Wish me luck, I’m going in… 🤣

[@jichaelmorgan3796]

Sorry to hear that, hope it went well!

[@NiklasVWWV]

How did it go?

[@AS-vf7qw]

As scary as it was, it went extremely well, we had soooo much in common. Didn't stop me getting guilty but I'll work on that. Thanks to all that asked. ❤️

[@theocratickingdom30]

I hope it went well.

[@AS-vf7qw]

@@theocratickingdom30 it did, thank you for asking. Seeing her again this evening.

[@lisamoag6548]

Thank you Courtney. Calm and clear communication skills are excellent, dear.

[@CarlosArizona]

Thank You Miss Ryan for politely explaining the issue. Wish you and KZbin were around 30 years ago. But, you're here now so that's wonderful!

[@Telegrem-RealCourtneyRyan]

Am glad you took out time to comment I wanna have a discussion with you Above🤦‍♂️🛐🤷‍♀️,

[@PRdude]

I don't have the words to describe that woman's mindset. She most likely isn't the only one either. I hate how this negativity spreads among women.

[@MikeyP109]

Her mind set is to get views. Courtney gave her that.

[@brianburgess3231]

poor baby

[@davidchang8428]

LOL

[@mrmashalla9396]

Here's a word for that mindset. Insanity.

[@Adrian-zu6tm]

@@MikeyP109 not even that, these women on tiktok all genuinely think like her for the most part and the comments are always 99% in support. is rare to see women thinking for themselves and when they do they get called "pick mes" by the rest. seen it time and time again for the past 5+ years

[@NEHWind]

This mindset is rampant among women today. Men aren't even compared to previous relationships anymore, but now celebrity couples who's relationships are largely fictitious. It's going to get worse when eventually we're compared to entirely fictitious men from TV and movies, and couples that literally do not exist.

[@coolnut99]

Men already are compared to fiction, especially romance novels.

[@martincoronado9232]

It’s funny that you say that last thing, couples that do not exist. Read the book 1984 and you will see how the main character makes up a soldier out of thin air to write in the newspaper.

[@DanielGoldMcduckRose]

This no different then their fantasies of the notebook Disney and whatever else. They don’t realize what happens when u zoom out. What happens after the movie. How long do these relations last anyway.

[@dalord63]

Many women compare me favorably to Batman. True story. 😄

[@pace1195]

Then I hope they keep making trash content with bumbling idiots for male characters. Maybe I'll move up a notch or two. Unfortunately, they will also see themselves as the Mary Sue characters, so more women will have the mindset of the one in the video today.

[@waynejohn8]

Excellent comeback. Thanks.

[@Telegrem-RealCourtneyRyan]

Am glad you took out time to comment I wanna have a discussion with you Above🤦‍♂️🛐🤷‍♀️,,

[@faharichesimet4344]

You are making a great point 👍

[@tommygunn6901]

She just eliminated herself from the dating pool

[@omotayosatuyi252]

She purged herself actually

[@valentingartner3793]

Sadly there will always be men willing to simp.

[@exothermal.sprocket]

Imagine her heartbreak as soon as this "perfect couple" breaks up or cheats or divorces.

[@AnonymousProPublicaHakr]

she also just eliminated herself from a real job. Like if you’re gonna say rhetoric like this, you’d think that you’d put on a ski mask so people don’t dox you. And make your life miserable for the rest of your life

[@grantwithers]

arguably it was social media/behind the scenes celeb stuff that did it

[@dgwaters]

I swear seeing women like this makes me feel worse than usual. Most of my life I have had a hard enough time trying to talk to women. Now it’s like, why bother.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

I know it sucks for you,absolutely,imagine how it makes those of us who don't act like that feel 😕 The second hand embarrassment is overwhelming

[@manher4335]

A blessing in disguise really. To have that realization about those fixated in delusions. No need to pursue that any further. To your last point, truly try to see if there's any incentive to mingle with a woman. More often than not, besides their default of a back-side and orifices, there isn't much or any at all.

[@cardsfan5100]

Wow, I’m so sorry

[@RexJacobus-bb1vw]

​@@GabrielleTollersonit's not overwhelming enough to enact societal change so the pain isn't that big yet

[@clone1eighty7]

Get yur career, money ,assets, mind and body on point ... they then will come to you that's facts

[@quintingriffith587]

Had a ex girlfriend who would look at TV, social media and books, collect the best traits of different men and tell me why you can’t be like him, him and him. The individual guys she regranted weren’t even as good as the Megazord guy she created in her head. I had to bow out gracefully and tell her she deserves better.

[@ezecskornfan]

how she doin' now?

[@duanecarr6712]

I still am thankful for your efforts Courtney definitely god bless you for this.

[@garybutler5955]

I broke up with my ex over this caustic social media comparison nonsense. As difficult as it was to do, I'm certain that I made a healthy choice as she couldn't hear any of my warnings.

[@sickman5236]

I won't share my story but trust me, you probably did one of the best moves of your life

[@glasair38sr]

Been a month for me. Grown ass woman still scrollin’!

[@TheRadFactor]

@@sickman5236So you have standards by not spilling your life online? Good man.

[@SergioAOrtiz]

Let take a moment and appreciate we have women like Countney Ryan being there for us. Being a big sister and/or female role model to call the problems and guide us through this dating mess. Thank you!

[@6packproductions710]

Except nothing is changing.

[@kin-of-orakio]

If only she had an impact on these entitled, selfish women.

[@AndyViant]

@@6packproductions710 except for the worse, since they have their own cheer squads

[@patc2515]

No, things are changing It's just not happening fast and if you watch nothing but red pill content or anything related to men who are done with women or videos that do nothing but show the worst behavior in women, it might not feel like anything's changing or that it's getting worse. I see videos, posts, messages and things being said by female celebrities as well as people all over the place in real life where women are recognizing that they are either completely undesirable by men, that they can't find anyone to commit to them and can't even find someone to hook up with them anymore, they realize men won't approach them and they realize that other women are saying it and many women are waking up to this because they have realized that we finally have enough men who are actually putting their foot down and turning away from this behavior that we see in modern dating which has been needed for a long time. Channels like Courtney's and others not only work to open the eyes of women who have never seen this behavior for themselves, sort of like a mirror, and I'm sure this is not a large number of women on a daily basis but there must be some and that is a win, but channels like Courtney's also help to open the eyes of men who simp for women with these horrible behavioral traits which only rewards them for it and reinforces their disgusting apparent behavior. Every time a woman has her eyes opened and his inspired to make changes in herself and to turn away from the feminists and the mainstream narrative and every time a man learns to recognize his simping behavior and puts an end to it we have a win on our side. Those winds are stacking and it's becoming more and more common for people to call this stuff out and for women to recognize they've been led down the wrong path and they've had the wrong priorities and disgusting behaviors and many are starting to make changes, real actual lasting changes. Men need to get over there anger and simply turn away from the disgusting behaviors while giving us safe place to help redirect and lead the redeemable young women down the right path so they have a safe place to run to when they turn their back on the feminists and the media who destroys them and curses them anytime they unbrief their femininity or in any way turn from the mainstream culture. It might not be changing rapidly but positive change is happening all around us if you look for it. The problem is the change is somewhat quiet and the problem has the megaphone.

[@lordpalandus11]

She doesn't have to bear any of the risk with dating, so its easy for her to give advice. Its like a financial stock broker, giving advice on stocks. They aren't the one that has to bear financial failure if you take a stock they suggest, and it bombs. Same overall issue here.

[@MindAx13]

This seems like pretty solid dating advice. People seem to forget that you have to build up a relationship first. A like on a dating app doesn't mean they're already in love with you. It just means they had enough interest to like your profile and start a conversation that might lead to something more.

[@ryansharp9550]

the fact that shes 30 and thinking like this is beyond alarming

[@aaronharlow2137]

What you see in public, is public display. Don't people know that everything in the celebrity world is fake? Even if it wasn't, this honeymoon phase they're in won't last forever. Couples mature, get used to each other, and get comfortable.

[@user-ih5vg4xk3t]

If the football player dude was smart he would spend a couple nights with her and take off never to be seen again. He is silly if he thinks he can hold the attention of a girl being worshipped by millions of her peers!

[@mattorama]

"How come I can't pull the same men that a gorgeous, successful, famous billionaire can!?"

[@tricktap8502]

Main character syndrome has been hitting the internet like tsunami waves..the amount of people who think they are somehow different from the rest but want to be "relatable" at the same time is mindboggling..

[@concertoinx9070]

This is good wisdom and analysis for everyone, not just for the woman in the TikTok. Thank you for this, Courtney! While we can't afford to not compare and contrast ourselves with other people to get a sense of how we're doing in life, there will inevitably be reasons you can't see that lead to the differences, like you said. Trying to "leap" too far into a concrete action plan or some profound conclusion about your life will only hurt you in the end. It's best to take baby steps and be communicative in any interpersonal relationship.

[@Telegrem-RealCourtneyRyan]

Am glad you took out time to comment I wanna have a discussion with you Above🤦‍♂️🛐🤷‍♀️

[@oza1302]

“Taylor Swift has ruined dating for me. The way she swoons and follows her man fiercely. She allows him to open doors for her without complaining about feminism. She can provide for herself but is fine with him paying for stuff. She doesn’t feel belittled when he show her affection and let it be known she’s his and he may wife her up. She gives him her free time instead of partying with her girlfriends. Sorry but these neo-feminists on Tinder ain’t gonna cut it.” Girl in video: This guy hates strong, independent women.

[@dom7day]

Said it before, social media is the Achilles heel for modern women these days.

[@kathyp1563]

Sadly, this is not new. We women are pliable. We read/watch a romantic movie & want life to be like that. It takes mental discipline to be content, anyways. All the more after some of these stories. That's why I find it irksome that most romance movies glorify unhealthy relationships. The problem with social media (tiktok) is that they broadcast their crazy. If she'd said these same things to her girlfriend, mom, or sister, she might hear reason. Using social media as their "dear diary" is an awfully stupid mistake. Imagine a potential date finding this video!!

[@marcuslong9761]

Seems to be becoming that for the country in general.

[@bishyaler]

When you want everything, you'll end up with nothing.

[@joelsantiago9148]

I remember back in 2007 I found a Women seeking for Men section in Craigslist, and decided to put myself out there, read a lot of women's ads, where they would ask for basically Multimillionaires that had to own their cars, house, and live alone along with some really dumb long list. I lived by myself, own car, worked in education for a School District (I thought women would find that cute or cool to work with kids) I never once got a reply and out of curiosity I went to see other dudes ads, and it was mostly dudes posting nudes and felt like I was trying to find a date on a trashy site. Thats when I realized there is nothing wrong with me but people who feel they are deities end up bitter and grow old alone ( yet proud on how they have high standards and will never settle due to their life style or because they wont date anything else than a Travis Kelce)

[@mikeshafer]

The sad thing about social media is that there are millions of women out there just like her. We are basically watching the end of modern dating. I can’t even flee to Eastern Europe to find women who aren’t corrupted by this because they all have social media too !

[@chrism4008]

Pretty soon only un-contacted hermit tribes will be the only place you can find them lacking the modern mental programming. Im talking North Sentinel Island type, where you have to show up with gifts every day for months or they eat you to ward off bad luck

[@RusticRonnie]

The US is really the worst of it, and 70% of women aren’t crazy. but if you look at dating stats for college graduates, college educated men are year over year dating foreign women, all while these statistics is not repeated for American women

[@chinhphan4787]

I've always been saying this. What people see on media outlets are making people delusional and think that's the norm.

[@GoldenMushroom64]

The thing is, these people are not just delusional, they are straight up stupid.

[@SP30305ATL]

You made great points and I agree with all of them. Separately, though, I believe she meant that video more tongue-in-cheek than seriously. I interpreted it more as "look how great he acts" and "this is something for more men to work towards" than the literal "this is now my minimum standard so now I'll die alone" she said. Still, you're right, and even he probably has all kinds of flaws that only appear behind closed doors, and so does Taylor Swift. And, while we can work to be a little more like people we admire, we shouldn't make ourselves unhappy when we don't reach the fake perfection of internet clips.

[@ZUGTFO]

Can't agree more with your take on this insanity. People have been given over to a reprobate mind when it comes to expectations.

[@mikeshafer]

She’s literally saying “hinge men” suck because they aren’t Travis. I hope she and her cats live a long happy life together.

[@larsegholmfischmann6594]

This year I dated a girl who was at least an 8 or 9, but she had serious issues. Some kind of Main Character Syndrome I suppose. But I also dated two other girls who were probably 5-6, and they were great (but didn't match so well with me in general). The reason I write this is because I think a lot of us menfolk also have unrealistic expectations, and tend to swipe on the prettiest girls, because social media, movies, pop culture, commercials, etc. is rife with unrealistically beautiful women. So we are also prone to falling into this trap - forgetting that there are wonderful women out there, and that they don't necessarily look like supermodels.

[@sirseven3]

It's all a matter of perspective. You can have the most beautiful woman in the world next to you but feel alone. But it all depends on what you do with it and how you cultivate that relationship

[@larsegholmfischmann6594]

@@sirseven3 Very true, if there is compatibility looks don't matter.

[@0giwan]

I don't think you're wrong, but in my experience, if a girl expresses any interest in me, she instantly gains at least like two points.

[@Dragonstalon1001]

Question, if you consider 'your League' (the average rating of most of the Women that you Date) to be a '5' in looks (Average), and you go out with a Lady who is an '8', do you now consider your League for the rest of eternity to be an '8' or do you still consider yourself a '5'? A huge problem right now, is that a lot of Women who are a '5' in looks, will go out on a date with a Man who is an '8' or '9' in looks (the Chad's, Tyrone's, and Pookie's) and think their Dating League is now an '8' or a '9', and will refuse to see themselves as a '5' and will not accept any more dates except from the Male "8's/9's/10's". Men date across their level and Down, while Women date across and Up. All of that was based solely upon 'Looks', yet there are things men can do to Improve their 'Dating League' (such as make more Money, Hit the Gym and get in better Shape, Get a higher Education Level, rise in the ranks of the Corporation/Business you are in, become 'Famous' NOT Infamous), and Women can do things that will lessen their 'Dating League' (be Promiscuous, Not dressing Modestly and/or spreading Risque or Pornographic Pictures on the Internet, Have Kids, just the Natural aging process, be a 'Boss Bit**' or as some would call it a Masculine Energy in a Woman, not being 'Realistic' with their Life such as wanting a Berkin Bag when you can't even afford this Months Groceries, etc....). 'Modern' Women think that they are exactly like a Man, and what a Man can do a Woman can do....no, we are Different and can NOT use the standards of one Sex/Gender as a measuring stick for the other Sex/Gender. We want different Things, which is why a Man will Date and even Marry a Cashier at McDonald's, but a Woman almost never would (I'm sure it happened somewhere in the World, sometime since Fast Food joints became a thing, so will add in the possibility of that .00000001% chance) I said all of that to say MOST Men are based in Reality and Probabilities (percentage Chances....like how if a Woman has had 10 Sexual Partners by her Wedding night the Probability of Divorce is 70% within 10 years....based off of Facts and Studies), while MOST Women are based in their Feelings and Possibilities (It happened to that person ONCE since we started keeping Time, so if I manifest it, it will happen to me type thinking). This won't be changing anytime soon, so make your moves accordingly with this Knowledge!!

[@jessewilliams8038]

Aside from your story ( to which I haven't read, because I got caught of guard) I really thought you said you dated a girl who was 8 or 9. Had to take a moment

[@wraithblack8248]

You are correct, don’t compare your relationship to someone else’s. Also, I know that I made bad choices in who I chose for being in a relationship. So I can’t fully fault the other party. Yet it also jaded me so now I am way more cautious. Not every woman is to blame, but it definitely made me want to date someone a lot less

[@mrMichaelcadams]

First time I've seen your channel. You instantly had the correct answer to her question. I found that very attractive.

[@Telegrem-RealCourtneyRyan]

Am glad you took out time to comment I wanna have a discussion with you Above🤦‍♂️🛐🤷‍♀️,,

[@jstall20]

If she dated that guy she claims to want she would call him needy and clingy in 5 minutes 😂

[@chrislong8559]

Or she would listen to her lonely single friends or possible toxic family members telling her he ain't doing enough, he's only doing bare minimum. Your a queen, you deserve the best. Such bs.

[@steel128]

@chrislong8559 a lot of times it's her toxic friends that help ruin things

[@Steelwolf21]

I'm also in my early 30's. About 15 years ago in middle school, it was common for my female classmates to compare and idolize celebrity lives to their own. The video you shared shows me her mind hasn't matured since middle school.

[@Sadlander2]

I wonder what she would say if a guy told her _"I had a nice evening with you but after we watched that video of Taylor Swift, I just can't be with you. I've realised that I can't accept being with a girl who's not as cute and hot as Taylor, who doesn't play guitar, who can't write good songs and the list goes on. I'm sorry but you're just not good enough."_

[@On.Tel_egramRealCourtneyRyan]

I wanna talk to you privately..,,.,

[@Pedrotessy]

Thanks Courtney You’re absolutely right we as human beings either have an unrealistic view of the right person for us whether that be delusional or poor criteria. Personally my experience has been with singles is that either there criteria for choosing is unrealistic. When asked what at you really looking for a man or woman it’s usually Oh I don’t know haven’t really thought about it much How about personality kindness affection loyalty honesty faithfulness and above all thoughtfulness 😊

[@toomuchcoke233]

Im 37 and have been single since Sophomore year in High School. I dont really put myself out there for women, so its my own fault i'm single and i'm not part of this movement to blame women for my own problems. I have been relatively happy on being single, but there are times where i've gotten depressed about it. I love watching your videos because you don't take sides for men or women, you give an honest opinion or fact about the subject and tell it how it is... Take care, and God Bless 😇

[@torytrae1974]

@ConontheBinarian Bad advice. this will make you look needy and creepy your best result is you end in their friendzone. Either you attract them with confidence or you don't. never pursue them.

[@Microphunktv-jb3kj]

So ... basicly ur an incel ? :D

[@toomuchcoke233]

@@Microphunktv-jb3kj How is being single being an incel?!?! Like wtf man... I don't give money to random women online, I don't chase after hot women out of my league... You're probably part of the new Gen Z that over uses words that don't know their meaning.

[@Microphunktv-jb3kj]

@@toomuchcoke233 Yeah, kind of true, that being single doesn't neccerarclky mean sexless life lol.. i didnt think thru my comment.. since ive been solo all my life as well as in no relationshuips and also 37.. but doesnt mean iu dont lseep around with women... nah im not gen z... i'm from '86 , just like u if ur the same age lol. and second of all.. i wasn't stating... but asking if you are incel... pretty odd, that you triggered , don't you think? :D clearly the question bothered you.. why is that so?

[@toomuchcoke233]

@@Microphunktv-jb3kj buddy I've been on the internet, I know a troll when I see one, but I was nice too, I could've gone in several directions with my statement, tell me did this all start when you were a child... Maybe in school when kids used to make paper airplanes and throw them in class, but you always felt left out of the fun.

[@D_Jilla]

So this girl thinks she's entitled to that kind of relationship just for existing? That's like if I were to look at any famous person's hot wife and say "Wow thanks for ruining me 'X famous person', how am i supposed to go back to tinder with these average looking girls. Guess i will die alone!" In the immortal words of Aba, THIS IS A SIIIICKNEEESSS.

[@edwardcuevas5667]

😮very well said your opening people eyes

[@Telegrem-RealCourtneyRyan]

Am glad you took out time to comment I wanna have a discussion with you Above🤦‍♂️🛐🤷‍♀️,,

[@viperswhip]

There is a series by Charlie Brooker called TV Ruined Your Life, it raised expectations in people to unrealistic heights and our reality can never compare.

[@SirAdsew]

What's interesting about this is everyone looks at how Travis treats Taylor, but not the other way around. She attends his games, supports him, dives into his hobbies and interests. Theres pretty clear mutual effort, so no wonder they treat each other well from what we see.

[@MikeyP109]

What a lot of people missed was her sarcasm.

[@stevenswitzer5154]

Dont worry, she will spill all his tea in her next album

[@dynosophical]

I swear I'll never understand why people try to model an ideal relationship based on celebrities who have consistently failed spectacularly in the area of healthy long-term relationships

[@TheQuantumWave]

And the ones that do work are the ones you read about or see on television. They keep their private lives private.

[@zzkeokizz]

Right. You have to be you! Taylor has a lot of songs that are essentially “It’s me, Hi, I’m the problem it’s ME”

[@The-Myned]

A lot of women compare apples to asteroids and "feel" they are beyond comparable.

[@On.Tel_egramRealCourtneyRyan]

I wanna talk to you privately..,,.

[@MrEdwardz00]

In the early stages of many relationships, there is often a pressure to constantly impress, but this can be problematic because it doesn't reflect the true self. When the true self eventually emerges, it can lead to a potential breakup or divorce due to expectations set in the beginning.

[@FloridaManConstruction]

“Comparison is the thief of joy”

[@MikeyP109]

Coined by Teddy Roosevelt.

[@EminDemiri-le6gq]

You've got the mindset of a mature and healthy human being, Courtney. Thank you so much for the light you shared with us.

[@MomoAfterDark]

Mature and healthy women are as rare as jewels in America

[@Jch833]

Glad I found your channel. A lot of men are taking themselves out of the dating pool these days. I’m one of them. And they’re not all neckbeard video game playing low T guys who hate women. I myself am a decently put together man. I definitely don’t think I’m a “10”, but maybe a mid 7 to an 8 on a great day. I’m 42, I used to model, I keep myself in excellent shape and I make a very good living with a few businesses. Lots of guys just don’t see the value in dating modern women anymore. We’ve given up. We get very, very little out of it, and in a weird way it feels liberating to finally admit it to myself, and stop the effort. I’m telling you, many men like me feel the same way. I know lots of them.

[@davesmith826]

I'm 38 years old, decent looking, in excellent shape and professionally accomplished. I'm still searching for a life partner, but I don't know how long that'll last. What I've learned over the past few years is this: the more desirable a female partner, the easier it is for her to treat men like disposable razors: use one for as long as it's useful, then move onto the next. This creates a conundrum for men like you and me. We can either lower our standards and aim for women who are not as good looking / successful as we are (the trade off being they are more likely to be loyal and good to us), or aim for women that are comparable to us (but risk getting screwed over by them). The bigger the catch, the greater the risk. Men see these odds and decide not to play and I can't say I blame them. The only thing that's keeping me going is the chance, however slim, that I'll find someone who is comparable to me in terms of looks, career and morals. Perhaps when I'm your age I'll give up. I know it gets harder with each failed attempt and I have had a lot of relationships with a lot of women.

[@davesmith826]

As an aside, I've just started dating a 28-year-old who is very pretty and has a lot of potential (currently completing her second Masters degree). We seem to get on well, but I've been struck by how one-way the traffic is. I've paid for everything and have planned and organised every date we've had. She's thanked me *once* for one meal - we've had several and have also been to comedy clubs, cinema, and theatre as well. The other day I dropped off a home-cooked meal to her house. She hasn't said a word about it - whether she likes my cooking or not - and hasn't even returned the tupperware. Last week, I lent her a hoodie because she was cold. I haven't seen it since. When you and I were growing up, this kind of behaviour would simply not be tolerated. Now it's the norm, largely, I think, because women get bombarded with attention from a never-ending stream of simps, millionnaires and players. This attention places all the power in their hands - annoy them and they'll replace you as quickly as a disposable razor - and explains the eye-raising arrogance and sense of entitlement that we see today. Here's the irony: it's men, not women, who have given women the power in modern relationships and it's men, not women, who have to take this power away. Remove the army of desperate, sychophantic and unprincipled men from the equation and your typical 7 or 8 female is not going to act like she's the second coming of Mariyln Monroe. She's going to appreciate the value of a man who brings to the table what someone like you or I bring and treat us with more respect. That won't happen until men stop giving it away, which is why I have as much disdain for them as I do for the women who treat men like rental cars.

[@computerguy1579]

Great video. I think one of the biggest lessons in life is that we have to find a balance between reality and fantasy. I don't blame her for wanting a fairy tale relationship like what she sees with these two celebrities, just like I don't blame men for having their own fantasies about the women they want. But there comes a point when reality needs to be considered. Some of the key pieces are: 1- Who can you find that you actually have a chance with (doesn't mean you shouldn't shoot above your league, but also be well aware of the feedback you get to determine if you should adjust your expectations). Most of us aren't going to end up with celebrities or highly desirable people but rather with people who are likely from the same background and socioeconomic status we're from. 2- Do they have similar financial goals and views on money? 3- Do they have similar core beliefs and life goals? 4- What kind of life outside of romance are you guys going to build together? In other words, when looking beyond just the romance side, do you envision building an enjoyable and fulfilling life with this person? I do enjoy the days when I was young, and I had the potential to date/marry any woman I thought about. And it was fun having crushes. But after having been married, there is much more depth to a relationship besides the attraction and romance. That's not to say that those things go away and/or aren't important, but they only are a piece of the entire relationship. And as such, it goes back to the point that we need to determine where we find the balance between fantasy and reality.