This Doctor Explains Why You Feel Empty and How to Change | Anna Yusim on Women of Impact

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How do you live authentically? How do you get to a place where you hear your own true voice, where you stop living according to what other people think you should do, and where you stop making the same mistakes over and over again? Psychologist and world traveller Anna Yusim devotes her life to helping people answer these kinds of questions. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Anna illustrates how to set boundaries, deal with the troubles in life that just keep coming back, and live an authentic, fulfilled life.
SHOW NOTES:
Anna discusses the masks we wear and why we adopt them [2:53]
Anna explains how to find your true, inner, quiet voice [4:16]
Anna tells her own story [6:55]
Lisa and Anna discuss how people often display the opposite emotions that they feel [8:48]
Take baby steps to get rid of the “shoulds” [10:43]
Anna describes soul corrections and soul contributions [11:46]
Anna explains how to find the person you will be fulfilled with [14:54]
Whatever bothers us in other people is a reflection of ourselves [16:56]
Anna describes repetition compulsions, when awful things keep happening [18:15]
How to deal with denial [19:33]
Anna explains what it really takes to change [21:00]
Anna and Lisa discuss boundaries [23:20]
Anna illuminates how strong boundaries bring people closer [25:00]
Anna and Lisa discuss specifically mother/daughter boundaries [28:08]
Anna explains how to love yourself as you are and still improve [32:18]
Anna defines the soul as inter-connectedness and purpose [34:00]
Anna describes the placebo effect and its opposite, the “nocebo” effect [35:00]
Anna shares 3 things people should do immediately to live authentically [38:43]
Anna shares her superpower [40:10]
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[@christinajackson3461]

The part 24 minutes shook me. She talks about having strong boundaries pulls people in instead of pushing them away because you no longer have to fear losing your identity and being taken advantage of. You can relax and be more of yourself which means they can do the same. So THAT'S why I've had a hard time connecting to people, especially in dating. Wow! I knew I was afraid I would get hurt in dating but I didn't realize I was afraid of this person and this situation changing my identity. I've been in relationships before where they really wanted to be with me, yet they also really wanted to change much about me. It is terrifying to get lost in that.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Christina Jackson HEARD THAT!! And can totally relate. Glad it impacted you 💗💗

[@dawsonaaron3260]

I dont mean to be so offtopic but does anyone know of a trick to log back into an Instagram account..? I was dumb forgot my password. I would appreciate any help you can offer me!

[@1234mjm]

@@dawsonaaron3260 you’re not dumb❤️ sometimes we forget and that’s okay. If you google how, it will explain. you will have to reset your password and go through your email that is connected to your Instagram account.

[@maimohamed3590]

"The way u find ur soul mate is actually u work on urself and u clear about up whatever blockages exist within u to brining in ur partner" ✨💕👌

[@LisaBilyeu]

Mai Mohamed very true 💜

[@lovechallanges1608]

I love that, that is very true. I feel so ashamed of myself. Because I have an amazing man who loves me so much. But, I've destroyed so much because I have no motivation to work on me anymore. You seem like an amazing woman.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Ashley Castillo seems there’s some motivation there, since you’ve watched this episode! Don’t give up on you lovely 💗💜

[@mauramckay14]

I listened to this interview while driving so I was only focusing on what they were saying and the content. All I can say is wow, I wish I could’ve shown this to myself when I was younger. However, even if I did I don’t think I would’ve been in a mindset to accept the wisdom. I think many people will have a hard time hearing this interview because hearing the truth isn’t easy. The people you let in and love are a reflection of yourself. It follows the idea that halves attract halves, wholes attract wholes. Thank you for this interview!

[@dianes853]

I love the "holding space" for another person. Usually I hold space for someone in need that I know but holding space for visualization/change for someone we love - never thought of that!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Diane S such a great notion right?! Glad it resonated 💜

[@danielletravassosszabo4948]

Love the way Lisa interviews her guests. She really listens and let them talk. This episode was great. Thank you, Lisa.

[@cheeseburger5555]

Omg this woman rocks! Her demeanor, her knowledge, her verbiage, her energy - strong but compassionate clicks with me. Can’t wait to read her book!

[@nicholahartwell5868]

To be honest, I found this video very difficult to accept... On one hand, I admired and appreciated every word (content was wonderful)... on the other, I felt that every hand movement, every smile, and the voice... was way too polished for me to actually listen to that content - all I could think about was the Stepford Wives movie, and how many hundreds of hours she (Anna) has taken to develop that persona!! Lisa, amazing as usual.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Nichola Hartwell Interesting feedback! Thank you so much 🙏🏻💗

[@yasalhemyari7629]

I agree with you. . But I admire everything she said though. It seemed a bit fake. I mean the way she reacts and responded. I'm talking about the guest. It didn't seems energetic and engaged in her own words. It was weird to watch it. Thanks for your efforts and keep it up.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Yas Al Hemyari appreciate the comment lovely 💜 It’s important to remember that we all have different characters and different ways of expressing ourselves, and hers may just appear SUPER different from yours. That said, all things constructive welcomed #grateful 🙏🏻💗

[@aadams3100]

@@yasalhemyari7629 I love your honesty.

[@gabrielagabyrodriguez72]

Sounds like you're experiencing your own "Mirror Principal"

[@KarmasAbutch]

Wow I didn’t know about “reaction formation” being the actual term for suppressing emotions by projecting the opposite of them publicly. Helpful, thanks.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Karmas A Butch it’s a Freudian term. Definitely good to know right!? 💗

[@lisaw6219]

Where has this Anna Yusim been all my adult life? I'm buying her book ASAP!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Lisa W NICE!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@becefi]

Lisa W aa

[@luluhig7207]

Im empty i dont feel love,happyness,anger,sadness. That means that i can cry i can smile but i dont feel

[@Toni-ec5lc]

Lisaaaaaa!!! This was so beautiful. First of all you give the best introductions ALWAYS. Secondly I love the point of basically once you change your mindset and lifestyle that’s been passed on from generations you break off those things for future generations. Love this soooo much

[@LisaBilyeu]

Antonia Royal-Whitmore definitely a... wow, whoop moment right?! 🙌🏻💗

[@thaliabloom5916]

Lisa’s looking really healthy. Whatever you’re doing, it’s working ❤️

[@rjvnz]

This was hands-down one of the best interviews I've ever heard. Dr. Yusim has an amazing clarity when she speaks. Her thoughts and the way she words things are so insightful and articulate. Lisa is also so amazing at creating that insightful dialogue that probes Dr. Yusim to answer these deep and thoughtful questions. Overall, the dialogue was just superb with many nuggets of wisdom. I hit subscribe on the channel about halfway through the interview. Can't wait to listen to other interviews on this channel.

[@LisaBilyeu]

rjvnz amazing to hear!! So glad you enjoyed the interview 😊❤️

[@kjoy2215]

I am SO glad I discovered this channel. As a woman and a person committed to self-improvement and introspection, I find this content invaluable. Your work is truly a blessing! I loved this interview. Anna made some brilliant points and I can't wait to read the book.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Karrin Perez aww 🥰 thank you so much. Feeling the love! ❤️

[@AndrewTanielian]

Wow! 30:40 will set a lot of people free. This is the first time I’m hearing a professional give children of the world permission to free themselves of this guilt.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Andrew Tanielian #setyourselffree 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

[@raph009]

I really love that interview (as always)! I travelled a lot this year and it also helped me find a sense of purpose and realize the patterns in my life. There's just something about having a view on how different societies live that gives you a whole new perspective.

[@annicadennison3949]

Women of Impact has changed my life. Thank you Lisa and Dr Yusim for yet another life changing chat!!! 💗🙌🏼💗🙌🏼💗🙌🏼💗🙌🏼💗🙌🏼💗💗🙌🏼💗🙌🏼💗

[@LisaBilyeu]

Annica DeJesus 🙏🏻💕

[@1kellygirl2010]

Dr. Yusim was difficult to hear, but very interesting topic.

[@JenniferJohnson-jt8eb]

I thought so to, but didn't want to say so because I couldn't think of how to word it without sounding offensive. I like the way you put it. I love Lisa's show. 😊

[@LisaBilyeu]

Jennifer Johnson aww totally felt that! Glad you found this comment that expressed how you felt 💜

[@LisaBilyeu]

1kellygirl2010 it’s never easy to hear right?! 💗❤️

[@1kellygirl2010]

Yes, but I meant i couldn't hear her well. She was a little soft spoken. You came across great.

[@LisaBilyeu]

1kellygirl2010 ah I see!! Gotcha 🙏🏻💜

[@Jasmine-bf7im]

Beautiful interview! I loved every bit of it and really inspires me to choose psychiatry for my residency ! Thanks so much for this! Much love ❤️

[@ellylilly8836]

She reminds me of Charlotte from Sex and The City :))) in the best possible way, of course :)

[@aadams3100]

I work in the field as a Licensed Therapist so I thoroughly enjoyed this. Spirituality plays a huge role in our well being and boundary setting. . . Also Lisa thanks the the info about Blinkist. I def downloaded. Keep up the great work, Ladies! #DwellerInTheValley

[@diegopolo8979]

Have you realized how far have you reach? Love you girl, amazing interview as always!!! Thank you!

[@lifewithbrittany1708]

This is the best KZbin channel! The interviews are always just what I need you! Thank you!

[@ligiasommers]

Wonderful episode that I was very lucky to find throughout the short versions that you are having during the pandemic 🙏🏻💖

[@keishar.aguillera9543]

Excellent video. Learnt a lot, especially on the topic of Boundaries. Thank you Lisa.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Keisha R.Aguillera NICE! Glad it resonated with you 👏🏻🙌🏻

[@eloquencewithabimbola]

I just love Anna's voice!

[@SowMe_AF]

I just loved it Ladies, really!! Thank you both for pouring into us such qualitatives informations about self affirmation!! Take care, much love! :)

[@yinglin9537]

Wow i loooove this interview so much! Certainly a woman of impact and Lisa kept asking such good questions!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Yinglin 🙏🏻 thank you! 💗

[@pinkvalentino]

Lisa, I swear... you always come when I need you!! Thank you for this again as this si exactly how i feel now!

[@LisaBilyeu]

redMonkey awesome! Glad to come when you need us. Thanks so much! 💕

[@whateverbabe5987]

her voice is so soft because you need to turn it up the message is GOLD. also enabled subtitles, not 100% accurate but it gets the job done :))

[@LisaBilyeu]

Whatever Babe 💜💜💜

[@fransiscaika]

Thank you so much for this video, totally relatable to me....

[@fhaf33z]

Lisa, great interview and thank you for having this show. I listen to Tom and found your channel and now subscribed! Can't wait to go through all the great past interviews.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Xenaga NICE!! So happy you found us! 🙌🏻🔥❤️

[@iamdragon5914]

Thoroughly appreciated the contrast of you two ladies in your presentation,voices, mannerisms, etc. Came together rather harmoniously with the (paraphrase) " just be you on purpose" message.

[@heidiklessard8440]

Wonderful talk, very intelligent. Thank you!

[@lucianafernandes1065]

She is amazing!

[@footwalk688]

Absolutely great. Lisa you are an outstanding interviewer. Thank you for putting this out. 🙌🏼#class

[@LisaBilyeu]

Maria Clara Irisarri 🙏🏻🙌🏻

[@janetfrances2802]

Valuable presentation thank you ladies!!

[@tleemf6923]

Thank you..both🔥I will watch and listen again❣️💙❣️💙❣️

[@heartdawg]

Beautiful! Thank You Lisa♡

[@LisaBilyeu]

Kandy Hilton ❤️❤️

[@catherinebournival1707]

Sooooooooooo interesting :D loved it! Thank you so much! Love you both Lisa & Tom your shows/interviews are really changing my life!!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Catherine Bournival ❤️❤️

[@estelamenezeslecafenoir]

thank you so much

[@yup9832]

Impact theory changed my life 😊♥️

[@LisaBilyeu]

Jhaia Minne WOW!! That’s awesome 🙌🏻👏🏻❤️

[@riaparadise821]

Thank you 🥰

[@joannasteltmann9104]

One of my fave interviews! Absolutely love it!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Joanna Steltmann thank you! Glad you enjoyed 🙌🏻💗

[@nataliyaivanova446]

Great interview !!! Love it😍

[@LisaBilyeu]

Nataliya Ivanova NICE!! Glad you enjoyed it 💗

[@isobelndoro]

Very informative, thank you❣

[@LisaBilyeu]

Isobel Ndoro 💜💜

[@ruthy222]

So glad to have found you thanks ladies.

[@LisaBilyeu]

ruth edensor whoop!! So glad you found us!! Welcome to the family 💗

[@nishsingh1345]

Your guest ,she has such a soothing voice 😊

[@Alinanais]

loved this

[@kyaniteaura]

Great video very soothing for some reason

[@ashleyaustin4268]

That was really helpful to me, thank you!!!

[@alessiapezzato4931]

Girls this episode is pure fire 🔥!!! ❤️ I LOVE IT SO SO MUCH ❤️!! THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS VIDEO!! 🥰🥰 LOVE YOU GIRLSS!! ❤️ ❤️

[@LisaBilyeu]

Alessia Pezzato whoop!! And 🥰😘❤️

[@alessiapezzato4931]

@@LisaBilyeu thank you so much ❤️ 💕 😘 😘!!

[@jillianroe9461]

anna talks so soothing

[@waju8473]

Hi there, Lisa. I just want to say this; you are awesomely a ginormous STAR. I came across your channel a few days ago, & it has helped me in so many ways possible. Sadly, I’m a man but, your guests have a challenging spirit which is breathtaking. I have learnt a lot and bought some of their books, too. I’m now so excited about my healing journey been on the right path. Super, Super, Super job, Lisa. God bless you.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Lanrewaju Akanle love this so much! ESPECIALLY because you are a man!! Thank you for showing the love and welcome to the community! ❤️❤️

[@MsMiniDope]

Love you Lisa!!

[@LisaBilyeu]

MsMiniDope ❤️

[@Shikor68]

Thank you Lisa Billue

[@Shikor68]

I love the way you explain about boundaries. I still can handle very well yet. Sorry I missed the book title?

[@LisaBilyeu]

minerva cito ‘Fulfilled’ Anna Yusim 💕

[@ccm3916]

wow!! thanks a lot!!

[@ColbyTheOrangeTabby]

Omg I needed this

[@missgejii]

Thanks so much Lisa! I’ve been feeling so numb and empty, but it’s so confusing because I am usually such a go getter. This help give me some insight. Much respect and love

[@lisabilyeu8103]

Gigi Bui so glad it helped sweetie!!

[@deannahamiltonwatkins4843]

Ty Lisa 🌷

[@rebeccasteinbach3117]

awwwww her voice is so cute and motherly!!!!

[@susmitamondal4795]

Very useful topic .best video In KZbin.

[@LisaBilyeu]

susmita mondal Wow! Amazing comment!! Thank you 💗

[@Baobasaurawr]

The whole thing about thinking logically vs doing things intuitively spoke to me. I have been doing everything methodically and logically to get to where I want to be. But I feel unhappy still. I'm gonna try to follow my heart more even if it means not making the "logical" move all the time.

[@LisaBilyeu]

❤️❤️

[@keillanhadden798]

Really enjoyed this interview! I learnt a lot from Anna and her voice is so soothing :-)

[@LisaBilyeu]

Keillan Hadden 💗💕

[@gabrielagabyrodriguez72]

Great content. Her calm manner forces me to calm my spazzyness down. LOVE IT!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Gabriela Gaby Rodriguez haha!! 🤣 Happy to help 😉💕

[@naimadelafeunte9165]

Wooow! This is realy a good topic relate some story

[@chethakmp3]

thanks girls 😊 helpful 😊 have a nice day 😊

[@happimindset]

Let’s create a positive experience and a wonderful happy community while we live

[@user-cl6uj5bn2f]

Once again a great way to start my day😊 I could listen to Dr. Yusim all day. Thank you Lisa !

[@LisaBilyeu]

M. B. Awesome! 💜😊

[@rashaburton]

Loved this! Bought the book and the reference book she mentioned! Thankyou 💖

[@LisaBilyeu]

Rasha Burton awesome! 💗💗

[@lovechallanges1608]

I'm a 33 yr old who makes the same mistakes over and over again. I want to change my ugly habits but, I'm not disciplined enough or always want it enough. I've been lazy for so long. It's ruining my life and my relationship with the most amazing man. I really don't like myself. I don't feel like a good person anymore.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Ashley Castillo we all have a good person within. Try not to be so hard on yourself or focus on the past. Move forward... into who you want to be. Only you can. 💗

[@lovechallanges1608]

@@LisaBilyeu thank you for the encouragement and support. I really do appreciate it. Being the me I am today has been a hard thing to change for myself. But today I will work on fixing it. I really enjoyed this video. You and your husband always have amazing people on. Y'all are amazing.

[@Hassanthehorse]

You can do it! It takes strength, self-awareness and courage to admit to yourself that you aren't happy with the way things currently are, so you've already taken a huge step, even though it might not feel that way. I wish you the best of luck in achieving your goals.

[@lovechallanges1608]

@@Hassanthehorse thank you appreciate the words of encouragement. I really do want to change. It's been so hard. Cause I've been so lazy with myself. But I know it's time for it.

[@litingshang9096]

Hi,@@lovechallanges1608, I have a hard time recently, However, I WANT TO TELL YOU THAT You can make it right! No matter what kind of person you are in the past, I hope you always move forward. You can try to do exercise and eat healthy every day first. I do believe we will become the person we really want to be one day! Let us move forward! (Tell yourself that your beautiful, confident, smart, brave and nice every day or before every meal) I hope these suggestions can help you! :)

[@dianaespinal7609]

This was very interesting!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Diana Espinal glad you thought so 🙏🏻💗

[@lillicao8625]

dr. anna voice is so special. really touch my mind.

[@zie1704]

So accurate😍 love this episode😚😁

[@LisaBilyeu]

Alyza Marie Tarrazona glad to hear it!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@louloulu5358]

21:00 it has to hurt enough. U have to hold the space

[@TiffanyShanell]

That part!!!!! Oh my goodness

[@vivekbhasi117]

11:45. 13:19. 14:02. 16:00. 17:56. 20:42. 23:02. 24:28. 25:06 26:54. 28:39. 29:46. 30:38. 32:16. 35:22. 36:24. 38:16

[@ed9910]

Acupuncture is the best!

[@LisaBilyeu]

E Gale 💪🏻👏🏻

[@sukjinderdhahan4894]

Just stumbled on this podcast having watched most of Tom's content, I'm assuming Lisa is a relation. As a fella I found this amazing, great content sunshine. Love from South London All ❤

[@radicalaccounting]

Interesting interview, but if she shared, "why you feel empty and how to change", I missed it. Will be reading her book.

[@thatswhatisaidCA]

Wow, that is powerful deep stuff! Lots for me to dissect... ;) Sort of related question, tho: I always wondered about shaking your head no, when you mean yes; do you really mean no? Is it negating your yes, or does it mean the person doesn't really believe what they're saying??? Is it engratiating movement to others, is it a habit? Your guest does this a LOT. It's something i've wondered about for years...

[@musokiemily336]

I think you need to also create a video about " doing the work" like what it actually means

[@dnllmaurer1]

This was a captivating & enlightening episode. Lisa asked strategic questions. Anna provided detailed answers. There's a lot of interesting depth here. Anna brings to our awareness, valid reasons to question our imposed beliefs. The discussion flows smoothly but Anna is very soft spoken so her audio was faint at times. I've listened to Tom's 'Impact Therory' for a while & really enjoy his shows. You are both so well informed, have brilliant interviewing skills & bring forth tremendous knowledge from your guests. Thank you for sharing & making such a positive IMPACT! Wishing all abundant Blessings!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Xahvia Braun WOW! Thank you so much 😊💗 So much love 💕

[@yshkviswanatham172]

When in my work don't do mistakes the sorry how can I express before human I feel very happy in every time .I will help to human this is my habit .

[@bellatrix6705]

I love u Lisa ❤❤❤❤ my elder sister

[@LisaBilyeu]

Akshi tyagi Aww 🥰 so sweet ❤️

[@iulia.namashco]

Thank you for this great interview on useful topics! Super interesting guest covered really good questions. Can anyone help with the name and the author of the book she told about 49 soul corrections? I couldn't hear Anna well. Thank you a lot!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Iulia Namaşco Katherine Woodward Thomas ❤️

[@iulia.namashco]

@@LisaBilyeu Thank you a lot!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Iulia Namashco 😘

[@lydiamontano3025]

You're AMAZING Lisa!!! I absolutely love your show! Many blessing to you!!!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Lydia Montano 🙏🏻💗

[@melissaheidecker3262]

We also construct physical masks though. For example, both these women are attractive and have taken steps to preserve and enhance their natural beauty.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Melissa Heidecker fair point! 💗

[@supasmooth2052]

Bottom Line WoW Stop Listening to The Voices? Good To See That Your On Your Own Good Path!

[@LeLa1ful]

❤️❤️❤️

[@msprettykawaii950]

Im an empath and my husband is a narcissist. He cant resist women who are empath, gullible and vulnerable. I read one of his convo with the girl she said Im afraid of being with you because you are married I was once fooled by a married man who said he was.already separated. It gives me the creeps because she didnt know she was talking to my husband similar to what she was describing. She even told me her relationship with the father of her child was toxic well she attracted broken men and I dont want to be like her. I aim to be the best I can be, Im praying for my husband for God to convict him and fill his emptiness.

[@angelarondinella6554]

Which MD did Anna see in NYC? Looking for someone.

[@hiba.soomro]

❤❤

[@adalovelace521]

great interview as always! is lisa greek?

[@LisaBilyeu]

iftlatlw lol! yes her parents are Greek Cypriot 💕

[@LisaBilyeu]

iftlatlw and thank you!

[@dronesandnature]

This! Right now. I thought mine was "just" course correction. Thank you for clarifying the term soul correction and soul contribution. And allowing the soul to reemerge from where it's been hiding because of all the outside influential voices we've been listening to and how this manifests in us and our choices. Repetition compulsions - huge. Thank you for clarifying. 💃🧘‍♀️ #impactfulwomen #holdspaceforYoufirst

[@LisaBilyeu]

Natascha Troehler ANP-C love this comment!! So glad you got some clarity 💗💗

[@dronesandnature]

@@LisaBilyeu love it!

[@christygaul712]

Please give me name of book. I really need this.

[@florencevandermeer9447]

The host is so loud and the guest is almost whispering and talking so fast. It's hard to decipher.

[@natalieodisho7264]

Excellent video, but sharing it pops up "This Doctor Explains Why You Feel Empty". Sent to a coworker and laughed nervously.

[@KS-yz5mn]

30:42 is the most selfish thing I’ve heard. Parents sacrifice so much for their kids. Some migrate to other countries so their children can have better lives free from corruption and misery. Some give up their peace, some give up their careers. This sort of mentality that says-just because my parents did a lot for me doesn’t mean I have to do a lot for them-belongs in the animal kingdom-not in humans. If the kids are good and grateful human beings, they will know to appreciate their parents and help their parents out when in need. Usually love the different women of impact, but this one was very disappointing and discouraging. Saying this as a child of parents who are immigrants, who put up with abuse and gave up their comfort just so my siblings and I could have a good life.

[@thenoisyworld5856]

What was her book's title?

[@dawnemile7499]

Nothing compares to education and experience. Otherwise we can be influenced by all kinds of unproven theories and propaganda.