this is why you need to let go and detach

hi everyone! welcome back to my channel :) this time we’re talking about detaching and letting go. I’m not gonna lie, I did get a bit hot tempered making this video since I do think detaching is one of my specialty lmfaoooo. you guys need to realize you deserve better and how you need to leave toxic environments. remember removing yourself from a awful environment for your wellbeing is always an option. protecting your peace and putting yourself first is never selfish.
i hope you guys enjoyed this video! I will see you guys soon with a thrifting vlog soon (with a mental breakdown lmaoooo those who follow my ig and tt knows what I’m talking about). anyways I’ll see you guys soon and pls take care! love u all
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[@Momeku]

I legit love her so much she makes me feel like I’m not alone

[@via.ilyouu]

i love u bestie

[@KathleenLouisseQAchas]

same

[@priyanshapriyadarshini8664]

Also, she makes being single so normal and comfortable. She's amazingggg! ❤

[@elpida_2]

Last night, I was talking to my ex. But in a super desperate way. So I remembered when wizardliz talked about asking for signs. I asked God for a sign if I should really let go of him. I'll take this as a yes. Thank you for reminding that :') I feel a lot better when I'm watching you. This channel is a part of my healing era (journey) UPDATE:GUYSSS I EMOTINALLY LEFT HIM, I'M OVER HIM AND I GOT INTO MED SCHOOL, LIVING MY BEST LIFE... DONT LOSE UR HOPE

[@leighs1nterlude]

its never an era but a journey !

[@elpida_2]

​@@leighs1nterlude I'm not a native speaker so I'd like to know the difference :) is it because era just ends and it's like full of healing but journey has like its own ups and downs yeah?

[@usha112]

​@@elpida_2an era is a specific time period whereas a journey can be quite long so healing is just not a short period of time when u completely heal and are just free from all issues but in a journey you are constantly learning about yourself and improving. I explained it from what I understand of these two terms.hope this helps :))

[@elpida_2]

@@usha112 yeah I got it now thanks. Journey sounds more natural

[@olazajaczkowska2446]

same here sis(but with my friend), thank u God for taking care of Us

[@ryujinluv5617]

I had to let go of my two longest friends because it felt like it was being a one-sided relationship. I was in a trio friend group and I was fully aware that the two of my friends are more closer to each other. At first, it didn't bother me because we always did everything together but lately they have been getting more and more closer as I became distant. For instance, every time we meet together and chat, there is something that I didn't know but they knew prior. Then they would ignore me for awhile and I just sit there listening to them awkwardly. Due to this situation happening multiple times, I know I deserve better. Ultimately, I am feeling much better but it hurts me that they don't seem to care of my existence to mend our friendship:/

[@carolaideee]

oh i feel you. trios can be so tricky. i felt like the third wheel too. spoke up about it twice from what i recall and was dismissed both times, the second time i called it quits. it was not easy and i didn't stop missing them for a good while, but i don't regret my decision at all.

[@justalostlocal]

Same. I know they're suffering from social anxiety, and I try often to visit them when I'm free. Yet promises of visiting me are broken time and time again despite them appearing enthusiastic at first. They're living a lot closer to eachother they hang out a lot while I'm in college and sometimes can't help but feel jealous. Another friend of mine travels to neighbouring countries to meet their friends (not rich either) and ask me why mine don't visit me. Haha I'm m already dealing with low self worth issue due to childhood bullying and feeling like I'm too cold/suppressed to even love ppl, platonic or otherwise... Paradoxically, I can't help but mask my vulnerability with cheerful indifference, especially to newer friends. 9 years of knowing them... I don't want to give up the connection. It's a lot sometimes. Like you said, hoping someone will reach out to you instead of letting you drift off / be let down repeatedly.

[@starwish922]

@@justalostlocal A lil bit of unsolicited advice but you're still in college. There's still a lot of time in life and to make new friends. To a certain extent remember that every second of time you waste on friends that aren't reciprocating is a second of time you could have spent on another friend that would have. Essentially a second of time that goes to the next 9 years of knowing someone. I'm not saying cut them off or anything and definitely communicate your frustrations but keep it in mind!

[@im_just_vidu]

For me letting go wasn't the hard part. It's the accepting the fact that they'll never come after me even if they can. And realising I was the only one holding onto that bond all these time. 😅

[@EchelonPandora]

Fuck. Same thing

[@radaheyyyy]

My wonderful 11 mins for therapy. Thank you so much for what you’re doing

[@via.ilyouu]

ilysm

[@aprilflowers43]

hey, this channel is fucking underrated. you’re one of the wisest youtubers i know and definitely more people need to see this video. i’m sending this to my friends right away, and thank you so much for existing in the same universe and same time as me. i’m so thankful for you.

[@via.ilyouu]

my god i love u 😭🩷🤍

[@aprilflowers43]

@@via.ilyouu AHH I LOVE U TOO

[@Fallperson22]

This is so true!

[@krittikagoswami1895]

Even for friendships, letting go is sometimes best if that person is draining you. you cannot really hold and tie a person to yourself, it eventually backfires and you lose respect for the person as well as yourself. you start feeling like a selfish person but the reality is you just wanted a friend but just like romantic partners not everyone can be your person, friend. I have been struggling this emotion so much these days. it was just the right video for me. thank you.

[@celineqoujaq2175]

This is very true, recently I relized I only put them in my eyes I pushed everyone aways cause I thought I don't need u cause I don't see us getting close or ur just not a good person, but now they wanted to pursue other friend/relationships I felt like I had no body cause I was being pushed away I told them how much I put them up and ig this made a dynamic where I was seen as a minion, now that we fought or they showed their immature side and it actually effected us badly I relized how I became lonely and that even relationships with people u ain't close to matter alot u should have a support thing and have a life outside of a person I relized I was also very insecure about myself that why I didn't pursue others and my friend also made me insecure too in a way i also felt afraid and anxious for what i can loose now j don't have anybody I felt like a zombie, and cause of this fear u accepted disrespect from the way they talked to me to when they cursed me I felt as If they didn't care as if I was just some toy and that hurt badly I went to someone I trust my parent(lol) I told her everything she reassured me it's gonna be okay I cried alot the weight on my heart became lighter I reluzed I need to work on alot so i talked with my other friends and got positive responses but I still have that deprecating voice so I still need to work on a lot Sorry for the long comment/vent had to let it out to help myself

[@bfa1367]

I think it's the time to do that, but fr it's hard idk how to do that without struggling. Cause fr I'm struggling with many stuff in ma life recently

[@anaisdebeaumont9571]

I always feel so bad for putting my needs before someone else's but then I remember they won't hate me for it because when I think about it the people I like the best hanging out with are people who put their needs first and always ask if they need some type of accommodation. They teach me to do the same for myself.

[@siliaben34]

First thing to do : like the video before even watching it, Girl I'm in my loneliness era ( I have no friends ) seeing your videos make me feel like I have a friend that has the same vibes as me. keep going

[@oceanrosethatsailsacrossth3466]

Girl I thought I was the only one going through this era Her videos make me feel like I actually have a friend that cares about my well being and wants the best ❤

[@queasy_fig]

@@oceanrosethatsailsacrossth3466 @siliaben34 absolutely in my lonely era right now, but im committed to setting some boundaries and putting myself out there during the coming school year. i believe in you and good luck out there babes!!! 🫶

[@ErickG4789]

I'm 46 years old and dealing with some of this currently. Yes you are definitely right. You cannot worry about other people. you do have to deal with yourself first. Thank you for your therapy!

[@via.ilyouu]

sending u so much love 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

[@krystalnguyen3285]

Oh my gosh. "I need to suffer so others can validate my feelings." I never knew what it was until now. Nail on the Head. Thank you, like other comments I'll take this as a sign to take better care of myself so I can leave. I hope everyone here is doing well and achieves their dreams. We're in this together. You aren't alone.

[@lazyb3e]

For the past two months, it’s been so hard to let go of my ex and move forward… In my healing journey, I journal all of my thoughts and feelings, and remind myself that I deserve to be happy and that I shouldn’t blame myself for something that was out of my control. There are a lot of changes in my life right now and it’s scary and overwhelming but I know I can get through this ✨

[@via.ilyouu]

yes yes you can love! sending u so much love

[@bushrashihab7439]

I’m with you , dealing with the same thing

[@mochikitten745]

same!!!! we got this

[@owuwygb3637]

This is so relatable to me, specifically for a couple of friendships at university. I've been putting their needs before mine and i'm completely socially burned out :(. People use me as their therapist and leave me when people theyre more interested in enter the room. because they're in my class im going to try to just focus on my work next year rather than social validation, put my needs before their want of my time and work on putting a stop to people crossing my boundaries. Easier said than done but im not letting myself feel like this going into my 20's 🥲

[@kcd8093]

As someone who realized their friends are shit, i find it hard to detach and let go because if i totally cut them off then that would make me a loner with literally no friends... It's my birthday today and I invited some of them for the sake of not being seen as a loner. Only 2 came and spending my time with them drained my energy to the point where im just laying in bed right now trying not to cry. I just feel disconnected from everyone and I find it so hard to find people who i genuinely vibe and enjoy hanging out with. Most of the time I'm fine with being alone, it's just "special" times like these where loneliness hits me like a truck and i realize that i don't have friends who wholeheartedly cherishes me enough to make time and celebrate my birthday with me. :( On the bright side though, thank you for uploading this video. It brought me comfort and ranting right now made me feel better on some level. Ily and your community

[@honeyteababy]

It’s better to be alone than to be with people that make you feel like shit. Being alone doesn’t drain you nearly as much as hanging with the wrong people. The right people will come along!!

[@mrynnrms]

I fully resonate with this to the core. With everything that's been going on with my life, I can fully say that I am more at peace being alone than being constantly manipulated or disrespected by someone I thought loved me. Every time my ex and I got into an argument because of something that he did, he would buy me nice gifts or take me on dates a few days after, this is not my love language btw, but yes it is a fact that wearing that rose-tinted glasses can make you forget the things they did temporarily. But once your head hits your pillow at night, every self-doubt and self-pity hits you on 100 different levels, and no matter how much you try and heal yourself within the relationship or try to communicate your boundaries with them, it will never go well because yes most people cannot change and do not want to. A hard life but a peaceful one once you disconnect with these kinds of people.

[@Doggysquad37]

You really spoke to me just now. Going through this exact scenario and it’s breaking my heart but I know I’ll get through it. I hope you get everything and more in life 🤍

[@LisavonTBI]

Today marks the end of a 17+ yrs friendship for me. A "friendship", that was extremely toxic and one-sided for way too many years. I feel broken and sad and even though I know it was the right decision, I still grief and I would say today's literally the worst day of my life so far. I lived with past memories of a better time with them for so long and couldn't let go earlier and I know that I broke free of it now, blocked them and deleted everything with them, but it hurts so much. I should have detached myself years ago, but couldn't, I always tried to make things right, when the other person was not interested in changing and instead hurt me over and over again, as you said. I stumbled upon your videos only today and watched quite a few of them. This video is exactly what I needed. I made the right move, better late than never. As hard as letting go is, it has to be done to free ourselves. Thank you, Via.

[@trbrm6319]

"Accepting who they are doesn't mean approving" - I felt that.... WOW powerful!!!.

[@galyaanipirapakaran9044]

Me and my boyfriend broke up last night. And thank god i landed on your video today. I really needed it and thank you for reminding me that some people aren't the same people you dream of and it is not worth it waiting for them and hurting yourself.

[@mochikitten745]

me too, just a week ago. i hope life is giving you all the beauty you deserve

[@galyaanipirapakaran9044]

@@mochikitten745 hey beautiful i totally forgot i wrote this. i’m really sorry ur going through it now. i have to see him during school and it’s hard. some times i feel like i want to talk to him but it’s not worth it. it’s been three months but im doing so much better as days go by. distract yourself and surround yourself with people who cares about you. i’m sure you will be healed very soon as the healing takes time. don’t rush into things you aren’t ready for. mostly, love yourself.

[@mochikitten745]

@@galyaanipirapakaran9044 thanks

[@SimpleSerene]

This came at a perfect time! I had a dream of an ex-friend and have been feeling sad about the whole situation. But this video reminded me why I made the decision to cut it off in the first place and that we can't control the way people behave towards but we can control the way we handle and react towards. Thank you these healing diaries, they really help uplift me knowing that I am not alone in this healing journey.

[@sarah.nwaeze]

Yay a new episode with via !!!❤

[@raniaroy3119]

Via- You need to respect urself Me- yes maam🙇‍♀️

[@randomcommenter395]

For me the “look at your younger self” thing doesn’t work because I’ve been treated the same way my whole life. I’ve been conditioned to believe it’s normal and breaking out of that world seems impossible.

[@MUSAFIRBEFIQR]

yes, like shit happened to her ( younger self ) and now to me, what is the difference.....

[@celineqoujaq2175]

Well maybe if lookin at ur younger self doesn't work maybe try the person who u wanna be like personally I don't want my future self to be suffering from a suffocated relationship I want them to be happy and healthy even if it hurts to get to there, learn to reassure yourself and cry to let out feelings

[@celineqoujaq2175]

​@MUSAFIRBEFIQR hear me out even if shit happened to your younger self it doesn't mean it should happen to u, I bet ur younger self wanted things to get better so maybe try other than looking at what happened to your youger self try to imagine how u wanna be in the future like personally I don't wanna be stuck to people who suffocate m even if it hurts like ngl I feel so afraid for many reasons and insecure bit still I wannq Be better although I want to be reassured and told its gonna be okay and cry maybe ill have some hope. Homie i wanna tell u iys gonna be okay and u'll figure it out with time so maybe have some hope and for the least just try and it's gonna be okay

[@digitalangel847]

Maybe it would help to visualize your younger self as a separate person, would you justify and allow these things to happen if you knew any other child on the street was going through that? Its really hard to think positively about any aspect of yourself and break subconscious cognitive patterns in yourself when you have lived in the same mental conditions for so long, but no matter what people shouldn't be allowed to hurt you. I have no idea what you're going through but person to person I hope it gets better and that you heal and find yourself in a happy place you might have never imagined for yourself.

[@NehaJaiju]

Yeah, it's hard for me as a teen too let go of my verbally abusive father for the same 2 years. But, I feel better, you know I recently discovered your channel, through the days of my worst mental breakdown of not having comfort from people. But, listening to your videos - is like having an older sister motivating me and giving words of comfort that I need. Thanks so much for the journal entries you post, I really enjoy and keep making more, Via....

[@channiie338]

Honeyyyyyyyyy you have no idea how much I needed to hear this (Just kinda ended a toxic ass friendship) I had some hasitatation cuz we've been friends for 8 years and i think this video is the push I needed so thank u so much 💓 ( for reaaaaalll thank u 😭) English is not my first language soooo sorry for the mistakes

[@makennaschnipke5590]

I also got out of a toxic friendship awhile ago too and this video made me realize how much I still crave to be friends with them even though they are so manipulative. Even though I have to start over now, I feel like it is for the better. It may have been 7 years down the drain, but I was definitely better off leaving them rather than sticking around. (I also love your profile picture of Felix🫶 325)

[@channiie338]

@@makennaschnipke5590 giiirl thank u for replying it made me feel like I'm not totally alone💓 and I'm veryyyyyy sure you're better off without them and they definitely didn't deserve u I really hope you're well now and will meet others who will treat u like u deserve and how u want to be treated Kisses kisses 💗 (Sushushsua thank u so much for the compliment

[@riiiaaa]

I'm so happy u found the courage to leave this toxic friendship, u are better off without them and u will realise it sooner or later. also your english is just fine

[@shraddhakamini243]

Girl i felt like you've made this personally for me to watch ,love you 😭😭😭 i hope i can stand up for myself someday ,i really need to 💪🏻

[@prettygrlgen]

i love you so much bro, I'm currently ghosting a few people who probably haven't even realized, but that's okay to me because it really made me realize where i stood in their eyes! thank you so much girl, I love you and your videos ♡♡♡ God Bless you

[@michellenguyen4344]

I swear you’re helping me become more self aware on how to take care of myself and be better in the process of healing, thank you.

[@aisha2684]

This video is so helpful. I lost a friend by setting boundaries, and I continued to reminisce the good moments I had of them, to the point where I felt wrong for dropping them. Your video made me realize that I only missed the good parts and failed to remember the amounts of suffering I went through with them. Thank for this journal and entry, Via.

[@null518]

Your journal entries are so insightful. You're wiser than I ever was in my 20s. 32 and still learning.

[@hannoxide]

i really needed this, i’ve been feeling left out by some of my friends lately and this has honestly opened my eyes so much that their dismissive behavior has hurt me. thank you for making these types of videos, they’re really the wake up call some people needed to hear.

[@kithkathy]

Gosh this chanel help me to realize how much I need to prioritize myself and stop worrying about someone.

[@Gabbysama12]

This is so relatable for introvert but most people misunderstood it, glad you make a video about this

[@imunicornsam]

i was in a similar situation when i was younger, where i had these friends that just did not respect me, but i was too afraid to let go of them out of the fear of being alone. looking back now, i feel so sorry for my younger self, she really did not deserve that at all. i wish i was able to show her this video, if not to give her the courage to let go of them, then to just let her realise that she deserves so much more than those kinds of people. thank you so much for this video, via, you've validated and given comfort to us yet again

[@huien-vq2ly]

hi via, thank you so much for these videos, it is really comforting to know im not alone in this healing journey, i can especially relate to your 2022 and 2023 reflections,,, i ended 2023 realising i wasted so much time and am now determined to chase after what i want in 2024!! i can just relate to you in so many of your videos,, including this one :") recently let go and detached myself from this friend of mine (first time ever in my entire life initiating such detachment) i do find myself pondering back whether i made the wrong decision and i found alot of comfort and answers to some of my questions in this video :") just wanted to really thank you, will always be rooting for you and cheers to more growth to both of us !

[@naviinea]

I've honestly never felt this much connection in a 11 minute video, its so comforting but facts about letting go. I've let go of my childhood friends who I have been with for so long who have made me feel left out and hurt and letting go was the right decision. Now I'm on the journey of self love and accepting me for who I am rather than changing based on their standards. Thank you for making this video of detaching and letting go. If you see this, I love your videos and your explanations of these type of situations one faces. Love you Via Li🫶!

[@dwekkie]

after I got hurt I was setting a big wall and never let anyone go through it because I was afraid to get hurt again and I am starting to let this wall down slowly for someone and I hope I will not regret it. but in the end everything is just an experience and as you said, I am here by myself,people come and go. thankyou for awesome videos. they're really helpful

[@kayleen8037]

I’ve just recently gone through this with an old friend and everything you said is spot on! At some point you just get sick of it and you stand up for yourself by letting go and moving forward but this time without that person. The feeling of a weight lifted off.

[@madelinelizabeth8]

Yes! I was having anxiety all the time with my ex and my body was literally rejecting the relationship. It took a long time to figure out and I'm on my healing journey and significantly less anxious than before. Some people are just not good for you! ❤

[@nyelynel]

loving all these journal entries, it makes me feel less alone while struggling with mental health, thank you for sharing your stories, really

[@Rifa0101]

Its crazy how I didn't watch this video immediately when it came out but decided to check it out today, when I especially needed it. These days, I've had a problem of letting go of people and I remembered this video randomly and it hit the spot. Thanks Via 🌷

[@sxowye]

yeah i agree. sometimes we need to be selfish to protect ourselves no matter what. you don't have to give people other chances when they broke you once cause they probably will do it again. tolerance is a weakness.

[@swkzth]

this made me do the big step of blocking him of any social media left and,, stop trying to expect or wait for him to comeback, thank you for being a open minder, i will always remember you and these videos

[@june2600]

your videos are so well spoken and thought provoking, I especially love these journal entry episodes

[@yashilagupta5839]

bro I love these journal entry episodes😭😭 please never stop making them 🥹🤎

[@melisatabaku9836]

These episodes are fixing my life...🌷

[@erizen1655]

"I need to suffer in order to justify how much I'm hurt." These words are definitely true. Recently, it happened that my new friends made me feel outcasted. I experienced anxiety, I overthink too much, and I started to question my worth. My mental and emotional state was so bad, and I started to lose my appetite. And because of that, I was able to hurt them too. The pain they've caused me made me worse than who they are. I suffered so much that I've realized I was just ignoring the fact that they hurt me so much. I also realized that a lot of my old friends also did that to me, but I was just ignoring it for the sake of "friendship." When I held myself accountable for what I did, they ignored the fact that they hurt me too. That what they did to me and what I felt are all invalid. People around us think I'm the bad guy, but it was so sad that they don't know my feelings and the reason why I did something bad. After that, I was able to reflect a lot of things, and now I learned to detach myself. I'm still on my healing process, but I feel much better. It was hard because I could still see them together due to school, but I know I can. A lot of people ignore me, but i don't care anymore. As long as I understand myself, I learned so much, and I'm trying to be better, I know I will be alright. There's nothing wrong with being alone. Now, it might be a little rough, but I'm happy with my own company. Thank you also for your videos! I encountered your videos when I'm just starting to heal my self and it helped me so so much. Nothings feels good than knowing someone understands you.

[@ritad98]

thank you so much for this journal entry series 🥺 i found your channel right when i was needing the most and starting my healing journey, and it's been such a huge help for me i'm currently trying to detach from some friendships that i got too attached to in a unhealthy way, where i'm constantly overthinking, afraid of losing them, and giving them too much power over myself and my happiness. i don't pretend to end all of them, since rn it's mostly something i need to work on myself (based on my insecurities). with some i'll just need to detach until it's not unhealthy and triggering for me anymore, but with others tbh i don't know if i'll stay. i'll figure it out. it's so hard, but that's how we know that we're on the right path, finally respecting ourselves and putting our needs first, with nothing but good things awaiting for us - at the least that's how i like to think. once again, i'm so grateful for finding your channel! lots of love for you, and for everyone in the comments 💖

[@starrailsunday]

I love these type of videos! It reminds me of smth I read online once where sometimes people fall for the potential of someone rather than the reality. The same can be said for friendships. It’s important to detach the person from the idealized version in our heads and see them for who they really are, then act accordingly

[@sunflowersyndrome]

What great timing to stumble on this video while considering breaking up again with an ex that I recently reunited with. Sometimes you believe that being with someone-even if that person is hurting you-is better than being alone because you’re so lonely it hurts. So you allow yourself to continue to be with that person and tolerate emotional abuse just so you’re not alone. That’s a very toxic reality to save yourself out of. Life is a bitch when you have deep cuts in your heart to deal with on a daily basis. You try to heal but the time and opportunity to heal doesn’t come so easily.

[@Luna_moonchild7]

TBH I used to think I am the only one who've suffered from sever pain, but from the day I found this channel, I feel like I am not the only one 🌷thank you so much for making this place feel like home -ily

[@xoxougly]

This came at a good time. I do need to realize that I can be a whole by myself, and my well being comes first. Letting go and detaching will always be hard in the beginning, but we just need to keep moving forward. I hope the rest of you are doing alright!

[@moonriversou]

Oh my god, I cannot believe your timing. I was just going through a hard time being harsh on myself for giving away so much of myself to other people just to be liked. I was wondering why there aren't more videos talking about this. Was feeling a bit too lonely, thank you 🌷✨️🫶🪷🌀

[@pedrofxrraz]

When I'm watching her videos I always think that we're very old good friends who are giving advices for each other. You help me a lot to organize my thoughts and it comforts me so much. Thank you, Via🥰

[@janewilder4344]

via, you have no idea how much your videos help me :( atp, you feels like my big sis who loves to gives advice and thats exactly what i need!🥺❤️

[@uknowmt_3072]

Thank you for being you and making others feel they are not alone in this journey. Love you loads :)🌷

[@staaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

This video came to me at such a perfect time that I almost feel like it's a sort of sign from the universe. I've been struggling with letting go of a friend that's so draining and constantly makes me feel like shit and ig I should finally leave them

[@chubblye]

Girl you are my free therapist. All the stuff that i dont know how to say or express you do that perfectly ☺️

[@n1jisunger]

thank you for being so relatable and for having the courage to talk about such things. your vids help me a lot

[@AlhikA]

i’ve been scrolling through youtube videos tryna find something , i watching wiz liz even went as far as doing AI therapy i needed something yet i saw you on my youtube fyp and i can’t help but say how intriguing and relatable to a high extant you are, thank you may you be filled with happiness

[@carolaideee]

i needed this video a few years ago. but watching this now makes me feel reassured.

[@clairvoyance2456]

I can't thank you enough for this! I really needed to ask myself those questions 😭😭i cried when u said u deserve to be treated with respect. I was scared of being left alone , which is why i still try to put them first, even when they don't give a sht abt me. But now, things have gone too far, why should I care when they dont. I know it won't be easy but I must do it for my own good ❤thank you so much sis😭😭❤️ i wanna hug u 🫂

[@beaa_srs]

This came at the right moment omg !! Via thank you so much, your videos help me a lot and made me realize that I need to change my life and stop finding comfort in my own sadness and unhealthy friendships. You’re amazing 🫂

[@DeathOfLadybugs]

"You don't need to suffer to justify your feelings" . I hope your video helps people see reality and that they can change things for the better for themselves. I always growing up said I wouldn't let myself be abused or in a bad relationship, but they can just slowly become that until they feel inescapable. but you can escape. You don't need to stay. You do not need to stay.

[@xcarriemv]

I really loved watching this! I'm turning 30 this weekend and learned this lesson just a few weeks ago, it's really sad that so many people are going through this kind of situation, but I'm so glad that there are people like you and like a lot of people in the comments section of your videos bringing visibility to what a healthy relationship is. Also, your videos on being lonely really helped me, I was feeling like shit after ending a few friendships for being treated badly over the years. I was already journaling and healing, but the thought of being by myself most of the time sometimes would pop in my head and bother me. After watching your videos I took myself on a few dates and it made me so happy and feeling accomplished! I'm still struggling to leave the house most of the time, but I'm sure it'll get better 😊 Thank you for this kind of content ❤ And good luck everyone on your healing journeys! ❤

[@mirjamwithaj]

i remember having a drama with someone and cleary stating that if we wanted this to work, they should talk to me and communicate, because i can't be the only one making the effort and they were on board but processed to not talk to me at all for 1+ month? so i blocked them and i taught myself that my "negative" emotions are here to protect me and i need to listen to them too, i've never been so happy

[@tsunatsuna3494]

Thank you so much for addressing this matter, it's really important. It felt really good to listen to your words. Wish you well «3

[@altellerintett]

SO NEEDED. I have a couple of people in my life that I've out grown (family members, people ive knownn 10+ years) and I feel so bad about it thinking I can either take them with me or help them change so we can vibe again... Shit's been awful. Now I'm coming to terms with the fact that some people are temporary - even those who dont feel like it. And how I am temporary too. Today was especially hard cus I was feeling so selfish and like a drama queen lol. This video was so needed. Thank you via, stay gorg!!

[@user9180]

OMG VIA AND JASMINE POSTED THE SAME DAY!😭 This made my day even better

[@emmi999]

omg i just came from jasmine’s vid too i was thinking the same thing 😭💗

[@midoriyamada3209]

can you give me her channel name :3

[@zunairafarooqi8318]

Can you tell me channel name of Jasmine?

[@againstthecurrentfan1186]

Jasmine Le? Her channel is her name, jasmine le

[@zunairafarooqi8318]

@@againstthecurrentfan1186 thank you so much 😊

[@therelatabilist]

Unfortunately I've had to let go of a friend who i thought was a best friend which hurt a whole lot over the past few weeks but watching your videos, vlogs, everything and especially this one, has helped me see how to live life so much more differently, given me so much comfort, and given me advice that has really changed my perspective on everything and life. thank you for the vids u make, lysm and all the love for u

[@via.ilyouu]

you guys make me so so happy. ilysm

[@NicolasCevallos]

Hey Via, I'm just so thankful for your energy and your videos. They made me realize a lot of stuff about myself.

[@Mikhaelaaa]

Hi Via! Pls keep doing these journal entries, they’re very helpful. ❤ I appreciate you.

[@reywith2y]

I'm trying to let go a friend that I love so much. I love the idea of him, I adore the idea of the love that he can possible give to me. But deeply I know that he will never ever do such a thing, which is a fact that hurting me every single night. While watching this video I wished the video to never end, u showed the reality which I chose to forget a long time ago. Thank you for reminding me to respect myself more than the respect I have for my friend.

[@Cherry_stan]

I know you hear this a lot from your comments but you have helped me sooo much and you make me feel comfortable and that all of us viewers are in our little group against the world. This is exactly how I've been feeling lately and this is exactly what i needed. So I just want to thank your for that. And btw I love the aesthetic of your videos!💗

[@kajol5376]

hey miss plz never stop posting i feel so good that i am not alone there are many people like me lov u

[@Teaandlilacs89]

This vlog hit me! In a good way. You have a lot of wise words Via. Your vlogs are helping many! Thankful for these. 💖✨✨

[@noemisarahhuber1442]

So many important points that I had to learn the hard way and feel like I can now finally start to accept at the age of 22

[@raymondc9513]

8:32-9:05 The saddest part about the last part of this section "that's the person they're showcasing you" is that sometimes that's not even the real them. I am not trying to give any false hope here, what you see is definitely what you get, but in cases where this person is showing you the bad side of them, you can't give in to those thoughts of "they can change to be better" just like the cases where this person is showing you the good side of them, you can't give in to those thoughts of "they're so amazing, there's no way they'll hurt me" either. Acknowledge the good and bad that someone is showing you, the more you inflate the idea of what someone COULD be, the more difficult it'll be to get over them when you need to get over them for your own mental well-being, because you've already created an expectation that they definitely CAN be different but there is never a way to be completely sure of that and it'll hurt more because of that expectation. Speaking from experience. When I hear from people who have had these relationships, where their person was great and wonderful at first, but they change to show who they really are later, it's not consistent, it hurts them, and they've made life changing decisions based on that first "showcase" that person was showing. It's no wonder why people can't trust others anymore. Even if someone genuinely wants to show up and prove that not everyone is putting on a mask, there's never a guarantee that people are, who they say they are. Especially, when we have generations of people constantly taught things like "fake it, till you make it", "as long as you get them to like you, that's all that matters", "just say some bullsh*t, that worked for me", "people aren't interested in the real you", "practice makes perfect", etc. One of the hardest things is to be vulnerable. Even more so, when you decide to give that vulnerability to someone else to hold. I know people have given up and have lost hope. I did once, but I decided a long time ago that I wouldn't give up again. If finding someone is something you still want, be proactive in looking and be proactive in protecting your sanity. I would explain more, but that should be for another time.

[@Blue.clouds]

Inner child: smart idea must implement this A friend who can’t communicate doesn’t care about you

[@maddoxnous4047]

I have been dealing with depression since I was a child. So I can't always be the person that I want to be, I am the friend can't make time for the people that cancels plans, never asks them to hang out with me. I did tell my friends that I know since I was like 2(I'm 20 now) that I'm struggling and I really don't want to feel like I'm taking up their energy. I think I'm going to make a list of people that I want to speak (or at least call/text) with every week or something like that. This video was very confronting but I also realized how much I love my friends.

[@chasingfireworks]

i needed this so so much. made me feel less alone while i'm still in the process of letting go. thank you via!! honestly, you're a wonderful person and i'm certain that this helped so many people including me

[@roseifyy]

You always post these videos right when I need them...A few weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend after dating for a year and a half. I had to do it because the relationship was incredibly toxic and I knew it was bad for me, but I still feel bad because I know how much he genuinely loves me, and that he wanted to change. But regardless, that never happened and probably won't ever happen. Anyway, thank you so much for making these videos, they help me a lot with my healing journey ❤

[@bavna308]

bro I love you like literally I mean it, your channel helps me so much in times when I don't know what I need. I keep coming coming back to your channel when I need some self rejuvenation when everything else is draining. lots of love

[@deanzuberiafrica6526]

thanks for this. I've been romanticizing a past relationship in my head, and have also been hanging out with people who remind of a past version of myself I do not like. this was a good reminder for me.

[@allielee]

via - i am always smiling when i watch ur vids. thank you for captioning ur videos in such creative, fun ways for ppl whose attention span is comparable to a fly

[@zofx8913]

thank you so much for what you are doing 🥹 best 11 mins therapy of my life. ilysm 🤍

[@reiwelz]

via ilysm thank you for this video and all your vids it rlly helps ! :) your channel rlly helps me feel less alone; and that it’s not wrong to enjoy my own company over people who make me feel less than. wish you the best 🫶🫶

[@mansiyy]

im so happy when you post, literally my comfort youtuber ❤️

[@Sonicxis4ever]

I don’t know why but when she said “but that bad moments existed”… something about the phrase and the word “existed” gives me chills. Maybe because something so beautiful like existing correlating to something negative makes me think how profound ñife is

[@ddaphhnee]

gahh this got me a little emotional 😅 lately, I’ve just been watching a lot of youtube videos about embracing solitude and being alone, and I think this all ties in with learning how to detach from others, to gain better insight of our own selves. although, it may seem a bit selfish, it’s really important to learn throughout life as we experience periods of isolation and feelings of loneliness. In a way, these are ways that we can come to understand ourselves better, leading up to self-reliance and what it means to truly know and respect ourselves without the validation of others. *im kinda just now talking more than I usually would on a KZbin comment section 💀, but this video really resonated with me. I’m getting to the point where I think I’m properly learning how to be there more for myself than for others. It’s really hard because as you’ve brought up, it could feel like a selfish thing, but it’s necessary to be able to gain peace within oneself. Idk, maybe others have gone through experiences that brought upon these realizations that a lot of time, we’re not truly living for ourselves, but for others. It’s important that we recognize that at some point, if we do too much for others, then there’s not much left for us. It’s kinda like we try feeding those around us with so much love, compassion, empathy, understanding, attention, and kindness, and all we have left to give ourselves is crumbs, and it’s not fair. Then again, nothing is 😅lol. I just hope those of us experiencing this can later on come to find peace within ourselves :)) thanks again for being genuine and for sharing your experiences so openly. I really admire you ❤ wishing you the best

[@elicafane1965]

words cannot describe how much i want to be friends with her😭 i love your channel!

[@melisatabaku9836]

Thank you honestly thank you what would i do without you thank you again for coming into my life❤

[@angel127_]

i needed this so bad. ive never gone through the pain cutting someone off in my life but i did it.. thanks via

[@anamikakumari2263]

Via you know what your videos are like a power bank and they always show up when I need them the most Thanks a lot for posting and love you sooo much ❤❤

[@natalia__c]

i needed this today so badly. your videos inspire and help me so much through my healing journey , i cannot explain how thankful i am. you are an incredibly kind and mature human via, we love you 💌

[@via.ilyouu]

i love uuuuuu

[@mariyama14]

i love your journal entry videos!!they really help me understand what im feeling❤❤ thank you so much for making them

[@mewung]

I literally love your channel!! You don’t understand how much your videos have helped me , I just need courage to do the things I want but it’s hard , I wish I had the courage

[@kami8041]

this video came in time i am grateful for you via❤❤❤

[@PatTheGemini1]

Omggg WOWWWW this video hits home for real & it’s kinda sickening that I related to this whole video & I finally had to block my own mother when I moved out. Yessss blocking has been my #1 bestie and over explaining yourself gets tiring!!! I’m literally crying bc it’s like you took a look into my childhood and you explained me and my mother’s relationship. I didn’t know that she didn’t cared about me when I told her I was suicidal at the age of 16 and now I’m 20 and I still feel the same way and I tried to express that and tell her and she just don’t care. I’m starting to put myself first now with friendships families and relationships and call it selfish for finally putting myself first I don’t care(coming from a people pleaser) this video really helped me!

[@TIKI-hb7by]

You absolutely don’t know how much you helped me through this video . ❤

[@veron2512]

Best healing video for me, I am just like you I have a really painful feeling from a friendship where we ended up not being compatible, my God the pain, you don’t want to feel that girl