THIS IS WHY YOU'RE UGLY (AND IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT)

[@NellyNutmeg]

Men have pressure too, but it seems like when a guy is attractive, it's considered secondary or a bonus to his other qualities. But, for women it's unfortunately the main focus and everything else is secondary. It's dehumanizing

[@lolabshok7543]

Men get praised for looking like the average. Not for putting them down or anything but Thimothee Chalamet, Ryan Gosling or Jake Gylenhaal just look like some dudes and yet they are the most popular in the « handsome » category. I think also women are told to not be exigent or difficult.

[@syc6598]

​@@lolabshok7543 "Ryan Gosling just looks like some dudes" he looks like 0.01% of dudes. But i guess you're just talking about yourself and you have been told not to be exigent, probably because you effectively think Gosling is in the average, and half of all 40yo men look better than him. As a comparison, Emma Stone looks like 0.01% of women of the same age (32yo).

[@quackdaddy69bahaha20]

That is 100% true. I feel as if women are much more open and tolerant to dating a man she isn’t 100% attracted to. It’s not settling in my eyes, because to me it matters more about what’s inside. And once you learn more about someone and fall in love with them, they become more attractive. I remember seeing a study/social experiment of women and men basically being catfished and met up, the women at least stuck around for a while and humored the men. The men just threw them out of their cars and told them they don’t look like they do in their pictures. Which I understand, but you don’t have to be a rude asshole about it. Society pushes the standard of beauty before anything else and it’s just wrong. It’s a smart marketing move though

[@Hey-kf5er]

@@syc6598 that’s because men don’t get judged for looks by women as much as women get judged by men. Lets say an overweight guy posts a video of himself being confident on tiktok, most girls will be pretty supportive of him, if anything it will be other guys critiquing him in the comments. Where as if an overweight woman would do the same thing, men will be quick to “humble” her in some way or another

[@pretzelmiss]

The criticism is one sided. Guys who rely on their sense of humor or intelligence to be sexy. Some of whom shower regularly, who don’t shave their face mentioning how they’re just not attracted to women who don’t remove their body hair. People believe it’s natural. It’s not. It’s something women are supposed to do and hide we do it. The no makeup makeup. It’s BS! Am glad people can at least talk and think about it. ‘Cuz if you stop doing it there is pushback.

[@ZophieReviews]

I'm 38, 5'8", 125lbs and I still get negative comments about my current weight, all from men. My waist is just too big for some men so I get told I need to stop drinking beer or they ask if I'm pregnant. These comments come from men that look like sloppy joes. I dropped down to 115lbs at one point and then I got the crack head comments, many from women. Can't win, some people are just so unhappy with themselves they find imperfection in everything.

[@cybill28]

I do not understand the audacity of them to even consider they have the right to openly criticize your body. I mean what gives them the right to do so. It is your body and not their business. Try to stay away from those people and know that it is not their right to make any negative comments. Your body is your home and they were not invited.

[@saafiiiraa]

Really? I'm 5'8" and around 145lbs - oh, and 46 - and wear a size small or medium... I've never EVER heard anyone call me fat, because I'm not and never have been - but more importantly, the only thing I'd lose if people somehow think I'm interested in their opinion about me would be said people. ;)

[@janettehutton8634]

I’m 56 I’m 5’4” and far too heavy to even mention. I’m beautiful and always being told so. Have you ever thought that the people who make comment are either jealous or know that they don’t stand a chance with you?

[@anaschulz8084]

You are beautiful and you are enough! It is obnoxious the way people judge EVERYTHING! At 62 I am finally comfortable in my own skin and my own body. Don’t wait til you are my age. Say to yourself every day you are enough!

[@mmc1086]

Hey ladies, I’m 37, 5’7 and 8 stone and have been called too thin and fat by men in the space of 24 hours. We can’t win. I do wish I personally liked my own body but I don’t xox

[@honeymoonlover1]

I think in 2050 the beauty standard will be defined as : the robot

[@stephanielange]

I reckon that will be much sooner lol! Maybe 2030 😖

[@mmc1086]

Haha

[@Panda-kc5tc]

Lmao 😂😂🤣🤣

[@rachelcookson3492]

🤣🤣🤣

[@pandasanding7036]

@@Panda-kc5tc another panda 🐼😊

[@andrea1324]

Elementary teacher here -- A few weeks ago, a nine year old girl told me she was ugly. She's a normal girl, no physical disabilities -- but she has TikTok & Instagram and bases her own appearance on what she sees on the apps. I wish there was a child-friendly version of this video to show her, explaining the extremes/unrealisticness of beauty standards. Would you be willing to do this? This is a topic you are clearly passionate about. After all, young girls are getting horrible messages of beauty in social media!

[@katherinebaker8088]

Disabilities don't necessarily affect beauty, but kids are cruel and any difference is marked as ugly and wrong. I do feel bad for her as a normal girl though, when I was in elementary school I started worrying about my appearance as well. Kids don't need to look a certain way, and absolutely shouldn't worry about being attractive.

[@trishak8890]

@@katherinebaker8088 I think that was mentioned since the child looked very normal and a lot of kids who look “different” ‘should be the ones feeling that way.’ It’s wrong for anyone to judge how someone looks but everyone does it

[@atheneangelis2973]

why would nine year olds have smartphones already omg.

[@lindseyowen5968]

It’s awful isn’t it? No matter how beautiful they actually are, TikTok and other social media tells them otherwise 😢

[@tammystiletto]

@@trishak8890right..I think what was meant but not articulated, this child has no apparent things that society would mention when being “different” and most likely appears as normally adorable a kid usually is, yet doesn’t see her own beauty. I don’t feel the comment was meant to take beauty away from anyone. What is happening is even the “conventionally pretty” people are experiencing the same shame in the mirror that unconventionally pretty people have in the past. Overall this is creating a sort of self shame/hate pandemic if you will. It’s time to start fighting the average beauty standards. I was taught to find one thing about myself that I loved and focus on that rather than focus on the features that made me feel insecure, and to focus even more on the things that I was good at and not how I didn’t “look” like others. Kids are not getting that from social media today.

[@kunya16]

Something I think should be said: dolls and stuff might influence how girls see themselves. But I think far more often it's their mothers/female role models that influence how they see themselves and judge themselves. A mother that is always down on herself about her body will raise daughters who reflect that attitude. Heaven forbid that mother turn her body shame onto her daughter. But her language about herself will plant seeds in her daufhters. From toddlerhood on.

[@maja__5047]

Not always, my mom has always been incredibly positive while I have the worst body image out of all the people I know

[@maja__5047]

@SoldierOn Thank you for your kind words, you might be right

[@alexsmith4190]

My beautiful angel where are you chatting from

[@vechtjas6131]

I think it's nurture AND nature.

[@gilliangonzalez1305]

I played with barbies and stuff when I was a kid and it never influenced how I felt about my body, so I definitely agree. I've never understood that. What made me hate my body was that every girl around me (my sister and friends) were all string-beans when growing, and I had baby fat and squish. Looking back at photos I wasn't big at all but I thought I was.

[@moldyseulgi7167]

The fact that so many people look so good without altering their body but STILL DO IT actually hurts me. Their choice though.

[@stephanielange]

I think they probably feel like they don’t look good enough as they are too 😕

[@born_confused]

I know I just cry inside seeing absolutely stunning girls destroying their faces because of insecurity. It's really so sad 😞

[@niram6707]

Taking care of one's physical appearance in a healthy and objective way is perfectly natural. I find it disheartening, however, that society is obsessed with physical appearance in an unhealthy way and has placed it on a pedestal above all other things. Physical appearance is the first thing that we notice about a person but it only represents a small fraction of who that person is. The true beauty (or lack thereof) of a person is hidden, it can't be immediately seen. It is only uncovered and revealed by spending time with a person. It is a person's soul, a person's essence, their humanity - their values and morals, humour, intellect, wisdom, kindness, compassion, humility, grace, interests, strengths, weaknesses, resilience, life experiences and much more. It is that which is not immediately seen and hidden in which the greatest portion of a person's beauty resides.

[@syc6598]

When we tell a woman she looks very pretty without makeup, she gets upset. When we tell a woman she looks very pretty with makeup, she gets upset.

[@kikie5249]

@@syc6598 err maybe it's just me but I don't know any women who get offended when they're told they're really pretty without makeup? *unless* it's followed by the usual "you don't need it/shouldn't wear it" which kind of feels like a backhanded compliment

[@totallywireddd]

Also... instagram filters make a lot of people feel like they are “ugly” without them. It’s super shocking.

[@sharonler-2782]

+1

[@anieee96]

Yes and Snapchat ones too, that slim your face and make your eyes brighter, lips fuller and skin flawless. Awful

[@tiffprendergast]

Yup

[@tiffprendergast]

@@anieee96 yup

[@aqua10133]

@@anieee96 this is so true.

[@sophiemay6954]

‘ Confidence does not equal the absence of insecurity , it’s the knowing you have real worth despite it ‘

[@stephanielange]

oh i like that!!

[@katemiller5990]

I think @@stephanielange is going to include that in her book 😉

[@sophiemay6954]

@@stephanielange

[@emilywillis9912]

Wow thats such a good quote x

[@bigdumby7019]

I love this

[@akh761]

'These beauty standards were literally created so that you can never reach them'... wow what an eye opener! Never thought of it this way but it's very liberating to realise this.

[@NadiaBokody]

LOVE YOU STEPH LANGE!!! You are making such a positive impact on young women with these videos and we LOVE to see it!!

[@sukhmanisingh1511]

Nadia 😍😍 love your videos as well

[@annanieznanow1788]

Very true 😊 🌺

[@jojoindigo]

Trust me - in 20 years humans will look back and laugh at what the beauty standard was. I’m confident natural beauty will come back “in style”. It already is. I live in California and I notice people (mostly men) find it refreshing when you have a more natural look. Just my observation I may be wrong. We may all look like cats in 20 years.

[@2Ten1Ryu]

How high are my expectatiopns? I just wish not every girl out there would feel the need to make themselves look like Kim Kardashian. I feel like we're losing out on some diversity here. There are so many skin and hair types out there but you rarely see them any more. The biggest influencers all look the same to me...

[@doe126]

But I want to be a cat

[@user-qp6lj6gu7s]

I was thinking the exact same thing, I can count the men and boys that I have met that say they like the full face makeup look on less than one hand while the ones complaining or being sad about how much makeup women and girls have and love a more or fully natural look are too many to even remember. When I wear makeup women compliment my skill and men say nothing, when I don't or at least leave the skin bare men compliment but women don't say anything, so in my experience the "powerful men made this trend" is totally off the mark, it's more like a rare few men saw an opportunity of a possible market and took it, I think that a woman would have done the same and they often do work with these trends. I've always had many male friends and been considered "one of the guys" so I've heard a lot of locker room talk and let me tell you, if men got to decide these trends we'd all be super focused on our waist to hip ratio and trying to achieve a good healthy body shape regardless of numbers like weight, measurements or clothing sizes while mostly ignoring makeup. Soft skin and soft hair would also be a priority, trendy style or colour not so much.

[@Twiti47]

But the same men simp over e girls to the point of self esteem issues lmao....

[@solarose7820]

I don’t think we’d laugh as so many would have been hurt by these beauty standards and it’s not a laughing matter however I get your point. I hope that you’re right but I’m not too optimistic because men have dictated the way women should look, behave and literally exist since the dawn of time so I don’t know. If there isn’t a massive change in our society’s relationship with power and gender equality I don’t think this will change on a bigger scale. I’m all natural and I claim it, I know people like me, they look at me a lot, so I guess they enjoy the natural look but I live in Europe and even tho we have cosmetic surgery and others, I feel like everything in the US in exaggerated and bigger so it’s not as “bad” here. Where I live, people prefer being natural, eat healthy and exercise from time to time.

[@bleuee]

Some plastic surgeons follow the rules of the golden ratio with all their clients. What they end up with: people who look exactly alike and have the same proportions. Sick

[@Deannanune]

Interesting! Makes sense though. 🤔

[@mushroomcat4089]

the golden ratio doesn't even make any sense since it doesn't work with anyone who isn't a specific type of white! it's not universal at all and doesn't take into account race differences, cultural differences, etc.. i t's so unethical for these surgeons to prey on insecure people and want to change a persons entire face instead of working with their natural features -_- ugh sorry for going on a vent but these Hollywood Instagram surgeons annoy the hell out of me! and most of the time they don't even make their client look good, just feed into their negative self image.

[@FrostyFreya]

Some of them are so shady too! Who lets a woman get an unhealthy breast the size of a watermelon or puts so much filler in lips that people can’t talk. It should be forbidden as this is doing harm so the exact opposite of what the doctors should be doing! But they don’t care as long as they get paid. Sickening.

[@breakthestigma]

I think the same!!! All look same to some extent

[@igasudrom8642]

I think that if we were all to look the same, and everyone fit the golden ratio, then none of us would be beautiful anymore. I think it's silly and more than a little messed up to base attractiveness off of some dumb golden standard because usually, it's things that deviate from that standard that make a person unique (and beautiful.) Reminds me of this advertisement for a makeup line that showed before and after pictures of their models, one of the models had these dark spots by the corners of her eyes that they then completely and proudly covered up with foundation like "see? look how flawless she looks now" when the spots by her eyes were actually cute and made her look unique. No need to cover them up.

[@megan7506]

The fact that for the longest time I thought my acne, pores, and texture weren’t normal or “bad”. It IS normal. Social media can be so damaging and I worry for our younger generation of girls.

[@stephanielange]

I made a video on skin texture as I totally agree with you! I used to feel so down about my skin (still do a lot of the time)

[@born_confused]

I agree i worry about young girls too. They just don't value themselves enough 😪 and it's so sad to see how younger men have changed. They are so critical of women and cast them aside so easily to move onto the next girl that catches their eye. I have done my best to drum into my 24 yr old daughter that she is worth only the best and not to ever settle for less.

[@MSheep-jh4qc]

@@born_confused It is so important, that we as Women support each other, stand up for each other, empower our daughters etc. because sometimes a womans "biggest enemy" can be other women... About the judging men I would like to add on...(I am born 1966 and I really dont fit in most Beauty-Standards)... when I was a young girl/woman I've heard some real rude/cruel comments from men I nowadays would consider as severe Scumbags, it is unbelieveable🤔, the best and encouraging wishes to and for all of us

[@born_confused]

@@MSheep-jh4qc i agree with you 💯 👏

[@ElinePP]

It's so true , like when I was 13 years old , I wanted to get a plastic Surgery for my nose and lip fillers 'cause I wasn't as pretty as Kylie Jenner 🙄 I still feel ugly but I'm trying to be gentle with myself

[@elmejormes]

Oh and you didnt mentioned the "heroin chick" trend that was going on during the 90s and early 2000, it was very unhealthy and popular in editorial content, it promoted anorexia and other ed, horrible honestly. Loved this videos so much thank you

[@EC-yw5hg]

And it’s coming back now with the waif aesthetic! Can we just have healthy as the beauty trend for once?

[@kaitlyn_stark]

Quarantine made me feel more confident about myself. I would wear makeup to school every day and I thought I was ugly without it. Because I haven't been wearing makeup during quarantine, I feel more confident in my natural face :)

[@alixvs]

Same, I'm loving it!

[@joeakaprolifik7735]

@@alixvs me too lol 😂 I’m usually high maintenance,nails hair ex make up etc but since lock down I’ve not worn a bra lol I’ve divorced my clothes and married my sweat pants lol straighteners ??what are they lol and I love it 😻💖🇬🇧

[@alixvs]

@@joeakaprolifik7735 that's awesome, it's so liberating! And forming the mindset that "even if someone thinks I look terrible so what, idk them and I don't like them, my opinion of my appearance should be the only thing I should be worrying about", gives so much confidence, to just not care

[@aqua10133]

@@alixvs it feels so much more free

[@Peanut_taco_muffin]

And I’m sure you look even more beautiful without it! 😊And honestly, same- I wore a full face to work every day for years and quarantine has made me much more comfortable without it and barely wear any makeup to work now. It’s very liberating

[@luluhuni6647]

As a black woman we (and other women of color )are never on any of these beauty standard scales 👏🏽 just ignore the noise and know you are gorgeous the way you are

[@jacquelinelugo5518]

So true, I am Afro-Latina. And when I tell you that I was told by other white/light skinned Latinas. That I wasn't light enough to even been considered Latina, as a teen. That honestly broke my heart. We are all beautiful but they idea that white skin or the most perfect skin. Is the only desirable one, is bull s**t. That old thinking has got to go

[@luluhuni6647]

@@jacquelinelugo5518 they only told you that because they were intimidated by your beauty love !!❤️ only a jealous heart can put another human being down ... the Fact is Beauty can not by defined by singular features and skin color, beauty lies across all boards !!! YOU ARE A GORGEOUS AFRO-LATINA woman !!!!

[@luluhuni6647]

@@chidiogoikeh9516 Sis that’s why we got to ignore the noise because it’s honestly all straight foolery ✨ they can emulate but they will never BE !!! We know what we bring to the table we must own that and wear that with pride no matter what

[@alishajami7046]

I commented too and then saw this, weirdly, this video made me feel a bit shit. We will never be anywhere near any of these, we couldn't get a fox eye lift and then automatically look like the beauty standard.

[@tootalu8478]

it's modern day eugenics bcs in reality there's no standard

[@stephanielange]

Let me know if you want me to make a video on beauty standards for your BODY. I wanted to put them both in this video but it would have been way too long! Love ya! xx

[@moldyseulgi7167]

Yesss

[@aniani7810]

Yes! 😄

[@emilyanderson6423]

I think that would be amazing! Love to hear about this and your opinion about this. More women need to hear these things!

[@timitwoshoes]

truuuu. people really need to understand that people can be “conventionally beautiful” facially but shamed and feel insecure about their bodies.

[@marissa6612]

Yes please!!

[@KP_City_Life]

“You know beauty standards are extreme when people are getting surgery to look like foxes” 🤣😂

[@DanielleNicoleMakeup]

🤣 sad but true!

[@Exorcist364xs]

I blame the furries haha jk

[@ryanlewandowsky2077]

Good point and while generally speaking I believe plastic surgery leads to outcomes that make a person less insecure I can’t imagine that following a surgery trend is not going to lead to regrets!!

[@quenchycactusjuice1921]

Girls: existing happily with a good body image Society: *no* ❤️

[@ThomasJDavis]

[Cosmetic companies]: *no* FTFY

[@paigec5069]

When i was younger, my dad never allowed me to own a Bratz doll. He told me they weren't realistic, he thought they were too inappropriate for me as a child and for that i'm grateful.

[@quiteperqui3529]

When I was 10 years old I used to think I'm ugly because I didn't have blue eyes like a Barbie hahahha when I think back at that I laugh at myself but it's sad because at that time it was a real struggle.

[@VV-ev4jj]

@@quiteperqui3529 Yeah, I remember being 10 and feeling inferior and ugly to my friend because she had blue eyes, was blonde and I had brown eyes and brown hair. Wasn't ugly, just wasn't white.

[@user-ej7gk1hl7z]

i love all eye colors they’re pretty ♡ though sometimes speaking to blue eyed people is awkward because they keep staring at me like 👁_👁

[@hotsexyangel]

Realistically, dolls aren’t the problem. They’re just dolls. It’s things like commercials and giant corporations that try to convince you that there’s something wrong with you, so they can sell you a product. That’s the main problem. Another problem is conditioning since you were young, like the way people talk to you about your face & body as a child. Most mothers introduce their daughters into eating disorders, calorie counting, and just general beauty standards. I had bratz dolls as a kid and they didn’t effect my self esteem. What effected my self esteem was my mother commenting on my weight gain and brothers calling me fat everyday as an 8 year old.

[@moniquehayes8452]

​@@hotsexyangelbratz dolls improved my confidence. They're diverse and have amazing fashion and makeup. Lol I think someone saying Bratz/Barbies set unrealistic beauty standards one could say the same about Steph Lange's very own photos 👀

[@daniellemelton6523]

I've deleted all my social media. Best thing I've done, particularly Instagram. These unrealistic standards are so damaging.

[@Tinkerbella89]

That's exactly why I've done the same

[@spagetd1526]

this is why i don’t have instagram

[@solarose7820]

Same ! But I never “clicked” with social media in the first place. Maybe it’s because of my autism. I don’t know :’/ I just always found it very strange and it makes me so uneasy/uncomfortable.

[@yeeboii8261]

I unfollowed any beauty bloggers, celebrities, etc and only follow art, animal and gaming accounts now which is so much better😂✨

[@Victoria_Loves_Jesus]

sameeeeee

[@mazzyyoung1981]

Having spent most of lockdown staring hopelessly into the mirror, & literally this evening spending £100 on makeup I can't wear - as a 39 year old woman who hasn't been able to have her wedding reception yet & doesn't know if she'll still fit into her wedding dress... thank you Steph, this was a really important message I needed to hear. ❤️

[@stephanielange]

Oh my love that’s tough 😩 this lockdown is hard. Please know that when you finally get your wedding reception it won’t matter what size you are; you’re going to look like an absolute angel. You are gorgeous. You are perfect.

[@joannecraighead]

Please stay positive you will be a very beautiful bride. All the best.

[@Linda-bh5yx]

Good excuse to go buy yourself another dress. There is always a silver lining.

[@neondream_]

I feel that lockdown has made it all worse! Normally, you wouldn't have as much time to look at yourself or you'd be out with your friends who hype you up. It has been cruel... but we need to remember... we are beaut ❤

[@mazzyyoung1981]

@@Linda-bh5yx lol I've been thinking about it 😁

[@ellybean7354]

I feel so bad for the women getting the fox eye surgery once big, round eyes inevitably become more fashionable.

[@galileashand]

Well hopefully cause mine are huge and buggy 😂💕

[@mythepoeia]

@@galileashand lol MINE TOO!! no worries, girl - let's play up our best features!! :D

[@nat6303]

@@galileashand I think big eyes are beautiful. I just get so lost in them. Rock those big beautiful eyes you have girl!

[@ThisUserPassedAway]

Aren’t big eyes considered beautiful?

[@chiaugenyi6652]

@@galileashand me too

[@andreamorrow77]

I appreciate how you brought out the fact that men might be behind the scenes dictating how women should look especially when you mention the Fox eyes and the measurements of the face and how measurements of the face determines a women's beauty. very disturbing to me. We as women really need to think long and hard about taking control of our mental health and beauty. Thus realizing that we all don't have to resemble a Barbie or a brat doll.

[@SAHMmiller]

I just wanted to put my personal experience out there. I'm 22. I grew up a Tom Boy. I didn't care about what I looked like until I was about 13. Because of that I didn't play with barbie's or anything like that, and I didn't wear makeup until I was well into my upper teens. I'm very happy I grew up how I did because I'm not insecure about how I look most of the time. I like my face and my body. I don't have instagram and don't use Facebook so I don't see all the models every other woman seems to compare themselves to. I also don't pay attention to celebrities because they're all pointless anyway. I just want to encourage anyone who feels badly about themselves to try to limit their exposure to these types of women. Stop following them and they will lose momentum and the power to control us!

[@maribart4237]

I played with Barbie and I’m grew up okay with my body. Can’t blame a damn doll 😂😂😂 for me it started when the kardashian era started

[@JenniferoftheSea]

@@maribart4237 That's her point. She said break free from social media and celebrity culture (ie. Kardashians). Your mental health and perspective will be the better for it.

[@Zahra-tz4ob]

@@maribart4237 she's not blaming a 'damn doll'. She literally said she grew up as a tomboy hence why she didn't play with barbies and wasn't interested in makeup.

[@pastelflower8512]

Women aren't to blame for the existence of beauty standards.

[@katykrokus7103]

For those who say why is she still wearing make up. I don’t think that’s the point. Make up is a form of self expression. I what she said at the end about what really makes people beautiful is what we should take away from this.

[@stephanielange]

Thank you! ❤️

[@mallorydurrick]

You are 100% correct. However, it was a bit distracting to watch her speak about the subject in full makeup as it felt and appeared contradictory. That said, she's gorgeous inside and out. The subject is real. The struggle is real.

[@naomigrace8261]

yep, i agree that makeup is for expression

[@sanamsitaram7940]

This !!

[@lmTheMink]

Yeah! Please make videos with greasy hair, cracked nails, dry lips and in a hangovered state! It is just like asking a beareded guy to shave before making a video! Hell, that's called style! (And she shows off enough of her natural looking, so we can recognize her in the grocery store, too! 😅)

[@elloohno1349]

“Ugly” ........ or just normal 🤔 I’m sick of this super made up look.

[@melindalow8526]

And stupid eyebrows

[@J-equineheart]

@@melindalow8526 Yes! The current eyebrow trend, everyone has them 🙄 can't wait for that to be over

[@melindalow8526]

@@J-equineheart they are awful look like they are drawn on with a sharpie😂 and who’s brows are naturally squared off 🤮

[@jungwonscactus9425]

@@melindalow8526 yes, shit on women who were pressured into changing their appearance, so that way they feel worse because nothing they do is good enough for people like your judgemental ass🥴

[@EllieDaisy]

Bringing others down won’t make you feel better - let others dress and do makeup how they want whilst embracing your own look! Let’s not turn on each other please.

[@acm997]

The fox eye trend makes me think that eventually we’ll end up like the people from the Capitol in the Hunger Games where they’re half animal in appearance

[@atinaburger9974]

That would actually be kinda cool though

[@nickiminaj0882]

asians like "oh okkkk'

[@unapologeticella4540]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@cherrykid161]

the fox eye trend was inspired after Asian eyes ...

[@DY2727]

@@cherrykid161 what I thought it was inspired by Bella Hadid Edit: change my mind

[@shade247]

I feel as if the “golden ratio” applies to the western beauty standard. Aka white features, only... and no hate, but beauty comes in all races...it just feels very unfair.

[@EC-yw5hg]

the golden ratio looks like a straight up mannequin

[@Mar-pe9kx]

I've noticed the most beautiful girls are usually the most insecure. I knew someone's gf who was absolutely stunning and they confessed to me they were thinking about getting cosmetic procedures like a boob job and a nose job. I was shocked as they were already so gorgeous and it made me realize to just love myself as I am bc hardly anyone in this society feels beautiful for these ridiculous standards.

[@DeanithForeverYoung]

Yes but there is a reason why. When a woman is beautiful she thinks that that's the only thing she has. Society treats women like that. A man is firstly his achievements even if he's handsome. A woman on the other hand is always first her appearance.

[@pritikalaw6839]

Hi Stephanie. I am a twelve year old girl .You have made me feel so much more confident now. After watching some of your videos , and I feel so confident and happy. My father and my sister are obsessed with this weight thing and it is always projected on to me. Before I use to see myself as fat and now I see myself as happy. So thank you ☺️

[@elizabethhargraves9692]

you are just a child and don't worry about the way you look you look after yourself okay

[@pritikalaw6839]

@@elizabethhargraves9692 awww , thank you so much Elizabeth . You take care of yourself too !

[@Lordessen]

I notice my flaws over everything else. I can't even look at myself as a whole because my eyes automatically focus on my flaws.

[@stephanielange]

You’re not alone! I feel like so many of us do that. It’s actually so sad as we shouldn’t feel this way about ourselves. Please remember that you don’t have flaws at all. What you have is your own individual beauty that has been passed down to your through generations and generations of your ancestors. You are PERFECT. ❤️

[@Lordessen]

@@stephanielange You keep doing what you're doing. The world needs more voices like yours. That was really sweet, thank you. You've made my day ❤️

[@mmc1086]

Hey I feel the same. I’m 37 now and so sad that I’ve hated my body since I left school and put a few inches on. So this whole time I haven’t felt like I’m in my real body. And i only weigh a small amount but my shape is horrendous. I am single and it gets sad when you don’t have an adult there who loves you giving you compliments.

[@candaceion9622]

Me too, but get told that I am beautiful all of the time...

[@brinaechanel4236]

Same

[@bgambie21]

Girl, you are stunningly beautiful! Thank you for making this video, I needed to hear this today. We are all held to such a ridiculous beauty standard, and are constantly seeing images that are highly doctored and altered. It's hard to know what is real and what isn't anymore.

[@wholeartedly_studio6723]

As a mum of a teen girl, thank you so much Stephanie. The world needs more videos like this, to help to explain the 'smoke and mirrors' of manufactured media beauty 'standards', to help our young people and their mental health. Once upon a time the saying was 'I'll believe it when I see it', but that stopped being the case a long time ago thanks to photo and video editing, and even more so now thanks to deep fake technology. Please keep doing what you're doing - help our young people see and understand the truth.

[@solaris025]

How about just plain aging. A woman is a corpse after 30 these days. As consumers we choose the standards. If we didn’t react to the marketing and purchase the product it would change. Modelling etc is going back to more realistic models because women are demanding it. Your point about insta models all being the same is your answer. We are complicit in setting a certain standard and expectation of beauty as well it’s not all corporate. Corporate responds to what is popular and what sells. Start the change by following more natural influencers, women as individuals have absolute power over popularity, use it.

[@silostudios5094]

💕

[@chibiyaten15]

start your journey by de-centering men and men’s approval of your appearance and the rest will follow. ignore those who don’t see the invisible cage they’ve trapped themselves in.

[@andreiaj427]

@@chibiyaten15 Not only men's approval but everybody else except yourself, and health above appearance always :)

[@singingjustice12181]

Thank you for pointing out that we need to take accountability for the system we perpetuate. While it’s not entirely our faults, we can’t exactly say we don’t perpetuate these unrealistic beauty standards either through our consumption of this BS.

[@solaris025]

@@singingjustice12181 exactly, if we actively support and normalise “normal” it will become the benchmark. It doesn’t mean we can’t appreciate those rare women that resemble Elven goddesses! What we need is some bloody perspective so kids aren’t growing up thinking the goddess is who they need to be, back in olden times (lol) the likes of Linda Evangelista, Naomi Campbell, Claudia Schiffer and Trina Parkes were worshipped but people DID NOT TRY TO BE THEM AT HOME. I don’t know where common sense went but if you aren’t born that way you can’t be that way. Not all the surgery, fillers or gym work is going to make you anything else but a parody. If you are using filters to the degree you are unrecognisable it’s still not you and you will feel worse.

[@NatashaLeeDivine]

I think this is possibly the best video you’ve ever done. Thank you 🧡

[@lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198]

Ikr people need to know that women are human too

[@alexsmith4190]

My beautiful angel where are you chatting from

[@jolienicole]

I uploaded a TikTok today and was told by over 30 people that I wasn’t good enough and not attractive enough. This society is toxic.

[@stephanielange]

You’re kidding 🥵 those people are projecting their own insecurities onto you. You are perfect as you are x

[@jolienicole]

@@stephanielange Thank you so much. I often let hate get to me but I will try to keep a positive mindset in the future and remember to love myself :) x

[@Kath-Erina]

This is just ridiculous, you are so beautiful! Even from your tiny Profil picture I can see that! Tiktok is mainly full of teenagers and mid twenty people not knowing their worth yet and project their insecurity onto you! Don't let that get to you. Just delete Tiktok.

[@jolienicole]

@@Kath-Erina Thank you so much ❤️

[@wot4me2]

Just consider the audience... : (

[@permata9613]

Your point about men being the main creator of make up lines and Barbie dolls etc. reminded me that the only people who tell me to wear make up are men 😳 I also don’t have anything against men like you also said. For example my exboyfriend and and my mum‘s boyfriend they keep asking me why I never wear any make up and it’s so annoying. They tell me “oh you’re beautiful, but why don’t you put on some make up? I love women who wear make up” and my mum’s boyfriend also complains about his daughter not wearing any make up 😨 I mean what is wrong with wanting to just leave the face natural if we feel most comfortable with it? 😓

[@lollollipop8743]

I've never learned or concentrated this much in 13 mins

[@stephanielange]

lol!! i love that!

[@TheCrystallineLeoness]

I'm pregnant at the moment, and defintely have witnessed my body changing drastically through the months. I see cellulite on my bum, legs and arms where it never was before. I see stretch marks and acne. Hair loss and even MORE hair growth in unruly places! Hands and feet swollen. Weight gain. The list goes on. If I were to torment myself every day on how ugly I am in comparisson to the modern day western beauty standards, I would down right feel like an ogre. But I'm not going to allow that to happen. I have a beautiful baby girl growing inside me, and I can promise myself that she will be taught that she is a beautiful young lady because of the skin that she is in is purely natural and unique to her.

[@dollykatt]

Thats so beautiful, I wish you all the luck with your pregnancy and baby!💖💖

[@DanielleNicoleMakeup]

I am disgusted (as a mother myself, which congratulations btw!) at comments people make about women not looking the same during and after pregnancy. No shit, we literally had to grow a human body inside of us and go through hormone changes, periods, pain etc. If any man can't respect what we have to physically go through that is out of our control and they do not, bye! Lol wishing you a healthy baby 🥰 I'm sure you will be even more beautiful with a fresh motherly glow. You got this girl!

[@rebeccagoldi6565]

Please dont. Pregrancy is a lot differend also few months afterwards. Body bacomes the same then. Now it grows a human. Your feeling are low also because of hormonal reasons, this will pass too. Also stop comparing you that you gonna produce a new woman to the world with people that the only thing that cames out of them are shit and noise. Hugs mom♡

[@dopkasa.1171]

Thank you for sharing that! Wishing you a healthy, and joyful pregnancy.

[@wickednickie9489]

I'm a guy but.. I totally relate to this. If you're a guy you must be athletic, tall, have that jawline, muscles,.. It's just sad that it's happening even today.

[@justicethedoggo3648]

Exactly lol , being above 5'10 surpasses 75 percent of the world's population , than wealthy , educated , good looking which includes all the stuffs she mentioned lol .

[@noodleuwu7006]

The beauty standard for men has ALWAYS been the same throughout history, but women's bodies go in and out of trend. There's where the difference is

[@leshurlementsdelacave9563]

@@noodleuwu7006 Not really, men's beauty standards were not always exactly the same, even if the muscular body were often here in European culture.

[@dynamic.catharsis8987]

@@noodleuwu7006 men were once more desired if they were fat. This was a display of wealth and success (kings). The beauty standards for men have not always been the same.

[@yifei8439]

@@noodleuwu7006 it’s not a competition

[@TheStyleshine]

I think what also a main part is that we as Women’s push us to look better than others. Like if you look on Instagram it is always a competition who has the bigger butt, bigger breast, most beautiful face. 🤦🏼‍♀️ We as women should stop these kinds of competitions. If you look at the men’s , they always support each other. For me Instagram was really toxic and I deleted it. Please think about it that the internet is not real and that you look beautiful the way you are! Individuality is Beauty! 💗

[@davina4596]

agreed. I although didnt uninstall but unfollowed almost all influencers models and all creating a fake beauty image making me feel not enough.

[@victoriawilliams8196]

Two words: internalised misogyny.

[@bnb0510]

Agree 💯. I’m really concerned for my 9 year old daughter. I honestly hate social media. It’s destroying our society...

[@chibiyaten15]

uhh yes as women we push each other but these standards were imposed by us by men for centuries, not us. at the end of the day we perform for men’s sexual approval. how many of these magazine and makeup companies and media is owned by men? literally over 90%. they are the ones setting the standards and we in this society as socialized to become shells of who we are as long as we are ‘beautiful’ on the outside. start your journey by de-centering men and their approval in your life, and you will begin to feel more liberated from these standards much sooner. it’s a shame for women who continue to maim themselves and their perceptions of themselves for temporary approval from men, but the best thing you can do for yourself is ignore them and accept yourself as you are.

[@jazzg.6771]

You are right but actually i also dont see men supporting each other that well also tbh. Maybe they are supporting each other well in some parts but then if there is a gay men for example, the support is over^^

[@Isabel-vj9tk]

These kind of video’s make me feel so much better about myself. Thankyou for talking about this. Fuck the beauty standards WE ARE BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY WE ARE!!!

[@arriek.1375]

“love your flaws!” but there is no flaws, we’re all perfect because of our unique genetic makeup

[@timitwoshoes]

we can only HOPE to live in a society that is not only less superficial but also less judgemental...

[@born_confused]

👏👏

[@mishynaofficial]

The whole concept of beauty is just silly. "When people see some things as beautiful, other things become ugly." It's from Tao Te Ching, the wisest book ever. Do you see? The judgement is only in someone's head. And sadly, but a society will ALWAYS be judgemental. We, humans, are designed that way, because if we don't judge, we'll die. Survival of the fittest. We can't change it, we just need to accept a judgemental society and perceive the whole situation with humor. Because it doesn't really matter if the society considers our bodies are ugly or not good enough or not perfect. It's about happiness. And happiness is not about society or looks, it's about You.

[@manasprabhu8915]

we can create ONE. by learning something from this video. :)

[@booksboundnoveljourneys1122]

I don’t even pay attention to beauty standards. I make myself beautiful in MY eyes, and that’s good enough.

[@prachikorade1170]

Perfect f****** perfect bless you you just need validation of you only not of this fucking people out their

[@annapisano1700]

It speaks volume on how fucked up the beauty standard are nowadays when Bella Hadid is considered as the most beautiful woman in the world. I mean before or after surgeries and filler?? As the saying goes "you're not ugly, you're broke"

[@tiffprendergast]

Haha

[@DeanithForeverYoung]

Her nose is botched. Her bridge is literally none existent and she looks 15 years older. Legit out of high fashion she looks plastic af

[@ximplym369]

We can't get rid of aging we all gonna go there. Yes, We are born different. Different in height, skin color, weight. We are imperfect, we have flaws and insecurities with our appearance but please don't let society dictates the standard of beauty of what they want you to be 😊 Love yourself, Love the authentic you.

[@lucy_with_me]

This is honestly one of the best, most inspiring and honest videos on beauty standards I have ever seen. Thank you so much for everything you do xx

[@amysavage9849]

This video is so clever, literally the Beauty industry is exploiting our insecurities to profit on. Really makes you think

[@thenaolivier3307]

Take a look through the magazine racks. You'll notice that most of the magazine for women focus on their insecurities and the ones for men focus on their desires.

[@jacquelinelugo5518]

@@thenaolivier3307 wow honestly, now that you mentioned it. It's true, we are picked on with our insecurities and men are told we they desire. Honestly I had issues with my self esteem since I was 9. I felt because I was too skinny (I had been a size 0 or under my whole life) that I just wasn't has beautiful as someone who had a more curvy body type. Now I am a size 5 and so blessed to finally love me for myself and flaws

[@miamor628]

@@jacquelinelugo5518 I’m tall and skinny and I’m very insecure about my body. I wear size 00 or 000 in clothes and can still wear kids sizes. Nowadays it’s all about being thick and my body just can’t look like that no matter how much I eat. I just wish I grew up a decade ago where Victoria Secret and supermodel bodies were still a thing

[@jacquelinelugo5518]

@@miamor628 honestly you shouldn't feel insecure, you are very beautiful just the way you are. I'm gonna give you the advice I wish I gave myself when I was younger. Doesn't matter what size you are, if you aren't happy. You are never gonna love yourself for the beauty you are. We as women are pushed this idea that we have to look a certain way to get a man's attention. Please throw that old way of thinking out of the window. You should love yourself for who you are and the man that is lucky enough to have you. Will never ask you to change just to please him.

[@miamor628]

@@jacquelinelugo5518 aww thank u. That was so beautiful ❤️

[@chardikalavibes2997]

I started my self-acceptance journey 5 years ago by stopping the removal of my body hair after realising the history of it. From there I started to reduce makeup, dress comfortably and focusing on my happiness. Now I can dress up for an occasion without tying my self esteem to it. On social media I see people all looking the same, but my confidence is not even affected by it. Stay true to you, everything else wil be dull in comparison! Great video, love watching them!

[@stephanielange]

I love that! I hope to get there some day!

[@aminadiouf1113]

The beauty standard is also caucasian, even in other parts of the world ; withness is considered beauty. I am from Senegal and people bleach their skin and people with thiner noses are considered more beautiful.

[@stephanielange]

I was going to include that in this video but I took it out as I want to make a video dedicated to this subsection. Is there anything else you want me to look into before I make the video? X

[@aminadiouf1113]

@@stephanielange Great news ! I can't wait to watch that. I highly recommend the book "The Bluest Eye" by Toni Morrison, it's about a young black girl living right after The Great Depression, she's often made fun of because of the darkness of her skin to the point to she wishes she had blue eyes like the white kids.

[@briaunna4738]

@@stephanielange glad I looked at the comments first because this video is just the tip of the iceberg. Being a black woman and fitting into “beauty standards” is tiring. Can’t wait to watch the next video.

[@mushroomcat4089]

yeah, around the world it seems like the beauty standards are either Caucasian, white/light skin, or a mix of both. even if countries where the average person is far removed from that. :/

[@TheTribalized]

@@stephanielange The fact that a lot of black girls were made fun of their big lips or curly hair/ intricate braidstyles but now its considered trendy as long as its attached to a white/racially ambigious girl.

[@jacquelinearroyo4419]

You’re amazing Stephanie, we need to keep reminding ourselves that our worth doesn’t come from our appereance. Thank you for putting the work and using your platform to empower women. 💕💕💕

[@ArtemisNyx]

I went through a phase in middle school where I had this selfie app that was basically like all of the Insta and Snapchat filters but without the social media aspect, and I religiously took photos with that app only because I liked how it made me look. It’s completely altered the shape of my face and features and I started hating any photo of me that was taken on the normal camera because it didn’t “fix” my face like the selfie app did. Eventually I realized what was going on in my head and I phased myself out of it, and now I’m so much happier with my photos because I know it’s actually me and not a tweaked version. Thank you so much for your amazing, uplifting videos!

[@ryleeray8803]

I notice in a lot of plastic surgery posts (like nose jobs and liposuction) people will comment things like “do what makes you happy” or “whatever makes you feel confident” but when somebody is called out for photoshopping their face/body, they usually get a large negative reaction. Even though they probably do it for the same purpose, sort of weird.

[@danielagomes9623]

It is proved that women are “depressed “ because of social media. Nothing against plastic surgery, but please don’t do it if you are struggling with mental health...

[@oblive4623]

yes!

[@lmTheMink]

*Not only women!

[@8UBERMENSCH8]

How about you mind your own business, I got a boob job and have serious mental health issues. Wanna kill myself MUCH LESS now I've had that and lip fillers

[@singingjustice12181]

Please don’t say misleading things like “proved” - science can never prove anything in relation to abstract concepts like mental health. There are studies that demonstrate a positive correlation with depressive symptoms and exposure to social media, but many of those experiments have small samples and small effect size. Thank you for looking out for others well-being, however. :)

[@singingjustice12181]

@s It’s true. Empirical science never says the word prove, only that data supports a hypothesis. Look into it for yourself :)

[@mmc1086]

I wish we could float around and not look like anything so what you behaved like was all that mattered.

[@stephanielange]

Omg that would be amazing!

[@thenaolivier3307]

I've heard this called "the tyranny of the flesh". We're stuck in bodies that don't fit who we are on the inside. Like someone in her fifties on the outside but is still in her twenties on the inside. People only see a fifty year old woman and that's how they treat her.

[@petrauhrakova]

I love this concept so much!

[@jeanninegarconne6082]

I love how in her history of beauty standards and features of most beautiful women is not a single person of color lmao like no hate, it doesn’t even matter if it’s intentional or not. Its just an unintentional proof of how eurocentric and colonial beauty standards are lol

[@taylamarkova6100]

“We as women”, I’m so happy I found your channel 🥺🥰

[@alexsmith4190]

My beautiful angel where are you chatting from

[@camila_1800]

I have suffered from low self-esteem since I was 10 years old, always wanting to be like the "perfect" girls on television. It saddens me to say that not much has changed in 10 years, I keep trying to love myself, but depression and anxiety don't make it easy. Sometimes I find myself thinking that if my face was different, if I lost weight, or if I had different hair, my life would improve, maybe I could be happy. It's hard to let go of those bad thoughts, but your videos on topics like this help a lot, I really loved the final message about what beauty really is. Thank you, Stephanie💖

[@davina4596]

no girls ur absolutely perfect just how you are. Ur face, body, hair and all is YOU. We arent gon let these people dictate how we should look like anymore right?

[@beobabygirl9048]

oh.. my god. thank you for just being curious and playing around with the ideal features because when you finished it, I was SHOCKED. It literally looked like the beauty standard

[@amyhuston4261]

Very well said. I wish women were allowed to just be comfortable with our shap, and how we look. I'm old enough to know better, but these little girls growing up in this society have rough.

[@CardioPartyMashupFitness]

I am so on board with all of this! I commented on another video that you made that was similar to this because I truly believe in what you are saying. I see it all the time in the fitness world because having people as young as 11 years old ask me how they can get the perfect body just shows how much society has changed what the standard of beauty is. And when people can’t meet those standards, it causes them to feel so bad about their bodies even though they may be already healthy or may have had great success with getting healthy. So I am right there with you on how this can impact everyone in a negative way. I’m struggling with it myself because I feel like I can’t measure up to some of the bodies I see on fitness channels and Instagram even though I’m a healthy weight and am strong. Anyway, long story short..keep spreading this truth. You’re helping so many people out there ❤️❤️

[@nerdynoveltydesign6972]

I love these types of videos that you do! When I was 13 I got Bell’s Palsy, a partial facial paralysis, and couldn’t move the left side of my face for literally months. It healed but never completely (I’m in my mid 30’s now). It’s very hard to feel beautiful when today’s standard of beauty is literally based on symmetry because my face will never be symmetrical again. It took a long time for me to feel comfortable even smiling in photos :(

[@micaela5461]

you’re so down to earth i could cry. i love and appreciate you so much for this 🤍

[@YuliaUA27]

I like how celebreties do nose jobs and then show us how to contour these noses. Like, didn't you already pay for a "perfect natural" nose?)

[@ioanaprovo6513]

No one really picked up on me growing up because I always had the "I am not bothered by what you think of me" vibe + a resting bitch face most of the time. I went makeup free 2 years ago, and I had a colleague come up to me and tell me how brave she found it that I am not afraid to show my dark circles. And I just froze for a minute because I found nothing "brave" about it, just normal, natural.

[@jo4vt]

That sounds like it was really condescending and slightly passive aggressive for her to say that. You should tell her she’s super brave for pointing out another person’s dark circles. Wtf.

[@lee-annek6969]

This isn't new. These companies target young female audiences for a reason. When he reach 30+ you realise it is all BS. You find your own style. That is my observation anyway.

[@DanielleNicoleMakeup]

100%! It reminds me of when I was in my 20s I would wear way more makeup and focus so much on my clothes, and while I still take care of myself, I don't focus on unrealistic beauty standards. Because it's just that - unrealistic. If they want unrealistic, get a plastic doll lol jk

[@abbeyjanegreen703]

As a new member of the 30 club I agree, but you can have low self-esteem at any age and give me another 20 years and I'll see how I feel.

[@awangie]

Once you start having kids you really don't care at all. After my mommy had me she went through menopause a decade later, had saggy skin, sun spots, wrinkles, and put on some weight. All noemal factors in menopause. She doesn't care and is still beautiful to me. ^_^

[@racheldeschaine]

It’s so funny because the golden ration has NEVER been scientifically shown to actually correlate to attractiveness. There was a study done that showed people images that correlated and images that didn’t and it was all random, no one cared whether it did or didnt.

[@mar1nn998]

Trueeeee

[@lisachim4474]

I really love the empowering message at the end, thank you.

[@happysmileycat3725]

I used to hate when people would say this..." Everyone is beautiful in their own way " but it's so true!

[@sharonler-2782]

😂😂😂

[@science3816]

People don't treat eachother like that thought

[@karichaney5934]

We as women perpetuate this ongoing cycle and need to be the ones to break it.

[@wolpertinger.]

100% preach sis

[@ejbb0374]

I tell my daughter often that what makes someone beautiful is what is in their heart. Kind words and kind actions makes someone beautiful. I rather focus on her personality than her looks. But I feel like I am swimming up stream as she is bombarded daily by society’s flawed standards even at a young age. I really appreciate this video. I hope your message is heard loud and clear especially by the younger ones.

[@silviacostanzo7356]

Something like 5 years ago (I'm 30 now) I take the decision of not joining Instagram. Back than I didn't know I was skipping such huge bullet!

[@lo5338]

I officially adore you - thanks for bringing this to light! Never allow greedy people to shame you for being human. We're better than this people! So let's stop playing dumb and show them what we can really do - no apologies.

[@carolinee07]

You are such an inspiration. Even in my late 20's, I still struggle with all of this. It's ultimately destructive and just so unfortunate. We need more like you online to create a wave of female positivity. Stephanie, thank you SO much.

[@biancamay30]

I agree that beauty changes everyday!! When I was younger I had big eyebrows and skinny eye brows are in. Now that I have waxed so much and now the bushy is back and now my brows won’t grow!

[@lishthefish1423]

have you tried anything to help your brows grow? once I plucked too much of a section of my brow and my mom put eyelash growing serum on the area

[@biancamay30]

@@lishthefish1423 hhhmmm I haven’t even thought about that!! I should try that!!

[@TechnoScorpion2137]

SAME OMG!!!

[@TechnoScorpion2137]

And flat butts and big boobs were in fashion, and now when I'm an adult, full of insecurities and after yeara of trying to get rid of my huge butt and wanting to get fake boobs - my body is in fashion. lol

[@chewbacca1238]

What you have to say is so important! I used to cry when I saw myself in a mirror and on some days, I'm almost back to that. Your channel made me realize what unrealistic standards I try to live up to. I also love how you don't try to "force" your viewers to feel good about themselves constantly but normalize the bad days. If I ever have a daughter and KZbin still exists, she's going to have to watch your videos.

[@hadasm5033]

I have watched a lot of your videos but the arguments that you presented in this one were so organized, logic, and real that it's definitely my favorite so far!

[@TsholofeloMautla]

This video is gold. Thanks Stephanie. You are changing lives.

[@michellehalls7448]

Well said!! More women need to realise we are all beautiful!! Its a sad society these days that we as women put ourselves down constantly because of all the "beautiful" women on TV and in magazines that we think we can never measure up to. We need to teach our daughters from an early age that they too are beautiful no matter what anyone says..... even barbie!! Please keep these videos coming. Love them xxx

[@raelynfey]

I would have been a perfect 10 in the era of old artistic renaissance paintings. Pale, red hair, and a little chubby especially around the stomach and thighs

[@stephanielange]

Thats just the thing! Some of us may not be anywhere near the beauty standard of today, but we may have fit perfectly into the beauty standard of another time! its wild isnt it!

[@k3upikachu]

HAHAHA one of my best friends became super curvy in her late teens and has the most gorgeous soft hourglass shape. she told me that some of her partners have said the same thing to her - "you look like a renaissance ideal". there's a reason it was considered attractive - because it IS. get it girl.

[@ilona6338]

First of all, Bella's Hadid face isn't even natural. Her face is a massive plastic surgery and now she is a super model because of "how beautiful is she". Maybe she is, but it is a little bit cheating, isn't it? #celebrity

[@RibbonVintageGirl]

She changed her face to look like Carla Bruni lol

[@TatiSaysSo]

I think even the supermodels in the 90’s has surgery too but we didn’t have social media to compare. Now that more regular people are getting surgery, we are more able to spot it on celebrities. I know Giselle has a nose job and Adrianna Lima has breast implants. Naomi Campbell had a nose job too.

[@TheOracleofLilith]

I love your channel. I am so proud of this generation of young people who are reclaiming their power and not only owning their bodies. But, allowing those younger to know that their body is complete normal. We are not plastic dolls we are human beings. Much love!

[@kass_G59]

Girrrl you definitely have a spot in the “most beautiful eyes” ranking of features Megan Fox WHO?! 🤩💎

[@alexsmith4190]

My beautiful angel where are you chatting from

[@ju8560]

The truth is that nothing is enough, I mean, when is about beauty, its not exactly about being pretty but is majority about being THE PRETTIEST and then comparing yourself with other women/girls. Being pretty is not enough cause somehow we always want to be more or have more of something or either don't have or minimalize a certain kind of thing that we have in our bodys, its always a competition where none of us will actually win, and we got so obssesed wanting to change ourselves with features that are bassicaly imposible to have that we just forget about how beautiful we already are.

[@chibiyaten15]

the men who own these companies and make these standards make it precisely the way you describe because they want us to constantly be chasing superficial beauty and approval instead of pursuing our careers and hobbies. the more focus we put on beautification and men’s approval the less time we have to advance in our careers and nourish our non romantic relationships.

[@ju8560]

@@chibiyaten15 that's it I totally agree with you. I'm 16 and being a girl even knowing all of this but still feeling less and unconfortable with myself is really hard

[@chibiyaten15]

júlia arj just try to find like minded communities of women either in your life or online to uplift you to allow you to remember your intrinsic value as a person and a girl. you are wonderful the way you are and deserve the world because of it 💓

[@ju8560]

@@chibiyaten15 oh thanks for the help that was very gentle of you

[@teruldacz]

I would like to thank you sooo much for doing this job of educating ladies about this problem. If there wasn't you I wouldn't be the 18-year old that I am. Thanks to you I don't spend my time on Earth by thinking bad about myself and loving myself as I am instead. So thank you. I'm just sad that many people I know wouldn't be able to understand this video because of language barrier. We unfortunately don't have anyone with the ability to make a change like you are.

[@stephanielange]

Oh my love I’m so happy I could help in some way! You deserve to feel amazing about yourself because you ARE amazing ⚡️✨ x

[@teruldacz]

@@stephanielange Thank you ❤

[@crismantilla8188]

@@stephanielange You should put Spanish subtitles :( anyway, I see all your videos. You are so cute ❤️

[@Motherofkittycats]

I turned 30 a few months back, and since then I have actually started feeling like I look pretty good (except for my laugh lines, which I am learning to love)

[@thatwolfyouknow8598]

I know why it's a struggle to like any lines on the face, but laugh lines are beautiful in my opinion. If someone has them I assume they laugh a lot! It's attractive. Also, welcome to the thirties. There is much to be said for them. Enjoy.

[@viktoria_elizabeth]

Same! Turned 30 last fall. I feel the most beautiful I have ever felt. It's like I've finally accepted that this is me and I should accept it.

[@k3upikachu]

i'm about to turn 30 and i'm happier than i've ever been with myself. no desire to change a thing (i mean i'll prob get botox for my forehed at some point but i think laugh lines/crow's feet are attractive - they show that we've been smiling for a long time). when i was younger, my mom told me that 22 is a woman's peak, and i have to humbly disagree with her. every woman i know looks just as good, if not better, than she did at 20, and that's partially because we've found confidence.

[@dirtysiouxsnooks33]

I feel like it’s because we’re becoming confident in ourselves (34 years old here). And confidence is sexy as hell to most ppl. Do you boo

[@nat6303]

Proud of you, love.

[@soufbelk5702]

If I were still a teacher I will most definitely show your videos to my students. The amount of times I hear the girls complaining about the way they look and falling for the perfect bodies that they see on social media is insane. They don't believe when we tell them that they are pretty and don't need surgeries. Some of them are as young as 13 and can't wait to have lip fillers and implants. It scares me and I worry for them a lot.

[@valeriecynthia6409]

You made me tear up at the end but in a beautiful way! I've always resonated with your internal beauty and appreciate you so so much. Thanks for reminding us of true and pure inner glow

[@jessicareyes8391]

This is amazing steph! I have always hated my image. I've been told numerous times everything that is wrong with me by people that was in my life that did not love or care for me and for so long I believed them.... but then i opened my eyes and got away from those people. Now I have a family of my own and a man that gives me compliments and tells me how beautiful I am all the time.. but most importantly I'm starting to realize I'm me! I'm gorgeous in my own way and I dont have to be someone I'm not to be happy. It took almost 15 years to get to this point in my life but I'm now embracing myself and let me tell you it's amazing. To not give 1 single shit about what others say is so empowering. I wish I had watched something like this when I was younger. The first few videos you made about this stuff really did help me so I'm sure there will be some going woman to see this and help them realize their worth too!!! XOXO-Jessica I love your content !

[@stephanielange]

I’m so happy you feel so good about yourself now! Some days I feel good about myself and think I’m winning the battle of self confidence issues and then the next day I wake up feeling like I’m hideous 😖 I think it’s a journey for me but I’ve come a long way! I’m so glad you feel as wonderful as you are, because you deserve to! And so happy you have a lovely man who loves you and appreciates you ❤️🥰

[@rp.reikihealing]

I just love you. You are so real and uplifting. Thank you for shedding some light onto this issue because it needs to be talked about wayyyy more. I thought it was normal to hate your body/appearance most of my life until the last few years when I realized it’s basically all programming from the media and perpetuated through generations. My family is so appearance/weight focused and always has been, and my eyes have just been opened to programming that was just passed down from one generation to the next. That blows my mind.

[@curveappeal8180]

Your book hasn’t even been written yet and it’s already in my cart 🥲🥲🥲🥲 I love you and the message you’ve given for so many years about appreciating one’s natural self 🌈

[@angy9234]

omg, OFC!!! They created impossible beauty standards for us to never achieve them and actually spend a LOT trying to. When u said that, some of my self-esteem issues went away (the ones based on beauty standards, not the ones I actually feel self conscious about) because everything made SENSE

[@itsclarianaa]

I feel like I’ve known it all for a while but you have just brilliantly put all this thoughts together and came out with such an immaculate work. I have my mind blown up. I mean... Thank you.

[@mishynaofficial]

What i'm looking forward the most is Body Hair. Why isn't it normal? Why we aren't allowed to have armpit and pubic and leg hair anymore? What are we, 10 years old?

[@folksagabookart]

Who says you are not allowed? If you like body hair then by all means let it grow out 🙌🏻

[@daryadzhimula]

Having Body hair in general is absolutaly normal. At the same time, it is better to CUT your body hair regularly (in wet and sweaty areas) to prevent lice and reduce sweat odor (hair in wet areas increases the area for bacteria to grow, more bacteria=more sweat odor). But of course it doesn't mean you need to SHAVE body hair, especialy on legs

[@sisuguillam5109]

I've been told to shave the hair on my arms by a child... just think about that.

[@eternalmarie1289]

Yes I can't wait for the time where no one gives a cr$p about body hair. I actually done a little social experiment where I walked in public with leg hair. To my surprise there was only one group who pointed at me and laugh, I don't think the other people even noticed or cared! Next is to go out to a bigger place. 😅

[@rachellmcgrath1184]

@@daryadzhimula body hair = unhygienic is a myth. Armpit hair doesn’t create more body odour it actually does the opposite. If you don’t want to trim body hair great, if you do then great. I just think we should stop pretending that the hair that naturally grows out of your body is bad, especially on women. Women are not children.

[@elainerobinson4096]

I mean, hair products exploit insecurities to your face "for dry, unhealthy, thin, patch hair"!!

[@elainerobinson4096]

*patchy

[@folksagabookart]

How will you know if the product will help adding moisture to dry hair if they wouldn’t be allowed to write it on the package. It’s only information about the product and has nothing to do with exploiting insecurities or making you feel insecure.

[@elainerobinson4096]

I know, but there are better ways of doing that, like using words like "hydrating" rather than dry for example.

[@merlinsmama1600]

Absolutely love this series you are doing. The way I feel about my looks and my body changes on a daily basis, sometimes I feel good about myself, a lot of the time I feel crap. I'm fully aware that most of these women don't naturally look this way but sometimes I still need someone to remind me! Thank you!

[@darthkait]

Such a good video. Something I've been working on with my therapist. I told her I've always felt like I wasn't "done," like there's still so much work to do and I'm not an acceptable human woman yet

[@ilikecats392]

So glad someone with a public voice is saying all of this. Thanks for helping all the ladies (and men!) out there :)