The Science Of Why You're So Awkward

[@this.science]

Sorry if I sound like a 40 year old smoker who really needs to clear their throat. I was sick when recording🤠🤠

[@wilhelm834]

It's ok 👍

[@timeywimeybrony]

Hey, question On your one year anniversary, I'm gonna watch all of your videos and maybe live stream it Do I have your permission? Because it's kind of stealing your content :/

[@Mars____25]

It's okay

[@srnoice2134]

it's alright pookie bear

[@stinkyfrenchmen4094]

Don't be awkward

[@Goon_Lagoon69420]

Awkwardness being labeled as “social inconsistency” was prolly the coolest thing I heard in this video

[@ARCANE07]

im gonna (awkwardly) abuse the hell out of that term

[@allianyt]

@@themightycxzeriallord looking too deep

[@Rybz]

@@allianyt no it makes sense, did u even go half an inch down to understand what they said, we're social creatures, miscommunications between group members its stressing, you see it will be like having someone with a broken leg in your group when youre tryna hunt a tiger together

[@ryanthelion8319]

Ayo I was thinking the same thing. I hate that “soft” language bs but our boy is calling what it is 😂

[@Goon_Lagoon69420]

@@themightycxzeriallord hey man, I think I was talking about how it sounded so cool, not the lore of awkwardness and what happens if I die, cool paragraph anyways

[@SoRaKe254]

im not awkward, they are , imagine saying im awkward because i suggested we use the checkered floor to play chess , and use ourselves as chess pieces

[@avangardismm]

God loves you all

[@Goon_Lagoon69420]

Yuh, ppl b sum hypocrites sumtimes

[@Ssek16]

That sounds pretty fun ngl And when the enemy is captured you can throw a punch at their jaw so they fall over, just like in the real game. Incredible idea you have there 🗣🔥

[@ar23x]

Ye, their fault. This seems fun.

[@RavenheartArts]

That sounds amazing, i would join you

[@andrey.skripnik]

i genuinely wish every piece of knowledge i hear or see throughout my life were presented in this exact form

[@avangardismm]

God loves you all

[@Cosmo_P0litan]

Why? He just made everything too easy to understand and sacrificed the potential depth the information posed. Simplification, if you will, and perhaps that's your reason too.

[@Spacebreakaarrhh]

@@Cosmo_P0litanSimplification is great to get into sth or even get someone interested in sth. This content is great and there will always be someone else to explain it more in depth for those who got caught

[@Gaytotoso]

​@@Cosmo_P0litan History classes aren't fun, I will do everything but try to pay attention to it

[@BootyRealDreamMurMurs]

​@@Cosmo_P0litanabsorbing simple information is important to build a foundation before trying to comprehend and understand more in-depth knowledge.

[@BlackDragon-tf6rv]

The last advice, "Don't think what you're going to say. Just try to be interested" is the best advice you can ever get.

[@C00KIEspace]

I wonder what should I do if I am not interested in talking at all, but I need to talk? I can say that this advice is pretty good but it's also important to watch what are you saying or you will end up saying a weird thing

[@BlackDragon-tf6rv]

​@@C00KIEspace Don't worry too much about being weird, you're gonna sound weird anyways if you are not used to speak. If you need to talk but you're not interested in talking, maybe try to talk about something you enjoy with people that share something in common with you. It's not an obligation, just don't stress too much over it.

[@C00KIEspace]

@@BlackDragon-tf6rv Okay! Thank you :)

[@aquaponieee]

​@@BlackDragon-tf6rvbut what if i don't know anything about anything so i can never understand whatever topic anyone is taking about since I know nothing about it and i also don't share anything in common with anyone

[@BlackDragon-tf6rv]

@@aquaponieee Then you know nothing so you can learn a lot from the other person, people love to talk about what they like

[@Ariste_]

As an ex awkward person myself, i can confidently claim that exposure is the best way. Just a few months ago i moved to another city ,where i knew absolutely no one, for high school. Not first grade but third so everyone had their groups. I remember how anxious i was the first few weeks, but still, i did everything i can to talk to people about things - little, meaningless things cuz appearently thats how small talk works- felt like hell but then i began to realize its not as hard as i thought, people are not really that judgy, they share experiences with me and they genuinely don’t care about the things that make me insecure. Now im almost a social butterfly in just a few months! So try to get out of you comfort zone as soon as you can, it will not be easy at all but will worth it!

[@orsemcore]

that was such an awkward thing to say

[@umloiro3219]

thanks for this :) I just thought I would be like this forever I mean, even if I become a social butterfly it would always be kind of "forced" and not natural. I would rather stay in my comfort zone than forcing myself to be something that I am not.. Now that you said it gets easier and you because this butterfly, I will try my best hahaha :D

[@EV143]

​​​@@umloiro3219same, If I would be more social then I wouldn't be me and I would act all the time, because it is just not natural for me to be very social and it's very draining to be with someone who isn't from my close family for 24 hours straight or even more

[@kishorejuki5450]

​@😂😂😂orsemcore

[@wolfzmusic9706]

Think it depends. I've been socially awkward my whole life and have made new friends every two years on average. I recently started uni too and talked to a lot of people at the beginning and go to societies but I'm still awkward. For some people it is inescapable.

[@EchterAlsFake]

Don't take life so serious. A smile on your face always helps.

[@FranmolU]

-The Joker

[@galvinvoltag]

SANS?!?!?

[@TheOriginalManTrust]

​@@galvinvoltag Trie...

[@realdjaykay]

Me at the funeral

[@victuz]

Why so serious?

[@jamueI]

Tip: do not think about how much eye contact you're making while talking with people, that's only gonna make you nervous, and then awkward

[@Ion-Luca-Caragiale]

Yeah, strongly agree, focus more on the conversation in general rather some of its foregoing aspects. Sometimes pretty gender makes you feel uneasy, but it is unavoidable. So, accept this and get use to it until you comfortable with it. Experience is everything, and so does the exposure.

[@jaxonmcalley]

I was being interviewed for a job and then a tip about eye contact just suddenly appeared in my mind. I started to think what makeup she was wearing and didn't break the eye contact because I was completely lost in my thoughts. I'm still unemployed and a useless shite in this society.

[@jamueI]

@@jaxonmcalley don't be so hard on yourself, you'll find a great job somewhere if you haven't already found one, all you need to do is uninstal league of legends

[@zeroturn7091]

Nah, I’m locking in… 100% contact👀

[@phonekeopk4715]

Ohh thats why i always think that "will they think im weird if i just stare into their eyes" and that jist makes me awkward 😭

[@elokin300]

Alternatively, you could reduce your social contact so much to the point the anxiety loops back around to being confident because you don’t even remember why you were afraid of people anymore

[@hoa3901]

unironically what happened to me before and after quarantine

[@westernfxpler]

this sounds easier

[@angelinatedesco112]

as someone who has been unconsciously using this strategy for many moons, I can confirm it has not worked!

[@tadassmolskas3014]

Basically a factory reset.

[@Tevin-MK]

The Pac-Man Universe

[@miguelangelsb_]

What has really worked for me over the years has been to just be honest and say to the other person: "I'm really nervous", or "I'm not sure what to do with my hands right now" for example, and always with a laughing or similing tone. Everyone can relate to being awkward, and it can help you a lot to break the ice. Being honest about your vulnerabilities and immediate feelings in turn makes others more comfortable being with you, in my experience.

[@insankamil2909]

predator have instinc to eat the weaker one. but human have more emphaty than a brutal predator. they just need to be informed, or collective consent, so no rule will be broken, certainty, no confution

[@insankamil2909]

how does it feel being true humanist? note. don't listen onto the capitalists or hedonists. i'd love to guard my humanists friend

[@yoelbacteria]

@@insankamil2909ok then try instead

[@Turbopro27]

I feel like that could work but for the target audience, not very social people, it could be more awkward it works if u do it right tho

[@handsoapjack7456]

Im not socially awkward or struggle in social settings, but this is still good advice to keep in mind when talking to people.

[@IPutFishInAWashingMachine]

How

[@krembryle]

Why are you here then, normie? The last thing we need is for socially acceptable people to be even more socially acceptable 😭

[@starstencahl8985]

@@krembryleQuick advice, just stop talking like that and stop talking about other people like that

[@Gaytotoso]

​​@@krembryle 0:02. Does this answer your question?

[@notslow4970]

​@@krembryle gatekeeping self improvement is craaazy

[@ta3bak]

my social-extroverted sister always tells me that if you expose yourself to uncomfortable situations, you get used to it. but that's the problem 😭 I despise awkward situations... so I avoid people altogether 💀

[@ChronicallyOnlineINTP]

Yeah, I absolutely hate embarrassing myself in front of everyone

[@matchau.u885]

She is true tho, I've struggled with social anxiety for 3 yrs and now I can say that I'm able to start conversations with people and properly socialize with my peers. Yeah I'm still a bit nervous but like, the feeling of confidence you get after overcoming such a life crippling hardship is insane 🙏🙏

[@dbg5438]

nice profile picture

[@aquaponieee]

​​@Alesti5I have gotten used to it 5 years ago and stopped caring. it has only gotten significantly worse over time. i never talk with anyone, noone ever tries talking to me, and interactions never go well, always feel uncomfortable and never last, but i still try to force myself into social situations just for the sake of it even though i feel horrible around people

[@geoeira]

my best advice for you, acknowledge that awkwardness is a natural pnehomenon that happens to social butterfllies too. embrace it, make peace with it. stop fighting it and let's be awkward. (you shouldnt read this, i dont want you to know but: that's how ironically awkwardness will go away)

[@ava130]

Ok so for all those awkward ppl out there (and this is coming from someone that was/occasionally is still awkward), I found that I was super anxious and worried sm abt those awkward silences more than actually knowing how to continue a conversation. I got my first job in 2021, started off by not talking to anyone, and then slowly got more comfortable with my coworkers and just took a risk and started talking. Ended up becoming friends with everyone, became really social and talkative, learned how to continue conversations and keep eye contact, etc, etc. I think the best advice I can give to those who have paralyzing social anxiety is to just breathe and embrace it. Live in the moment and enjoy the conversation, and force yourself out of your comfort zone (as hard as it is). I feel sm better now knowing I can at least fake confidence even if I’m feeling super awkward.

[@YurikoKataoka]

Im schizophrenic which causes me to get super anxious in social situations but the thing you said is what I try too and whats helped me the most I am already awkward because of my disorder which is why most of the time people say I do drugs or so. Thats why I fear to interact with people

[@nefigarcia3673]

The hardest thing for me to do is to continue a conversation. When that happens I start to lose confidence and go back to being more awkward

[@kingpotato1022]

Thanks a lot

[@TheJuutuupperi]

Thanks for sharing, almost the same thing happened to me too! When I started at my job I was awkward and suffered from social anxiety I guess, and I chose not to talk to anyone. I just did my job and basically talked to no one and once the shift was over went home. This lasted for like three monts until I was like the heck I'm doing, I think it would make this job more bearable if I actually interacted with people. So just started talking to coworkers and it wasn't even that awkward, the conversations became longer and I made friends.

[@ellioni5883]

Thanks! My problem is my words just sound... forced, wrong. To me anyway, people tell me I'm nice and just "quiet". Sometimes getting every word correct is a struggle. Wish I could change that, but it just seems to happen

[@guikentaro]

I can assure you that exposure really helps against anxiety! You just gotta remember people really don't care about you and the more you socialize, less anxious you'll be!

[@Brambrew]

I'm not awkward but I do frequently remember awkward things I said and did. My brain serves me embarrassing memories on a platter and I cringe with every bite.

[@flyingknee23]

forgive yourself bud

[@Frog_Wizard801]

Me: “My autism can me feel really awkward in social situations, I’m gonna watch this video and see if there might be a solution” Video:” one way of measuring awkwardness is by using an autism test” Me: “welp, guess I’ll die”

[@cameronschyuder9034]

Things that may help: 1) masking 2) be around people who don't perceive your awkward traits as awkward, or otherwise don't make a big deal over them

[@stick3908]

But preferably the later, masking is kinda exhausting, your friends won’t really know you, and it affects your mental health e.c.t.@@cameronschyuder9034

[@xpumpkinxe]

I was thinking the same thing LMAO

[@soupydouby]

I'm autistic and I think I'm fairly good at social stuff. some stuff that's helped me: 1) linking what the other person is taking about to my current hyperfixation or special interest 2) instead of making eye contact, I look at their forehead or nose 3) practising common scenarios in a mirror (job interview, small talk on the bus etc) 4) giving myself off time after a long day of masking/talking to spend time with myself in silence 5) finding understanding friends that I can unmask around (especially helps if they're also autistic!!) I'm very high-masking so I've been a social chameleon my whole life but when I get home I completely crash and go mute. It's okay to put on a pretend face for strangers and coworkers if you give yourself time to recover at home and with friends :) Hope this helps!

[@anisa2273]

@@cameronschyuder9034 maskign is damaging to autistic folk dude..

[@existentialbowlofnoodles2495]

It’s best not to overthink how to not look awkward. The best and only relevant advice is to first be confident which is its own complex issue and secondly understand social cues. When it comes to social cues it’s virtually impossible to achieve social fluency by consciously implementing “tactics”, this will lead only to even more awkwardness alongside a debilitating serving of social anxiety, believe me I’ve been there. Truly socially adept people are never stuck in their own head about how others around them are perceiving them, they are present and in tune with those they are conversing with rather than trying to control how they are seen. Now if your not naturally receptive of the necessary cues your either one of two things, severely autistic or lacking in consistent exposure to social environments, the latter is more probable. Best thing you can do is be around more people daily to train your subconscious mind to do the work for you so your conscious mind has room to spare for engaging the complexities presented in the mutual topic at hand. Social interaction is far too complicated to try and control, you must develop the power of your social intuition through the reluctant means of exposure if you ever want to attain charisma.

[@Justjoshin99]

This is very insightful, and I appreciate your knowledge on this topic. I myself am very awkward, it used to be a lot worse but as time passed and I had more exposure, it has gotten better. I have gotten myself to a point where I’m not necessarily content with myself but I know enough about social interactions to at least look ok most of the time, so basically I’ve gotten good at faking it. In order to actually feel less awkward all together, I haven’t really gotten that part down yet. I know it involves more exposure in regards to social environments but I can’t help constantly overthinking and over analyzing pretty much any scenario I find myself in. I constantly feel like I have to explain myself to people or make them understand me for me to be comfortable around them. I always feel like I have to tell everyone everything about myself upon the second I meet them so they’ll accept me and I won’t feel pressured by them to live up to their preexisting expectations. So I understand that I need more exposure and I have to train myself in those areas but how exactly do you propose I should confront the overthinking/over analyzing aspect of all this?

[@elbiballo]

Thank you so much

[@schwa4883]

This is amazing advice!

[@BLXCO]

You never fail to fill me with warm joy

[@avangardismm]

God loves you all

[@melillo1227]

Chillll

[@337x]

@avangardismm he doesn't like the guy above

[@999b0a]

Usually the people who give the best advice struggled the most, so thank you for making this video and sharing what you know.

[@aashayrane8555]

I get so frustrated because I’m not an awkward person but when I’m with someone who is awkward makes me feel so awkward. I don’t feel comfortable being myself because I know that they’re constantly analysing and judging. It’s not that deep but when they start analysing it freaks me out and makes me awkward.

[@remington6180]

Instructions unclear, I am now in a stranger's house celebrating their birthday party.

[@avangardismm]

God loves you all

[@RodMigz08]

Having aspergers and social anxiety, awkwardness is a big part of my life. Im glad i can recognize awkwardness and try to avoid it (unlike others on the spectrum) but having to be constantly self conscious about everything takes a toll makes me feel like im not sincere. My aspergers Has made me Overthink basic social stuff and having to remeber every painful detail sucks but it has helped me sometimes. Having high intellect is a curse and a blessing because though im able to understand the social aspect of life to a decent level and aply it i never truly comprehend the why which can make me seem emotionally distant and ignorant of others perspectives. I hate being so shy and nervous.

[@shred_til_we_ded]

this. Is the definition of I didn’t know I needed this but now it’s all I want to watch

[@avangardismm]

God loves you all

[@vietanh266lmao]

​@@avangardismmnpc

[@BullDeerAryu_]

The experience part is pretty true, same with the “less ‘attack plan’ more ‘focus on what they’re saying’” I always ask follow up questions about the topic and occasionally add in my own anecdote. Works like a charm.

[@brodoxl]

this channel had less than 10k subs on christmas, now it has more than 150k. and i completely understand why. This is amazing

[@kaelanmcquerry1285]

Im curiously uncomfortable to be around so this is perfect for me. I decided to help with this to go to a club on my birthday, by myself, I didn't drink, and I just danced. Stood in the middle of the crowd and just moved with those funky beats. Didn't go out with the expectation of meeting anyone. I went home alone but it was the best feeling. I highly suggest this to anyone and everyone (sorry teenagers, you cant) Im in know way "better" but now im a little more comfortable in my skin, and I can tell that in my everyday interactions with people.

[@piuthemagicman]

I have a similar story, forever have felt awkward but 5 years ago I started to go and sing sober karaoke in full bars at weekends. Has helped a LOT :)

[@kaelanmcquerry1285]

@@piuthemagicmanKaraoke requires people to look at you, draws attention to yourself. That's a little too advanced for my blood. No alcohol too? crazy.

[@officialpaulsinwill]

That was pretty brave of you haha

[@kaelanmcquerry1285]

@@officialpaulsinwill More like desperate, I didnt talk to any body. Not sure if sarcasm

[@Keister00]

@@kaelanmcquerry1285 at least you actually went out in a social area and had a bit of fun. some people can't bear the idea of going places by Themselves.

[@alexandru1d60]

OMG, you condense valuable information into a short time and explain it in a non-boring, fun and simple way that anyone can understand. What a great discovery 👏

[@KlearlyJonas]

You are a big motivation for me - you prove that you can make it from zero to hero in literally months. Keep up the great work dude

[@Fullmeralzilla]

If someone asks my why I’m so awkward I’ll curl up into a ball and rock back and forth

[@smudden9373]

I had to pause half way through to comment, that this video is cracking me up while I’m genuinely trying to learn stuff 😭 I wish every educational video was in this exact format.

[@aashayrane8555]

Haha same

[@mazeofmemoriez]

so you're telling me I get nervous and all awkward around people that I'm really interested in & would like to socialize with, because I focus too much on how I'm presenting myself?! that makes so much sense

[@dosu5064]

Three months of self-reflection and reading books, and mental health courses. You just put them into a 5 minute video, amazing.

[@nijlpaardw9085]

This is why I find awkward movies to be more painful to watch than horror gore bloody movies

[@ukraineme96]

My man has put out 8 videos and he’s already on my short list of channels where I click and watch the video as soon as I see it’s uploaded no matter what.

[@stevensen6541]

4:27 -The best way to treat social anxiety is: Please not that one, please not that one, please not tha- - Exposure! :D EVERY DAMN TIME!

[@BlerGDNY]

oh shit, I feel so damaged, when I expose myself I know what could happen, the more I think the more shit happens to me, I make clumsy and awkward steps, I don't have to talk, it's shit, I miss my life before, it was nicer and I don't I saw so much shit like now :'(

[@tadeob_]

@@BlerGDNYsames. And it’s hard, even impossible for me to not overthink. I’m 21 and already feeling like ending it all. Though my intj mind can’t accept that option.

[@xo.hannii]

It is true! I'm still socially awkward, but I've gotten so much better bc I just went for it and talked to more people. It's not the answer we want to hear (trust me) but it is the best one

[@tadeob_]

@@xo.hannii how do I acquire such power?

[@pixelatedgirl]

Also another way to be less scared of social interaction is to simply NOT care. Like just NOT give a fuck about what the outcome is going to be. So I recommend practicing on people that you don't really care about (in terms of how they perceive you or what their impression of you is). But again, I just say this because my entire social skills depend on the fact that I don't give (much of) a fuck about my image. The more you care, the more you're likely to fumble. BUT NOTE THIS--Caring about your image is DIFFERENT from wanting to make a good impression. You can always dress well, smell good, and smile and stuff. Those are things you CAN control. Most of what you say and DO socially though really can't be predicted after a certain extent and my personal method is to just YOLO it.

[@gabby-ue8sh]

You just motivated me so much ahahaha

[@scourgatory]

the most awkward part about this is that i am just autistic

[@loritines]

I think the fact that I can't help smiling when I'm nervous has saved me from some potentially awkward situations, guess it makes people feel more at ease and not take everything seriously

[@MaloKiwi7]

Can’t wait for you to blow up, you make great high quality content that’s well put together!

[@Rainboxdish]

Two minutes ago? Wow

[@zeroturn7091]

I’m in denial. While most would consider me an introvert, I’d like to think that I am a people person just waiting to pick my spots. I was socially awkward in school, and attempted to re-invent myself as an upperclassman. That carried over into the military, and then I returned to being awkward again. Turns out I was awkward in the military too, but luckily I ended up working in jobs where I had to communicate regularly so it was like verbal sparring until I broke my patterns. I worked hospital security, at a call center, and in health insurance (office job). Older people tend to want to talk so it made it easier to gain more experience. Soon enough I was ready to be a social butterfly within my own age group…. Turns out that I was in denial, still awkward. I’ve since made it part of my personality.

[@tdagz20]

I’m just genuinely awkward and it’s gonna stay that way.

[@n1chirin]

more useful than a year of therapy for social avoidancy. EXPOSE YOURSELF AND FOCUS LESS ON WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO/SAY BUT MORE ON OTHER PEOPLE!!!! old but gold! Thanks bro

[@ramuk1933]

My eye contact advice: 0% eye contact, 100% not caring because it's overrated and creepy. I don't understand why staring at people is not only acceptable but expected.

[@ramuk1933]

Then it mentions autism... [✓] Autistic [✓] ADHD [✓] Weird and proud of it

[@Htiy]

You might have autism

[@adamgotcher7783]

Now I know how to make people uncomfortable more efficiently

[@lukemorgan1531]

I'm not awkward, but I will make sure all the awkward people I know hear this advice. Also you're welcome for the tip. I hope my contribution means the channel flourishes

[@aquaponieee]

my mind just shatters whenever I'm in a social situation. the thingy that translates sounds into words into thoughts stops working. i become unable to think. i just break. but social anxiety aside. i literally just have nothing to say really. i am just objectively boring and uninteresting, i don't have anything that makes me special, i lack identity. there's no reason for anyone to even bother trying to communicate with me. and, i have lived under a rock my entire life, i don't know anything, i don't have any knowledge or memories, so there is no default topic anyone could fall back to when trying to talk to me or vice versa and when there's more people talking i never understand the topic they're taking about and never have anything valuable to add. i have just, given up years ago. there is just nothing i can do. i have tried for years forcing myself into social situations trying to fit in, but like, nope it does not work i am just doomed to fail

[@Jere_22]

Have you tried going to a therapist? Maybe that could help you a bit

[@dabbasthegreat]

5:09 "yo whats goodie gang 100k subscribers is insane! (150k as of writing this) so thanks. also i was extremely sick, on the brink of death when i recorded this video (i had a slight cold) not only that but i recorded it in my sisters Prius. theres a fun little fact for yah. also last time people said the pause game was too easy so this ones only two frames but if you didnt pause it and Just slid the slider thing your lame also i have an instagram also yeah anyway, video #8 log, signing off peace also ily also peace"

[@Splash029]

It’s insane how fast this channel grows

[@LUMINATE_]

Jokes on me, it’s both curiousity and that I’m painfully uncomfortable to be around

[@infinitum42]

thank you for this video, after this video i finally learned how to be awkward and now i will be harassing people for fun, thank you

[@MikeJ2525]

You’re channel will hit a million subs by the summer. You’re content is so good bro!

[@michaelcassidy1179]

Pull down your pants mid conversation to learn how to handle embarrassment. I call it exposure therapy

[@mackenziecruz2464]

They would never talk to me again if I did that

[@viktordyrby7804]

0:33 But that handshake is clearly done left handed. That's unfair for the bro fister

[@lochlanmuir2291]

I’m left handed

[@Bmafu]

I can only handle social situations if I'm baked tbh

[@dezcollington1350]

I LOVE your videos, thank you for creating these for our education and entertainment 🙌🏾

[@aratictvAlt]

3:52 so what your saying is me and my fellow autistic brothers are doomed

[@gremloid]

its because people around me cant handle my autistic swag

[@meirwalt]

your videos are so informative and are made in such a way so that's it's so easily digestible to the average person. keep it up!

[@44Hd22]

0:00 I feel attacked because you didn’t consider the possibility that I am holding on for my life on the Eiffel Tower while being forced to do my math homework and a German Essay while learning French while doing simple rocket science while creating world controlling technology like interdimensional time travel or nanobotd while animating while juggling while playing Minecraft while creating a black hole because a person with a gun forces you to. I don’t really feel attacked. Mostly because I am focused on something else right now.

[@tdawgGD]

your videos are so interesting, they’re concise and to the point, and definitely deserve the massive spur in channel growth lately :D

[@Ashlee64]

I used to cringe so hard i squeal and fall to the ground once I leave an awkward situation or even remember it, now I’m starting to embrace my awkwardness, now whenever i do something embarrassing (it happens alot) i just say to myself “well that was awkward” or “Woah I did something weird why did i do that lmao” or “opps I’m not supposed to do that, oh well I’ll probably do that again in the future” and stuff like that which is making me accept the reality and move on alot faster.

[@Satellite111]

You're awkward because you watch stuff like this. Be the way you are and be so confidently. Believe me, you don't want to be "normal".

[@VulcanicYT]

Me taking a screenshot of being subscribed to this channel before it hits a million. I took a screenshot when this channel had 36k on the 30th of December. Hella growth and I knew it

[@ramenoodles3267]

I just took that autism inventory, and scored a 23. I am on the border of autism, and I am very akward.

[@thathorribleyoutuber]

thanks, as an autistic I can now blend in with my fellow normal humans.

[@xerxes4real]

That autism point in the video was too relatable being autistic

[@avangardismm]

God loves you all

[@asparagusnoodle]

@@avangardismmlil random but okay. anyway

[@asparagusnoodle]

@@avangardismmmight've even been a lil.... awkward?

[@aaronnikels5706]

@@asparagusnoodleMaybe even a lil… autistic?

[@islixxn]

nah@@avangardismm

[@layshaf3238]

The clue is to no try to hide your stress or feelings in general and except them and to experience so many awkward situation that you become less vulnerable to them and accept them more Easily

[@OddlyFamiliarStranger]

Never knew my severe awkwardness and why she said “Noo you’re not my type” would be made into a completely researched video

[@highenergy509]

being awkward is just an internal emotion expressed outwards

[@impatient.]

1:06 you talking about me sir?

[@JoaoAntonio-ox5vf]

i dont think this video could have been released in better timing your way of presenting the points was professional and so relaxed, differently from the other videos around youtube actually made me think and want to get my ass up and fix my problems! earned a loyal subscriber bro, thx

[@origamiwithabi2526]

"THIS" is awesome ❤

[@avangardismm]

God loves you all

[@iao_]

i feel bad for people that struggle with this problem, me personally i feel extremely comfortable talking to another person

[@littlelobsters3850]

at this point i just accept it. if i do something insanely embarrassing ive learned to forgive myself/just laugh at myself. Sometimes ill do embarrassing things on purpose just to train the muscle, like finding a random stranger on the street and offering them a sip of my redbull, or telling fellow straight men that i would make out with them for seven dollars and a fruitcup. Its all in the mind gentlemen.

[@3n3j0t4]

you might be sp3d

[@littlelobsters3850]

@@3n3j0t4 oh yeah no i certainly am i display signs of borderline personality disorder, autism and ADHD im basically a fruit shake with eyes

[@3n3j0t4]

@@littlelobsters3850 wow you’re the least funny and most obnoxious person I’ve ever seen online

[@ChloeSimmons1]

I clicked on this video knowing full well I'm the least awkward person I know but it was still super interesting. another tip I learned from having had chronic social anxiety when I was younger to now having literally zero social anxiety ever is that you are always gonna be focusing your attention and awareness on someone in a social situation so instead of being self aware and conscious focus all of that on someone else. Another thing is to try and think of the awkward things your friends have said or done, you probably can't think of anything right? so who's remembering the awkward thing you said or did? no one accept you so you need to also forget it because its not productive to dwell on the past

[@michellegeller813]

When I feel awkward, I like to loudly acknowledge it by saying straight up "Wow. This is really awkward." and do a stage bow. Usually the other person or people are very relieved and/or curious, laugh, and we go about the situation, significantly less awkward :)

[@jmc_solver]

I would laugh awkwardly in that situation because telling someone they are wholly unfunny makes everything more awkward by a tenfold.

[@phosphosaurus6902]

i just fart so it negates all the awkwardness

[@matchau.u885]

​@@phosphosaurus6902LMAOO

[@jmc_solver]

@@phosphosaurus6902 you do you brother

[@bromomentbabyface6804]

I WISH I HAD THIS ADVICE WHEN I WAS YOUNGER BRO. Growing up with autism I learned a lot about confidence through my own social anxiety / awkwardness, and like, I'm at the point now where socializing is enjoyable, natural, and confidence doesn't matter cuz I just exist. Although it is a skill, and it goes away if you're not using it, this is actually good advice in the sea of bs

[@bromomentbabyface6804]

Cool video and editing too

[@ogahmaddhanil]

what i hate is that the background of his video are usually black, so sometimes i just stare at my big nose

[@alenietouh4789]

I beated Sekiro without dying and this shit is harder than that

[@aaronnikels5706]

What advice would you give for people specifically who are socially awkward not because of anxiety but because of “social inconsistency”, or being higher than average on the spectrum?

[@nevill2947]

Wondering the same thing, this helps nothing. But considering all the positive comments it seems to help out neurotypical people

[@3nnik]

fr. i don't know if i'm autistic or not but i just feel like i don't belong anywhere and i feel like socializing is something i have to achieve and i don't know how to do that.

[@Keister00]

@@3nnik interact with others and reflect on the experiences. read the room and especially watch the words you say. some autistic people have a tendency to say unnecessary things or they may drag on certain topics. BUT I think being confident or at least acting confident (comfortable in your own skin) can make the conversation just a bit more smoother. remember though that you don't want to be focused on yourself all the time and more on the person you're interacting with. good luck yall 👍

[@aaronnikels5706]

@I-io8ee 💀 (literally)

[@3nnik]

real@I-io8ee

[@michaelcutler5538]

Me to the first person I see after watching this: Tell me about your dog Julius

[@Cosmo_P0litan]

Interesting point about the scale used to determine normality, awkwardness, and autism. It seems you could interchange the term "weird" with "awkward" as well, and it seems those closer to having a form of ASD are "weirder" than the average. Perhaps through trial and error with training, somebody could overcome these social obstacles.

[@jordan-d6u7y]

Not gonna lie, this is really great content, rather than making a face-to-face lecture on how not to be awkward, you manage to make a relaxed environment with small jokes, letting people be more invested in your points. Great vid!

[@Aboodd002]

This video is awkward giving me anxiety I’m outta here

[@meybee4102]

im not awkward, i just have the tism

[@trillianca5666]

I did the checklist 3:53 and scored a 9 but yet I feel awkward

[@AAPauzed]

I got a 35 😭

[@b0oomiles]

Cure to awkwardness: be awkward until theres no more awkwardness left

[@name_adi]

4:30 FINALLY!! Please. If you socially awkward or anxious just focus on having more interactions and failing. And then if you don't want to fail that much, just focus on the other person and be genuinely interested in them and their life. If you do that, let me tell you honey, you'll *never* run out of shit to talk bout. Like really. (Yk cause like just like you think bout yourself and your life, others also do )

[@sosokranv3]

omg dude you just saved my life

[@IStMl]

3:13 wtf is an inches

[@ansjeliek]

12-18 inches are 30-40 centimeters

[@lexiansalewit]

I’m autistic and I was always perceived as awkward, quiet and bad at social situations/interactions, no wonder why.

[@painlesskun3959]

...... I cant believe he pushed me into an awkward state when I moved down without liking or commenting......

[@multifandomstan412]

Honestly when I try an make eye contact I can’t seem to concentrate on what they’re saying

[@exstacc1886]

Look, I'm autistic, I'm NEVER going to fucking hold my eye contact. It makes me feel like I'm looking into hell Another thing about autism causing social "inconsistency", I understand. I feel like its correlated to accent changing, sometimes my accent changes from Midwestern to Southern depending on who I'm talking to, but it comes as naturally to me as changing my tone in a sentence I'm writing to capture a different audience, like writing in different genres. I always look for the right input to continue a conversation I thought about in my head beforehand rather than reading the room, and it leaves the effect that I'm completely oblivious (I am) of my surroundings. --Another (another) thing about autism is that its a fucking clusterfuck of different symptoms and some people who have Asperger's can seem like the most socially awkward people imaginable and they're somehow UNFAZED BY IT

[@Rafael-pi4md]

i started trying exposure some years ago, at first it is really bad and painful but it's necessary. Once I was sitting on a park bench and two girls were sitting in another one, I though "ok that's an opportunity to fight my social anxiety and practice how to talk to strangers" my mind was in a rush trying to think what the hell would I say, so I approach them and say "CAN I SIT HERE?" they say yes, then I didn't say anything for about 30 seconds, they were talking to each other and I just cut their conversation to say "I WAS SITTING ON THE OTHER BENCH BUT IT WAS UNCONFORTABLE THERE THAT'S WHY I CAME HERE HAHA" awkward silience after this and they started talking again. After 5 minutes they left and I stayed there wondering if I'm autistic... well anyway every time I forced myself to exposure I learned what I can and can't say, it feels more natural over time. Good thing is most strangers you were awkward with, you will never see again in your life and even if you meet them again they won't remember you.

[@mateonamer2864]

1:13 I am unsubbing because of that Canada comment GRRRR. Lol

[@divyanshinegi5266]

youre just brilliant, i cannot think of any other channel on youtube as educational and as fun as "this."

[@emm4148]

Bro u finally thought me wat to do with my hands after all these years thank u so much 😭

[@Wispa03]

ive become so self-aware that i have forced myself into socializing this way. i will feel great in the moment, and then wince at how i acted whilst trying to sleep at night :D

[@guyinaroom7771]

Another decently important part is allowing others to save face when doing something embarrassing. This is as simple as pretending not to see or have been distracted.