Threads Is Still A MESS

[@coralink]

"why does my partner dislike me fellas, I only don't let her go outside? I'M NOT CONTROLLING I CARE! Women amirite"

[@Keznen]

"Why does my girl keep trying to leave my basement? It's fully furnished and I even plugged in some nice air freshener. Why can't she understand that I'm just protecting her from the big bad evil world? :("

[@KreeZafi]

How miserable to be in a relationship where you feel you have to actively prevent your partner from cheating! I want a relationship where I don't have to keep my partner on a leash, I want him to be free to do whatever he wants and for him to CHOOSE to be faithful. If he would cheat given the opportunity then he's not worth having.

[@ghoulishtoad]

Fr we both get slightly jealous but we both realize it's an insecurity thing and we are both so faithful, I think that's the main thing, these men don't realize it's an insecurity and try to work on it, they just think that's how it is supposed to be

[@marsh1020]

Thank you for continuing to point out that a relationship wasn't wasted just because it ended. I heard you say that in one of your very old videos when I was like 16 or so, and having that mindset has helped me be so much happier and have more fulfilling interpersonal relationships, romantic or otherwise

[@bunninova]

my parents have been in a loving relationship for over 25 years now. my dad has proposed I think twice during those 25 years, the second one mostly jokingly. my mum said no because since she was a little girl she was firm in her belief against marriage. they call each other partners. they both have very diverse hobbies and travel alone often, for work and for fun. they were both solo backpackers in their youth. they travel together a lot too. they're each others main support system and still show physical and verbal affection to each other every day, they talk at length about each others day and gossip about work and discuss politics. they share all chores. I can't remember ever seeing them fight, even if they do argue like every couple does. they're now amazing grandparents to my older sister's kids. they both have plenty of friends of the opposite gender. I mean this with zero disrespect but I've seen most of my friends married parents end in divorce or stuck in an unhappy relationship. it breaks my heart to listen to my friends mums talk about the life they would lead if they were alone, travelling and partying, getting different jobs and pursuing art. I will never ever understand the idea of years without a ring = not a committed loving partnership. your partner should be like a best friend that supports and advises you, not a hindering to your independence.

[@Keznen]

Indeed. Marriage is nothing but a legal agreement to share financial assets. It's not at all required.

[@Tilleyforever44]

Regarding the pride stuff - it’s always so funny to me that people think gay is inherently sexual. Like that one person “my husband and I don’t feel the need to flaunt our sex life” or whatever -that’s not what’s happening? And if expressing your sexual orientation is inherently sexual, just about anything Disney has ever made is sexual.

[@animalxINSTINCT89]

We need a picture-in-picture camera for Kyra!!!

[@anthropomorphicpeanut6160]

Seconded!!! Pet cameras should be mandatory always

[@_spacealien]

Snooze cam!!!!

[@audeon_visual]

Your vibe is really soothing. It's nice to know that kind and empathetic people are still out here. You put me in a better mood every time. Thank you!

[@modeanb]

saying hes not allowed to have drinking buddies because she doesn't want him to develop a drinking problem is ineffective at preventing a drinking problem. He could drink at home. He could lie about where hes going. he could sneak nips at work. if shes really concerned about excessive drinking she needs to talk about her concerns and together they can find a way that helps. they could even decide "please dont let me go out with the guys because i need to remove myself from that situation" and that can be healthy! but i think the way shes going about it leans into controlling and you cant control someone out of an addiction. like "you cant control yourself so i must control for you" which tbh i think a lot of the people who think going to a bar is cheating also have that viewpoint.

[@Zectifin]

yes but you should also support your partner and help them with their problems. If your partner had food or drug addictions would you not encourage them to not do things that would harm themself, or is that too controlling? If its someone you're planning on spending the rest of your life with and they are putting their long term health at risk its at least worth a talk and encouragement.

[@beth4107]

kyra's grumbles and snores are one of my (many!) favourite things about your videos! also i'm feeling very blessed now that i somehow have curated good algorithms in threads and twitter

[@tapijoz]

I have been living with my mum again for awhile and a few times during the night I have thought she either snored very loudly from the otherside of the house or something is wrong and then it turns out it is the dogs sound from my headphones😂

[@anthropomorphicpeanut6160]

1:12 a man who cares... About himself and absolutely noone else

[@ghoulishtoad]

Kyras snores are so comforting ❤ Im missing my doggies rn and hearing her cheers me up

[@maurile]

Thanks!

[@wendyheatherwood]

I went to a small local pride event a few weeks ago. There was a singer, some very funny drag performers, a poetry reading, stalls set up by some local organisations, including the local library and some of the kind of audience participation exercises that kids usually love and adults... have more of a mixed reaction to. I for one was happily wayching from the BACK of the crowd. Honestly, the vibe was a lot like a lot of other local fairs and carnivals I've been to, only with a little more drag and 80s music and a lot less commercialisation.

[@maeror1022]

We do not claim these people.

[@mikalcarruthers]

In the words of Kendrick Lamar.....THEY NOT LIKE US

[@yasminchan7425]

I thought men WANTS women to be loyal to their husbands and only them? why is this woman doing EXACTLY what these men wants, being shamed for it?

[@TimTom736]

Because it is about controlling women, nothing else

[@unicorn73212]

Shaming women doesn't control them because women don't care what men think of them you can't control someone if you can't even control yourself some of these men are too poor to be sexist anyways. Unless you're talking in a sexual kind of way then maybe a prostitute might fall for it or a trad wife that lives in the country.

[@anna-mariewoodcock9086]

Absolutely loving the Kyra ASMR, it adds such a level of coziness to the video

[@SAVYWRITESBOOKS]

love your outfit so much in this!! also kyra's little snores are so cute

[@theflyingspaget]

It's so strange when I realize my favorite KZbinrs are not only also human beings, but have the same taste as me

[@fairygrl999]

i hear that sweet pup snoring soundly lol. my dog is sleeping at my feet as I watch this and for a while I thought it was him

[@HOPEfullBoi01]

I'm honestly glad Threads is banned in my country. I'm generally against bans as they really just aim to limit your freedom of expression and communication but seriously some apps are simply too harmful nowadays to be worth it.

[@dragonfire160]

"There is no man in this world that is more interesting than a nice glass of wine and a gossip with your oldest friend." Truer words have never been spoken🍷

[@drakethesnek6429]

And that's why you will always be single.

[@dragonfire160]

I've been in a relationship for 3 years but thanks for your concern 🙏❤️

[@drakethesnek6429]

@dragonfire160 your dog doesn't count.

[@mikalcarruthers]

If you're single and you're happy and enjoying your life, that's all it matters. People can find happiness without being in a relationship and that's ok

[@issecret1]

@@drakethesnek6429 projecting much? How pathetic

[@katashworth41]

Someone decided that my partner asking me if we were doing something on a specific date (I’m just better at remembering that sort of thing than him) was him asking my permission to hang out with his friends. I get the concern, but that is quite the reach.

[@kyleyoung8476]

I'm single and so is my friend I'm going to reference, but we legit only go out to places with pool tables or live music. It is not about trying to find my husband or his wife lol

[@meatofmink]

I went to a few drag shows and the one act that was too raunchy and over the top the hostess gave a content warning for minors to leave for a few minutes. The act was pam and whipped cream from archer and queen performing it was hilarious but definitely not kid friendly. Nothing else was inappropriate. I learned about gay people and trans people existing pretty young. It just enriched my life and made it easier to finally come out even if the church made me hate myself for a few years.

[@ThatRedhedd]

15 years is probably the average amount of time many marriages end - but also, no different than when a relationship of 8-14 years ends (in most ways). I agree that those years aren't technically "wasted," though it feels that way when one's primary purpose in life is finding someone to grow old with. They feel they wasted their "prettiest years" on the wrong person, and may have a more difficult time finding that forever person now that those years are behind them. I believe it's common for people aged 40+ to be "on the market," however, and it's not as difficult for them to find another partner as some might presume.

[@JulesKM]

I forgot that Threads exists 🤭

[@TheLugiaSong]

Sorry almost a completely irrelevant comment but the mention of Puddle Lane unlocked some memories, wow. I want to go dig up my collection from the basement now. Loved those books. Also, Kyra snoring is very cute

[@isaacbenrubi9613]

Kooooooobie! Kyra's sleepy snores are so cute. 😍 Personally, I find that the older I get, the less I want to deal with social media in any form. The "shield" of anonymity is causing people to be more moronic than they usually are. Thank you for coming to my old-man-yells-at-cloud talk.

[@seraphonica]

I'm happy for every pupper snore I can get!

[@brittneybabeee4031]

Please keep mixing up your content like this! :) I have to listen to something while I’m working or I can’t focus at all, but I usually love to sit down & pay close attention to your longer videos, so these shorter ones are GREAT for when I’m at work! :) Plus your voice is really calming & I love the way you “ramble” like I do, so your videos help keep me calm & comfortable at work, lol. I’m sorry if that sounded creepy. 😭

[@Mirbeet]

I just went to the movies and the movie ender after like 3 hours??? 3 WASTED hours????? oh my god!

[@Michiiin]

Kyra was so loud, I kept thinking there was a random dog in my room lol (this is meant in an endearing way)

[@ghoulishtoad]

Ikr it's so comforting to me I moved away for the first time into a group home and I can't have a pet, so I miss my dogs sooo dearly. My boy Roo likes to snore and grunt too ❤❤

[@anyacarter3077]

hearing Kyra's snoring was so comforting as a dog owner tbh ahahaha, great vid as always

[@CoffeeCatsAndALittleDog2]

I have been with my partner for 8 years and I constantly get digs, jokes and comments about not having a ring yet. What they don't realise is that we have had discussions and we have other priorities ahead of marriage. We want to get our own house, he needs to wait to see if he gets a permanent contract since his work was taken over by another company (and he won't hear until next year), he also wants to get his drivers license and a car and I need to complete my PhD and secure a job. Then, we will look towards marriage. Everyone has different priorities and opportunities available to them. We just want to ensure we are on solid ground.

[@RecycledSoul17]

I really needed this video. I lost my relationship back in February. I'm still not over it, and I've been having thoughts about how stupid I was for staying as long as I did. After you talked about relationships being growth opportunities, it made me realize that my relationship did teach me a lot of important lessons. I realized that even though it wasn't nearly as healthy as I once thought it was, I still learned so much about loving myself, trusting myself, and refusing to put up with disrespect

[@sharihazlett3774]

First one is a controlling freak. Let me do something?? Nope

[@metri0n]

0:55 This is what being terminally online does to you... You focus on comments and posts and slowly you start to become convinced that all this that you see online is representative of everyone in real life and that is just simply not the case. If you are more introverted fine, but just be aware that sitting online all the time will convince you that everyone is crazy and horrible. It's healthy to get out and meet new people once in a while to quell this uncomfort and these fears.

[@moon-bean]

i very much admire your patience !!!!

[@TomasMooerAge4]

I'm about 4 minutes in. I can hear Kyra non-stop snoring and I can't stop smiling 😅

[@gmaerowed]

This is the earliest I've ever been

[@witnesssinceinnocents]

THIS VIDEO WAS NEEDED AND I SUSPECTED U WERE WORKING ON A VIDEO ABOUT THIS! GOOD FOR U

[@zenlizard1850]

Wow, 2024 and you still have to tell people these things.

[@numberblockslogosandmore2794]

I love Kyra so much, my lab snores the exact same way ❤❤

[@harrisonkatya9262]

Please please PLEASE review the After series. I need someone to critique the abusive mess that is Hayden.

[@yasminchan7425]

Ooh I would love for her to review the After series

[@r5forevah]

YES

[@harrisonkatya9262]

@@yasminchan7425 "Hessa" is literally the worst fictional relationship.

[@Keznen]

@@harrisonkatya9262 Wouldn't say it's *the* worst (there are so many horrific contenders for that, unfortunately), but it's definitely one of the worst.

[@Jazminsaysit]

His name is holden I think

[@3fearlessboys453]

Love your doggy snoring! :-) My pitti is sleeping next to me right now too.

[@TheSpearkan]

I saw the title and thought you were talking about the horrifying British nuclear war movie for a second.

[@Whatever-xs9pe]

love your hair color rachel!

[@ObsidianTeen]

15:30 Very nice Freudian slip there, ma'am.

[@meredithnavin1358]

That skirt is cute AF!

[@feliciasjoberg9886]

The bar/alcoholism one made me think of How I Met Your Mother

[@peachxtaehyung]

Yeah i am still on threads a bit but im still not a huge fan of it. It still seems like the apps halfway done

[@mikalcarruthers]

I don't understand Threads. What does it do? Is it like Facebook's version of Twitter?

[@izzz222]

Yeah essentially

[@imyugimuto]

Tbh i thought threads was supposed to be the anti twitter app shame there's a lot of terrible people on there too.

[@thecrispymaster]

When you're competing with Twitter by just being Twitter but with Zuckerberg rather than Musk, you're just gonna attract the same audience. People who abandoned Twitter due to Tue realisation it was a cesspool either ignored Threads altogether or hopped on then quickly hopped off when they realised it was basically the same thing.

[@nicolevose3066]

12:03- 12:31 You can let people walk all over you and they'll complain that you are not flat enough.

[@biseragjurovska1998]

Threads is wild

[@Username0467]

When the snoring first started, I was TERRIFIED. 😂

[@merbst]

Kyra ❤! 😊

[@Van_Rattus]

THE NOSE HUMS

[@northcub]

I think you might have gotten the intention of the second post wrong - the post was made by a gay man, likely in response to a lot of the pearl clutching that appears during pride month about kink or sexual expression at pride. I do actually think there's some merit in 'not everything has to be kid friendly and thats okay'. I think his approach is more 'don't expect us to change because you don't want your kids seeing it'. Some of the replies are definitely a yikes though. I also want to say that pride IS in part about celebrating gay sex - and that's good. They want to take away our right to have sexual relations with each other, and we should celebrate and fight for that. My personal take on 'should kids be at pride' is that if a kid is old or responsible enough to go on their own, they're old enough to see whatever they see. If they're not, then it's up to the parent's discretion. That simple. Especially when you consider that people online act like you're gonna see obscene shit at pride when at most its a handful of guys in leather. This is from someone who believes sexual expression is a huge part of queer liberation and should be celebrated.

[@ThatRedhedd]

Valid!

[@IronmanV5]

ALL social media is a mess. Incels were a community on Reddit until the "King of the Incels" wack job's rampage. And before the " Ladies, If you're out in the woods, who would you rather run into, a bear or a strange man" (that's the exact question BTW) discussion, most if not all of the same "strong" males who are all butt hurt over that question would have said the "protection" they carry is for threats on two legs. Love the outfit, btw.

[@Sableagle]

A storage man?

[@anthropomorphicpeanut6160]

​@@Sableaglestrange? I assume it was a typo

[@anthropomorphicpeanut6160]

The things about men claiming they are "protectors"... Who are they protecting us from? Exactly, men. So we don't need "protectors", we need men to either be good people or gtfo

[@IronmanV5]

@@Sableagle I HATE autocorrect sometimes😂

[@Keznen]

I'd rather run into a bear than a strange man or a strange woman, personally. Bears' behavior is fairly predictable; humans' is not. ~ Täss

[@mikalcarruthers]

Hey Rachel

[@feliciasjoberg9886]

Idea: Get Google Drive so we can send stuff. Like with Hannah Alonzo, Isabella Lanter and CC Suarez.

[@SpecialBlanket]

I've been w my partner 15 years. Have always thought i would only get married in late 30s. But we met at 18! So we've been together 15y not married. If I said it was super important to get married my bf prob would. But we don't feel that way.

[@SpecialBlanket]

Note: we are poly so plz no comments abt seeing what else is out there, i have had mannnny other partners in this time.

[@Kyiecutie]

I do think it’s different to have a 15 year poly relationship vs a 15 year monogamous relationship. I can only speak to monogamous relationships, but it’s a common thing to get… side eyed… after so many years of being together but not being married. Because truly, at 15 years of monogamous relationship… why WOULDN’T you be married?

[@helio4312]

Wait I’m confused on something, I thought the abusive relationship she was in was with Dan? But she talks about how their relationship was good until the end? Unless it was good and turned abusive towards the end? Maybe I’m missing something

[@RachelOates]

I broke up with Dan almost 6 years ago. He wasn’t abusive but he did get a little controlling and we both started to become very different people. Jonnie Yates was the man who abused me throughout 2020-ish.

[@georgem2334]

I'm finally really early!

[@qwinlyn]

6:12 I think the issue that people are running into here is that many of the original pride parades *were* child free spaces. The kink community was a huge part of pride parades and still is a large part of a lot of them and the people in that side of Pride can feel pushed out of a place that they created and that used to be safe for them to be and celebrate their True Self. Being a member of the Alphabet Mafia is a subversive act, just like being into kink play; they're subverting the Hetero/Vanilla-normativity of society. By taking a space that used to be a celebration of that subversion and saying "now you gotta be family/child friendly" it can feel like being forced back into the closet and come off as a new form of Don't Ask, Don't Tell. Not saying that Child Friendly Prides shouldn't exist at all, but there is an arguement to be made in general about everything (especially Pride) needing to be childfriendly, sanitized and turned into family events. And we can't *just* say "oh, don't come to this specific one" cause parents bring their children to Adult Things constantly. Remember when parents were freaking out about Deadpool being R rated and a superhero film at the same time cause "superheros are for kids?" The rainbows of Pride get the same reaction from parents and "rainbows are for children" is actually one of the responses in the threads shown as examples in the video. I don't know how to fix it, just saying that I could understand OP's point if they didn't say what they said next.

[@Keznen]

Guess we asexuals can't come to those if there's tons of overtly sexual content there. But then again, so many of our own spaces have been overrun by hypersexual paraphiliacs falsely claiming to be asexual and trying to twist the definition of what asexuality is, so it's not surprising. We don't care about "subverting" anything. We just want to be accepted for who we are and not have that ruined by people calling us "prudes"/"late-bloomers" or by the self-described "sex-postives" trying to change the definition of what it means to the asexual and screaming at us actual asexuals for daring to be upset about it.

[@Jedi_Mind_]

Hi Rachel ,I love your content. Thanks for the consistency and output and quality . But I have a question , is your accent Scottish ? If so , would it be considered a thick Scottish accent or a Lite accent. It sounds like you could’ve lived in England for half your life or maybe Ireland ? Just curious thanks ,I just think that the Scotts and the Irish have such a neat accents. I plan on going there and I want to see how good my ear is at distinguishing

[@RachelOates]

No, sorry! It was a thick South Yorkshire accent up until I moved away at 18 and since then it’s turned into an odd mix from everywhere I’ve lived (Coventry, London, Oxford, Brighton, etc) plus I’ve picked up a few words and phrases that I say different because of my exes (one was Brazilian, another Australian, South African, one guy was born in Antigua although he moved around a lot as a kid) and now I’m back up in West Yorkshire. So all that has led to this weird mix of whatever it is now. :)

[@Jedi_Mind_]

@@RachelOates cool, thanks for the clarification Rachel. 👍 P.s. your doggo is the cutest 🐶🐶🐶 Bye

[@Sableagle]

@@Jedi_Mind_ If you want Scottish accent, try @ettelitterage1867 "Ette litte rage" and for Irish try @KraftyKeelah "Krafty Keelah."

[@laymayday]

Instead of controlling their partner, maybe they should rather go to therapy…

[@feliciasjoberg9886]

Neil Gaiman video?

[@wylanvansunshine168]

SHOW ME TO ME RACHELLLL

[@lexohey4718]

lmaooo

[@Heothbremel]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Sableagle]

20th Century Disney, conservative types everywhere, all the people whining about Pride existing: "You have to want to be married with children before you turn 20." The people at the Pride parade: "No, you don't." Conservative types everywhere, all the people whining about Pride existing: "Children shouldn't be exposed to those dangerous people at the Pride parade with their dangerous ideas."

[@drakethesnek6429]

I'm with the conservatives. Your ideas are beyond dangerous. They're demonic.

[@typefeisu]

I tried Threads for a week but it's soooooo corny and the same jokes/life advice is just recycled again and again

[@palomamckee1945]

woah im so early

[@SavannahDurka7]

Love Kyra’s little sounds and snores typically but unfortunately in this video it was a bit to distracting for me personally. Gonna have to skip this video and come back for the next one

[@feliciasjoberg9886]

Video idea: Christian science 🤮

[@lexohey4718]

damn 1 minute ago lol

[@batmanjones655]

This app will totally still be a thing in 2 months...

[@oppNaryo_Slay]

You also joined the purple hair movment, that in itself says it all

[@ErgortanguperPolice]

The wedding ring 💍 thing could be worse if she put it on her middle finger 🖕 also, no kids where grown ups are going to be naked!

[@williammanket1132]

I don’t know 🤷‍♂️ why am I subscribed to this channel? She lives in the UK and I live in the United States.

[@RachelOates]

Yes because you wouldn’t possibly want to hear views from people in different countries would you? 🤦🏻‍♀️ how strange…

[@williammanket1132]

@@RachelOates don’t feel sad Rachel 🫂 I’m still subscribed I think you produced great content, it is just that we live in 2 different countries.

[@ThatRedhedd]

I live in the US. Half the people I watch are either in the UK or Canada!

[@oppNaryo_Slay]

Soooo, after 5 years not married, I gues mgtow was right

[@RachelOates]

1) my hair colour is pretty, don’t be jealous (in response to your other comment) and 2) you realise I don’t want to get married, right? Literally ever. 5 years ago one of the reasons I left my long term partner was because he wanted to marry me and have kids and I didn’t want that. And now I have a wonderful long term partner who shares all the same values as me and we’re incredibly happy together. What’s your point?

[@ErgortanguperPolice]

Is it such a wild take to say that if a woman likes a guy enough to have unprotected sex & risk getting knocked up, that she should marry him? How about I throw in this scenario: That woman just bought a wedding ring to preemptively reject guys. Imagine that. Can the commenters be mad then?

[@klemenhudobreznik3421]

YES BECAUSE CONSENT TO SEX IS NOT CONSENT TO PARENTHOOD OR MARRIAGE! GET A LIFE!

[@Sh3rrr]

Why be mad if a woman doesn't want to be with anyone? Wouldn't your scenario mean that the woman needed the wedding ring for her rejection to be taken seriously? That her opinion was disregarded enough times that she had to resort to a symbol of being taken by someone else already for men to listen to her rejection. Which then is still not enough because she's still 'doing it wrong'.

[@xafilmbyx]

.. what?

[@Kyiecutie]

I am…. So fucking confused on what part of the video you’re commenting on.

[@drakethesnek6429]

Expecting women to act mature and loyal = male insecurity 😂😅😂😅😅

[@xafilmbyx]

Having male friends and going out with the girls =/= being disloyal

[@mariaquiet6211]

Pretty sure the point behind the control exhibited by this hypothetical guy was that he doesn't expect her to be mature or loyal. Which is not a healthy relationship.

[@drakethesnek6429]

@mariaquiet6211 well then he should just dump her then.

[@mariaquiet6211]

​@@drakethesnek6429 It's almost like you haven't watched the video.

[@batmanjones655]

Good grief, what is wrong with that dog? Sounds like a damn vacuum cleaner. You should seriously get that thing checked out

[@mikalcarruthers]

It must be something wrong with you that you would say something stupid like the comment you just made

[@baileydunton6142]

I know for a fact that Rachel takes amazing care of her pup!

[@coralink]

She's a staffy, it's common for them to have loud snores and breathing because of their snouts, same for most short nosed dogs

[@mikalcarruthers]

I apologize if you didn't understand staffy's breathe like that but if you're just trying to insult Rachel's dog, then you need to rethink your comment. It's Rachel's dog at the end of the day and she's a damn good friend to her dog