Instant Gratification - Intro to the 60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 2/11

[@formerfundienowfree4235]

I love this guy. He doesn't even have to refer to notes. It's in his heart because he has such a desire to help people. Thank you so much! For 35 years I've tried to figure out what's wrong with me. I sought professional help many times over the years. Nothing got to the root of it until I learned about complex ptsd less than a year ago. One (Christian) psychologist refused to discuss my childhood and even told me I didn't need to acknowledge or process my trauma. He said my problem was that I just didn't understand God's love for me. One year wasted with him. I am not a drug addict. I have had a successful professional career for 30 years., but my trauma has taken a HUGE toll on me. I am so glad this information is finally coming to light. 💙💜💙💜

[@yourenough3]

He is great. I am so glad i found this channel.

[@MrDrudeezy]

Needing to prove you're missing a leg to a convention of podiatrists has been my experience.

[@formerfundienowfree4235]

@@MrDrudeezy perfect analogy!

[@tammyjewson5479]

I have also had "christian" professionals say things like that or tell me my problem is I just have to forgive. I'm also greatful for thus guy but even tho I'm aware of why I am the way I am I still don't know how to change it....seems very overwhelming

[@everylastinchofmescoveredw5629]

@@tammyjewson5479 wtf, was this in yankistan? A medical professional even mentioning religion during a session would be fired on the spot in my country. Unbelievable 🥴

[@simplypositiveme]

So 1) safety above all else. 2) instant gratification 3) impulsive 4) emotional stuffing 5) don't care about anything/ numbing/ fear and anger running my life / emotions lead to dominoes falling and into relapse 6) stuff everything including positive emotions and then shut down conscious/ harding a heart. 7) distractions 8) addicted to chaos and drama...thinking healthy life is boring. 9) fantasy world

[@Haleh1]

Thank you!

[@petervisen]

I discovered Tim Fletcher about a month ago. It was an eye opener and explained why I have had such a miserable life. I am almost 70 now and it is too late to change anything. At least I can now happily await my soon death and be released from all the pain and humiliation with the knowledge why it was so terrible to live. I am glad I never got the chance to get any children so one will continue suffer. Some people just take the bad lotto ticket in life and are just born complete losers from the start and never got any help in time to change it. That is life which can be very cruel. I am glad that will die soon. But Tims work is of course very important for those that can be reached early in life...

[@davidpeterson8424]

I’m sorry

[@sas879]

I do feel your pain….. l am 46 years and discovered myself just 6 months ago. However,it’s never too late to heal. By taking that bold step to heal, you can be an agent of change and also help others heal. Wishing you the very best!

[@Steven-Primrose-Hazel]

@@petervisen I disavow your statement that it's too late to change! I understand it feels that way, but you can change continuously. Maybe not as fast or as efficient but you can.

[@ataraxia_andrea]

It's NEVER TOO LATE my friend. Several years living FREE is worth more than decades stuck in pain.

[@rpmcmurphey927]

I was trained from as young as I can remember, that everything was my own fault... Un learning this hurts and angers me so deeply, but also delivers so much peace at the same time.

[@CMoore8539]

RP McMurphy Same here.♥️

[@rpmcmurphey927]

@@CMoore8539 ❤

[@avalonmist254]

I've been in recovery for 34 years and yet CPTSD will continue to effect with unexpected triggers and reading situations the wrong way and yet I don't even know : Abuse Amnesia. This is a process and being disciplined to attend a 12 step group is enough to change your life and can work. I do the best to heal myself back from the past and being very kind to myself!

[@SarahDale111]

This was the first time I've ever heard anyone say anything about leaving the body and floating up at the ceiling while the body is being abused. I had that experience. Of course I had to go back in the body, and for years I felt like I had died, but the body kept on going. It was hell.

[@sunrayrosin7181]

The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.

[@Ali76564]

We are ment to hate evil out of love aswell

[@783342]

You are such a lovely man. I think all of us want to tell you our stories so we ca reach a crossroad and start again in a different direction and do it right. I'm 84 and was recently traumatised again, financially this time. it's hard to get over feeling kicked to the kerb. and going back to five again, or 15 again or every day in between, Nice to be able to tell someone, though.Thank you.

[@Hollysuzette33]

Its so true about the cortisol and fight or flight. In 2020 a fire swept into my town with fierce winds. In our minutes we had to grab some nessesary items...our brains wouldn't really work. ..i even said, "i cant make my brain work!" Other people who fled that day said that their stupid brains wouldn't work either. All we were good for was fleeing.

[@frizzyrascal1493]

He described me perfectly as an Emotional Stuffer. I numbed myself down for over 10+ years. It was an up and down. I smoked for years, nicotine pouches that gave me a numbing buzz and borderline alcoholic. Thank God I broke free from those, but the pain is still heavy.

[@JCImageInc.]

Thank you so much for this. Its painful to see how I have been, but I have hope now.

[@TassiaNathalia]

Same here 🥺

[@WanitaLund]

Thank you, I'm struggling with a spending addiction, I'm constantly fighting and struggling. I'm so tired, I want to be a better person than I am. But I don't know how, but this is helping thank you again

[@rg1whiteywins598]

Me too. And it's a struggle because I don't do debt or fail my financial obligations , so I tell myself it's not so bad. But I still haven't been saving as much money as I would like or should. It's so frustrating.

[@Granny-o4w]

Christy is learning how to be healthy by the grace of God and the dude who is a gift from god Tim Fletcher

[@Maruzzela-l1u]

Instant gratification..i love these vids so much.when i hear a truth it hadnt dawned on me its an EXPERIENCE that realisation which changes me within.of course experiencing something is the real value versus listening to words that make sense .even so i dont have the patience to feel it and let it sink .i keep hoping i ll hear this one truth that will change everything whereas i realise now its almost like bricks our psyche our heart is a construct not a fleing idea

[@yourenough3]

Another great video. Lots of aha ( thats me kind of moments ,). I am surprised this hasnt had more views. Thank you.

[@CMoore8539]

LIFEISAJOURNEY LETITGO Hi There!😊. I’m one of your subscribers! I listen to this man every day.♥️

[@yourenough3]

@@CMoore8539 hello. =)

[@tendo16860]

A friend who healed from pathological depression referred me to these videos. I have given several videos a listen and it is making sense. I'm also officially neurodivergent, so this is also an interesting mix. Over a decade of therapy over esteem issues and perfectionism, and a tendency to remain in my own low self esteem in other areas besides my job. The first friends in childhood were Christians who showed me true friendship despite trauma.

[@lynettetehuia5021]

Thank you Fabulous learnings Great presentation 😊

[@haidyyousif2125]

Cant Thank you Enough 🙏for Knowledge you Share.

[@morganmayfair4755]

I think one way of creating drama is to carry that inner critical voice around with you all the time. Being criticized feels normal, so if no one in your life is being that way you can still flail yourself and all the chaos is inside you.

[@justforfun-z6t]

your my guy best iv listened to brilliant stuff.

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

This is powerful information. Thank u so much❤

[@FuzzyValentine-n3h]

Just found this...thank you!!!

[@Star-dj1kw]

✅ very good video

[@HappyHolyHealthyLife]

Thank you so much 💓

[@lilysunshine3447]

Does chocolate or broccoli give energy to the brain to stay vigilant? How to understand Epigenetics for survivors of war, revolution, and refugees. What does Gabor Mate say? Is instant gratification a trigger for people with a history of starvation?. Wouldn’t they be willing to eat.both? Gratitude for any food. Can it triggers eat it now or may not have any later?

[@anjknelson9013]

So, complex trauma creates a narcissist who is stuck in childish emotions and thought patterns, a state of arrested development. Prov 21:22 "Scoffer" is the name of the arrogant haughty man who acts with arrogant pride. Prov 22:10 Drive out a scoffer and strife will go out, and quarelling and abuse will cease.

[@Ali76564]

Pride is the main problem due to narcissist

[@davspa6]

12:00 I see what you're saying. Because the cortisol acts to shut down the cerebral cortex, the first thing we need to do is to stop down is to stop that overreaction... Then we can use the cerebral cortex and think rationally...

[@CJSmith-ky5bh]

The steering analogy - like reversing a trailer. The brain takes ages to adapt and it needs to be done with small changes…

[@queenofhearts1138]

Emotional Stuffer .... parts of me I hate... parts of me I wish I could cut away... geeesh.... this is tough whew...

[@reneemoore6249]

I'm curious, are you, the reader 28 y/o or 58 y/o? Both ages for me a stage of intense inner work.

[@Adis-Zahnpasta]

🙏🙏🙏

[@Nottherebutthere]

Volume cannot be made loud enough.

[@melindalemmon2149]

Can't hear. Darn.

[@painterbenny4087]

Wow. What now.

[@robinhalladay7828]

Demons that try to take control. Healing and deliverance is nessasary to overcome the past. Moving forward and not living in the past. Docs on eternity with Christ. Die to selfishness. Deny yourself pick up your cross and follow Christ.

[@thehonest14]

12:00

[@todddanforth8853]

Why would this presenter think it's funny to say we might go home feeling depressed about how svrewed up we are? Really??? Those of us who have lived with this sh1t don't think it is funny at all.