I'd love to not feel vaguely threatened just by hearing talking in the hall, or that I'm losing my mind and forgot about doing something, before considering that it might have been the other person's mistake.
@arstars4112 жыл бұрын
Well said, it is such a helplessly automatic response and it feels depleting and endless. Grounding techniques help, yet - to need them is a sinking feeling. :) stay fearless, bold & brave!
@GreasyBaconMan4 ай бұрын
Seriously consider fasting! If you’re willing to go without food even for a day, but make sure to stay hydrated with water through out the day, you will find that a lot of this hyper vigilance will be reduced even by 5 - 10% depending on the person. And of course, it’s also true that if you go longer the percentage go up as you build your resiliency to go longer without food! Fasting is a healer mentally, spiritually and physically. I continue to take my supplements vitamin D, Nutrifol for women, Ashwaghanda, etc… when fasting. Your sleep will also change.
@wendywaddellhardy8820 Жыл бұрын
I am beginning to understand that what I thought was introversion, may in fact be hyper-vigilance. Actually I know it is. Always watched my mom's facial expressions to figure out what mood she was in. I was scared of her. Happy to have found you, Dr. Kim!
@mrstoner2udude799 Жыл бұрын
I know I'm hyper vigilant. I thought it was good thing. It has helped me at my job but socially, not so much. Realizing triggers and back-tracking them to a childhood situation, is a game changer.
@AbS-8122 жыл бұрын
My father was diagnosed as a narcissistic psychopath, and I have been looking into this because I’ve been having a lot of problems with being paranoid about what others think of me, constantly apologizing to people about situations, always thinking and overreacting about the fact of people potentially talking about me whenever they’re laughing, and always fearing the worst. I always thought that was somewhat normal tbh
@stephenprice5882 Жыл бұрын
Same situation here. This is unfair
@noneofyourbuizness Жыл бұрын
Over apologising is a sign of a low self esteem ❤❤❤
@di_kid00 Жыл бұрын
@@noneofyourbuizness and where does that low self-esteem come from? Hearing this frustrates me. It’s as if it’s all under our control to change the how those caretakers had drilled into us as kids that we were worthless to the point of being violated physically and mentally just from being born. It’s no wonder any talking, laughing, look or regard = intense anxiety and hyper-vigilance. It had once meant being hurt reaaaal badly. Not just a mental self-esteem thing.
@melissad339013 күн бұрын
Same, but I'm working on changing it
@rachelreid15854 ай бұрын
I have a parent who constantly used gestural intimidation every time I said or did something they did not approve of -- even now at age 30, I get the occasional "stop that" wave of the hand, even though I said nothing wrong. I am convinced my hyper-vigilance and neuroticism is linked to my constant efforts to appease this parent. They also gaslit me every time I expressed how I was feeling. "You shouldn't feel that way," or a scoff. It has caused a lack of confidence and its spilling over my relationships. The feeling I can't trust those close to me because I'm not good enough for them. I'm trying very hard to find ways to stop the inner turmoil, because I really don't want it to rule my life or spill onto others.
@mollysimmons2960 Жыл бұрын
This might sound strange… I’ve found being hyper-vigilant has proven beneficial for me. I’m a professional driver & the awareness in being hyper-vigilant helps me see everything around me as I’m driving local or interstate. I’ve avoided many, many accidents because of it.
@fc4660 Жыл бұрын
You’re right about that but I’m hoping that being hyper aware might still be possible whilst reducing the fear reaction that comes with being hyper vigilant. that’s what I’m aiming for to give my poor body a break from being flooded with so much cortisol all day every day, which has messed up my health.
@zerstorer335 Жыл бұрын
It doesn’t sound strange. Hyper vigilance, on its own, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. The problem comes when it crops up in a time or place where it’s not appropriate or where it’s not helpful. If that vigilance that helps on the road turned into you feeling extra stress walking down a hallway, then it’s a problem.
@mollysimmons2960 Жыл бұрын
@@zerstorer335 I’ve spent my life with the trauma from losing my mom at the age of 4, then violently raped at the age of 5 in the place where I was “babysat”. So truthfully my entire life I’ve never physically felt safe anywhere or with anyone. I guess you would say that’s the fear. For me it’s so internal I wouldn’t know what it was…not having that kind of “fear” I’m sensitive, quiet & feel I’m loving my life. I developed a form of telepathic animal & plant communication. I have incredible pets that amaze my neighbors & a house & garden full of plants & wildlife… my friends & neighbors show me great respect & tenderhearted care. So apparently another spiritual or mental channel was opened from all that Trauma & neglect. Tho… I’m attractive enough I’ve never “fit” in. Life is full of mystery, so many things us humans don’t use or understand.
@Ericrr794 ай бұрын
Don’t get me wrong it is brutal if you don’t know what it is like I did my whole life. But on the sports field I have vision like Barry Sanders from constant acute awareness at all times. Same with poker and reading people and there tendencies
@LOVE_ALL_AROUND29 күн бұрын
Dr Sage...as Wendy Williams said "you are a friend in my head." Thank you again for your amazing content.
@lilcherryblossom Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU!! I told my mother years ago that pills are not going to fix anything and that I wanted to get to the root of my issues. She raged and said I was stupid for not wanting them. She didn’t understand that healing is possible without them or that they can be used in conjunction with self work… she just saw them as the quick fix, cover up solution to get you to act “normal”.
@dartcree81854 ай бұрын
No longer exhausting. It's been normalized. Triggers: * rejection * changes in location. * Not,. Good. Enough. * Waiting for the next rejection. * Sound of voice can be a real one. Took me 4 months to come down from one. * parents ignroed me. * Or slammed me into doors hard enough to see stars. * mockery and dissmissive. I can catch most triggers now, but I don't know most of them. * Spend most of my life in intellectual disociation. Living in my head, never in my heart. * Numbed emotions. Caregive: * bottle fed. * picked up to get changed, bathed, fed.
@PeaceFan12 жыл бұрын
This describes Me to a T!! I am an adult and I STILL respond from my Inner Child wounds and PTSD because of How I was treated by my Parents!!
@Flower-power99Ай бұрын
Constantly feeling on edge makes me exhausted mentally and physically. I was in a bad car accident at 17 and also was a very sensitive child and when my dad would yell I hid. I have a strong startle response for sure. Thanks for this video ❤
@user-nm9yg6ct9l2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I was thinking I was just severely fucked up without any guidance on how to heal.
@TD-bu9wv Жыл бұрын
The sigh...my husband all of the time you just made me realize I get triggered by it and it always happened before particularly bad beatings. Thank you so much💜 this is going to help us so much. Thank you
@emipopescu32575 ай бұрын
@2:23 there aren't always triggers for hypervigilance, sometimes it's just a mechanism continously doing its thing in the background, an emotional pattern established long ago.. It resembles anxiety pretty much but it's grounded differently.. And there's no rational trigger to identify & solve.. You just have to dig deeper..
@aC-zj9rh2 жыл бұрын
Such a great video! I resonate with this. It's like you were talking about my life. Thank you for the help I need to understand myself. I have an appointment for therapy in two days. I was worried about what to discuss with her, but it's clear now.
@loriachaddon84977 ай бұрын
I actually don't startle easily. I am really hard to surprise because I am so hyperaware of my environment. Even if I am surprised, it does not start a flight response. Outwardly I tend to seem super, dead calm. Internally I am in a state of situational analysis and preparation to fight.
@gina130425 күн бұрын
You sound as if you work(ed) in security
@loriachaddon849725 күн бұрын
@gina1304 Have in the past, and I am working in security again now. We'll just say I am good at what I do. 😇
@gina130425 күн бұрын
@@loriachaddon8497 me,too 😂
@dawnzimmermann29582 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I stopped sleeping again on Monday night and it carried on till last night. I wracked my brain this morning, I watched so many videos to find some answer and this was the one that answered me. I found a huge trigger Iv basically repressed my whole life… duh!!! Its a slow process but thank you. Hopefully I sleep tonight.
@jasminedahir9645 Жыл бұрын
I became hyper vigilant after being bullied in school
@franciscojaviermoreno406811 ай бұрын
That was common to me too. I hope you are better now
@jasminedahir964511 ай бұрын
@@franciscojaviermoreno4068thanks, I’m a lot better now especially since I got into healing and stuff.
@kenlandgren47012 ай бұрын
Thank you for this informative video. I am a retired US Army Officer and had severe PTSD when I retired. I healed myself 160 degrees and now use the healing methodology on others. Essentially, I help them become happier. Then I give them coping skills for the symptoms. The last part is dealing with the trauma. I noticed many people who are less depressed and encumbered by the symptoms have an easier go at dealing with the trauma(s).
@denisegirmer4550 Жыл бұрын
Also rule out borderline nutritional deficiencies!
@mrstoner2udude799 Жыл бұрын
This is such a good point. When I recovered from depression and anxiety, I approached it from all sides. Nutrition is one REALLY important component. Caffeine and sugar are toxic stimulants that add to hyper vigilance.
@timporter8886 Жыл бұрын
Hiya Dr Kim, just wanted to say thank you so much for your wonderful posts. I can tell how skilled/gifted you are by the way you communicate this information. I came across you by chance, but it was so serendipitous; because I discovered Attachment Theory for the very first time; and in discovering it, it has changed my understanding of everything! I can't believe how much difference this knowledge has made to me, my life, my understanding of myself and others. I wish I'd have discovered this decade ago. How very different life MAY have been! But at least I have found it (and your inspirational posts). I might never have discovered it! With genuine gratitude..thanks Kim! Tim 😊
@blueskygal255 Жыл бұрын
Tools really matter. I didn't change til I got some.
@anielyantra1 Жыл бұрын
I spent more on therapies of all sorts than I did on my college education. The most important thing I learned was medications don't work on the causes and imprinting is permanent. Therapies can help becoming aware and providing coping mechanisms but not healing. That is not an option once imprinted.
@loriachaddon84977 ай бұрын
Plus side, my hypervigilance makes me really good at working security.
@Marie-zg5ku Жыл бұрын
I think hyper-vigilance is so underrated...
@DJSTOEK6 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@victoriam389410 ай бұрын
Great video ❤
@edugy3819 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. It has really shed light on how to make the needed changes to get my body to a state of calm.
@biba350 Жыл бұрын
I've just moved home fresh start but I've ruined it with hyper vigilant worrying about what ppl think how on earth am i going to put this right 💔
@shawnmendrek3544 Жыл бұрын
ptsd/cp-ptsdb sisters/brothes, happy you made it her e.
@rsamuels696910 ай бұрын
Needed this!
@Love2heal4 ай бұрын
Used to be me for 48 years I’ve recovered with my faith after after experiencing horrible traumamatc situation
@wisewordsforlife28662 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this!
@grassclippings70442 жыл бұрын
It's like you have a crystal ball....💕
@Kinship13 ай бұрын
What if you're just hypervigilant all of the time, I do mean literally 24/7, with or without a trigger?
@calebcasual28 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@user-is8jw5lc6n7 ай бұрын
This is me❤
@cassiestevens8382 Жыл бұрын
Thanks💓
@Kinship13 ай бұрын
Medication does not help hypervigilance by the way. Also I did not find the video at all helpful.
@cinadamatilly2 жыл бұрын
Dr Kim, Thank you for your videos and the time you spend creating them. Each time I learn something new and it opens my view on the past and understanding it. Even when I'm not focusing on a topic, I like to hear your voice. It is so soothing!