TMS - Mistakes that can keep us in chronic pain

MISTAKES THAT KEEP US IN PAIN
I see folks saying, I must not have TMS because I did the emotional work, or journaling or felt my emotions and the pain never went away. If you are doing any of these things, it may be challenging for the brain to give up the distraction strategy of pain or symptoms. Yes, this is a review, but I've added several bonus mistakes too.

[@jamesroof6150]

4 years after recording this it is very useful in February 2024. Your archive is very helpful as I often look at your archive to watch the one that speaks most to where I am right now/today. I listen about once a day and limit it to no more than 30 minutes. As you say it is important to get on with your day and not spend hours and hours online focusing on trying to fix yourself and continually having it rolling it around in your brain. Any activity or hobby that helps me focus my mind on other things (and not think about the pain) generally results in pain reduction or even moments of disappearance of pain. Wish everyone best success. It's simple but it ain't easy.

[@tousift7822]

Wow I saw u have replied to so many people,thank you for taking ur time and giving it to others, answering people in need and pain, really appreciate ur a great soul.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for noticing. :-)

[@Inge508]

After nearly 5 months into watching / learning from your videos I can proudly say that I almost ´unlearned ‘ all of the mistakes you are mentioning here !I think that’s called progress?! Nice!!! Thanks Dan! 17 years of other therapies didn’t brought me this far!👍🌺🌺🌺

[@PainFreeYou]

Great job! So proud of you!!!

[@bebrave9108]

Dan, you have no idea how much I appreciate you

[@PainFreeYou]

I appreciate your continued support and kind words. Thank you.

[@tina_820]

Sooooooo moving from 1 Doctor to another. Not anymore. Thank you Dan. Boooooooom

[@PainFreeYou]

Boom!

[@tina_820]

@@PainFreeYou 😉

[@Daniel-qw3os]

Hello Dan! I've been following you for some time now! I remember a few videos ago you asked if you repeat yourself too much and yes you do but I think that's vital for the understanding of this whole process of explaining TMS. I also have TMS. But I just can't get over the fact that I did this to myself. I just can't let go of the fact that I am at least for some part responsible for my pain. A video on letting go of this type of stuff would be helpful. Keep up the good work!

[@PainFreeYou]

I'll definitely address this issue because it is very common. Thanks for the great topic suggestion. And for the record, you did NOT do this to yourself. your subconscious did and you do NOT control that. As a matter of fact, most of the subconscious programs are not even yours. They were given to you as you were being brought up.

[@HieronymousLex]

Hey Dan, you’ve really been helping me through an extremely hard time more than you know. You’re great at talking about tms and helping me solidify the concepts in my mind. I’m 23 now, been in pain two years, but I do now believe 100% that TMS is what I am suffering from, and that I am going to recover. I have been running from my emotions for so long that I don’t even know what’s lurking deep inside. TMS has been doing it’s job. But I’m determined to turn my attention inwards, and lose the fear of pain. Thanks for the words of wisdom and for being a beacon of hope for me.

[@PainFreeYou]

I'm really thrilled to be able to help. You are on the right track.

[@morningwithgracie7870]

How r u?

[@heldenkreuz]

Well done, sir. Well done... Helping people in a very meaningful way. #GodsWork. 🙏🏼

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you! Appreciate your kind words.

[@tamsynfallows3234]

I also find the idea of emotional suppression/repression hard to put together with the fact I have tms as I'm not someone who hides from my feelings at all - in fact i voice most of them as well as thinking and feeling them internally. I do fit the bill in other ways though - of being hard on myself, experiencing sadness and trauma, and being overly conscientious. I have definitely seen a TMS video before where a woman who had had RSI for 13 years said she did the emotional work suggested, found very little as a result, but still followed the Sarno steps being really sure it was TMS and not physical, going back to things that she'd stopped doing etc, and made a full recovery! So i'm going to keep that in mind and keep trying to learn and move beyond this problem. Thanks again for your videos, it's great to have all the extra help and support in recovering as possible. Very helpful of you. Wishing you all the best!

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you. What I've learned is that not everybody has repressed emotions as the root cause. A hyper-vigilant nervous system and lots of fear/danger signals can also turn on symptoms.

[@jeanhannah9809]

@@PainFreeYou Interesting. I believe long term low level stress caused my Parkinson’s rather than anything in my distant past. I’m having good results dealing with a related pain in my left lower abdomen using these techniques. I’m cautiously optimistic that I can apply them to my Parkinson’s symptoms too 😁

[@PainFreeYou]

@@jeanhannah9809 Please keep me posted. At the end of the day there is ZERO downside to teaching your brain that you are safe in your body, thoughts and emotions and settling down the nervous system. This can only yield positive results.

[@dr360joules]

I feel you! I'm in the same boat. Makes it hard to know how to do the psychological work.

[@thaliabirrueta8456]

Could you sent me a link about the woman who had RSI for 13 years?

[@donp11]

This is huge ! Great video Dan

[@PainFreeYou]

Appreciate it!

[@themistersmith]

Remember folks, from the first time Dan heard about Sarno until he was healed, several years lapsed. That does not mean this will be true for you, but you cannot expect to recover overnight. Some do, but it is rare. Generally, their symptoms come back somewhere as they did not do the necessary pyschological work.

[@PainFreeYou]

While it did take me many years to end my symptoms, it won't take you nearly that long. It took me MANY MANY years to figure out the formula or recipe. I made mistakes for years and once I got the formula right, I was able to end my pain quickly. You can too.

[@carolina6683]

Thank you Dan, very useful!

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you liked.

[@greenhornedrhino3046]

Thank god for this guy

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you D A

[@charlottewalker7597]

Thank you so much! This was a HUGE help!

[@PainFreeYou]

You are welcome.

[@lisaabreu5509]

In my family we have this weird love style where people don’t really know how to live but we know how to take care of sickness and so when we want love we get sick to pull someone close to us to take care of us because that feels like love.

[@PainFreeYou]

That's a common experience for many.

[@nancer2279]

Hi Dan, thank you for your videos. Just watched this one as well as a few others after not watching you for me over a year. You really be help me not feel alone. At this point my fear is fed more by 4 years of TMS implementation , resuming life despite the constant pain and minimal/ no relief ,then the medical model which I abandoned early on. It's very disheartening and discouraging. I'm so exhausted from the constant pep talks to myself that it continues the stress response I'm sure. I've also gone through phases where I stop trying anything and looking at anything to heal. In four years Ive been and done it all. Maybe you can make a video about that. I hope I'm not discouraging others. Everyone's path is different.

[@PainFreeYou]

Nancer - it's not a matter of watching videos. It's implementing the concepts. Do you believe your pain is from TMS or are there doubts it may be your body. Take the pain test to find out: DanBuglio.com/paintest For Recovery, let's focus on the basics. Here are a few videos below that sum up my concepts. Perceived Danger Pain: www.youtube.com/watch?v=tnU6K... Let's Simplify Recovery: www.youtube.com/watch?v=3tIuc... Consistent Messages of Safety: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4TWfKF3nKappLs 6 Steps to resuming activity: www.youtube.com/watch?v=mRowJ... Focus on these basics. Repetition. Over and over. Focus on what you want. Focus on KNOWING that there's nothing to fix. Focus on the FACT that you are safe and not broken. Not physically, mentally or emotionally. Shift your attention to doing more normal things. Less fixing. More living. Smile. This is temporary and you can get well. Copy and paste this into a document or email and save it. These few videos can literally be enough. Here's where you can view my free daily videos and the full archive on KZbin: DansKZbin.com Now, if you can spare even $100, you can get my full video course and a months worth of weekly group coaching calls. That may be enough to get you moving in the right direction. If you love the program, you can stick around for $100 per month. Comparatively, it's by far, the best value in TMS coaching available. And... it works. Not sure if a group format is for you? Many have felt that way and very quickly felt like they found a super loving and supportive bunch of people who get it. Their shyness and anxiety about speaking in a group format was replaced by the support of others. We are all different, yet the same. There's no reason to try and recover alone. Details and sign up: PainFreeYou.com/join Whether you join the group or not, you CAN get better. I'm here to help whether you pay me or not. PS: If you believe someone in your life needs this information, share it, copy and paste it into an email. Get the word out.

[@nancer2279]

Thank you. I currently struggle with my belief that my pain is from TMS because I believed it for so long and had no results. That's what causes the doubt.

[@justinroper4220]

All the stuff you're saying is stuff that I do on the daily! Haha glad to know what's holding me back.

[@PainFreeYou]

Time to make a switch. Have you considered the course and group coaching program I offer? PainFreeYou.com/join

[@justinroper4220]

@@PainFreeYou I just read sarnos books this week and am working on journaling and myself so I’m going to test myself and see if I can beat this on my own. I’ll keep in touch!

[@doraemonrosemarie6770]

thank you,, i love all your videos..

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you like them!

[@sportsinjuries6593]

You have talked a bit against doctors 😂😂😂 but still i find this video one of my most favourite videos from you sir ,,,

[@PainFreeYou]

I love doctors. If I had a heart attack, stroke, cancer or major accident, there's no place I'd rather be than in the hands of a capable doctor. Unfortunately, their track record in dealing with chronic pain or other stress induced illness is less than ideal. No offense. Glad you liked this video. :-)

[@sportsinjuries6593]

@@PainFreeYou due to doubts in these track record i have opened my mind for other reasons and treatments and Dr Sarnos work seemed me to be the real reason for chronic pain

[@CaraCurtis-lv8nc]

Hi Dan not sure if you will read this as this is an old video that I stumbled upon. Anyways in case you do, I have a question about your comment re migraines being TMS. Whilst I believe that they can be, what I really struggle with is the fact that so many women myself included have migraines triggered by their monthly cycle or lead ip to menopause. Mine became daily after the menopause transition and a very stressful life event that occurred at the same time . I so want to believe TMS is solely responsible for my migraines so I can heal but it's hard when I know there's another biological / hormonal component. Are you able to shed clarity on this for me?

[@PainFreeYou]

If hormones and menopause cause migraines, why doesn't everyone have them? I believe that a hyper sensitive brain and nervous system can interpret the NORMAL hormonal changes as a threat and turn on symptoms. Then we begin to fear the hormonal changes which perpetuates the cycle of perceived danger. The fear of the migraines themselves can be enough to keep them going and make them daily. The hormones are coincidental, not the cause in my opinion.

[@CaraCurtis-lv8nc]

Thanks I wasn't expecting a reply so that was a bonus!

[@greenhornedrhino3046]

Love this

[@clairebaker2314]

Dan I want to exercise as that’s what I enjoy but every time I do it flares my pain so what do I do? Please help

[@whatever-fs5zs]

i have a question i am confused. how can i feel my emotions for example i become sad because of the pain but i should ignore the pain?

[@PainFreeYou]

Understanding what actually causes pain is the beginning of the journey to recovering from chronic pain. My fast start playlist of videos explains exactly what is going on and what to do about it. This is your solution: DansFastStart.com - Watch. Take notes. Implement. Repeat. Again and again.

[@MsFiFix1]

hello Dan - i have been having very bad brain fog / memory problems. i feel like i am in a bubble i can't talk or think properly. I have not seen this being mentioned as a TMS symptom to i am finding it really scary and concerned that if i label it TMS there might be something more serious going on. Have you ever seen this be related to TMS?

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, I have seen these issues handled with a TMS approach. The general rule of thumb is to rule out anything serious or life threatening. Tumors, infections, fractures, stroke, heart issues. Once you do that, you rule IN this thing called TMS. You can do that with the pain test. Just substitute your symptoms for the word "pain" in the questions: DanBuglio.com/paintest

[@sparkely1122]

Can you do a video on IBS?

[@PainFreeYou]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKvEY5yKd513mdU

[@lindamon5101]

My back is killing me. I broke my coccyx off taboganing off a snow drifted 6 ft retaining wall. 40+ yrs of pain drs, yoga, u name it. I hope this works. My sacrum is hurts badly. Im sorry. It is mind boggling to think i can emote it away. Where do i start?

[@PainFreeYou]

Linda - there's more to how pain works that "emoting it away." The information below will tell you more about how pain can start and become chronic. Even pain from a true injury can stick around. Fear, focus and anxiety about the injury can teach the nervous system to keep the pain going long after the injury has healed. Check out the links below to get started. Go to PainFreeYou.com and watch the video. Next step is to determine if TMS is what's going on in your world. There are three self assessments I like to refer people to. Why three? Because they are simple, only take a few moments and you get three "opinions" and will have a better idea than if you just did one. So, PainFreeYou.com - then enter your email and download the self assessment and go through it carefully. See if you can determine that TMS/Stress Illness is what is going on for you. PPDAssociation.org/symptoms - look through the list of symptoms. Then answer the 30 questions. The more you can say "yes" to, there you know you have TMS or what they are calling a psychophysiologic pain disorder. You don't need all of them to have TMS. Lastly, I have a "pain test" on my website: DanBuglio.com/paintest Any score over 29 out of 50 means TMS and you can end your symptoms.

[@lindamon5101]

@@PainFreeYou thankyou sir& bless your❤for generously sharing your knowledge& skills with others! Greatly appreciated!

[@PainFreeYou]

@@lindamon5101 You are welcome.

[@MsAnchovey]

Please could someone list the mistakes here in brief, I would really appreciate it.

[@PainFreeYou]

You can download them at PainFreeYou.com.

[@sparkely1122]

Should I stop doing testing? I was going to check for parasites and a gi map test...

[@PainFreeYou]

That is up to you and your doctor. Do they feel those are the causes of IBS? What are your thoughts about stress suppressing the digestive system and stress/fear causing the digestive issues?

[@sparkely1122]

@@PainFreeYou well honestly they labeled me with sibo and I think that's a joke. I do not believe in ibs or sibo. The pain and constipation are wild which is what I'm trying to battle! But I know, I might hsult testing go hard on tms work and see what happens in pain. I've watched your videos ALL MORNING and so far today is the first day my pain stayed under a 3!!!!

[@stojankakuzmanovska5551]

❤

[@Katie-gd8bd]

Can this video be applied to my fear of feeling unsteady/ dizzy?

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, dizziness is a perceived danger response. Learn more here: www.PainFreeYou.com/start

[@Katie-gd8bd]

I know you talk about pain, that’s why I was just wondering if other sensations can be the same? Thank you!

[@Sailormoonc3038]

I made all those mistakes. Does TMS apply to pelvic pain and bladder symptoms?

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, that is a very common symptom. The best bet is for you to determine for yourself by completing some self assessments. Unsure if YOU have TMS? Go to PainFreeYou.com and watch the video. Next step is to determine if TMS is what's going on in your world. There are three self assessments I like to refer people to. Why three? Because they are simple, only take a few moments and you get three "opinions" and will have a better idea than if you just did one. So, PainFreeYou.com - then enter your email and download the self assessment and go through it carefully. See if you can determine that TMS/Stress Illness is what is going on for you. PPDAssociation.org/symptoms - look through the list of symptoms. Then answer the 30 questions. The more you can say "yes" to, there you know you have TMS or what they are calling a psychophysiologic pain disorder. You don't need all of them to have TMS. Lastly, I have a "pain test" on my website: DanBuglio.com/paintest Any score over 29 out of 50 means TMS and you can end your symptoms. If it appears to be TMS in your specific case, this video maps out the entire recipe for ending your symptoms. Get these figured out and implemented in your life and you'll be fine. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@Sailormoonc3038]

Pain Free You the pain test start button doesn’t work for me....😞

[@dommccaffry3802]

There seems to be so much more to tms than pain , but literally all the tms videos ive seen are all about just pain

[@PainFreeYou]

I agree with you and accordingly, I try to use phrases like "other symptoms" often. There could literally be thousands of symptoms caused by stress, tension, emotional experience and the like. To be sure about yours, take the pain test, but answer the questions as it relates to YOUR specific symptom. DanBuglio.com/paintest

[@dommccaffry3802]

@@PainFreeYou thanks !

[@Daniel12№]

Is a hiatus hernia TMS?

[@PainFreeYou]

Hernias are real things that sometimes require medical intervention. However, sometimes the pain persists even after the doctors have fixed the hernia. THAT can be TMS, but do not ignore a hernia. Seek medical attention as there can be complications if severe and not handled.

[@Daniel12№]

I have a sliding hiatus hernia, it does not require surgery but it is easily triggered by over eating, spicy food or even lifting something a little heavy or bending over to pick something up. Every time i get a flare up my heart rate increases to 130 bpm it automatically brings me to a panic attack and anxiety. The stomach puts pressure on the vegas nerve. There are nights i only get 2 hours of sleep before going to work. I have been dealing with this for two years and now i have sensitive nerves. I can't lay flat on my back to sleep because i wake up with my nerves just firing all over my body and i get a pulsating nerve in the middle of my back, i have to sleep in my recliner and i have to wear computer glasses all the time to get rid of the pressure in my forehead. I've tried forcing myself to relax but all i feel is the heart palpitations, but eventually i calm down and rest better. Iam learning to do everything in a calming way and see if that would help my sensitive nerves.

[@mariachiblues]

I emailed you. Waiting anxiously for your reply 🙏🏾

[@PainFreeYou]

Let me check

[@PainFreeYou]

I replied and can do 11AM your time today (friday).

[@navjot4086604]

12:54 I believe migraine have been finally proven to be neurological condition and it runs in the families too if you know that, so there is a huge biological component. You are taking us 50 years back when doctors believed that migraines are psychosomatic,the exact reason that delayed research into migraine.just my opinion.

[@PainFreeYou]

So, why are so many people ending years or decades of migraines with a mindbody / TMS approach? And, if it's "proven" that there is a biological component, what's the solution? To feel helpless requiring medications and medical treatments? What if the brain chemistry being blamed for the pain is the RESULT of TMS/Mindbody syndrome? (Too much stress / Too much thinking) I know many end their migraines with a TMS approach like that which I teach all the time.

[@navjot4086604]

There is no doubt stress reduction can help migraines but will it cure it completely?seems unlikely to me. I would really want to see people who have gotten completely cured.in most cases , people who are significantly helped tell that they are cured , so u might have been talking to such people.

[@chiarasalvagnin8406]

Hello, I hope in the meantime you have found the right path for you. I am here just to report what I heard at the Migraine World Summit. There was a famous Spanish neurologist (check her website "Mi dolor de cabeza") who explained how migraine is 90% environmental factors and only 10% genetics. From that moment I realized I could change my life because I could change the environment around me: from 30/30 days migraine + tension-type headache I now have one two-hour attack per month and it is not even an "attack". It is my body giving me a message. It wasn't easy. It was easier to think I could do nothing. Instead I had to do THE work. I hope you have found or will find a path of hope, wholeness and awareness ❤️ Sending you love and light 🙏 Thank you Dan for doing what you do 😊