To anyone who has lost hope in life: YouTube Live!

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@GregPrice-ep2dk Ай бұрын

Sometimes it's not your personal mindset. Some people are simply trapped in hopeless situations.

@mightymouse1005 Ай бұрын

@GregPrice. I know that's true...trapped in a hopeless situation kills the spirit

@GregPrice-ep2dk Ай бұрын

@@mightymouse1005 Indeed.

@mightymouse1005 Ай бұрын

@@GregPrice-ep2dk if you have had a situationship (they don't have relationship) with a narcissist, you're damaged in every way.

@GregPrice-ep2dk Ай бұрын

@@mightymouse1005 Not what I was referring to. I can't imagine what life would be like if I had to deal with a narcissist on top of my other problems.

@shereenbarber 29 күн бұрын

That’s absolutely true. Not every situation has an immediate solution or thought process that leads to a solution!

@williamastin9241 26 күн бұрын

I have experienced a good life. I am 93 years old. I am in good health physically. I don't want to go on. Everynight I say "lord it would be ok with me if I don't wake up." Wake up to another day of emptiness. I have outlived my oldest daughter 3 younger brothers and two grand children and of course my parents. I have one peer left from my youth I view life as Shakespere described it "life is but a walking shadow a poor player who struts and frets his hour upon the stage and then is heard no more.

@nobo2979 24 күн бұрын

Bless you.❤🙏

@avarismimi 17 күн бұрын

Same here❤

@octaviakuransky8569 13 күн бұрын

Could we - would it be possible - to stay in touch? Just email maybe? Just every now and again?

@KiwikimNZ Ай бұрын

To anyone reading this…. It’s not easy, life can be an endless struggle, being rock bottom and not even having the energy, hope or the will to live anymore, is so totally debilitating, it’s like you are living in hell and I get it. I struggle everyday, however, remember we only get one shot at this life, we are stronger and more resilient than we know, this too will pass, you are worthy of giving you life another opportunity to show you that it is full of wonder, blessings, beautiful and we do not know what incredible opportunities our future holds. I know your stuck, I know you feel you have tried everything and you can not see a way out, but please reach out and if you are reading or watching this, you are searching for a will to live or a reason to have hope, so there is still something within you that wants so very badly to stay here. Once it’s over it’s over, you can not come back and death is final. You are loved by someone and they would want so badly for you to reach out to them, please give them that opportunity to help you! ❤ hugs

@bonniebarnekow1415 28 күн бұрын

This was so good. I wish I could share this with a few people I know. Thank you for this. Bless you.

@1legend517 23 күн бұрын

This literally describes my life. Thank you.

@klanderkal 21 күн бұрын

Beautiful encouraging words.... for us that really are... suffering from the poor decisions that ruined our lives, and the anxiety, stress, insomnia and depression it's caused. I'm continuing to struggle 24/7. I really don't like living... I really feel hopelessness.. as my future has been wiped out, and I also lost my career job. That meant everything to me personally. ... Im mentally paralyzed. I cannot go outside anymore,.. and I lost all interests in life.

@johnmcglynn5131 9 күн бұрын

Thanks for your post ❤️

@Volkbrecht Күн бұрын

I find it weird how so many people have this "you only have one shot at life" attitude. The more I reflect on life, the more my attitude becomes: thank goodness this is a one-off, and finite. I don't even need to kill myself to get out of it.

@elisabethst.claire5088 Ай бұрын

At the very LEAST, you gave hope to one person today- me. Thank you.

@sg-zd8eb Ай бұрын

That won’t last.

@lunaportia989 Ай бұрын

@@sg-zd8eb Maybe it will! Who are you to say that it won't?

@ranjittyagi9354 Ай бұрын

@@sg-zd8ebWhy would you think and say so? I am sorry but that was quite insensitive of you. I don't know about you but we are a large, global family of folks who are associated with Dr. Scott in one way or another. Kindly, be kind to all. 🙏🏻

@niteycat Ай бұрын

The fact that there are so many here who have lost hope completely is sobering for me but not in a good way. There are so many of us out here who feel life isn’t going to get better because it has never been better for them. We have tried to change and do other things but we have that emptiness that still exists. There are people who never been in love or never had a sustainable friendship and they are hurting out here. Mind you some people have been constantly bullied their entire lives.

@girlwithpearls 21 күн бұрын

This is me... all of the relationships that are vital to a person's life, I have never experienced and I am deeply emotionally wounded as a result

@CyndieAmala Ай бұрын

I missed the live so I'm watching now. I was actually cleaning my apartment because I've been neglecting things around here for a long while now. Yesterday I even cleaned my cluttered patio and put out flowers 🌼 it needed a good sweeping too and I cleaned the outside of my windows! So I'm very slowly but surely coming back to life. It feels good but I'm still not 💯

@klpuhelin2816 Ай бұрын

Same here. Damn, I even got the announcement, but I didn't realize it was a live stream since I was listening to music and cleaning. But at least the house is now clean. 😁

@CyndieAmala Ай бұрын

@@klpuhelin2816 🧹🧽 it feels good when it's done ✅

@deborahbull5968 Ай бұрын

❤Just take it day by day

@CyndieAmala Ай бұрын

@@deborahbull5968 thanks 💗

@dotcassilles1488 Ай бұрын

If all you did today was to get out of bed, eat something and take 5 minutes to do something towards the house, like put some of the rubbish (trash) in a bag and put it in the outside bin, then it's a win. One of my friends once told me that it's OK to celebrate the tiny thing I did that no one else noticed. If that tiny thing helped me to live life, feel joy again or built momentum towards bigger change then it was worth celebrating. I live with bipolar spectrum disorder and a list of chronic health challenges so I feel like I have had a good day if I've eaten 2 meals, had a shower and done something useful for at least 5 minutes within the last 24 hours. I'm recovering from being bed bound. I keep telling myself to start slowly, do what works for me and be gentle with myself.. No bullying allowed. We can encourage one another, if we use our courage to share what we do and what works. Blessings from South Eastern Australia, Dot

@dotcassilles1488 Ай бұрын

We need to create our own custom mental health toolbox. We also need at least one person to listen, encourage, support and to help us in the lifelong journey. My hope returned when someone listened to me and the first thing they said was "I believe you". My full time job is to do whatever I can to recover from being bed bound and to get to the point where I can cope with and manage my chronic physical and mental health challenges. Blessings from South Eastern Australia, Dot

@Lindaheal Ай бұрын

Completely agree with you about the need for each of us to create a custom toolbox. Blessings on your journey with healing, thank you for sharing your great idea about the toolbox.

@b4467 Ай бұрын

It’s not mental health it’s this shitty world.

@charlottetaylor4471 Ай бұрын

Just like the quote (which I can never remember verbatim haha) - "it's no sign of good health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."

@Bearcub599 Ай бұрын

Well said👍

@1legend517 28 күн бұрын

Exactly!!

@1958KayDee 26 күн бұрын

Why bother

@1legend517 26 күн бұрын

This world and the people in it have become so terrible I don't have the desire or motivation to do anything anymore or to even be around others. I can't even function. Everywhere I look things just keep getting worse!!

@life5161 Ай бұрын

You Rock Dr. Scott. Thank you for making this kind of stuff on You Tube FREE to help even us poor folks who can't afford a therapist. I don't know if that made any sense but I appreciate this channel Big Time. When I'm in these dark places it helps having some place to turn.

@WolfWhite-kj1nr Ай бұрын

"we're all gonna have to keep fighting for as long as we're here"...true

@saintejeannedarc9460 Ай бұрын

No reason to actually.

@starseed45 Ай бұрын

You have such a wonderful perspective on dealing with mental health. 55 years in therapy only wasted my time 100s of different therapists and they never knew what they were doing. Yes I have modified my diet, exercise is fantastic, thinking the right thoughts is a miracle if you know what the right thoughts are. My last and current piece of the puzzle is Stoicism. I have never gotten so much reconfiguring of my mind with Ryan Holiday's book the Daily Stoic. I am finally learning to master my mind. And you doctor are another valuable addition to solving the challenge of mental health. Thank you

@licksnkicks1166 Ай бұрын

What a beautiful and heartfelt reply!

@katenka_ana3997 7 күн бұрын

A priest gifted me that book a few years ago. I like it a lot

@elainebezak7158 Ай бұрын

Hi Dr Scott. I love your KZbin. I turned 70 2 weeks ago. I feel hopeless and beyond hope. If it takes 10 to 20 years, I may not even be here. I like your idea of creating a life that fits me, because I always feel like I don’t fit in. That makes me more hopeless. I need to watch this again. Gain more perspective. The best thing about you is that you seem more open, relatable and have a way that is different, and makes things possible. No matter what we think about ourselves, you let us know we are included. 💕

@mightymouse1005 Ай бұрын

Invest 5 years and get 25 to 50 percent better. Maybe you will heal faster once you start. Do SMALL physical things. 2 or 5 pounds dumbbells are good, residence bands or just walk to thr curb a few times a day to start....little things add up for us older people. You deserve to be as happy as you can be. Bissell Van Der Kolk wrote "The Body Keeps the Score ' excellent book, you can get the work book as well...

@Lea-kk9zb Ай бұрын

I like the idea of doing small things-one step at a time. I have felt like I don‘t fit in for my whole life. And I have pretty much lost hope. I don‘t know what I‘m doing with my life

@mercx007 28 күн бұрын

I'm sorry life has not been kind to you Elaine

@VS04 22 күн бұрын

Something else that’s free is decluttering/organizing our rooms & homes - especially where we sleep. I do this professionally and see firsthand how much our immediate surroundings can affect our mental health.

@LoriNuttall Ай бұрын

Thank you, I'm struggling to stay here. Sometimes I want help, but mostly not right now. Life isn't something I desire. Your videos are something I can think about.

@dotcassilles1488 Ай бұрын

Thankyou for sharing your struggle, maybe we can encourage each other to keep going and to make what changes we can. I'm in my 40s and think that for me it's a case of I don't want to continue to daily struggle and suffer with the same symptoms over and over with no help, support or even sympathy/empathy from those who are around me. If you ask if I want to live my life like this (experiencing the worst flare-up of physical and mental symptoms, almost bed bound again) day after day for the next 40 to 60 years? Nope, I'm out unless I get actual physical help instead of words. So many things need to change in my daily life. I am picking apart all areas of my life and starting from scratch. I hold on to hope because I have rebuilt before. My motivation to keep going is that I intend to write a book of my experiences and how I dug myself out of the pit and darkness. Im going to focus part of it on all the useless advice and unhelpful things that people do or say, my inner bitch will show. I'm sick of being the good girl who does what she is told, who must meet others unrealistic expectations and who suffers in silence. My voice will be heard and my community will know my story. Blessings from South Eastern Australia, Dot

@Kawartha65 16 күн бұрын

I don’t often make comments on KZbin ….but your natural, straightforward and rudimentary approach is so impressive. You seem to avoid getting us caught in the mental weeds…. while at the same time unveiling hope in places we never even thought to look. You are a natural at what you do…and we are better for it. 🙏

@donovangray4246 Ай бұрын

Having someone take 10 yrs to fix something in their life is easier when you are in your 20's or 30's or maybe in their 40's but if you are in your mid 50's and you're struggling to cope with life at this point, I'd have to say you're going to feel you are stuck and there will be a very small chance that you can fix your brokenness before you find the end of your existence. I have more days behind me than in front of me and that is a fact. No amount of work on myself is going to matter at this point. I will live a mediocre life and die alone, in poverty and that is just the truth as I see it. Empowering metaphors and dialogue from you is helpful in making me feel better but won't change these facts none the less.

@christinelamb1167 Ай бұрын

I'm 60 years old, and unfortunately I feel the same. 😢I can't say I feel much hope at this point, even though I've recently returned to therapy after a 10-year break. Too many years have passed, and too much permanent damage has been done due to early trauma, and many life events in adulthood.

@noka214 Ай бұрын

53 year - old woman here and I am able to relate to your experience pretty easily! ❤ Still...I rather choose to believe there is always hope...even it would never be seen as a visible change in my environment or financial situation. I know as for a fact that there is always a possibility for a positive change occurring within myself, for example, through self-compassion that I am practicing at the moment. It has and will chang my mindset (how I feel about myself and my situation) hugely..and I never know how it will affect my (or your) environment in the end. We never know for 100% sure. But we do know for a fact that our perceptions and expectations for life do effect...always...for better or for worse... so we might as well wait for something positive instead of the negative. The potential disappointment (if nothing is going to change for the better) we fear so much sometimes will not hurt as much than knowing we did not even try to believe that we are worth of love and happiness. As long as there is life, there is hope! ❤

@tdang9528 Ай бұрын

Im not religious, but finding jesus allows you to accept your situation and not care, because there is a better outcome after death. Ignore the heaven and death bit, but if you dont worry anymore about the future, life works itself out

@donovangray4246 Ай бұрын

@@noka214 yes I do believe that self compassion can help me in dealing with my life as it is, I just don't believe that it can change very much. Thanks

@donovangray4246 Ай бұрын

@@tdang9528 I am sorry but once I am dead I will be gone and nothing can happen after that. I don't believe in an after life

@wendyhughes2234 Ай бұрын

Thank you for caring enough about people who are in need of the help from someone [in the mental health profession]. Your help sure is appreciated.

@artisticbloodflow Ай бұрын

This is the best live stream I have ever watched. Thank you so much for your insight and help

@DrScottEilers Ай бұрын

Wow, thank you!

@carolynatherton2106 Ай бұрын

100% agree ❤ Would love to catch a part 2 where you cover the things you ran out of time to include.

@catzrule5973 Ай бұрын

Thank you for this Dr Scott. I am going to save this to listen to again and again. My last therapist said to me "you sure have seen a lot of therapists". Yes, I have. I have noticed that I pick up a good idea from you, and run with it for a while, and then I stop. Each little step forward is not followed by 2 steps back, but maybe only a half step back. So little by little progress is made. Like you said I don't need to start a huge spread sheet of programmes to follow. But each day, do 1 thing towards wellness eg Monday wash 2 things off the kitchen bench🥤🍵, Tuesday take a 5 or 10 minute walk🚶‍♀ Wednesday chat to a stranger in the supermarket ... It really helps to break the pattern of doing no-things, nothing. 28 years or more struggling with depression, anxiety, recovery from trauma, but this is the year that it all changes. I love the way everyone contributes on here the things that work for them, and encourages each other. 🙋‍♀thank you 💛❤💙❤

@mercx007 Ай бұрын

Thank you for the livestream. I don't believe there are solutions for some of us. 8 billion on the planet; some people are not cut out for life, but we can certainly make it hurt a bit less

@NB-lx6gz Ай бұрын

I agree. If it wasn't for modernity and structure of society, many of us would not be here already! Including me. I was born premature but I function well. Mentally I'm not perfect

@dotcassilles1488 Ай бұрын

I guess it depends on what you mean by solutions. Do you mean complete cures, healing and recovery with no lasting symptoms or limitations on ability? Or prevention and education? Or do you mean that we can treat and manage symptoms without adding side effects or further diagnoses and by doing those things we limit the suffering and pain? The reality is very different to the dream of having the perfect system in which no one ever gets sick or suffers. But I believe we can do better than we are doing right now for most people.. Especially for those who live with chronic health challenges. Blessings from South Eastern Australia, Dot

@mercx007 28 күн бұрын

@@dotcassilles1488 Hi Dot, there are certain things that I cannot change and are a curse on my life. Things like who my family are, my body (ethnicity, genetics, body type), and the past are things that cannot be changed. I was thrown into a life I didn't ask for and don't want. There are no actionable goals I can work toward to solve these problems that cause me a lot of anguish. I feel the pain physically in my stomach

@Augfordpdoggie Ай бұрын

With kind respect sir, I lost hope 19 years ago, all in one fell swoop. A survivor of Childhood CPTSD, i had one thing that saved me my dream....then I lost that in 2005.....the fact that im still alive is strange.....such an empty life without my dream

@ryanwardcomedy Ай бұрын

Wat ws Yr dream

@noka214 Ай бұрын

But you are still alive!! ❤❤❤

@Augfordpdoggie Ай бұрын

@@ryanwardcomedy to make a living off of music.

@Augfordpdoggie Ай бұрын

@@noka214 but i dont have anything left to live for. Not in a whoa is me way but just ....theres nothing that i enjoy in life so its pointless

@ryanwardcomedy Ай бұрын

@@Augfordpdoggie ah yeh I get u.. my dream was to make a living off acting and comedy...I still do it but I've given up on making a living from it

@Gypsy680 Ай бұрын

Hi Dr Scott, from the UK Thank you so much for this Perhaps it's that we just have to do what we can, when we can We can live our lives only in the 24 hour slices it is given to us And tomorrow is another day

@nbeezhao Ай бұрын

I am a 70 years old and have been depressed since I was 10. I am a retired nurse RN and have even worked on psych units in hospital. Please help me, I don't want to die this way.

@mightymouse1005 Ай бұрын

60 yrs old nurse here.... If I have any days of inner peace, it's worth it. Any happiness is worth it.

@matrixInvader 22 күн бұрын

sometimes you get so depressed and life starts to hit different, and you start dissociate from your own life, which feels more and more like a bad dream.. I've decided to take it as an opportunity to 'test' how I've been relating to the world, trying to change my mentality when it comes to interactions with people.. The reality is that this is ultimately a thinly veiled SPIRITUAL world, not physical. And the more you can embrace a spiritual approach to things the more you'll find you're actually living instead of only thinking. Turning your brain off can win you friends, it can make you surprise yourself even. People are here to be connected to, and in today's world, those of us who are awake enough to realize these things needs to take it up as a responsibility to engage people and get them out of their own closed off worlds too. This modern world wants everyone neurotic and isolated and we have to make concerted efforts to break that.. to break this 'vibe' that's being inculcated in people today. BE the weirdo. BE different. But BE.

@rozitagh4479 Ай бұрын

Can you please talk more about regrets and forgiving ourselves

@youareloved8274 Ай бұрын

My lying cheating abusive ex husband got away with everything, how can this be forgiven when I'm heartbroken and he is still not sorry

@rozitagh4479 Ай бұрын

Omg i did not hurt anyone. I just let them hurt me because i was emmotionaly immature. I can not forgive myself because i think it was my problem that let them be abusive

@shaimi26 Ай бұрын

@@youareloved8274hi there. I can feel the hurt. I have also been trough a lot..painfull separation. One thing i have learned is that when you forgive. Its more about you that the person, it is something that takes time, but when you are ready to forgive it because you a ready to let go of the burden you have been carrying. Its you cutting the ties with the feeling the person is causing in you. The fact that the person is still alive and living along is not something you should worry about. You should forgive ( when you are ready), so that you can move on in a sense. I hope this help a bit. Oh and by forgiving your are not forgetting or acknowledge that what the person did was right, it more about you choosing your sanity above the situation caused by the person.

@youareloved8274 Ай бұрын

@@shaimi26 , thank you for your message sir. I have forgiven my ex husband. I have Complex PTSD from him hitting me and shoving me into bathtub, in 2017, i didn't report it because they wouldn't have believed me. On top of calling me a worthless piece of trash and we have a son together. But he wanted to cheat I guess because he didn't want to be married or he got bored, I don't know, all I know is my son is suffering from all the damage my ex husband has caused, and he is walking around like he did nothing and is getting married to his girlfriend that he cheated on me with and my son is so confused right now. I don't hate my ex husband but I hate all the abuse and disrespect and hasn't taken responsibility for any of it. My mom said don't worry he won't get away with hurting people because God sees and hears everything, karma is coming

@mercx007 28 күн бұрын

@@rozitagh4479 I had the same reasoning: I let the abuse happen, so it's my fault. I still blame myself

@licksnkicks1166 Ай бұрын

Dear Dr. Eilers I suffer from chronic migraines for 25 years. I have been hospitalized this week for this. I also have stomach issues. I just would rather be unalive. I am taking Maxalt, also Botox and I am getting migraines everyday now. I am sick of this. I spend my days in bed because I cannot function. I just want to throw in the towel! I exercise, I am conscientious about my diet and I try to be positive but with these constant migraines and no life because of this situation i am totally lost.

@LoriNuttall Ай бұрын

Just sharing my story for my migraines. I had migraines ever since I was around 9 years. Debilitating, dark room, auras, fractured vision, noises killed me! I'm 68 now, and I had a TIA about 2009. I had also blood clots in both lungs around 1991. So with all the tests with the TIA being done, they performed a bubble test. Turns out I had a hole in my heart that hadn't closed when I was born. Got that closed and honestly I haven't had a headache since. Just wondering if you've had this checked? Hopefully you find some help and relief! Sorry you are so miserable!

@licksnkicks1166 Ай бұрын

@@LoriNuttall thank you Lori for sharing your story. I have been to 2 neurologists and they both came up with the same conclusion. I am was super stressed about my job. I was there for almost 14 years and they fired me. So now I have a lawyer and we are going for a bigger severance. I also dealing with the Labour board. I worked free during every Covid lockdown. My boss guilted and coerced me into helping her. My hubby is due for his 5 th surgery next month. There’s a lot going on. I can’t even get anything accomplished anymore! I constantly live in the back bedroom where it is nice, cool and dark. I really miss my benefits because now I am paying $200/month for just migraine meds alone. I can’t get any assistance because our household income is too high. I just want this to end because I can’t live like this anymore.

@selfesteem3447 Ай бұрын

@licksnkicks1166, I had one long Headache that lasted every day for 50 years. Yes, For Real. Because the culprit causes a hangover. & since I was unaware of the culprit which BTW, takes 21 days to get out of the system/body, I kept eating it. So therefore I had a fifty year headache. I have been recovering for the last 7 years.There was one ingredient in the food that I had to avoid and as long as I continue to avoid this one ingredient that is in all of the food, All of it. It's called excitotoxins, so No Headaches Anymore. When I tell you I had a headache that lasted every day for 50 years. And I don't have headaches any more. What I'm telling you.Is this advice I have may work for others. I honestly feel this advice will save your life. See Russell L. Blaylock "Excitotoxins the Tase That Kills" Here is how I do it. I eat & drink 1,000 % USDA Organic. If it means you have to live on nothing but dried organic beans and dried organic rice, In terms of making it affordable to not have headaches, then that is what you do. I have what is called MCS, multiple chemical sensitivity. Again, This could be something that may help you. Actually, I feel very strongly that this will help you will save your life. And I hope & pray that it does. 🙏🏼

@selfesteem3447 Ай бұрын

@lisaoutinen8692 Ай бұрын

It’s so exhausting to put the energy into the depression and anxiety and it’s exhausting putting energy into the solutions.

@karenmcgarry7798 Ай бұрын

i appreciate no commercial breaks in video.

@Miss-Placed.1 19 күн бұрын

Thank you for this video. I’ve been dealing with poor mental health since childhood. I’ll be 57 this October and though ***trigger warning *** I’ve attempted to take my own life in the past, my life now is so much better. I still struggle but I refuse to give up, I won’t let my former abusers get the better of me. They don’t matter, but my life and all the amazing people I’m surrounded by, including me, do. Hope is powerful, and I hope that everyone reading this values themselves ❤

@deansheley6512 Ай бұрын

Please do this again Doc. There’s a lot of ‘us’ out there falling through the cracks. Thank you immensely.

@DrScottEilers Ай бұрын

Definitely will, thank you!

@Bearcub599 Ай бұрын

Very honest and truly sincere empathetic video. I can see that Your own mental health struggles have given you a unique perspective and insight into other people’s pain and suffering. You have a great gift for reaching out and helping others with realistic practical advice which we can all benefit from!( not some empty words we often hear)Thank you 😊 God bless 🌸

@DrScottEilers Ай бұрын

Thank you!

@Widda68 Ай бұрын

You became your own person. Carved your own path. I wish I could.

@MR-ho3mo Ай бұрын

I believe you are correct in your assessment of the current state of mental health professionals. They are mostly phoning it in or they don’t know how to help people. (My opinion)

@joanmidgette6511 Ай бұрын

I have watched a few of your videos. I so enjoy and can relate to your positive common-sense approach. I watched this one after the fact. A number of things began popping into my mind that are personal to me, things that I do/can do which bring me some degree of pleasure/happiness. I paused the video and pretty quickly came up with a list of twelve: twelve little stair steps toward reducing depression and increasing positivity, well-being, and happiness. I knew that the more positives you get into your life, the better your chances of improving your depression. What got through to me was your pointing out that these positive actions can be very specific to each of us, and there can be 10, 20, 50 or more of them! Thank you so much for the very valuable help you give at no charge!! ♥️

@janicesitzes241 Ай бұрын

I have had therapist say “ you just need to buck up and get over it” You are right it was me thinking I could find away and then I would find something to do . Music helped a great deal

@licksnkicks1166 Ай бұрын

I am a musician and play guitar in a band. Being a female guitar player can be hard at times because the guys get jealous that I can play better then them. Music has saved me so many times I can’t even count

@kh7794 Ай бұрын

In my part of Canada anyone who is covered by our health care system is 1. I'd they are good and at a psychologist level, it's time limited or 2. If as long as you want you are probably getting a wholly underqualified social worker who will dig up your trauma and then let you walk out the door bawling and traumatized. They are the bottom of the barrel and do more damage than good. After months of retraumatizing you they will say I'm 'too complex' and they can't help me. I learned not to even start UNLESS THEY ARE PSYCHOLOGISTS. I loathe psychiatrists. Luckily I have been blessed with an amazing rarity. A great psychologist in the public system that is not on a time limited basis! I went through major trauma x 5 in half as many years and a mental breakdown all without anyone....not 1 single person, not a friend, not a professional, not a shitty social worker. I pulled myself out as far as I could and tried the public system again. Another shitty social worker who was combative with me...yeah, just what I need! NOT. Complained and now I got what I asked for. She is a psychologist, absolutely great and calming who teaches techniques to start. She just coming back from being a new amputee so I got her at the right time...any longer and she would be fully booked and I'd be screwed. For the 1st time in 57 years I have hope....FIFTY SEVEN YEARS!

@licksnkicks1166 Ай бұрын

I agree. My shitty psychiatrist let my husband come into our meetings. Big mistake! Why? This is about me not him. We would leave his office fighting hardcore because of all the crap that we had discussed in our meeting. And the first thing he wanted to do was to medicate me. I need someone to talk to now because of a crisis I am currently going through. I will never trust a psychiatrist ever again. I will try to help myself. I am no longer working so I don’t have my benefits anymore and I can’t afford to go see a psychologist at $200 plus a visit. I also had a social worker try to help me. I didn’t like her one but. One visit and no more. I just feel like crap now!

@curiouslyme524 Ай бұрын

I'm struggling with severe flashbacks & body memories for the last two months related to C-PTSD & DID as a result of extensive childhood/adolescent trauna. This all triggered a Major Depressive episode. I'm a strong person, but this is all wearing me down. I know this will abate with time, but the suffering is really hard to cope with. Geez. I sound like I'm complaining. Thank you for your message of hope & healing.

@user-mp7le7ce8n 28 күн бұрын

Dr Gabor Mate excellent re CPTSD and Trauma ❤

@nobo2979 24 күн бұрын

I just read a great book on this subject. Rebecca C. Mandeville " Rejected Shamed & Blamed", also find her on KZbin . I'm in the same boat. Hugs❤️

@pickledherring8759 Ай бұрын

Thanks for putting this up, Scott. I couldn't be there today, but I just watched and enjoyed your talk and answers to the questions. Your caring about people really came through. I also liked the Elder Scrolls reference about building your own life how you want it. Something I'm still working on. 😊 ✌️

@neasahayes6044 Ай бұрын

You explain lack of hope or total loss of hope perfectly. I personally have tried many things and gone down many paths but always end up back in the same place.

@kathybailey2813 26 күн бұрын

This is my first time listening to your podcast thank you for your comments for us listening.this is just what I needed.Im 73

@mayasalgado2595 Ай бұрын

Love the video game metaphor, so true. You’re very different from other therapist. I think sharing your personal experiences, are key factors in being able to understand and help others. That’s what makes your approach to each individual, unique. Keep doing what you do, because you are about to be known world wide. I see over a million subscribers in the near future for you. God bless you 🙏 for helping so many.

@vickimooredotco Ай бұрын

I like that - finding a therapist is like dating. If you don’t like a therapist don’t think it’s you. Just find another one you do like. I wish I heard that a lot sooner.

@mightymouse1005 Ай бұрын

We're not cookie cutters. What works for one might damage another

@vickimooredotco Ай бұрын

@@mightymouse1005 Right. For me, a therapist was different because they are in a position of authority. It took me a long time to figure out that it might not be me - that it might be that the therapist wasn't right.

@turtlefannyshanny Ай бұрын

I could listen to you talk all day, Dr. Scott! I appreciate your content so much. Thank you ❤

@cathlaurs9754 Ай бұрын

OMG, you just made me realise something important.....I'm not fully committed to my own life; I've always got a way out, or several ways out. OK, I'm going to think about that and endeavour to make a change(s) there. Thank you.

@abfab2517 24 күн бұрын

I do not know what is wrong with me. Not depressed. Not anxious. No drugs. Healthy food. But nearly an hikikomori

@hardasnails11b Ай бұрын

Only now realizing this is ongoing live feed. You’re a good man, Doc! Bless you.

@suzanmiller558 Ай бұрын

I am struggling with hope every day. In the past month I have developed some health issues that are making me question my life. Do I want to live like this the rest of my life? No. I. Don’t.

@gballmaier Ай бұрын

Try calling out to God. Please give it a try brute giving up. I'm in the same boat, but God's Word does say He allows people to go through hardships in this scrappy life, so that one day we can help people with the same help we got from God when we needed Him most. Look out and focus on other hurting people to help. I will be praying for you and your situation.

@dotcassilles1488 Ай бұрын

For me if I could get some physical help and get my symptoms managed and stabilised again then I feel like I could cope better with life and would feel like life is worth living again. I think for alot of people who have chronic health challenges our perspective is stuck because we can't imagine "living with it" as it is right now, whatever the it is in our life, for the rest of our life. It feels like the symptoms we are experiencing won't get better but instead continue or get worse as we wait for help and support year after year. To me it feels like torture when my symptoms flare up or increase. My suffering is increased by those who don't understand because they aren't going through it. they won't learn or change their minds, some refuse to accept my words as my reality. When we finally manage to be heard the help we do get is limited by time, money or availability.

@Bearcub599 Ай бұрын

@@dotcassilles1488 can’t agree with you more!

@acceptinglife6491 29 күн бұрын

I can relate, it's also added financial stress for me as I'm unable to work and take care of myself rn

@janicesitzes241 Ай бұрын

This is why I like you. You are not stuck in a box! You just gave me information I needed

@MyUnfilteredDiary Ай бұрын

I just found this channel and it resonates with me. All that you said made me take a blind leap of faith and moved sight unseen to Indiana. So far, i feel like the one of the best decision i have made in a long time. However, after listening to you, I'm scared i may relapse. In the back of my mind I'm waiting for the shoe to drop. I only had 2 sessions with 2 different therapists and i thought it was useless. However, after this podcast, i think i am going to sign up for therapy while everything is great!!! PS. I subbed 😊

@lindarhudy1745 Ай бұрын

Forty years in treatment for depression and PTSD. I really have lost hope.

@mikemillson9572 Ай бұрын

"Perma-screwed!" I love that phrase. You have helped me deal with my devastating cancer surgery PTSD I realized I have been dealing with.

@gballmaier Ай бұрын

When you believe the lue, you become part of the lue. When you Rise above the lie, You Can Then Raise Others Above the Lie and into Peace and Hope! Thank you Dr.

@vonniejellyhead 21 күн бұрын

Thank you for another great video. You constantly give me new perspectives on dealing with my issues. Also, to be able to identify with emotions and feelings that I really don't like about myself is helpful.

@griff-ironfrendly2876 Ай бұрын

can't thank you enough for all that you do never the less. Thank you Dr Scott.

@nordrlond Ай бұрын

I feel much better just seeing and hearing how much care and compassion you talk with.

@vs7026 Ай бұрын

1) Do you have a Spotify Podcast? 2) Can you offer a segment for all Cancer Patients ( myself included ) to overcome hopelessness. Thanks.

@ssnerd583 22 күн бұрын

....I guess i can always hope for a miracle...thats all i have left, really......i would need a true miracle at 62yo to get anywhere

@wendyhughes2234 Ай бұрын

Oh- speaking of therapists- one of the latest people to try to help me told me that I put myself in the situation. I.e. [I have myself to blame for the situation I am in]. And [according to her] I just don't want to work with her. Also- having a phone consultation and a person cannot see the person that is supposed to be helping you- does not help one to be able to open up [and just what/how is one supposed to improve with a negative conversation that ends with the therapist saying that [about a client/patient being the cause of their own agony] when clearly life has kicked that person in the teeth over and over and over again?

@mitzitakes522 Ай бұрын

Hi there. Grateful to be alive despite going through worst period in my life. Any words in Benzos for movevent disorder Lance Adams Syndrome (only 150 of us alive worldwide) 10 years now and would love to cut off completely 15% down since I started titrating 3 years ago. Convinced I will heal. Not sure if it’s contributing to what I’m going through as everything fine until a break up 6 months ago and going through existential crisis and change of career. No motivation, 58 years old, feeling isolated. Wishing all of us healing and good health. Thank you very much.

@Widda68 Ай бұрын

You are very relatable and plain spoken. Great!

@margo5919 Ай бұрын

Thank you for being a source of hope

@juliemaitland1176 24 күн бұрын

We should be thanking you, Scott, for giving us your time and understanding❤ I feel comfort when I see and hear you knowing I can believe who you are. Don’t ever change, you have had a long journey and arrived in the place you were destined to be. Thank you for every ounce of courage and determination it must have taken. When I need to I come straight over to you for a virtual hug and wise words. With love 💗

@Flower4229 Ай бұрын

Oh I’m excited to watch this. Thank you!

@Flower4229 Ай бұрын

Really loved it. Thank you again for sharing your insight. Your videos have been so helpful

@lpfx777 Ай бұрын

Just need to keep a roof over my head

@tdang9528 Ай бұрын

Life is easy to fix if you just accept what you currently have and just not care anymore. Lots of words in his story and effort, but you have to just not care anymore.

@Fiona86555 Ай бұрын

Aw I wish I’d caught this live. Thank you for an interesting talk.

@francine6485 Ай бұрын

Nothing wrong with living alone in the woods if that's what you want. There was a guy who quit his job and moved to Alaska a plane would come in once a month to bring them supplies. He was in his 50ies. Dick Proenneke. I think you can still see his videos on KZbin. I think he lived out there alone used to feed the birds with his hand and he was in his eighties when his kids made him go and leave the wilderness. I think his cabin is still there for tourists.

@kh7794 Ай бұрын

I find this channel terrific either as a back up to my own psychologist (yeaaaaah, I finally have one). I also find it helpful when something comes up I don't know how to deal with or just a reminder. I was desperate when I found it and it pulled me through until I found in person help and it still does help.

@Alice.in.Marmalade Ай бұрын

Thank you so much

@allymecham819 Ай бұрын

I'm new to your channel but honestly I'm so grateful for your content 🌹 your words resonate with me more then anything else, you are amazing at unpacking really complex issues with a holistic approach, with positivity and without shame. Thank you 🙏

@debbiekillewald8384 Ай бұрын

What if your depression is more situational?

@tiffanylam5026 Ай бұрын

that sucks… life itself is very depressing actually😔 if it’s like a certain current situation though, technically there is always someone out there who has a very similar if not same type of encounter but without depression… perhaps like sad but not depressed. It’s more like a combination of past experience, brain health, thought pattern, and a million other things.

@debbiekillewald8384 Ай бұрын

@@tiffanylam5026 if you knew the things I've gone through and what I'm going through I couldn't imagine that another person wouldn't be depressed or affected. I have Cptsd. Some situations are way more intense and scary than others.

@noka214 Ай бұрын

Thanks a lot!! You are doing important work!! ❤

@StanCat4 Ай бұрын

33:30ish - all that trauma is me e: just finished. I LOVE your empathy & kindness. Psychopathic, narcissistic ex, who i am still trying to (financially) separate from is my main issue.

@Bobawob 11 күн бұрын

I heard something from Chase Hughes from the BehaviorPanel that made a lot of sense to me. He said to be your own butler. Instead of looking back with regret, look back in gratitude. So you may put your gym clothes out the night before to get ready for the gym. Or you put your dishes or clothes away before you go to bed. You may even tidy up a bit before bed so the morning is not a clutter of things that were not put away. Take Tiny steps to start and begin with feeling gratitude for doing something for yourself, instead or regret.

@maryjobe1108 Ай бұрын

Thank you

@romansasik9087 12 күн бұрын

Hope is a helluva drug. In a good way!

@sophiang8952 Ай бұрын

It’s not depression it’s oppression from the world.

@ERNIE555 Ай бұрын

And because one is realistic and sees the bs that is going on…they label you with a mental illness! While this world is a global asylum