To Call Out or Not: Navigating Lies and Secrets in Addiction

In the complex landscape of addiction, honesty can be elusive, and secrets and lies often become woven into the fabric of relationships. But when you suspect that a loved one battling addiction is not being truthful, the decision to confront them can feel like navigating a minefield. In this candid and insightful video, join us as we delve into the delicate balance of addressing lies and secrets in the journey of addiction recovery.
Drawing from both personal experience and professional expertise, we'll explore the nuances of this challenging dilemma. Is it better to confront the lies head-on, risking conflict and trust issues, or to tread lightly, prioritizing support and understanding? We'll provide practical tips and strategies for discerning when to confront and when to extend compassion, empowering you to navigate these difficult conversations with wisdom and grace.
Join us as we tackle this crucial question: Should you call out your addicted loved one's lies and secrets, and if so, how can you do it in a way that fosters healing and connection? Together, let's embark on a journey toward truth, understanding, and, ultimately, hope in the face of addiction.
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[@PutTheShovelDown]

Sorry, everyone. This video cut abruptly after Campbell left, and I didn't realize it. 😢😢 Click here to watch the second half: kzbin.infoiyCZmUWDJfA

[@trollsnotwelcome7805]

I experienced being the child, the spouse and the parent. The absolute worst was being the parent of an addicted love one, it's fear like I've never experienced before and it's beyond heartbreaking

[@miller5170]

The hardest part is how personal it all feels bc they once were your friend your lover your important relationship and connection

[@user-in8it1rx6l]

Lying is the hardest part of caring about an addict

[@briepower8226]

For me, the hardest part is my daughter allowing herself to be abused. For free drugs. Lies are just words. Words mean nothing. Only action is what we "listen" to.

[@briandonovan5687]

This is a great conversation. You guys are definitely keepin it Real. These situations are extremely difficult. What i I learned going thru addiction AND also dealing with those still in the grips of addiction is. Be Real but dont leave out the love n respect for that person. Its hard enoug battling addiction but to have Love denied you that's Soul crushing 😮. I love love love this Channel.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Awwwww thanks Brian!

[@peterolbrisch8970]

That's hard to say, so I won't because I don't know. I do know that the little lies are a warning for the big ones to come.

[@eamsutton]

How about they leave you homeless and you lose your home and your children lose their home? Just tolerating lies and where to draw the line is so difficult so I’m glad you asked that question Amber. 18:17

[@ritatharp5238]

YES, you know what you know and dont brat yourself up for what you dont know. God Bless you both for helping people to cope with these problems.

[@ritatharp5238]

*bear, not brat, typo, sorry

[@JAMN2GD]

So tired. Argh. Everything on here is spot on. I am tired of knowing and having to hold it in. Causes extreme anxiety, worry and resentment the rest of the day/night. ( My body and mood changes. depressed, walking on egg shells). Then they constantly ask what is wrong as if they dont know. However, I dont say anything. So we let them get away with the lie and it keeps happening? I feel it pull us apart. I do know, but I want them to understand I know. Isn't there an approprate time to ask when trying to pull off the little bit? Playing that game. I clearly know when its a black out. But the game of one or two with the lie kills me inside to hold in. If I have asked in the past and it did happen they always get extremely upset for accusing and it is clear. I know its a lie. I never want to accuse if it did not happen but I really know. Lately just holding it in per this education. I will simply never figure out this horrific disease. (alcoholism). I try to work on everything I hear on this channel. Many practices are extremely tough. ESPECIALLY when they are possibly driving on something because it is dangerous and a possible financial crisis. cant stop them from driving to work I assume. Nervous if they drive home with alcohol on breath or I can tell.

[@ritatharp5238]

Exactly! You have to know your end point! Great afvice women, thank you for sharing.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are so welcome!

[@trollsnotwelcome7805]

I agree you won't get the truth if you ask but i think we do because often it's the insult to us of treating us like a fool and it's an ego thing on the part of the family. Letting go of our ego and understanding that it's actually not about us and often what we don't say is louder.

[@mcmcnaughton]

The best video ever.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Wow! Thanks 😀

[@Godgirl42]

If we get to the point where we let go of control we won’t have to ask some of these questions, but there’s a fine line in that and letting them get by with anything. If that makes sense.

[@candlelightsoul]

It makes perfect sense, especially in regards to letting them get by with ANYTHING ELSE. Surrendering to one thing doesn't necessarily mean surrendering to it all.

[@briandonovan5687]

Aaaah thats soooo good the Triangle 😊

[@theresareynolds3834]

I have called the police which resulted in a dwi. I was so worried that he was going to hurt someone. This action has pur a wedge in family. We are going through motions but both husband who is alcoholic and uses it as an excuse to drink and adult daughter who thinks it was a complete betrayal

[@juliepeat4402]

Campbell has a beautiful smile

[@maryannekendall3344]

I just missed the live event! Ugh! It's so hard to do this with my 17 year old son.

[@laciearnold5644]

What do you suggest when spouse spends so much shared money that you can’t afford bills. How do you not bring it up because you have a household and kids to pay for?

[@lizzi437]

Campbell's EVE triangle sounds really interesting and workable. Are there any other videos where she goes into it a little further?

[@miller5170]

What’s crazy is something like stealing from a parent would not go down well years ago keep going back further and further 1500s lol seriously the expectations of young adults now - the bar is set very low

[@katieplaysguitar]

Did anyone catch the name of the man she referenced that she watched his Video on counseling techniques?

[@donniehollingsworth1611]

Chris Voss

[@sharonscott1776]

What happened to the live?

[@leahgodwin6912]

Where in alabama can I take my young adult son to rehab that will take my blue cross insurance without a large sum of cash. He wants help. All I get are commercials when I google it.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

The best place to start would be to call the insurance company and ask who's in network. You can usually find the number on the back of the insurance card.

[@Taffi0623]

Where did you go Amber? 😢

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Sorry about that 😢 This video cut abruptly after Campbell left, and I didn't realize it. 😢😢 Click here to watch the second half: kzbin.infoiyCZmUWDJf

[@patrickedney4539]

I lost live too

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Sorry about that 😢 This video cut abruptly after Campbell left, and I didn't realize it. 😢😢 Click here to watch the second half: kzbin.infoiyCZmUWDJf

[@patrickedney4539]

@@PutTheShovelDown thank you for taking the time to get to my question. It was very self affirming. It is the path i have been on for over 2 years. You have been a colossal help. A sincere thank-you to you and your team. ❤️‍🩹

[@sharonscott1776]

I asked questions so won’t get answered now